What are some of the relationship red flags that you look out for as an INFJ?

@user-it1mt6bt4t

6 ай бұрын

red flag number 5 the imaginary one

@jessmason2112

6 ай бұрын

Yep 7:21

@DearYoungerSelf111

6 ай бұрын

The biggest one is a person who subconsciously shows me I'm too much - people with fragile egos show this quickly because they have an innate need to be seen as right - smart - etc. Then you got this outspoken opinionated INFJ come along - and they become triggered with our interaction instantly - Now I've learned these are people not worth my time because honestly all the red flags Wenzes talked about I no longer won't to deal with these people that exhibit these behaviors - I have any narc boss and committed to leaving when my one year mark comes - In the past I put up with mistreatment for way too long and I want peace here on - Peace and Love INFJs!

@garimaagrawal24

6 ай бұрын

@wenzes - The issue is that although we know that we can be happy with a partner who can reciprocate, who has growth mindset, who likes us for who we are .........the problem is that we think that it is not possible to get such a partner. I think we need to hear some success stories to believe that INFJs can have the partners they desire or we need to learn to be happy alone. Since we do not know either, we keep trying to adjust and make it work.

@kencornwell

6 ай бұрын

It is hard to give up on someone I think I had a connection with and although it didn't happen I continued trying hard. I don't try so hard anymore. The person knows where I am and how I feel and I am not trying anymore other than simple communication. I feel better about it now and don't think of that person continually as I once did. If it works fine if not that is fine also.

5 red flages to look out for : 1 You are too intense, too strong, capable, or too knowledgeable for the other person. « Rather be disliked for who you are than be liked for who you are not. » 2 The other person is your escape from your life. 3 The other person is your project and you think you can fix them. > Codependence ! 4 Your partner has a fixed mindset and they don’t think their approach to life is wrong. Self-development is important to us. 5 You are living in a one-sided relationship (imaginationship). > Looking at who they are, not who we want the to be.

@jessmason2112

6 ай бұрын

This is why independence of who we are is crucial in any possible friendship or relationship and that works both ways. 12:01

@lizashone1976

6 ай бұрын

Thx so much

@jacquia.7340

6 ай бұрын

Thank youuu 🙌💓

@DTJ579

6 ай бұрын

My Ex and I (he is my direct neighbour and it is still complicated) literally scored ALL of them, Red Flag Bingo Party 😂🫠

Big red flag 🚩 antagonist people for the sake of drama 🎭 rather than actual dialogue. When I was younger I found sometimes people who were quite shallow and would “hear” to answer, rather than “listening” to dialog. Fortunately for me 20 years ago I found the love of my life who also happens to be an INJF - so life is good.

Me every time I see red flags "Oooh festival!" 😅

A red flag that I noticed on a girl that I was talking to is that she made a lot of really bad comments about some person or people. If I reacted to one of those comments, demonstrating that I didn't liked what she said, she would say: "you can't take everything I say for serious" or "I'm just kidding". She said to me that she is sarcastic, but I think this is a excuse to be able to say whatever she wants and, if I didn't liked something, she could pretend that she doesn't really believe in what she said.

People who are envious, jealousy, and nasty and copies off of you

I wish I knew I was an INFJ sooner and learned about these red flags. I stayed in my relationship that just ended way too long and these red flags were there…

Oh, I have done all of them. And it really is a solid recipe for unhappiness and a very unrewarding life in general. I am utterly sick and tired of cleaning up after other people, my goal is to never clean up the mess caused by another person ever again, and I am responsible for creating healthy boundraries, because I have finally come to the realisation that I actually want and deserve to be happy as my true self. I am not a waste-bin for other people.

This is so damn important, especially #4 + #5. I wish someone would have taught me this years ago. I wasted years of my life on people who were not good for me to say the least, and some Narcs as well. now, it's me time, moving on - without them.

im an INFJ, i ve got all the red flags ^^" I stopped my relationship this past week

As an infj i was just dating this guy who was a complete narcissist, too prideful, and definitely I am sure a sociopath Im so glad I got out of it before it got really bad. I blocked them completely from everything!! This person was almost terrifying.

If you're not aware of how envious jealous people around you are you won't be aware of how weak evil and capable of utter treachoury to get back at you even though you may be clueless and think these people are harmless yet are devil in carnate that infjs will make a cup of tea for and build a serial killer up, I know I've done it we are very very different 😇💓🙏

This is so spot on❤ I’m literally going through this with EVERY ONE I am often in tears in my room because of it (roommates)

F#@% i needed this 🙏🏾

With great power comes great responsibility. If you have the ability to do something, make sure that you do it for the good of others. 5:53

I believe my crush is an INFJ too, but she is gone. At the age of 34, it becomes easy for someone to dismiss a relationship than their twenties.

Ich liebe diese Sendung!

Omg this video was so good!! You’re everything ! I have operated on all these red flags! Thank you !

When we are alone it helps us focus better and in a short time we easily progress and that is joyful✨

4 out of 5 red flags in my current relationship but so grateful for this highlight. Now I know I can respond differently. Thank you Wenzies ❤😊

I really needed this today, thank you for always breaking things down perfectly 🙏🏼❤️

Thank you

Thank you 🙌

thanks so much /hugs/

Once again, this video is spot on Wenzes. I was just nodding my head in agreement. Some of the points you made I moved from already, but especially the last one is currently being present in my life/head quite often. I am dealing with that one now and I love to see that I’m actually moving forward. And your videos help me so much on my journey. Thank you so much Wenzes. One day, when I have the money, I’ll get to the bootcamp myself.

Wow pretty much hit every single point in my last/only relationship stuff like this stinks finding out late but atleast it’s good knowing it for the future

Amazing video, so helpful - thank you 💕

Then how i suppose to live alone

Thanks to u this maaking 100% cents ........ thank u @zas honestly ty is allways best policy 💓 💗 💖 💛 ❤ 💙 😊😊😊😊😊😊😊

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Ok.

Can you also make a video of the characters behavior for infj

It is true. Catering to emotions, taking yourself down a level- in a truly comfortable way. You'll know if they're putting up red flags, because it won't come naturally, you'll step over "boundaries" on accident because they aren't really trying. IDK I have had issues.

@god_fricking_dammdit

6 ай бұрын

yeah society is really poisonous to this personality type & it makes me really upset. All because my mum is heartless I dealt with someone elses' mental unstability for them. & it's such as the same abuse dynamics, they make it feel like you deserved that treatment or outcomes.

@god_fricking_dammdit

6 ай бұрын

I got pushed into Fraud just because I follow emotional decisions. It's fine I don't forgive I don't forget & that meaning is up for interpretation.

@god_fricking_dammdit

6 ай бұрын

hi-jacked my brain during the beginning of my very first lease (family ppl cut me off on time, they're just hateful & the fished me on a "fake rent offer" during the big move plan, so that they could cut me off on I only have 1 month to find a place... Just hateful, it was nasty & musty & I never got to read my books.) Oh, it was a tragedy. I want my mechanics permit back 🤧 vehicle fraud...

@god_fricking_dammdit

6 ай бұрын

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@god_fricking_dammdit

6 ай бұрын

My mum is like the dictator personality, & she is careless with it. I am going to finish watching this later... I have been relatively prolific since these series of unfortunate events occured.

hola unicorn

Thank you