"If I'm so smart, why am I losing?" Amazing way to check your own ego and get the hell out of your own way.

Building a relationship and working with someone you don’t like to achieve a mission. That’s professionalism. That’s how you win.

@Spartan-Of-Truth

2 жыл бұрын

It’s also how people become narcissistic.

@paulkirjonen1226

Жыл бұрын

@@Spartan-Of-Truth Moving to a move senior position in my workplace, I have discovered that it becomes almost mandatory to become like that a little bit. This is similiar to when you first learn the social cues, there is a pressure to know how to be social, how to hang out and interact with people normally. Simliarily, later in life there is a higher-tier pressure not only to 'be normal', but also to be able to get along and find common ground even with people who's very being is insulting to you. And don't get me wrong, the narcissistic types are the worst kind of people for me in particular, so it's not that I like it.

“You’re damn right I’m hostile towards people that aren’t squared away” I died

@karamlevi

3 жыл бұрын

😂

@harryv6752

2 жыл бұрын

😄😄😄

I've learned from listening to Jocko and applying his wisdom that the phrase "how can I help?" solves almost any conflict. Nothing disarms an adversary and puts my own ego in check like sincerely, humbly trying to help the person my ego views as a threat. If I can hold back my emotions and reactions (unattaching) long enough to think rationally, I can turn almost any situation into a positive learning experience (for all involved parties). In religion, politics, business, and interpersonal relationships, the ability to distinguish between literal threats and "non-factors" are the key to the success of your agenda. Thanks for the awesome info as always!!

@calebmartinez8073

4 жыл бұрын

Accomplish the mission at all costs!

@Yetipfote

4 жыл бұрын

This is so helpful!! Thank you man! 🙏🏼

@HectorRodriguez-qr4dm

4 жыл бұрын

I totally agree

@ilovebutterstuff

4 жыл бұрын

The Owner's Manual--- that's a great policy; one you should never disavow. Changing my policies has always lead to a pitfall, and I wish I hadn't been so quick to compromise, looking back.

@Maelstr0m

4 жыл бұрын

thats actually really useful info. Thanks for sharing this as it will help almost anyone who reads this!

I love how jocko admits his mistakes as a young man. Trying to be tough... I’m 31 realizing how stupid I’ve been but, I learn from my mistakes and trying to be a better man everyday.

@jamese544

4 жыл бұрын

When I turned 30, I looked myself in the mirror and realized I never met any goal set for myself in my 20's.. I felt like a loser, I told myself I was a loser, but being able to accept that for myself, my 30's became the best years to grow and learn and really become a man. Sometimes we just have to admit to ourselves the truth in order to become better

@jumpstart55million

3 жыл бұрын

Agreed 100%.

@kuiperbeltdropout8791

3 жыл бұрын

"All these people out here who talk about how great they are, and I see it all the time, it makes me sick man. Get real with yourself, people cannot relate to you man, you are un-f*cking relatable. When you come out here and say hey man, I'm the baddest motherf*cker to ever live. Okay great, well what am I gonna learn from you? You learn from people who are willing to tell you, this is where I started from, this is how much I fell on my f*cking ass, this is how bad I used to be." - David Goggins

@drakoinx

3 жыл бұрын

I feel it. 25 and didn't have any male role models in my life. So luckily I grt to choose them now.

@unkownoflife5959

2 жыл бұрын

The Lord Jesus Christ helped me see my sins and flaws.

I have a boss I am forced to see first thing in morning and one thing ive realized is if you just treat them with kindness and don’t expect anything back from them.... you will win every single time because even when you just say good morning and they don’t respond... they think they are insulting you with not responding but if you know better and understand that them not responding is due to their own unhappiness then them not responding is you WINNING lol

@ryanc9888

4 жыл бұрын

Kill them with kindness

@nighthawkdutchchameleon9815

4 жыл бұрын

Take a piece of crap to work with you in a plastic bag and put it on his desk

@lukeseanpicco5787

4 жыл бұрын

@@nighthawkdutchchameleon9815 “If it’s true that thoughts, words and ideas locked-together create language patterns… and those language patterns carry a voice, a power and a vibrational frequency of intelligent energy? Then words can light fires in the minds of those who become enlightened of the internal reality that they are creating from day to day.” - Luke Picco www.IRONCLADCONFIDENCE.com

@lukeseanpicco5787

4 жыл бұрын

“If it’s true that thoughts, words and ideas locked-together create language patterns… and those language patterns carry a voice, a power and a vibrational frequency of intelligent energy? Then words can light fires in the minds of those who become enlightened of the internal reality that they are creating from day to day.” - Luke Picco www.IRONCLADCONFIDENCE.com

@BazIrvine

4 жыл бұрын

Ironclad Confidence Turn that thing off that makes you post twice other than that well said.

P/S, I was pleasantly surprised last week to find out that my teenage daughter listens to your podcasts. This is how I found out: I started playing one of your clips and she was in the room. She said, "Hey mom - is that the Navy Seal guy's podcast? You know him too 😲?" So you guys should know your reaching out to multiple generations and effectively changing lives for better!!!! Thank you for all you do.

@originaudio6991

3 жыл бұрын

@Great Cornholio 🤣

@lukasg9031

3 жыл бұрын

God bless her... there aren’t many kids in this generation that listen to these type of topics 💪🏼

@ashleytaylor994

3 жыл бұрын

So cool

@julesclarke6140

Жыл бұрын

Adding to your commentary : I'm myself a young woman and I think I started listening to Jocko when I was 19. Since then, I'm day after day building my life and myself the way I want, owning up to some of my mistakes (sure I have plenty more to own up to haha). What I like about him is that I don't feel like I'm listening to a guru of a cult who has a huge ego and tries to mould you into what he wants. Nah, Jocko can accept that someone will think different than him, he can also accept that he's a human, he makes mistakes. He's confident but down to earth unlike some of the "mentors" we can find of KZread who creep me out.

“If I’m so smart, why can’t I influence this person.” Simple yet true. I’m in sales and that’s been a hang up of mine recently. It’s my fault.

@signaturerush

Жыл бұрын

You should read how to win friends and influence people by dale Carnegie. One of the things he talks about is how sales people often fail because they focus on what they want instead of what the customer wants.

@nimmha6708

Жыл бұрын

@@signaturerush true.. "focus on what they want instead of what the customer wants" is exactly what makes sales people fail.

@JonathanVachon777

Жыл бұрын

​@@signaturerush i have read that book. Its not working with everyone for many reasons. It works with people that are ready to learn

@chancekottme1964

Ай бұрын

Is it the price or value? Then drop a lil bit 😉

This really hit home...I've always thought I was humble but deep down I'm too conceited...I'm gonna work on it from here on out

@ammedia9870

2 жыл бұрын

Don’t forget , inferiority complex is a form of superiority complex

@Spartan-Of-Truth

2 жыл бұрын

We can tell from your profile picture. Hi, let’s be friends?

@jaxsonreimer4767

2 жыл бұрын

Same bro same!

One of my instructors when I was in class to become a towercrane driver told me " you can be the best operator in the crane but if you do not know how to handle your ground crew or the people you serve, you will suck and not have a long career up there ". or you can mess up many times but if your crew loves you, you will be a legend " I have never forgotten those words because that was a golden. To this day I still hear him yelling through my radio " NO MERCY FOR YOU DANNY BOY " My first try in a new company and 5 days later I had the job and best crew ever. Know how to handle your people.

@chiefslief1886

2 жыл бұрын

👍🏻❤️

Jocko often looks like a little boy with a big secret he can't wait to tell his best friend :)

@thedoubtfuls

4 жыл бұрын

Cept his biceps would crush our nuts on a hiccup

@mitraskolander9085

4 жыл бұрын

Ha ha

@Adventure_fuel

4 жыл бұрын

Except he knows how to murder people and has murdered people.

@spacecowboy1438

4 жыл бұрын

It feels like he has the same pure soul and wisdom as a child.

@brysonjones1491

4 жыл бұрын

Yosef Chaim he killed terrorist, don’t consider terrorist actually human beings

This is work 101, there is always someone you like less. After a while you just manage to ignore that fact, you are at work to get it done, friends are a bonus.

@shawnbrodrick8673

4 жыл бұрын

It's called showbiz not show friends...I use this reminder to myself many times a week

@midnightmorada2678

4 жыл бұрын

I tell myself this every day I go to work

@jDot2414

Жыл бұрын

Ehhh life’s to short to be around people who don’t blend well with your energy

@j2times2006

Ай бұрын

​@@jDot2414that is true. Having to put up with that BS everyday just drains the life outta you.

I watch this everyday before work. I’ve been promoted twice since I started. The one I didn’t like now works underneath me. I am still not finished. Still have a mission that needs to be completed. Thanks for your inspiration.

"That sounds manipulative, conniving, not keeping it real" - Being autistic, to me even keeping it real is a sort of act that I learned to perform, so in a way I learned to view all behaviour as manipulative or somewhat acted. What matters is the intention, and when the intention is to get shit done, being cooperative and respectful to someone you despise is 100% true to the intention to get shit done. Maybe not true to your feelings but the point was to get shit done not to express your feelings.

@pinkharmonica7656

4 жыл бұрын

I felt the exact same way thinking about this. I have a friend who has a lot of social influence and when I observe his interactions with people especially people he doesn't like, I noticed a lot of times he says things that I would consider technically lies, but I started to realise that it's really just the little social things people do so everything remains cordial. A lot of times I see it as manipulation, but like you said, most social interactions feel like manipulation beyond just matter of factly stating what you want, how you feel, or what you're thinking.

@pinkharmonica7656

4 жыл бұрын

This comment very concisely summarized my thoughts in a way that seems like it will be very easy to remember and therefore apply. Thank you.

@andreeadobre3190

4 жыл бұрын

Pink Harmonica Glad my comment helped! Also, at least for me, being nice, pleasant, courteous etc to people makes life nicer!

@StargazerYo

10 ай бұрын

This was really well stated, and an eye-opener. Hopefully this doesn't come off as insensitive, but sometimes I think autism serves more as a superpower than a disability, at least with experiences I've seen. My strongest relationships have often been with people I found out yeeears later are autistic, but the bonds feel stronger because there's more authenticity in it over adjusting to established "social cues"

Rule number 1, never outshine the master

@justintime7739

3 жыл бұрын

Pathetic Millennial 48 laws of power

@tomroberts8735

3 жыл бұрын

My Rule #1 : Never let your boss get blindsided.

@Southernsoul415

3 жыл бұрын

So I glad I found you cause I’m at the end of my rope with my boss and job . 🙏🏻

@djtanikgotbeatz

3 жыл бұрын

Fuck that there’s always a end

@louvoodoo

3 жыл бұрын

@@justintime7739 I love Robert Greene. I can't wait to read his other books.

I love how you guys can be humble and tough at the same time. Too many tough guys out there need to humble themselves

@kashlorwebb

2 жыл бұрын

That’s what combat sports does to a man😌 “A lion does not have to prove he’s tough, everyone knows he’s the King”

@wholeass83

2 жыл бұрын

@@kashlorwebb that funny I always say I know some tough MFers but none of them ever talked about how tough they were.

"wisdom based on humility leads to progress. wisdom based on hostility leads to regress" Eugene Logan

Love the humility that Jocko shows in his response here. Really says a lot about the character of a man to acknowledge his weaknesses.

Be kind to people, but don't let them take advantage of you. And trust people, but don't let them deceive you.

"Being humble goes a loooong way" - Only being 30 years old and I've realized this. Being honest about your mistakes and showing how you can improve them combined with being humble about your skills and limitations will ease most tensions. I've been to meetings where the room was electrified coming in. But being just 1 person in there to stay the course of the objective helped so much in rebuilding a bit of trust and removing tensions for further development

Jocko's message and method is worthy to be saluted every time we listen. His sidekick cheer leader needs to grow up.

"I got dinged on my evaluation, it was for lack of communication or something, I dunno I wasn't really listening" (paraphrased). lul.

@squakrock

4 жыл бұрын

David Schwab love this dude lol

@llamallama9637

4 жыл бұрын

Lol, nice Dumb and Dumber reference.

“Be friendly, but not friends”

My last job i got fired after telling a coworker off who I felt the victim of bullying/gossip etc... Even though I was right, I could tell I really lost in that situation. I couldn't just let it go and i lost sight of my bigger mission. It was a very toxic work place but I could've left with more grace. But I'm grateful it happened and is in the past because I know not to let it happen again

"Keep your friends close, and your enemies closer." (The Godfather Rule)

I drove a cab for a couple of years and one thing that learned is that if you don't respond to difficult people in a way that escalates the situation and you keep a consistent level head and do not let them influence the way that you handle the situation, 9 times out of ten they settle down rather quickly and end up with a much more productive situation.

Our own EGO can be the worst enemy. A good book to read is "Ego is the Enemy" by Ryan Holiday

@Sasketchejuana_man

3 жыл бұрын

@@generalripper7528 you’re right. There’s a fine balance. Like with anything in life. Gotta have a nice balance.

@arisa373

3 жыл бұрын

pride goeth before destruction

'' If I am so smart, why am I not winning? '' That kinda got through me because I sabotage myself pretty often just out of pride and stubbornness, although I know Im consciously deciding to lose as long as I feel I am right. So my principles are more important for me than to succed in certain situations, which leads to a lot of unhappiness obviously and I feel like I should change that behavior. Well thanks for the great content!

'Being humble goes a loooong way'.

We get taught we screw up then have to relearn,I’m blown away at 45 and sober I’m putting myself through this self mentoring by watching Jocko and have been for the last yr,there’s no amount of thanks I can give I wake to the man I lift to him I run to him he’s literally the dad I I never had and I wish I had.

This the mentality of a true team leader & team worrier u go Jocko💪🙏👍

Wonderful stuff, Jocko. This can often work in both directions, too -- depending on the situation. You notice another is being disrespectful or even hostile all the time, so you say to him: "I know you have very little respect for me at present, and that might or might not change later on -- I can live with it either way. But for now, I think you'll agree that, as your supervisor/boss/brother, I am entitled to your co-operation. Without it, the unit/company/family is damaged -- and neither one of us wants that. Do you want to try and go forward on that basis?" (Everybody learns that it isn't what others think of me that really matters -- it's what I think of me. And bad behavior, no matter how justified, will sooner or later always make me think less of myself.)

So many people get in their own way at work by thinking that reacting emotionally and bitching at everyone and everything means that they are genuine and have integrity. This should be mandatory viewing. At work, integrity means working together and I don’t care who you like or don’t like.

Thank you jocko and echo Charles. I needed to hear this.

Always finding some great take aways from your podcasts!!! thank you!!

This subject resonates with me and I imagine most people. Ego and pride can be major stumbling blocks for all people.

I learned this Jocko and I hope you read this. I'm 22 and learned if they're smart, be tough. If they are tough be smart. If they are foolish, be righteous. If they are righteous, be a bit foolish.

Jocko, this came at the right time. You gotta know how I play the game to get ahead and care for those who you do actually like. Love you podcast, full of wisdom and insights.

"Never outshine the master."

It's nice to hear how much I was also like Jocko when I was young. I smiled ear to ear through this whole video.

Agreed,we must start with Humility! Thank you! Very helpful!

That was one of the best podcasts of Jocko I ever heard. And Echo has much more intense energy in this one.

Being humble goes a looong way

The point is you are not trying to win "for" people you don't like. You just have to win with them. So being polite to them and not expecting nice response and dedicated work from them are included as your job to win something. Stay in the course to win something and complete your mission. That's all about professionalism. Thanks Jocko

Sitting here eating my post workout meal and getting life lessons from Jocko... Life is good. Much love n respect! 🤙🤙🤙

You know, this is the reassurance I needed to hear to motivate me to let go of my personal ambitions for the sake of my team.

These videos are great! I really appreciate your advice!

I'm doing my best, and hearing this I noticed I have things I could do better or be better at. And I'm thankful for that.

I am in a challenging situation and this is so helpful. Thank you.

"If I am that smart, why can't I win?". Such a lovely way to put it.

I would just like to thank you for the assistance you offered me as a young man. I've got myself together. Ill be the general manager of the restaurant I've been working at since highschool. I WILL be an owner and franchisee before I'm 21. So thanks for the help in realizing what im capable of.

@drakoinx

3 жыл бұрын

Agreed

@tamstams3815

2 жыл бұрын

You’re the man! Rooting for you!!!

@katiecute49

2 жыл бұрын

Checking in @honeybadgerftw have you been able to be the owner or be closer to the goal?

@shouryarathore7434

Жыл бұрын

How you doing right now?

True story... when you don’t like someone & you’re honest with yourself about the answer, it will often be your own ego that’s in the way! It’s often something you don’t like about yourself that you see in the other person!

Jocko dropping gems all day, every day!

found your podcast couple days ago, i cant wait to check out the backlog of old podcasts!

Once again you have shared the necessary tools for success. I dont have the right words to express how valuable the information you provide is to me, and everyone else looking for answers and solutions. Thank you.

You are a powerful human, and a leader. We love you

I am 40 years old and I am just now learning this.

I needed this... thank you so much!!

"Being humble goes a long way." Damn straight it does.

"We all need each other, for each of us, needs all of us." Jim Rohn

And don't let them mistake your kindness for weakness.

Applying this lesson NOW.

Great wisdom again from Jocko and EchoCharles!

I like being the team member who does everything above and beyond what is expected me without expectations from anyone. It's a good way too measure the quality of people we work with. When asked for volunteers always be first. Do your duty without being asked to do it. Don't complain or whine about anything. Don't talk about people if they are not their to defend themselves. The less we speak the more we listen and the more we listen the more we understand and the more we understand the more we can accomplish.

@briancasteel1222

3 жыл бұрын

Small minded people talk about other people. Average minds talk about events and great minds talk about ideas.

Thanks Bro, so needed to hear this

As much as I love the theory of this, there are people who will abuse your willingness to let your guard down. If they are in your family, they are inescapable unless you can manage to cut all contact or keep them at a distance. There is a point where this will become inviting abuse, at least in a certain context. If you're dealing with a normal person, yeah, this advice works. It's a pretty good method to filter out people who you can develop respect for, and people who aren't willing to respect others.

@thatgui88

Жыл бұрын

Yeah im kind of sad he didn't mention narcissism in the work place.

@run2walk298

6 ай бұрын

Keep them at a distance as much as you know how. Stay focused and stay positive; for you.

@anthonyle1838

2 ай бұрын

​@@thatgui88most of the time they're not actual narcissists they don't actually have narcissistic personality disorder they are just people who are very arrogant but on the point that they are still reasonable unless well they actually have a personality disorder people are well inherently working off their own logic trying to fulfill what they think is their own need

@thatgui88

2 ай бұрын

@@anthonyle1838 Nah I've met some people who legit fit every description of what a narcissist acts/does. So far I have met 2 so far. One man and one women. Competitive, difficult to work with,huge ego,lack of boundaries, and rude.

@anthonyle1838

2 ай бұрын

@@thatgui88 self-interested and competitive those are some traits and narcissist definitely can have but they're more defined by how much they want admiration and validation

Thank you jocko I needed this it helped me more that you know just be humble

Thank you for putting your input and valuable responses for people as a teenager going into rotc and having goals in sf I’m lucky to have such an amazing amount of information before me.

Hey guys, I needed this one! I’m in barber school and I really had to put my ego in check yesterday. I just feel like I’m not getting anything out of my education at the school. The instructor and his wife are crooks. They don’t even teach anything and it’s a blessing I know how to cut already and keep my business running. They profit off their students and students aren’t able to do much about which created a toxic environment or made me not want to go. They threaten to suspend me if I keep skipping school and they charge you money for missing attendance hours. I can’t afford miss anymore if I want my license honestly. I’m glad I saw this video bc I was going to drop out of something I love doing. I can’t let them get in the way man. Again, thank you.

@justinlong7778

7 ай бұрын

What’s the update!

Jocko your the man dude! So fascinating and knowledgeable! I been telling anyone with ears about your podcast

Jocko, I wish I had heard these words 6 months ago. This is pure wisdom.

Damn G! Needed to hear this today! Shout out to jocko and echo for dropping some free game.

amazing lesson about life and our relationships with other people....

Thank you for the insightful video much appreciated it

Thank you Jocko, I needed to hear this today.

Good info to reflect on and adapt to!

Thank you. Honesty is the framework for progress.

I haven’t listened yet but I’m surprised to here Jocko speak of winning with people that you don’t like. Maybe I’m stubborn or something but I don’t even want to be around people I do not like and I won’t try to do anything with them.

This video is spot on. Maybe Jocko's best podcast. Keeping the ego in check solves 80% of all relationship problems inside the team and outside the team.

Jocko & Echo, thank you for showcasing this story. These lessons will help to make strong people better team players. Your guys mindset is much appreciated.

This is what I needed to hear. Thanks Jocko

6:15 you're understanding your own limitations and his limitations and taking charge of getting him to comply because he wants to, not against his ego. you're being the man.

So true. It's the ego that makes us dislike other people. A good soul search has helped me many a times. From observing people who really have a name in society, but "carry out the trash out" voluntarily, that to me is a lasting lesson than the man-made "Thou shalt not!!!" Thank you for these podcasts.

This is amazing wisdom and exactly what I needed to hear right now!👊🏼💥🇺🇸🦅🏆

Love the content! Really helps me look deep within myself and keep my own ego in check!

Really like these short clips as well. Thanks, Echo...I think.

Always great content from these lads.

Always on point, Jocko! Love this!!

Often what we dislike in others is the thing we dislike within ourselves subconsciously.

Jocko is so badass talking about these kinds of iffy topics.

This is great content. Hits right home.

5:30 The difference between truth and the subtitles are awesome. 💯

Great lesson, thank you.

Thats Amazing Jocko, wow. Well done man, thank you!

Puts things in perspective. Thank you.

Incredible perspective, I cannot thank you enough.

This is an awakening for me, this is me 100%, Thank you for this interview, I have been a stubborn bone head all this time. Moving forward im putting my ego in check. New subscriber

Can’t believe I just discovered this guy. So much insight

Ty I needed to hear this.

It’s a good realization to have also knowing what winning and losing is to you personally is a good measured the understand it’s different for everybody.