This is what KZread was made for. So much more interesting than the 52844th podcaster talking about productivity or personal finance or whatever.

@backupaccount2394

15 күн бұрын

I love how many people are highlighting this in his comments. I’ve been SO SICK of ‘youtubers’ for years now. This is the kind of content I miss from my childhood. Down to earth, genuine and human

@vicvic2081

15 күн бұрын

Right?

@Mintimiruku6369

15 күн бұрын

those kids never work in a real 9-5 corporation before. Their minds are stuck at college era where only theory, rainbow and glitter exist

@JeffreyWongOfficial

14 күн бұрын

Haha true, these podcasters with the ever repeating self-optimization topics really are nauseating by now

@donsimons9810

14 күн бұрын

backupaccount - the reason it feels that way to you is he did not grow up in childhood seeing this kind of thing - authentic or not. It’s very unprecedented what younger people have grown up with. just a generation before them, they grew up similarly with the past 50 years, and before that another 40 or so since major change (automobiles). But no change has been like the internet. Ever. we older types are worried about you all

I stumbled across this video as a 22 year old. Here I am stressing at this age, thanks for the eye opener.

@arcdestroyed

5 күн бұрын

Same brother same.. I think everybody is worrying waaaay too much nowadays. Idk if it has something to do with social media but it's definitely increasing.

@TheMightymarozz

4 күн бұрын

@@arcdestroyed 24 years old. Been trying to get to the typical 10k/month for 5 years. Its all social media guys.

@robo2207

4 күн бұрын

@@arcdestroyed Weeell.. You should.. The economy is fucking you younger people up big time. Debt is highly and constantly increasing. You have to work more and more, AND the purchasing power of money is constantly falling.. Its straight up a ponzi scheme.

@YourDailyDoseTV_

4 күн бұрын

22y ? You still got time

@AziDolkness

4 күн бұрын

Same as 25/26 yo

One thing you don’t need to worry about is your hairline. It’s impeccable.

@staybased9320

2 күн бұрын

asians be fr lacking the 5-ar inhibitor 🗿

@nissy6495

Күн бұрын

Even if your headline is receding, just be positive and think that it’s just your forehead is becoming magnificent.

@ironicfa1389

Күн бұрын

Thank you so much for the comment 😂 ​@@nissy6495

@PatrickAkera

Күн бұрын

Yes, great advice. That'll solve all the problems he listed.

@elef951

Күн бұрын

hairline wont solve his problems ,im pretty sure he would choose to be bald and his problems to be fixed than choosing his current life. theres more important things in life than a haircut

Take it from me, I'm 23 years old. My brother's 24 and we live with our 52 year old mother in Switzerland. All our lives we lived with crippling debt, but each one of us takes the burdena step at the time. I personally work about 50 hours a week, shit pay. On nightshift with horrible conditions. It took me 2 years to pay my debt off. As soon as my brother passes, and earns his certificate at the business school he attends. It's his turn. Carrying my burden, I nearly relapsed to my old addictions that kept pestering me at times of anger and despair. Due to my dilligence, patience and hope. I got to be where I am now, finally ready to take the next step. Mister, don't lose hope. If you value yourself more than anything else, you become able to make other things and other people feel valuable. Keep going, soldier.

@askjapan9669

3 күн бұрын

Thanks for your sharing your story.

@non9886

Күн бұрын

nice! but problem is that if you are 50 you have not energy as when you was 23 :-) not talking about kids and wife...

@ivok9846

Күн бұрын

@@non9886 energy for what, is he a weight lifter? what about knowledge?

@ozibuyensin

Күн бұрын

​@ivok9846 it's expectable that a 50 year wants and needs to live a more comfortable life. and the days of grinding for years will be left behind for a 20 something but will be pretty much the end of a healthy, independent life for a 50 years old. I don't want to discredit the hardships original commentor has gone through though

@syedrahim1394

Күн бұрын

You are working like a machine. When you should be working like a lion.

As a foreigner who lived over 10 years in Japan, I have never heard a Japanese man open up about something like this. Thank you for being brave and sharing this! これは本当に素晴らしい話しいです。

@askjapan9669

13 күн бұрын

Thanks for your comment

@dictatte358

12 күн бұрын

Same. actually i never more than 3 words from a japanese man.

@beu4evr

12 күн бұрын

Welcome

@mbe102

12 күн бұрын

@@askjapan9669 to piggy back on this, I have a profound amount of respect for you. For not only thinking and being considerate about this, but opening up and sharing it. I'm sure it not only helped you to get it out, but its definitely going to help a lot of people seeing it and knowing they're not alone, and giving them a better sense of how to cope and deal with issues like this.

@TheRealPynkPanther

12 күн бұрын

I agree♥️

Hello , I am Asian , 40+ just unemployed, lost ,upset , Here I found this video and more on other people aronud the world.I read the comments. Making me feel better and still want to live my life again because I am not alone.I think this problem we all will face someday.Thank you to bring me here and all comments in other countries around.I want to live more years again.

@Da_Cap_i_Tan

4 күн бұрын

"And this cloud darkening my skies has not come to stay, it has come only to pass" - Some Wise Guy (YT 2024) Sending you love and good luck from the UK bro

@jormungandr5161

4 күн бұрын

You got this brother

@VideosByZe

4 күн бұрын

You got this man! Be aware many people feel just like you right now. Be aware many people feel just like you right now. And destiny will take you to where you need to be just as it took you here.

@spacestallion6716

3 күн бұрын

I am a bit older than you and trust me I have been there. Just always remind yourself -- be brave! Go out there and embrace changes. You will live a much happier life.

@smokegames1179

3 күн бұрын

You can do it bro i work from home and im dragging myself to work everyday doesnt make a difference if its work from home or office i still feel stressed, im on sales department and we need to bagged in sales everyday

I'm 23 and my dad is 70. My dad has a pension and takes care of me. He buys me coffee and drives me to work (healthy for his age for sure). His mortgage still has 15 years. I went blind in one eye recently. I just got a 60k annual job and living at home until I get married.

@DIARRHEA-PANIC

3 күн бұрын

Only marry someone who brings an equal worth to the table. Otherwise, you will just get taken for everything..

@dragonsharker4793

3 күн бұрын

@@DIARRHEA-PANICchoosing your partner based on their income is pathetic. If you’re that worried just get a prenup. Choose someone you love that loves you for yourself and not your money. Yeah, go ahead and marry someone based on their income and what they bring to the table, that’ll end well…

@julia-xd8vo

3 күн бұрын

@@dragonsharker4793 I actually agree with them. My fiancé makes 90k and I make him spend money on me. I'm a believer that men only value you if they invest in you. The money I'm working for is for myself to save and put away. Because we really want to have kids, and I see it as unfair that I will be put at a disadvantage in the job market. There's nothing wrong with guarding yourself as a woman, because it's true that we get taken advantage of until a shiny new model comes along. Anyway, my fiancé comes from a more wealthy background than me. He'd survive without me. I do love him very much but we recently got into a fight, which he carried on for longer than was necessary (cruelly ignoring me when I expressed how sorry I was and that I wanted to communicate). I don't believe in unconditional love even though he really is a great guy (provider, masculine, sweet, caring, calm). I work in law so I see the majority of divorce cases be surprise divorces initiated by men (they are typically lower or lower middle class couples). But this is all besides the point. I think their point was that I'm going to presumably inherit a house and I make decent money for my age as a woman. Again, nothing wrong with being guarded.

@JonnyD3ath

3 күн бұрын

@@dragonsharker4793they didn’t say income, they said worth. There’s a huge difference. And believe me, it is vitally important in a relationship

@nothanks9503

3 күн бұрын

@@dragonsharker4793eh yes and no you definitely shouldn’t choose someone based on their income but if you’re going to be with someone who doesn’t make as much you should work with them to find ways to increase their income single income isn’t enough to support a single person at least where I live so a single persons income can not support 2 people that’s just the math

I am really grateful to find this video. The kids playing in next room while the father thinks about such things awakens something inside me. Thank you, sir.

@Micomicooo-eo5ee

8 сағат бұрын

This is life man, that's crazy

I am Japanese. I was deeply impressed by your honest confession.

@er4din903

4 күн бұрын

Why do you use the word confession? As if being honest about your concerns or feelings is a crime? Genuine question; no malice behind it. Am I reading too much into it?

@Stav6

4 күн бұрын

@@er4din903might be a cultural thing in Japan and seen as failure or something or you are reading too much into it not sure

@ridef0rlife

4 күн бұрын

@@er4din903 yeah confession isn’t the right word here. Hopefully they meant something else

@latjjtal

4 күн бұрын

Your country is undergoing a housing market collapse. You can probably buy a very nice house in the country with a fraction of your savings. Find a remote job, buy a house in the country, plant a garden with your kids.

@2o3ief

4 күн бұрын

​@@er4din903yes you are... you can confess anything

I was born when my dad was 46, it was no big deal. I’m 26 now. He’s a great dad.

@askjapan9669

13 күн бұрын

Thanks for your comment

@MichaelHplus

12 күн бұрын

I’m 46 and my one and only child is 6 months old. I am doing my best to stay healthy and energetic.

@nucle4rpenguins534

12 күн бұрын

(Probably somewhat obvious) But I would just really stress personal health and good fitness habits if you’re having children near that age. My parents had me in their early 40’s and my younger brother near mid 40’s. They both liked activity but never had a routine, my dad especially but he had a natural high metabolism. My mom’s health started declining into her 50’s especially. She passed away due to cancer (not related to having children) a few years ago. Now I’m 26 and my father is 67, he’s doing okay but I just worry that he doesn’t stress his health enough. I notice he put on quite a bit of weight since this past year roughly, partly due to him not stressing a decade or so earlier as much on healthier eating habits, he’s very much prone to binge eating. He’s aware but I think partially he’s very critical of himself and then he lets that pity drive him back to this nasty habit. The effect this has only escalated with age and I hope he can be involved actively when he has grandchildren. We live together thankfully and I want to improve how we support one another in our faults. We haven’t given up on this yet. Please take care of your health sir, it’s a great gift not only to yourself but also to those who love you most

@anashappydays

12 күн бұрын

My dad was 47 and my mom 42 when they had me. No problem at all ✨

@hemantakakati1103

11 күн бұрын

I was when my dad was 40 he is okay now

This is so real and full of raw emotions. The fact I'm 23 and worried about my future like crazy, its reassuring reading through comments and seeing people are also tryna to figure things out. I think ill never know what I'm doing and I hope if someone else reads this, just keep going and moving forward, its only over when you give up. Find a passion, follow it , trust it, and I'm sure itll be alright.

I am 25 years younger than you and yet I feel fairly similar. I am worried for my future, as the cost of living goes up, for now i am studying Japanese by myself. Your English is fantastic, now that I am learning a language as an adult (I learned English as my 2nd language when I was young), I know how difficult that is. My concerns primarily lie about dying alone, as I've never dated.

@rayed242

2 күн бұрын

Don't think about that. Make sure you create your own people , that will stay with you forever!

@jose10jusef

4 сағат бұрын

Im 26, simillar to you, not die alone was my priority xd, now i finally have a girl that is really fulfilling to me, I understand your concern, im still learning, but i would like to share what i learned

Don't plan on living in your current home until your mortgage is paid off in 28 years. Your son will be 36, and your daughter 32 by that time. They should be more independent well before that point in time and no longer living at home. Downsize to a cheaper home. Sell your current home once your kids move out, pay off the remaining mortgage amount, and buy a new home (with no mortgage) with the net proceeds. Consider living outside of the metro area since you may not be working at that point. Housing is much cheaper outside of the metro area and you will not have to worry about being close to where your job is located since you will hopefully be retired.

@askjapan9669

14 күн бұрын

Wow, thanks

@cheguevara5560

13 күн бұрын

Solid advice ,the old traditional Japanese house can be bought for 20 K in rural Japan ...no point to pay a mortgage until 75 ,I rather retire at 65 and live in the country ,stress free in the nature

@awesomekj5812

12 күн бұрын

You don't count of kids leaving home at that age either. The way economy is working these days , kids are turning back to Parents house after lay off coz they can't afford rent and stuff. High cost of living.

@scotts2515

11 күн бұрын

100%. You are not tied to that 28 years especially with the large amount of homes that will open themselves up in the next 10 years.

@heidialajukuri1825

10 күн бұрын

Are there hospitals and health centers in the rural areas? When people get older they might need to be closecto hospitals in case of some health issues.

Hey man. I’m 34 and I’m blessed to still have my father who’s 76. He had me when he was 42 years old and I never realized how much of a blessing it was to have an older parent but I know now that I learned all the old, respectable ways of doing things and I’m very grateful to have my dad even though he was never one of the “younger” “cooler” dads. I love my dad just the way he is and he did all he could to give me and my sister, three years my junior, a better life. We became successful and now help our parents out whenever we can and we don’t mind. One day, they will worry about you. Truthfully, my greatest fear is that I will lose my parents and never got to actually spend enough time with them, especially now that I have my own family to provide for. They will see you’re a great man for caring for them and they will care for you one day. Be well 🇺🇸🇯🇵

@askjapan9669

6 күн бұрын

Your father was same age as I had my son. I don't know how to overcome but thanks for your comment.

@mobilegamingtv4025

4 күн бұрын

Your comment is about nothing.

@djurius

4 күн бұрын

@@mobilegamingtv4025 ok mr mobile gamer?

@user-up7nb6id1f

4 күн бұрын

@@djuriushe is a gamer 😎

@piotr5338

4 күн бұрын

You right .We learin by reapeting and imitation. Children will treat us just as we treated our parents

Well -- I'm sure you'll get lots of advice, much of it well meaning, some not. But here is my perspective, as a 77 year old man. What I hear in you, is a lot or worry about the "future." Can you control the future? No. You can't even predict what will happen tomorrow. None of us can. Do these worries affect your ability to enjoy the moment, to fully embrace the present? I suspect they do. If you paint dark pictures about the future, what good does that do? Does it improve your present? No. Will it pave the way to a "better" future? No. Worry becomes habitual. It becomes a way of life. I'd suggest that you participate in some spiritual practice which grounds you in the present, and breaks the chain of worry. Your culture has a rich spiritual tradition. So does mine. Even if you have no religious affiliation, allow yourself to enjoy all those little things in daily life which are gifts. A grasshopper landing on a leaf. The wind in the trees. A line in a poem. The laughter of your children. The sound of rain on the roof. The tenderness you share with your wife. These things are what life is really all about. Not career. Not a basket of worries about a future you can't control. Not all that dark picture painting. Live fully today. Tomorrow will take care of itself. Worry solves nothing, helps nothing. Worry about the future, robs you of the present.

This man is all of us. Thank you for sharing

@edisonchin2463

2 күн бұрын

No, most of us younger generations have no future to be worrying about.

@guwopp4725

Күн бұрын

@@edisonchin2463 yeah the older generation is losing what they had. We have nothing to gain or lose…. Just hopeless

@kiturselassie813

7 сағат бұрын

Foreal

I'm a 29 year old man from New Zealand, I'm sitting in my office at work watching this video and everything you say hits home. I think that no matter who you are, where you live or what your circumstances are, unless you're lucky enough to be born into extreme wealth we all worry about our future. My mind is constantly filled with 'What Ifs' I don't know what the answers are, except to keep living and pushing forward, trying to have fun and make the most of this weird journey we call life. You're not alone though man, sending you all my love and support. You've got a new subscriber.

@ronandesouza151

3 күн бұрын

Where in NZ mate, I'm a 2 year graduate who can't even get a job with my field of sales/marketing. It sucks

@elonmusk922

3 күн бұрын

Guys start an Internet Business, learn coding, read Books to escape the 9 to 5

@zhangjiaren5703

3 күн бұрын

I like what you called that "the most of this wired journey we call life"

@Int_true

3 күн бұрын

@@ronandesouza151 This is so sad, maybe my words will support you, I was born in Russia, my country attacked another country, I can be mobilized for war at any moment, I don't have the opportunity to leave the country yet, I'm working on it, maybe I won't have time and men will be blocked from leaving the country. I do not know what kind of future awaits me, I live one day, remembering the past 7-10 years ago, I dreamed of moving to New Zealand or Australia, no matter how hard it was for you, but you are in the position that many people dream of, I am sure that everything will be fine with you.

@ahmedchron408

3 күн бұрын

I live in nz too mate where in nz do you lvie and what your field of work

I'm 52 man. I've got three kids, almost the same age as your kids. Let's take it one day at a time. 💪 God bless you and your family 🙏

@sammas2959

17 күн бұрын

Best advice!

@manifestingbeautifullife2187

15 күн бұрын

Agreed.

@TheBaldOne

13 күн бұрын

42 year old here seconding this advice.

@markcollins3856

12 күн бұрын

Just ignore the problem 😅

@sherlockian1

12 күн бұрын

To add, keep improving the situation everyday, don't play the Russian roulette (take unnecessary risks) and leave rest to the destiny.

Very interesting. I’m 62. My advice is to try to not worry. Looking back, most of the things I worried about never came to pass. My worries were a complete waste and they diminished my enjoyment of life.

@Goozeeeee

6 сағат бұрын

True, but easier said than done. I have found grace in mindfulness, which can help you catch yourself when you start spiraling. The important thing is to continue to work on what you value in spite of whatever life throws at you.

All of our lives are uncertain. I just turned 40 this year. Last year I took a leap of faith. I quit my 9-5 and started my own. I can't tell what tomorrow brings for me and my family, but I am here to be the best person that I can be for my loved ones. Seize the day! Sending love - from PH

I'm a 50 years old Korean man. Your whiteboard summary resonates me deeply since those figures and factors are always in my mind as well. I work as a middle level employee and with not much hope to grow in my career and also in general. Life for middle age men aren't looking bright in any measure. Nothing seems to make my heart pound anymore. I envy your courage to post your inner thought to the outside world and seeking help actively.

@TheMafuri

17 күн бұрын

I'm just a few years younger, italian. I get bored easily by almost anything, i've always been like that. So i have a job that brings me to meet many different people in many different companies. I wouldn't be able to work in the same place for long. I tried to but i got depressed very soon. I'm always in search for something that makes me excited. I have plenty of hobbies (cycling, model making, videogaming, reading, investing, travelling, playing guitar). When i get bored by one i start a new one to feel excitment. I also would feel bored living in a big city. For me it's important to go out, go to some park, go to some cultural attraction close to me, take some sun when the weather is good.

@daskamu

15 күн бұрын

I agree with both of you 😢

@CaseJams

15 күн бұрын

Even with a three bedroom home fully paid for, insurance in Florida has increased and property taxes increased so much we still feel the same.

@julieseattle

14 күн бұрын

Well said!

@Tamarlane389

14 күн бұрын

@@TheMafurimaybe the solution is to be tested and treated for ADHD?

I am American woman 75, so you are young enough to be my son. Allow me to make a few comments. I would still be working but got pushed out at my company, which was ok because my eyesight started failing. I mention this to assure you that working another 20 odd years might seem daunting but it will probably flash by. The main thing is keeping a good mental state. When I was younger I worried incessantly, now I feel like I wasted vital energy doing so. First, I understand your desire to be responsible for family which I think is deeply ingrained in Japanese culture and in some may even be a more powerful impetus. But - others can and will step into their own responsibility also. It doesn't really matter that you might be older than other fathers. At another place you might be younger than. In 20 years both your children will be grown and with honest discussion at home they will understand they need to step up. You are the center of all your family but at the same time the world can move along without us. I would make a suggestion that you might find something you like doing and make an at home business out of it. Think globally because the rest of the market is doing just that. The borders to commerce have shifted. I wish for you some peace from too much worry and to look for hope because there exist many possibilities.

@patty109109

12 күн бұрын

What you say about where he is something that I’ve read from a lot of other people. I do it myself. The older I get the more I realize some of the things I worried about were pathetic. Most of them actually.

@joshadams8761

12 күн бұрын

Lovely, constructive comment!

@abramswee

12 күн бұрын

excellent advice.

@Mscatlover881

11 күн бұрын

Beautifully said!

@trinui6530

11 күн бұрын

Thank you from my heart

Thank you for your sheer honesty. I am a 17 year old guy from Australia and I very much appreciate how open you are, into your personal life, for our sake. Unfortunately, I am not very wise, but I wish you luck!

So to summarize you feel stressed because: Age: - You're 50 - Your children are very young for a 50 year old father - Your mother isn't doing well and is getting older - Your brother has a lot of stress taking care of your mother - Your mother and father in-law are a bit younger, but live far away and could need help as well in the next few years Financial: - You have a mortgage which you'll need to pay for 28 more years - You have a slightly above average salary - You feel stuck in a dead-end job - You feel there are no opportunities for you to find a different job because of your resume not being good enough Well, these are some very valid struggles. If you want to improve your life, then I think you must first look at this list and think 'What can I do nothing about?' and remove those from the list. For example, the new list which you CAN likely do something about, would be this: New list: Age: - Your brother has a lot of stress taking care of your mother - Your mother and father in-law are a bit younger, but live far away and could need help as well in the next few years Financial: - You have a mortgage which you'll need to pay for 28 more years - You have a slightly above average salary - You feel stuck in a dead-end job - You feel there are no opportunities for you to find a different job because of your resume not being good enough Now these remaining points are something you can actively work towards improving. For example the 28 year mortgage, if every year you make one more payment (so instead of 12 months, you pay for 13 months) you'll notice the mortgage goes from 28 years to roughly 23 years. Now this would all depend on your finances and whether you CAN do this or not. I genuinely think you have a lot more opportunities than you might imagine, just make a list of what you want to improve and then one by one make a plan on HOW to improve them.

I'm a 55 year old fellow, living in South Africa, no children, not married, no steady income. Very difficult life looking after family and unable to work due to mental ill health caused by trauma. No savings, a bond and small apartment mortgage. Have been worrying too as i have no family support and my health is not the greatest. Have been chatting with friends in similar circumstances about living in a commune together. I think sharing with and caring for each other will make a better life than trying to do it alone. Just have to be with the right people who are honest and happy.

@askjapan9669

8 күн бұрын

Wow thanks. Life is difficult for many people. I will try to be healthy and that is all I can do

@Itsda03

6 күн бұрын

Yoooo you South African that’s crazy running into a South African in the comments

@svetchannel2998

5 күн бұрын

You white african? There are rumors that Europeans in South Africa are pursuing

@patriciavandevelde5469

5 күн бұрын

Where are you in sa? Is it safe?

@human4566vv

5 күн бұрын

@@svetchannel2998 what do you mean? Sorry I don't understand.

I’m 47 in Nevada, house won’t be paid off for 24 more years. I HATE my job. My 401k is underfunded. I also have a parent to take care of. The stress and hopelessness is real. I take comfort in art and God. Sending love from the States ❤

@ToulouseFan

5 күн бұрын

What do you do?

@hpartidad

5 күн бұрын

Bitcoin is hope

@InfiniteTony

5 күн бұрын

@@hpartidad I’m hoping Bitcoin comes through and helps me out by my 30s. I’m 24 now and I started buying a lot more of it, especially when it dipped to $57K recently. I only have around $360~ in it as of right now though..

@TheNewAmericanDream

5 күн бұрын

⁠@@InfiniteTonygoing to need to invest a lot more than $360 to save you my guy. To put into perspective btc has a market cap of ~ $1.3T Btc is basically digital gold. Gold has a market cap of ~ $15T Let’s say in 10 years btc’s market cap goes up to $15T Your $360 would turn into ~ $4,150 which is a nice gain but not exactly life changing. If you want life changing gains you’ll have to invest in alt coins with much smaller market caps.

@unktzor

5 күн бұрын

​@@InfiniteTonyGet Solana instead if you have ~400 dollars of crypto

Why you being so real😭 Im 40, married but no kids. My boss got fired recently by the company and I think I'm not far from that. And the economy was better several years ago and I had bought a rental property. Now things are not sustainable and I've just gotten rid of that and lost about $200k from that as we dont know how much longer we can last with each month we are paying more than we make and I see no light at the end of the tunnel yet. I know there are probably millions of people out there who face the same as me but I consider myself lucky, compare to those suffering at wars still. Bless you man, and your family, and whoever kind hearted person eho come across this video. Keep your head down and plow through those harsh moments 💪

I’m an Indian student living in Japan. While i cannot possibly know how you feel, i think you’re a very strong willed person and will work out something. Please don’t be afraid it will all work out

I’m 22 and watching this video gives me, weirdly enough, a sense of hope. The majority of my generation is quite fixated on having their lives all figured out by their mid 20s/30s which is quite ridiculous. So seeing you sharing your life and current situation with us and genuinely making an attempt to make meaningful changes is encouraging to say the least. Regrettably, I don’t have any advice to give since I don’t have much experience to look back upon. However, please keep making videos and sharing your journey with the internet. People appreciate it and I’m sure your interactions with your viewers will give you an insight or a better perspective on your situation. がんばって!

@Fan-in2lh

5 күн бұрын

Yea this video woke me up. Respectfully i see as entrepreneurship as the only way out of situations like these.

@Bella-wp7wz

5 күн бұрын

I’m 22 as well, I felt oddly comforted by this video

@1whospeaks

4 күн бұрын

I'm in the same position same exact age too. The pressure I'm feeling to not be a burden to my family and start paying some bills and buying a car that doesn't drive slower than a bike is all immense. Especially so in the modern age where everything, making friends, finding love, doing hobbies, not overworking myself, staying focused, is all harder.

@sahin569

4 күн бұрын

@@1whospeaks we became 18 when the lockdowns happend. should've been my best year but its wasted

@Alex-02

3 күн бұрын

Also 22 here lol, but I feel something different from you. This video makes me realize I could wake up in 30 years and still don’t have my life figured out. I need to do something about it now.

Resonates with me, hated my occupation quit 12 years ago at age 49. Started a business but it didn’t take off so closed it down without a loss and bought a small service industry business which is great. Now financially independent when I sell the business I will have sufficient funds to live very well with no debts. Good luck my friend!

@GrayWithMe

10 күн бұрын

How did you handle the anxiety of quitting a stable occupation? I’m 47 and want to quit but I’m Terrified of failure. I don’t even want to start my own business. I just want to find a way to be happy.

@smiffyLevel6

10 күн бұрын

@@GrayWithMe I didn’t have any anxiety because I was so desperately unhappy I couldn’t wait to leave and open a whole new chapter of my life, I viewed it as an opportunity not a challenge?

@jannpsql

8 күн бұрын

Can you share the service industry is the nature of your business? Looking into getting into business

@smiffyLevel6

8 күн бұрын

@@jannpsqlHi yes happy to share with you, a retail, service and wholesale business servicing domestic and commercial swimming pools.

@jackchurchill3777

8 күн бұрын

​@@GrayWithMeI suggest working a part time job on the weekends for stable income, depending on the business you start, you can even continue working full time, it'll just be immensely stressful on your body and psyche so don't do it for long

My dad was 50 and i had an amazing childhood and he is still going strong, the mindset is key.

@UnrealObject

Күн бұрын

japanese society is really that different from other societies man its not that easy

@hayabusa1329

13 сағат бұрын

​@@UnrealObjectJapan should change it's society

I'm 21 year old. Immigrated to Canada as a 17 year old. I was constantly in a worry about all the things i have to do , graduate university, get a full-time job, help my family, and ect. Thanks for reminding me that life is long and not everything is rosy. I hope you find your answers and your worries fade.

27 year old german here. I have similar kind of worries on my mind. Unfortunately i do not have an idea or a solution. But i want to say, its very brave of you to speak about this topic publicly. It is very interesting and i will follow your story as it develops from now on. Stay positive my friend !

@FrozenDung

3 күн бұрын

I think worrying about the future is a waste of the time you have now. Go enjoy life, maybe go camping go for a walk in nature. Cities suck the life out of me personally.

@Mikamichae

3 күн бұрын

​@@FrozenDung yep I wasted a good 5 years worrying about my future

@reno9424

2 күн бұрын

Fabian, mir geht es oft genau so, vielen in meinem Umfeld geht es genau so. Wir leben in einer sehr bewegten Zeit und das wichtigste ist wahrscheinlich, dass wir nach vorn schauen, dankbar sind, für das was wir haben und uns darum kümmern, worauf wir Einfluss haben. Auf unsere Familie, Freunde und uns selbst. Die 20-er Jahre sind echt ne komische Zeit, weil so viele zukunftsweisende Entscheidungen anstehen und das kann echt überfordernd sein. Ich habe große Zuversicht, dass sich viele Dinge ergeben werden und es ist doch auch schön noch nicht zu wissen, was in 5-10 Jahren sein wird, dass das Leben fließen kann und von niemandem vorbestimmt ist. Wir werden unseren Weg finden. Grüße an dich, Fabian.

@hayabusa1329

13 сағат бұрын

​@@FrozenDungyeah humans need to chill tf out, why can't we just enjoy lives without stressing so much

Honestly just keep grinding on KZread. You will gain a loyal audience by being genuine and providing relatable content.

@askjapan9669

8 күн бұрын

Thanks for your comment. KZread has been only my hope

@RabbaDev

5 күн бұрын

@@askjapan9669 start a gofundme and keep posting about your situation

@ancestralcuentas7796

2 күн бұрын

​@@askjapan9669yes, please keep posting videos. You were so opened to explain your situation. As I understand is not common for Japanese to share their concerns like that. This tells me that you could show us more about your life, likes, teach us about marketing in Japan. This could be like a hobby for you and help you giving a new hope for you.

You’re a good man that cares for his family and that already puts you above many people. We tend to look at our worst problems instead of looking at what we have, it’s ok to be stressed, I’m in my 30s and have been feeling like I should have kids and a house by now, I already have grey hairs and wish I could look as young as you at 50. it may seem strange to you but some people would trade their youth to have children, good health, and a house they could work towards paying off like you. Many people here in the west know that Japanese culture can put a lot of pressure on people to be successful and live to the highest means, but please know that you are doing so well and you have already become something more than most could ever wish to become. Sending prayers your way today and hoping you can find peace with the amazing life you have, your children will be so proud one day to watch this video.

@askjapan9669

Күн бұрын

Thanks a lot. I will buy something for my kids.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts and challenges so openly. I hope you find the peace and resolution you deserve as you navigate these complexities. Much love and support from the UK.

I'm 51 years old living in Japan in Hokkaido. Understand your worries and mine are similar. Thank you for you videos about real life. KZread needs more of those. The only advice I have for you is to keep being yourself and care for you family. Then everything will turn out well.

@askjapan9669

14 күн бұрын

Wow

@HypocritesExposd

12 күн бұрын

⁠@@askjapan9669 just try to be happy with what you have and don’t worry about what you don’t. I see all your points on your white board as all positive. You have many years left of life to love. You have two children. You have great work experience. You have a job. Your parent/parents are still living. You own a home. You have a degree/degrees. Tomorrow is a gift, enjoy today.

@andengpintado7833

12 күн бұрын

Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, but today is a gift. Thats why its called the Present. From kung fu Panda

Hey brother, thanks for sharing. I can’t give you any advice that wasn’t already mentioned somewhere in these comments. I hope your worries turn into bygone memories. Cheers

@askjapan9669

5 күн бұрын

Thanks for yoru big offer. I don't know how to thank you. I will spend your offer to my kids.

@speedymon4412

4 күн бұрын

I think that's 90 dollars well spent

@ma071.

2 күн бұрын

@@speedymon4412 frr

@sfipsalms8924

Күн бұрын

@@askjapan9669 the man i look up to you sir love from new zealand

@2909dk

Күн бұрын

@@speedymon4412 euro

I completely understand the career issue too. Where it’s not necessarily an “issue,” like you’re not completely unhappy with what you’re doing, but you’re aware that the compensation simply isn’t enough. And yet, you’re also aware that your resume and the skillset you’ve built over the years aren’t suitable for any other option. It’s so mind boggling.

Just turned 26 today. Woke up wide awake realising I feel so far behind in my life and I'm almost 30, the timelines in my head just don't seem plausable. I would probably never admit this to anyone but since you have been so brutally honest and the comments are the same, I should be brave enough to do the same. Thanks.

It's difficult to advise. I will be 57 this year and live in Switzerland. We have no children. My wife is a few years older and I am taking early retirement next year. Almost all differences, except age. I think the pension systems and real estate market are also completely different with Japan. Still, I think that certain phases are recognizable. At fifty, everyone has experienced personal highlights and crises. Responsible for the young ones and the old ones. My parents were also a bit older and both died at 80 and 85 a few years ago in 2009 / 2020. My parents-in-law also became very old at some point. When they were in their mid-eighties, we decided to sell our apartment and live in my parents-in-law's parental home and care for them. We did that for 7 years, until they both died, both at the age of 93. Happy years for them, since they could remain in the house the lived for over 60 years. Just a few ideas from my side as I read this back. 1) If the house is a millstone around the neck, are there options to sell it and live cheaper and use the surplus value to minimize housing costs? Maybe also with your in-laws? They can look after the children, you and your wife can work to save a buffer. Financing a home together is always easier. 2) Are there career opportunities at another company? The advantage of more and more elderly people and fewer young people is actually that there are more opportunities on the labor market, due to the drying up of the working population. 3) Your wife can work when the children are older to accelerate the repayment. 4) Realize what you have now: a wife, two wonderful children who love you, a good job and your health. Enjoy the now, what you have now. Live a little more carefree. Look forward to your children growing up, that is also a great gift! With time a solution will be found. Try not to worry about things that don't directly threaten you, but over which you have no influence either. Enjoy small things too. A walk through the park after a fresh rain shower. Nice music, or a spontaneous good conversation with someone you don't know. Taking care of our in-laws was tough, but looking back, it was also very enriching. I did not want to miss it! Things will happen automaticly also solutions will arrive on the horizon at a certain point in time. Kind regards and take care, Ronald.

@askjapan9669

13 күн бұрын

thansk

@anashappydays

12 күн бұрын

@ronnie9187 Great points. But the 4th one, is the most important in my opinion ❤. You said it so well.

@lainpadang8033

12 күн бұрын

Thanks, thank you. Your advice also resonates for me ❤ ⁸⁵²⁴

@seitanbeatsyourmeat666

11 күн бұрын

Wise words

@ruanddu

10 күн бұрын

Great advice. Thanks for sharing.

I'm an American man who is 51, and I understand your worries. While I don't have a family of my own, I often think about how I can better my position. I think we all do. I wish I could offer you an answer, as I can see this is weighing heavily on your mind. I can tell you this. In the 15 minutes I was able to know you, you are very sincere, very caring, are a good provider to your family, and very brave by posting your concerns on a public platform. And your English is excellent too!! Even though you may not remember certain phrases, you are articulate and still get the idea across. I wish I could speak Japanese half as good as you speak English! I guess what I'm trying to say is: you are already doing A GREAT JOB at things. You have two beautiful children. You are successful enough to manage a team of people (something I've never done!). We all worry about the future. But if you look to your past and what you've accomplished, I don't think you need to worry about the future at all. You are capable and will find your way. あなたはとても良い人です、あなたが平和になることを願っています。

@askjapan9669

12 күн бұрын

thanks for your comment.

@CampingComrade.

4 күн бұрын

The answer is he shouldn’t of had kids in his 40s, yet alone kids at all 😂

@sfipsalms8924

2 күн бұрын

@@CampingComrade. the answer is youre parents shouldnt have had you youre just a dissapointment

@hayabusa1329

13 сағат бұрын

​@@CampingComrade.?

11 years ago, when I was 8, like your son, my father was 52. He drinked so much, so my mother had to support me and my 3 years old brother alone. You're grate father and you can be proud of yourself. Hello from Russia.

Thanks for this video sir, I'll remember it for the rest of my life. I've been scared of my future as my skill relevance and expectations aren't matching up with all the loans that have already piled up. This was an eye-opener. I may not know anything to be relatable here, but what I know is life comes around, Your hard work would definitely pay off. I wish you and your family all the prayers.

I’m Chinese American and have tons of friends who married late and have kindergarten kids in their late 40s. I’m turning 50 soon and recently quit my job for a much less paying job so I can be more relaxed. I still have mortgage to pay but still I’m happy and never worry about the future. I believe taking care of my mental health is as important as taking care of my physical health. Seriously just chill 😂 BTW I’m surprised a Japanese man opens up publicly about his “true” feelings. Our Chinese culture is more open and straightforward but I feel Japan and Korea are not especially Japan. I think there should have more ppl like you. Cheers😊

@richoka

10 күн бұрын

Love your comment. You got the right attitude!

@dust_gale3108

10 күн бұрын

You still have about 40 years to live young man😂

I am 40 years old. I have a 6 year old daughter. I have a criminal background which makes it hard to find meaningful employment. I also serve 9 years army with a diagnosis of ptsd which makes employment even harder. But I am working. Everyday of my life I am reminded of these 2 negatives I carry with me. My advice to anyone is to live your life on your off time. Do things you find fun. Take your kids around other kids they don’t know to experience life outside of the box social norms keep us. Find things you can do differently that will take your mind away from worrying because what matters is what’s right in front of you. Maybe you don’t live as long as you think you have. So live with no regrets and invite me to the bbq when you are ready. I don’t know if a 50yo Japanese man can bbq lol but if not I will show you.

@catsapp

3 күн бұрын

I had ptsd. Vim Hoff method helped me

@BinodiniMahapatra-pz7vv

3 күн бұрын

What kind of criminal record. I hope it's not something too troublesome. Hopefully something minor. I have mental health problems as well having mood swings such as extreme sudden joy(Mania) then Depression and Hopelessness,Rage and Guilt,Agony,Shame. It's confusing to deal with all these emotions because I've been trying to hide them for several years. Guilt, Regret, Frustration will only destroy you. It's no use worrying about the future just try to improve yourself and work towards your goals without unrealistic goals or expectations. Surely your life will be much easier, no matter how hard it seems it'll be one day easy enough.

@ANBU-LEO

3 күн бұрын

@@BinodiniMahapatra-pz7vv a road rage incident that triggered me to chase and unload a Glock 17 on a car. So yea felony.

@xn9333

2 күн бұрын

🙏🏻

@Hildelano73

2 күн бұрын

😊

50 is still so young!!! Lots of life to live!! I hope the advice you get helps you, and you get to relax!!!

This video is so raw and authentic. While I’m 20 and can only begin to imagine how complicated your situation must be I can say that your character is strong and I believe in you. Should the right opportunities arise I’m confident you will find your way. Hold on to hope!

Your kids need you, sir. Your fans need you to continue on as well. You are doing excellent work.

@askjapan9669

18 күн бұрын

True, thanks for your comment

@giomusah2155

18 күн бұрын

@@askjapan9669 damn this is getting depressing, like a frog being boiled slowly.

@82zerox

18 күн бұрын

​@@giomusah2155this is what will happen to every man in the west, if it is not clear to you.

@giomusah2155

18 күн бұрын

@@82zerox there are levels, and Japan due to profligate gov. spending, citizens are sinking in sand....It's quite clear in my mind about the structure of the economy and how it affects normies. Now , sit down little man.

@RetireandGo

18 күн бұрын

Yes I agree He is a considerate father and doing his best

50 is not old. We live in an amazing age of medical innovations. So many ailments are being cured, and people are living longer and longer. 50, in 2024, is very young still. I’ve met people in their 70’s who were full of vigor and health and strength. You’re still so young. You can do anything.

Dont let anxiety overwhelm you. You have a nice caring family and you are going to be healthy enough to keep working. You are responsible man that is going to do an awesome job as a father. You are the best dude, keep it up.

I’m a father 28- I have to spend tens of thousands to see my girl. It’s all working out and in the mean time I got shredddd and learnt sales and increased my business.. all I want is to retire my father… and be free to be a father. Let’s rise and create a ecosystem where we can work together

@user-uq1mg9ho3z

6 сағат бұрын

Who didu have a daughte with? not good terms

I am also 50 years old and living in Tokyo. I’m am currently unemployed and discovered it is very difficult to find a job at this age. But I think this is only a Japan phenomenon where living on this isolated island causes us to have a very limited view. I have began to reach out to opportunities outside of Japan and have discovered that if I think outside of the box, their are many more opportunities out there!

@askjapan9669

4 күн бұрын

The reality is more difficult than we can imagine. You should leave Japan if you are not Japanese

I'm a 26 Male in the US, I enjoy watching your videos, thank you for being so open about your life

@askjapan9669

18 күн бұрын

Thanks

@82zerox

18 күн бұрын

You look great Sir in your age.

@thejoph

16 күн бұрын

My thoughts exactly ​@82zerox As soon as you said your age I said out loud "he looks fantastic!" Your English is also fantastic 👌 Solution: buy Bitcoin with your savings which is a fantastic long term store of value and absolutely beats fiat currencies as a store of value. Look into it, all the best

@rinner2801

16 күн бұрын

My suggestion at 50 - Put as much as you can into retirement, more than you think you need. Income earning capability will taper off over time so you want to get the balance as high as possible while still making good money.

@giomusah2155

15 күн бұрын

@@askjapan9669 what is your salary and how much you save per year? this would help us understand what you need to do next step?

Dude, you’re already doing it. This YT channel is a path to more income, especially passive income. You’ve already got a substantial amount of subscribers. “No hope” should not be your belief, AT ALL. By the way, I’ve been in a very similar situation to yours in many ways and worse. We find a way to survive. Looking after your elders and your children has rewards you will always cherish.

@askjapan9669

20 сағат бұрын

KZread has been my only hope

@leroiarouf1142

12 сағат бұрын

​@@askjapan9669based

You sound so honest and so pure my para-friend. I just wish you to enjoy life to its fullest, whatever you do whatever you choose, happiness is hidden within the life, you just need to accept it and take it as much as you can. From my point of view your next 10 years look very bright to me! You got a wife with whom you can get older, two kids to watch become adults, a career already made, you can just chilly go to retirement and prepare for next life, little house in the countryside, enjoying the world! Start to find some new hobbies that will take all of your time in your next life, once work is over there is everything to be done! Enjoy!❤

As a younger person this was incredibly insightful into the problems I will be facing at a different stage of life because I can’t quite imagine what problems I will face yet. Thank you so much for sharing, you will achieve your goals!

@ifitistobeitisuptome

3 күн бұрын

He's already said that he has NO GOALS to look forward to! So..........

I‘m 59 going in my 60th. This is what I’ve learned. I’m not wiser just because but life taught me… When I found time to think and worry, I found out that I‘m one of the lucky people to have the time to do so. In the past I’ve worked to my limit that I was exhausted that didn’t leave me to even think. Secondly, all those worry, I pondered like you made me feel worse and most of them didn’t end up that way and the rest of those worry concerns I had were managed as I moved along with life. Some tough moments, some stressful but I was able to get through. Third, when quiet moments of the day were present, I’d grab it, fight for that moment as a gift to myself to recharge for the next battle. In German, „Kleine Inseln des Glücks“. Lastly, 90% of our life, we can’t control, only 10% of it. What we can only control is our attitude, our reaction, our approach to life as it presents itself for the day. Manage it step by step. Later on in life, you‘ll find yourself looking back at your age of 50 and say, I wish I could tell my 50 year old self… what is true today, is only valid today. It might not be true for me tomorrow, next month and in 5 years. In the end, being kind to ourselves in the midst of adversity is the helpful solution to battle and enjoy life at the same time. 🕊️🕊️ Real happiness is hidden in inner peace. When you find him there, let me know at @meetarlesa. Take care and good luck. You have a kindred soul and a kind heart. That‘s what matters, the universe will take care of the rest, you hang on and just hold on tight to take the ride. 🕊️🙋🏻‍♀️

@notavail

8 күн бұрын

Great advice, useful for my life also, thank you.

@infinitefather

5 күн бұрын

@@notavail Yea same i needed this. Thank you @meetarlesa

@stud1o699

4 күн бұрын

Having an easy life is hard, having a hard life is easy.

This is awesome. I totally get where you are coming from. Thanks for sharing, I could write paragraphs on things that might be able to help, but the one thing I think would be the best piece of advice is that take things day by day, treat every new day as a gift, and enjoy any time you can spend with your children while they are young. I know it’s so hard to do those things while worrying about money issues and other issues but in the end you will not regret doing this. I’ve spent to much time in my own life worrying about things and I realized a while back life has a way to solving itself, but it’s important to enjoy the time that you have currently.

Your mother’s story really, really affected me. My grandparents and my mother have different stories but they’re very similar in some ways. My mom is currently doing “ok” right now - as in, she isn’t showing signs of requiring extra care to go about her day to day life - but I know in my heart that it won’t be long before this isn’t the case. She spent most of her adult life taking care of me, my sister, and her parents until they passed away. She always told me (and tells me) to live my own life and not to be worried about her. But obviously, it’s impossible not to. And then it’s impossible to not worry about what life will be later on when I’m her age. Of course, we could all be living our last year right now and never know that. I think the top comment here is definitely the way to go for you. You’re clearly an intelligent and diligent person, more than capable of taking on this life’s challenges. I wish you lots of luck though because we all need a bit of it sometimes! Thank you for speaking on this. ✌🏻🖤

You have two beautiful children, still speak to your brother, mother is still with us, an above average salary job and a house you can call a home. You have done very well with your life my friend! I congratulate you on your acheivements. You, unfortunaltely, are the correct person of the household to be tasked with worrying about the future of your family and yourself. Luckily for you, you are intelligent and strong minded, so you will get through this with grace. Your children will grow up fast, I hope you are able to spend time with them now before that happens! I love your video's, best of luck with your endeavours.

When I was born, my dad was 47 and my mom was 43. My mom passed away when I was 12 sadly, but my dad is still alive and well today at 76 - he always had an active lifestyle, never smoked or drank, and always worked tirelessly for our family.

@edo8797

3 күн бұрын

what a great man.

@jackob2897

3 күн бұрын

Same as me man ! It absolutely sucks not having a mom my mom also passed early 40s and my dad’s done the best he can. He’s provided everything I need in life.

@yegi6207

3 күн бұрын

@@jackob2897 sounds like we are both very Lucky to have had the fathers we did

That’s a hell of a statement. Giving you an idea how life can’t be planned.

@askjapan9669

4 күн бұрын

Life is not easy.

@masterbaiter327

4 күн бұрын

@@askjapan9669 i feel you, even though you could technically be my father. I struggled with the first stage of „my future” in my mid 20s. Back then I questioned meaning of life and how miserable I was to grow up in a family with absolutely zero perspectives. In my early 30s I realised that all stories I was told at home were not true. Parents I admired as a kid turned out to be not even average, not teaching me anything or implementing any values. You have 2 kids, make sure you raise them well. Please make them aware of what the world is like, and that they don’t have to pretend to be someone else. Life is not a scheme, it can’t be planned upfront. Especially financially. Have a look at Yen-Usd conversion now. Back in 2020 ¥100 was more or less $1. Just don’t regret anything you’ve done so far, My Friend! 気をつけて！

I cried,, I don’t know why,, maybe because i can relate to your story. Thank you for sharing,, it’s nice to know i am not alone. And you should know that you are not alone also. ❤

I feel the pain in your voice and thank you for your honesty, there are many who will share such fears all around the world. My learning from this life is, be grateful for what you have and wake up each day looking to do the your best for your kids and family. Truth is, we had nothing when we arrived and nothing we can take with us. We come from a unknown place and will go to an unknown place (if we are even conscious of this?). 2/3 generations after us, no one will remember our name. Do not to worry, have a sense of perspective and be grateful for the blessings you have, kids, wife, Mother, In-laws, brother, your job and home.

this guy’s voice and accent is pure ASMR

@askjapan9669

12 күн бұрын

thanks for your comment.

@zeroounce8874

3 күн бұрын

😂😂😂 here you go …we found you a side job. People ready to pay good money for it. I’m joking… but maybe food for thought.

@tagadone

2 күн бұрын

If you are in Health try to run a 100miles race. At the end of the race all your questions has an answer trust me. 15:47

Thank you for sharing this, i am 19 and i have recently done very badly in college, i failed this year and missed the deadline for what to do next year and have been incredibly stressed. You have inspired me to sit down and look at how i can improve my position instead of wallowing in self pity and hatred.

I am not nearly experienced enough to give much advice but, I would sell my home- downsize, and try to move closer to your in laws, still in your vicinity- but closer. I wouldn’t worry about how bright your future is, you make it bright through the joy you get watching your kids grow as people, your wife seems to be at a good age as a parent, and you are healthy. Focus on your health and children, it’s what will bring you happiness in the long run. I wish you only success!!

This is what KZread was made for (feeling emotional just thinking about it.) I’m 25 worrying about things that are 25 years down the line. These comments have given me some new perspectives and hope. I know a few people in the same age bracket and situations as you Sir, and many people sharing their stories in the comments too, whom I’d like to pass similar advice too. But I also worry that I too will be in this situation in 10 years time with the way my industry to changing. I feel fear that the corporate life gets more unforgiving the older you get and with life’s complexities it’s harder to be kinder to ourselves too. I want to commend you for being so brave with sharing your story and I hope you find solace in the community here.

Uffa, you are not the only one, woman here 55 years old European and I am worry about the future.

I am 27 in the US and thinking about the same stresses of life. I want to have kids soon, but I'm weighed down thinking about expensive cost of living and having to take care of my parents as they grow older. At the end of the day, the one thing keeping me going is knowing family is #1...

I am so glad you did this, since in your culture the tendency of hide personal problems are huge. And sometimes the only think we desire is to listen good advises, motivacional wise words or similar shared stories like a group therapy does. I am now in huge pain after 6 months surgery of a broken jaw in multiple bone fractures fixed with titanium plakes. The healing process is slow and i face risks of permanent pain . I am hella scary praying for not get that. Hope in the end i could get my life back again. My solidarity for those facing problems as well.❤

My dearest sir... you inspire me with your honesty towards fear of all details of your life. I am Jeannie writing on my husband's name. In a few days, my husband turns 60 and then later in 2024 I will turn 60. We had a slow start to our time together with much time dedicated to immigration issues. We met late in life and have no children (sad). We will be working well into our retirement years .... your English is wonderful, your honesty will give you clever solutions to "building your beautiful garden" with your family. You will remain younger in attitude because of the young children around you. You will build your outside from people like me and around the world learning from you. You are amazing!

@reynaldofigueroa3372

14 күн бұрын

By the way.... I am writing you from Cincinnati/Florence Kentucky area of the United States. I prepare so many Japanese people to fly back to Japan from my CVG airport. I always wonder how life is all the time. How I can make a difference in their lives.... in your case you made a difference in mine.... remember you are not old.... you are like fine wine.... better with age.

@peachesc.9078

14 күн бұрын

That is such a lovely, heartwarming and generous message. I wish you both happiness and peace whatever the future holds ❤

@askjapan9669

13 күн бұрын

thanks for your comment.

@maxbykov9189

7 күн бұрын

Lots of good advice shared here but I wanted to share also the importance of inner peace that God can provide. Don’t hesitate to share with him what ever concerns you have. He hears you and can help. Don’t overthink it, he’s God and we can’t figure everything out about him. Otherwise he wouldn’t be God. He knows and sees a searching heart, so call out to him and give him a chance to help you out with guidance. May God bless you, brother

お疲れ様です。 I’m 46 yo gaijin male professional (in Japan for 25 years) and my youngest child is 4 yo, so not much different situation. I have 20 years of experience in executive recruitment consulting in Tokyo in high income industry sectors and I own a recruiting agency in Tokyo. It sounds like you are stressed because of 1) time and 2) money. As you know, Japanese employers always want to the youngest talent available so after 50 yo in Japan you might want to get the highest paying job available for your market value ASAP, save/invest cash in high yield assets, create a 2nd and 3rd sources of income ASAP before your salary man market value decrease any further. Hope it helps. 頑張りましょう！

This is an amazing piece of anthropology right here. You maintain a very calm demeanor in the video but I can tell that this is not how you actually feel. This is actually a cry out for help because you feel like you have no where else to go or no other options and I deeply respect you for doing this. It's not easy to open up this much about your feelings as a man (especially of Japanese culture) to strangers. I am not in your situation and not in the best position to give advice on a solution, but I'm really rooting for you man. However, I will say somethings that have kept me happy along my years: "Life is not about the destination, it's about the journey" - You are thinking out your life decades in adavance and it seems to be causing you a lot of anxiety and stress. It is smart to anticpate things in the future; nevertheless, if you didn't really enjoy everything else along the way you'll have spent more time not feeling happy in life. Spend more time paying attention to the "journey" part of your life. I'm not completely aware of what Japanese work culture is like and you seem very worried about working until you're 78. Hot take incoming: I live in the US and my goal is to "work" until I am 80 or until I die even though I won't need to to survive. It sounds fucking crazy. But if you find a "job" that you truly enjoy showing up to every day- then is it really a job? Personally, I don't think so. Of course, you may have to make salary sacrafices to make something like this happen. Additionally, I see it as a positive for an eldery person to be still contributing to society in any way, shape, or form. I hope that you find what you're looking for with this cry out for help!

I will be 50 in a month and my whole life has been late. Late to kiss a girl 20s, late to get married 40yo, graduated from university at 48 years old (robotics & mechatronics engineer), will hopefully have a child soon so that will be in my 50s, haven't bought a house yet either but hopefully soon. The thing is, I feel really good about the future, things will work out. My wife is just over 10 years younger than me, and she starts her nursing degree this year. Perhaps make extra payments to the house loan to get it done sooner. I just changed career to be a sales engineer and I love it, the perfect job for me. Just keep working on your health and keep going.

Perhaps this KZread channel will lead to something. You are already connecting to thousands of people around the world, that is special in of itself.

This is a rare gem , it is so rare japanese people raise their concern , and it resonates with everyone even for myself to reflect now age 30. Its great to see honest open concern and seeking advise

@askjapan9669

7 күн бұрын

Thanks. I have realized that not many Japanese haven't done this so I did.

As a 17 yo from belgium this video really gave me a lot of insight into the life that awaits me, thx for sharing ❤. Lots of.support from belgium, keep making the vids for extra income ❤

Stay strong and try to stay positive. I bet you're a great dad and your kids and family are lucky to have you. ✌🏼

Hi. I'm 40 years old with no (real) career or a place of my own because everything is too expensive and I can't afford it. And I am really worried about my future. Trust me, bro. You're doing better than a lot of us.

I am more than 10 years older than you and worry about my future. All over the world, people are under a lot of stress. Your YT channel seems to be doing well and I hope it keeps growing so that it can represent a second source of income for you, perhaps enabling you to pay off your mortgage early. 💗💗

@KristalovesTrump

14 күн бұрын

The US is a s*** show right now

@askjapan9669

14 күн бұрын

Wow, thanks

@8ofwands300

13 күн бұрын

@@KristalovesTrump your guy is why. 😒

You are a very kind man. I like that you speak openly about your situation.

I like that KZread has been recommending this type of content more often lately. As I watch, deep thoughts come to mind.

I am 18 years old so you have much more experience than me and there is a difference in culture (I am from the UK). But I've found myself thinking many times about what my purpose in life is, how I want to be remembered and what I want to do next. What I've found through all this thinking is that often the option you don't consider is the one you take. In your case I can relate to a feeling of stagnancy, where everything is fine at the moment but you're worried about if everything will continue to be fine in the future or if you might not be able to cope. In cases of problems you have to deal with in front of you, it seems you are both worried about supporting your loved ones financially and also I saw your video about how you feel your life is boring. Everyone is different, for example my mother feels happy by reading books, watching TV and sleeping. Yet I am the complete opposite, always trying to keep a strict routine and make the most of every minute (Likely a generational difference). Ultimately you need to get out there and try different things, you might suddenly try out something random like miniature model making (personal bias haha) and suddenly fall in love with it. The most important part in my personal experience is that you detach yourself from the criticisms of others when it comes to something personal like a hobby or what you enjoy in your free time, although I understand the impact of Japanese culture may have on this view. Technical-wise, as others have said, you aren't as old as you think for having children, some of my friends have parents older than my grandma. So your children will grow up faster than you expect, you shouldn't worry yourself about them at this moment in time. The future cannot be predicted so there's no point trying to plan for in 10 years time. As others mentioned, if your house is too big when your children move out in the future then downsizing to move out of the metro area is a great idea to allow an early retirement as it will also give you a fresh experience living in a new location and house. Obviously I'm not at an age to be advising you on life haha, but if you take anything to heart then it's to live your life one day at a time and to make the most of what life gives you. Much Love, I hope you find meaning and purpose in your life and I wish good health to you and your family

@zeroounce8874

3 күн бұрын

You are a very smart young man. Proud of you!👍 And your mother should be proud of you. I’m Very happy the way you think. Live your life one day at the time. Brilliant.

@jaydenchow6351

3 күн бұрын

wow ur so much mature for a typical 18 yo

I’m 58 years old, no children. From a financial perspective I would make sure I had an adequate amount of life insurance so that the family is protected in case of your unexpected death. That’s just good planning. I would listen to or read the Enchiridion by Epictetus. Many of our concerns about the future have no clear answer.

@priceandpride

14 күн бұрын

This is an underrated comment. And long term care insurance!

@askjapan9669

13 күн бұрын

thanks for your comment.

@sfipsalms8924

Күн бұрын

21 and im going to read that knowledge you just gifted us. thankyou.

Thank you for your honesty. I hope this helps: believe that good things are for enjoying and difficult situations are for learning and growing. That's the reason for this life. Be kind a find more ways to love❤

First, talk to a licensed financial advisor or an accountant, zeirishi. The mortgage is not a prison sentence: I suggest that you remember that you can sell the house or rent it out to reduce the burden. 50 is young in Japan. Take heart.

@youcangetsum6871

3 күн бұрын

Yeah gotta think of every way to make profit off of every asset you own or purchase alot of folks are renting out their remodeled basement, rv’s and personal vehicles too.

I am 29 years old and from Indonesia. In 20 days, I will be a father to our first child. I have the same feelings-worried and not ready. Thank you for your courage in bringing up this topic. Maybe you could create more serious content on KZread. If you're consistent in doing this, I think it can help you in many ways.

@jensimaster

7 күн бұрын

I was 29 when I was having my first son. I was renting an apartment with my wife, had very little money, didn't know anything about parenting, didn't know what the future held or how I was going to get ahead in life. My first son will be graduating highschool soon, I had 2 children. I now own 2 homes, I'm a manager where I work. Just take it day by day. Save as much money as you can, invest it wisely and read books in your free time. I'm Dutch/Indonesian btw and I live in Canada, and congratulations on your new child. Oh, and take a LOT of pictures! It feels like being a parent would take forever when they were born. Looking back, it feels like they were born 5 minutes ago!

Thank you for sharing your inner thoughts and concerns. I am 67 years old and was forced by circumstances to live out of my car for a year in 2019. Now I am doing better in ways I could not see then. I also care for my 97 year old mother in a care center. It helps to first wake for the day and give thanks for what blessing God has given you at that moment. It sets your mind and soul to positively meet each day without worries.

Keep doing KZread. The money you make on here may not be a lot but it can definitely help! All the best to you and your family.

Hey! I'm 21 and my dad is 72 and I have to say, I couldn't be happier that he is that age, all the wisdom and knowledge he has passed down to me is truly amazing, specially, the morals and loving nature he has managed to embed in me. Of course, I wish he was younger, but not because he hasn't been able to do anything in particular but because I want him to live MANY more years, he is in great physical and mental health, if im 100% honest, he is a fucking beast, he still works to this day and doing so, he teaches me how to never give up and give it your all. With this, what i want to convey, is that you don't have to see the fact that you are 50 and have young children as a disadvantage, but the complete opposite. Futher on, I feel like we all pass through similar sentiments, doesn't really matter what age you are, and the most important thing, is doing it all with a big fucking smile in your face.

@gantic8153

Күн бұрын

absolutely, heck I am 30 and this guy looks like he will outlive me lol

one of my favorite things on youtube is watching videos like these that initially look boring, but they're so real they're more fascinating than anything on tv thanks for the vids, you're not alone!

@askjapan9669

18 күн бұрын

Wow

@orkatelura2965

16 күн бұрын

Same reason I subbed after just one video.

Very brave man , keep it up , Work Hard for your children ! We Support your Journey in a matter of speaking but I want you to know that YOU ARE NOT ALONE, YOU NEED TO BE STRONG AND STAY POSITIVE FOR YOUR KIDS ❤

im only 19 but listening to you talk about your own perspective has taught me a lot, i hope we both figure out our own futures!

Keep posting on KZread, the platform and your honesty will provide you the tools you need. Your morgage is a good topic and you could upload more about it, you are speaking with honesty. What other interests or topics would you be motivated to post about? Any ideas? Best of luck

I love this quote from the novel I read. I hope this help. "Why worry about the future when you can focus on the present? By doing well now, the future won't be a problem." Edit: This is for those who need help understanding the quote. It didn't say you don't have to plan for the future, but simply contemplating and indulging about what could have happened is a waste of time. Gaining more knowledge and experience(finding what you love to do) and practicing skills in any field of choice is a far better use of your time. This quote resonates with me because I had social anxiety during my college year and ended up dropping out. If I had focused on planning my education and stopped trying to blend with people, I would have gotten a better career. Unfortunately, the past is past, and I learned from the lesson and am now improving myself for a better future.

@askjapan9669

13 күн бұрын

Thanks for your comment

@anashappydays

12 күн бұрын

I agree so much with that quote ❤️ 99 percent of our worries, never happens

@NihongoWakannai

11 күн бұрын

That's entirely irresponsible and sounds like something a young person who's never had to deal with the consequences of their actions would say.

@Rhoda8002

11 күн бұрын

Aloha. I agree that you shd not focus on paying down mortgage 20+ years. It's admirable how the Japanese put a priority on care of elderly; in- laws. We look up to Japanese 3- generation families. Your career in marketing does put you in a valuable spot globally. I subscribed to your channel because I want to know how you're doing. Your whiteboard is silent about what your wife does and how she contributes to the big picture.

@norebab3818

10 күн бұрын

If you get cancer how would you feel someone say this to you

This was a very honest and clear insight into your own fears, I applaud your courage to share with the world! It seems as though being financially ‘stuck’ is the biggest source of your fear at the moment. I am a foreigner living in the Omachi township of Nagano prefecture and I can say with first hand experience, life is quite easy here! I come from a big city and this is my first time living in the countryside. Everything is cheap, the people are friendly and relaxed, the nature everywhere is a blessing to my mental health and things generally feel like this is how life is supposed to be. Uprooting your life and moving to a new area, especially with young kids would definitely seem like a daunting feat. But people have moved to new places of opportunity in search of a better life since the beginning of time. My insight counts for very little, but I would implore you to ask yourself deeply if staying still and suffering through the typical salary man life in an expensive city just to keep things stable for your children and family is better than to take the step towards moving to an area that makes life easier on all fronts! I wish you luck in your decisions, you seem like a very personable and caring man so I believe you will do right by your family no matter what choice you make.

Thank you for sharing. Many japanese people i know rather suffer in silence than be openly vulnerable like this. But its so necessary in order to overcome these obstacles. I hope more can learn from you

I'm a millionaire living in the US. Money hasn't made me happy. In my opinion, you are already wealthy because you have good health and a beautiful young family. You have a house, clothing, and plenty to eat. Also, Japan is a very safe and stable country to live in. I love visiting Japan. The US is chaos in comparison lol. Be grateful for what you have. I'm lonely in my late thirties and I want to find a wife soon so that I can start a family. Money is worthless if you don't have anybody to share it with. By the way, you aren't trapped in your job. You can always do something different or start a business. Many opportunities exist in life. You are smart but I sense you are an overthinker. Overthinking is a trap. It's OK to take a risk. If you think of a good business idea, try it. With your excellent English fluency, you could help many Western companies operate in Japan because you know the culture and economic environment.

@askjapan9669

18 күн бұрын

Wow, thanks

@GH-uo9fy

18 күн бұрын

If you're not happy then give to me lol. But seriously, marriage is the biggest mistake you'll make. All that things you worked hard for, gone once the divorce comes rolling in. Also females on your age group are all battle hardened and jaded from past relationships, and pair bonding would be very difficult if not impossible, the only thing they have their eyes on is that pile of cash that you've got. And it would be very hard to weed out those who like you and those who are just in it for the money. But you don't have to be lonely with that money, you can get a harem in thailand or have fun in soap lands in japan with that cash.

@jeremyjackson7429

18 күн бұрын

"I want to find a wife soon so that I can start a family. Money is worthless if you don't have anybody to share it with. " I agree with what the other commenter said. Marriage is single-handedly the most common way I've seen men ruin their lives. My uncle's life was ruined because of a disastrous marriage. The judge awarded custody to him (because the wife was that unhinged). He went into hiding with my cousin only for her to find them and kidnap his son. He also had to spend almost 2 decades being constantly sued by her which drained all of his savings. He made good money but he's financially broke because of that marriage. And his marriage isn't even that much worse than most of the other marriages that I've seen. Half of marriage end in divorce where the husband loses most of their assets and become a slave to their wife's child support and alimony. Of the marriages that don't end in divorce, half of them are miserable and dysfunctional marriages with bickering, fighting, etc. My parents marriage falls into this category. I'm guessing that you had a very stable upbringing which is why you're a millionaire and bored in your 30s. I'm telling you that it's definitely not the norm and you shouldn't expect marriage to solve more problems than it creates. Most people's marriages may look great but you never see the drama that goes on behind closed doors (especially if you grew up in a functional family). Remove the emotions and understand that you're locking yourself into a legal contract with a person that has the power to completely ruin your life. And it's always "she's different" or "it won't happen to me" until it does.

@GH-uo9fy

18 күн бұрын

@@dvanatendi Regardless being rich and "lonely" is a lot better than being divorced and broke. Money can find solutions and ways of coping for the first, and there is none and you'll be trapped in the latter. And why would you want a "hard to get" woman? If you're old and have money, you're already playing a roulette and you want it to make it harder to turn it into a lottery. Also remember our time on earth is limited and our bodies deteriorate, why waste it away playing female mind games specifically those "hard to get" ones. Maybe if you're young you can get away with that mentality but if you're old better get out of fantasy land and get back to reality.

@imborad5350

18 күн бұрын

As a poor guy wouldn't mind some millions...