Husband Said He Wished He Married His Female Best Friend Instead of Me. Then I Found Out...

Husband Said He Wished He Married His Female Best Friend Instead of Me. Then I Found Out They Actually Slept Together.
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  • @crowfather0249
    @crowfather02495 ай бұрын

    Imagine cheating, and then getting mad at your AP for "cheating" on you.

  • @DarkEinherjar

    @DarkEinherjar

    5 ай бұрын

    All cheaters are hypocrites. They never want to be on the receiving end of what they do. One of my favorite recent stories was when OP, after finding out that his wife cheated on him, pretended to be going out and having affairs himself just to mess with the soon-to-be-ex's head, and her reaction was glorious.

  • @rene280195

    @rene280195

    5 ай бұрын

    Wanna know something? This is the most common treat of APs, most serial cheaters don't cheat just once, they keep cheating, that's why most Cheating relationships end up in cheating.

  • @adriannaranjo4397

    @adriannaranjo4397

    5 ай бұрын

    Projecting

  • @jackchop1576

    @jackchop1576

    5 ай бұрын

    My ex did that. I think it was performative to manipulate me into staying with her. It failed miserably.

  • @duaisoverhere

    @duaisoverhere

    5 ай бұрын

    ​@@DarkEinherjar what was the title? Do you have the link?

  • @low-keydrama1260
    @low-keydrama12605 ай бұрын

    Story 1: perfect example of “You got what you wanted but you lost what you had”. Hey at least the ex doesn’t have to worry about those “heehee what if I married you instead of my wife?” fantasies anymore. He gets to be with Nina now but I think he realized he lost a wonderful woman so he’s probably just sticking with Nina because sunk cost fallacy

  • @tinybattyboy

    @tinybattyboy

    5 ай бұрын

    i think the first place i heard the phrase "you got what you wanted, but lost what you had" was from "my friends on the other side" in the first half of princess and the frog, sang by those background voodoo doll chorus. it definitely fits in this reddit story, er, at least the first reddit story.

  • @low-keydrama1260

    @low-keydrama1260

    5 ай бұрын

    ⁠@@tinybattyboylol that’s where I first heard it to! Idk why but it stuck with me lol. I use it every now and again

  • @newvision4l314

    @newvision4l314

    4 ай бұрын

    @@low-keydrama1260because the song was fire and so was the villain

  • @imnotyourvillain

    @imnotyourvillain

    2 ай бұрын

    I bet the cheating he defended Nina for earlier is gonna come to bite him in the butt during their relationship. They will soon learn/be remindrdEXACTLY why they found other partners instead of each other lol

  • @erickaennis2738

    @erickaennis2738

    2 ай бұрын

    There is a reason why OPs husband and Nina never got together. This is a I wonder what would've been fantasy for him. Reality is different. Nina only wants him now out of desperation. He was never her first choice. She settled. She had to be drunk to finally have sex with him. The relationship isn't going to work out in the end because the thing that kept them from getting together is going to break them up. They were both single at the same time at some point, why not then? Wish OP the best.

  • @avaphynx
    @avaphynx5 ай бұрын

    He was cheating before the divorce. She was smart ending that sham of a marriage.

  • @Extebanx14
    @Extebanx145 ай бұрын

    The husband of the first stoty seriously defended and got with the girl that was in dating apps flirting with other men on a serious-plan-to-marry relationship because she was bored?????????

  • @dylanhunt4303

    @dylanhunt4303

    Ай бұрын

    Who said she was flirting with other guys.

  • @bryn1063

    @bryn1063

    Ай бұрын

    ​@@dylanhunt4303common sense? Cmon now do you really think she was just playing around? Husbands a chump is definitely getting cheated on.

  • @therarestphoenix5254
    @therarestphoenix52545 ай бұрын

    Story #1: The STBX and his "best friend" relationship will be cursed. No good will come to either one of them, even if they end up breaking up in the end.

  • @LolAlosh

    @LolAlosh

    5 ай бұрын

    Yup

  • @itzghally1311
    @itzghally13115 ай бұрын

    The fact that he let her stay around and still be in the house is all you need to know. Your getting divorced because of her and what they said. Instead of him keeping distance from her to save his marriage he kept her.

  • @LolAlosh

    @LolAlosh

    5 ай бұрын

    Both were wrong tho

  • @magicalmomo9987
    @magicalmomo99875 ай бұрын

    The way dude STILL didn't take responsibility for his actions and was just like "Well, you told me we were finished for reals and me and Nina were sooooo sad so we got drunk and finally fucked so that's that." straight up implying it's OP's fault that happened. No sir, you and Nina wanted that to happen and said as much. Wouldn't be surprised if it already happened before lmao Also, why did he feel the need to tell OP he cheated? Like you already cheated emotionally anyway and she knew so what was the entire point of that email? It felt so vindictive.

  • @jjhobibpink21bbgot76

    @jjhobibpink21bbgot76

    5 ай бұрын

    I think it's nina who send it not the husband.

  • @LolAlosh

    @LolAlosh

    5 ай бұрын

    Both were wrong he knew nina ruined his marriage yet kept her a s wife was inscure and he made it bigger However I won't call it cheating it's after thire divorce

  • @zedhamm4735

    @zedhamm4735

    5 ай бұрын

    ​@@jjhobibpink21bbgot76that's probably true coz a new email was used as well. Imagine the look on his face when that email is used for the divorce settlement lool

  • @IAmNotASuccubus

    @IAmNotASuccubus

    5 ай бұрын

    Probably wanted to hurt his STBX for leaving. Like he knew she was gutted over this but she wouldn't take him back so he just decided to twist the knife. Only positive is that he just handed the smoking gun to her divorce lawyer, who'll use that evidence to rake his butt over the coals in court.

  • @LolAlosh

    @LolAlosh

    5 ай бұрын

    @@IAmNotASuccubus propoly

  • @DarkEinherjar
    @DarkEinherjar5 ай бұрын

    Wife in the second story: "I CHEATED ON MY HUBBY WITH HIM, AND NOW HE CHEATED ON ME WITH SOMEONE ELSE! HOW DID I NOT SEE THAT COMING?!"

  • @08kiss

    @08kiss

    5 ай бұрын

    What a shame🤦🏻‍♀️

  • @Nameless82284

    @Nameless82284

    5 ай бұрын

    Duh, cheaters hate being cheated on, just like how murderers hate being murdered

  • @imnotyourvillain

    @imnotyourvillain

    2 ай бұрын

    ​@@Nameless82284 "Don't you just hate it when you get murdered back?"

  • @Thaddius0
    @Thaddius04 ай бұрын

    Story 1: OP stumbled on her husband taking the first steps to begin cheating. He absolutely meant what he said to Nina. It was only going to escalate from there.

  • @bukworm
    @bukworm5 ай бұрын

    If people who get cheated on had a Game of Thrones style family motto it would be "I'm not a very confrontational person..."

  • @oz-sixx1622
    @oz-sixx16225 ай бұрын

    story 1 dude's excuse is just as stupid as his friend's. those two definitely deserve each other 😂

  • @LolAlosh

    @LolAlosh

    5 ай бұрын

    Hes an idiot not a Cheater

  • @Maninawig
    @Maninawig5 ай бұрын

    Story 1: I am trying to give him the benefit of the doubt (to remove bias) and even if everything he said was true, CONTINUING TO FRATINIZE WITH NINA IS THE VERY LAST THING YOU SHOULD DO!!!! No excuses.

  • @low-keydrama1260

    @low-keydrama1260

    5 ай бұрын

    Yeah and then he ended up sleeping with her so that was probably the final nail in the coffin for OP. But hey at least he doesn’t have to wonder what it would be like if he got with Nina

  • @xLunchBoxx

    @xLunchBoxx

    5 ай бұрын

    She ended it, why would be break off his friendship? Or is this one of those she said no but realy want you to keep trying? Mind reading is not a trait men have

  • @DaraxXxDevious

    @DaraxXxDevious

    5 ай бұрын

    @@xLunchBoxx because if he truly loved his wife and wanted to prove his loyalty and love to her, he would've distanced himself from the living, breathing problem between them. Instead, he sought out more comfort from her and proved OP right, that he was too emotionally invested in her. If someone genuinely wanted to save their marriage, and valued their wife over a friend, they would take the necessary actions to show that. If you don't care, you'll change nothing.

  • @Maninawig

    @Maninawig

    5 ай бұрын

    @@xLunchBoxx it's not mind reading, it's common sense. A child can't argue that they aren't stealing cookies when their hand is actively in the cookie jar, a man can't claim he's not cheating while the hooker is still sucking him off, you can't claim that you only have eyes for your wife when you keep spending your time with the woman who confessed their feelings to you. It's simply a case of his words saying "don't go" when his actions say "I'm already gone." If he needed support, he should have turned to his brother, parent, or litterally anyone else.

  • @avatarwan5824

    @avatarwan5824

    5 ай бұрын

    Why do you want to give him the benefit of the doubt when you never give any of the women in these stories the benefit of the doubt?

  • @skeetskeet7041
    @skeetskeet70415 ай бұрын

    Quite frankly I think the woman in story 1 was right to leave, maybe not without confronting him in either a therapy session or an intervention, but she was right. I don’t think she’s right that they were already involved before the one night they had and her leaving probably did break down any last barriers they had to not just being together romantically. He loved his wife but he allowed his feelings for his bff to remain and grow rather than acknowledge them and cut them off, he’s definitely to blame for things going south

  • @pioneerxx
    @pioneerxx5 ай бұрын

    The first OP isn’t dumb at all. It is always very hard to distinct relationships of your partner. Like you think that it is not healthy to restrain them from having friends of opposite gender, but obviously it’d hurt to see them being close with another man/woman. The only solution to this is for the partner themselves to be considerate of it and try to put themselves in the shoes of their partner. The husband in the first story, obviously, didn’t even try to do that. I’m damn sure he wouldn’t like his now ex-wife to be buddy-buddy with another man

  • @LolAlosh

    @LolAlosh

    5 ай бұрын

    Tbh she was also to balme and he too both were wrong they never communicated

  • @Ivy-jx2jy

    @Ivy-jx2jy

    Ай бұрын

    Cheaters are selfish and inconsiderate. They don't care about how others feel.

  • @Ririi20
    @Ririi205 ай бұрын

    Op’s husband seems like narcissistic person

  • @munchiemunchie5226
    @munchiemunchie52265 ай бұрын

    They marry early, everytime. EVERY SINGLE TIME.

  • @mortaldao8044

    @mortaldao8044

    5 ай бұрын

    Chances of divorce correlates perfectly the more partners a woman has

  • @FrancieliGoncalves_

    @FrancieliGoncalves_

    5 ай бұрын

    ​@@mortaldao8044source?

  • @munchiemunchie5226

    @munchiemunchie5226

    5 ай бұрын

    @@mortaldao8044 How much time before marriage and how early they marry. The same applies to men too.

  • @GenGamesUniverse

    @GenGamesUniverse

    5 ай бұрын

    @@munchiemunchie5226 I would say at least five to six years, because that gives you an out IF your partner is cheating or an out IF your partner doesn't want to be in the relationship anymore, whereas if you get married within two years, you're stuck with the divorce.

  • @munchiemunchie5226

    @munchiemunchie5226

    5 ай бұрын

    @@GenGamesUniverse 100% I was talking to my best friend about this earlier, I will wait 5 years and randomly be on high suspicion. Maybe I'm crazy though.

  • @kana_toka
    @kana_toka5 ай бұрын

    Grandma of the 2nd story was funny tho. she really thought that the call about her granddaughter in jail is a scam 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @lyluvsme
    @lyluvsme5 ай бұрын

    This reminds me of another story where the op was a man who’s wife cheated on him, so he took revenge by getting w his girl bsf, Nina.

  • @Ririi20

    @Ririi20

    5 ай бұрын

    Oh yeah, I hears that story too

  • @jameslynch2110
    @jameslynch21105 ай бұрын

    Hang on a second.... this is just the story of berzerk, and husband said something to Nina because it's what she needed to hear, but in reality felt a differnt way, but the wife overheard it,and then wanted to leave.

  • @freyjastravelchariot3343
    @freyjastravelchariot33433 ай бұрын

    This one hit home... my ex bf had a female bff, and I too was niave and never questioned his loyalty even though I got a bad feeling about their friendship. In case you are wondering... I got dumped, and he is with her now... so ladies... don't let them gaslight you into thinking you are crazy. Chances are, you are right.

  • @imnotyourvillain

    @imnotyourvillain

    2 ай бұрын

    200%, listen to your gut! It knows things you are about to discover

  • @Ivy-jx2jy

    @Ivy-jx2jy

    Ай бұрын

    Just makes me wonder why didn't your ex bf just date his female bff in the first place.

  • @Vic-pg4rg
    @Vic-pg4rg4 ай бұрын

    Story 1: OP has every right to be mad at Nina and especially her husband. The guy bought some woman into their home and didn't talk to OP about it. Then he trashtalked his own wife to make another woman feel better. Genuinely wished that he had married Nina instead and wasted OP's time. I hope that she gets everything from him. But I do have to say this, she did let this happen and now she's crying about her failed marriage. What do you expect? She let herself become a doormat to them, she didn't set boundaries, she only know the guy for 2 years, she didn't kick them both out nor confronted her husband about what he said right after. People, please learn from this. Story 2: I feel really sorry for OP, he didn't deserve that. His wife is a pathetic loser 403. She cheated on her loving faithful husband who take care of her when she had trauma flashbacks. With some asshole who showed that he really didn't care about her and just wanted to have his fun. What did she honestly expected? That she can cheat all the time, set fire to a car, etc and not deal with the consequences. And now, she wants to save the marriage that she throw away when she just got out of jail. It really shows how much of a narcissist she is. I'm glad that she and her AP both got what they deserved. Especially that OP cut ties with her as soon as he heard it and not give in to any of her bullshit. I hope that he gets everything in the divorce.

  • @LolAlosh
    @LolAlosh5 ай бұрын

    Story 1 You tow need to communicate He never cheated untill you left You were insecure and he msde you more inscure He should have never said it wether meaning it or not You should have listened And yes he was an idiot hows his feelings were mixed And i hope you think of the divorce more since you clearly still love him but aftaid I hope you communicate or both get happiness

  • @toshiamiyumi2604
    @toshiamiyumi26044 ай бұрын

    Nina was weird the kids today call them pick mes sent me...

  • @newjerseydamo
    @newjerseydamo5 ай бұрын

    Got 3 minutes in and the amount of red flags was astonishing.

  • @tiscx103
    @tiscx1035 ай бұрын

    From what Im seeing the wife had insecurities about the husband's bff and overheard them comforting each other and got jealous. AND at the end the wife made it come true. This is why u distance urself from friends after marriage cuz ur spouse is no.1 and expects NOT EVEN ur mother to come close to u.

  • @LolAlosh

    @LolAlosh

    5 ай бұрын

    Yup she was but he made it stronger

  • @sionc1372

    @sionc1372

    4 ай бұрын

    Nahh. You don't really need to distance from them but you need to set boundaries especially in instances like that..

  • @FrostLordOni
    @FrostLordOni4 ай бұрын

    Story 1: I was with the OP all the way up until she left. He husband was way out of line with what he said, and I can completely understand her wanting to end the relationship after hearing that. But then she ghosts him instead of having a proper conversation, and tries to frame him as a cheater. You can argue that he had an emotional affair, but she tried to paint him as having a physical affair. It also sounds like she plans on being vindictive in their divorce, what with her comment about taking the furniture from the house and finding a way to “prove” they had an affair. If she had been mature and spoken to her husband about how she felt and how they couldn’t continue their marriage anymore, she’s be completely in the right and absolutely justified. But the way she actually acted puts her in the wrong too

  • @LadyWolvie82

    @LadyWolvie82

    Ай бұрын

    The affair here started as an emotional one; emotional affairs tend to lead to physical ones later on. In addition, the ex was hesitant to have Nina leave the home after the few days she was supposed to be there. And something tells me that Nina will eventually cheat on the ex.

  • @slayerwytch2032
    @slayerwytch20322 ай бұрын

    Wow… I mean wow damn!!! So, let me get this straight, Nina cheated and the hubs cheated… and Nina gets CODDLED! 🙄🚩

  • @davidheaven2961
    @davidheaven2961Ай бұрын

    Story 1 I almost fully agree with everything op did but no way can she be getting divorced and then say he cheated

  • @apoorvas6062
    @apoorvas60624 ай бұрын

    Story 1: W parents btw

  • @The_Railgun
    @The_Railgun5 ай бұрын

    opposite gender best friends are the worst thing to have in any sort of serious relationship/commitment

  • @VerniasAugoeides

    @VerniasAugoeides

    3 ай бұрын

    Only if there are no clear boundaries. Cutting people and friends off just because of their gender or sex is unhealthy behavior and used to control relationships sometimes.

  • @bearsong8486
    @bearsong84865 ай бұрын

    Op, your husband was never yours. Jesus! Oh and Nina, 💯💯💯pickme girl

  • @devoteeofmediocrity821
    @devoteeofmediocrity8215 ай бұрын

    Imagine going to divorce someone and getting upset for him moving on. Not everyone does the pick me dance hun.

  • @Ivy-jx2jy
    @Ivy-jx2jyАй бұрын

    I really hope the first story is fake. It will be really sad for the original poster if it's true. So sad to lose a husband to his conniving best friend. It makes me wonder why do these cheaters want to even marry if they don't believe in commitment.

  • @elizabeth-lmhxmx
    @elizabeth-lmhxmx5 ай бұрын

    u should link the go thread of the stories

  • @KiddSlayer21
    @KiddSlayer215 ай бұрын

    Ok so she walked out on him, filed for divorce. He didnt contest and she got angry he didnt want to "fight for their marrige"? She found out they were holding hands but admits it wasnt flirtatious, but consoling. Husband immediately lets her know he slept with the woman. Idk man it sounds like dude is very open about everything and his wife is jealous of their freindship. And yes women use dating apps to boost their ego, so shes a pick me thats desperate for attention. Maybe she never got a date because she's trying too hard to be a bro? Thats not the husband's fault. He got the ball rolling with the "I pretend we are married" line though.

  • @LolAlosh

    @LolAlosh

    5 ай бұрын

    Both were wrong the wife was insecure and he made her insecurity stronger by what he said add she did wanted him to figth for her at least show her he loves her many woman's are like that However the part of him telling her he slept with Nina was suck like man why come on

  • @LolAlosh
    @LolAlosh5 ай бұрын

    I hope story 1 gets uptade of a happy ending

  • @OzyEdoTorrealba
    @OzyEdoTorrealba5 ай бұрын

    Story 1: she flew off the handle at hearing a conversation that she should have confronted on the spot and then became a self fulfilling profecy...

  • @pastelbee8125
    @pastelbee81255 ай бұрын

    No cuz if u think telling ur stbx that u slept with the friend not to worry about is cute or funny, ur surely mistaken

  • @56karenandjim
    @56karenandjim2 ай бұрын

    What is it about women saying they are not confrontational. Grow a spine

  • @goodnightmyprince6734
    @goodnightmyprince67345 ай бұрын

    Op whines a lot

  • @Xh0Q

    @Xh0Q

    5 ай бұрын

    Ye she rambles on a long time if she actually wrote a proper post whole thing probably would have lasted for like 2 minutes

  • @KaitlynNelhah
    @KaitlynNelhah5 ай бұрын

    I don't know why but Story 1 just feels.. Off? I usually never feel like this in these narratives but it feels like a lot is left out or almost like they're seeking the end of this relationship actively. Its a little too woe as me.

  • @pugsabi

    @pugsabi

    5 ай бұрын

    Yeah, the I eavesdropped and heard something I didn't like so I ran away, ghosted my husband, and filed for divorce. Then when the lawyer asked for proof of infidelity the only thing she had was an admission of something that happened after she served him papers. True, it sounds like he had an emotional affair, but she never told him how she felt and didn't even try to save her marriage. It didn't sound like she loved him to me.

  • @Piya9141
    @Piya91415 ай бұрын

    What is the game in the background? It looks interesting

  • @b2serious
    @b2serious5 ай бұрын

    ....how is it cheating when she ended their marriage before they slept together? Like I get the guy was an asshole for saying that shit but I dont get how that would be used in court if she basically ended thier relationship before it happened and has no proof they fucked before that.

  • @LolAlosh

    @LolAlosh

    5 ай бұрын

    It proofs that she had a reason from divorce and it was beacuse he never loved her I gusse Both op and husband were wrong

  • @FrostLordOni

    @FrostLordOni

    4 ай бұрын

    Legally they’re still married, so in an at fault state (which it sounds like they’re in) it’s considered infidelity and will get the guy wrecked in court. I kind of feel bad for the guy here, because it sounds like the OP is going to be vindictive in the divorce

  • @benhall2307
    @benhall23075 ай бұрын

    Remember guys, communication is key, unless your the woman in the first story, then it's completely fine to not talk things out with your husband, file for divorce without seeking to understand and then completely ignore him when you see him when he is trying to talk to you. Then, when he finally gets the hint and moves on, frame yourself as the victim and claim that the reality YOU created is the justification for your actions. The comment section taking her side are hilarious. The man didn't cheat until she completely dehumanized him and reinforced she was leaving.

  • @rikukiko

    @rikukiko

    5 ай бұрын

    Yeah I agree, he was wrong for what he said and how he was treating her better than his wife but she was wrong for not even talking to him or even trying to work it out

  • @LolAlosh

    @LolAlosh

    5 ай бұрын

    Exsuce me You heared her side of story rigth? Her husband told Nina he wished he'd marry her insatde and blah blah And that's not okay to say in a relationship wether it was comforting or not He didn't cheat yes BUT he was emotionally abusive to both

  • @LolAlosh

    @LolAlosh

    5 ай бұрын

    ​@@rikukikoboth wrong but he was even more

  • @benhall2307

    @benhall2307

    5 ай бұрын

    Absolutely, but ultimately that could have been worked through. She created the destruction of her marriage by the actions she took after that. What he said was stupid, what she did destroyed the marriage.@@LolAlosh

  • @alperenbaytimur
    @alperenbaytimur5 ай бұрын

    Now ladies, this is how we feel when you guys have guy FRİENDS, men and women cant be friends, just accept that fact

  • @ViralOtomo
    @ViralOtomo5 ай бұрын

    Ngl, story 2 sounds fake. The circumstances are pretty wild, and I say that knowing how insane people can be, but it also jumped from "wife was arrested" to "I am now seeing someone else" with very little detail when supposedly months had passed. No mention of social consequences, no changes in finances, and no divorce.

  • @sattdonn
    @sattdonn5 ай бұрын

    Pick me up

  • @lawsonallen7741
    @lawsonallen77415 ай бұрын

    Story 1 Yes i think you husband all ways loved her. BUT He did not sleep with her till after you left him. I think a lot of this was you. Story 2 Your wife never loved you. She loves the other guy.

  • @LolAlosh

    @LolAlosh

    5 ай бұрын

    I think his feelings mixed

  • @Ivy-jx2jy

    @Ivy-jx2jy

    Ай бұрын

    I don't think the husband really loved the wife in the first story. If he did, he would never have allowed nina to stay at his house if it made his wife uncomfortable.

  • @brian-_-
    @brian-_-5 ай бұрын

    story one she drove him into having an affair.

  • @LolAlosh

    @LolAlosh

    5 ай бұрын

    No not really She was insucre and he made it stronger what he said did treated to Nina and distance to the OP made her scared

  • @notanicebear
    @notanicebear5 ай бұрын

    Lol, want a divorce but expect him to fight it. OP is such a child. You don't deserve him anyway

  • @LolAlosh

    @LolAlosh

    5 ай бұрын

    No actually both were wrong The husband knew and was aware of his wire insecurities and yet still made it stronger especially when he said I imagine you as my wife I wish I married you he surely wasn't sure of his feelings for her nor Nina and every woman after asking divorce when she think her husband don't love her would like him to figth for her hoping he cared Both op and her husband were victims they didn't communicate well But him telling he slept with Nina and holding and after divorce Nina still with him after divorce shows us Husband feelings were mixed bettwen her and Nina And ne knew it

  • @BreadMaker_
    @BreadMaker_5 ай бұрын

    S1 that woman is way to insecure and lost something great

  • @Ivy-jx2jy

    @Ivy-jx2jy

    Ай бұрын

    the husband wasn't great. If he was great, he would have treated her better and never have allowed nina to stay with him. I would never allow my husband's female bff to stay with us if I was uncomfortable.

  • @Arcane899
    @Arcane8995 ай бұрын

    Bruh u goated

  • @yoyosayolo
    @yoyosayolo5 ай бұрын

    2nd

  • @user-lb7it4qg8f
    @user-lb7it4qg8f5 ай бұрын

    Ferst

  • @mr.halfright

    @mr.halfright

    5 ай бұрын

    Mission failed

  • @user-lb7it4qg8f

    @user-lb7it4qg8f

    5 ай бұрын

    What do u mean

  • @SamuelSumner-bw5cm

    @SamuelSumner-bw5cm

    5 ай бұрын

    I dont care we shouldnt care about what someone comments

  • @mr.halfright

    @mr.halfright

    5 ай бұрын

    @@user-lb7it4qg8f You misspelled "first"

  • @MrBunniesss
    @MrBunniesss3 ай бұрын

    Story 1 you're the asshole, If your husband is big enough to confess to you ANY amount of infidelity instead of hiding it knowing it makes him look bad then its pretty certain he's telling the truth of trying to make nina feel better, At the end of the day YOU couldnt find ANYTHING of what you thought to be true or what your lawyer wanted unless he handed it to you on a silver platter and you could spin the story for what it isnt, The only time he actually cheated was when you were 100% adamant that it was over and told him it was over, and talking to a lawyer to get the process started because it was over

  • @MrBunniesss

    @MrBunniesss

    3 ай бұрын

    So no, nothing of what you said did he prove, you're painting yourself as a victim, YOU LEFT HIM, You told him there is no way in hell you two are going to work ever and its over, He slept with Nina AFTER that, He slept with her AFTER YOU ENDED IT, thats not proving you right about everything, That proves you right about nothing, Your relationship is only valid in the eyes of the Gov't but you already ended it with him

  • @MA-ti5eo
    @MA-ti5eo5 ай бұрын

    There's your sign. You knew him for 2 years and married him. You are a bit at fault there 2 years is not enough time. Not that it at all exuses the cheating.

  • @KarmaTube5

    @KarmaTube5

    5 ай бұрын

    It is but 3 years would’ve been better and he was showing 🚩 at the start when he kept hanging out with her

  • @arcadius3257
    @arcadius32575 ай бұрын

    Hot take maybe but I don't think her husband did anything wrong and i'd go even further to say that the wife always wanted out of the relationship and was just desperately looking for a reason to divorce.

  • @efraingastelum5203

    @efraingastelum5203

    5 ай бұрын

    Agree

  • @arcadius3257

    @arcadius3257

    5 ай бұрын

    @@springflowersofdistantdays Except he wasn't, he said that he SOMETIMES thought about it and it could be summed up as nothing more than a fantasy/passing thought that people in marriages and relationships have all the time and don't act upon. As for it turning physical, if you actually paid attention to the story that only happened AFTER the wife made it very clear that the divorce was imminent and had already served him papers. At that point he no longer has any commitment to her and anything he decides to do with his friend is none of his soon to be ex-wife's concern so the fact that he even told her is more than he had to do.

  • @crowfather0249

    @crowfather0249

    5 ай бұрын

    ​@@arcadius3257 I know you have difficulty processing basic concepts, so let me put it simply: in no way, in no reality, in no context is it acceptable for a married man to tell another woman he wishes he married her instead. It doesn't matter if he "didn't mean it," it doesn't matter if he "only thought about it SOMETIMES," the point is that he said it.

  • @JoJo-fw6hv

    @JoJo-fw6hv

    5 ай бұрын

    What are you on about? The wife walked in on them sleeping together tf lmfao. That's when she snapped and the whole divorce proceedings became imminent. Did you also pay attention? Lmao

  • @avaphynx

    @avaphynx

    5 ай бұрын

    Terrible take, he cheated.

  • @murdock94
    @murdock945 ай бұрын

    Story 1: If this was a AITAH story, it would be hard yes for OP, soft yes for everyone else. OP comes off horribly in this. She ultimately got what she wanted, a divorce and her husband to be with Nina. Yeah, they probably had an emotional affair, but it also sounds like OP is emotionally distant from her husband. Yes, the husband is horrible for saying what he said, but everything leading up to that OP was the villain of their own story. After that, it became ESH. And I'm honestly willing to give Nina a pass even on that. And as far as them sleeping together, sorry OP, but you filed for divorce. You have no right in saying what your STBX does from that point.

  • @FrancieliGoncalves_

    @FrancieliGoncalves_

    5 ай бұрын

    How is she the AH? The husband had an emotional affair and he admitted that he wished he'd married with nina instead of op. Is she supposed to stay with someone that doesn't want her? He probably knew nina loved him but never set boundaries cause he likes the attention

  • @l-l-l-l-l-l-l

    @l-l-l-l-l-l-l

    5 ай бұрын

    OP's husband are bounds to cheat literally any day now if OP stay with him. Nina will, in her best effort try to seduce the most stable and marriage type men she can find as she is in that early 30s panic women usually had. OP did the right thing evwn though she is very incapable of fighting and confronting them.

  • @magicalmomo9987

    @magicalmomo9987

    5 ай бұрын

    OP is NOT the asshole for this. She didn't want her husband and Nina to be together?? The whole post she literally talked about being worried about Nina being around her husband. You're assuming quite a lot with very little information on the last 3 years of their relationship and making excuses for the husband. Regardless of if OP was emotionally distant (you don't know that btw it's an assumption) the husband would still be in the wrong for cheating period. You know what the proper reaction is to a distant partner? Couples therapy, talking to your partner, or breaking up. That's it. Those are the only options. Cheating isn't one and she's not the asshole here at all. He kept his "friend" around knowing how he felt and Nina stuck around despite knowing how SHE felt about him too. OP is not the asshole here in any way. Btw, her husband still ended up a cheater after he had sex with Nina because filing for divorce does not automatically mean they're divorced. They were still married. He cheated emotionally and physically. He immediately gave in to his emotions the minute OP decided to take herself out of the picture which only solidified his emotional cheating rather than continuing to at the very least fight for his marriage if he was supposedly only trying to comfort Nina and didn't mean what he said as he claimed. He clearly meant it and he is in the wrong.

  • @blitzvii322

    @blitzvii322

    5 ай бұрын

    I’m not reading those two paragraphs, but I’ll just throw this out. Her husband did not admit to he wanted to marry Nina. He said he sometimes THOUGHT about it, and even then he supposedly said it to make Nina feel better. I still think what he said was very disrespectful seeing as he is in a relationship, but “what they don’t know won’t hurt them”. It seemed rather obvious to me that the husband still clearly wanted to remain with OP

  • @Xh0Q

    @Xh0Q

    5 ай бұрын

    I don’t really know anything about Reddit but what does STBX mean?

  • @Gwynbleidd21
    @Gwynbleidd215 ай бұрын

    First op is just xD typical woman, she wants a divorce, and then she complains that the guy agreed and didn't fight hard, then she cries that what she was afraid of throughout the relationship happened, and the guy slept with her after she left him xD

  • @magicalmomo9987

    @magicalmomo9987

    5 ай бұрын

    It's not a "typical woman" thing, it's a human thing. Humans feel complicated emotions, as in feeling more than one at a time, believe or not and she partially wanted to believe that her husband may not have been lying and truly loved her despite overhearing what he said but him giving up easily then vindictively emailing her that he screwed his girl best friend just confirmed all her doubts. He did that shit on purpose to make her feel bad, it's not her fault that she feels bad about it, they'd been together for 3 years and were married. Of course she'd partially want him to fight for her. But she also said she was relieved he didn't. Or did you miss that part.

  • @avatarwan5824

    @avatarwan5824

    5 ай бұрын

    ​@@magicalmomo9987 Women aren't allowed to feel that way, don't you know? They have to be perfect.

  • @LolAlosh

    @LolAlosh

    5 ай бұрын

    Nope we dont lol​@@avatarwan5824

  • @LolAlosh

    @LolAlosh

    5 ай бұрын

    Not typcial She was inescure and he made he'd insecurities stronger esspacily what he said and she didn't want to talk about it and wished he'd figth for her which is normal for humans to want

  • @imnotyourvillain

    @imnotyourvillain

    2 ай бұрын

    ​@@magicalmomo9987 This! Not enough people are realizing that his choices just confirmed her (perfectly human) doubts.

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