"Make sure you don't cut yourself from picking up their broken pieces!" I've never been an addict but I was in a relationship with one. I had to walk away 12 years ago even though I didn't want to because this statement is 100% accurate. I couldn't let his addiction completely ruin my life and I was in fact enabling him. To this day he has not changed his life BUT I have grown stronger and learned so much from my relationship with him. I am a stronger person today because of that relationship.

As a former social worker, and somebody that has been clean and sober for 25 years, I have never heard this explain so well and so clearly. I have a brother who has been actively using for a long time. Thank you.

“There is no such thing as a lost cause.” Amen 🙏

You just CHANGED MY LIFE. I feel I can move on from trying to save my son and all I was doing was driving myself insane worrying. No more.

Just wanted to say, I’m not an addict nor do I have one in my family. Your vlogs give me goosebumps. You have an amazing gift Tiffany and I have no doubt you are helping many people. You are such a bad ass!!!

I was addicted to opiates for 6 years, and finally got arrested for it. When I was in jail, it was the first time my parents said "You're on your own, figure it out". I was in jail for 6 days, and the withdrawal was HELL, my dad bailed me out on the 6th day, and being in jail with nothing & no-one was my "rock bottom". My parents saved my life by letting me sit.

I watch my mother disappear to drugs most of my childhood till she OD'd 11yrs ago today. Your amazing and strong, I wish she had been stronger. I want to hug you. Im also now a paramedic and I see it almost daily, people who just can't beat the demons and get out of the dark.

My dad was a heroin addict for 20 years and I recently turned off his life support machine in October, he lived on the streets for 13 years, my mum is currently an addict and I'm struggling with trying to help her, she's given up on her kids so I wanted to give up on her, me and my sister have watched this video countless times to help us understand what we need to do, thankyou so much for this, it truly does help

Thank you, thank you, thank you Tiffany! My mom was a life long prescription drug addict! Finally at the age of 83 she got clean, but not before hitting rock-bottom and telling me “I hate you, you bitch.” I will never forget that day. I told her she could hate me all she wanted but that if I continued to allow this it would be the same as me putting the first shovel of dirt on her grave. She entered rehab and got clean. The pain from years of her shenanigans can’t be erased. BUT the happiness of her facing her demons head on is pure joy! ❌💜❌💜 Leslie

18 months clean!!

@Timetravel1111

4 жыл бұрын

When did you stop? How did you start? What did you do tips.

@kimking7973

4 жыл бұрын

Your doing great!! Keep on inspiring other!! Use your story to help others. You may say something that totally turns someone's life around.

@phoenixrising4448

3 жыл бұрын

I hope you're doing well. 13 months here.

I decided to stop enabling my husband...and he decided he wanted a divorce and up and moved across country to start over. He didn't only have a drug addiction, but health issues as well and he didn't care to treat his health issues but chose to mask them with drugs. Now I am having to start over and I know I will be ok...I will file for divorce and let him fall. The strain it has put on me is astounding and I hope and pray that he finds peace and can overcome things with the help of his friends and family he has where he is now. I have enabled him and tried to help him for the past 10 years to no avail...he still chose the drugs over a healthy happy life. Our 25-year​ marriage is over and I must rebuild myself.

@scrapnmom

6 жыл бұрын

I very much understand. My first marriage ended because of drugs too. I finally came to two points 1) Do I want our boys, who were 2 and 1 at the time, to grow up seeing this, and 2) Either I leave him or join him in the drugs because I can no longer be in the middle. I made the correct decision and took our 2 boys and left him. I let him hit rock bottom while I continued my life and found an amazing man who I have now been with for almost 25 years. Nine months after I left, he put himself into rehab and as far as I know is still clean and has a great wife. He thanked me for leaving him because he would not of done it any other way. Keep hope!

@jenniferbell4571

6 жыл бұрын

My ex husband is an alcoholic... probably still drinking... I don’t know. I enabled him till the day one of his co-workers called and chewed him out for calling in sick again. I was humiliated... other people knew. They tried to talk to me about it, but I blew them off because I didn’t want to cause a problem. I responded to that humiliation by becoming stronger and holding him accountable. The accountability was more than he could stand. He left. I had to start over. It is a choice I make every day. ...I love intentionally now. It has been 18 years since the last time I saw him. I will never again be someone’s dumping ground. I have a backbone now, and my husband would never embarrass me the way my ex did. Not one time in our 15 years together have I had to be the designated driver. Never has he vomited on my floor or made me wonder where he has been until 4:00 am... it is respect. He loves me enough to respect himself.

I wish I had of seen this a year ago. I spent so much time trying to help and make excuses for my son. It was destroying my family. Now I just hope he decides to go to treatment.

As a wife of a addict currently in active addiction, I want to say thank you for this video! I probably watch this video a few times a week it’s sorta like serenity prayer. Only someone who has been through this pain can understand. Thank you for the hope!

@jugglingthejenkins

3 жыл бұрын

im so glad it helps, loving an addict is tough. sending you love.

I can’t tell you how powerful this message is!! So incredibly powerful. I’ve no doubt this message has probably saved lives and helped families support their loved one’s to recovery ❤️❤️

@jugglingthejenkins

3 жыл бұрын

thank you for telling me this, i hope so 🧡🧡

The depth that your videos go into is amazing, I’m 19 years old probably not the age group you’re use to seeing from but your videos help me smile when I really can’t find it in me too and seeing this really shows you aren’t a surface level person you aren’t hiding the true you in life and I want to thank you for giving not only myself but your other viewers the look at the other side of life I adore you Mrs. Jenkins thank you

@lvaughan75

5 жыл бұрын

Amina Tryon uh

Preach girl! It’s tough but life is tough. Your advice is right on, let them be angry.

This brings me to tears. I am the mother of a heroin addict. We had to reach the point of not enabling our son, and it, indeed, was devastating. He is now in a state prison, but he is clean and planning for a brighter future. I truly believe he would be dead now had he not ended up where he is, but we have been judged by people who have never been in our shoes for "letting" this happen. Thank you for this great message.

It takes wisdom to help the weak people, especially when the good decision is a hard decision.

This video helped me so much! My mother is a recovering addict. Shes been clean over ten years. My older sister is an addict and is still not mentally clean, physically yes but has not gotten help for her mental health. My brother is an addict and is currently in prison. He's been clean since he got locked up, 3 years ago. It's been so hard my whole life loving addicts in my family and for years I blamed myself for not helping them enough. I finally had no choice but to cut my sister out of my life, for my mental health. My brother and I finally do talk on the phone and it's literally like we are forming a relationship while he's been in prison because we didnt talk while he was using. I'm so scared for when he does get out that he might relapse and go back to using.

@carlymurphree423

2 жыл бұрын

Just read your comment and hoping that all is well with you and your family 💕

This video made me cry for so many reasons, my daughters father suffered from addiction for years and everything you said I totally agree with. I woke up one night to him trying to asking me if he can take a large amount of money from my bank card and that was my wake up call. He felt that it would be acceptable to do that. Once i said enough i watched him hit rock bottom and i will tell you it was one of the hardest things to see but today i will say it was so worth it he is now almost 3 years clean! And the best dad my two children could ever imagine THANK YOU FOR YOUR VIDEOS AND YOUR INSPIRATION ❤️

Thank you for posting this. I've tried telling family this and they won't listen to me. I shared this and pray, Maybe hearing this from someone else will open their eyes to what they are doing to a loved one!!

My Granddaughter has been clean for months now and i am so proud of her she lost her 4 beautiful babies because of this and i am so glad that she has turned her life around ,,,,i have prayed for her so many times and now she is finally FREE ,,,,,

You may have just saved my life. A friend just shared this on FB who has no idea what I'm going through. Timely.

This what it took for me.... that feeling of abandoned ... I wasn’t but I sure felt I had no where to go and no one to call - it took jail.. rehab and almost a shelter

I’ve watched my loved ones being addicted and it’s so hard to love them and not enable them at the same time. 💔🖤💔

I can't express how much I love you! Everything you said is absolutely, 100% true! My mom always said "you have to decide if you love them enough to be willing to piss them off", and she was so right! Strangely enough, I found myself trapped in the cycle of addiction and she loved me enough to piss me off. My husband didn't know what to do but he loved me so hard through those awful years (he didn't allow me to have access to any money, but I know now that was love). I'm so thankful for four years of sobriety! I couldn't imagine life without pain medicine but here I am, the mother of two children, wife of the most amazing man, and about to be a college graduate! This is how life is supposed to be! If you are struggling with addiction, please know that you can have a real life, free from the constant worry of being without drugs. You deserve to be happy!

@bekahk2790

6 жыл бұрын

amazing story. wow keep up the hard work mama! sending you so much love and light for your healing journey!

@danyellarenae3

5 жыл бұрын

How do you deal with your pain? I know I'm addicted/dependant on my pain meds even though they're prescribed and I have severe pain daily/chronically and I wanna quit because I hate it but don't know what else to do to get through the day

Right now me and my fiance are dealing with his twin brother who is an alcoholic and also suffers with a lot of mental health issues (that he refuses to get help for) . And after a month and a half of giving him money, a place to stay, cigarettes, driving him anywhere he needed to go, and sacrificing so much of our lives to help with (while any time we disagree with him we are told we don't love him and we don't care) we've made the decision to not allow him to be in our lives until he cleans his act up. I felt really terrible about this decision because I felt like we shouldn't walk away because he needs us. But this video made me realize that we can't help him by saving him constantly. Thank you.

This is the best video I've seen to explain enabling. I am clear now that I did the right thing for my loved one. Bless you ❤

Thank you. I’ve watched this video so many times for encouragement. It still makes me cry. My fiancé is six months into meth addiction & it’s terrifying to watch him do this to himself. Your words stay close to me & give me peace. Thank you

This gives me hope and a sense of direction. The sense of loss you feel as you watch a family member waste away is just as deep as grieving a loved one who has died...

This is the message I have trying to tell my mother about my brother for years!

@WillBlindYouWithLight

3 жыл бұрын

I tried to tell my parents about my sisters and my husband's family about him. They get what you're saying. They're just terrified of pissing them off* to the point they don't come back and that while they're avoiding that one will die. That's why they feel like their hands are tied. It's not that they don't hear us or understand. It's just the regret of possibilities that haven't happened yet.

I totally agree with your message. I was addicted to drugs for several years. I got so bad my body started to shut down. I had to move away to another state to detox. I didn't want my family to see how bad it really was. I dwindled away to almost nothing. size 00 was too big so I had to wear a size 14 in little girls. My waist was 21 inches around. I was a walking skeleton. I prayed to God one night when I was so high I couldn't function, that if he got me through it, I would quit. I made it through the grace of God. I have been clean now for 30 years. It was a hard road back but I made it. I believe that everybody should know that there isn't anything you could do, that God can't forgive. He loves us through it all. If God can forgive you then why is it so hard to forgive yourself?

As an addict myself, the break down of enabling and loving was the truest most simply put answer. Thank you Tiffany

Simply flat out why I love you. My whole family is full of addicts in one form or another, and you make such a difference spelling it out, thank you for all your hard work 😥🥰

Harsh reality, but so honest & beautifully said.

Some addicts make the enabler honestly feel they are "helping". Addicts are the best liars and I hate myself for the times I used people and they didn't even know it. I try to "make up for it" by buying them things now but it eats at me... I have no advice, I've been on both sides. Just get to a place where you look in the mirror and feel proud, whatever it takes. ❤😢❤

Well, this hit home 😢 Desperately needed to hear this - thank you

I enabled my mom for years because I love her so much that even tho she was destroying me I still didn’t want her to hurt. I told my mother she couldn’t come around my kids anymore because she was destroying us and that night she attempted suicide for the second time. She survived a second time. And finally got sober.

Thank you!!! As a recovering addict of 10 years this video hit me where it counts! Thank you for spreading the word and giving hope to the families and active addicts! Your truly an angel in disguise!

This was awesome and brave💜🙏 You're using your personal pain in a positive manner. Helping to put a stop to it and/or to prevent someone else from going through the same devastation. Putting a spot light on the invisible linchpin is on point. God bless you and thank you so much for putting this out here. Enabling is a b'ch. It's a2 way street you don't even realize you turned onto most times, until it's too late. It's like you are unaware of the detriment you are perpetuating for both parties, in the long run. Thanks for reminding me that enabling is not really a win-win.

Such a beautiful message. Tears were streaming before I even felt it coming. I have never touched a drug in my life, and I have been very fortunate to not have any friends or family members be addicted. But this speaks volumes to me. Thank you. =]

The part where u said if the addict is angry at u means u love them. I needed that. 9 years after my father passed and I needed that. ❤

Listen and learn folks! My Son is gone and there is not a day that goes by that I do not miss him terribly. If your child or friend is still alive......the words she speaks are so wise and true. Every word she speaks is true! Listen and learn. Do it now, before it is too late

Your video, THIS video, was a lifeline for me. I've felt really alone telling my family these things and not feeling like they get it. "You just don't understand what it's like when it's your own child!" That's what I hear them say out of the pain of their hearts. It's hard to be told that hearing an addict say, "I hate you!" probably means you are doing something right. I HATE feeling like the lone, tough-love, decision maker for my husband's family, but your video has renewed my strength, and I thank God for the friend who shared it with me.

You remind me of my sister and she was an addict RIP 1973-2017. I think she showed me your channel ❤️

@tashaw.950

6 жыл бұрын

boompowzap---its been almost 2 years since my bestfriend died of an overdose on heroin...I feel horrible that I was so busy in my own active addiction to help her. It's been a long difficult struggle but I've been clean for 19 months now🤟. Losing a loved one is always hard. I'm sorry you lost your sister to this horrible disease.

@boompowzap

6 жыл бұрын

Tasha W. I was busy working,with my kids, my husband.. and I try not to keep thinking what I... what if I.. what if I did this, would she still be here? I miss her dearly. congrats on your success of staying clean and healthy. It’s important to yourself and your family.

I just lost a dear friend to addiction. He was only 19 years old. I've never felt grief like this in my whole life. The pain is unbearable. Lots of regrets. I enjoy your videos they give such a nice perspective from an addict and it helps me.

I completly agree with this. I've sat and watched someone in my family struggle with addiction for so long. I finally had to say look I love you but I can't sit and watch you do this to yourself anymore. I had to bring out the tough love. He is now going on 4 months clean and I couldn't be more proud of him.

I saw you on The Drs TV Show. I’m not an addict... but I’m admiring you.

idk if you will see this, but.. this video just helped me so much, i have 1 sibling that is an addict, my self and my parents have always tried to help her, eventually she lost her children, and i decided a bout a year ago that i was done helping that if she wanted to turn her life around she will have to do it on her own. and i have to constantly remind my mom to not help, as well as other family members i always, ALWAYS questioned my decision, 'was i making the right decision' 'if something happens to her, was it my fault because i quit helping' 'does she really hate me' all the time constant in my head, but hearing this, from a former addict made me feel, and know that i have made the right decision.

I’ve watched this so many times. . . I get teared up every-time . . . Thank you for sharing such powerful message 🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️

You speak life into some of the most devastating situations in life, inspiring doesn’t feel like a good enough word to describe your videos but I’m failing to come up with a better word! Thank you for what you do!

My current issue is that my wife keeps forcing us to pay for our Sons treatment and new recovery home spots. About five times over the last couple of years. We, both of us were in that cycle, buying him things rewarding him for "being clean", helping him in every way we could, and yet he just keeps relapsing and we keep forking out the cash to cradle his fall. The money is bad enough but not the real issue, it's that I have now come to believe we are not helping him but enabling him possibly to death but my wife is frozen by her love for him and I get it but it's now become a cycle. He gets well, gets a job, gets negative, says what he knows we want to hear but does the opposite and uses again. This whole process has changed the way I look at HOPE, it seems to me it is what drives our sickness, hope is a fantasy that we can become addicted to as well. We cannot base our actions on hope but fact/truth/current actions, the fact is he is using us, probably not consciously but none the less the addicted personality inside him see's a huge backdoor called mom and dad that are waiting to help soften his fall. So sad because if my wife cannot get this fact we may be doomed. I'm not going to throw away everything for hope, it's too unreliable. The truth is reliable. Pray for us and him, please...

Everything you said is true. I am the mother of an addict and I spent years trying to save my son from his destructive lifestyle and then I knew I had to walk away. I couldn’t enable him anymore so I detached with love. I love my son more than life but I was not going to be the person who gave him the money that would kill him. And believe me, he hated me for it. We didn’t speak for over a year and now he is 9 months sober and we have reconnected and the love that was always there, Is still there ❤️ thank you for sharing your story and giving the advice that anyone who has a loved one struggling with addiction should take to heart and do it, even though it may be hard and heartbreaking, it won’t be as hard as burying your son, daughter, brother, sister or any other loved one.

my husband is a recovering addict, i been to Al anon meetings to help ME because i was such a enabler and didn’t even know it. i love your videos. not only do they make me cry laughing, they put a smile on my face, they make me not feel alone about my own anxiety and mental health, as well as loving a addict. thank you for being the real you!

@-Ryans

Жыл бұрын

Al anon are all great people, hope hubbys still fighting that good fight x ✌🏼

Tiffany, love you so much and thank you for sharing this!! Working in rehab facilities I saw too many young people enabled by their parents for years. They love them to death and it's hard to see. I've already made the decision that if my son becomes an addict, heaven forbid! I will turn him away until the moment he agrees to get help. That's a hard place to put myself but so necessary as both myself and his dad are in recovery. Thank you again!!

I wish there was a love button for videos, because i would pressing it a hundred times. This is the best, absolute best piece of advice. Everyone needs to watch this and listen. This would help so many people. Great job!

I needed to hear this more than you could have ever imagined. 😞💔

@jugglingthejenkins

2 жыл бұрын

im glad you heard it when you needed it. im sending you love Nancy

this brought me so much peace. thank you. i needed this. i lost my little sister and best friend (age 24) about 3 weeks ago....she was a suffering addict and took her own life. she was angry with me for setting boundaries w. her a few months before she died...i could not keep watching her drink and destroy herself, so i told her not around me. i wont participate in it anymore. it really seemed to upset her. i tried my best to make her understand that i was not trying to judge or shame her, i just needed to help her and see her get better somehow, and i knew that was not how. it is really hard to have her gone now...we talked everyday...i would just text to say that i loved her. i needed her to know...letting her go was and is the hardest thing i have ever done...i think it was truly always haunt me in many ways. she needed more love, from herself, mostly. it seemed like she really couldn't feel my love for her, which was painful for us both i am sure. She was a light in this world. she had suffered more trauma then she could shoulder.

I hope you see this.. thank you For not enabling me and letting me fall. I love you

im 16 years old, and im an addict and this video hit my heart

As a daughter of an addict it's just as hard on us even though we're not the ones addicted. Just like you, if you want it bad enough you can do it.

You are meant to help us all. Idk it’s just suppose to be from your yard living-room closet or counseling therapy or on tv (that would be awesome) but you’re one of those who would remain true and real. Rock on girl you’re amazing! Like I said in my other comment I have 8 yrs clean. I don’t ever want to go back.

I cannot express how much this touched my heart! As a recovering addict (6 yrs sober) of Dr induced narcotic addiction, you nailed everything on the head girl!! I HAD to hit rock bottom before I realized I was another one of the statistics and I finally changed when I got so low my family was living in a shelter. My 2-3 yr old son didn't deserve it! Unfortunately, I also needed to go through a divorce to finally realize yes I had an addiction but my husband had a worse addiction and was slowly bringing me down because he wasn't ready to give the meds up bit I was and I knew if I stayed I would have od'd and my son would be without one or both parents right now and I wouldn't have the amazing little girl I have now. My kids keep me going strong everyday and a man who stands by me and my past. I could go on n on about my own issues butbit really busy here to say I love you, your vlogs, your flaws and your inspiration! Thank you for everything you do to open eyes about addiction and for spreading your amazing humor! Sending Love from a fellow addict/mom/wife.

My brothers are addicted to meth right now. It's hard to watch, and feel helpless to helping them. I give them a slower and a meal, but I cannot offer them a place to stay at this time, and they know why. It hurts to turn your loved ones away but sometimes it's all you can do.

This is honestly one of the most amazing and beautiful things I’ve ever heard. 💕 I’m also a recovering addict, and this video has literally brought me to tears! If my loved ones would’ve given up on me I know I wouldn’t be here today. I was so far gone I couldn’t even recognize myself anymore, I had literally killed myself more times than I could count but didn’t care. I was so lost I wasn’t worried about what happened to me as long as I was high while it happened. But I’m one of the lucky ones who’s loved ones refused to give up, and after a few failed attempts at rehab and a handful of relapses, here I am. Clean, happy, and so unbelievably grateful! Through this journey I’ve learned so much, but one of the most important things in my opinion is knowing that you can’t force someone into recovery. It will only work if they want it for themselves, you can’t get clean for someone else. And just like you said never give up hope, we need supporters. We need someone to cheer us on, and tell us how proud they are. After I got clean for myself then I wanted to be clean for everyone else, I wanted to show all of those people who I may have hurt in the past how much I’ve grown, how much I’ve learned, and how much I appreciate them never giving up on me. And to those who don’t have someone to be there for them, you do now. I don’t care what you’ve done, for how long, or to whom. You CAN recover, you CAN clean your life up, and you CAN make it though all of this!

You changed my whole perspective. Since I spoke with you in the live chat, I have no been enabling. It's hard. It hurts. But I'd rather have her hate me and be alive than to bury her .. Thank you. I've shared ya video with many of my friends. You're helping so many people with this video.

i have shared this video with many of my fellow enablers. My 47 year old daughter has hit rock bottom 6 to 10 times. Her 31 year old is in the hospital delivering her first child and she is not here because she is totally damaged from drugs to alcohol and now mental illness. This video keeps me away from the pillow to catch her. I just pray. in the meantime I am Nana Mom and will soon be Great Nana Mom and so happy for us here yet so sad for my daughter not to be included in this adventure. Thank you Tiffany for your eloquent life saving video- my life and many others.

I'm the mom of an active 17 y/o addict and I needed to hear this today. Thank you ♥️

I am 60 years old, married since high school. Our 28 year old son is a con man and my wife is an enabler. She has just given him $8,300.00 dollars in the past 6 weeks! This has been going on for many years as my son has been an addict for 10 years. I have not been able to stop her. She makes promises then goes behind my back and gives money, sometimes even the next day after we argue about it. I want to pull all my hair out! I want to pull all of her hair out, then pull all his hair out.

My son called me today when released from jail for a ride and said if I dont he has to walk. I declined .

Needed this Right Effin Now!!

I lost my brother in December from an overdose. I had no idea he had an addiction. I love this video, thank you ❤️

@jugglingthejenkins

3 жыл бұрын

im so sorry about your brother. sending you love 🧡

Late to comment but, this video was shown in my health class. I honestly think this was one of the best things they could have shown, better than any D.A.R.E program. This video helped me. My friend has an eating disorder, but the advice still helped.

This was so profound. I really needed this. Thank you.

Thank you so much for this video. My brother has been an addict for 13 years and I’m convinced that my mom is addicted to enabling him. I’ve said to her everything you said and I’m praying she hears it!! You are saving lives! God bless you!

My husband is 5 years clean..my sister in law and my big brother is in active addiction for 18 years now. On Monday, my brother overdosed for the 2nd time in one year. He has a baby on the way now......thank you.

I’m crying listening to this

Holy shittttt! I fucking love you for sharing this information and awareness. You seriously are doing such a wonderful service to humanity. Your personal experience is an advantage because you can speak to this and it is not you speaking from a place of ignorance. You are incredible. I have a friend who I have found out is doing cocaine and drinking in excess. He was my boyfriend at one point and we were best friends. It's in the last month where things became more clear to me that I need to pull back. His roommate has revealed to me that she has found evidence of cocaine use and it breaks my heart deeply. I know he was drinking but doing that is something I can not wrap my head around. He had been going to bars and hanging out with different people and bringing them home to her place late at night... I know he is mad at me but I love him and have told him I can not have him in my life if is committed to destroying his life. He doesn't know I know about the cocaine use but he knows I am aware of his alcohol consumption. He also has kidney stones which get aggravated when he drinks. I have done my best to inform him that alcohol, coffee, processed foods work against him. He doesn't have health insurance here either so if someone horrible happens he is not covered. I feel heartbroken to know he is going down this dark path. Thank you for sharing this sincerely.

I needed to hear this tonight

I just recently had to tell my AS that we can no longer take him to work nor help him save his money that he had to figure it out on his own and that if we continue to help him he will never learn to help himself. I feel that I made the right decision. Thanks for the kind gentle truth of what an addict truly needs. It’s much appreciated.😉💝

Thank you so much I started out for 9 years being engaged to an addict and I had no idea that I was enabling him. That enabling not only allowed him to continue in and horrible addiction but it ended up dragging me down too. Ive been clean and have a wonderful 6 1/2 year old son now that I never thought was possible. I thought I could fix him. But you have be sick and tired of being sick and tired. My mom and pap never gave up on me but they saw thru my mistakes that giving me money was loving me to death. Because of thier actions I was able to hit my bottom get help and stay clean. I lost my pap to cancer but he's always with me and im so thankful they didn't love me to death. I can't thank you enough for this, your book and all you put into helping others. You are an angel and have such an incredible spirit. Sending so much love.

I love you.. going through this now in my personal life.. I'm not getting him out or enabling him anymore.. I would rather him be mad at hate me just to no he's alive.. fingers crossed for us.. I hope to see you when you have a shows in Tampa again.. you are truly my inspiration!!!

@jugglingthejenkins

2 жыл бұрын

im rooting for him and sending you love Lindsey 🧡🧡🧡

You're spot on with your message. I just love you ! Please keep doing what you do !!

It stings to hear, but the truth generally does. I am guilty of being an enabler in the past. I had a drug/alcohol counselor in high school repeatedly tell me "You cannot save the world." I understood what she was saying, I knew who she was referring to, but I don't think it sunk in until much, much later. I can remember walking downtown with my shiny new AMEX to get my brother's watch back (for the first time...). The hero little sister saves the day....NOT! You don't do anything that you're not getting something out of. I felt like I was "helping" which made me feel good, but it really just prolonged everything.

That was beautiful I thank God every day that my son had warrants! I had phone numbers of Deputies and I texted them when I knew where my son was. It got to a point I swear that when he wanted to get clean he'd come home because he knew I'd call or text the deputies.

Ugly cried. This was so touching.

Girl, you need to be a co host on the Dr Phil show!!!!!!!!!!!

@shellcshells2902

6 жыл бұрын

Juggling The Jenkins You have a voice! God is really using you♡♡♡

@jessicac2487

5 жыл бұрын

She should just have her own show😊😊 dr Phil is rude af!

@royalfourever

5 жыл бұрын

Jessica Coughlin I was just gonna say this!! ❤️

@loveinsideyou

5 жыл бұрын

Dr Phil is a joke. Sometimes he's good othertimes it's pointless drama to make tv time. I prefer KZread People who have lived it and understand it. Sorry if this was out of line, not trying to be mean I swear :/

I watched this video numerous times, and even with my kids father who had the addiction, I even commented many times asking questions to try to help and to understand, he even told me thanks that he needed to hear that and that you were very right. Months after I had to put a restraining order on him because he got really angry one day and it scared me, even broke my back window while he had our 1 year old son in his hands that he was trying to take, our son got a few little cuts from the flying glass, so you see I had to put a restraining order on him, I asked the judge if we could still text so that I could still send him pictures of his babies, she granted that and said that is all we are to discuss durring texts, though obviously that was not all we discussed and he did miss his kids soo much, since we had split way before he was homeless, and I was telling him the best thing to do is go to treatment by the end of treatment, the restraining order would be over and it would be better for everyone, plus I wouldnt have to worry about him put there every night, anyways he would text me things like I'm soo hungry do you have so.ething I can eat please, so I would put something outside down the sidewalk and then go home and text him it was there, I was so glad we were getting along, because one day he stopped texting and I thought maybe he met someone, time went by and I text his sister she too had not heard from him, easter went and came he never contacted me to meet up with my aunt at the park to see our kids which he was so happy about and could wait, at 2 weeks we started worrying more but he had done this before, his sister put up missing persons posters online and said I know hes going to be upset with me but if you've seen him please let us know, waited a little longer, many friends said they thought they seen him here or there, then at 1 month his sister calls me at night asking for.his dentists name, my heart dropped, I asked her why, she started crying and said they found a body with his cell phone next to it, but its unrecognizable so they need his records to see if its him or not, scary scary moment, or rather period of time, on mother's day the call came she said they confirmed it was his body, the shirt and pain was and is soo unbearable we have 3 kids together 2year old, 1 year old, and 7 month old. It's been extremely hard and I just wanted to say thank you for making this video and people please listen to it and hopefully you get your loved one back and sober one day. I have other people and friends in my life that also use and it all scares me everyday, I pray for them.

Tiffany.. I can't honestly tell you how much I love how u talk about stuff and explain things. U have both helped me get through some hard day's, but you have been the person helping me see different ways to understand others. I was an addict for 10 years, I am 3 years clean. And I just wanna say thank u for all u do! I can't wait to read ur book xox

Wow, powerful message

Thank you so very much for sharing the truth, for some of us, a very brutal honest truth. 100% truth and I will be sharing your message with loved ones. You are amazing!💕💕💕

Thank you so much for this! The hardest thing is to let them fall I lost my brother 3 years ago from an overdose and it hurts but I know I did all I could. The hardest thing aside of losing him was to tell him until he was willing to get help he couldn’t be at my home around my child but that if he just wanted to talk or someone to help him help his self I was there. We did all we could just sucks that his rock bottom was the end for him. But I know he had God in his heart and we will meet again someday.

My ex husband and father of my son just died of an overdose. I quit enabling him 5 years ago. I have gone back and forth the last few days questioning if I made the right choice by being firm in my boundaries. This video was so affirming and brought so much comfort. Thank you.

@jugglingthejenkins

2 жыл бұрын

you made the right choice. im sending you so much love Calen 🧡🧡🧡

That it's not our fault !

Thank you for giving me hope. He recently married another addict. They both clean currently. I will not give him a place to stay or money. I will care for his babies until there is no breath in me.

Thank you I needed to hear that I'm not being mean. Sincerely a daughter in law to an addict who's had the worst past five days dealing with his crap.

Thank you so so much for always being so honest and straightforward!! I can't wait to show this video to someone that REALLY REALLY needs to hear/see it, and hopefully they'll get that they are NOT helping the addict, but helping them kill themselves!!

Girl I love you so much! 8yrs here I’m so happy you’re clean! You’re awesome! I’m like you in the way of I’ll say the stuff that others won’t. Like you made me feel so much better when you were like I have not taken a shower. I beat myself up because well ... I guess because I’m not perfect. Beat down for what I don’t do what about what I do accomplish ?! You made it ok that I didn’t get it all

Thank you very much!!!! I needed to hear this today. Thank you !!

I have watched a lot of your videos... This is my favorite. ❤️