“NEVER give anyone more of what they are already wasting.” BOOM! Mic drop.

@funnygirlever

7 ай бұрын

Amen!

@sandywyatt2420

7 ай бұрын

Amen

@TheAdventuresOfCollegeGiRL

6 ай бұрын

DAYUM!!!!!

@mindywilliams5628

6 ай бұрын

Thank you for the words of wisdom a true blessing Totally resonates, unfortunately for me, but now I've learned a good understanding why thank Thank you best wishes love abundance n light🫠

@lisabarcia7107

5 ай бұрын

I'm so with you on this!! It's so heartbreaking to of given fully of your self only to realize you have waisted your time and energy all along 😢. We are worth way more then this!!! Stand Strong and hold yourself worth value!!!

Some of them are playing games and want you to chase them! ☝️

@ashgirl9

4 ай бұрын

We too old to do that. That high school behavior. Not attractive.

@shantavanee

2 ай бұрын

Facts!

@JamaicanToast

2 ай бұрын

Please consider everything that could possibly be going on in his/her life. People have bills to pay, a full-time job and domestic responsibilities. Not everyone has the time to be dating these days.

@julezxz

28 күн бұрын

YES!!!!!

I'm not asking nothing. He pull away, I'm pulling myself the hell away too.

@shakmasserr8855

4 ай бұрын

Exactly 💯💯 that's the answer 👏👏✅

@poji222

3 ай бұрын

Yeah girl !! 👏👏👏

@shantavanee

2 ай бұрын

Amen!

You are so right. I've been in a relationship for 5+ years and he started pulling away. I said my peace and left him alone. It was hard, but to keep my sanity, I choose me.

@WWEENETWORK

7 ай бұрын

5 years too long....CONGRATS GURL....

@LawMami0806

6 ай бұрын

o that is good, valerie. yep. i chose me too, a long time, again, never will be in a situation like that again. 6 to 8 years almost, back and forth him pull away,then try creepin back, done, for good and that was a long time ago. im much happier choosing me, love how i am older, wise now, out of 20s, when that was going on, never ever again. and if EVA still here, i agree, with you. g-night."

@tiana2906

6 ай бұрын

Amen sister ❤

@erinv.jackson200

6 ай бұрын

Same!!

@ileniepowell

5 ай бұрын

Your views are way up there. Thank you!❤

He pulls away when I confront him about him lying to me or being deceitful. And he ghosts me to manipulate me and make me feel guilty for things he has done wrong.

@peterpatton8736

7 ай бұрын

You need to walk.

@sherrielodge8615

7 ай бұрын

Let him. Stay ghost not allowing him to. Come back like a ghost: hey Boo? 😮

I'm no longer interested in a romantic relationship. With anyone. It just costs too much, and too many opportunities for deception. Would destroy my peaceful existence. Destroy my peace. No good will come of it.

@lorettagreen7302

Ай бұрын

So true

@Lookingformyspecialperson

24 күн бұрын

Same

@brendamackenzie7719

18 күн бұрын

Totally agree 🤦‍♀️

Went in confident and strong, left insecure!!!

@kTorres007

10 ай бұрын

Omg right!! I had to get out of a marriage, it almost destroyed me. Still figuring out how to move forward and be the best version of who I was before him

@sharonadams6479

9 ай бұрын

Me too!

@verolvc3883

9 ай бұрын

Me too smh

@douniaelbadli7121

9 ай бұрын

Same

@nursekariwink

9 ай бұрын

Same, but all the red flags were there and I ignored them. Red flags are red flags for a reason. 🏃🏼‍♀️

Well he told me he's done. Then he tried to contact me. I'm a business woman and I know my worth. Lesson learned ❤

@sapphiroffon

8 ай бұрын

Men always come back even when They pull away

@csstardew

8 ай бұрын

Same but he blocked me everywhere. I'm doing better off with my business.

He pulled away after what I thought was a heart felt conversation in which I bought up a concern. It was like a different person jumped in his body.

@annettewilliams1986

4 ай бұрын

💯💯💯​@@SurvivingLifeOTF

@thankfulaB

4 ай бұрын

​@@SurvivingLifeOTFyes this is so true💯 I wish us women realized these are the men to leave asap.

This is a STONE COLD fact! At some point, you'll have to walk away and get what you earn and deserve! Controlling yourself is the most valuable discipline a person can have! ❤❤❤

@langahazelmngomezulu2326

8 ай бұрын

True

@lifewithsuzzyq2039

7 ай бұрын

So true.

@funnygirlever

7 ай бұрын

Amen!

As I’ve come to learn, sometimes communication just doesn’t work and all you get is the cold shoulder. That is the clue to just leave and wrap things up. What else can you do if you’re trying and still get nothing. I don’t have time for anything one sided.

@Braveh3artGirl

10 ай бұрын

Yup and as Adrienne Everheart says, ‘his problems are not your problems’ we can’t lose ourselves

@takeysha4

10 ай бұрын

Exactly

@mzbeauty88

9 ай бұрын

Agreed

@mz.cbreezy5640

6 ай бұрын

Agreed

@shakmasserr8855

4 ай бұрын

Agreed 👍💯

His lack of communication is hurtful. I’ve known him for 4 yrs as a friend and now my heart is just crushed

@dharashah4746

8 ай бұрын

I can relate to u, same thing I experience

@brendahall5658

8 ай бұрын

Me too

@mushmorrytv

5 ай бұрын

It hurts alot

@jean-marieflood5865

4 ай бұрын

Just went through that

I can relate. I was doing just fine living and loving my life just to have someone come and disturb my peace and happiness. I’m more mad at myself for allowing said person to even get to me…he likes to take more than he gives and always has an excuse. Why bother me at all then. I was perfectly happy. Time to go back to my normal life before he ever even stepped foot in it.

@snowinghappiness

5 ай бұрын

Litterally me. I was living in bliss and now hurt & confused.

@ellenmorse8559

Күн бұрын

Not so easy….. I went no contact and I swear on my life he will never get at me again, but I’m heartbroken!

Had to walk away, to much hot &cold

@arabellamayer9195

12 күн бұрын

Me too

More than once. When they are insecure and you go in just fine and they try to break you down.

@javireyes7333

8 ай бұрын

Spot on.

I noticed his attitude towards me changed. I had approached the subject a couple times, he claimed everything was good between us, but his actions didn't show that- that was my cue to walk away.

@feliciaallen6228

7 ай бұрын

I did the same thing in the past. I just walked away, because it drains too much energy. I explained this before walking away, and there was no response. Ridiculous

@mz.cbreezy5640

6 ай бұрын

Same

@ashgirl9

4 ай бұрын

Same

I WAS DOING FINE WHEN I MET YOU AND I'LL BE DOING JUST AS GOOD LONG AFTER YOU'RE GONE💯

@mashiyasekhumalo4702

7 ай бұрын

True to that

He will show you how he feels

I was secure before him. He literally turned my mind upside down and my heart inside out. I’m working on finding my way back to myself but I know I won’t be the same again.

@thankfulaB

4 ай бұрын

No you won't be the same, you will be BETTER. Now you have something to share with others that are going through or will go through what could have broke you. You should not let this define you🙏🏿♥️🙏🏾

@loveme77527

2 ай бұрын

You will become stronger & wiser which is better than you were... It is an opportunity for your growth, love... Self reflection & Self-worth... Boundaries..

"Honor your own needs!" 💯💯💯

If he pulls away, is it best to just let him be rather than reaching out? I want to stay in my feminine energy and have heard from other coaches let him pursue you.

@ThallonRose

7 ай бұрын

Good question

I won't take what I can get, I will require what I deserve ❤ TY

@shantavanee

2 ай бұрын

💛💯🙌🏽

1. Capacity 2. Desires 3. Time: spreading to thin

@AmericanDreamer

7 ай бұрын

thank you!!

I call myself BRAVE for walking, I got standards

I’m tired of men bs.

@prettyloubey8411

8 ай бұрын

Exactly

@shantavanee

2 ай бұрын

They need more therapy than us! My female friends are not nearly as Hot & Cold as most of these men are.

A relationship without conversations the only answer you get is silence year in and year out....shocking

Here 🙋🏼‍♀️ secure at beginning, insecure anxious at the end. Now back to secure, however it took 1-2 years of healing from a situationship.

I learned that choice of words makes a difference when communicating.

Wow I am Soo glad came across this video. Especially the part you said " he love bombs you then it's like he pulls a rug out from under you and goes distant.

I don't think I need to let someone know I'll be talking to other men if he keeps pulling away. I'll just do it and if it works out with someone else I'll be moved on with him. No need to announce it ahead of time.

Definitely picked up some insecurities Along the way. I don’t recognize mySELF!

@javireyes7333

8 ай бұрын

I do recognise my former self, the teenage one…he brought it back and I can’t get rid of it. All the good therapy work done shred into pieces.

@---nj7hl

7 ай бұрын

That's how I felt when I left my childrens' father. Now its this dating scene that got me ...SMH.

I can absolutely relate to coming into a relationship strong and leaving with all kinds of extras going on! Definitely a sign to leave!! 💯💯

@lisabarcia7107

5 ай бұрын

AMEN!!!

Yup. I worked HARD with therapy, the gym, etc to be healthy. Now thanks to this man’s insecurities I’m stressed out

All I can say we each individually are responsible for our own growth, evolution, and transformation. We either do it together in a relationship, partnership, familyship, friendship, communityship or we do it alone. You gotta know when to throw in the towel of wasting your energy on the growth of other people who clearly cant/wont change and turn INWARD and focus on ourselves. Evolved people are better people. Wasting energy and time especially on the wrong people, places, and things will likely leave you battered, insecure, and drained. ❤

@joannemacdonald3543

7 ай бұрын

Great summary🎉

@tirsamazariegos4867

7 ай бұрын

Yeap

@tirsamazariegos4867

7 ай бұрын

That's how I feel right now after three years .. battered, exhausted, insecure and Confused... Cause I prayed so much. It didn't work...

@poji222

3 ай бұрын

Very true!

I ask him if everything is ok and he just says he's been busy. But every time we get close he pulls away. We've been friends for a long time and this 'pulling away' behavior has been ongoing for years! However, recently, it seemed like our friendship was getting deeper and going to another level. I think he started feeling something he couldn't handle and didn't know what to do with. So now when he texts, he gives me short questions and responses. Something has definitely changed.

Totally went in with serious confidence….left 5 years later trying to “ prove” he could be loved. Omg I lost myself. Very narcissistic behavior s

I was single and secure for 3 years before I met him. The honeymoon phase was great then his divorce papers arrived and he changed. He stated he was depressed and had mental health issues. I thought my support patience and love would help him get through this. I was dead wrong. His disrespect was like a hamster wheel. He knew what was going on and felt guilty, so he walked away. I could not let him make me feel insecure any longer. Thank you for this video, it helped me so much✌️

@MandyX33n

Ай бұрын

Was he married with you?

He was one sided with everything from day one. I brought him up time and time again. Then turn around and want to threaten on leaving. Yet for some reason I kept bringing it up and telling him. Well I end up not being happy any more because he's not listening or just don't care. Finally I said what I had to say and walk away. Lord have mercy lesson learned.

Exactly. He Is extremely narcisistic

Thank you for speaking out honestly about real human nature and relationships.

The new toy end up breaking his Heart ❤️,

@Kayla_chosen1

6 ай бұрын

Yep

Thank you for being our "internet bro" and providing this valuable info.

You are 100% right. My husband has changed after 16 years of marriage. He doesn't satisfy my emotional needs. Whenever I bring up an issue, I'm told I'm too emotional and dismiss whatever was said. We hardly communicate and He's now interested in polygmy, 🤦🏾‍♀️. "It's not a sin, it's biblical." he says. Help!

@sunnybunny333

7 ай бұрын

You deserve better than small D energy.

@Kayla_chosen1

6 ай бұрын

He’s changing, same thing happened to my ex and we’re both young. I blame his dad.. his dad is narcissistic, praying for you 🙏🏾

@theeladyj

6 ай бұрын

Divorce

@anastasiap215

4 ай бұрын

Get out!! Save yourself from further pain and prioritize your feelings

He was love bombing me and leaving me on read.I addressed the issue in a calm way as this was not the first time. He came back with some bs answer, so i gracefully walked away without no explanation, i didn't argue i just simply just walked away and got on with my life. Thankfully, we were just dating and had not been intimate even though i have known him for years. Im sure someone from above was looking out for me 😌

I got PTSD from my last long term relationship. 😑😐😔

@margueritedrya9807

8 ай бұрын

I can relate

This is what happened to me recently recently the only mistake I did I retaliated due to high emotions I had to yell at him which I wish I wouldn't have done.

Honor your own needs and let your actions speak

Relationships now and days has become a big joke and quite draining, one is better off single🤸

Derek, you are truly my big brother. I appreciate everything that you said. And I definitely needed to hear this.

Yes I can relate !! Made that mistake and chased after him....one of my biggest regret in life !!

@thankfulaB

4 ай бұрын

I think almost all women and teens have done that with a bum or two.

Came in warm and fine. Then ghosting and such - yep- naturally left me insecure.

This resonates with me. 👋🏾Trying to heal now.

So true. There is no need to retaliate. You waste too much energy. Focus on you.

Wish I would’ve seen this last Monday 😢

@Braveh3artGirl

10 ай бұрын

It’s never too late ❤ walk away and see how you go girl he can only come back when he’s changing or accountable and ready to change! Get yourself back :) x

@kTorres007

10 ай бұрын

Most men don't change. Or they will for a little while

@wealthymo2857

10 ай бұрын

True

@kimmoore8023

7 ай бұрын

I wish I'd seen this last Thursday.

Most definitely I was perfectly fine & those insecurities were created into the relationship!! He wasn't evolved emotionally and hadn't outgrown his traumas

@JaxnVideos

2 ай бұрын

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*You can talk with someone for years, everyday, and still, it won't mean as much as what you can have when you sit in front of someone, not saying a word, yet you feel that person with your heart, you feel like you have known the person for forever.*

Oh wow this really has gave me the information I need to remind myself of my worth and my whet my values and needs stand for.. thank you ❤

I just pulled back as he couldn’t be completely opened to me and avoid

On point 💯

Derek, you’re the best thing that ever I came across thank you so much for looking out for women such myself God bless you.

Thank you, Sir. Very helpful. ... and yes, exited a 6 year narcissistic relationship a year ago. Took 2 years to end. I am now 99.9% healed. So happy this video popped up on my feed.

I needed to hear that

Great information!

I love your vibe!

I can related.....he says women have men energy masculine traits but if I act with emotions and caring even overly concern about him he says I am scarey and weak...... it is a no win situation

Straight fire.

Thank you!!

I’m so glad I stumbled upon this video. Came at a good time, thanks you’re amazing!

Thank you . Spot on 💯

Exactly what I needed to hear

God Damn you speak truth!

I really needed to hear this.

This was good Derrick.

Total truth

Very good. Thank you. 🙏🏾

This is so brilliant

Immaturity and lack of knowing how to communicate never brings a solution with naut understanding. Respect and care says a whole lot

Thanks for this information

I agree with you 2000%. The worst thing you could do is jump the gun start criticizing. Or putting out there what you’re not going to put up with like yeah that would be really bad.

Yep been there!

Thank youuuuuu ❤

I love this mentorship

Thank you

Your so right what i tell friends know your worth walk away

Thank you for this talk!

I was ready to hear this. Thank you.

This is good information, thanks!

Awesome 👍👍

Now this was super spot on!!!!!!! 💯 I’m clicking the link!!!

Thank you ❤️

Thank you 🙏

Reaaly helpful. Thank you. 👍🏽

Thanks alot for sharing needed this

Thank you Derrick ❤️

I can relate 100%.

Totally truth loved this ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

I truly can relate...

Great message praying 🙏 ❤

I needed to hear this today😊

Sooo good, needed to hear this…thankyou.