Husband trauma is his own to deal with and if he’s refusing to seek treatment he has no right to take it out in OPs brother or anyone else. OP should have never discussed her brother medical diagnosis with her husband it wasn’t his business and it wasn’t hers to share.

1st op: "I came to my senses" *proceeds to gaslight herself into trusting his every word and takes blame for his actions all while he's sitting back laughing at all of her misfortune*

Story #1 ESH. Husband behaved very badly due to not trusting mental health experts. But I'm not letting OP off the hook; ultimately this all started because OP shared her brother's private medical information with a third party without his consent. Story #2 NTA. If you leave your kid on someone's doorstep and run, in an attempt to force that person to babysit your kid, then you deserve to lose your baby! You deserve to lose parental rights and to never see that baby again. If someone does this then don't give a warning. Call the police immediately. Story #3 The aunt is partially to blame for what happened to the cousin.

If the first story is true - it’s so sad. By sharing her brother’s private psychiatric diagnosis which is much more sensitive information than a regular medical diagnosis, OP may very well have destroyed his life. All it takes is a hint of the label pedophile for people especially men to lose everything. She knew her husband had been abused so how would that disclosure EVER be helpful and not triggering ? OP “didn’t want to lie” to her husband when he asked her about her brother after she opened the door to the conversation. So she broke a confidence and has potentially ruined so many relationships including her marriage. Apologies are pointless. You can’t unring a bell and you can’t take back words once heard. I feel deeply sorry for her brother who has done nothing wrong except trust OP. I hope he is able to recover from this and move forward.

Story 1: hes is going to try and isolate her from her family and friends if she stays.

Story 1: the cycle of ab.use happens more often than not when victims do not go to therapy to break it. OP's husband is becoming that which he hates, and OP needs to stop making excuses before he harms their kid.

@Detsubkrod

4 ай бұрын

He's not gonna assault the kid bozo. He may be over protective but unless it's too far there's no issue.

@juliearmfield2634

4 ай бұрын

​@@Detsubkrodexactly

@HeoBaby24

4 ай бұрын

@@Detsubkrod i doubt he wouldn't

@Detsubkrod

4 ай бұрын

@@HeoBaby24 you get two people from sexual abuse. Either someone who does it to other people or someone who become over protective. He's clearly over protective which isn't too bad of a thing these days.

@HeoBaby24

4 ай бұрын

@@Detsubkrod again isolating her from her family definitely isn't an asshole. bruh need help

Story 1: “Multiple psychologists explaining it will sway the judge”. As someone who does Family Law for a living, this is definitely a line from someone who has no idea what they’re getting into. Multiple psychologists testifying as expert witnesses would cost you a fortune and you’d still likely only get fifty/fifty without hard evidence dad is a danger, which is unlikely. Basically, stop taking legal advice from Reddit and consult actual lawyers.

Story 2: if the mom tries to claim OP is unfit to watch a 16 year old, say nothing and show the court exibit A, the doorbell camera. How is a baby less risky than a 16 year old?

That 3rd story screw all of the adults in that house and her mom

@leroysgamesandmore2226

4 ай бұрын

Exactly I was like wtf she knew the whole time but never reported him

First story I'm sorry op your husband is not wanting to change I get that he had some trauma as a kid but that does not excuse for what he did you should leave you deserve better

Story 1: Everyone, take notes from the husband. That's the score to beat when it comes to speedrunning your ability to tank your marriage. His is 1 dinner.

1st story: OP, your husband unfortunately is not going to change unless he WANTS to make that change himself. He's willing to cut your family from your life if it means he doesn't have to confront his trauma with a professional. I'm sorry to say, but if you do want to stand up for your brother, you might have to file for divorce and not allow him in the kid's life.

@hhMexicanJoker

4 ай бұрын

Doubt she'd get full custody

@SonicPrimus

4 ай бұрын

@@hhMexicanJoker She could. He's proven that he could potentially leave her and the child, and the refusal to get professional help could prove to be dangerous for the child since he could lash out.

@Detsubkrod

4 ай бұрын

The husband doesnt have a mentla disorder though so hes not required to get any help. Saying her brother is a pwdophile is more damaging than saying he wont go to theraphy thats not required.​@@SonicPrimus

@hhMexicanJoker

4 ай бұрын

@@SonicPrimus nahh it's gonna be a losing case for her if she tried

@SonicPrimus

4 ай бұрын

@@hhMexicanJoker How do you know that?

Last story: I want to question her mom for her motherly duty for having him around being a P but it saved the little boy from what more could have happened but the mother got away from him but you still let your daughter around him he don't want the mama he want the kids her mom and dad are both effed up

Story 1: OP husband is actually more likely to offend than the brother.

S1: the biggest AH here is OP, there’s no way she didn’t know this would start some awful drama. Her *Hubby* is a pile of trash too Trauma isn’t an excuse for shitty behavior.

The internet isnt ready to discuss POCD or ZOCD LOL

Story 3: wait both mom and the aunt knew the dad was a pedo and never reported him wtf

1st story: Your husband should really go to therapy and talk to a p-ocd specialist. Otherwise get divorce. 2nd: mom and sis are crazy

Story 1: Is everyone fucked? The husband is having a very human reaction to this new info. Let the man process. "No, officer, she's actually a 1000 year old dragonkin." He is in the stage where it seems like you are trying to gaslight him into thinkings he isn't a chomo. You can't just drop something like this on someone. This is a keep it to yourself disorder. This is a, "I belive your diagnosis, but stay away from my kids anyway," kinda situation. I don't care if you have the board of medicine behind you, that's a year ban from children until I process this shit situation. The uncle heard the condition and had the same reaction. The woman is a monster. Yes, she did ruin her brothers life. Everyone always goes on the side of caution when it comes go kids. Any good parent does. Losing one family memeber to feel safe is an easy choice. Who does she think she is spreading personal medical information like this?

@prtckthomas3442

4 ай бұрын

Youre the only person with sense in the comments. Man mightve have left her years ago if he knew, that aint symn to play around with, the fear of being a pedo just throws me off, I wouldnt want them around my kids either. All those talmbout psychologists like theyve never misdiagnosed or gotten things wrong. Plus iif she runs away she making it that he can prolly get full custody and sued for isolation

@lillypharaoh5945

4 ай бұрын

You don't understand the disorder 🤦🏽‍♀️ it's not him thinking about children it's him having the constant fear of turning into a p3do all people with OCD have intrusive thoughts but unlike us they can't control their reappearance, for example some people have ocd thoughts that if they don't knock twice on a table they will become a serial k*ller so they become fearful and frantic about knocking they won't become anything and the thought holds 0 weight but it will still torment them.

@lillypharaoh5945

4 ай бұрын

@@prtckthomas3442 he can't thought any clinical/forensic psychologist will sway the judge in her favor by explaining the disorder and pointing out the statistics that untreated ab*se victims are more likely to harm children than people with pocd

Ok i will get hate husband is the A Hole in 1st story

@VRDejaVu

4 ай бұрын

Not wanting his wife and child to have contact with a ped0 makes someone an AH? Can you explain why?

@boneymeroney2674

4 ай бұрын

No hate. He is a total AH. A soon to be divorced AH.

@lindah3803

4 ай бұрын

No hate. However, both OP and hubby are AHs.

@HeoBaby24

4 ай бұрын

​@@lindah3803how is op an ahole?

@HeoBaby24

4 ай бұрын

​@@lindah3803nvm

jesus that 3rd story.

R u available on email??

@SecretVoices25

4 ай бұрын

secretvoicesreddit@gmail.com

Story 1 I hope OP is happy with her husband, I mean, according to her, he is a """"good man"""". I hope his """"good intentions"""" mad the road to her personal hell an easy walk.