There are 2 diff people in this world. Those who will admit their childhood had a huge impact on every aspect of their life leading up to today, and those who will never admit to their childhood being anything less then perfect.

@Spark_Iskra_z_Polski

3 ай бұрын

Not true.

@kimgordon3695

3 ай бұрын

severe co-dependence

@sandyhalterman5615

3 ай бұрын

I have to be honest going through a divorce and it's very hard for me to listen to it right now.even though I am going to listen to it. And finally heal so I won't attract that person again. I did have a horrible abusive childhood.

@sanataj

Ай бұрын

@@kimgordon3695 What is severe co-dependence?

@sanataj

Ай бұрын

@@Spark_Iskra_z_Polski What is not true? I was going to say I think there is another massive category. Those who know their childhood was less than ideal, but it is not important, because they survive and go on to be successful as adults. They sweep the past under the carpet and move on, especially after they become parents, as they realise how hard it was for their parents to cope with life as parents and everything else that life demands.

"We have a bunch of wounded children making decisions". Thats what i observe inside me and all around me....30 years trying to heal and a body and brain full of disabling symptoms. I wish i could afford your courses but i cannot. Maybe listening and actively loving me to the best of my ability will work. ..thank you🙏❤️

Gosh! After giving birth to me, my Mother was sectioned. Whilst pregnant she was angry, depressed stressed and resentful with her life ,my father and her being, once again, pregnant with her 6th child. I did not bond with her as a consequence. An old aunt was shipped in to cover mother’s duties. Mother divorced dad when I was 8 and I-never saw him again. All I-ever heard her say was: ‘never get married, never have children”. Needless to say I never did and have o lay had dysfunctional relationships (narcs) I’m alone now and feel I’m on an even keel. I’m learning lots from people like you Kenny. I saw 4 counsellors over the years and learnt not a fraction of what I;ve learned here on KZread. They just sat and listened offering me no insights such as I’m finding here. Thank you from the bottom of my broken heart.

@sanataj

Ай бұрын

I am so sorry for what you have gone through. What a start you had! Actually, I do often seem to observe that marriage is bad for females' mental health. I think they feel powerless, as there is some kind of battle of wills as to who gets control, which is usually won by the man. But not always. Anyway, my judgement is very negative, as I feel there are only damaged and bad people in the world. I wanted to say I agree 100% about counsellors, they re useless, in my opinion. I feel they're a quack profession who puff themselves up as 'experts', but do nothing.

I’ve watched 1.5 videos, and you are a breath of fresh air. It’s a great relief to know, not everyone walking the face of the earth is a narcissist. Thank you.

This needs to be taught in schools

@sanataj

Ай бұрын

I think emotional intelligence and assertiveness i.e. how to relate to others is needed in schools. They should run courses in churches too, to prepare for marriage, so families are happier.

Parents can be severe sadists, even kill their own. so, to protect them like you do is sometimes not the way to go. they have enormous guilt

Wow, Kenny. Thank you for going places no one else will go. You touched on so much!

@jennifergiorgio7604

Жыл бұрын

Finally some clarity!!!!! 🙏🏼 I’ve learnt so much over the last 3 days since I stumbled across your videos which you have so kindly put together….. I’ve spent the last 28 years yes 28 seeing psychotherapists and spent thousands of dollars with absolutely no clarity or actual help on ‘how’ to I can’t thank you enough for your worldwide kindness to help us all I will be subscribing and jumping on to your website as I’m so ready to finally accept my responsibility in moving forward in my life Thank you so much 🩵

People that have wounded you and traumatized you will not heal you, but the truth will.

I lost my mother earlier this year in January. Up until this moment, I literally had absolutely no idea I was such a traumatised person suffering from cptsd. When I left home at 17, I packed my dysfunctional 17 years of living with parents into a big box and popped it on the shelf. And left it all behind. Not having any clue about how those 17 years would taint the next 26. Married, and 5 children later, I think it’s an actual miracle of God that I am still married. And my kids are doing ok. There’s cracks though. I reached my limit of what I could tolerate emotionally as I nursed my mother in my home as she died from cancer. And then that big old box fell down from the shelf, and every other box I had placed there. Dang!!! Even the shelf fell down, so I really had to start addressing some of this stuff, as I just couldn’t get it back in the boxes and the shelf was broken. I was so unbelievably broken. I have never experienced such brokenness. I started researching how to deal with the trauma of caring for a loved one in death. One thing led to another and bang!!! I found you Kenny. What I like about you is that you don’t completely blame the parents for causing the problem. We are all perfectly imperfect. They were broken too and didn’t even have KZread!!!! What the heck?! How do ppl cope without YT?? What else I like about your content is you call me out. You expose my inner motives and monologue and encourage me to own my stuff. There’s no other way to get better, if you won’t take a look at your junk and own it. I’m glad I found you.

Thank you for recognizing this truth about those who have struggled that way. Yes, I spent time in a hospital a while back and they could not understand this was what it was. I was even saying so. They tested me like I was a woman just having a tantrum. All those things I packed away in all those neat little boxes fell down on me all at once because I hit my limit of what I could emotionally take. It took me so long to fully pick myself back up. I would say 10 years. It’s a process and I have to work on it each day.

I earned a degree in marriage and family therapy back about 1990. I read every book by John Bradshaw, Beattie, Black, and several others as I went through a masters program. When in my studies I saw for the first time " autonomy versus shame and doubt" . The word "doubt" caught my attention. I had my confidence stolen from me and it has cost me so very much my whole life! I have not quit nor stopped trying to get back a lot of what was stolen from me!! Love you Kenny along with John Bradshaw!!!

@sanataj

Ай бұрын

That is an interesting idea - autonomy is directly opposed to doubt and shame? I have so much shame and self-doubt and anxiety and I am told to stop being 'a victim' (which means stop feeling powerless); pull myself together. Online experts (or men) say you have to respect and love yourself, otherwise you can't expect anyone else to. How kind and lovely that is. They wash their hands of the needy damaged, in such a slick way. I don't think I was ever very confident, but i did have a default self-esteem and that was stolen from me. But how do you love yourself, stop self-doubting, lose shame and even stop 'being a victim'? All you get is bad treatment, which confirms all the other bad treatment. Nobody actually helps you or cares about you.

We still have wounded child adults walking around in masks 3 years later. It's definitely sad to see.

The vible says.." my ppl are destroyed for lack of knowledge". You are giving us sonething so valuable.. Thankyou ❣️

@kennyweiss

10 ай бұрын

You are so welcome

26 mins - I agree about over-diagnosing narcissism. It's like a trend/fad/fashion. I have been called that several times and also autistic. I think the latter is because of not being in touch with my feelings, or having poor communication skills.

I think you are right. And I think the people who want relief from pain enough to do this work, will do so. Thanks for the information. But the ones causing the damage, specifically my own and many other parents, narcissists both, will never do so in this life. So it's 1) to do the work, and 2) figure out how to function in this insane world.

I totally agree with you. It all comes to Childhood abuse. If we all learnt about these things, a better world would arise out there❤

That was great kenny, yes we are all wounded, I was an empath and helper in my old family, and supported my mum, I was nice I think to balance out the nastiness, I didn't try to be a big achiever as I knew it was hollow. It took me a long time to figure out how to be authentic and draw some boundaries with people, it wasn't till after my mu died that I thought, there's no one I mind upsetting now. I started on a healing journey and have come a long way, still a work in progress and yes we all divide, narcs and empaths into goodies and baddies. Your video here gives the true reason. Yes, I did have a sardonic sense of humour. But I observe myself better now, the only draw back to doing a lot of healing is looking at others which are still stuck/sick.

You've a real love for people,it's from God almighty brother 🙏❤️🙌

I just found you and I’m glad I did. I’m happily married and have a happy life but working through loose ends is always worth it.

@kennyweiss

Жыл бұрын

And it takes cuts encourage to still do the work even when things are going well. Good for you

@smilez4us

Жыл бұрын

It's okay to know the truth and to work through our issues. We have been in a dream state. We now have new brain development.

Parents only know what they were taught! Learned behavior.

As an energy healer and a healing empath what you described with the wounded child empath area is what we'd call an unhealed empath they don't have boundaries they're taking on others emotions and most don't recognize for a long time it's not theirs it's someone else and they don't need to carry it amongst other things. And since I heal energy that is trapped in the body most of it comes from youth and childhood or your bloodlines as it's not just your parents it could be far back in your ancestors or back into your own past lives where the emotion comes from as far as when it's inherited goes but if it's just yours from you in this life time you can form those right after birth or while you're in the womb waiting to come out healing and releasing that really helps empaths heal get boundaries and get to be their healed empath selves I'm still healing but I've noticed huge improvements like I'm taking on way less emotions from others and when I do I know I have and how to get rid of it.

I don't really understand about co-dependency. I would gladly swap loneliness, being disrespected and not cared for, not supported or helped in life - for a close dependency on a spouse who stands by me and likes me. The bereaved spouses really suffer, but they still had decades of happiness first.

WOW this was posted a year ago and it’s only now appears on my popup Now 8 months since losing my beloved mother, many thanks for this poignant vid Mr Weiss 🙏🏿

My God it feels great to heal! Thank-you for your teaching.

This is soo timely!

Brings tears to my eyes Kenny.

Once again you describe my family members. We are such a mess. But you give me so much hope!

I don't know why my mother told me this after I had my first child, but she told me she struggled with the urge to drown us kids in the bathtub around the time I was 5. I have very few memories of before 5 but the memories I do have are horrific.

Thank you so much Kenny

Thank you, are really exploring my situation that sounds like me

Thank you! I so appreciate your body of work. It's enormously helpful!

I have learned so much from your videos. Thank you for sharing this knowledge!

Wow is right-explains much of my reactions, dysfunction, struggles in workplace for most of my adult life-let alone family life..

I always come back to you, I am grateful for the information you provide and going to follow through with your 4 steps at the end so I can finally get on with my life. I hope you’ve found happiness you deserve to be happy 😊

You have a beautiful,sincere smile Kenny,shows your inner beauty ❤️🙏

Right on, thank you for this

Thank you, Mr. Weiss

Thank you for talking about these things I know persons that are like that and I love them dearly thank you so much for these videos🎉

Excellent

Brilliant 🏆thank you !

Legend!!

11:09 mins made me cry..novidy understood tou also..so true

I feel like this literally just changed my life 😢

Thank you so much!

Wowie, so truthful, especially re covid. 🎉❤

Thank you Kenny I have your book and I’m working on myself!! YOUR THE BEST!!!❤

@kennyweiss

8 ай бұрын

Wonderful!

Thank you dear Kenny ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

@kennyweiss

9 ай бұрын

You are so welcome

Accurate 🎉❤ thank GOD thank you

this came at such an opportune time in my life! thank you for explaining this.

@kennyweiss

2 ай бұрын

You're so welcome!

Your compassion is easy to see and feel thank you

@kennyweiss

Жыл бұрын

You are so welcome

lov lov lov u~~ thank u

Thankyou for finally explaining me to me. I can identity with a lot of what you say. It feels such a relief to understand.

@kennyweiss

9 ай бұрын

You are so welcome

Thank you!

@kennyweiss

Жыл бұрын

You're welcome!

Guided meditation for us crying after breaking up with a narcissist, please please! Help us let the tears flow, see our part, have compassion for their betrayal, make peace with the whole failed relationship. Please! Guided meditations help us heal! You are a true healer, better than all the therapists I’ve ever had💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕

I agree with a lot of this, however I would like to ask what you feel about Psychopaths. People who enjoy hurting others even destroying their offsprings lives.

Can’t wait to see your piece on what a healthy human being is

@kennyweiss

Жыл бұрын

I haven’t done a video on that completely, but in my codependence videos, I describe what a healthy human being looks like, which means they are perfectly imperfect. We all have dysfunctions, but we operate immaturity in moderation, and have the skills and tools to bring us back into maturity in moderation when we become either falsely empowered or disempowered. in my online master classes, I lay all of that out and how to live in that maturity and moderation place

This touched my heart so very much! Wow. Thank you for sharing your knowledge. ❣️🙏

@kennyweiss

5 күн бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

Society is the problem itself. I have been through a lot as an empath on the Autism spectrum & have been working to overcome childhood trauma.

Thank you for your help so much

@kennyweiss

6 ай бұрын

You are most welcome

4:31 “living in the truth” I’m 55yrs and recently divorced after 30yrs. It wasn’t until I attended ACOA meetings last year to recover from the lost marriage that I heard about the inner child and decided to attended ego state and attachment therapy on my own. I recognize now that I’ve lived most of my life in denial, w/ shame and recognized that I’ve abandoned myself because of untreated childhood trauma. Kenny, I appreciate your courage getting this healing message of truth out on you tube! Our family culture does show signs of improving by exposing the generational trauma via inner child therapy and ACE’s (adverse childhood experience) awareness. Currently, I often deal with loneliness living by myself. While I’ve been recovering from the divorce I thought I was a narcissist and unworthy of having a loving relationship. I appreciate how you break down that Narc topic too 21:53 “walled off/in from myself and others” I was suicidal when I got divorced because I lost everything, what was I living for now!!! I lost my purpose! Now, I am reparenting myself (inner child) and don’t think of suicide!! My bio kids have told me that they are so proud of their dad for taking on self care this year! That means a lot after realizing how much I wreaked havoc on everyone with the years of emotional immaturity. I didn’t have the capacity for logical adult communication… I was triggered constantly and defaulted to my Limbic survival behavior… mostly shut down or controlling. I really wasn’t present or in the moment! Mostly trying to fix/control everyone/thing. Now they (my bio and inner kids) finally get to have a voice!!! I still care for my ex wife and I wish I could treat her the way I’m treating my kids… my heart aches everyday I’m away from her. My next chapter of healing is working through codependency! I’m looking forward to watching some more of your videos on the topic. It doesn’t seem like it will be an easy task… perhaps I will get involved with a CODA recovery support group. Thank you again Kenny! ❤️‍🩹🤙

@kennyweiss

Жыл бұрын

Happy to help!

@cynthiafortier2540

Жыл бұрын

Curious as to why your heart aches after divorcing your wife. I would think it would be relief, leaving a troubled marriage. Mark I am so happy for you though tackling healing the inner child!! That work really calmed my nervous system. Good luck to you sir, your on an awesome track!!

I can relate to this❤❤

It's interesting how it boils down to almost every issue in society we are all going through is from a few yrrs of our childhood. We really need to get parents training and resources to help through atleast those super vulnerable years, was it 3 to 5?

Not easy to hear. But know I need to heal.

Only now am i trying to make sense of my upbringing - because i was with a narcissist for a short while recently which made me question everything. I hate to talk about my past because im full of shame. ( I dont really know why). I hate cruelty and violence but being imperfect i feel inadequate. And through videos learned about this phenomena called narcissism - its so hard to comprehend. I don't know what sort of person i am as ive never really felt i had an identity. I don't really know what my friends think of me as they are kind. But i feel l will get more understanding as time goes by. Ive stayed single since my divorce 45 years ago. I don't feel worthy of love. 🙏 Thank you Kenny for having the courage to show your vulnerability. Its a Very brave thing to do!.

Thank you for the covid/mask connection to this. 🎉 Makes so much sense.

@kennyweiss

4 ай бұрын

You're so welcome!

Thank you ❤❤

@kennyweiss

5 ай бұрын

You're welcome 😊

OMG…I see myself for the first time. 😢

I'm stunned I've never found you

Decades ago someone told me pshychaitrists were the people most in need of mental help. I wonder why I remembered that while watching this video.

Mr. Weiss tries to dance his dance from the middle of the dance and accross the middle of the room. My life has a beginning, and that beginning is conception. No one told my parents to conceive me and then abuse me. I can forgive me my phychopatic mother for not knowing how to do motherhood properly. Only truth is- she does not need my forgiveness. She need God judjement, when her hardened soul will be relised to God for processing. For more than 2 (two) thousand years we have lived according to the doctrine of raising a child, which repits: forgive your parents, who beat you on the right cheek, and show of the other cheek, just be prepare that you will be beaten. Learning to dance from the easiest element is a good start, but for some reason we pick pain and sufering as teaching elements. It is time to srart telling our parents to their face that they abused us. Let them learn to survive it!!! I am not mad on the world or at my poor immature parents. I just understand, where society makes the same mistakes over and over. We are afraid to tell the truth in the eyes of the abuser. We teach our children to phychologically separate themselves from their parents by escaping to other side of the Earth . As a result, we have abandoned children and useless old people. As we are not respected from the srart, so no one, and even we ourselves, do not respect us. Where are these healthy boundaries that Mr Weiss try to establish and teach to establish? ❤

Where did you come from? Sorry need boundary work on myself. Thank you so much again for this information. Im amazed every single time I listen to your massage.

Thankyou

What if the kid does not grow up with parents, instead of grand parents? How this can impact to the kid? I was lost at teenage, and woke up at 20 years old. But I have ignored it all the time since I do not know how to deal with it. Until now when our marriage of 27 years is coming to the end. Even I told my wife all my childhood experience, she never understands this trauma. I wish one day that I can forgive everyone who hurt me so that God can forgive my sins.

That sounds like ME. All Parents got away with what Parents did to their own children. In the yrs 1930-70s There was NO PROTECTION for Children😢 😢

Thank you so much for this video. Are empaths always created in childhood as a result of co-dependency or is it also a characteristic we are born with? For example some people being more sensitive to others.

The nice people being sadistic really got me. Ive always been really disturbed by really nice men. Also, if we all have trauma and toxic shame, it almost seems “normal” and as though there is little hope….

Kenny, you mentioned something called the Disempowered Caretaker. Do you have any videos about this?

Dear Kenny, I watch your videos now 3 monds. I'm from The Netherlands and i regonize a lot and i find your fysion great. But i regonize your that your videos are underestimate in the meaning that there are much more vied experience experts. But i'm shure you will be seen. You have a very good way to tell and explain de wat of or journey to a better balance and self exapting person. Soms times i feel your form of idea that you do something rong. And ask your self why you don't get the same view as some crazy Cristian woman how talks about demons and stuff pure for example in the same healing way. But that's okay, i know you will be seen at some point. Keep gowing on with the good work. You have teach me a lot. Thanks and enjoy the ride ❤

My cousin literally stole my mother's house Lucky I hope and she will go to prison for elder abuse

It's crazy to think that I've survived by taking on everyone's pain... all my mothers pain and shame was projected onto me. I'm trying to let it go, but I've been trained to believe that I'm responsible for everyone's pain. It's so difficult.

In practcing Ocult magick we learn how to create astral beings with intencion Description what it does and when is going to die. From 0 to 5 parents should create astral servitors to follow with guidance the newborn. Giving name a place to live in any objetcs like dools, or anything just something material, date to die and what is the guidance. The guidance and the parents are going to make a difference with wisdom, values and virtues this is the best to ask, beauty is also good and whealth. Imagine if our parents learn this in schools? To create astral servitor from 0 to 5 years at least guiding with wisdom virtues and values.

I'm an only child no husband no kids no neices and no nephew no grandchildren they are all crazy. I love ❤️ my 🐕

@johnmorgan7947

9 ай бұрын

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Is there a recording on co-defendant VS narc

I have an idea based on your counseling. If I were to walk up to someone and hand them a birthday cake with 5 candles then share with them they were a beautiful child who loved the world and was everything a child should be. Help them place themselves at that time. Is that a manipulation or would that be therapy? Birthday Cake Therapy? I would have to face myself and would not be able to handle that.

Kenny does it work to change your life, without dealing with the past or trauma

@kennyweiss

Жыл бұрын

You can’t change your life without dealing with it

Yep I attract narcissists but I can at least spot them ,even covert narcissists ....and ghost them early on. But I am still a wreck. Yep always pick up other peoples bad vibes and carry them. Sucks...HUGE waste of energy ...life wrecking .

Wow this is every women and man_ i have ever known_FEAR

So healing is not possible? If the master cannot heal? 😢

I dont remember much of that age

Can you site your research on children not being affected by covid?

@Michael-it7nx

5 ай бұрын

Seriously ? … it’s everywhere.

This is a lot to process. But I think yer on to somethin'.

What time you are born? 🌟🗽

Don’t worry, I’ll call them abusive for you. My mother was physically abusive and is still a true narcissist and my father was an alcoholic, physically, emotionally and psychologically abusive. At least I know where I came from and know what I’m consistently working to be better than for my own children.

That’s me at 50

Oh no....not again ....

You’ll puke yourself Fabulous expression 😂 When in one to one or group sessions the wounded vomit their stuff all over therapists. Note to therapists, learn to take protective clothing and take them clothes off after sessions and have a shower. A wounded therapist isn’t any good to anyone. 😞

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What an eye opener 😱🥵 It's got to take a lot of relistening to grasp the full concept of what you explane here 🫣

@kennyweiss

Жыл бұрын

Yes it does. ;-)