If they are upset, they care about you
The need to criticize is an act of caring in the sense that persons are not criticized if they have no importance to the criticizer in some way. The stoic act of reasoning from the vantage point of the other person makes it possible to determine whether critique is made in earnest and with the goal of bettering the receiver or is errenious and dismissable.
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Sometimes when they're micromanaging and upset , it's more about control, power and domination 😮
This channel will gain popularity, I can sense it. Great content!
I really enjoy lurking your channel. Your manner is a nice change from the typical content creator and it's calming. This ultra wide shot and setting are stunning!
Hi! I saw a comment saying that they felt like tearing up watching you because they felt you're on your last days, and I have noticed that you're gasping for air in a lot of your videos and now I'm concerned about you. We all love you so much and cannot afford to lose you. Take care of yourself please.
@mariamfawal_
6 күн бұрын
what noooo I don't wanna start seeing that, hope he's doing great
@MayaHendsenmayajs19442
6 күн бұрын
@@mariamfawal_ Hopefully he's okay :( I'm worried about him.
True wounded healer. Great channel. Thank you so much for your work.
i've just found your channel i don't know if i should say by 'coincidence' but im glad, i love your content thank you for sharing
Of the few videos I’ve watch from your channel, this video makes me comeback to it. This is something I need to learn in my relationship. It has given me a lot of insight and perspective.
You've gained a new subscriber today. Looking over the topics you talk about throughout your time on here - I've come to most of the same realisations in the past years and it's such a pleasure and comfort to find someone else talking about it so precisely! Thank you for sharing your thoughts and realisations! Edit: I don't know what's happened in your life for you to go into this path of self discovery, as in my experience it's quite... tough. But it is also eye-opening. And very healing.
Very true words. But it’s hard being the person who is constantly upset, especially if the person doesn’t understand the care behind it. Sounds like you’ve learned a lot from life. Subscribed. :)
@audhumbla6927
Ай бұрын
So theres someone in your life, that you are constantly upset at, and you are also upset that the person youre upset at is ssupposed to take your upset as care? Sounds very strange and toxic. Are you upset for a good reason, like is the person doing self harm or has an addiction? Or wtf is going on because it sounds very gaslighty and unnatural and forced and abusive to me. Hope you can explain.
There is constructive criticism and there is destructive criticism.
I agree that feelings are meaningful when we take on a curiosity approach to better understand what it is trying to inform us toward change. It is also interesting that we, people, struggle with psychological rigidity predicated on preconceived notions without critically thinking about its usefulness to the self or for others we care about, depriving ourselves of optimal social wellbeing.
Very good video, I find important the nuance of "why is someone upset", they might only care about you because of what it reflects on them. And that is something to always remember, it's a balance, you must take the effort of putting yourself in the other's shoes to understand from their point of view the reasons they are upset with you, and only then can you truly decide how to take the criticism
My enemies also care about me.. Doesn't mean they like me..
Amazing message !! Thank you brother 🙏🏼
Thank you for sharing. 🇬🇧💛🤍
Been in my job 24 years my manageress every time I say hello my name is tina if you need any help while your in the shop and my manageress says your not here to tell them your name your here to work I just smile carry on putting the stock out 😊
@TarakoBR
2 ай бұрын
24 years 😮
@Englishroserebecca
Ай бұрын
You sound like a lovely polite person who has good customer service. Hope your manager finds some peace for herself one day.
Thank you
I will simply say… I love you and thanks ❤
Which camera do you use?
What's his story? 😮
they seem to be upset to let you down. Only one person can give me good critic and is worth listening to. All the others have envy or are dishonest or critcizing someone make them feel better. I do not agree with you. They fake
I don't know why so many people agree with you. This is true only in minority of cases. Most of the time, loved ones get upset and angry at you NOT because they care about YOU, but because they care about THEMSELVES. Because they want to exercise their power of control over you to feed their ego. Because they want to feel they're better than you by making you feel bad about yourself. Because they're narcissists, bipolar and psychopaths who can't control their emotions. No one has the right to judge you as an adult. Ever. They can make suggestions and share their opinion, but LEAVE IT UP TO YOU to follow it or ignore it. And NOT BE ANGRY OR UPSET if you choose to ignore their suggestions.
@audhumbla6927
Ай бұрын
agreed this guys message is strange and gaslighty
How do I get in touch with you ?
@Crisopeya
Ай бұрын
We all want to contact a handsome deep guy😅.
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@ganeshganesh-zw1vj
Ай бұрын
Could you elaborate please ?? Another person hinted at this being AI generated but I don't understand why ... I'm not a techie !!!
Are you Mikhaila Peterson’s ex husband?
I just told my friend that when her boyfriend is yelling at her It was his way of saying he loved her so much that it hurts him
@peachesandpoets
2 ай бұрын
Um that's dangerous
@Mushroom321-
2 ай бұрын
😬 sounds justified abuse..
@Mushroom321-
2 ай бұрын
This is the reason it may take longer for woman to get out of the destructive relationship. 🤯💔 😬 👆👆
@audhumbla6927
Ай бұрын
Yeah this was my thoughts on this video aswell....... What is this giys purpose of wanting us to think that those who hate on us, "care about us"? It took me decades to heal from that delusion that gaslighting abusers kept repeating. Very strange and sketchy "subject" to make a yt video on
@debrabloch3003
Ай бұрын
@@audhumbla6927 Yeah I looked at my comment and I can't believe I wrote that justifying somebody's Hate. BS What we can do is have a kind supportive conversations with ourself as if it's our higherself sending us compassion and love and we back our way out of abuse relationships .