The OP's decision to do the right thing to is totally worth it because he has discovered that being the golden child don't sound as well as it should and wants to change it, good for him.

@user-rq3if3lp4g

5 күн бұрын

The comment that she said that ain't in here I checked

@lyyyriklp1064

2 күн бұрын

Whats a op

@claytonthomas1980

2 күн бұрын

@@lyyyriklp1064 op means original poster, hope that helps out though.

@lyyyriklp1064

2 күн бұрын

@@claytonthomas1980 thanks

@claytonthomas1980

2 күн бұрын

@@lyyyriklp1064 no problem, glad to help out.

“We didn’t think she was that smart” She has a 4.0 gpa “She only does slightly better than me” IQ isn’t just the ability to get good grades on a test 😂

@AnaPriscillaPorto

26 күн бұрын

He thought he was smarter because he doesn't put as much effort as her to learn. She makes a real effort, while he doesn't. As the smart kid that never had to study that hard, I understand why he thought that...

@KhichdiFM

19 күн бұрын

She has a 4.0 GPA because that's the threshold and perfect score and she cannot score more than that. How is it 'slightly' better.

@puneeth199

18 күн бұрын

The sister be like “you got a 3.8 because that’s all you can get. I got a 4.0 because that’s all there is to get” *peaky blinders theme in the background*

@pali3329

14 күн бұрын

​@@puneeth199To be fair, both of them could be excellent learners. Op may have only got a 3.8 because that was all she cared to get.

@puneeth199

14 күн бұрын

@@pali3329 it was just a harmless joke. Scoring well in exams without studying isn’t an easy feat ☺️

If OP is noticing the difference and it doesn't sit well with him, it can't hurt for him to try and even things out with mom, like encouraging her to spend as much time/money on sister as she does on him.

@nope-qp2sm

27 күн бұрын

Yeah you can encourage, but it won't change a thing

@memawknowsbest4978

22 күн бұрын

​@@nope-qp2sm It will if OP is consistent in pointing it out to mom as she is doing it. And refuses to allow her to give him special treatment.

@xikititahx3

21 күн бұрын

Cuando la mamá dice que un hermano está envidioso del otro es la mamá la que quiere subconscientemente provocar esa envidia, quizás la mamá no se dé cuenta, quizás si, el tema de la diferencia de tratos por machismo y/o por ignorancia cuando tienes hijos con diagnósticos mentales, lo bueno es que la mamá los llevó a terapia preocupada por la hija es una muy buena señal hay que ver también como criaron a la madre y dónde está el papá en la escena, pero aún así la mamá buscó ayuda profesional ojalá con unas cuantas sesiones mejore la relación familiar y la reacción de los hermanos igual habla de una buena crianza, pudo haber Sido un error , igual es feo invalidar los sentimientos de la hija, pero se reconoce que a pesar de implantar la semilla de la envidia también le enseñó sobre hermandad, conozco familias dónde le dan todo a uno para que los demás hermanos le tengan mala, para después pasarlo criticando frente a otros, tipo generando discordias, hasta de viejos meten a los hermanos a pelear entre ellos o que los hijos se involucren en las discusiones de los padres y tomen bandos, a veces hasta inventando cosas para generar discordias, que decir de las triangulaciones y el chisme 🤦🏻‍♀️

@lhr8833

17 күн бұрын

Those types of parents have no accountability, talking about that would be useless.

@timefoolery

15 күн бұрын

Nope is correct. The Golden Child can try, but in their mother’s eyes, they will always be superior to the Black Sheep, though neither child asked for or deserved to be labeled such. It’s awesome he gets it, though, and wants to try to balance it out. But I hate to say, it probably won’t get better until the mother passes away. My mother had me and my siblings all in our places believing exactly what she wanted us to, but now she’s not here, I made sure my siblings understood we had a Covert Narcissist for a mother and we’ve all gotten a helluva lot closer since she passed. I hate that it took that to make us closer, but when everyone is being told different things and lied to constantly, you literally don’t know who to trust anymore.

I was about to say the people who are being mean to OP isn't fair, being a golden child doesn't always mean the kid is an asshole. A kid can be the golden child without even realising it and still be a very sweet person. People need to stop thinking that 1 case fits all with that.

@maryssaflynn3208

22 күн бұрын

Although he would have been an asshole if he hadn't talked to his sister. When he said I don't know if I should talk to my sister because she might stir up trouble, can be easily rephrased to I don't want validate her experience because then we might have to enact change.

@classy_info

21 күн бұрын

OP can’t even control the fact that he is

@MilesMorales-vr6jp

19 күн бұрын

​@@maryssaflynn3208It can't be that reason due to the added context. People tend to hate others for things they can't control; he was simply fearing that. Furthermore, what you're implying is that he knew and wanted 'favorite child' benefits, when again there is multiple evidence saying otherwise.

Okay but siblings with 120 and 140 IQ's is insane, there gonna be like astronauts together or something lmao

@Emskieeeee

15 күн бұрын

Especially that because they've got a good relationship too lol

@Amrita20005

14 күн бұрын

But isn't like 120 average

@lisannfr

4 күн бұрын

lol My older sister and I have IQs in a similar range. We are not astronauts. She's an accomplished journalist who writes about cybersecurity and I'm an assistant preschool teacher and soon to be private nanny. I allegedly have the higher IQ, but she's always seemed like a genius to me, and she has so many talents and also had better grades. She's the competitive type, while I often suffer from a lack of motivation due to my ADHD and often crippling social anxiety. I find it very ironic having learned that she both admired and resented me growing up due to knowing I had the higher IQ, meanwhile I don't even remember taking such a test, let alone the specific results of myself and my sister. I always felt like I was playing catch-up with someone way out of my league, and for a long time I also thought she hated me for being inferior. I'm glad that as adults we understand each other better and there's lots of love between us. As for our mom, we have two younger siblings, so there're 4 of us in total and my mom claims she has no favorite, but we all know her favorite is actually her 5th child, the family dog.

@natecar1

3 күн бұрын

Yeah that's what took me out of it. It makes me assume it was written by a 15 year old who made it all up and didn't think to check IQ ranges.

@kevinpotts123

3 күн бұрын

I am living proof that a high IQ is pointless if you don't put in the effort. I'm not gonna say what it is, but it's embarrassingly high, especially considering my academic achievements and income, or lack thereof.

Nice. Sibling love.

Such a great sibling relationship. OP is great for realizing that his sister was right about his golden child status in mom’s eyes. They can sit their mother down and talk about how it is wrong to have a golden child. Then share how they feel about their mother giving him preferential treatment. As long as they keep their current relationship intact OP and his sister will always be winners

I Love this Post! I don’t like this Golden child syndrome. I am my mother’s first born. As such she spent quite a bit of time with me. I spoke early, read early, yada, yada. My baby brother took longer to speak. Yet he has a brilliant mind. (We are 5 years apart) I am the reader/writer/linguist between us. My brother is a walking talking computer. Throw numbers at him, he can calculate anything, I just duck and cover. Teachers at school would always ask him why can’t you be like your sister? Never taking into account his brilliance with numbers. They certainly lambasted me in regard to math though. Even some family harangued him about writing. I came home in the middle of one of the idiotic rants and went off! Sometimes family can be SO BLIND! Even identical Twins have separate ideas, wants, desires and skills. This was in the 60’s, you would think we would have advanced just a tad in our thinking. 🤷🏽❤️‍🔥

It’s never the kids fault they are the golden child. It’s the parents. What matters is how the parents handle it and how the children react

1:00 if you came from short

@AnnyVanilla-Swiftie13

20 күн бұрын

Thanks!

@Blizzard_Wcue

20 күн бұрын

thanks!

the ending brough a smile to my face

These two kids are going to survive with their relationship intact no matter what the mother does. To recognize and be ashamed of golden child status means OP has a very good emotionally mature head on his shoulders. These two obviously love each other and that is so refreshing to see. The answer to all of these stories is not always "kick them out of their lives" as so many armchair quarterbacks seem to think. It takes emotionally mature people to work out their differences to repair and improve their relationship. More often than not, it is well worth the effort.

I just want to say as an autistic person. 1. IQ score dont say anything about are you autistic or not, or my personal opinion even if you really smart. 2. Being quiet/shy also not make you autistic, im personally quiet autistic type but i known many autistic people that are pretty “noisy” talkative and friendly. 3. Autism is genetical. There is a great chance you are all autistic just being different type of autistic. :)

ngl this short made me realize i’m the golden child in some ways

I love the edit. My eldest is on the spectrum and I suspect very high IQ. She struggles at school because she becomes overwhelmed easily. My second child is also very intelligent but probably similar to the two people in this post - above average but not to the same degree as the eldest. But she does better in most facets of life. I once saw a video theorising that very high IQ can in itself be a disability because while there’s incredible intellect there’s often deficits in other areas like emotional and social intelligence. Anyway, I came to say my two eldest are best friends. They’re two years apart almost to the day. My eldest says her sister is the best birthday present she ever received and I’ve always called them my twins 2 years apart. It is my greatest joy as a mother that they’re there for each other. I can’t even explain in words how much it means to me that they have always been there for each other and when my eldest struggled the younger one was always there for her and vice versa. I know the younger one stood up to bullies when she was only about 7 years old. I know the oldest covered for the younger one when she needed an excuse to get out of uncomfortable social situations “sorry I promised I’d spend that time with my older sister”. They’ve counselled each other through high school. They’re 17 and 19 now and wonderful young women and still besties.

@zerotodona1495

20 күн бұрын

Autism is such a poor excuse. It’s called being smart and introverted. Autism is not a personality.

This was refreshing. I hope your bond endures all ❤

“You got that that score bc that’s all you can get, I got my score bc that’s all there is to get”

My brother and I are similarly situated, as I have autistic traits that will be confirmed soon. With an iq of 144 when half asleep. My parents could deal with my brother easier than me, etc. I use to hate the unfairness of it but now as an adult and parent myself, I see that they just didn't know what to do or how to talk to me.

I'm very creeped out by the story.. as it's the same in my own family. My younger brother is also named Matt, and he's been a favourite of my mother ever since I can remember. I'm also an introverted older sister. I am highly disturbed with story

@rebeccaconlon9743

17 күн бұрын

I have a similar story too. My brother isn't a matt tho. He did engineering and I did astrophysics. The psychologist who did my disability test was surprised at seeing an iq over 145... I wasn't doing particularly well in the degree tho

Why did I think OP was a girl the whole time until the end 😂😂

Did anyone else notice that OP’s mom tried putting him against his sister with the jealousy comment?

Good brother looking out for his sister and being aware of the favoritism

My mom was the same way with me and my siblings I have an older sister (og scapegoat) then it went to me because she was out the house to much now that we have both moved out it her 'perfect little boy' ( in all honesty tho I do Frequently check in with him tho)

I love how this ended and I really didn't like the mom but the children seen to forgive her or at least disregard her actions so it's not my place to be upset with her.

One of the stories where i dont rlly hate any of the characters

Seems like the mom is making a lot of comments about the sister to the brother. These parents with their “favorites “ suck.

I can understand OP feeling embarrassed and like theyre to blame, but this is all on the mom. Of course OP thought they were better because they were praised for less. Happy OP and the sister still have a relationship.

Cool Glad you guys love each other Yeah he didn’t even mention you were on the autism side that’s a good brother

1:00 for people from shorts! ❤

Some people need to understand that golden children that don’t realize that they are one may also go through a tough time with bullying and being guilty I was one but after realizing I almost committed suicide and I don’t like attention so I also got a lot of attention that was unnecessary and it caused panic attacks

@kirb4089

15 күн бұрын

Very understandable. I always got attention which drove me away into isolation

Around 0:54 for people coming from the short

Folks, the Golden Child doesn’t always enjoy being in that position. My brother hated it! It was a lot of embarrassment for him when my mother would talk to him in this sickly-sweet voice and gush about how awesome he and his friends were. He despised having any attention brought to his presence and he literally left home for Navy boot camp two weeks after graduating high school to get away from the unwanted attention. My younger brother became the Golden Child after he left, and despite me making Honor Roll, editing the high school paper, being lead actress in drama and a debater, and winning a slew of awards, not once was I ever treated like I was anything other than a black sheep because I was 15 lbs. overweight or something 🙄 So do look at the actions of your Golden Child sibling before you judge them cuz that’s a crown not everyone wants to wear.

@temporaryname5761

15 күн бұрын

Some golden child enjoys the attention and would sabotage their siblings to remain in the position. Not this one

Mothers prefer sons… it’s a fact. It’s annoying too.

@Vasilija_3770

20 күн бұрын

Nah im a girl and my mom prefers me over my brothers

@Megnan.143

19 күн бұрын

@@Vasilija_3770lucky

That’s not golden child that’s favorite child

If she loves her siblings and they aren't neglected then its alright

@kumikor3392

20 күн бұрын

She is neglected, emotionally so. Their mom actively excludes the daughter because she's autistic. The mom didn't even celebrate her daughter doing well in school

0:58 For short users

I am sorry Lala you are funny and all but I just feel it’s kinda fake like how would you put the camera and the phone in the perfect position and time to capture this….also won’t you hear footsteps before he comes in or him opening the door I just feel that it is not real And if u have any explanation say it in a vid and I am welling take my words back

Oof

We got the good ending!

Byyyee💅 people

When i was 10 i did a iq test and got 146 💀

Okay, I’m glad yall have a good relationship but y’all’s mom is the worst

Nah the mom is the problem

Don't you think it's little late . You don't see because is in or favor is not nice sorry i don't believe in your excuse you not real sorry 🤬😡😠