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@joykinya289

2 жыл бұрын

Lynn tafadhali remember me

@life-tech-talks

2 жыл бұрын

@@vincentmboya stop clout chasing here. No one forced you to watch it.

@kerrykerry602

2 жыл бұрын

She doest knw what she is missing kale kafeeling mtu ufeel akiwa na mtoto wake but anyway kila mtu namaisha yake

@abcdg1995

2 жыл бұрын

That's stupidity at it's highest level Why do people keep breading if they can't a fford children. .oh my God help this confused generation

@OFFICIALCHARITYWILLY

2 жыл бұрын

@lynngugi I loved it, showing people have diverse opinions. I've subscribed to her channel. She gat good content as well...

Each time i look at this lady, i see a lady who knows what she wants no matter what the society thinks....

I have kids and it's hard being pregnant, giving birth and raising them. I fully understand where she is coming from if I knew what i know now about the realities of life, i probably will not have kids. Don't get me wrong i love my babies and will die for them, but it's hard work especially with an unsupportive partner.

This is better than having kids and not take good care of them

Bringing a child to this world is a lifetime commitment, therefore no one should feel compelled to have one. It is completely a personal choice

@meekamagove6901

2 жыл бұрын

True

@lucylattrell4020

2 жыл бұрын

Very true.

@wirasworld.2413

2 жыл бұрын

Yeeeees

@Azulakayes

2 жыл бұрын

I agree, I have one kid and I definitely don't want another.

@rkhugues8052

2 жыл бұрын

@@Azulakayes pls allow me to add you one

I'm 38 I've never wanted kids. I love my life solo. I've been judged called or Sort of names but I live better than them. So people should let people be how they want to live.

@kadzo6614

2 жыл бұрын

40. No kids

@ooccss

2 жыл бұрын

43 male, No kids never married

@Sarah-pq7wx

2 жыл бұрын

45 female no kids

@annrima7824

2 жыл бұрын

40 no kids either and very ok

As a member of team #childlessbychoice I love everything she had to say! Let the rest of us enjoy our travel, businesses, dogs, and ageless visage!

@shiruwampesa9285

2 жыл бұрын

Louder please. I love all what she said!! Tuwachwe tu jibambe please

@wangugithui9113

Жыл бұрын

Child free by choice. No kids for me thanks

Even if you lay yourself down and became a mat people will still complain your not flat enough

@linetatieno4594

2 жыл бұрын

That's true

@winniethiongo7778

2 жыл бұрын

😂😂😅😅

@randomzwithdaisy254

2 жыл бұрын

I always say if you cut up and cook yourself to feed people,they will say you didn't do it the right way.

@winnieblnr

2 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣

@MagdalenaIsaiah43

2 жыл бұрын

Best comment I've seen so far. It deserves ten thousand likes❣️❣️❣️

Society expectations have robbed many people of living up to their potential abilities and happiness. Am glad she knows what she want and lives it 👌

@wanyamuthimookariuki2012

2 жыл бұрын

Hope she doesnt alter her abilities if gifted and later on feel otherwise change of mind...her feeling now maybe shortlived for now she has maid a choice

@wanyamuthimookariuki2012

2 жыл бұрын

You can do your mom afavour if you have one she can feel very disadvantaged if you deny them kuitwaa cucu ...your parents extra understanding

@reginawanjiru9443

2 жыл бұрын

@@wanyamuthimookariuki2012 so she should have a child to please her parents and why do you assume she's an only child and if she's an only child it will be her decision if she wants kids because why have children due to societal pressure and end up abondoning them

@sandramorgan1700

2 жыл бұрын

Lots of women and man have kids and abondan them because they didn't want them it happens by accident.

@wanyamuthimookariuki2012

2 жыл бұрын

@@reginawanjiru9443 dont worry each season of our lives we are allowed to reason diffrently...

Interesting discussion. Not easy though. The African woman has been socialized in a strong patriarchal society that dictates how she should live her life. When she choses differently she is judged harshly. My take is that God gifted the woman with a womb. A spiritual womb and a physical womb. If she choses not to bear children (with her physical womb) she can still birth other things such as a business empire and other causes, passions and hobbies that she choses. I think that a woman's greatest weapon is self love. Once we understand this we will never live our lives trying to please society and the expectations of others. We will, like Muthoni fight aggressively to love ourselves and live life according to our own terms. This is a true awakening that is happening in the collective womanhood. Unfortunately women who choose this lifestyle are fought by their fellow women. Most women are on autopilot living their lives as society has dictated. But many are awakening and chosing themselves first. Unapologetically like Muthoni. I salute you Muthoni. Lynn as always........great content. Keep up the great work.

@larabraver

2 жыл бұрын

What a powerful statement. 👌

@betty541

2 жыл бұрын

My thoughts exactly, except I am not nearly as articulate as you are. I am sure you speak for a lot of us. Thank you!

As a 34yr old African guy who's never going to have kids, I completely agree with everything she says.. I'm there too

@wanzaleppanen1400

2 жыл бұрын

🖤

@gracemuriuki7963

2 жыл бұрын

As a child-free African woman, it's refreshing to see an African man who is confident enough to say this.

@goldenme8324

2 жыл бұрын

I am 34years old African woman who is never going to have children, I am happy with my choice

@keziahzziwa2625

2 жыл бұрын

Time will come, when u can not be in position to get children anymore. U will desire to get children.

@ooccss

2 жыл бұрын

43 yr old guy, no kids! Never married

Deciding not to have a child is one of the most unselfish decision ever. Children are given responsibilities before they are even born - to repair a marriage, to please parents etc. being a parent is not easy. let us normalize giving to children when we want to. otherwise we will continue to raise damaged kids right, left and center. Good job Lynn for this conversation.

@bettyk9771

2 жыл бұрын

Agree. After my first son which I had during my college, decided I will not have more children and now that I am 34, I think I’m done. Parenting is hard and it’s fair if I don’t inflict suffering on any more

@TheFrancesZachary

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed, that having children is grossly over-rated. Let each person do what God wants them to do.

@nic2447

2 жыл бұрын

💯

@whatstrending1232

2 жыл бұрын

very sane comment i totally support.

@Wrutjety

2 жыл бұрын

You are right. Having children that you can't raise is the most selfish decision in the world.

Being childless by choice is normal and its about time we as Africans embraced it as a reality. Not everyone was meant to be a parent.

@rosewanjiku4681

2 жыл бұрын

I cannot count how many times I've said that not everyone was meant to be a parent.

@zeDolls

2 жыл бұрын

true

@myinsignificantopinion799

2 жыл бұрын

Childfree here and having a blast!!

I Also have never wanted kids. Not even a partner. I knew since I was a pre-teen that I wanted to do life solo. At 34, this still hasn't changed. I love my little, imaginative , reclusive world.

@shironjuguna5853

2 жыл бұрын

Enjoy your life! Don't let people define you!

@emmaatieno7057

2 жыл бұрын

I have always felt this way too

@faithwamaitha3839

2 жыл бұрын

Enjoy Kabisa.

@theresaelizabethelijah117

2 жыл бұрын

Iam 40 yrs old now and still Single without kids but iam pretty fine i enjoy my life each and everyday to the fullest with no regrets, it wasi'nt my plan but God's plan and iam greatfull and fine with it 🙏🏾🥂🍾🥳💃🏾❤️❤️❤️

@ruthmugure5339

2 жыл бұрын

@@theresaelizabethelijah117 Enjoy life girl

Wow here is something that makes sense to my situation. I want to have my kids through adoption. And that has been disputed big time by friends and family. Well, that's what I WANT. And it's what I'm doing. My family is slowly beginning to agree with me and the good thing is, they love me. My friends won't agree with me and they don't have to. First baby next year through adoption. Glory to God.

@millionairess9680

2 жыл бұрын

Do you mama. YOLO

@janewambui4090

2 жыл бұрын

Go go Janet those ophans also need love

@janetwairagu4462

2 жыл бұрын

Here is me another Janet supporting you.personally I won't lie , but having kids especially when I'm 35....I got here and realised that if I have kids I will be putting my life as Janet on hold until they are 18..during which I may resent them a bit. So for me I'd need a very liberal man for a husband who will give me as much attention as the child we may/will have. Can may/-have be a topic people discuss during dating and can we be okay with it ? E.g. I don't want to inherit my family's big image ...And that's okay. I don't want to inherit their business.... And thatsbokay... It's an choice that nice made for myself that doesnt have anything to do with anyone else and that SHOULD STILL MAKE YOU ENOUGH as a person. So I'm here Janet I support u

@florarugu2804

2 жыл бұрын

Me too am 33 and iwill do the same

@pennynjambi6109

2 жыл бұрын

Adopt mine

I know men who also don't want children. You can also tell by how many run from pregnancies they are responsible for and the number of children left unfathered . Thanks for this conversation.

@bin579

2 жыл бұрын

those ones are called "irresponsible" not childfree. If they were childfree or didnt want children there are plenty of semi-permanent contraceptives available for the man to use including an implant and the male pill AND they could have a vasectomy.

@darkcontinentschild2962

2 жыл бұрын

@@bin579 Exactly! That was a very ignorant comment to make. Child free means you never had them and don’t want to, not from abandoning them😩🤦🏾‍♀️

This is a conversation we need to discuss more. We have soo many people parenting while they shouldn't even have been parents in the 1st place.

@joangitau4375

2 жыл бұрын

Yes! Thank you Regina Gitahi!

@helenkihara1471

2 жыл бұрын

This us so true. So many people shouldn't have children. I know so many who have had children and abdicated their duties recorders in the family

@annienjambi1542

2 жыл бұрын

Very true

@missjema5664

2 жыл бұрын

You spoke my mind

@rehemasiama4765

2 жыл бұрын

@Regina Gitahi your words are worth a million bucks

I'd love to hear men's opinion on this, I rarely hear men say they don't want kids yet we have so many children growing up fatherless. It's ironic

@ellenpaul678

2 жыл бұрын

Men actually are screaming they do not want children otherwise why do they run away from responsibility?

@catherinemacharia5801

2 жыл бұрын

Ellen.. I hear you, but isn't that what contraception is for? A man that doesn't ask himself questions about the possibilities of creating a life after raw sex isn't mature enough to be having sex in the first place. Pregnancy is the responsibility of 2 people, if men don't want kids this bad I wonder why we have very low tolerance and use for vasectomies.. it's a sure way of the man taking charge of the situation.. have sex without spilling your seeds allover the place. There's even an option of freezing sperms for future use... That's much cheaper than creating a whole human being then neglecting them, raising Kids without father figures only for them to grow up traumatized n in need of therapy guys let's do better

@paulysutsiey649

2 жыл бұрын

@@ellenpaul678 the same men will condemn her and the only argument they normally use is "what if your mum made same decision as you? "

@anonnona6433

2 жыл бұрын

Men do not carry that baby for 9months. They do not boob feed. So, having live sex with a woman does not mean the man wants to be a father 😆😆😆😆. For me, I would rather every woman out there takes 100% responsibility for the decision to conceive or not to. Do not depend on the man to make that decision for you

@mimimercy4866

2 жыл бұрын

very true, very unfortunate many african men never take responsibility, they hit and run

Muthoni is honest and openminded As a Mother I respect her choice, being a mother is a lifetime commitment If you don't want kids it is OK Do not bring broken kids to this world

@marykiio304

2 жыл бұрын

It's true

I am 61, and should never have had a child. The kid turned out okay in spite of me. Ladies, NEVER give into anyone else’s ideals.

Some people are busy saying that they want to give birth so they can be remembered by their generations...lmao😂😂😂.How many times do you think about your great grand parents?

@linetatieno4594

2 жыл бұрын

Good question

@suzzyhumphrey8902

2 жыл бұрын

Imagine such archaic thinking....I always remind people about Shakespeare. His bloodline ended with his grandchildren. So this nonsense of legacy by giving birth doesn't make sense. We remember him for his literary works, not children!!

@sallyk1176

2 жыл бұрын

@@suzzyhumphrey8902 Exactly!

@sallyk1176

2 жыл бұрын

@@suzzyhumphrey8902 look at the likes of mother Teresa,she touched so many souls yet she didn't have her own kids..Oprah is doing great too..

@malaikaking5550

2 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣

I'm a black woman in her late 30's,I never wanted to have kids,while I was in my twenties I thought maybe I will change my mind in my thirties and want my own kids, but nee. I don't understand why we are being crucified for our own choices.

@susankimwana5426

2 жыл бұрын

I once said this to my sister and she hates me for that ...I don't need kids ...nooo ..its me and me alone...am.okay that way ..kids are expensive ,even if they are a blessing, I don't want ..am okay with God

@winnieadhiambo8351

2 жыл бұрын

I love this ...atleast am not going astray ...am 24 completing my degree ,,I don't want kids , I don't want marriage and everyone is here judging me .

@florarugu2804

2 жыл бұрын

At least ihave someone who can understand me

@myinsignificantopinion799

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome to the club. Never wanted kids, I'm in my 40s now and I haven't changed my mind. I can hop from.one end of the world to another. The same as I can stay in bed all day, or pray alone for 4 hours on some days. Life is really good. Praise God.

Always so happy to see other childfree people especially in Kenya. Muthoni keep doing your thing! 🙂

@starlittarot1925

2 жыл бұрын

Yes

@ooccss

2 жыл бұрын

There's a number of us

I love Muthoni,she lives her life unapologetic...such a vibe

As a mother I just love my kids and they are a beautiful blessing,to me raising them requires personal commitment,positivity and true love. I feel it's better for her to do what pleases her because it's a pain to raise a child when you are not ready psychologically.

@kazmorich

2 жыл бұрын

correct!

@theugandanvillagewife6647

2 жыл бұрын

Well said and besides we are all different and think differently and have personal choices

@murugiwanganga

2 жыл бұрын

Well said

@constancekoech8346

2 жыл бұрын

💯

@jacintahgitau2336

2 жыл бұрын

Îni ûmagûthage ta ngofu na tikwenda...

This is one strong lady,she is fully in control of her body.

Wow wow wow! This is such an amazing conversation. Having kids is just the tip of the iceberg for societal expectations for women. We haven’t even touched on marriage, abortion, family planning and many more topics. Like if a woman wants to have her tubes tied she must get the consent of her husband and doctors even refuse to go through with it if the woman is single but if a man wants a vasectomy no one coughs or asks him for his partner’s consent. Lynn thank you for this brilliant interview and love you Muthoni for always speaking your mind and living life how you want to. We 👏🏼need 👏🏼more 👏🏼of 👏🏼these 👏🏼discussions 👏🏼

I’m a mother and I respect Muthoni’s decision. My son has a proffessional job and has already told me not to expect grand children. Let’s not judge others lets people live and do what makes them happy.

@esperanzawanjiru2435

2 жыл бұрын

Your son is young and frustrated by women i promise you by the time he is thate the story will be different!

@stardustboy94

2 жыл бұрын

@@esperanzawanjiru2435 You don‘t know her son stop assuming things.

@paulysutsiey649

2 жыл бұрын

@@stardustboy94 acting as a know it all, who told him the son has not hit thate as he's putting it.

@crystalchelagat4770

2 жыл бұрын

@@esperanzawanjiru2435 lmao. Ati you promise 😄😄😄

Let's normalize a child free life. Kudos Msoo for living your life unapologetically.

I was here shouting saying yaas preach.. Muthoni speaks the truth we are all scared to face..Women should decide what they want with their bodies and the fact that having a baby means literally another life.. I don't think we think enough about what that even means.. Shine Muthoni ☀️And religion lol😂it's just how the church is so ready and okay really to see so many hungry neglected children but the minute you say I want to decide if I even want to have or keep a baby then suddenly let's talk about the Bible.. Our bodies our choice ❤️

@linkedozone2857

2 жыл бұрын

It's shallow to always drive everything towards the gender dirt road. This is not about just women, wonder woman. Men too choose not to have kids and still get the same bashing socially. Nick Ndeda even had a vasectomy trying not to have kids. Ignore that for likes and hopes that some NGO will pick it up and crown you a champ of all feminists. I am for human rights, not these divisive activists who practice reverse discrimination.

@rogath_silayo

2 жыл бұрын

The matter is not your body...the fact is she is weak..let her perish and it is the end of her generation!!!!!the strong will survive the weak will perish that's how nature works!!

@bin579

2 жыл бұрын

@@rogath_silayo woiye.. you have come to glorify your ancestors with these two bob thoughts of yours.. you should have been a period.

Wow.... the comment section is encouragingly POSITIVE! I was hesitant to scroll down fearing a hate train. Sending love to Muthoni..💙💜

Muthoni i totally respect your decision. Me i made my choice to have children and nobody asked me why i want children.

A smart woman once told me that, if you ultimately decide not to have children, you should prepare yourself for other’s misperceptions, however. Many will believe you either are unable to have children, dislike children or are selfish. Lets follow our hearts and instincts..

People marry for companionship , but those companionship have turned out to be death traps . Follow your heart .

My mother gave me the best advice: she said, 'don't have children'... love it, n it matched my own personal decision, as well as my sister's decision not to have kids 👌🏾🙌🏾 #KnowWhatYouWant #Free #LiveForMe #TravelTheWorld #LiveFully #SayNoToSocietalPressure

@J.G7088

2 жыл бұрын

This is interesting😂. Few mothers would do that.

@IAmOfwona

2 жыл бұрын

@@J.G7088 ur right, n that's what I admire about her

@lyamasisasa1035

2 жыл бұрын

i have my mini me na we are ngoing places , this pressure i throw it out of the window. kindly you want more take my husband and have more with him.

I am a mother but if I have to go back to my 21 year old self I would choose not to have babies. This is your choice girl.

Jeannie from 'The Real' is pregnant now BTW.so unexpected, no one saw it coming, she was Just as adamant all through her 10 years of marriage with her ex, worked on herself,met The perfect man for her and now they are going to have a baby😂😂😂she says it takes a man to love you the right way to have you change your mind.So on The flip side, never say never but also do what makes you happy.

@estherdesnah8672

2 жыл бұрын

I was to this to yeah I was surprised as well

@kananamurithi8034

2 жыл бұрын

Soo happy for Jeannie. Being loved right is everything.

@wanjiru93

2 жыл бұрын

Right, we say things sometimes then end up doing different coz the circumstances change.

@bluebird4815

2 жыл бұрын

Sometimes, it take the right partner to want certain things like marriage and children. So just coz Jeannie changed her mind, doesn't mean others will.

@katrainbow5047

2 жыл бұрын

It's just a trend in US most people on lime light want to have black mixed babies..to fit in..to be more acceptable..that's Jennifer for you.. Kardashians trend...

Next let’s hear from those who don’t want to get married because having children and being married are not at achievement, the African girl is brought up with those two titles on their head like it’s already chosen for you and you don’t have a say, I love kids and being asked why I want more at 42 is annoying like it’s my choice haya I just love children. The bible is clear on marriage, remaining single and having families if you can’t provide don’t, The apostles were not married for a reason

@benedictkiilu6552

2 жыл бұрын

Going astray dear

@Azulakayes

2 жыл бұрын

I get it, marriage is so hard and its definitely not for everyone. Its okay not to want to get married, strange but okay. I used to feel strange seeing women who are just alone and I used to think they were lonely but I have a couple of good single friends who aren't married and they don't have kids and they are so happy and content. My mind is more open now.

@beckyisaac538

2 жыл бұрын

Yes Google point 👌it's not an achievement but imprisonment

@melsaotieno1234

2 жыл бұрын

The apostles were not married for reasons😂😂😂😂😂

@mamawatorotalks8208

2 жыл бұрын

@@melsaotieno1234 absolutely and they advised those who would rather stay single to be single marriage is not a must one can be celibate if they can handle it

It's amazing to me that people say being childfree is selfish. I am actively choosing not to bring someone into this world who doesn't get to decide whether or not they want to come. That to me, is selfless. More than half of today's parents are in no position: mentally, financially, psychologically to raise a human being. Let them stay in the world of non-existence until you are prepared to raise children in a stable home on every front. There is nothing selfish about that.

@shiigitonga494

2 жыл бұрын

My thoughts exactly.

@gracemuriuki7963

2 жыл бұрын

Preach! As a childfree person, I think our society really did a number on women in terms of expectations

Only have children if you can provide for them; emotionally, financially etc

I think life is all about personal decisions, and no external influence should persuade you to take a certain action due to societal pressure. Good work as always @Lynn Ngugi

@wanjirukarago9308

2 жыл бұрын

Kabisa💯✅

@derrickngaywa3197

2 жыл бұрын

I think "all" is an overstatement life has never just been absolute thats reality doesn't matter what sweet words need to explain, there also extrinsic factors and environmental beyond one's personal decision.

To each their own, having children is not an ACHIEVEMENT. Let people be!

@angelawambui1468

2 жыл бұрын

Kweli kabisa.ladies your decisions your life.

@carolinemuthoni6551

2 жыл бұрын

Kwanza vile watoi wanateseka huku nje. Weeeeeh. Watu wapewe nafasi ya kumake decision yao.

@faithkinyanjui8903

2 жыл бұрын

Well said sis

@virginiahmathu9427

2 жыл бұрын

She even doesn't know whether she is capable of getting one. Hiyo ni siri ya Mungu, maana yeye ndiye mwenye uhai.

@furahahappiness110

2 жыл бұрын

Preach mama 🙌

Bringing a child into this world is expensive sana she is not selfish is sad giving birth to a child unable to give that child better life ,🥺

@heathermbambeni529

2 жыл бұрын

And yet there people who would be hounding you about,"when are you going to have children "so annoying 🙄

I love muthoni, she's strong, well spoken and most important, SHE KNOWS WHAT SHE WANTS,

You will never be a priority in somebody else's life but you can be a priority in yours 💕👍that said it all. Thanks Lynn and Muthoni👍❤

Really nice to see someone that shares the same sentiments that I do. You can’t live your life for others…do what makes you happy!

I love Muthoni😍. She is strong, outspoken, smart, open minded.

Am loving this discussion,we strive to live the way other People expect and not how we choose.

@janecyprian3235

2 жыл бұрын

Very very very true 🙏 🙏

You will never make society happy coz if you decide not to have kids they will talk, and if you decide to fulfil maandiko ya bible ya kujaza dunia they will also talk saying "huyu na yeye ni kuzaa zaa tu 🤦🏽‍♀️😅"

@linetatieno4594

2 жыл бұрын

I know a neighbour she has 5 kids with different baby daddy and non of them is in school coz she even ask for match stick, she can't even afford a stable one meal a day possibility is she might be raising future thieves coz they got no choice

@lovelyshix8425

2 жыл бұрын

@@linetatieno4594 exactly you give birth to many children to make the people happy but those kids ndio wanaumia and you as a mother too, it's really sad

I'm 22 and I don't think I want to ever have kids....but our society can't really accept that.i just pray for strength and wisdom to know what to do when the time comes

@cathyajulo4352

2 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣❤

People should start understanding that being a mom is also a calling. You have covered so many stories of children who have been abandoned by their parents @Lynn Ngugi.

She doesn’t want to have kids.I respect her decision

Muthoni speaks her mind and is very honest. She is really talented in what she does. She doesn't need to have children for her to be a good person. Do you Muthoni!

@sandramorgan1700

2 жыл бұрын

There is lots of unwanted children out there so you have to respect her desigion not to have it.

It's such a lovely life when you live by your decisions instead of what people expect of you. I want kids because I have always adored being a mother but that doesn't mean I should judge anyone that feels differently. Love you for standing by what you want. May we all (women especially) have the courage to choose the life we want to live and stand by our choices.

First of all am giving Muthoni a Standing Ovation 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾you are a great Woman may God lead you and protect you from all the evil.God has a purpose for everyone not all people are meant to be parents,not all people are meant to be rich everyone has a different Destiny If you understand God's work you won't bother about anything neither will you regret or be bitter about your Life Status. Iam 40 yrs old now and still Single without kids, i had two miscarriages at age 36 this was the first time i got pregnant i was at the Hospital because i had lost so much blood i called my bf He said he is busy at work he will visit me at home, this was the reason i dumped him and i have been Single since then. Iam not sad neither bitter i Love my Life and i enjoy it everyday to the fullest with no regrets. It wasi'nt my plan but God's plan and iam greatfull and fine with it Cheers🥂🍾 my fellow new bale i guess this is the beginning of a new Revolution. 🥳🥳🥳💃🏾❤️❤️❤️❤️

@carolrose_ke

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry that happened to you love. But it's beautiful to see that we can always always rise 🥺

I like when parents don't question so many things about another person's decision and let you be what you want or think is good for you,

1st time to come across a lady of her own principles big love Muthoni most arguement i conquer with you 🏃

Funny how people say you'll regret not having kids, do they regret having them? 🤔

If only I could get a husband who doesn't want kids....

@SeanMTV

2 жыл бұрын

there is plenty of men who dont want kids, you just need to be able to find them

@matildambaire2346

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks Sean, but where would I find them? Do they have like a lounging area? Coz I've never come across one.

Girl, Preach. Having children is not an achievement. It is love like no other you will ever know. At times it is a woman's right to choose. Girl, you don't have to justify yourself to anyone

@kheylam

2 жыл бұрын

True, and the same people will be the one judge the people who do not take care of kids...

@rogath_silayo

2 жыл бұрын

What is an achievement to you????hope you don't answer money and wealth!!!

@neches.a

2 жыл бұрын

@@rogath_silayo money and wealth. Now what?😂😂

@neches.a

2 жыл бұрын

Yes

@betty541

2 жыл бұрын

@@neches.a 😆😆😆

I love this lady, she is so genuine "choose yourself". Having children should be a choice, it is not easy and should not be treated as an expected future for everyone.

Yes I love that part of why do want kids, have got a neighbour pressurizing the wife to have a second kid when he doesn't even know what the first one wears, eat or school fees and the wife complains a lot.

@wanjiruciru6237

2 жыл бұрын

Kindly tell that lady to stay WOKE.

@mjbc3971

2 жыл бұрын

Wah

@monicahnjeri4426

2 жыл бұрын

Hope sio wewe dear ..u twisted 🤦

@magbenny1416

2 жыл бұрын

@@monicahnjeri4426 aki ni yeye

@monicahnjeri4426

2 жыл бұрын

@@magbenny1416 🙆🙏May the LORD have mercy on them 🙏

All I know is that almost all the women I have met who never had kids, they age slower! Having kids is very stressful, it's just that we are conditioned as women to sacrifice ourselves for the betterment of others, and we think that is what makes us happy. If you do not want to have children, don't because you will be bearing the biggest burden of raising them and carrying them in your heart forever and this is an enormous responsibility. This was a great conversation and I like this young lady, she has realized something a lot of women are yet to; we should make a conscious effort to choose ourselves.

Procreation is overrated, the country is overpopulated based on the resources. The legacy of the modern woman isn’t to birth & embrace domestic engineering. Most parents perform at a below average level, actually most are unfit for the position. Pretty intelligent young lady, too many single black mothers.

I wouldn't judge if someone doesn't. Because being a parent is alot of work, rewarding though. But if someone is not willing. They shouldn't be judged. They're actually saving the planet coz we're too populated

@angelawambui1468

2 жыл бұрын

Very true

@jonniefesto3715

2 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂 ati too populated

@gladystinah5928

2 жыл бұрын

True but funny🤣🤣🤣

@OFFICIALCHARITYWILLY

2 жыл бұрын

@@jonniefesto3715 😂😂 Eeeh True

@OFFICIALCHARITYWILLY

2 жыл бұрын

@@gladystinah5928 Eeeh 😂😂

This is powerful. We need people with this mindset, who believe in herself to be a role model to our young people.

@mariaollivierre3729

2 жыл бұрын

It is where she says that there has to be more to having a child than it being expected.

@esreneroache1006

2 жыл бұрын

@@mariaollivierre3729 Amen

@Ichbinthee_dali

2 жыл бұрын

@@mariaollivierre3729 very true

@rogath_silayo

2 жыл бұрын

Role model to who???she is not a role model

@Ichbinthee_dali

2 жыл бұрын

@@rogath_silayo she is to me!

Gosh I just love how you express yourself, as you say, first know what you want and nobody can define you

@akiinefaexperiencinglife

2 жыл бұрын

💯

I remember back in the days in the village when I used to trick bodaboda because our house was close to cemetery.once I climb the motor bike I would stuff my nosetrills with Cotton wool without him knowing. Then when we got in front of the cemetery I would scare him and he would ran for his life! On this fateful day,I borderd the bike as usual and stuffed my nosetrills with cottonwool as usual.when we got into the cemetery I scared him but this time he just stared at me. I danced all the coast songs I know... But he didn't even move.i even spoke pidgin "oga you no details fear ghost!?🙄 Nothing happened. He got up and held my shirt "nipatie pesa zangu mjinga hii" I begged the guy to calm down and let me get it for him...I went into the cemetery as he held my shirt and followed me.As I was walking I jokingly knelt down on a grave and knocked on it "habari nisaidie na 200 nipatie hii ghasia iniachilie" I thought this would scare the guy....but nothing! Kindongo kindongo a hand stretched out from the grave holding 200/- note " chukua hi na unirudishie ukipata" My brothers and sisters ...to date...I still don't know who carried who between me and the bike man out of the cemetery. Ile kitu nkakumbuka to nilijipata juu ya pikipiki at a neighboring town .As for the bike man sijui alienda wapi..I still have the bike packed at home 😂😂. Whenever I pass by that place,I always see my one pair of Gucci shoes that fell off as I was running 😂.it's not that I cannot go and get it ooo..... just that I don't like Gucci stuff anymore.infact..i don't like those shoes again!!😂😂😂😂 For more of these tales fika hapa madiblo toons subscribe and share

@hermajesty2165

2 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣🤣 Nice story but I don't believe it

@wanjiruciru6237

2 жыл бұрын

@@hermajesty2165 he is looking for guilible subscribers.

@estherwaruguru7822

2 жыл бұрын

How can I be reading more of your stories

@musilivisabala9259

2 жыл бұрын

Hiyo story yako nimeona KZread mingi hata sio fty infect

@rebeccaasiyo9820

2 жыл бұрын

@@musilivisabala9259 iko kila mahali

Women should be allowed to be who they want to be! Her womb is none of anyone's business. Do you queen

@angelawambui1468

2 жыл бұрын

Yes yes .FREEDOM FOR WOMEN.YOUR LIFE YOUR BODY YOUR DECISIONS.

@theresaelizabethelijah117

2 жыл бұрын

Agree my Life my body my decision 💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾

@johnte8317

2 жыл бұрын

Just like our money our choice.Women should not bother men who don't want to pay child support

@liliannasengo7369

2 жыл бұрын

Yr right Wanjiru everyone to mind his /her life n businesses

@WanjiruMuya

2 жыл бұрын

@@johnte8317 how about you tell that to who bothered you for child support😒

I love her confidence..Her life ,her choice..kila mtu apambane na hali yake...After all we are in a very free world🤷

My daughter always says she never want to be a mother and she is 12. And she really dont like supporting me with her younger siblings.

@mamawatorotalks8208

2 жыл бұрын

I know most Of us parents have children and expect help from older children yet the babies are ours and we made a choice to have them the responsibility should not fall on the older ones

@carolinemuthoni6551

2 жыл бұрын

@@mamawatorotalks8208 actually i realized hiyo kumwambia anisaidie ndio imefanya aamue hatawahi zaa. She views kids as a very big baggage and bother.

@jonniefesto3715

2 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂 does it intrigues you when you go to sleep? Coz it could be her final decision

@mamawatorotalks8208

2 жыл бұрын

@@carolinemuthoni6551 woiye wacha tupambane na wadogo nilikuwa nasaidiwa na big sister akawacha 😂 once niliweka kwa kichwa mtoto ni wangu na nitajisaidia mimi Mwenyewe

@jonniefesto3715

2 жыл бұрын

@@mamawatorotalks8208 I love kids alot but am always scared of dying leaving those kids on earth to suffer. I DREAD THAT

For me it was when she asked Lynn, '..And also why are men being kept?'.. Bwahahaha.. am kwinished!!

Woow! Have learnt something today out of this story "love yourself and choose happiness" the most strongest words women should take caution......👏amaizing topic🎉

Actually I like Muthoni's liberal way of thinking;she is self-aware of who she is.Whether the society considers her to be right or wrong...the point is she is living her truth while others live lies,lies instilled in them by societal expectations. Lots of love for you young lady.You are also very eloquent.

I'm 47. I had wanted kids but now, I'm glad I never had kids.

Kweli binadamu ni tofauti am a mother of 3 when I was pregnant my fast girl, my boyfriend ask me to abortion because he wasn't ready for it nikakataa akanishow nikikataa then sio yake nikamshow ni mimi nikonayo sio yeye akaniacha kweli Na vile I love this kids is like half of my heart wako nayo yani I can't explain the love I have to them and not only my kids I LOVE ALL CHILDREN. to me kids are blessings But to the story here just let her be sio lzm.

@gettaedada7258

2 жыл бұрын

I can imagine. Bila watoto siyuko complete 🤔 Thank God for blessing me with 2❤❤

I am a childfree Tanzania woman, live your life darling.

Yes! My tooth broke while I was pregnant, you loss calcium. Been a mother is a joy but again it's a choice for lifetime. You can choose either and be happy.

@getrudenjoroge3250

2 жыл бұрын

Mine too broke being pregnant is work

@bettymwangi9069

2 жыл бұрын

Mine too 🐱🐱

@annmumbi4960

2 жыл бұрын

@@getrudenjoroge3250 ❤

@annmumbi4960

2 жыл бұрын

@@bettymwangi9069 ❤

@kenyakalex

2 жыл бұрын

😳 I knew about the hair but never knew that one will loose the teeth

I think is time we start talking about the real issues that comes with marriage and having children to the young generation, Not this dancing competition marriages and pretentious social media propaganda. For those of us that believe in Christ the bible didn't say without kids or marriage you Will go to hell, just stay away from fornication. God bless

I just love Muthoni thinking, she's a strong woman. 'Why should u keep a man' You be with someone who wants to be with you, where things flow

"It's a decision I made" Thank you. At least we know it's not a natural deficiency in humans.

Much respect to this beautiful lady! I have kids and have always wanted them. It is a huge responsibility and I realize it should be something you want and ready for.

Muthoni just do you. I also have a cousin who is in her 40's once told me to never look up to her whenever i was ready to start a family. She doesn't have kids not married and is happy. She loves our kids btw.

Muthoni knows what she wants which is awesome. Some people are saying she will regret it when she is old. How many do we know that have kids and never see them. They are abroad working and doing life. For others their kids have died before them. Getting kids so that they can take care of you in old age is selfish. Just get kids if you love them not for other reasons.

I love this conversation. I have one. I am not having another one. Period

Lynn can we have the same discussion with a gentleman..because I'm sure there are men who dont want kids, it would be interesting to hear from a man.

@winnieombutora7437

2 жыл бұрын

@miss victoria...... Tats true kabisa ma sons class has 14students n we r all single.mother we even opend a group so its very serious

It's true what she said about the host of The Real Show, but Jeannie Mai just announced her pregnancy, I watched it yesterday, people do change their minds, for Jennie she had frozen her eggs just in case, and look at her now, happy mama to be. That being said I respect our guest's decision if that's what she has decided, it's her life and I wish her well, for me it's actually the opposite, I really wanted to have babies but according to the Doctors it's not possible, I have tried everything😢😢😢😢😢

@margaretwambui7103

2 жыл бұрын

Hugs... praying God will remember you

@mercyrangi4945

2 жыл бұрын

Mrembo keep praying don't give up

@margaretikua7396

2 жыл бұрын

You will have kids don't lose hope have faith in God😍😍😍

@czarinaczar

2 жыл бұрын

Jeannie's ex was actually cheating on her with that woman, before he left her. 😏

@bin579

2 жыл бұрын

Jeannie Mai is not Muthoni. she has talked severally about the child abuse from a relative for a long time and how that affected how she felt about her ability to have/ care for kids especially when her mother covered for that abuser. So no, not every Childfree story will change like Jeannie's.

If you here reading the comments like tukiendanga🚶‍♀️🚶‍♀️🚶‍♀️.

I noticed to most of the people who dont agree with her, are quick to question her WHY. My wish is we get to a point where someones No is a NO. NO is a complete answer to anything... Dont try to guilt, question or poke holes in her truth.

It’s also a misconception for people to think men also want wives and kids. We’re all just conforming to societal expectations. If anything besides companionship, men get nothing out of marriages!

Listening to this at the right time. Thank you so much Lynn. You are God sent in my life. Thank you Muthoni...

I am a mother and being a mother is difficult in so many ways. If you don't want kids I support you 100.

I am 38yrs old. I literally don't want kids.I met my boyfriend 5yrs ago we both don't want kids and we are happy. My family excepted that but strangers are always on our case.

Me can't leave without a kid period i just can't

This conversation is timely,I jst had this discussion with my friend,I have one baby boy and I don't wanna have another cz even the one I have I haven't really entirely laid down his future the way I'd want it to be,u find out tht some pple have so many kids that they cannot be able to raise and start deputising their older kids to raise the younger ones(sucks)and ul still hear pple asking u unatuletea mwingine lini as if they will help u raise the kid,do what makes u happy and what's within your ability,also kids requires alot if commitments if u ain't ready please dnt have them.

Every choice has 2 sides. The cost and the reward. I personally have a problem when people talk about the rewards of liberty and not the cost. Share both sides and let people learn. Kids have a cost and a reward, and so does living child-free.

We are 15kids in my family and am the 13th , my father said that he has never wanted kids and also says that his real kids stop at the 4th it’s ur mom that wanted the rest of you and he has never been there for us especially the lasts ones I don’t even feel any connection to him he is the stranger that lives in our house

It's a choice ya mtu to have and not to have kids but society huona nikama lazima to have kids as a woman 🤦🏽‍♀️ ( For me i really get pissed off with the question many ask me aty " unazalilia huyu mtoto lini nkt ") omg i get mad coz they know am a single mum and i have struggled a lot for 10 years with him and second this is my life and my choice 1 child is enough for me 💃 Mwenye anataka for me to have another child anizalie 😜

It's ok for her not to have kids,I think we as Africans we are missing alot,lack of knowledge is making many perish, imagn,not everyone has a gift of getting married and having kids.st.paul,talks about this very clearly,let's read our bible well.

I too, decided that I will not have kids. I first mentioned it when I was 13 years old. Now in my late 30's and I haven't changed my mind. The things I have heard from people, especially the deeply religious, regarding my choice are appalling. They take it very personally. I've been called selfish, bla, bla. Some suggesting that only a white foreigner would marry someone like me🤣🤣🤣. But I decided that I will not do as the society expects of ALL women just so I can fit in. I respect those who choose to have children. It's an awesome journey am sure, for those who choose to do it, but its not for everyone. We are each unique, have different dreams and desires and none of us should hold back on taking a particular path because of fear of rejection and judgement.

@christinetetty3701

2 жыл бұрын

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