Sending much love ❤ I’m just trying to define what ambition is for me now, not what others have defined it in my life. I understand achieving anything in life could be considered having an ambition of some sort, I just wanted to talk about my process working through pressures to always be doing more and succeeding more… instead, enjoying what is enough for me and choosing not to compare, only to do my best within the confines of my own life. As someone who has struggled with workaholism and being quite anxious earlier in life, this has been a meaningful journey to me to ask myself not what I think I should want out of life, but what I truly want. And yes, I suppose this is ambitious! But I need to use words to describe what I’m trying to say, and those words can be interpreted in many ways, so I hope that this video shows that of course I have wanted to work hard to survive (and of course thrive), but that I have let go of what I previously considered ‘ambitious’ to embrace a new way of living… a very ambitious one at that: cultivating a loving interior life and finding gratitude and joy in the every day.

@bearcat2020

2 ай бұрын

Wishing you the best dear one.

@georgiannaneller1394

2 ай бұрын

Just relish this time, take care of yourself, and focus on the expectation of your sweet bundle of joy. 💕

@desiderata333

2 ай бұрын

You are very beautiful inside and out. Heartfelt congratulations on your soon to be bundle of love and joy! You are going to be a most exquisite mother. I have learned a lot from you over the years and am very happy for you. Sending love to you. Bendicion! Cindy from Puerto Rico. 💕💕💕💕💕

@rlopez11-11

Ай бұрын

❤️

@melanierosalie

Ай бұрын

I loved this video! As a mom I always get asked what my next step is, how I will grow, how I will expand my business. I just want to enjoy my kids, live in peace, be kind and help others❤

Holy shit this is the complete opposite of EVERYTHING else on the internet about hustling, grinding, entreprenaurship, escaping the matrix, blah blah FUCKING blah. God bless this woman. Here's to livin'.

@toastymcgee9788

Ай бұрын

Yeah I saw someone post on reddit. I work in IT and they asked how people find time to get certifications. This dude answers and says roughly that he works full time 8-9 hours, comes home and makes dinner and then works on certifications for 4+ hours, goes to bed for 4-6 hours...every...day. Rinse and repeat. I cannot fucking do that nor should I have to. My day ends at 4:30 PM. That is it. If my work wants me to do certifications, they can have me do that during work time.

@stefb1998

Ай бұрын

​@@toastymcgee9788good for you. Don't let other people define your lifestyle.

@PatrickAkera

Ай бұрын

@@toastymcgee9788 And that's why you'll remain in tech support and complain about pay.

@LeonhardRalebelo

24 күн бұрын

"blah blah fucking blah" 😀😀Love it. Spot on.

@FluffyBunny9002

20 күн бұрын

If you like this you might like Timothy Ward's videos too. He talks about the programming we've all become accustomed to, and how living to live (in his case spending time in nature) over work and hustle culture brings freedom and peace.

I graduated high school in 1976, a time when women were told we can do it all. If we weren't doing it all, we were somehow letting down all of womanhood. So, I did, I have 3 advanced degrees, and 4 children. I worked full time and took care of family...or at least I thought I was. I had a nanny taking care of my kids and wearing myself out being active every waking minute of every day. When my kids were grown, I left my big life, retired early, and now live in a 4-room farmhouse where I spend my time in my art studio or just doing nothing. I spend time with my grandchildren and family...life is slow and simple. I am so glad you are seeing there is a plus to slow and simple in your younger years. Enjoy.

@katashley1031

2 ай бұрын

That push to make women feel the way you did, in the 70s, really took mothers away from so many of us kids. My Gen X group mostly raised ourselves. But I'm glad you finally get to enjoy just being, and bathing in simplicity and contentment. What a wonderful thing. 😊

@ClaireGreen-wd2gm

2 ай бұрын

Your career gave you the ability to retire early. Most millenials have a retirement plan called "death".

@maryoleary2037

2 ай бұрын

Do you have regrets that someone else was raising your children?

@smfarrie2943

2 ай бұрын

@@maryoleary2037 her sacrifices gave her kids a good life. No struggling.

@smfarrie2943

2 ай бұрын

@@katashley1031 no way my mother and father could have supported their 3 kids on his one salary. We still struggled even then.

"Working at my bookstore seems like a very boring job." Honestly, it sounds like a dream come true.

@Anubis424242

5 күн бұрын

Is it possible to work there and pay the bills easily? Seems like people have to work like slaves just to have a place to live.

My motto: Do what makes you Happy even if the whole world says it's Useless or Boring.

@user-mq2kt1kx1c

Ай бұрын

Fabulous and what a lovely saying. ❤

@fastrvl

Ай бұрын

amen to that!

@megataurus7779

11 күн бұрын

Yep,you do you and fk everyone else!

@rickysong91

11 күн бұрын

Except if what makes you happy makes others unhappy. Such as eating 🍖🍖

@murtadha96

6 күн бұрын

@@rickysong91even more reason to eat 🍖

My instant thought when you said "I was asked how I was going to change the world" was, you've already figured that out. Your videos leave a positive impact on so many people.

@Cynthia_CynnCytii

2 ай бұрын

1000%

@PrincessKladia

2 ай бұрын

Amen!

@Selenesparkles

2 ай бұрын

❤

@BeingArtful

2 ай бұрын

Her videos are potent and surge with truths. When you're authentic to the meaning of your life, you change the world.

@barbaramazzacco6644

2 ай бұрын

I so agree with that ❤

I am exactly same. I’ve had folks ask me how I just stay home with no big plans or excursions. I’ve always loved using time to daydream and read. I never need to go out to find fulfillment. I love living quietly and peacefully with compassion and kindness. Thank you for your lovely videos.

@alisonlee4723

2 ай бұрын

I absolutely agree with you 100% ❤

@TubeYouLena

2 ай бұрын

Same here

@InfiniteSoul91

2 ай бұрын

Me toooo! 🎉 💚🌏💚

@Dakota-Rose

2 ай бұрын

Same here ❤

@mariamkamal

2 ай бұрын

Same here ❤

”Only a slave quantifies itself through productivity.” -RJ Spina

@1person69races8

Ай бұрын

This is why i sleep all the time mom!

@sassyred1229

Ай бұрын

I needed to see this quote today more than you'll ever know. Thank you for commenting with this ❤

@shinobirising8196

Ай бұрын

Ohhhh... I love that quote. Gotta save that for later.

@livinglifetothefullest22

Ай бұрын

Exactly a very obedient slave😂😂😂

@konpulsiv

Ай бұрын

Yeah well, only that they don't do it voluntarily... what an odd quote.

I think all introverts must love your channel.

@GrannyDi276

Ай бұрын

Yes! And she is learning young to embrace who she is instead of trying to fit other's molds for her. The lord Jesus tried to tell me years ago... "I just want you to totally,totally, totally be yourself." I couldn't do it. I was a Pastor's wife in a small church in a small town with high expectations of myself along with the expectations of others to surmount. Only now at age 75 am I allowing myself to just be me. Not very social, though I love people. Not going out much. Puttering when I'm physically able. Enjoying books & youtube. I am content being old. Thank you for your lovely videos, Cottage fairy!❤

@Jcthered

Ай бұрын

We do

@Belluser-we1uc5cb2l

Ай бұрын

I do ❤

@paranora333

Ай бұрын

Absolutely. This is how I want to live my life ❤

@everseeking60

Ай бұрын

@@paranora333 Right!

Intentionally living slowly and not always conforming to the world and its views of how to "live the right way", is one of the most freeing things ever✨️🌻

@skittles2055

Ай бұрын

💟

Long ago I succumbed to my Hobbit nature, lol. It is no bad thing to celebrate a simple life. I'm never bored. But I absolutely love solitude and doing nothing, I always have. It's lovely to see so many others who feel the same. Lots of people cannot relate at all, lol.

@GrannyDi276

Ай бұрын

Yes!❤

@evak3356

Ай бұрын

It's quite sad that the system teaches us to "be busy" and it's looked up on. At a phase in my life where I experienced solitude and nature, a lot of guilt and other feelings of unworthiness came up due to a lack of "productivity". When you look at animals though, they don't question their existence. They simply just lay on the ground and watch the day the go by. Overtime, I let those negative feelings go and accepted just being.

@janelleaquino

Ай бұрын

@@evak3356 This is beautiful.

@skittles2055

Ай бұрын

@@evak3356”Only a slave quantifies itself through productivity.” -RJ Spina … That’s just what ‘the system’ teaches/programs us to be, sadly.

This channel is one of my favourite safe spaces, it’s the digital equivalent a warm hug, a cosy blanket, eating hot cookies and petting my dog - all at once 😊

@everseeking60

2 ай бұрын

And with a mug of hot chocolate...😂

"What do you want to be when you grow up?" "Kind," said the boy. Charlie Mackesy, The Boy, the Mole, the Fox and the Horse ❤

Being a mother is doing something with your life and being a great one can change the world, todays world doesn’t recognize the value of being a present and patient mother but it is the cornerstone of society

@Avery_4272

2 ай бұрын

The value of a safe, present, supportive and patient parent (mother and/or father) can indeed be immeasurable.

@StarshineInTHEnorth

2 ай бұрын

🪶

@marialicemorgan19

2 ай бұрын

Well said. We are undervalued.

@federicade6382

2 ай бұрын

So so true!! Raising happy and kind children is the best way to change the world ❤

@jeanmullins3284

2 ай бұрын

❤❤❤Amen!!❤❤❤

I'm 22. I have no ambition in life. Many times I feel like something's wrong with me for not having any drive, specially when I compare myself to people my age. I really love this quote: "we're not here to change the world, we're here to learn to love it as it is". Thank you for being an inspiration. I feel a little better about myself and my "lack of ambition" thanks to you ❤

@unaestheticarri6487

2 ай бұрын

I’m 22 as well and feel like i wrote this myself. I feel guilty or embarrassed when people asked “what do you do”. Because I didn’t go to college and I have no real desire to. I’ve never had a career goal or had an epiphany of “that’s what I want to be!” All I knew since a young age up until now is that I wanted a cottage or small home off in the woods with chickens and small animals. A garden to care for and live a simple life. It’s sad that a lot of people deem that ambitious-less or boring. I know I want to read my books and live off my own land. I guess it’s just the “how” I’m going to get there for me.

@juanitatabe7472

2 ай бұрын

@@unaestheticarri6487you. Take action on your dreams . Start growing food in pots, learn to sew and mend. Learn how to use tools. Learn about the animals you want to keep. All this while saving for your dream.

@hereim5648

2 ай бұрын

I wish I knew this when I was 22. Now I am 50 but doing Slow Living. Thank God I am not 80.

@Kittyscraftcorner-ud6ij

2 ай бұрын

Maybe you just need different ambitions e.g to create a calm and stable home, or to maintain a lifelong marriage, or to create a beautiful garden etc etc. It doesn't have to be about money or career or fame.

@leannewith3

Ай бұрын

I think ambition is over rated. There is nothing wrong with just being happy and living life on your terms. Especially in the US the idea of always driving for something more is ridiculous.

''Boredom'' is a luxury. To be filled or not filled however you see fit. 💗

This is the type of content our busy, competitive, “always worried about everything” society needs to start consuming. This is the true definition of being FREE in your life. Congratulations for being one of very few people to experience what real freedom is about these days ❤

@freespirit-111

7 күн бұрын

I agree.

This young woman is wise beyond her years. She blesses all her viewers her wisdom. May her birthing experience be kind.

@dianegriffith3006

2 ай бұрын

Amen to that-a very special soul. ❤️

@karolinabaker7637

2 ай бұрын

Beautifully said. And best wishes to Paola and her little darling boy

@lialife8263

4 күн бұрын

Amen!!! Never to loose that gentle spirit she has!! And not allow anyone to ruin that…

I believe in appreciating the smalls in life. One doesn't have to live for big events. The smalls can give you a beautiful life.

@mollyswanner1607

2 ай бұрын

Yes. All of the threads in the blanket.

@truthseeker1954

2 ай бұрын

Beautiful and meaningful.

@anuragchakraborty8766

2 ай бұрын

Yeah but where’s the money coming from to pay the bills?

@mollyswanner1607

2 ай бұрын

@@anuragchakraborty8766 I don't think the comment was monetary related.

@anuragchakraborty8766

2 ай бұрын

@@mollyswanner1607 Yeah but the comment tries to paint a rosy picture of life, which is the exact opposite of reality. In real life, you always have to think about the money first and foremost.

Girl, same!!! I literally don’t want to do anything but just live and read.

@totoro888

Ай бұрын

Do you think having 1.5 million subs youtube channel is "doing nothing", and owning a store? This sole video was probably a week of hard work.

@ll2323

Ай бұрын

@@totoro888 sure Jan.

@Claraberl

Ай бұрын

@@totoro888📌

You said a powerfully familiar thing, that everything you thought would make you happy didn’t. That was true for me as well. My husband of 42 years and I raised 6; 4boys, 2girls, and they have all become model adults true to their individual passions interests, and pursuits. .. and have their own beautiful families and all live 15 minutes away in their tree lined community, sub-divisions. It was truly a labor of love to be a stay home mom for 25 years, because I had originally romanticized the thought of motherhood because I thought that being a mom would make me happy and truly it didn’t, because I don’t like conflict and raising human beings-let alone 6- is all about resolving conflicts, conflicts of ideas, and temperament. I’m a homebody and love quietude and they were vibrant social bodies😅, but thankfully Thankfully I survived the long night, and now, it is day, and I smile and wonder how I survived it all. The story is told and now the pen is in their hands to write the next chapters of a family.. and if I had known it would be so hard, I would have fortified myself with practical and tactical 😅training for workplace conflict resolution 😅 which is what a home becomes for the mother. The work of raising adults is no crystal stair, or flowered garden, it is the trenches of life in heart break and heart building.

@jenniferhowell8905

Ай бұрын

I’m 45 with 12 yr old twins and a 13 yr old daughter. It is an emotionally difficult age to get through anyway and I wish my husband understood the mental amount of work in making sure they have a good foundation. He bought a business 6 yrs ago (married 23 years) it’s changed him, we have very different values now. Not sure what the future looks like and where I belong. I’m doing a bit of therapy on the side to contribute financially. I am passionate about mental health but my focus is the kids. Not forever, just for now. Many traumas can happen between 12-17 and I want to be a safe person for them. Not sure why I just wrote so much. My marriage hasn’t been easy. But separating now doesn’t seem like a good thing for any of them so I shall keep on going. Thanks for ur channel, u r a gift!!

"No ambition" keeps you open to opportunity & you can decide whether you take it or not. It's the ultimate position of freedom. "Success " is someone else's imposed construct. Enjoy your life, thats all anyone needs to do.

@eliciaeldridge3452

2 ай бұрын

Well said

@forwomen9244

2 ай бұрын

Love this!!

@loosilu

Ай бұрын

Freedom is only possible if you can fund it. CF very obviously has family money to support herself. You MUST have your own money.

@guest_5992

Ай бұрын

​@@loosiluShe also has a youtube channel with over 1.5mil subscribers. It's pretty disingenuous to claim not to have ambition when you're a successful social media influencer. These videos take a lot of work and editing. Yet she portrays her life as just sitting around her bookstore with nothing to do. I'm kind of disappointed in the blantent lies.

@loosilu

Ай бұрын

@@guest_5992 Thank you! I thought I was the only one.

As a woman with a disability, you are giving my true heart a voice... JUST BE AND LET THAT BE ENOUGH...Thank You!

@skittles2055

Ай бұрын

💟🤗

Beyond busy-ness is boredom. Beyond boredom is peace. It's OK to just be and experience the miracle of life. Great video!

The saddest part of having this personality is being around mean people. Otherwise, living alone and not desiring material things brings a lot of peace. I’m glad you have people that love and support you ❤

@user-uq8xv2fp2l

15 күн бұрын

Me too

I have never been ambitious but through my 20s, 30s, & most of my 40s I felt guilty about this. Then I found myself alone, very little money & learnt how to survive & enjoy simple pleasures & make do with very little & embraced a simpler life & gave myself permission to feel ok about not being ambitious. We only have one life & if we can live it well & not hurt others then it’s a life well lived.

I will be 61 this year and still don't know what I want to be! I think being a mother was my greatest calling. ❤

@Mymle

2 ай бұрын

That’s so nice. Being a mother is the most important job, when you think about it. Because you are literally raising human beings, the next generation. 😊

@pianokeysandcraniotomies3365

2 ай бұрын

I’m a pediatrician, and my work is so meaningful and I am so grateful for that. But being a mother has been my true calling, and it has meant more to me than anything else I have done. Cheers to moms.

@karolinabaker7637

2 ай бұрын

I agree wholeheartedly ❤ my daughters are my world. I never needed to accomplish anything else other than their happiness

@butterfly-iu5ig

2 ай бұрын

I agree, the greatest achievement I feel I made in life is having and raising my daughter. She is a teacher now and loves her job and one day she will find the love of her life and start another cycle of life. That has made me Happy!!!!

@mollyswanner1607

2 ай бұрын

​@@butterfly-iu5ig❤beautiful

After losing my baby brother to fetanyl last year, everything in my life had to change. I was in the darkest place I could ever know, and upon giving up entirely, I found you. And i found someone who thought the way i did. That most things human stress about are truely unimportant in the grand scheme of things. Most of how we live our lives is based on societial norms. And i wanted out. I wanted to throw everything In my life away that didn't serve my souls experience. I had this constant thought, I just want to be a cottage fairy in the woods, connecting to mother earth. I looked up "cottage fairy" on KZread, and came across your videos. When I say they changed everything, you changed EVERYTHING for me. I truly feel that I am exactly where I was always meant to be. For me, your videos are the source of light that led me out of darkness. And I am forever grateful for how you impacted me, and helped me find peace and tranquility through my grief and loss. So, from the most sincere place in my soul, from one earth sister to another, I thank you and wish you all the most unique and beautiful blessings in your life ❤❤❤

@tracylacko4940

2 ай бұрын

Wow. So beautifully said. Sending you love & light for your day to day journey 💫🙌🏼😊✌🏽❤✨

@wildflowerlove41

2 ай бұрын

Thank you 🙏🦋💛​@@tracylacko4940

@sandyheredia3027

Ай бұрын

So sorry for your loss. I pray the lord keeps giving you and your family to carry on😢his bless you, peace be with you😢

@sofiasousa6118

Ай бұрын

Have a good life ✨ so happy for you

@eumeliacorona9824

Ай бұрын

❤️❤️❤️❤️

Those words ring true, "To grow, to be kind". My father used to say, 'If everyone was just a bit kinder to each other then the troubles in the world would disappear'. I love these words too 🌷🌹🌻🌿

Hello Dear 💕 I also Love Slow Living and Slow Cooking. Ambition is overrated - Thanks for being you. Love from Canada 🇨🇦

@josephstevens9888

2 ай бұрын

I agree!

@N-A-uw5fp

2 ай бұрын

Well said!

I was terrified as a teenager of never living up to my expectations, that I'd miss out on a chance of greatness, that I would "waste" my time if I wasn't pursuing my biggest dream or aspiration... that I needed to do something important on big scale... and now, here I am living an average/normal life I never imagined, and all I really care about now is spending time with the people I love. I'm so much happier knowing myself, knowing that what I truly desire is the space to dream but no obligation to make it reality, to enjoy friends and family, to create art and express my feelings. Paola, I relate so much to this video.

@maryalcock9451

2 ай бұрын

100 % agree with every word couldn’t have said it better ❤️

@StarshineInTHEnorth

2 ай бұрын

🪶

@sandycrayford3971

2 ай бұрын

You are beautiful inside and out ❤😊

I have recently found myself in this same place - no ambition, no goals, no striving. Just experiencing, just living, just being. Its beautiful. No weight, no pressure, no expectation. Just deep breaths. I feel like this has been the answer all along.

@julietreagus7043

7 күн бұрын

Yep, Even complete when JESUS is carrying the weight of burdens

@yungmentalproblems

7 күн бұрын

This is hell for me

@ashleighmemarzadeh7638

7 күн бұрын

@@yungmentalproblems it takes a long time to get to a place where this can feel comfortable. The idea of this used to be hell for me too when I was younger.

@_clownworld

6 күн бұрын

@@ashleighmemarzadeh7638 problem is.. how to pay bills

Use this for your baby❤

@LuckyGirISyndrome

5 күн бұрын

She has almost 2 million subscribers…She doesn’t need more money. I promise you donating it to a women’s shelter or animal shelter would’ve been more impactful.

I only WISH I could have realized that lesson at your age, always felt the pressure from all sides that I wasn't doing enough and all I wanted to do was be home with my kids, garden, cook, knit, sew and read. I am in my retirement years and learning how to ignore anyone or anything that tries to rush me and it has been a challenge. This world has always been too speeded up for this girl.....I LOVE your book store😍 and you are just glowing young lady! Stay the course Paola, you are definitely on the right track💕🧚‍♀

@chasing_stardust

2 ай бұрын

Same here

@eliciaeldridge3452

2 ай бұрын

That is very true it is really hard to unlearn what has been drilled into us and affected us from a very young age as though we are not enough until we prove our worth based on society's current standards. I think in some ways social media has been good in this sense that we can connect far more easily with people who have found their truth and who know how to separate their lives and goals from what others expect of them which is so encouraging and helps us take that step. I am a stay at home mom in my early 30s and I often feel I am still fighting against this or having to justify my decision to some people who are intrusive and I really have to unlearn this. I hope you continue to grow and learn and enjoy your retirement on your own terms.

@loosilu

Ай бұрын

How were you able to afford that?

@GrannyDi276

Ай бұрын

Yes!❤

Mother Teresa said, if you want to change the world, go home and love your family. I think this is part of the core identity of women. So glad you are at peace with where you are in life!

@luticia

2 ай бұрын

Mother Teresa is a criminal cheater

@StarshineInTHEnorth

2 ай бұрын

🪶

@egrace3738

2 ай бұрын

'Mother' Teresa was a shady person in reality 😔

@luticia

2 ай бұрын

@@egrace3738 Be prepared that your comment will be deleted. I wrote exactly the same thing and my comment isn’t there anymore….

@user-ez7kz1pe1k

2 ай бұрын

​@@egrace3738Myslím že tady jde spíše o ten citát samotný (tedy o to, co je řečeno), než o to, kdo to řekl... Mnoho výroků Matky Terezy je velmi hlubokých a moudrých, i když ona sama MOŽNÁ v pořádku nebyla. (?)

The flower doesn't desire to be or not to be a flower. It just is a flower. And there lies its bliss 🌼

What an intelligent way of looking at life, “simply live it!”

The simple life is all I’ve ever wanted to be enough. Especially being kind most of all. There isn’t enough kindness in the world

@lc7169

2 ай бұрын

Yes. Seems so many people have turned into ugly hearts and bullies. So very sad they don’t share in peace and kindness.

@Dave11295

2 ай бұрын

@@lc7169 Why should someone treat you with kindness if you are dirty dog?

I totally feel you. So many years i woke up every day with the question Whats the meaning of my day? Whats my contribution? I felt that if I dont do smth meaningful , my life has no meaning. Nowadays, when I just live by the day, soft and without goals, I feel free. And light. And alive. And thankful.

Being a loving and caring mother is more than ENOUGH. Motherhood is a full time job 💛🌻

I'm in my early 20s and I have realized that I don't know what I want to do anymore. When I was a teenager I had so many ideas, but now I just want to live peacefully in the countryside with a garden. I don't have as much passion as I used to for college. Sometimes this makes me feel like a failure. Though, watching you is helping me through these thoughts.

@sundance1372

2 ай бұрын

I completely understand you. I'm in my mid 20s and the more I interact with the job market and the world in general, the more I feel the need for a simple, slow and poetic life. With time, I've realized I'm not made for the kind of lifestyle that society pressures us to follow. I don't want to always be in a rush, I despise the idea of being confined to a desk for most of my day, I dread the idea of feeling helpless and stuck in a dehumanizing routine. This can't be life, can it? We are here for such a brief time, I can't imagine spending it like that. Of course working is necessary and can also be rewarding, but I simply cannot imagine myself in a 9-5 soulless job for the rest of my life, surrounded by equally soulless people. There's so much inside of me that needs nurturing, so many dreams and things going on... I just want peace and time, and kindred spirits to share life with.

@megancater5441

2 ай бұрын

@@sundance1372 I feel exactly as you do.

@sundance1372

2 ай бұрын

@@megancater5441 Glad to know I'm not the only one! Do you have someone in your life that shares this view? I personally don't, and it's making me feel quite lonely.

@princessdumbarton9877

2 ай бұрын

When you were young? lol What are you now?

@megancater5441

2 ай бұрын

@@sundance1372Not specifically, but my husband has come around to this idea after all we have been through (so technically now I have someone in my life feeling this way, but haven't most of the time), so hopefully we can make it happen soon.

She said : "There are healthy ways to have ambitions where it doesn't mean that you are going to be happy once you achieve those goals". This should be my rule of life from today. ❤

Your channel is the equivalent to reading a Mary Oliver poem. Both of them just permanently alter my brain. So beautiful and simple and cozy.

Expecting yourself to live up to your potential, and reach a certain level of success, is just the worst. It puts so much pressure on a person. It makes you forget to enjoy life, and to forget that you're worth a lot just because you're a person. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this.

No matter what society wants to tell you, the eternal chase after money or fame is not the way to get happy or find peace in life. The sad thing is, society exepcts everyone to always work harder, do even more things on top of the things you already do. But the thing, is not everyone is made the same. Some people (i count myself among those) are just not made fot this style of life. Sending much positive energy.

You will soon be doing the most fulfilling, and challenging “job” ever, MOTHERHOOD. Beat wishes

I don't know it you knew about this, but roughly half of college grads do not work in the field of study where they got their degree. I happen to be one of those. There are expectations others put on us and there are expectations we put on ourselves. Finding where we thrive, I think, is where we find the most happiness. I found that place, and it seems like you've found that place also, and you feel the calmness and rest that comes with that realization. In my opinion, that is commendable. You look so beautiful and glowing and happy. Thanks for your beautiful videos. I always look forward to them.

She has truly learned the secret to life: Just Do Not Give A ****!!! And everything sorts itself.

I don’t think it’s that you don’t have ambition in life per say. Ambition doesn’t have to equal career goals. I think, wanting to live life in a way that feels fulfilling to you, and having a dedication to that goal is a type of ambition in itself. I say this all because I myself have been having many of the same kinds of thoughts as you, and it’s refreshing, so refreshing, to hear somebody else give voice to those feelings. It made me feel less alone and less guilty for not wanting to give in to the social pressure to live by other people’s standards.

Im recovering from fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue and prioritising my health for the first time, before external attainments, chased my whole life. In truth, that phase is over, something new and healthier awaits while I slowly rebuild my life creatvely.

@tabitha4048

Ай бұрын

Same!

Paola, watching your videos has been one of the best things that happened to me. I'm 28 now, almost 29, and I feel that my family is expecting great things from me but I'm completely lost, I really don't know what I want to do with my life, and with my degree, and your words in this video were so comforting, I just want to say thank you for every kind word you say. Sending love to you and your family from Brazil. ❤

Good morning Paola, I totally understand! Raising your baby is the most rewarding thing you will ever do. Enjoy life as you say! Sending the love 😘💞

what do you mean you've not "done something"?? your vlogs have definitely done something for me!! they are the remedy to my sleepless nights when my thoughts are too noisy, and hearing your perspective on life helps me feel less alone in the fast-paced, overachieving environment that i find myself in 🥺 thank you, my one and only cottage fairy 💕😌

With each passing year, I feel the need to live slower and more peacefully. I do have many goals and dreams, such as making my living as an artist and KZreadr a reality while traveling the world, but it's not in some crazy adventurous way. I want to travel slowly, taking my time learning about each country and culture on a deeper level, spending many months in each place I live, and spend my days outside painting the landscapes and scenes that I see. I also do want to settle down sooner than later, preferably within the next few years. To be able to buy a small plot of land in a forest and live out a peaceful life growing my own food and being present with my future family. Most of my ambitions are creative and spiritual, and I don't want to stress about the projects I'm working on. I want to be grounded and create because I love what I do, not based off what society tells me I should do. I recently turned 30 and have been feeling this deeper than ever before. Yes, I'm working hard trying to make these dreams a reality, but I'm also reminding myself not to rush through life, to simply be present and enjoy each passing moment. Listen to your soul. 🌲💙

@BoboWay

2 ай бұрын

I love your dreams and I wish you get there soon!

@baejay798

2 ай бұрын

Lovely, what kinds of youtube videos would you ideally make? I love to support small, new channels and give feedback about how they can improve (whenever they want it)

@ulalume.

2 ай бұрын

You have (almost) the same dream as mine! Just subscribed to your channel :)

@Ellary_Rosewood

2 ай бұрын

@@BoboWay Thank you so much! ❤️

@Ellary_Rosewood

2 ай бұрын

@@baejay798 I'm honestly already making he kinds of videos that I want to be making. I'm not currently traveling at the moment, but will be moving to Bulgaria in September. I'm looking forward to the videos I'll be making then. 😊❤️

I cannot even BEGIN to say how I relate to this! We are pretty much taught from the moment we can think and understand that we should decide how we’ll fit into the capitalist machine of do, do, do, make more money, work more, sell your soul to your career, like it’s the most important thing ever. For a very long time, I stressed over how I could please those people, but nowadays, I am perfectly content working a day job and then going home to my partner and my hobbies and just doing what I want, without worrying about what people think and how I ambitious I really am. Sometimes I am jealous that others have that drive to do “great things”, but I have to remind myself that that’s their journey, not mine. Right now, my journey involves exploring new things (like traditional magic and mindfulness) and giving more grace to myself. Thanks so much for all your beautiful and validating work!

“I absolutely love to be bored.” I felt that! I’d rather be bored than overwhelmed for sure.

My son and daughter in law had a baby girl about 7 weeks ago. They didn’t have an extra room for a nursery either. So the made a little nursery for baby Ava in the corner of their bedroom and it’s adorable. They love that Ava is close to them every night. Your little spot for your baby will be magical too.

@GrannyDi276

Ай бұрын

Our first baby was in a bassenet in our room too❤

Paola! It's OK. The one thing categorically that we lose track of is, we are human beings, not human doings🤔

@Mymle

2 ай бұрын

Yes, we are just human beings and we can’t do it all. 🤗

I'm an old man in his sixties, doing his own art & craft thing. Never so old that I cannot be encouraged, so thank you for sharing your inner world. x

I truly believe our biggest purpose is to be our most authentic selves. We let go of the societal programs and follow our joy and peace. That’s how we change the world for the better. ❤

You have a poet's heart. You feel the seasons of your life and the world around you. It seems you are exactly who you are going to be. Someone who lives for kindness and the enrichment of life.

@ll2323

Ай бұрын

Can u please explain what the term poets heart means?

I feel that us old souls came here this time around to relax and fully enjoy all there is on our beautiful earth. Nothing better for myself than to observe and explore nature- even in my own backyard.❤

You are such a light in this world, teaching people to be happy with themselves at every stage of their lives! Bless you!! ☺️🙏🏻💕

Thank you for talking about the "only if" myth. I really appreciated your comments particularly on looking a certain way and being proud "only if" I look a certain way. That really resonated.

WHAT IS AMBITION? Its a goal orientation that doesn't compare to the spiritual connection that envelopes you with silence and sweetness.

@notsoseriousmoonlight

2 ай бұрын

Amen! Couldn't say it better.

You have over 1.5 million subscribers! That is a major accomplishment. ❤ you're also a great artist. You're on your way to the best accomplishment of your life.....motherhood! In my view.......you're a super star! ❤

I needed this today. I often feel guilty or shamed for not having big goals or dreams, but I enjoy my own company, and I love to be left to myself. Comforting to know I’m not broken, and I’m not alone in how I feel

Our world needs to hear this message so strongly. Thank you for giving voice to other sensitive souls whose dreams follow a different path ❤

Loving "let life reveal itself over time." 🥰

What a beautiful book store I would spend hours in there 😃

Dear Paola, you look so well, content and happy. I’m glad that you are having this little one in the spring/summer as it’s so important to get outdoors every day with a newborn and keep some semblance of normalcy. Sending lots of well wishes from Australia ❤❤❤❤

All of your videos are very comforting, healing, and resonate with me deeply. Thank you for sharing your journey and your vulnerability. Not all of us are built to deal with, in a healthy way, the demands and expectations of modern society (such as chasing big ambitions). For those who can, more power to them. But there’s also nothing wrong with those who prefer, need, and appreciate the slower, simpler life. Like you, I enjoy a “boring” life and spending time with myself. I’ve struggled with the guilt that I sometimes feel when spending a good deal of time at home without any “plans.” There is plenty to do at home anyway, but over time I’ve realized that this lifestyle is preferable and necessary in order for me to be the best version of myself. And it is truly wonderful just to “be.” Thank you for reminding us all of that. I admire how you are able to live a life with purpose while staying true to yourself and listening to yourself. You’re a beautiful soul. Congratulations to you and Luke on welcoming your first child! All best wishes.

Paola, I've often felt that my life amounted to so little , until I sat back and realized that I was a good and loving mother. I reap the joys of that now - my daughter and I are so close, we have a loving relationship. You're doing such meaningful things with your life, so keep going in this direction. Love and hugs from Mossel Bay in South Africa 🇿🇦

@raerae2885

Ай бұрын

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Wow, stumbled upon your vlog and it's like a breath of fresh air! Your perspective on life is so authentic and inspiring. Embracing contentment is truly an art, and you've mastered it beautifully. Can't wait to see more from you, Cottage Fairy! 🧚.

I loved this video so much. I remember reading something a few years ago along the lines of “it’s okay to have a mediocre life”. It stuck with me, not saying in any way that your life or mine is mediocre! But not all of us find happiness in the chase for more and more. I think it’s wonderful to make your life something that brings you joy. I for one enjoy my simple life, I’m not at all trying to “keep up with the Jones’”, but able to enjoy the things that bring me joy most days!

Paola has NO IDEA how many people she has united...touched and comforted all these years...... ....to quote Taylor Hanson......"To the world you may be one person...but to one person you may be the world." Many of us have come here each week to hear and see Paola and find such peacefulness , contentment and solace. From reading the hundreds of comments here....we are indeed so extremely privileged to have stumbled onto her channel....and found a wonderful place to go.....and also feel connected to so many others like ourselves. I cannot wait for her to be a Mom and keep spreading kindness , love and joy wherever she goes.

You are doing what you were meant to do. Now you're gonna be a Mama. The most important "job" in the world !❤

I always hear the Lord say to me “Just be and I will do.” And the scripture in Isaiah “In returning to Me and resting in Me you shall be saved. In quietness and confidence will be your strength.” The profound blessing of a surrendered life. So blessed!

You got it!!! As Gods creation, we were not created to DO... we were created to BE!!!

So thankful for your videos. Truly have inspired me to lean into my introverted nature. I was going through so much stress my first semester with tons of difficult classes. My body was overwhelmed and shutting down. I started to watch your videos, detach from unrealistic expectations, and simply rest. I reorganized my life and chose a lighter schedule and will continue to do so.

I'm handicaped and chronically ill. This is such a good help to see someone not striving to always do more. I always feel guilty about resting. I saved your video for those times. Thank you

@infiniteinfinity9802

Ай бұрын

Our thoughts have great power. You are powerful. The body is just a suit. Busy does not equate to a fulfilling life. Most aha moments come in the stillness. Be well!

What a wonderful morning! I have a delicious cup of coffee, and three of my favorite youtube channels posted new videos! When I'm done starting the day right, my garden awaits my presence, on a lovely spring morning in the Rocky Mountains. May we all find peace, joy and love today! Go give someone a hug!

@ASafePlacePH

2 ай бұрын

Out of curiosity, who are the other two? Would love to hear your recommendations. ❤

Life is about making your inner self happy ,loving yourself and not being pulled in by drama ,that’s ambition,make ing your soul happy ,whatever that may be ,being content in your own world ,material things and money will never make you happy ,making your own material things is what rewarding,big ambitions is what has ruined this beautiful world ,you got this right 🥰🥰🥰

You are a national treasure bringing us back to simple living. Thank you for taking us along. That requires courage. Much love.

I don't focus on "doing something big or successful or changing the world" I focus on being kind to all those that cross my path..human and animal..its the best I can do. Kindness is a ripple affect so if I'm kind to someone and they are kind and so on..world changes by all of us...for me personal "success" is not how much money I make or what kind of house I live in..its about being at peace with myself and I can say I'm there more and more each day..so I feel successful.

@Gabriel-oi7ex

2 ай бұрын

Truly beautiful 🕊

@Mymle

2 ай бұрын

Kindness is so underrated.

Thank you so much for this video. ❤ When you described that you felt like your soul is tired and now don't anymore I can relate so much to that. I am very grateful that you shared all this😊

Enjoying the present remaining content with it is a sign of spirituality. All the best.

You HAVE changed the world …… so many in the world seek your words of wisdom. My children are older than you, You are wiser than me

Your hair is absolutely beautiful! I love your videos! So calming and shows us that life belongs to us. God has blessed us to live life to the fullest in His creation.

Books are great. Helped me lose 60 lbs after being married for 15 years, raising daughters, working all the time, eating my wife's unhealthy food. I read 800 books one 10 month period, and thousands of web docs and materials from the finest colleges in America. I designed an app, supported my daughters while working nights full time. Paying no rent was great. I kept thinking how I missed the beach, trapped in Vegas, the desert. I moved back home to Cali, started an auto repair shop with my cousin. I saved and saved while working near the beach, sometimes working from the beach. I wanted to build a log cabin but I was still young.

I'm 54 and have done it all. I have had an exciting life. Now i know...the best time was having my babies...being a mother. That was the most wonderful times. Slow living spending days with my children. This was my greatest achievement...raising good hearted now grown children. Being a mother is the greatest gift in life. That was my heart ambition. To be a good mother. That is the highest success! You will be in awe when your baby arrives. Nothing in life compares.

…as I started catching up with your last few videos, I was thinking back all those years when I had first come across your channel. Then you were this lovely young girl who brought calm and joy through the screen. And as I watched the first few seconds today I realised how you had grown into this gorgeous graceful woman, sharing this journey with all of us. There is this very serene glow about you - it may be your impending motherhood but to me it seems much more, coming from way deeper within you. It is just heart warming to see and an enormous privilege. Thank you for sharing this with me. Wishing you and your growing family all the health, happiness and mischief you desire. 🍀

It`s so funny, you don`t try to change the world, but with those videos, that is are exactly what you are doing Paola ❤ Your videos change so much for me. Whenever I am anxious or stressed, I come back to them, it`s the best medicine I came across ✨

Impacting 1,4 Million people's lives is clearly "changing the world"! Success is ready for harvesting dear Paola! Thank you for taking so much time and effort to enchant our hearts and souls with your videos! Thank you for showing and sharing your feelings, your ups and downs - which give so much hope, inner peace and an outlook how living with what is in the moment can look like and lead to. A beloved old teacher of mine once said: there is no other outstanding task we are born with than to fill our daily life with meaning and love for all that lives and developing a kind heart. This is what you do right before our eyes! Thank you Paola - please continue to inspire and enchant us!

Hi Paola 💫 You are absolutely glowing!!! You are always such a breath of fresh air in this strange world we now live in. Your videos are so inspirational and calming. Your little bundle of joy is so lucky to have such a wonderful Mama to take care of them and raise them with all the wonderful values you practice. Many blessings to you and Luke as time for your new arrival draws near every day. 🙏🏻💫

Love that quote of you : " less ambition to do something with my life and a greater desire to simply live it". I think this way you're doing the best somebody can do with his life. Bravo ❤

I can imagine it’s so quiet where you live. It’s so beautiful.

@user-ul5ou4vn1r

2 ай бұрын

It kind of reminds me of someplace up in Lake George upstate

I’m of the same vintage graduated in 1977. I’ve not ever figured out my “ambition” but I’ve done a lot of different things over the course of my life. To see a young person with so much self awareness and wisdom makes my heart hopeful for the generations to come. I love this channel so much! I love to read the comments, I also leave this space with something to reflect on.

@janicesaylor373

2 ай бұрын

Me too! She has changed my world! She holds so much wisdom at her age creating freedom for us all. To just be.

Thank you Cottage Fairy for always keeping me grounded during times of pressure in my studies. Sometimes I get stuck in the unhealthy mindset that if I don’t get top results in my degree, then I am not sacrificing my happiness enough to succeed. I used to think that thinking that way made me admirable and strong. I have been trying to live more presently and romanticizing my life. Things are so much more interesting now; I am achieving better academic results, I am happier and I am less stressed about the future. I’m still figuring everything out, but trying to enjoy, and trust the process. Thank you thank you thank you ❤ I hold your videos so dear to me.

You have been such an inspiration to me from the time you started your channel. Thank you for all your wisdom and for your humility and commitment to living life as you see best. I appreciate your vulnerability! And good for you for saying you aren't able to respond individually. Great job setting boundaries for yourself, you are a great example to me. God bless!