Doing shit you absolutely don't want to do every day isn't self care. I don't run, I lift. I do it at 8pm, not am. I eat broccoli and spinach smoothies. I also quite enjoy a burger and brownie. Self care is balancing what you want and what you need in the way that makes you happiest

@alyssajernigan6431

3 жыл бұрын

You said that perfectly. It is important to balance and do things you love.

@lailasadek5073

3 жыл бұрын

couldnt have said it better!

@reaganstaab

3 жыл бұрын

This is perfectly worded!!!

@tierrasimone9

3 жыл бұрын

a word

@macarim1748

3 жыл бұрын

AGREED.

Off topic: I think if people were allowed to have midday naps, regardless of their job/school, the world would be a lot happier.

@nikkiiwithani

2 жыл бұрын

true!! i started having midday naps, which i couldnt do during face to face classes, and i personally feel like that little rest helps recharge me in the middle of the day for the rest of the things i need to do

@DrawciaGleam02

2 жыл бұрын

Oof. I have relatives who don't think that....they say I need to push through the day without naps.

Actually, i used to be "that girl" and ironically that was when my mental health was at its best. I think a lot of it can be attributed to the sleeping early, exercising regularly and eating healthy though. I really enjoyed this perspective and i definitely agree that its a lot harder for someone with a 9-5 than a student to achieve that type of life, and that it is unreasonable to have this become a standard :0

@frin.-

3 жыл бұрын

totally agree w u

@adrienne2838

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, I was literally so happy even though I was sleeping 4 hours a night, not sustainable but I was always in a good mood, like I have class at 8 and volunteering at 1 and I’ll be home by 6 and then I have a quiz the following day so I’ll get my workout in at 5:30 , I was like too busy to feel sad and I was making so many new friends

@bunnywavyxx9524

3 жыл бұрын

I was kind of "that girl" too and my life was at its best. But I did it for me and didn't care about the aesthetics or social media aspects.

@Lemonyjean

3 жыл бұрын

If I had a 9-5 I'd definitely do the whole "that girl" thing but unfortunately I work afternoon shift (11:30pm finish)

@lindsryan1087

3 жыл бұрын

Same but I’m just as happy now, it’s possible. 7 am is just as good!

I was 'that girl' for a while and what I learned is that some of the habits really improved my life and mental health, but the mindset behind it made me miserable. The mindset behind it makes a huge difference. Instead of seeing everything as steps you need to cross of your checklist and dont even like, really see it as gaining habits that are good for you and will make you happier in the long term. Instead of waking up at 5 am, working out, meditating, journaling and having 10 health supplements etc, I started looking at what made me feel fulfilled and truly helped me. For me that became waking up between 7 and 8, drawing, sleeping earlier and meditating a few times a week when I feel like it, instead of seeing it as something I must do to not fail in life. Same for workouts, I dont even like working out. I walk after my workday and go to a workout class once a week. It's made me much happier and it fits into my work schedule.

@bronstanton9398

2 жыл бұрын

I agree 100%, between this and '75 Hard' people are going to develop some very bad traits

'Influencer culture is over.' the sweetest words ever spoken.

I always assume the people that actually post these don’t have a 9-5. Like they are either students or rich people.

I think capitalism has really engrained these ridiculous ideals in us (e.g. productivity/successful career etc.) and whilst it does impact most people's view of what success means, I think it's typically a young person thing because the older you get the less fucks you give and you realise that work kinda sucks sometimes. Even if you're a top solicitor/doctor etc. a lot of your daily tasks are actually quite mundane or you might have a difficult boss or colleague. We get so wrapped up in what people 'do' for work but my parents couldn't care less about jobs and it never comes up in conversation with their friends. It's cool because their friends have all taken such different routes in life the older they got so some stopped working entirely when they had kids or went part time, some work in high paying corporate jobs and others are part time school secretaries and nobody bats an eyelid. As young people we learn within a few months to a year that our jobs are not at all the perfect image we've been sold our whole lives but we feel this need to portray to our friends and the outside world that we're successful as if we're not all out here answering emails/photocopying/managing spreadsheets (just giving office work as an example). Even the most fulfilling careers can get monotonous and I feel like when you truly accept that work is just work and you don't care what others think of you, it's pretty liberating because the capitalist mentality no longer has a death grip on you. I think this only comes to most people in your 30's/40's. I'm only 26 and whilst I understand all of this in theory, I still struggle with fully letting go of how others perceive my job. (I'm just a legal & finance executive for the public health body in Ireland so I'm essentially admin support.)

@Dumbbellsandcoffee

3 жыл бұрын

Well stated!!!! 🙌🏾

@hummuslife1086

3 жыл бұрын

@@Dumbbellsandcoffee thanks! 😊

@SanjaWilliams

3 жыл бұрын

Very mature answer indeed!

@hummuslife1086

3 жыл бұрын

@@SanjaWilliams ❤️❤️

@Fauxhad

3 жыл бұрын

Oh gosh you've hit the nail on the head!! It's absolutely a young person thing to obsess about the perception of our jobs (it kinda starts from school: we get taught to value high grades... for what?! So we can get into a good University then get a good job???) Literally every job I've ever had includes some sort of monotonous aspect where I stop and think, "why am I even doing this?" I've had to start making a conscious effort to stop making my entire personality based on work and instead focus on all the other amazing things available in life. I used to be SO terrified of losing my job that I legitimately wouldn't be able to sleep. Now I'm like, well... if I did lose my job, who cares? There's so much other incredible things I could do instead. Thank you for sharing your story and for watching! 🥰

When I was a kid/teen I wanted so bad to grow up, but now that I'm 23, I want to be a kid again because girrrrrl, I didn't know how happy I was

Just let the irony of "that girl" set in. They all have this very productive schedule plotted out in 15 minute increments before 8am, and their followers have a very non-productive schedule of staring at their phones watching "that girl" videos in 15 minute increments. Their success is antithetical to anyone taking their advice.

@Minkxox

2 жыл бұрын

thats how influence happens i guess, people identify with "that girl" as in, thats what they aspire to be but can just immerse themselves with their minds rather than action, if they dont end up trying the habits themselves. Virtual self identification with others... spoooky

@MykkiOnTheCusp

2 жыл бұрын

It's so much easier to just follow of bunch of these influencers and live vicariously through their grand and unattainable lifestyles - and they know it. If more people could actually achieve what they have, they'd have to change up their whole strategy to maintain sponsorships and followers.

The "that girl" thing is depressing. At least for me. Like I see all these perfect people out there, with their self love etc. And then I'm here in my room, being exhausted because I had to eat with my family for 2 weeks (once a day) because my grandpa died and we need to help my grandma and I didn't even cry that much, which makes no fucking sense, because I have depression and I usually cry because of litteraly everything. This trend is like hustle culture for teenagers.

@ibrahimrukayyahshittabey

2 жыл бұрын

Mehn it sucks. I mean not being able to cry. I have felt that,I used to feel like I am not grieving enough,or something is just totally wrong with my wiring or maybe my profession (medical field) has messed me up or something. But overtime I realized one thing though, maybe weeks or months later, something else will trigger the crying and I can finally heal. Stay strong

as a depressed unmotivated teen, those "that girl" trends made my unpredictable mental health even more unpredictable i'm glad i'm not cooped up in that unrealistic and frankly, exhausting "ideal" lifestyle now like who the hell wakes up on 5am??? class starts at 8, i'm gonna sleep until 7:50 for all i care lmao

@Jenviper

3 жыл бұрын

Lol they’re just extra ✋🏽

@brooklynsbaby4367

3 жыл бұрын

It's crazy how TikTok can affect your mental health

@user-nf7hp5wk3s

3 жыл бұрын

I wake up at 5 am, but only because of my job honestly

@amirahelechi7113

3 жыл бұрын

Honestly the that girl trend is actually beneficial for lots of ppl... yall just make everything toxic

@michellevyanca5280

3 жыл бұрын

My friend wakes up at 4 am everyday and i literally can't comprehend how.

So spot on. As a 36 year old who didn’t grow up with influencers you have nailed it for me! 💙

@Fauxhad

3 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad! I also feel quite lucky that I got to grow up (mostly) free from influencer culture. Social media became a thing when I was still in high school and I used to think it was so bad back then... I can't even imagine the pressures teens face these days!! Thank you for watching!! 🥰

@anikadiamond007

3 жыл бұрын

I feel blessed to not have grown up you was young during this era. Your life is a show.

I start every one of my days by waking up at 6am, doing yoga, and meditating - and I can promise my life is still a trainwreck lol. The good habits help a lot but it's so disingenuous to say any one way of living will "fix" your life/problems. Find the things that make you feel content, happy, and interested and recognize there will always be things you wish were different and practice accepting that tension.

I think the difference is whether or not these routines are made for the aesthetics, from the desire to fit in, because you think it will make you cool, or if you actually believe that these habits will help you manage your life better. I like waking up early because it gives me more time to get ready. I hate being late and I hate rushing so it helps me manage my anxiety. And working out, regardless of when it happens, is good for both physical and mental health. The pandemic ruined a lot of routines, and for me personally, the gym closing and my dance rehearsals being canceled crushed me. Those routines are really important, ngl. But again, non of those things should be for instagram or tiktok likes/views.

@LexBFitLife

2 жыл бұрын

I just take it as inspiration. It’s not that deep. As a teen I had no idea of how to create any good habits so being able to see some habits is helpful. I just do the ones that I like or I feel are achievable for me ❤️

@whitney19239

2 жыл бұрын

exactly. i feel like there’s a huge difference between wanting to implement some of the habits (eating healthy, working out regularly, getting adequate sleep) into your life in a way that makes sense for you and your lifestyle and attempting to become someone else (“that”’girl) entirely.

I JUST had this conversation 20 minutes ago and this video pops up. Another layer to this conversation - the micro influencer epidemic. Small fish like myself TRYING to keep up with these aesthetic lifestyle that we cannot afford. I am tired af and I work a corporate job. I don’t have time to make a beautiful breakfast every morning.

"..trojan horse for very big companies to push their sponsored content" puts whats happening with influencers perfectly

I work late shifts and overnight shifts so most of the time, whenever I’m not at work, I’m most likely asleep. If I’m getting home at 8am, I’m sleeping until 4pm so there’s very little time for me to incorporate a lot of things into my schedule because I’ve got such a small window of time before I have to get ready to go to work again. Being a working adult is hard, and “that girl” routines aren’t always available to everyone.

@beth-bi9yv

3 жыл бұрын

Right? Me too! Shift work kills me!

I think it goes deeper than if I’m productive, then I’m successful, and that makes me happy. I think it’s more about staving off a lot of complicated emotion that comes up during quiet, unstructured time. It’s a peculiarly flimsy self-delusion, that is constructing an online persona that others admire and aspire to be, while cultivating a deeper, only half-acknowledged hollowness within the self that berry bowls and beach pics for Instagram can’t solve.

@bunnywavyxx9524

3 жыл бұрын

"staving off a lot of complicated emotion that comes up during quiet, unstructured time" you put it perfectly. as someone who was sort of "that girl," that was one of my biggest mental issues

Literally one of the most real channels ive encountered on youtube. This is so so refreshing to see from all the herd mentality and groupthink you see everywhere! Please keep making these videos as it is soo good to see someone say the truth for once and not fake lives for more views and subs! Kudos to you!

@Fauxhad

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much!! I’ll always try and keep it real here, haha. I’m so glad you’ve enjoyed the vids and are sticking around. Great to have other Monash grads part of the Faux Club! 🥰

whenever my eating disorder gets bad i romantacis it. just like the "that girl" trend

@allid2018

3 жыл бұрын

Hey imma need u to delete this because it hit too close to home and I can’t handle this rn /j

@evasofia07

3 жыл бұрын

those short films abt eating disorders rlly don't help either, why are they filmed so prettily... i feel so competitive when I watch them

@iluvpink1176

3 жыл бұрын

@@evasofia07 they also hyper focus on habits which trigger me sm; worsening my ed

@evasofia07

3 жыл бұрын

@@iluvpink1176 yes and they also talk numbers so much and like even if they give me a tw like as if im gonna listen to that. its like this little gold mine of ed-inducing videos that i will literally purposely watch to keep my ed going like why tf am i so dumb.

@iluvpink1176

3 жыл бұрын

@@evasofia07 omg yes especially the ones on youtube

i can't speak for everyone, but some people actually mean no harm. sometimes waking up 30 mins earlier in the morning and putting effort into your breakfast instead of skipping it, will make you feel better. meditating and exercising are both really beneficial, does it matter when you workout/meditate? im not sure but a lot of people tend to feel better when they workout first thing in the morning. the only unrealistic part of this is your whole life being "aesthetic" it's hideous. if something resonates with you, do it. if it doesn't, keep moving & stop comparing your life to others. you're doing great.

tbh I enjoyed this 'that girl' lifestyle when I'm on my best mental phase/sleeping phase, but not as a daily thing. Ppl just really have to listen to their body, I think a routine cant be set to be exactly the same everyday. ANYWAYS when had corporate 9-5 job I tried this lifestyle but always ended up bored and exhausted on the afternoon cos the day feels longer lmao

I think that this trend is actually improving more lives than it is ruining so I cannot agree very much with this video. Speaking for myself, and I have also seen in the comments the same thing, that "that girl" trend actually improved their lives and mental state. I was also "that girl" except it was more than 2 years ago when I started implementing all the healthy habits in my life when no such trend existed (I think? Idk). My mental state was so much better when I did yoga, meditation, journaling and stuff like that every day and woke up early. Now I have a been on pause for almost 4 months with all of that but I really want to get back into this routine and tbh this trend, morning routine videos and stuff like that I find quite inspiring and motivational. I really think the world would be a better place if everyone implemented more healthy habits in their life especially meditation, physical activity and good nutrition. Productivity is not toxic as long as you take good care of yourself and put love in the first place. :)

i have to wake up at 5 am for school (yes i know my school starts very early) and its not fun. i really hate having to wake up so early.

@Fauxhad

3 жыл бұрын

Aw, that sucks to hear. I used to have to get up at 5am as well to get to work on time (took me 2 hours!!). Hopefully once school finishes, you get to finally sleep in more! 😴

@teefmouf5841

3 жыл бұрын

SAMEEE i have to be there at 7:20 am. walking there takes at least 20 minutes

@antonianusser5365

3 жыл бұрын

@@teefmouf5841 omg I’m gonna have to be at school by 7:20 this year too

🙌🏾 Preach. Corporate life is stressful enough. Do you know how many times I snooze my alarm before 8:30am 🙄x20? If I woke up and tried this 5am perfect life, girrl I would be exhausted and in need of a nap by 8:30am.

I recently started waking up at the ass crack of dawn, doing an hr workout then walking my dog, preparing my lunch and dinner for the day THEN going to work at like 7/8. And yeah I just feel more tired and even more depressed 😭 but I am losing weight so at least I’ll be skinny and depressed 💀

@user-xr7bd4zb6k

3 жыл бұрын

very relatable bestie

@susanne5982

3 жыл бұрын

Take care of yourself, i did this so long and now I just am constantly sick, depressed and drained.

@ohohnenyeoo2654

2 жыл бұрын

Haha. No, seriously pls take care of yourself

@paigelovette8156

2 жыл бұрын

Oh no.

@chloeelimam3899

2 жыл бұрын

Physical and mental health go hand and hand, maybe getting healthy will lead to a better state of mind, but also maybe a better state of mind could help you with getting healthier. Good luck girl! We're all rooting for you 💛

i was so disappointed when i saw this becoming a tiktok trend. you should only really do these things like waking up early and eating healthy food if it makes you happy. for example, i usually wake up at about 5 am to swim because i love to swim, eat healthy food because i need protein and calories, and do yoga because it helps me sleep. i respect people that sleep as long as possible or eat unhealthy food because i hope that makes them happiest

I really love this video! I’m a bit older now (if 29 counts as old) but when I was 24/25 I burned myself out waking up at 5am and scheduling every moment of my day, all while working a 9-5. So, it’s so sad to see that this trend of being intensely and unrealistically productive won’t let up. But I do agree that there are more people who are starting to look beyond what our capitalistic and consumerist society tells us is valuable. Sleeping in, lazy days, and quality quiet/ “unproductive” time is healthy too!

Literally everyone says “people want more authentic content” but then everyone turns into the exact same version of each other “that girl” or whatever…. They start out authentic then just become the status quo

I have always aspired to be one of those people who wake up early and do productive stuff- like since I was 8. Toxic hustle culture had me in its clutches even then. It's only when I started watching videos and reading media of people telling me it's okay to not be productive, to not workout every day, to sleep in, to be lazy, that I started to feel more comfortable resting. Thanks for being another one of those KZreadrs that helps people get out of this capitalistic rat race.

I’d rather sleep too lol. I contemplated it everyday in college and I’d always chose sleep.

@christianknuchel

2 жыл бұрын

Smart choice. ;)

i hope they're not reading for the aesthetic 😭

@lydjoy3385

3 жыл бұрын

they probably are pretending tbh

@Jennifer-uh8th

3 жыл бұрын

😭

@zakiyabambozzle2933

2 жыл бұрын

They would do that 🥴

"It is not to be trifled with." Omg. I've never heard this saying but I love it, am borrowing it and will cite you. I really enjoyed your humorous and thoughtful take on 'that girl' and overall online portrayal of lifestyles that place aesthetics and productivity above all else.

@nadiarambles

3 жыл бұрын

Also "spoiler alert: if you were depressed, you're gonna be depressed after." bahahaha don't I know it. Making oat milk iced lattes has (sadly) not cured my depression. Thanks for the laugh, I've subscribed!

@Fauxhad

3 жыл бұрын

Awww, thank you so much! I'm glad you enjoyed and were able to have a laugh! And oh gosh, oat milk has also not transformed my life as everyone promised... 😂

I refuse to not wake up at 5am because I love watching the sunrise while drinking my coffee and it's much more peaceful and cold

Thanks for this video, as a 14 year old this stopped me from thinking that I was not productive enough or aesthetic enough. I was about to plan a more ‘that girl’ routine but this woke me up. 100% gonna subscribe!

@CutTheCrapAndKissMe

2 жыл бұрын

don't post about it and do it for your health if you think its the right choice.

@Ineedyoudadsobad

2 жыл бұрын

@@CutTheCrapAndKissMe thanks for that but yeah after thinking about its definitely not the right choice for me personally but I've worked on my sleeping schedule so far!

I’m going to chime in with perhaps a slightly different perspective, that being one of this comes from a place of self hate wrapped in a pretty package. Also I am in my 40’s so I have known a time sans the internet and I have seen it’s growth and the evolution of advertising. I grew up in a home that you could say was like a Pinterest board and this was in the 80’s. My mother was more concerned with outward appearances, which kind of stole from the actual experience like the it girls who some how have time to capture in film there highlight reels. In my experience growing up in a home run by a perfection queen it was not great. From not being able to ever make any kind of mess, not being allowed to dress myself because, god forbid, I reflect on my mom by wearing a less than perfect outfit, kind of gave the illusion of life sans life. From her home decor, organization, cleanliness, fashion sense/make up, looks, diet, even her perfect night clothing, my mom could be what today’s it girl is to a degree and this is on a psychological level. Christmas parties looked beautiful with my hair braided up in red and green ribbons all in our custom made matching taffeta skirts with a tree that took hours to wrap lights on each limb to sparking perfection (forget a sloppy tree, pfft there was no non matching or flawed stuff allowed), expensive garland everywhere and bows from the florist, not store bought. However it was exhausting and miserable but the pictures looked great. Everyone was irritated and tired, stressed with zero spontaneity which reminds me how influencers smile serenely in what appears to be a field of flowers, when really they are on the side of a road taking 500 pics. Point being the substance isn’t there and the point was missed and this stems from self esteem issues, which I think my mother had, and these young ladies very well seem to fit the criteria. It’s always look at me or am I better because I do this. It’s possible they are empty, shallow and hallow proving to themselves that they are okay. It’s a smug way of comparing yourself to others for self validation. Kind of like going over a room with a white glove as a cleanliness test. If it’s white, then it must be clean right? On that maintaining a routine and having goals are a positive. We all feel better when we are eating healthy, cleaned up, rested and taking some pride in ourselves. Being in a clutter free environment that is organized and harmonious can make for a better day. It’s the little things that count and advertisers may be perverting that. There has to be room to not be a robot and to be forgiving of yourself when you fall short. My fear is young people lack the grid to shoot it through and it makes for a loop of self esteem issues. Like a sickness, people spread around their self loathing to others trying to prove their worth to themselves.

Talented, brilliant, incredible, amazing, show stopping, spectacular, never the same, totally unique, completely not ever been done before, unafraid to reference or not reference, put it in a blender, shit on it, vomit on it, eat it, give birth to it.

@Fauxhad

3 жыл бұрын

GAGA IS QUACKING!!!! tysm bestie!! 🥰

I’m doing research for a video essay about the ‘that girl’ trend and this video was so helpful !! Completely agree with all your points x

@Fauxhad

3 жыл бұрын

Aw, thank you - I’m so glad!! Good luck with the video, I’ll keep an eye out for it! 🥰

You hit it on the head. I’m so over influencer culture. They literally out here selling fake dreams for money.

I was feeling so guilty about not getting everything done and not I'm reevaluting my routine and switching it up so it works for me, not so it caters to an aesthetic

Thank you for this video. I'm 22 and depressed and having those sorts of "day in my life" videos constantly pushed to me on my FYP and timelines has been so unhealthy for my mental state. I want to get to a healthier lifestyle including waking up earlier, eating breakfast and working out more... but I struggle with motivation, energy and have social anxiety so its not very easy. Sometimes I wake up and get ready by 10am (I'm a student and work parttime from home) and I feel like I've wasted my day and lose motivation to do anything for the rest of the day... why?! For some reason knowing other people are "living their best life" and have done more than I'll do today while sleeping is soooo demotivating.

Waking up early is really physically and spiritually healthier, it just many people use it as a stage to promote their ego. Waking up early (or any other form of self care) is messy, filled with rage, and the constant battle with your old habit to wake up late. It is a way of building a stronger mindset and personally, nothing aesthetic about it. These aesthetic videos make it more like a boasting rather than encouragement.

about a year ago i was really invested in the studying and journalling community, which in some aspects (aesthetics, work ethic and expensive stuff) is very similar to this trend. the issue was that a lot of people were still in middle or early highschool, while i'm in uni in a stem major. i don't really have time to re-write my notes from class and then study mandarin for five hours a day because i have classes til 8pm and assignments to hand in every other day. i would feel so depressed seeing everyone else seemingly study so much harder than me and get all these good grades, while i struggled so much. although i miss it sometimes, i'm really glad i'm not surrounding myself with that kind of content as much anymore.

I love your humor. Idk how I found you, but I’m glad I did. 😂👏🏼 I swear I had this conversation with my girlfriend the other day.

@Fauxhad

3 жыл бұрын

Aw, I'm so glad you found me too!! I've also been having this conversation quite a lot lately... thought it was time I just put it on the Internet, hahaha. Thank you for watching! 🥰

i feel BAD about myself when i see those videos lol. like sometimes i feel inspired because i want to have the pretty life they have but it manifests as like, "i need to be doing that and its pathetic that i don't even though i know that i'm supposed to"

I'm here for the sleep. 5am is great but I have seen it more often when I went to bed at 5am than when I woke up at 5am. Give me a good reason to wake up at 5am for a few days but that's about it. People need more sleep. (Who goes to bed at 9pm? How on earth do these people manage to fall asleep after all these iced coffees?)

I 100% agree. watching these videos and not being able to afford the stuff that you see makes you feel poor, even if you make enough money already. It's so draining honestly.

I do get up at 5am-4:30am for school, because the place I go is like two hours away, but I don't have time to do all that stuff, just catching the bus 🤷

@Alex-wl9xw

3 жыл бұрын

Same. Plus a job. So basically no free time or strength to do anything else.

I'm late, but this idea that getting up extremely early and packing your day with ✨aesthetic productivity ✨ is the only way to be successful is so harmful. There's a lot of people that do not work well in the morning. (Including myself) I have depression, anxiety, hypothyroidism, and am a night owl. I need to get those morning hours of sleep to feel even slightly rested. And no, going to bed earlier doesn't help. SO MANY people run on a later schedule and they can absolutely be successful! The only thing that would change for me waking at 5 am would be extreme fatigue and a bad attitude.

I watch so many that girl KZread videos and for me it's kind of relaxing just to see people do these artificially perfect routines but totally get how younger viewers are in danger. Loving the content. 👌 😌

I loved this video! You have a really good energy! As for me I'm a 32y woman with a husband, my own house and a 9-5 job (currently working at home but pre covid I've had 3 hours daily of commute) and every time I see videos like that I cannot help to think like a boomer: "guess they didn't have anything else to do". I really hope this trend will die down, I know how social media can impact mental healt and those videos in my opinion are pure fiction.

I have been WAITING for someone to have this conversation. OF COURSE you look after yourself when your whole career is to look after yourself and show others how to look after themselves. The latest I leave for work is 7.30am and the earliest I get home is 4.30pm, but I usually get home around 6.30pm. That is ELEVEN hours that I have to be awake enough to safely look after 32 children at once, as well as get them to learn something while not falling asleep on the job. I ain't waking up at 5am, I'd die.

As someone who wakes up and does yoga/cardio/weights (whatever I feel like) at 5am, I feel attacked. But I'm also a mom who works full time and I don't like to take my evenings away from my daughter. I'd rather wake up and get my workout done while she's asleep.

Also, a majority of these people don’t have real “9-5” jobs. It’s a lot easier to wake up whenever, meditate, do yoga, go for a run, come back drink 125 gallons of water, make a fancy avocado toast, etc, etc, etc when you’re not having to rush out to sit in 1.5 hours of rush hour traffic to get to their job for 8am. As a teacher who has summers off, I can speak from experience on this. My breakfasts during the summer are fancy as f*ck because it’s a luxury that I have time for and enjoy.

i love the captions to every chapter so much. i get distracted easily and they really help getting back on topic. the entire essay was made so well written ! your humor is hilarious

THANK YOU so much for saying what I've been feeling watching those 'that girl' videos. Their clothes are $$$$$ and perfectly matched. They go to lunches and coffee shops spending money like water. The meals they cook at home are so expensive for all ingredints and incredibly time consuming. I have to watch every cent I spend. Between their cooking, cleaning, watering plants, sewing, scrapbooking, journaling, bubblebaths, morning AND night time routine, it's a full time job in itself.

Everyone wants to get up at 5am but everytime I tell my friends that I get up at 10 for work they say they're jealous! I HATE getting up and sleeping early and after doing it for years out of sheer will, not doing that is self care at this point Doing shit you hate is NOT self care guys - an ex "that girl"

some of these people are conflating having a mainstream healthy lifestyle with self-care and it shows. "self-care" and "difficult" are mutually exclusive, yet these people are making it a personality trait.

Today's Sunday morning routine: -9am: wake up, because my furniture delivery window is 9:45am-12:45pm -9:30am: lazy skincare + meds -10am: eat random breakfast foods and pace my apartment, refreshing the dispatch app Typical Sunday morning routine: -don't set an alarm and just wake up whenever

Oh boy this came up on my recommended as I got up at 5am to do things before work. That girl aesthetic has really been getting to me lately. I recently became sober from alcohol and I know it's absurd deep down but I keep thinking "well if I can just do half of what they do maybe my life will improve" and it's like nah, I gotta do a lot of other work to get myself where I want to be. Browsing that girl content is kind of my guilty pleasure. I do it because it's strangely relaxing to see people go effortlessly through their days?? Idk, maybe it's time to unfollow some people 🤔

I agree 100%! Also I must add that as a now 32 year old, my childhood "aesthetic" and "self-caring" was unplanned a lot better than the one of today's children because back in the day we didn't have social media and to me that certainly was a blessing. But yes, I am active on IG and other platforms, but the only "influencers" I actually let influence me when it comes to buying products are smaller ones who share slow-fashion and are true to their and my daily style or comic-artists I simply like and want to support. Otherwise why would you even believe them in the first place, right? I think we should realise social media platforms as a way to present one's passion or as a kind of portfolio or simply as a means to connect with ppl who share your hobbies/style and help each other than the "look, how cool MY life is and you also need this product to have the same life!". SO, totally agree with everything you said! (and I already get up at 5am because my job starts at 7am, so what are ppl with different work schedules even supposed to do according to those girls? They are just trying to sell a lifestyle that is only in movies tbh - so I watch movies to see that lol)

I’m glad people are seeing through this crap. I too enjoy the videos showing how behind the scenes these videos are not as ‘glamorous’ as the end video makes it look.

I have to be at work at 8:30 am & work 2 jobs and actually, I started waking up at 6 am to either do yoga or go to the skatepark before work, and my mental health was doing great. I think the trouble is that this lifestyle gives you a sense of control, but then when real life hits you and things start to go wrong in your personal life, suddenly it's not so easy to wake up at 6 am anymore & despite efforts to be better sometimes you just can't control the bad and the bad feelings that go along with it. Then you are hit with total shock when you go from being this powerful, motivated individual striving for personal success to someone who feels anxiety through the entire day and can't be 'that girl'. I think it's times like that though that kind of open your eyes to the fact that you can't control everything & really allows you to have great compassion for yourself. I still will implement trying to wake up when I can because it ultimately makes me feel so much better internally, but I think it's key to strive for progress, not perfection & remember that life will always have bumps in the road along the way & it's okay when things start to go a little south or life hits you with the unexpected because it will always do that.

i actually post this short of 'routine' content on my tiktok, and I totally agree with you. since, I post my progress of moving out, started from 0, even cleaning my bathroom looking like shit, cause that's just the reality of being an adult and wanting a clean space to live in, having trouble with cooking meals, washing my clothes by hand cause I can't afford a washing machine yet, etc. and yes! people love that relatability more... and I really want to show behind the scene of this so-called "aesthetic" life I'm living in. like, "Hey, it's TOTALLY FINE if you don't have it figured out at 23, or it's okay not making waffles/fruit bowl for breakfast cause you're craving pasta."

Lol me working a 7:30am-5:30pm on a good day, day dreaming about a simple 9-5 so I can have more free time in the morning.

@no.6377

3 жыл бұрын

Right? I dream of a 9-5. Mornings are so much more productive if you get the time. 😭😭

@Alex-wl9xw

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly. Getting up at 5 am is kinda shitty when you get home and have less than 4 hours to do house work and take care of stuff just to sleep for 7 hours (a lot on an easy day, not enough in my physically and mentally draining job). And if you want to do more, you have to compromise on your sleep.

I feel bad about myself. like I don't like watching those videos because I just feel like a failure. I literally have to convince myself that I’m normal for living the way I do and give myself self compassion and forgiveness

I wake up at 5am because I have to be at work at 7am. I am exhausted everyday.

Just used this video in my Marketing assignment to show how the 'that girl' trend has led to a decrease in potato chip sales ;)

So glad that yt recommend me this video✨ It's really nice to see small channel making such a great content! Love your flow~

@Fauxhad

3 жыл бұрын

Oh hello!! Thank you so much for your lovely comment - and welcome to the Faux Club!! 🥰

If i see someone waking up at 5 am I'm assuming they're running from something or avoiding something

My dad was an early riser/hard worker. Long before these influencers existed, I decided that wasn't the life for me. My mom liked to sleep in and relax. That's my vibe.

I think what you said about people wanting authenticity online is so insightful. I have been noticing that too and am so happy to see the change

Why are so many people that are genuine, non-aesthetic and creative people failing though? It's almost impossible to even make any sort of community these days, I've seen it around me with my artist friends and actual wholesome people. Literally nobody cares about what they have to offer it seems.

I have to wake up 5:30 everyday just to get to work on time. Or as my bosses say "at least 15 mins before" [the time you're actually getting paid for]. Waking up early was much more useful to me back when I was a full time student :/

I wake up at 5 am every day to be at work at 6 am . I couldn’t imagine getting up even earlier to be “ that girl “ .

I didn't even realize there was a term for this. I actually did just switch up my routine about 3 months ago to start waking up at 5:30am to go to the gym, because I know myself and I know that if I don't do it before work it ain't happening. The catch is though is that before I switch to my work from home job, I was waking up at 3:30am to open at my last job. Not going to lie it does feel amazing to wake up early and get all of the extra stuff done out of the way so when I get off work I have absolutely nothing I need to do besides eat dinner and veg out. I am a night owl at heart, so it was tough for me to convince myself to get up and do something that I wasn't getting paid for. I definitely wouldn't have chosen to start going to bed earlier and waking up earlier if I weren't so in need of a routine, yay neurodivergence.

Iv watched about a dozen vidoes on this topic ( nice sound in empty space when doing a project) Def my favorite video on this of all. You bring up great points, stylish, love the hand expressions, wonderful speaker, and emotionally-logically making points

inependence is the hidden appeal.. if you hustle hard enough you can survive

I avoid content you're describing with a passion, because it makes me feel like I'm not good enough. I enjoy content like this, because I feel reassured. You got a new subscriber!

Thank you for this video! This makes so much sense to me, I just didn't know how to articulate it. We need to keep talking about this!

it took me forever to get over my own regimented productivity routine because it stopped serving me. I wake up at 3 AM every day no matter what from working nights as an RN and I don't feel like doing shit until like 3 PM after several naps lol. there's no point in me doing two workouts and a meditation session and meal prep etc etc all before 8 AM. the afternoon into late night is when I get the most done. the whole 5 AM wake up productivity thing might work for some, but it's not sustainable for everyone. I think it's an especially precarious behavior for kids and teens to be exposed to so constantly, as well.

Thank you so much for this video, it was exactly what I needed to hear. It's so hard to separate your identity from what you do because, at least from the subliminal societal messages I've received, you are worth the value that you bring. That's what I realized I've been motivated by for a long time, I am what I do for a living rather than living as who I am. This is why people go through quarter/mid life crisis because we live our lives so focused on the expectation of who we should become based on how much money we make, and/or how much influence we have. I sure as hell haven't broken away from it yet, but I want to say this as a reminder to myself and others: You are valuable just by existing, anything that tells you otherwise is a lie.

i wake up at 5 because i need to study for med school. NEED TO SAVE DEM LIVES

Love this! I think this is a much needed video.

I wake up at 5, but that's because I've got to get ready before my kids get up, and then I go to my full time job. It sucks. Get the sleep while you can!!!

so happy I got recommended to this video! absolutely agree with everything you said here

I LOVE microinfluencers more than I've ever even paid attention to a """"normal""" influencer. Like I've been watching people like you discussing trends when Im not even aware of them (and it's so fricking interesting I love it, thank you!), or 30+ women debunking myths about anything and everything (hi leena norms!) or learning more about REAL sustainability and all that, or watching people using their literary / historical / scientific knowledge and methodology to create more knowledge through video (the new media for essays!) and it's honestly what is REALLY inspiring me, especially when those people seem so real. It's given me inspiration to do it myself (at one point, when I'll actually have time lol). So, yeah, I guess thank you!

@YA-tt5if

2 жыл бұрын

my exact thoughts! i've been watching vids like this and they're just so interesting

i love this video! dont ever stop making these lol you spoke huge FACTS!

you're so right!!!! im glad i deleted tiktok (well the app, the accounts are next) i realized how damaging it was comparing myself to girls that had 1M followers and all looked the same and made me have unrealistic standards for myself, i will tho be waking up at 5am becos of KZread

Okay you deserve waaaaay more followers! So glad I found you!

just discovered your channel through my recommendations and I already love it!

I wake up at 5am and meditate/yoga i feel best and most mentally active in the morning and want to have the time to be creative before I have to do anything or interact with people. That being said I got on this schedule over a period of time when I was gearing up to take ceramics with my sister and it took a good 6 months before I started loving the morning. My life is pretty aesthetic, if neurodivergnt clown is an aesthetic...

I've only been here for 5 minutes and I'm already in love with your channel

I'm forced to wake up at 5am to get to work by 7 and it's the worst part of my life. I also don't get off work until 6-7pm so I have 0 time to be productive and care for myself 😅😅

I wake up at 5am every day, but not because I want to or whatever is just to be at work at 6am, so yeah this routine is very unrealistic.

just stumbled across this video and i just want to say that the way you are able to so precisely describe problems and this is amazing and i agree with everything. you totally deserve more subs and i for one will be sticking around and watching your vides. keep up the good work! :)

Bravo! I have no idea how I found this video but I appreciate what you are saying. Thank you for being so real. Looking forward to watching some more of your videos.

Lysm for this video!!!

lmaooooo you are funny as hayuuulll lmaoo. i cannot. subbed in da first 2 minutes

I'm 23, and I agree with that so much! Sometimesi fell like I'm getting crazy trying to jugle all the things that "I'm suppose to", and live the experience and be more productive. Now I just try to manage what I can, and be at peace with it. (i'm doing therapy now)