If Networking Feels Gross, You’re Doing it Wrong | Daniel Hallak | TEDxManitouSprings
Do you hate the idea of networking and building professional relationships? If you want to find a job, get a promotion at work, or have that entrepreneurial spirit to start a business then you need other people. But networking can leave you feeling slimy. Dr. Daniel Hallak teaches you how to network with people in a way that doesn’t leave you feeling gross. Daniel shares personal stories, the psychological science behind authentic relationships, and the key questions that separate greedy transactional consumers from generous relational investors. Nothing gets Dr. Daniel Hallak more excited than the opportunity to build authentic relationships and develop leaders. As the Chief Commercial Officer at WiLD Leaders, he is known for bringing energy and research-based practices that make a difference. Daniel has spent 15 years developing leaders as an expert facilitator, executive coach, and strategic advisor. He has been a recruiter at Microsoft, a Career Management Consultant at Right Management Consultants and built leadership programs at Slalom, an award-winning consulting firm. He’s served as a professor, and advisor at three higher education institutions. He earned his Ph.D. and M.A. in Industrial-Organizational Psychology. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
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"You can get more than you give, by giving more than you get…” an invaluable lesson we get to learn over and over again! Thank you for this powerful message Daniel!
@danielhallak6577
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Thank you so much! It's amazing what we learn from our upbringing.
Such an inspirational message and so relevant for anyone who builds relationships as a part of their work. "Leaving other's better than found," has become one of my life motto's!
@danielhallak6577
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That's such a great motto that our friend Steven left us with. Thanks for that reminder.
@ProfessorIverson
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🎉🎉
@danielhallak6577
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@@ProfessorIverson Thanks for watching and the affirmation! Fun to see what we talked about on your podcast come to fruition!
The value of generosity, so different from what we hear about networking from anywhere else!
@danielhallak6577
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Thank you so much, Claire! Yes, it's often seen as a means to an end, but relationships are the purpose in and of themselves.
When it seems like everything and everyone has a one-track consumer mindset, it's like a refreshing drink of water to hear messages like this one, that encourage us to put others first, expecting nothing in return.
@danielhallak6577
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Thanks so much, Chris. That's the heart of it, how do we move from transactional consumer to relational investor, putting others first.
@sabeth
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Like a refreshing drink of water indeed!
A phenomenal, life-changing message from Daniel Hallak. Becoming a generous relational investor will change your life and the lives of those you pour into. It has mine. Daniel, thank you so much for sharing this truth and investing in me.
@danielhallak6577
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Thank you for this kind endorsement! So grateful.
I've heard a lot about networking, but this message was authentic, practical and powerful. A greedy transactional consumer versus a generous relational investor? Drop the mike good!
@danielhallak6577
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Thank you, Hugh! I'm so glad that the core message resonated!
This is a helpful reframe, specifically focusing on what I CAN GIVE/SHARE versus what I CANNOT GIVE/SHARE B/C of perceived inadequacy. Appreciate this fresh take on being a "go-giver" versus "go-getter".
@danielhallak6577
Жыл бұрын
Thanks so much, Alan. a reframe was my goal. It's so easy to lose sight of the purpose and value of relationships. I hope this helps us recapture it.
Great advice! I've found that generosity in the workplace is always appreciated and reciprocated, even years later.
@danielhallak6577
Жыл бұрын
I love the years later part. That's the goal, long-term impact, not just short-term gain. Thanks for commenting.
Daniel, A persuasive, realist and honest approach....do unto others....... Thank you, well done.
@danielhallak6577
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Thank you Ted! Do unto others indeed. It's better to give than to receive.
So So good. This talk is such a brain flip. It gets you thinking in countercultural ways about one of the most important things in our lives - relationships. It’s time to do away with reciprocity as the underlying motive we teach ourselves and others.
@danielhallak6577
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Thanks, Rob! Yes, let's do generosity beyond reciprocity!
Sooo powerful, invitational and inspirational. Thank you for the reminder that it is better to give & to be intentional about being present to others!!! We need each other and your talk highlights the true essence of “networking “. I’m enlightened!!
@danielhallak6577
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Thank you Dr. Tiffany! That's so encouraging to hear. Our full presence is a gift to people.
@sabeth
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Such a vital and inspirational reminder.
This is such a great talk Daniel!! Networking can cause a lot of anxiety. Your perspective makes it a lot easier and more comfortable for people to navigate!!
@danielhallak6577
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Thank you Mariama! I'm glad that this talk can help take the "edge" of networking :)
Thank you for sharing this powerful idea! Human connection is the #1 predictor of happiness and I love how you reframe networking for all of us. Invest in relationships and be a giver. Amazing job!!!
@danielhallak6577
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Thank you so much, Tia! Grateful for your affirmation and to share the TED stage with you!
fantastic! very uplifting and encouraging. Thanks Daniel
@danielhallak6577
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Thank you, Ted! I'm so glad it was uplifting and encouraging. That was my hope, to take a topic that can cause dread and flip the script.
Are you a greedy transactional consumer or a generous relational investor? What a great comparison for relationship building and networking.
@danielhallak6577
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Thank you, WiLD Leaders team!
Well done, Daniel! Blessed to share the journey with you. Thank you-
@danielhallak6577
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Thank you Peter! I looked up to you in grad school and I still look up to you.
I love this... I've experienced both from others and from myself. I am an immigrant from Australia and I grew up with catching up with people for the sake of catching up and knowing them... it is less cultural to meet with people for self gain... It is very American in culture and my experience is most people are thinking in a meeting, '1. What does this person want from me?' and '2. What can I get from them?'
@ChristopherSeanPaterson
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In fact, I've been mis-understood when people weren't sure if I was 'for real' 'legit' or GENUINE.
@danielhallak6577
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That's fascinating, Christopher. The cross-cultural aspect to building relationships is interesting.
@danielhallak6577
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@@ChristopherSeanPaterson I talk about that in the book a bit, how to discern motives. Great insight.
Recognize potential, see the dignity, value, and worth in the other person that leads to a lifestyle as a generous, relational investor...a much needed lesson and reminder of our connectedness focussed on giving without expectation of reciprocity
@danielhallak6577
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Thank you, Jim! You captured the heart of the big idea.
Well done, Daniel!
@danielhallak6577
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Thank you so much! Grateful that you enjoyed it.
I'd love to hear how this talk impacts you and helps you. Let me know what you want to hear more about!
Whoever gives the most value wins!
@danielhallak6577
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Yes, and that's where deeper fulfillment lies.
@modernmensch
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@@danielhallak6577 100% The book, The Go Giver, breaks it down a bit differently. Give unconditionally; absolutely, but remain open to receive; as well.
@danielhallak6577
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@@modernmensch that's a great book! This talk was from one chapter of my upcoming book. I'll be excited to share when it comes out.
@modernmensch
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@@danielhallak6577 Outstanding, I look forward to your tome. Took my book and made it into 52 eBooks last year. I fear I'm the last person consuming long form content.
@danielhallak6577
Жыл бұрын
haha you might be right! smart move to parse it out.
"What can i give to this person"
@danielhallak6577
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I'm so glad that resonated with you!