This has been my EXACT experience in teaching. I taught in the public schools for 14 years. It was horrible. I developed rheumatoid arthritis, and a neurological disorder called trigeminal neuralgia as well. I left my position as a fifth grade teacher in the public schools because of a horrible administrator and took a 30k payout to teach middle school language arts in a private Christian school. I am a Christian and was excited to teach in a place where I didn’t have to violate my conscience on a regular basis. From the gate I had the most unbelievable pushback from students who refused to cooperate on any level. It was a daily grind with the viciousness I received. I think these kids like the easy street teachers and will (almost violently) rebel against any teacher with standards and expectations. And I too am really fun and positive. The dealbreaker for me to leave was when a student stole my keys and the administrator did absolutely nothing. I had to pay a locksmith 300 bucks to drive out and make me a key so I could drive home. That was a true case of the inmates running the asylum. I ran, not walked away from that place. Now I make more money as a sales rep. I don’t have panic Attacks anymore and I have 99.9% less stress. Those kids are abusers and they get off on the predatory ways they are allowed to get away with.

@TeacherTherapy

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing your story, and I am so sorry you had to deal with that. I've been really surprised by how common these awful experiences are. So many of us thought we were hoping out of the public school frying pan and ended up in the private school fire. 🥺 I'm so happy to hear that you are in a better place now! ❤❤❤

@zacksguitarhacks6390

Жыл бұрын

Glad you both got out! This is such a big problem all over America and honestly we need more voices like you two.

@EC-gq7sx

Жыл бұрын

OMG …..no one deserves that kind of treatment! Private schools are romanticized as being an ideal alternative to education. Obviously it’s far from it ….it’s where entitled, abusive non contributing students go to get their way…on every aspect …every day.

@jillsalkin7389

Жыл бұрын

OMG!! I retired from teaching in an urban, public district. I never thought anyone would suffer to any degree in a private, Christian school, let alone how horrible it can be!!! I am happy that you are out, and content with your job ---- and your life!!

@donaldmoore7848

Жыл бұрын

Hello: Question. Did you notice if the students had an "entitled" attitude from your students? I taught music in both private & charter schools. In the charter school my rules, like yours, didn't get well recieved. But...in my private school ecperience they were.

When I used to teach I set up a camera to record each of my classes to protect myself. For the most part it was successful because I showed parents how their specific child disrupted the class. I made the parents and admin aware I was using a camera so it was not a secret. These were the kids of wealthy people and some just did what they want, but the videos provided great proof when parents complained. Still teaching was so stressful I quit after my 10th year.

@TeacherTherapy

Жыл бұрын

That's a good idea! 😊

@RizetoPower

Жыл бұрын

great idea but are you sure it's legal????

@jamese8508

Жыл бұрын

@@yoyo762 I don't see how privacy is an issue. Posting the videos online would be a violation of privacy (certainly illegal if the students are minors). I don't think retaining the videos for school use would be a violation of privacy. Check with your school about policy.

@BS-vx8dg

Жыл бұрын

Freak, I have *LONG* advocated having every classroom videotaped every minute of the day, with the files shared with teachers. I have thought about recording my own classes, but have been advised this is not legal. Question: were you in a public or private school?

@kozmatheclown

Жыл бұрын

@@yoyo762 they said they told admin so pretty sure they would have stepped in already if it was against the rules.

As a retired teacher, I can say that many of the kids don't respect their parents, nor do they respect themselves. They don't respect anyone. I would never encourage anyone to go into the field of teaching. I was lucky to finish my career in an excellent private school, but I did teach for one year in the school from hell. It also was a "Christian" school. I dealt with a drug dealer, the kids broke into my classroom during lunch and they smoked marihuana. They stole from me and threw things at me.I could not turn my back on them. I still have a photo they took of me when I wasn't looking. They wrote on then photo how they would torture and kill me, and they put bullet holes in my chest. I was an experienced teacher at the time, but nothing worked. Oh, one day the police caught the drug dealer in the parking lot and took him away. I sympathize with you.

@TeacherTherapy

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing your story, and I'm so sorry to hear that you went through such an awful experience! People would never believe a Christian Private School could be that way. 💔

@Leopardeye

2 жыл бұрын

So begin more school shootings. Starts with gun talk. Why are these kids so freaking angry? They haven’t even begun to struggle the way we did…

@TheLordSheogorath

2 жыл бұрын

That would give me PTSD, that's horrible, I hope you are at peace and healed right now. Best wishes!

@flowerjpotter1629

2 жыл бұрын

@@TeacherTherapy I love your honesty. I can't begin to imagine how you coped with such a miserable experience. Those sound like some very entitled children, and that's not a word I tend to use. But my goodness, what they put you through. So glad you are safe now and out of it.

@hisremnant9957

Жыл бұрын

When a person chooses not to respect the living God, all others never stand a chance!

It's amazing how non-black teachers/admins try to be progressive towards black students but completely disregard their black teachers. This was one of the saddest teacher experiences I ever heard. So sorry you had to go through that.

@HopeGardner3amed

2 жыл бұрын

It's definitely a perception thing

@myeshareynolds9624

2 жыл бұрын

These kids also take this behavior with them in the workplaces as well. Welcome to the 21st century.

@christinesimpson304

2 жыл бұрын

Cause it's a facade

@lysan4878

2 жыл бұрын

Race has nothing to do with it. It’s the small community/school thing. My daughters’ public school was k-12 with only 20 kids per grade and all white including staff, and it was the same crap to anyone new especially if they didn’t kiss the cliques butt. I subbed and tried to get on to kids and they would outright say “don’t you know who I am?”and “they aren’t going to do anything to me” and they were right. The teachers’ kids and the kids with the right last name were allowed to retake tests, do whatever they want. My daughter’s whole class would get punished for recess except for the teachers kids. They fired a teacher(who was amazing) as he was leaving because his wife was in labor, because he benched a prize child for 5 mins in a bball game for being a ball hog. They spread lies about him and he ended up sueing the school board.

@elizastjoseph6879

2 жыл бұрын

@@lysan4878 Well I kind of agree, in so far as this can be exactly the same and not have to do with race. But even though we think it can be like crying wolf with some of the fake racisim accusations, I have recently heard anotehr nice black young ma tell his discrimination story, and it was real. So I know this happens to gthem in schools and other places, and their experience is real. In Miss Trish's case the differernt skin color was an useful excuse for those thirsty to abuse. But you are right, this cliquish kind of prejudice can hit WHOEVER seems an easy mark, especially a nice person, if there is no an black easy-mark in sight. If she was a black person who looked scarier, threatening and mean, possibly they would have found an easier target instead.

Your story is horrifying. I can't relate to the being Black part (White guy here), but I can tell you that Christian schools aren't what a lot of people think. Only some of the families are really dedicated to the Christian part of Christian education. Not everybody is saved, let alone sanctified - and that goes double for the kids. Many Christian school students are wealthy and entitled, and their parents have a customer mentality. Both parents and students swim in a small pond, and they react strongly to the presence of newcomers. I've seen new (but experienced) teachers fail from overwork and from difficulties adapting to the school culture with its many unwritten rules. I've seen many new students suffer because they don't quite fit in (especially in the middle school). I've seen students make false accusations against teachers. I've seen parents take the word of their lying offspring, and I've suffered through some of the things you described. I went through depression, and I nearly quit. What saved my job (and maybe my life) was godly administrators who cared about me and wanted me to succeed. Don't forget also that spiritual warfare is real; I found out when I tried teaching Bible to 10th graders. Thank you for your video, and God bless.

@TeacherTherapy

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your experiences! It's nice to know that other people understand what I experienced! 😭 I also totally agree with you regarding spiritual warfare! So many other odd things happened that year in other aspects of my life which made continuing to teach in that atmosphere so much more difficult! I'm really glad to hear that you had supportive and godly administration though! 🙏 I think having support from the school really helps to soften the hits from parents and students when they occur. Thanks again for your kind words of encouragement! God Bless you!🤗

@TeacherTherapy

Жыл бұрын

@Anaja S Very true!

@redstickham6394

Жыл бұрын

I attended more than one so called Christian school and what you say is very true.

@snowps1

Жыл бұрын

You are exactly right. My kids went to Catholic school for seven years, and it's really just a catholic flavored small version of public school.

@snowps1

Жыл бұрын

@@theoldone3485 You are incorrect. The Catholic school my kids went to was far ahead of the local public schools. You have a very closed minded view of religion and you're judging all Christian schools based on your dislike of Christianity.

Which of the following is the best answer? a. Teachers fear the administration. b. Administration fears the parents. c. Parents fear the children. d. Children fear no one. e. All the above.

@stephenberry3379

10 ай бұрын

Part b should add: b. Administration fears parents, the School Board, and both the State and Federal government ($$$).

@yardknight4953

7 ай бұрын

You don't get to tell me anything, you're not my father! Just kidding. e of course.

@katwaugh1686

6 ай бұрын

My experience is not fearing the administration. It was me expecting the administration to have a disciplinary system in place, then not having any at all. I was totally flabbergasted

@katcabula

6 ай бұрын

How about option F- we are all royally effed 😭

@kheleecebrown1799

12 күн бұрын

E. All of the above.

When I worked as a teacher 25 years ago I had the principle of the school tell me "kids never lie". At that point I knew I had no support from management and I immediately started working on my exit strategy from the profession.

@cynthiadeg9206

2 жыл бұрын

This doesn’t surprise me… and your principal was a nut job

@asmas19

2 жыл бұрын

Kids lie all the time

@vianjelos

2 жыл бұрын

@@asmas19 especially little kids..they will sit there and swear up and down that their hair is pink when its brown..you can see them do something, they can see you see them do it and they will lie to your face that they didnt do it. Anything they say needs to be taken with a grain of salt.

2 жыл бұрын

The notion of "children never lie" is at the heart of the ideology that lands you with NCLB. It's been held up as gospel since the late 1990s and enacted as law in the 2000s.

@julians7697

Жыл бұрын

Good choice Web Nomad, one day someone will regret losing a great teacher , A young graduate cannot have the experience of a teacher with 25 years experience. Whe school management dumbs down in favour of a popularity contest with spoilt brats, it's time to choose another profession where there are less issues and less overheads. It may be less stressful to teach remedial education to the elderly who still can relearn.

I’ve been teaching for 28 years. After 23, kids got together and lied about me. Their lies were never challenged even though I could prove my innocence. I was forced to resign. Luckily, I found a new job where kids are respectful! Everything you say is 100% true! No one in administration at the district or STATE level understands this. I know this sounds dramatic, but it’s true, I suffer from PTSD to this day. When an administrator or a teacher looks at me my heart starts to race and I think “oh no what did the kids say now?” No one should ever go through anything like this.

@TeacherTherapy

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad you found a new job with sweet kiddos! That's a huge blessing 🙌 🙏

@elizastjoseph6879

2 жыл бұрын

Betty, God is soon going to heal your PTSD fromthis bad experience. A great day is just ahead!

@aquamarine0023

Жыл бұрын

Betty, I'm so glad you found a much better situation! Did you get another teaching job or did you find another type of job working with kids?

@BS-vx8dg

Жыл бұрын

I've never thought about it being PTSD, but I remember when I was falsely accused and had to leave the school that I had that same fear when an administrator would ask to talk to me. Twenty-five years after the event I still feared being called to the office. Only in the past few years (I guess because I know I can collect both a pension and social security if I want to) have I finally begun to relax.

Why do parents always believe their biased kids instead of the professional adult teacher?

@TeacherTherapy

4 жыл бұрын

Yes Anne, I wonder the same thing! It seems like in the olden days parents believed teachers, now so many of them think there is a conspiracy out to get their little babies lol

@stephanieross3669

3 жыл бұрын

My heart breaks for you. 💔 So sad that children are being modeled this poor behavior by their parents, and they will essentially become the same adults. Stay strong and be brave...keep moving forward. 💜🙏 Deuteronomy 31:6 "Be strong and courage, do not fear nor be afraid of them; for the LORD your God, He is the One who goes with you. He will not leave you nor forsake you."

@TeacherTherapy

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks 😊 🙏

@treespeakerintermediaartis9715

3 жыл бұрын

Sometimes the parents plot with kids so they already know the kids are making up stuff

@stormchaser419

2 жыл бұрын

That is society today. It's why those stupid parent conferences never change the child's behavior.

It always amazes me how much parents believe everything their kids tell them. Even if my dad believed these outlandish lies, he'd say "I'll get to the bottom of this, but if I find out you're lying you better pray".

@jjc6530

Жыл бұрын

Parents has done a 180 degree turn. Their kid never lies. I don’t understand why parents behave like that nowadays. We were all kids once and we remember the bad things we did and the lies we told.

@questcore636

Жыл бұрын

"my kids would never do that, i never did that when i was in school"

@kozmatheclown

Жыл бұрын

It's so crazy these days. My parents mindsets were completely flipped. Essentially "I'm going to believe what the adult/other person is saying until I can safely deduct that you innocent." Which pretty much led to me getting punished for a lot of stuff I didn't even do but at least it made me grow up with empathy and honesty. It's bizarre and insane that anyone would believe kids for no reason. If you grow up being able to get away with whatever you want you're gonna grow up to be a sociopath. And then people complain that our generation is full of garbage human beings. It starts with the kids.

@questcore636

Жыл бұрын

@@kozmatheclown yeah, same with my parents, it's authoritative views brainwashing the old that don't understand what is going on with society and can't handle the sensory overload, so they just spout crazy ass shit to justify their views, you should hear the bat shit crazy radicalized shit come out of their mouths

@jillsalkin7389

Жыл бұрын

The reason they "believe" what their kids say is because there is no way they will ever admit that they suck as parents. They KNOW that the teacher is not making this up. But, no one can say this truth, and that it is because of parents and their kids that teachers are suffering and leaving the field in droves.

When students start making false allegations, it's the big sign that teaching is never going to be what it once was 25 years ago. Time to bail on teaching people. Doesn't matter if it's public, charter, private or Catholic. Get out. Join the great teacher resignation.

@TeacherTherapy

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, it seems that healthy school environments are becoming more rare these days, sadly 😥

@quiveringmoist7558

2 жыл бұрын

I had this happen to me as a kid and as a teacher. A kid in my class made false allegations about a teacher, they interviewed all of the students with their parents to get the bottom of it. My dad jokingly said " the teacher is an adult, the student is 10 years old, why are you wasting our time with this?" Years later when I was teaching false allegations were made about me by a student and instead of investigating the school let me go. The school then went after my license with no documented or video evidence or eye witnesses. After spending over 7k to defend myself, I won BTW, the state re-issued my license but also made me do extra online training. After that I was done with teaching in America. I suggest to every American teacher to go overseas where you're paid and respected. I've done it for years and it is such a great experience.

@Jimalcoatl

2 жыл бұрын

@@quiveringmoist7558 I used to be a substitute teacher and a student made false allegations against me. The superintendent did investigate and CCTV footage prooved that it would have been impossible for me to have done what the student claimed. This lost me a week of work and pay while the investigation was going on and many students were interviewed about the allegations and my reputation was ruined at the school so I could no longer substitute there and had to go to other schools in the district to work. I had to talk to lawyers and plan potential legal defense all on the words of a spiteful 14 year old who didn't like being told to do their work. The system is fucking broken. Good teachers need to bail and good parents need to pull their kids from school. Then a better system for the people who care about education can be built.

@Tempusverum

2 жыл бұрын

@@Jimalcoatl I hope you sued the parents of that spiteful brat

@pharma37

2 жыл бұрын

They wanted corporal punishment taken away, and wanted to focus on children's feelings, and give children all of the respect. Well, after a few decades....... this is what you get. If you place kids into an environment where the teachers have no real impact on them passing the class or not....

Former private school student here and gotta admit, the second you said "I thought private school kids would be better behaved", I literally laughed out loud. Having later gone on to public school and having experienced both, can safely say at least in my experience, the private school kids were WAY more of little hellions than the public school ones, way nastier, way ruder, way more entitled, way worse bullies....you name it. (I was on the receiving end of all the above, for the record, not the giver.) Most people I've known who also went to private schools have had similar experiences too.

@TeacherTherapy

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing, and I'm so sorry to hear that you experienced bullying too 😔

@TewasaSonko

2 жыл бұрын

EXACTLY‼️

@nerdgeekcosplay909

Жыл бұрын

I believed the lie also how bad were the private school kids?

@suigeneris2663

Жыл бұрын

True. I forgot about all those times when I’d be sitting there, quiet, while the rest of the class acted like total dicks. So many teacher blow-ups. Not like this tho- at least I don’t think. 😬

@redstickham6394

Жыл бұрын

Count me in that. I went to more than one private school and went to public school for one year. So many people think private schools are fortresses of rules and iron fisted discipline and high academic standards which is not always true. I laughed too when "I thought private school kids would be better behaved" was said too. In the schools I went to, some had more discipline than others, while some were the same as public school in terms of discipline, and some believe it or not, had even less discipline than public school. In most private schools, discipline is often selectively applied. In other words, how hard the school comes down on the kid depends on whose kid they are. Kids whose parents give loads of donations to the school or are well connected can get away with murder while others can get some down on for anything or nothing. Don't forget the jocktocracy, in which the athletes can do anything they want and there are few or no consequences for them. Just as common in private school as in public school. I was often on the wrong end of bullying as well. One Christian school I went to even allowed derogatory stuff to put in the school paper about me and nothing was done. This school also allowed and facilitated hazing. Private isn't always better.

I think you should expose/report them. Being a “Christian” school shouldn’t matter since their behavior were unchristian and abusive.

@stewart2589

Жыл бұрын

It was more of a conservative cult

As a graduate of a Christian private high school in the Midwest that also cost a pretty penny, I completely believe you. This whole story was just racism from the get go. The parents/staff decided they didn’t want you there bc you were a black woman & they did all of this to get you to leave. It’s horrific & I hate that this happened to you.

@TewasaSonko

2 жыл бұрын

As a former student from a Private-Christian high school, they hated BLACK GIRLS more than anything. Then when I called them out on it, then I’m the “problem”….🙄

@LiberalsRuinEverything.

Жыл бұрын

Yes, they already had no respect for their wyte teachers and they would be damned if they were going to respect a non wyte one.

@BS-vx8dg

Жыл бұрын

a b s y n t h e, I agree with you, this *was* racism from the start. No doubt about it. But why do you think they hired her? To be able to say "we tried diversity"? Oh, and I love your name (because I love absinthe).

@alexa3322

Жыл бұрын

I am not black and my experience has been the same.

@jillsalkin7389

Жыл бұрын

What a tribute to Christians. UGH.

Sad thing is, private school teachers are extremely under paid and over worked. I was a private school teacher for 5 years. I loved the students, parents were entitled because they paid a lot for education, and administration horrible. They always say "give the parents what they pay for." I hated going to work, parents had my personal cell because the front office never answered the phone, and parents would watch our class through live webcams. It was bad. Got to a point I started looking elsewhere, and went into the non-profit sector. I have more pay, actual benefits, awesome administration and I love my students/families with behaviors.

This makes my blood boil! What a horribly abusive situation. I feel like I have endured similar things. Thank you for speaking out for teachers! I love your videos!

@TeacherTherapy

4 жыл бұрын

Hi Jennifer! Thanks for your encouragement and support! :)

@Paola-jf2qf

4 жыл бұрын

Jennifer Jenks Yes that was horrid. That student lied about porn should have been suspended or expelled. I don't care if someone was a board member.

Unlike public schools, private schools operate much more like businesses, which means it's all about keeping customers (in this case, the parents) happy, and assuming the customer is always right. You should definitely do a video about the curriculum at this school. Private schools don't necessarily have better curricula than public schools, but a lot of people assume that they do, and I think this is something that needs to be talked about.

@Catsharks

2 жыл бұрын

Not since the pandemic

@Catsharks

2 жыл бұрын

After u sign the contract to attend,they no longer care about the students or education. Basically they are Walmart workers bitching about their jobs to each other at that point. The kids suffer and parents don't matter anymore

@Catsharks

2 жыл бұрын

And the good teachers suffer and bad teachers are rewarded. This is exactly what I've witnessed

@Catsharks

2 жыл бұрын

It's so toxic...and by the way, the elite private schools have 9 years olds still eating their boogers in front of others. So yeah, public might be better at this time, or homeschool.

@moosieh1

Жыл бұрын

That's q great observation about the curriculum

I appreciate your candidness. All the disrespectful students stems from parents giving these kids a pampered entitled life. A lot of the day to day situations teachers experience is "abuse," be it from parents, students, and/or administrators 🖒.

@TeacherTherapy

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for your support! :)

@thatspanishteacher7515

4 жыл бұрын

I know what you mean.

@julians7697

Жыл бұрын

A pampered entitled life will not create a stable civilised society.

This should be a lawsuit honestly this is horrible

@TeacherTherapy

4 жыл бұрын

I thought about it, but I would feel bad suing a Christian school even if they were super mean lol :)

@kristinsearight3813

4 жыл бұрын

Teacher Therapy nothing about what you endured is Christian. True Christians don’t treat people like that. Makes the whole faith look bad. 😢 You are a saint for sticking with it as long as you did.

@zaphodful

4 жыл бұрын

I totally agree. This behaviour is disgusting.

@azchanna

Жыл бұрын

@@TeacherTherapyyou are a door mat , you let the whypipo get away away with murder

@richardhead548

8 ай бұрын

@@azchanna white people . Let's not be part of the problem with made up grammar and spelling. Also, there should have been a massive lawsuit because this teacher was most certainly the subject of blatant and vile racism to the extreme.

This is not only private school problem. Kids know they are dictating the rules. Imagine they are our future. Scary!

As a an African American, this is why i refuse to work at predominantly white schools and communities. I will take the challenges that come with working in diverse, low income communities over the neverending, exhausting battle of racism. Life is too short to spend time on people who hate you just for existing. Teaching is hard enough as it already is. Sorry this happened to you.

@TeacherTherapy

4 жыл бұрын

Hi Shelby! I totally understand. Experiences of racism are so traumatizing! I would like to believe that what I encountered at this school was an abnormality, but I know certain regions have a darker history and current struggle with racism. I would not work in that particular "town" again, but I would be willing to try perhaps a different area, but I think I would ask more honest questions up front for sure if I could immediately see there was no diversity anywhere. The district I work in now is definitely more racially integrated from the students to the staff, and I noticed that I have not been battled and questioned as much. Each school has definitely been a learning experience for sure! :)

@ratherbfishing455

4 жыл бұрын

I refuse to work at inner city school. I have the opposite problem.

@parler8698

2 жыл бұрын

Not every low income community is diverse.

Gang stalking and targeting, classic narcissistic bullies’ tactics

@Ms.A422

2 жыл бұрын

Yes absolutely this is what she experienced gas lighting from narcissist

From what I can tell, it doesn't matter if it's a public, private, charter, or Christian school, it matters what the school culture is like, and that just depends on the leadership of the school. You can find good or bad discipline in all types of schools.

I've been seeing a lot of these videos. So sorry for your experience. I taught at a private school for almost 9 years. It was great! I had some parents that challenged my credentials and my teaching ability but I quickly diminished those people. You have to be on your toes at all times and be you. I was the only Black teacher then moved to an Administrator position until I got my own business in childcare. It comes from the top down. Leadership has to be supportive and set the tone and uphold the character of the school otherwise entitlement takes over. I wish you the best!!!

@elizastjoseph6879

2 жыл бұрын

Glad to know it can work. i am in a private school and no ugly bullying but I have experienced uncomfortable pressures for being unvaccinated. No teachers union so no one to defend me but I have a word from the Lord that this is where I am to be for now so I will trust in Him to be my rock and fortress.

@moosieh1

Жыл бұрын

@@elizastjoseph6879 stay strong. It's being proven everyday the jabs sre harmful. You made the right decision. No jabs from hereafter 🚫

@iwantabetterworld2773

5 ай бұрын

You were lucky...it could have gone entirely the other way. Hateful, entitled, holier than thou, mean republicans.

Oh My GOD! I have the exact same situation in a country school here in Australia! Thank you for validating my experiences. I am in tears watching this.

@TeacherTherapy

4 жыл бұрын

Hi Anita! I am so sorry that you had to go through this painful experience; I hope your teaching situation gets brighter! Sending you love from America! :)

@anitakennedy7204

4 жыл бұрын

@@TeacherTherapy Thank you. I'm now in a catholic elementary school and the administration is very supportive. Slowly healing.

@allmigthygoddess939

2 жыл бұрын

By the glory of Satan

@anitakennedy7204

Жыл бұрын

@@allmigthygoddess939 and social media, sadly.

Christian school but the people there are not.

@KoreaMojo

2 жыл бұрын

You know a tree by it's fruit.

Never work in a non-union school. This is why. This should NEVER happen to any teacher EVER!

@kathurtado13

2 жыл бұрын

Book Girl NYS, save it, public school is the worst on teachers and students 😑. The union is the mafia, they suck your pay check and make you feel worthless towards your concerns. Why do you think good teachers took advantage of the pandemic, and got the hell out of teaching. With all this crap that is going on in public schools, I don't blame teachers leaving the industry. I worked for Abott Pre-School for 12 yrs, the educational system has falling to the pits of hell because of the administration [AKA THE STATE] basically forcing their teachers to become unpaid babysitters.

@bikerboy9010

Жыл бұрын

I definitely agree with you how unions are great for teachers. Unions help prevent teachers from getting blamed for poor classroom management for things that aren't their fault, unions help prevent administrators from being super quick to fire teachers for poor classroom management, and unions give teachers due process rights, appeal rights, etc if they get fired for unjust reasons. Substitute teaching (Substitute teaching is different from being a regular teacher) is one of those kinds of jobs where it's best to be in a school district where subs have due process rights for performance issues such as innocently breaking school rules, classroom management issues, etc because in school districts where subs have no due process rights for performance issues such as innocently breaking school rules, classroom management issues, etc, administrators have the power to ban subs from subbing at their school for innocently breaking school rules, classroom management issues, etc without the sub being able to appeal the administrator's decision. All school districts should be required to give subs due process rights for performance issues such as breaking school rules, classroom management issues, etc because substitute teaching is one of those kinds of jobs where no matter how good of a sub you are, you're going to have days sometimes as a substitute where you innocently break school rules, and no matter how good of a sub you are, you're going to have days sometimes as a sub where you make classroom management mistakes. Substitute teaching is also one of those kinds of jobs where it's extremely easy for a substitute teacher to get blamed for poor classroom management for things that aren't the sub's fault. There's all kinds of potential situations that can happen where a sub gets blamed for poor classroom management for things that aren't the sub's fault. If a sub sends 3 students on separate occasions to the nurse for stomach ache complaints and those 3 students were lying about being sick, some nurses might blame the sub for poor classroom management when it's not the sub's fault since subs have to take nurse complaints very seriously because when students complain of wanting to go to the nurse due to a stomach ache and the sub refuses to send students to the nurse and the students end up sick, the sub could be held responsible for not sending the students to the nurse, and substitute teachers aren't allowed to examine students to see if they're sick; only nurses can examine students to see if they're sick. If someone walks by a classroom a sub is in and sees students misbehaving, it can easily be perceived as poor classroom management when it may or may not be the sub's fault. If students are taking advantage when a sub is helping students, answering questions students have, etc by stealing things that belong to the teacher, destroying school property in the classroom, etc and no one is willing to tell the sub who stole from the teacher, who destroyed property in the classroom, etc due to not wanting to be labeled a snitch, it's very easy for the sub to get blamed for poor classroom management when the situation isn't the sub's fault. Some schools treat substitute teachers horribly. There are some schools out there where administrators are super quick to ban subs from subbing at their school for things like innocently breaking rules, classroom management issues, etc. There are some schools out there where administrators ban subs from subbing at their school for poor classroom management for things that aren't the sub's fault. Some schools ban subs from subbing at their school without giving the sub a chance to defend their actions or explain their side of the story. Some schools are super quick to ban subs from subbing at their school whenever they receive a complaint about a sub instead of investigating the complaint to get the full story. There are some schools where whenever an administrator is having a concern with a sub, the administrator bans the sub from subbing at the school instead of discussing the concern with the sub and giving the sub chances to improve before banning the sub from subbing at the school.

You should put this school out on blast to stop the abuse! This is defamation of character and bullying.

@TeacherTherapy

4 жыл бұрын

Hello 👋 Thanks for watching! :) I totally understand where your coming from, but I decided not to name them after alot of thought and prayer for both personal and practical reasons. Thanks for understanding 🙏 💕

@elizastjoseph6879

2 жыл бұрын

@@TeacherTherapy They deserve exposure, but then, you could get sued by those rich evil folk who can afford any lawyers they want, and you don't need that. God will vindicate you! I believe it!

@shealorena

2 жыл бұрын

No, you have been scapegoated enough.

@allmigthygoddess939

2 жыл бұрын

@@TeacherTherapy By the glory of Satan

@suigeneris2663

Жыл бұрын

Seriously, she should’ve sued. Squeeze em dry.

Those kids were pure Evil😤😈😷😵 This is why I don't deal with junior high kids. Absolutely disgusting. Sorry you had to experience that

@TeacherTherapy

4 жыл бұрын

Hi there! :) Thanks for your support! Middle school kids of all backgrounds are definitely challenging!! At that age they find "roasting" teachers to be fun and they have no idea that teachers have feelings too. Middle school teachers are saints lol! If I teach again next year I will be going from 5th to 6th grade again; pray for me! ;)

@mmdmmj1

4 жыл бұрын

@@TeacherTherapy you're welcome😊 My teaching degree is in Early Childhood Ed. so I knew from a very young age that I didn't want to deal with students beyond 3rd grade 😄 And even with the school that I teach at now, I try to avoid the junior high kids cause they always manage to make me cringe in one way or another...lol I really wish I worked at a school that only went up to 3rd, 4th, or 5th grade cause I honestly don't like being around junior high kids at all. They are super annoying, disrespectful, and think that they're grown. Now there are a few exceptions. I have come across maybe 3 or 4 really nice junior high kids in the past, but even with them it seem like they get corrupted or tainted by the bad ones over time😩 Oh no...not 6th grade😩 I will definitely keep you in my prayers🙏 Praying that God will give you the strength to endure and hope the upcoming school year will be easy and as stress free as possible for you.❤

In my opinion, teachers are expected to endure what amounts to non-stop workplace bullying and harassment. It's hard for me to believe that other types of workplaces would tolerate this.

@lishere2018

7 ай бұрын

That’s what all my non-teacher friends said, and what I realized only after I’ve been traumatized. I’ve been putting up with so much just because I am the adult who should change the students’ misbehaviors.

@thatsfunny2051

7 ай бұрын

@@lishere2018 You are a stronger and more tolerant person than I could ever be. I was in the process of studying to become a teacher, but I gave it up because I became convinced that my entire career would be a never-ending uphill battle with students, parents, and administrators. It's a bit of a shame. I think I could have been a good teacher. I just wasn't prepared to open my veins (so to speak) and bleed out for the job

And just imagine if you were a male teacher and they made that porn alligation, there would be no investigation. You would be terminated and they would be a criminal investigation and likely charges.

@richardhead548

8 ай бұрын

OMG this made my heart stop when she told this part of the story. Because this is exactly the kind of accusation that someone can go to jail for and end up on a sex offender registry for! And I agree, had she been a man, that's probably what would have happened. But to be clear, even this sort of accusation against a female could turn out to be devastating. Honestly, I don't know how teachers can teach at all nowadays without some sort of camera in the classroom to prove their innocence because an accusation like this only takes a group of little fingers pointing at you to ruin your life. Read the Salem witch trials some time...because that's exactly what happened to the slave Titubu.

@coyoteblue4027

5 ай бұрын

​@@richardhead548 not exactly what happened with Tituba lol(whose name you couldn't even get right..)

@richardhead548

5 ай бұрын

@@coyoteblue4027 It’s exactly what happened. Little fingers pointed at her and that was the end of her freedom and life.

@coyoteblue4027

5 ай бұрын

@@richardhead548 nope. While it is quite likely that Tituba was in fact the only person accused during all of the salem witch trials who would have practiced anything remotely similar to what would have been cinsidered witchcraft at the time, even admitting as much upon questioning, she was not executed. In fact, she was not even charged. Just held for a year for lack of funds to pay what was the 17th C version of Bail. And it certainly wasnt the "end of her freedom." She started the ordeal enslaved, and ended the ordeal enslaved. She was never free to begin with.

@richardhead548

5 ай бұрын

@@coyoteblue4027 She had little fingers pointing at her and had to undergo an ordeal of interrogations and imprisonment so my point stands.

Why is this allowed? A similar thing happened to me at a private school I worked at. The kids would lie about me, question me, one kid would tell their parents I was only doing "chalk and talk" teaching while they write notes, another would say that they were being expected to find all of the information out themselves without any instruction - in the same class! I would be interrogated and accused by the senior leadership team. In the end I was terrified to do anything and then the parents complained that their little darlings (devils) didn't have any confidence in me. (All the while the kids would pretend to my face like I was their favourite teacher). I couldn't win, and I was never backed up by the school. In the end I was being being put under concern and being observed because of complaints from the parents of pupils I hadn't even taught yet, just because of rumours spreading through parents). I was like a lamb to the slaughter as they say, the stress took a big tole on my physical and mental health, I ended up developing an autoimmune disease.

@TeacherTherapy

4 жыл бұрын

Wow Georgia! Our stories are so similar! I am so sorry this happened to you. Sometimes I think that these things happen to really kind, tenderhearted people because perhaps people believe we are too nice to really fight back. It is just a theory, but you seem like a really kind and loving person. I believe that I am too. It is such a shame. I am also sorry that your health suffered; I can relate to that too. Did you ever find a better working situation? I hope things are getting better for you. Thanks for writing and sharing your story with me. We live in such a crazy world, and school teachers experience so many unfair and sometimes terrible things. :(

@margybernard

4 жыл бұрын

Sorry about your trials. I do hope you have recovered. I went through a similar bullying situation at a particular school. That's enough to make one quit on the spot, and jump at the window. Regain your self-worth. I wish you the best

Yes, this is teaching all over the world. I am a veteran teacher and classrooms are getting more and more toxic. It seems that teachers are targets and considered the enemy for some of the social and emotional problems that have arisen in our communities. Is there a prejudicial 'ism' for being a teacher? Even with years of experience and extensive professional development with and advanced degree, I have had a similar experience to the one you have shared, and the gaslighting from the administrators drinking the kool-aid. Administrators, many of them with little to no experience teaching, tend to ally with abusive and disrespectful students and parents who take no responsibility for their actions and are never held accountable. This is about power without good leadership. These are small people so continue to be the caring person that you seem to be and know there are other people like you out there though maybe not in our schools. I have had some fabulous days teaching but, considering the trends, I will be looking towards retirement and will not recommend that anyone who believes in education, and cares, become a teacher. I agree lastly that too many students are entitled and would benefit from learning how to be kind and thoughtful towards others regardless of who they are. I am not a religous person, but a moral one, and that school does not seem to embody the teachings of Christ.

@TeacherTherapy

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing your experiences with me! Although it is sad to hear that so many teachers have suffered in toxic teaching situations, it is a relief to know that I am not alone in my perceptions and feelings. We are definitely made to feel like horrible situations are not a big deal which compounds the suffering. I hope things get better in education, but I am very concerned that some of the changes that are coming will be even more demanding and unrealistic for educators, but I still have a glimmer of hope. I think the more that teachers speak up, the better things can get, but as long as we feel alone things will remain the same. Thanks again for watching and sharing! :)

@BobbiGail

2 жыл бұрын

B-i-n-g-o! Well said. When the teachers are encouraged to tattle on each other instead of helping each other out... and the kids can rule the school... it is TOXIC. Sadly, I tell ppl to run far and fast from a teaching degree!

@myeshareynolds9624

2 жыл бұрын

@@BobbiGail It isn't just teachers. This kind of thing is going on in most workplaces. Abusive bosses, gossip-y offices & bullying coworkers create a toxic & hostile work environment. There's no getting away from it now. The seeds have been planted.

@maxalberts2003

2 жыл бұрын

@@myeshareynolds9624 I should think that MANY of the behaviors you describe are illegal--in terms of creating a "hostile environment"--and subject to serious Federal/State disciplinary actions. Also, these kinds of businesses don't keep the best and the brightest on board and will, almost inevitably, fail unless they change their patterns.

@myeshareynolds9624

2 жыл бұрын

@@maxalberts2003 Respectfully, that's what many people think and it is ideal. However, in reality, that way of thinking is incredibly naive. I mean no offense to you. Remember that the criminals are the ones running things in the world. Corruption has deep & stubborn roots. They won't get away with it because they will be held accountable for their actions & their words before Almighty God and He has the last say. All we, as brothers & sisters in Christ, can do is pray that these wicked people see the error of their ways and make a change for the better. Shalom ✝️

I would have been petty and left every student I taught with an F at that school or made the coursework or exams so hard no one passed or no one gets an A or possibly even a B. I'm sure administration would have went back and changed the grades later.

@TeacherTherapy

2 жыл бұрын

Funny you should say that! They must have thought I would do that because admin made me grade finals early & submit my hand graded finals with the answer keys to them for review, just to check behind my work...It was so humiliating and demeaning, I get sad & angry just thinking about it 😭

@maxalberts2003

2 жыл бұрын

@@TeacherTherapy That is horrifying.

@elizastjoseph6879

2 жыл бұрын

@@TeacherTherapy Wow. Shameless.

One of the side effects of affluence is the feeling one is accountable to no one

I haven't been in that exact situation, but everything you say about the entitled students, credulous parents, and enabling administrators absolutely rings true.

What an absolute snake pit of a place. I 100% believe you. When you are taught entitlement and superiority, this is what happens. When people feel superior to you, they can treat you any way they want to, absolutely guilt free.

I’m not a teacher, this behavior is just sickening. I’m glad you got out. Many blessings to you.

This place sounds like a nightmare! I couldn't imagine being a teacher in this social environment of the 2020's. I was a substitute teacher for 2 years and hated it because of all the working parts you mentioned. It's about a microcosm of politics not learning.

I worked in private/ parochial schools. The parents think they own you because they pay tuition. Then I found out many of my students were behavior problems in public school so the parents thought 💭 St. Jerome could save them and tried private.

@TeacherTherapy

Жыл бұрын

So true!!! 🥺

You’re too nice to say it but I’m not. 😊They are Racist as hell in Jesus name! They ghettoized you in every circumstance that they could. They should be ashamed of their Christian selves. I would never work in a religious school and being the only black in the school is usually a death sentence for your career. God bless you for telling your story sister. stay strong and prayed up!

@omowhanre

2 жыл бұрын

@@glennwatson3313 always someone in the comment shouting “but what about white people.” Yes, white lives matter too, but go figure, not every single waking moment is about YOU. Like can we very have a single moment without being interrupted by whiny toddlers who need attention too???

@allmigthygoddess939

2 жыл бұрын

By the glory of Satan

@crest4sensation938

Жыл бұрын

@@glennwatson3313 You are really trying to compare your situation to Teacher Therapy??? Christianity and Racism are interlinked. Teacher Therapy was a TARGET because of her ethnicity. The admins, staff , kids etcetera are ignorant.

@Jane5720

Жыл бұрын

That’s true, You were set up from the get go and there wasn’t anything you could do about it

@Jackiesdaughter84

Жыл бұрын

I agree!!!!

Sorry you went through that💕 thanks for your channel - it’s very validating and you can speak so eloquently on thoughts/feelings that I have struggled to put into words

@TeacherTherapy

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the support Jill! :)

Horrible. The gall of some students, and then you hear from their parents and you realize where they learned it all. Thanks for sharing your stories. I love your channel.

@TeacherTherapy

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much 😊

After 18 years of teaching I transferred to a at school that had an Advisory program where you had to teach the kids all four years 9th to 12th grade. I had 18 years of urban teaching experience under my belt and certainly didn't anticipate any issues in a class that I taught only 30 minutes a day. I have never encountered a group of such entitled and malicious kids in my life. Some were awesome but there were enough that were seriously looking to make trouble and were blatantly disrespectful to me. I ended up transferring to another school and position and it was the best move I made. Your story rings so true. I firmly believe that kids need to be forced to volunteer in the middle and high school years as part of the curriculum. They need to be forced to do for others to promote their maturity. In Japan, kids have to rotate cafeteria duty.

@TeacherTherapy

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing! 😊

I'm glad you've come forward regarding this matter, i wish you could give us the name of this school. I'd love to see reviews of the school. What kind of Christians go to this school? What kind of school is this?!? Disgusting!!! 🤮

@TeacherTherapy

4 жыл бұрын

Hello!! :) Thanks so much for watching and sharing your thoughts with me! :) Sharing the name is tricky for a few reasons, so I have decided to hold back on ultra specific details, but I did want to share my story just to help other teachers that have struggled or had an awful year somewhere. The interesting thing is that my story could happen anywhere. Interestingly enough, the year after that I went to teach at an urban, public district and I was shocked that some of the same things I went through started brewing there too, but by the Grace of God, it got stomped out because I did have a lot of support from my principal, and I think God just wanted to spare me from another year like that. :) But I did learn overall that Christian people and Christian schools can have huge problems just like anyone & anywhere else, and I learned that working at a Christian school would not be the problem-free utopia I had hoped it would be. Although I didn't mention it much there were some sweet kids and godly families, but they got eclipsed from my focus with all of the crazy stuff that happened to me that year. Thanks again for writing to me, and I'd be happy to answer any questions except the name of the school lol ;)

I have been an educator for 17 years now and have taught in both private and public. My early teaching experience was in a Catholic school, and I can relate to what you are saying because some kids and parents felt entitled. I often saw my teaching as a service that needed to be provided instead of an experience of learning. After 9 years, I left the Catholic school system because the demands for my personal time to be spent at school functions were insane. I experienced at times were I could not give my time I was considered to be undedicated. No union representation was also hard because I saw other teachers stay quiet due to the fear of losing their jobs.

I know just what you mean. I attended a Christian school from grades 2-5, and I used to think my peers at a Christian school would be good to each other. What a rude awakening. And just like how you mentioned, some of the biggest trouble makers were children of teachers and staff. Furthermore it was close to an air force base, hence many children were military brats. The entitlement was off the charts. This was back in the early to mid 90s. I cannot imagine how worse it must be today. I am so sorry to hear you had to go through this, you did not deserve such gaslighting and disrespect from the children, parents, and administration.

It must have been so hard to endure all this every day. For the students to be talking about you behind your back, and even the parents and other teachers, joining in.......... You certainly have my respect and my sympathy. God bless you.

@TeacherTherapy

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you ❤

I had a very difficult class yesterday and I felt I needed to listen to other teacher's experiences. Thank you for telling your story which I found most interesting. I'm so sorry the children, parents and other adults behaved in such an awful way.

@TeacherTherapy

Жыл бұрын

Thank you! I hope today is brighter for you! ❤

I went to public schools growing up and I am emotionally scarred from the experience due to harshness and disrespect from other children. What you were describing as a teacher was my experience as a student. False accusations and rumors were spread about me, I was made fun of about my weight, having darker hair than most kids, I was judged by my last name and made fun of for that too. It was just awful. The kids were extremely disrespectful and like you mentioned entitled. I switched schools after middle school and thought that by going to a higher class school things would change and I'll admit it wasn't as bad as the poor inner city schools, in my experience they seemed to have more respect for the teachers, but I was still shunned, left out, and made to be an outcast. Not to mention my school got shot up my senior year. My whole schooling experience was a horrible mess and that is a big reason why my kids are homeschooled now. I remember the things kids would talk about when I was in school and how bad of an influence they were coming from dysfunctional homes with parents who didn't care. I was a teacher's pet who strived to be a good student and make good grades and I would get extremely annoyed at how they treated them. It's sad that even as an adult and a teacher you had almost no control in the situation. Being ganged up on makes it hard to defend ourselves and it's extremely messed up that the parents participated in the same childish behavior as their children instead of being adults about it and talking it out in a calm manner and working things out maturely. I'm sorry you went through this unfortunately if it continues being a teacher in a classroom is going to become obsolete and more parents are going to have to step up to the plate and handle their kids the way they expected you to handle them, and they are going to find out real quick it's not as easy as they thought and are most likely going to struggle. I'm glad I decided to homeschool I feel like I am saving my kids from a lot of bad influences and experiences that they would face in traditional school. In the end I think they will be smarter and more respectful. The direction the educational system is heading is extremely concerning I guess we can all hope for some positive change but I highly doubt that's going to happen.

@snowps1

2 жыл бұрын

Same here! I went to public school and was bullied relentlessly. Because of that my kids go to a small private school. But what I've learned is that bullying is everywhere. :( My son has been begging me all year to let him do cyber school next year because of bullying that is never dealt with by the school. I'm going to let him do it.

@kymspicks2763

2 жыл бұрын

@@snowps1 I'm sorry to hear that. Bullying really is a huge problem a lot of children feel like it's acceptable and funny and feed off of eachother to make it worse. I'm glad you are listening to your child, if they are begging you there's something wrong and they need change. I decided from the get go that I was going to homeschool. I find all my son's curriculum and set up his whole school year myself. I considered virtual learning and maybe one year I will do it but for now I'm fine doing it myself. Regardless homeschooling is the way to go whether it's virtual or traditional. I like that I know my child's strengths and weaknesses and can cater to them. I notice my son needs writing help, like with punctuation and sentence structure. So this year I can focus more on writing then other subjects. I am going on my 4th year with him and pre-k with my daughter, it's hard but I have no regrets. My children will have so much more respect for others and will be further ahead then most other kids who are physically in school.

@TaurusGoddess.7

2 жыл бұрын

You're a very good mom. I wish my mom was able to stay home and homeschool me. From someone who graduated from public school not too long ago, even though my own individual experience wasn't as bad-- I've heard so much worse from other students. What also makes things harder is the influence of social media. Now kids can record you and make humiliating memes about you and upload it to snapchat, instagram, facebook and ruin your life forever. The internet gives kids access to things we should never have access to. The over s*xualization of kids is getting out of hand, to the point of assault on other students and not understanding consent from over consumption of p*rn*graphy. It makes it difficult to really connect with someone on a deep and satisfying level, leaving you feeling lonely, unsafe and exploited. This is probably the reason why a lot of Gen Z kids are depressed because no one knows how to act anymore and short term pleasure is prioritized over working through your problems. It's really sad and depressing as a Gen Z kid to watch my generation act this way, especially to teachers who are just trying to help you pass with an A. Things have only gotten worse and I thank God everyday that I no longer have to endure highschool ever again. Never regret doing what was best for your kids.

@redstickham6394

Жыл бұрын

@@snowps1 Good for you and your son. I went to both private and public schools and I was bullied at most of them. My parents moved me between schools a lot and it was miserable. I got picked on for a lot of stupid reasons and of course nothing was ever done about it or in some cases, I was blamed for it. If cyberschool had existed when I was a kid, I would have begged for it too.

@snowps1

Жыл бұрын

@@redstickham6394 Me too. I would have done cyber school, too, if I had a choice. Both of my kids like being at home now and neither wants to go back to school in person. I still hear bad things going on at their old school.

When I taught at a private school I was accused by rich kids of hitting them. I was shocked. After about 4-5 months I started building up my references and spent class time applying to other schools. I just let them play and be rude and that’s it.

@TeacherTherapy

Жыл бұрын

I'm glad you were able to get out of that place! 💯

@richardhead548

8 ай бұрын

This is the kind of accusation that with enough kids willing to lie as a group, could end in an innocent person going to jail.

It's funny that teachers are complaining about the kids but never their colleagues. I found that the other teachers were very unsupportive and generally bitchy. For new teachers, it's sink or swim. Terrible.

@TeacherTherapy

2 жыл бұрын

I have had some rough coworkers too, but I think the other conditions made the whole thing unbearable 😫

I’m so sorry that you were treated that way. There should have been consequences for the students and parents, but that never happens.

I am so sorry you were bullied this hard. This sounds like a traumatic experience if I'm being honest. I hope you were able to talk about it with someone and I'm so happy that you're out of that disgusting place.

@TeacherTherapy

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much!! ❤️ 🤗

I was bullied at a private catholic school, by teachers and administration the students were so sweet and I love them but I couldn’t take it from the adults. Also I got in trouble because I told a kid to go wash his hands, when he refused I said you picked your nose pls wash your hands. After school I saw his mom walking out of the office and right after I got called to the principals and yelled for traumatizing a kids in her words. It was the worst experience. Parents were awful!

@TeacherTherapy

4 жыл бұрын

Sorry you went through that ☹. It is such a shame that teachers have to be afraid to give the tiniest corrections to kids these days for fear of parents overreacting. I am glad that you had a good experience with the kids though! That is a bright spot for sure! 😃

In all of my years of teaching I've never ever experienced nor have I ever heard of such an experience like this. It sounds like a Netflix movie. You weren't respected or protected not even from admin. I know you've since retired out of this career (I saw that video earlier today), but I'm so sorry that you had to go through all of this.

@nancyroberts8749

2 жыл бұрын

There is a movie from the fifties that describes a very similar situation. Two single women teachers were lied about by a couple of evil high school girls who also got away with it. At the movie's end the teacher's lives were ruined; the school closed and the liars just went on their merry way.

Hello :) I came here after coming across your comment on my channel. Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I completely relate to SO much of what you said. You are so brave to share all of this and I commend you for taking the time to share all of this with us. This needs to be heard by SO SO many people, especially school administrators and parents. I also relate to this SO much!!! When I worked in the private school setting, I had so many similar experiences. What you said about students who knew they were customers just resonated with me SO SO much!!!

@TeacherTherapy

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your support and solidarity Cristy!! :)

Wow, I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I worked at a private Catholic preschool. The kids all were very well behaved. There were a few behavior issues, but that would be addressed quickly with parent teacher director meetings. We also had a 3 strike policy. They would get removed. I think what helped so much was the fact that the environment and setting was set up in a way to be calm and inviting. We also had cameras in every room. The hard part was the emails. We had to check the emails everyday and had less than 24 hours to relpy. I did have experience with gossip, but was able to call someone out on it. There were also some piety fights between co works as well as gossip. That part was sad. Great teachers did leave because of the gossip and drama.

@TeacherTherapy

4 жыл бұрын

Hello Paola! It sounds like your school had a fair discipline policy in place which kept behaviors in check and motivated parents to work with their kids on problem behaviors. That is so good, and I honestly thought that is how my school would be too. It is a bummer that drama and gossip crept into your school though. I know no school or community culture is perfect, but I think the more a Christian community holds to Matthew 18 and refuses to fuel or allow gossip, the healthier things will be. As soon as people know that money and popularity buys immunity from standards the whole gig is up, and that is part of what happened at my school. There were many untouchables and everyone knew it, except for me, but once I found out it was too late. I learned a lot, and my naivety is just about gone now! I believe God will help the school over time though! Sadly I couldn't endure staying to help make that happen. :(

So sorry you had such a degrading experience. Thanks for being vulnerable and sharing your story.

This is really not okay. You should write to the supervising school board and the state board of education. This is SO not okay.

@akontilis1792

2 жыл бұрын

The sad fact is that private schools don't have an authority they answer to. If they are accredited, there is at least that level of oversight, but it isn't very easy for them to "catch" what is happening because they come to visit the school at scheduled time. It is definately not ideal. Those kids and families you dealt with have no doubt ruined other teachers lives, and it is probably still continuing to this day. But those families and those kids need our prayers.

I’m so sorry you had this experience and I admire your determination to finish the school year because I don’t know that I could have done that. Being a teacher is hard enough dealing with difficult students and parents and unsupportive administration but this is on a whole other level. I’m so glad to see that even though this got you down, you did not let it break you. Thank you for sharing!!

@TeacherTherapy

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your kind and supportive words Darria!! :) God Bless You!!

Sounds like Satan is taking down the Christian schools, too. Sigh. I'm glad I home schooled my 4 kids

@omowhanre

2 жыл бұрын

Or racism and entitlement that’s taking down the Christian schools

@RedScareClair

2 жыл бұрын

Satan? That's a cop out. This is a lack of parenting. Satan doesn't even have to get involved.

@KoreaMojo

2 жыл бұрын

You don't know about his four horns signifying his domains of power while he is the Prince of the earth?

@allmigthygoddess939

2 жыл бұрын

By the glory of Satan

What a horror show. I cannot believe anyone would deal with that for an entire year. You're amazing. Thank you for sharing this with us.

@TeacherTherapy

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your kind words! :)

I am sorry for your experience. Those people are not Christian and neither was the school.

This teacher has had it! I fantasize daily about quitting my job. The stress ain’t worth it. I only teach 20 hours. 🤦🏼‍♀️

@TeacherTherapy

3 жыл бұрын

I hope your experience gets better or that you are able to find a better fit. I know how hard it can be 🥺

I have been accused of being too nice, and I'm a veteran teacher. It is so often like being between a rock and a hard place. You have my complete admiration. I am a disabled white female who teaches in a rural area (an alternative campus) with a high urban population, but attributing potential behaviors to specific populations is not an exact science. There really is no way to know how they will respond. Some of my best and sweetest students have been those who others cast aside as being unmanageable. It is ultimately about personal choice and self-control. We are not miracle workers. Yet, I've stayed the course because I believe this is my calling. May God bless you on your journey.

@TeacherTherapy

4 жыл бұрын

Hello! :) Thanks for sharing your story with me! I am glad you have been able to stay in education in spite of its challenges, and I am also glad that you have been able to have success with really tough kiddos! I can't imagine working in an alternative school. I am also waaay to nice, so I understand how hard that dynamic is. God Bless you on your journey in education!! :)

My husband attended a white, upper class, catholic school as a kid in the 70s and 80s. He is half Japanese and half black. He was listening to your story here and was like I can tell that lady some STORIES about the kids AND parents AND teachers/admin in those types of schools. He tried to teach karate and music when he got out of the military in 05. He now refuses to teach kids at all. He teaches karate here and there but it took a lot of them convincing him. It was when a kid called my husband a nasty name for a black person, and the dojo owner kicked him out then and there along with the family and told anyone with the same feelings to get the f out. The private schools he attended in Japan were pretty bad too, as far as how he was treated and the racism. Even now, my husband insists that some of the Christian schools are home to some of the nastiest kids and parents. The parents reactions to you sound exactly how my Dad acted when I married my husband. Even now, 10 years in, my Dad refuses to speak his name or meet him. You are a saint for staying as long as you did. My husband would have walked out and let the school scramble to find a replacement. You didn’t deserve any of that

@TeacherTherapy

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Kristin 💓 I appreciate your kind words! Thanks for sharing your husband's story and your family story too. I truly hope the world can see more racial healing 🙏

@kristinsearight3813

4 жыл бұрын

Teacher Therapy I hope so too. I wake up every day praying that today is the day my child won’t have to convince someone her Daddy is her real Daddy. Stories like yours are a reminder that racism is alive and well. My husband is convinced an educated person cannot be racist because they know the history of the world and it’s people. Then we have teachers being told to teach to a script to kids and parents who also dictate what’s taught. I’m glad people like you are brave enough to stand up and be real about what’s happening. ❤️

I’m convinced that mean kids grow up to be mean adults. This is next level outrageous. So sorry you were treated sooooo badly. I hope you don’t have ptsd over it.

@TeacherTherapy

Жыл бұрын

Thank you soooo much!!! I'm grateful to feel much better now! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

This is a horror story. I'm so sorry that you had to go through it. I'm amazed you lasted the whole year. Those people all sound despicable.

@TeacherTherapy

Жыл бұрын

Thank you! ❤️❤️❤️

I empathize with how difficult all of this must have been. You are such a strong person for keeping your head up. I can't imagine dealing with this. I was a troubled student in high school and distracted the class but I don't remember any students personally attacking the teacher. Even the worst students didn't personally attack the teachers. They just didn't come to class. Fully support your decision to quit teaching...you're a bright person and I hate the idea of you getting depressed by this kind of environment.

@TeacherTherapy

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you 😊 ❤

Thank you for being so truthful. There is a good and bad side to everything. We all know that the elites get a pass and the less fortunate are ridiculed.

Sounds like a nightmare/twilight zone!!😳

@TeacherTherapy

4 жыл бұрын

Yes it sure felt that way! I am glad I got out of there after a year! :)

Amazing testimony!! I went through Teachers of Tomorrow Program. I’m teaching Middle Grades English Language Arts. So far so good but I appreciate your story.

As someone who left a private teaching job at a Catholic school this year, it's insane how similar our stories sound. There was a situation where a parent drunkenly asked a black student if she could call her the N-word, stories about "hook-up swapping" between families, and all kinds of excused bad behavior from students and "You can't fail this student" talks because of how rich some parents were.

@TeacherTherapy

Жыл бұрын

Sorry you had to deal with all that. ❤ I hope you find a better working environment! 🙏

OMG...I also taught at a "somewhere" Christian Academy in the Midwest. My experience was different though...up until my 5th year. Our sdministrator changed and she was racist. I had to leave because I couldn't function under her, then she up and left 2yrs after I quit. I was done in March, I had my stuff packed at Spring Break. The ONLY reason I didn't leave mid year was because 2 other teachers did...and the kids were so broken up...I couldn't do it to mine. I was also the only black teacher and black families were sparse...they've gotten better about Kingdom diversity but things could have gone the other direction.

@TeacherTherapy

4 жыл бұрын

Wow that sounds like an intense situation! If 2 other teachers left before you, there must have been issues at the school it sounds like. It is good to hear that the school eventually started to improve though! :)

You are such a strong soul and inspiration!

@TeacherTherapy

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much!!! :)

I’m so sorry that this was your experience. I can relate to it; I know it’s hard. I taught in a public school and had several students who attended my church. Honestly, some of their parents were the nastiest, most hurtful ones I encountered. They definitely weren’t acting like Jesus. . . It was very defeating.

Jesus Christ, that sounds like hell. I’d gotta say, you are a very strong person. To go through that and not commit a severe crime or having a mental breakdown takes a lot of resilience. If I was in your position, I’d go so berserk that I’d make the major battles of WWII look like firework festivals on independence day in comparison. Thank goodness that you are in a better place in life and are recovering from this incident

@TeacherTherapy

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you 🥰

So very sorry you were put through that hell. Thanks for sharing your experience. Hope you are in a much better place now - you seem like an awesome person and I would have loved to have someone like you for my teacher!

@TeacherTherapy

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much!! ❤️

"It was like a cult." I almost dropped my drink.

@TeacherTherapy

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely; I still look back on it as one of the worst years of my life 🥺, but God is good, and I'm glad that I'm free now 🙏

I can 100% believe this. I know what these sort of towns are like. I'm so sorry that you were treated so poorly. Screw that school.

What a hideous experience. I am so sad and sorry you went through it. I’ve taught for 30 years and sadly know it is not uncommon at all. If you stay in education and find yourself in any situation that gives you pause, ask that person to put it in writing. Document everything and forward copies to a personal email that cannot ‘disappear’ if you need or decide to take legal action. Video is also powerful. Some alternatives to education? The best I have found are project managing in IT, educational publishing, and teaching internationally. The latter is best with a master’s degree, which you have. You are beautifully well spoken, clearly intelligent, and kind. There are people who aren’t. I wish you the best finding a joyous future free from such chowderheads.

@TeacherTherapy

4 жыл бұрын

Hello Stella Kelly! Thank you so much for sharing your experiences and kind words! Everything you said is so encouraging! God Bless you!! :)

@stellakelly9542

4 жыл бұрын

Teacher Therapy If you aren’t in edu, you wouldn’t know how hard it is. Bless you right back my friend!

I don't know how I came across your channel, but I am so glad I did. Your story is so heartbreaking that my anxiety level increased just listening to you. I was able to relate to everything you said. I've experienced some of the most horrible experiences of my life as a teacher. And although it was a painful experience, I chose to stay. I didn't stay in it for the "vacation time" and definitely not the money. I stayed in the teaching profession because I wanted to make a difference in the lives of my students. Sometimes I regret staying because I now feel trapped in this constant cycle of "teacher PTSD". And using the term PTSD is not to make light of what someone in the military might experienced. However, it is a way to explain my constant nightmares and trauma at the hands of the educational system. I am glad that you have found purpose in your pain because this video has definitely ministered to me. It shows me that I am not alone, and other people understand what I have gone through. ❤️

@TeacherTherapy

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing your experiences 🙏 I believe teacher PTSD is real for sure 🥺 I hope you are able to find a career that brings you joy ❤

Kudos to the students who were letting you know about the rumors. As a middle schooler I didn't care much about teachers personal life, except when they used it as an example or talked about it in class. I had one favorite teacher per grade typically English or social studies. My brother was stingy about teachers taking smoke breaks during class in 6th grade, which I was taught was a moral failing at the time. But that was the most of the middle school rumors we heard.

I had the same experience when I was teaching K-8 art. Grades k-5 were fine, but for grades 6-8 I was just a babysitter. Students would make up lies, destroy equipment, steal supplies (I would pass out 30 pairs of scissors from my art car and get only 12 back, and the kids would tell me to "just buy some more"). No consequences were effective with these kids. Parents' phone numbers were not valid. A lot of students had detention scheduled every day until the end of the year, so that didn't work. The Admin was unable or unwilling to do anything. Ask for help, and Admin would use that as evidence against my teaching ability. If the Admin couldn't help at all, they'd just say "well, part of teaching is learning to manage a classroom". Middle school kids are basically forced to work at a job they cannot be fired from.

@TeacherTherapy

2 жыл бұрын

So true! Thanks for sharing your experiences!

This video about your experiences was highly distressing to listen to. I went through some of the same things in a previous environment and listening to this brought me back. I had to pause and reflect a few times and the emotions were overwhelming as it brought me to tears. My detractors were my colleagues - other women, mainly white women (but not only, but they were most successful at it, because they were most covert). They did exactly what you talked about. They smiled in my face, and then spun innocent, meaningless nuggets I told them about myself (because I'm introverted and don't share much) into elaborate lies, which they spread. Although I'm quiet, soft-spoken, passive and conflict-avoidant, they successfully portrayed me as a troublemaker, aggressive and a violent threat. I had no clue of what was going on behind my back. When people make up lies, they know how to choose lies that stimulate pre-existing biases in others' brains. They also make up the lies early and to people we haven't yet met or don't know well, because this allows them to create confirmation bias - they will view everything we say or do as proof of who they've already decided we are. My career was destroyed before it had a chance to begin. They destroyed my name and though it can't affect me now, it's a matter of honor and principle and I can't wait for the day I can speak out as you have. I now work in tech and have been with the same company for a handful of years since it was a startup. Oddly, colleagues are white men and mostly conservative, but I don't have these issues. My self-perception was so bad after my past that I felt lucky I was hired and kept, but they have shown they genuinely value me and respect me. I make a conscious effort to have female friends and companionship off work, as I just have male energy at work day-to-day. But I'm embarrassed to admit I fear the day another woman comes to work here. I have PTSD as it relates to working with other women, unfortunately, and white women in particular. I'm afraid that it would all start again, being portrayed as a troublemaker and aggressive threat, and ruin my reputation and career and everything I've worked for. I guess it's important to document everything you're aware of, like sabotage or passive-aggressive behavior, but we can only do so much if most of it is behind our backs and organized. Now it feels like my experience just happened yesterday, because I'm reliving it. I'm glad we're both doing better. You should maybe consider being a private tutor? Teaching and helping professions are hell for black women. :(

@TeacherTherapy

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing your story, and I'm so sorry that you endured that nightmare. Character attacks are so damaging because once people have made up their mind about you, even attempts to build bridges and move forward are viewed with suspicion. I can relate to how you feel because the pain of that school year still feels fresh even though it was over 5 years ago. 💔 I am definitely glad that I can talk about it, because getting it out definitely helps! Best wishes on your journey! 💕

Sounds like a quote from “Mona Lisa Smile” “be careful, they have claws under their white gloves, the parents, their kids, the board”

Similar experience here except that I am a White Male that was in a nearly all Black school in the Houston area. Prejudiced people will make your life Hell when they outnumber you and you're not part of the group. There is no winning in this kind of situation and it's best to just move along before they can cause long-term professional harm.

@TeacherTherapy

Жыл бұрын

Sorry to hear that you had a similar experience 🥺 I hope you are in a better situation now! ❤️

@richardhead548

8 ай бұрын

There was a time when we did not capitalize the words white and black.

I can see why a lot of people don't want to be teachers now. Why would you want to commit yourselves to that misery?

I really appreciate you sharing your experience! I am a future teacher and I am grateful for your channel. 🙏

@TeacherTherapy

4 жыл бұрын

Hi C Marie! I appreciate your support! :) God Bless!!

I'm a private school teacher and I can relate to a LOT of what you're saying. My school offers a very relaxed, informal environment compared to the rigidity of public school and students took gross advantage of that. Daily occurrences of kids walking into my classroom late and starting a conversation right in the middle of my lesson, kids starting a conversation with their neighbor right in the middle of me talking, incredibly disrespectful and entitled behavior. When I was growing up in public school it was rough, there were bad and disrespectful students but kids did not act like this in public school, they knew they were supposed to be quiet and in their seat the whole time. The students here were used to their school being basically daycare (the lockdowns didn't help with that as they had basically no enforceable expectations put on them for a full year) , so when I came in and expected things out of them they pushed back, hard. Fortunately I felt very supported by the administration and most parents, eventually most students warmed up to me, and I did not have to deal with students spreading rumors about me or anything comparable to the insane nastiness of parents that you experienced, so I am continuing to teach there for the foreseeable future. Sorry you had that experience!

What??? Unbelievable! But having been a teacher myself I believe you! Just terribly sad!

Oh my goodness! I am so sorry this happened to you. I wish I could go to this school and tell them all "Shame on you!!" That is just not acceptable at ALL. My kids attend a Lutheran school, and after school today I told them this story and asked if they ever see anything like this at their school (they don't). Their school offers a TON of financial assistance-with at least 50% of students (including our family) receiving some kind of assistance. There are rich families, of course, but there are also many average families, like ours. It is also very diverse, probably the most diverse Christian school in this area. Years ago I taught at Christian schools, and my first year experience wasn't great (it made me wonder if this could be "your school" LOL, as it is in the Midwest, and in a wealthy small town close to a large town). Of course I didn't experience racism, as I am White, but this experience just makes me want to preach a sermon to whomever did this to you!! Bless you for all that you do with sharing your experiences on here.

Wow!! Im so sorry you had to endure that. You sound like a lovely person.

@TeacherTherapy

7 ай бұрын

Thank you so much! ❤️

Thanks for this video. You told it so well that I could imagine being in your shoes - and it was horrifying to imagine it. And today, that was just what I needed. I needed to remember others' suffering at the hands of persons of evil intent, to get me out of getting over-focused on my own related bad teaching experience. My experince was also that of a person/teacher of good will, pouring my all into being my 100% best I could be, and teaching the best I could - but in my case, the abuse came from direct supervisors (I had three! (Two were active, one a bystander/enabler). There's WAY more administration positions these days than there used to be. And yes, the useless meetings, the convoluted observation evaluations - it is too much. You mention videos on this and I will look for them. This is the first video of yours I have seen (besides the "Quit - Gen X" one I watched just before this one - also well done). You are easy to listen to, and you have something to say. I believe the dysfunction of the schools and of Gen X, and further back, is on purpose: stress out the parents, stress out the teachers, let kids run wild, because we don't WANT educated and thinking people, because such people are tough to control. They WANT people to be more like animals. Compulsory pre-school - 12 education is their hot house for creating that. We teachers are cogs in that system. We are full-on into that agenda/plan. My story of my awful year is long, and I don't know how to tell it, but I hope to, one day, somewhere. I imagine it was cathartic to share yours here, which you did so well. It must be great story/testinmony how God helped you move past it. I hope you tell that sometime. So thanks for horrifying me out of my own discouragement that I am re-experiencing today (because of a very real trigger). My bad experience with a district I poured my life into for a year, while suffering under bully-administrators who made my life difficult for the fun of it - because that is what bullies DO. They NEED that high they get from bullying, and I was their chosen victim. It's a story to say why, but one thing that made me a target was wearing a cross. My bullies wrecked a different kind of havoc because of their power positions -- but you had WAY more bullies, in your face DAILY: the students, their parents, and your fellow staff (while your admin were bystanders/enablers - when truly it was their job to intervene. They did not do their job, and they will have to answer to God for that. Very frightening.) Like you, I stuck it out all year, but if I ever was in a like situation, I would now recognize it sooner, and leave as soon as I saw. But the Lord says we are in great days of justice, and justice is coming very SOON! He will vincate us all for the injustices steming from those who love the evil one and all his evil ways. God is speaking and speaking through so many prophets telling us that the days of those who side with evil are very, very short! These are the Days of Justice fortold in scripture. These are the Days of Elijah, says God, and He says we are about to see a greater exodus than in the book of Exodus. Pharoh and his army will be no more. We will exit out of this evil world system, and begin to live like the Kingdom we pray for in the Our Father, how He intended for us to live. God is about to act mightily. Everything our enemies have planned against us is about to turn back on them. God is going to clean them out and their evil agendas, and He is going to pour His glory out on earth. He will expose for the world the depth of the evil of our enemies, the the people will be shocked and outraged. All those who love good in any way will see and know that God is God, and turn to Him, and thirst for Him. Stadiums will be packed - not for athletic events, but to hear about God! The now-godless young are going to turn to Him in droves. God says that this young generation will have a "reverse sexual revolution". He says He will so much pour His glory out on them that young people will heal classmates in the name of Jesus in the schoolrooms, the cafeterias and playgrounds! Christians will walk by hospitals and morgues and pray and they will be emptied! Yes, it is all about to change! God says we will be celebrities in Heaven for having lived in these great, great days of God's glory! God is going to have His way, and the world will praise His name as never before! These will be the days - some say a few generations long - of God's glorious Kingdom on earth: the Kingdom Age, that comes just before the last days. It is a great, great time of refreshing and renewing and rest from these long evil times. God's people will be strenthened for those hard last days. Remember, in these coming days, when it seems darkenss is becoming oppressing, that it will not be so bad: the bad is for the evil ones, not us. God will sustain us, and it won't last long. It is darkest before the dawn. We are about to dawn a wonderful, wonderful day!

@TeacherTherapy

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing your story and for being so encouraging! God Bless you!!! :)

So sorry this happened to you. I started recording my lessons and posting them to the Google classroom website That squashed much of it.

@sayeedharem4673

Жыл бұрын

You are smart to utilize the technology available to your era . Old recorders were huge cumbersome and muffled. It's vital that for your sanity you get some type of vindication . They are always horrible to teachers who haven't got any kids yet they sort of terrorise you and bully you because they want you to age and be stressed out and haggered like them . Most of these parents aren't tactile or affectionate it's all about who they know and what their money and power can get them whilst simultaneously hating anybody who does things differently from them . Definitely play them as they do you .If their critical and make jokes then get on the internet with a pseudonym and talk about them .A great stress reliever.take photos of them and stick pins into a mood board anything psychological games they can play you can too .

Oh man!! Sorry you had to feal with that. Kids in general have really started pushing boundaries! I had a tough year in 2nd grade. I was constantly interrupted and talked over. All my students except 4 withdrew. I dont have a job at this charter school next year.

@TeacherTherapy

4 жыл бұрын

Hi Shannon! Thanks for empathizing with me! :) It is amazing how tough student behavior can be with both young and old kiddos! Hopefully you can find a better job situation next year! Are you going to keep teaching?

@shannonbrown560

4 жыл бұрын

@@TeacherTherapy I am not sure. I think I will start substitute teaching. But, I do feel burned out on the energy it takes lately. If I knew what else to do, I would be doing something different.

@TeacherTherapy

4 жыл бұрын

@@shannonbrown560 I totally understand! I am in a similar boat; I am so used to education that it feels hard to figure out what to do. I have thought about subbing, or being a para or even an ISS teacher. I have also thought about instructional coaching, but it all sounds stressful for sure. Best of luck with your decision :)

I'm so sorry that you experienced this. I pray that you are in a better space. 🙏

That’s a den of vipers! I’m so sorry for all of this and I am so GRATEFUL FOR YOU AND YOUR CHANNEL!!!! May God bless you and keep you all the days of your life! ❤

@TeacherTherapy

7 ай бұрын

Thank you so much! ❤️❤️❤️

@2:37 You and me both! I could go on and on, but probably the story that stands out most is the time a student had a D or an F and the parent emailed me saying how dare I didn't give their kid an A...that they sent their kid to a Christian school so the teachers would be Jesus-like....cause you know, Jesus said, "Thou shall not give lazy kids bad grades."

@TeacherTherapy

3 жыл бұрын

LOL 😆