I just stopped dating and focused on myself.

@sixteen.candles.4644

4 жыл бұрын

Same.

@rm7519

4 жыл бұрын

same

@mrs.camillewarrenempress3115

4 жыл бұрын

Same here. Dating nowsday are weak

@teresabutler1989

4 жыл бұрын

Same here! Going on 6 years of no dating at all. Don't miss the roller coaster!

@shuifeng1333

4 жыл бұрын

Same.

Negative relationships seriously affect our mental health! You want to find someone who supports you and helps you during difficult periods! Not makes you feel worse😩

@DrTraceyMarks

4 жыл бұрын

Very true indeed. 🙂

@JenniferElliott1

4 жыл бұрын

I agree and most definitely can relate!

@Ms79SunShine

4 жыл бұрын

@@DrTraceyMarks First off your channel is a great resource and MUCH NEEDED!! This particular topic really hit home for me as I now avoid relationships althoughter afraid of picking the same person in different skin! With that, can you do a video on PTSD vs. Traumatic PTSD, which is a relatively new concept as I understand it, & still outside of a "wartime, or militaristic" context? Also, possibly work in the effects in adulthood of being a parentified child. Though these might not be related, I value your insight & recommendations! With MUCH gratitude & appreciation! 🤗 Saqqara

@artivedi3887

3 жыл бұрын

No one

@TysonMichael77

2 жыл бұрын

truth

From my personal experience, self improvement caused me to choose better men. As I improved, my choice in men improved.

@iamaleo247

2 жыл бұрын

Awesome!

@michellesavage8437

2 жыл бұрын

Gotta work on that.

@resilience_onward

2 жыл бұрын

Naw that didn't work for me. Much therapy and self improvement and still can't pick a good guy to save my life. They are not out there I have offically given up.

@jansley4

2 жыл бұрын

@@resilience_onward When I say self improvement, I literally had mind (ways of thinking) and action (ways of doing things) changes concerning relationships. Not like better clothes, or improved hygiene, but changing my inner self. Biblical therapy is the only one that worked for me. Sorry to hear your self improvements didn't work. There are lots of good men out there. You might need to change your mind on that 😉

@niiskuneitiBANAANI

2 жыл бұрын

I was trying to choose better man, but they were all pretty much the same 5 times in a row. They were nagging, emotionally unavailable, controlling, mentally&physically abusive, or just random combination some of the things mentioned. These are all treats of my parents and I hate it so much. My 6th man was perfect for first 6 months, like they all are at the beginning. Then the shit started to blow up. Atleast I chose a man who is a perfect match for my personality and we are able to have fun if he is not causing trouble. However he does most of the time so it's pretty hopeless. Im soooo done.

If someone sees a genuinely nice person as boring or weak, they have issues that will very likely be negatively impacting.

@DrTraceyMarks

4 жыл бұрын

True. The woman in the example does have issues that interfere with having quality relationships

@Yolduranduran

4 жыл бұрын

Someone I know has been in a bad relationship for the majority of her 20s . She's always always complaining. During a small breakup with this person she dated a super great guy. Handsome, family guy and above all really kind and loving. She said he was too boring. Now years later she says she's sorry she didn't give him a chance.

@DellaWatson-cz3mq

4 жыл бұрын

Yea, its like the people that say, oh he was just too nice, ah just pisses me off

@Robert_11911

3 жыл бұрын

@@Yolduranduran that’s because they find out quickly how green that other grass really is.

@applejones1697

3 жыл бұрын

Uh oh an incel!

Keeping boundaries and taking things slow in relationships really helps especially in regards to modern day dating. When you give too much of yourself to the wrong person, it only makes it that much harder to leave thereby lessening your own self respect.

@divathedivinegoddess8001

2 жыл бұрын

💯💯💯

@yougotgamesonyourphone6947

2 жыл бұрын

I learned this the hard way!!

@theresa1213

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed

@Cpre1111

2 жыл бұрын

Yes! People want to rush nowadays. They don't want to work for it, to earn someone's trust or build a foundation. Sad

@dawnharris6162

2 жыл бұрын

💯!

I would love to see a video on what healthy relationships look like.

@kaylavibes36

3 жыл бұрын

There’s tons of videos like that ❤️ just search that sentence in the search bar and boom

@taxr2111

2 жыл бұрын

Opposite of the stuff she’s talking about…?

@karimaechols6116

2 жыл бұрын

I second that

@Taonga811

2 жыл бұрын

Lord am just from saying this

@tyanaz1498

2 жыл бұрын

Look up secure attachments

having an absent father makes sense as to why i crave male validation so much lol

@ang8574

2 жыл бұрын

Same. 😔

@chimps7777777

2 жыл бұрын

Same

@evaschroeder4020

2 жыл бұрын

So many girls and kids today do have absent fathers. I did and seemed really desperate for male validation. Scary because guys can figure this out and take advantage of this.

@starseed8809

2 жыл бұрын

You can get out of that once you love yourself and you don't give a damm if they don't validate you because you know you are worthy

@happygucci5094

2 жыл бұрын

Bingo.💯🎯

I uncovered this...here's what I found out. I was always attracted to emotionally unavailable people but that's because I (as a formerly anxious person...now earned secure) was also avoiding by not asking for what I needed and setting boundaries. I would also people please like crazy towards the end because I did't know what else to do. The moment I practiced asking for waht I needed in ALL areas of my life - truly believing I deserved it, set boundaries and honoured them consistently and looked inward something magical happened. No longer attracted to the same person. I actually AM attracted to emotionally available and "nice and boring" folks. The same drama doesn't do it for me anymore because I've allowed myself to express my needs.

@dorothyobrien7724

Жыл бұрын

I am like you in that I needed to ask for what I wanted. But, before I could do that, I needed to know that it was okay for me to do that. I had to learn I had a right to have requirements. Oh, okay. That I needed to cultivate a sense of Self. To be centered and grounded. Learning to set boundaries. Learning to standup for myself. I was not attracted to the bad boys or drama. I was just so open and if someone seemed "nice" I trusted that. I am now centered and grounded in who I am. I have a sense of Self. I found my Spiritual path. I am at peace with myself. I like myself. I appreciate my own company. I am not afraid to be alone. I am at a different place now. I like to think, when I am ready, I will make better choices. That if it is not right, I can walk away. I have learned to do that with platonic relationships.

@anonymousz2065

Жыл бұрын

I’m so happy for you ❤ I’m also on my spiritual path….it’s been very emotional but liberating at the same time. Takes a lot of strength and determination to face your fears, problems, trauma, memories and limiting beliefs head on, which is why a lot of people don’t do this and would rather find someone else to pour out their anger, frustration, unhappiness and dissatisfaction on cause it’s easier to just do that. Finding a victim to soothe your self or actually playing victim. Unfortunately it takes a degree of self awareness and consciousness to even realize or notice that one has these issues. A lot of people live unconsciously. One funny thing I observed is that, during this past months of me focusing on myself, my mental and spiritual path, anytime I was on the verge of another break through, people from my past( mostly those I’ve had toxic unhealthy relationships with) would try to come back into my life or show up out of the blues. It’s as if their spirits could sense my progress and so they would come to try to draw me back 😂😂. But I made a promise to myself never to go back to those dark times and so I cut them off without a second thought. I would really shock myself anytime I cut someone off. Especially if it was someone who in the past I would hang on to for dear life, But of course they treated me like dirt, but out of this dirt a beautiful bamboo tree is growing and no matter what she can bend but she will never break. Sending you much love💗 may your peace be everlasting and may your light continue to shine ✨

You attract what you feel comfortable with, coming from narcissistic up bringing I got into many of the same in relationships and marriages until I realized where i came from. If it feels like my childhood, its a big red flag.

@DrTraceyMarks

4 жыл бұрын

Yes indeed. 👍🏼

@KYRA_FX

4 жыл бұрын

It's based on your attachment style.

@hunnyb1308

4 жыл бұрын

Very true.

@CLEFT3000

3 жыл бұрын

Cannot agree more!

@kelleybright3113

3 жыл бұрын

Thanku i didnt kno..but i do now

I attracted drug addicts, mommy issues, cheater, physically abusive and alcoholic men. Didn't match my home life at all. Then I realized that other people want partners too and I unfortunately fit the bill. Luckily I broke the cycle by making my own choices and not what my parents or other family members thought. It worked I had a great relationship not without it's growing pains but I learned that respecting my mate was essential without that it was doomed. Great video Dr.Marks .

As someone who grew up in an abuse house, and was surrounded by abusive relationships for a long time, I want to add that when you are used to abuse, it becomes comforting. You know how to react to it. Being happy, being treated well can be very scary because you don’t have that script I ran away from several potentially heathy relationships because I didn’t know to handle them at the time >__>

@jbaby362

Жыл бұрын

Yeah this is a huge issue, how to feel safe when something doesn't feel normal

If you have a good husband, this might be a good time to stop and be thankful for him.

Yep, I keep falling for the same emotionality unavailable person. And push away those who actually reciprocated my feelings. It's taken me so many years to finally admit to myself that it probably has something to do with my childhood experience of feeling abandoned and neglected by my parents, even though it was only true of my father who was an ass. My mother did her best but it was tough for her as a single mum. Still, I do harbor resentment towards her as well, for not being able to provide me with all the attention I craved. What I want is someone to acknowledge me, and not abandon me.

@bruciavernellenkima6074

2 жыл бұрын

Read books on ptsd. I am like you. Now reading is what is helping me. Reading n prayers. Because trust me you will never feel loved enough even if someone come as u want. U will always need moren to break that cycle healing ur past child is is what will help you love yourself and attract who can love you

@FruityHachi

2 жыл бұрын

my experience is similar to yours, my mother even talked to me about how she felt frustrated when as a baby i was very needy and crying nonstop and that she had to always do something to make me stop crying, talking about it as if i was a nuisance to her so i'm pretty sure that as a baby i sensed that she didn't give me emotional atunement i needed, and then as growing up i suppressed my emotions, still to this day i don't let my parents to see me cry and i also feel uncomfortable crying in front of people in general

@unapologeticallyria6386

2 жыл бұрын

That’s honest.

@natashapetkovska2847

2 жыл бұрын

Same here.. It's hard to understand this... Some people just don't understand trauma.. 😔

@jaaykam8487

2 жыл бұрын

Why is this so damn relatable...

Ehhhh I’ve dated the player, the narcissist and the “nice guy” they all come with their set of issues. In fact, the “nice guy” scared me the most because he was overly sensitive and ended up having anger issues and temper tantrums after a while. He was a momma’s boy and praised himself on being loyal and a catch. He wasn’t a narcissist but he definitely felt women “had their place.” The player and the narcissist were upfront about being blatant assholes. The “nice guy” had me fooled because he was so attentive in all the right ways but his temper and caveman mentality (I make the money, you clean and cook) scared me.Personally I think We all have issues and it comes down to what we are all willing to put up with at the end of the day.

@intuitivesongbird8969

2 жыл бұрын

I absolutely agree with your opinion. I also think in the end everyone has their own issues, people are not perfect, they have wonderful sides and ugly sides to them, some more and some less.

@KvngAmir

2 жыл бұрын

What did you bring to the table besides cooking and cleaning? And if he was the breadwinner paying all of the bills why does cooking and cleaning scare you? Why do women feel they should be treated as such but don’t feel the need to reciprocate that to the man?

@Gaspode_

2 жыл бұрын

So the common factor in all those relationships was you?

@Photosbystacyb

2 жыл бұрын

@@KvngAmir I can see where you're coming from with this statement, but with the fact that there is nothing in what she said to support this attack comment I believe it was unfair. However, as a woman who has their own business, who is very career driven, have my own things, I can relate to her. There are men that I have dated or come across that feel emasculated when a woman is career driven/successful. The more independent a woman is, the more freedom she has. Some men dont respect that and dont want that. There are men out there who will manipulate you to leave your job so that they become your sole source of income or men who make more money than you and treat you any way they want because they want to get you addicted to their lifestyle in such a way where you will take all the crap from them and not be able to stand on your own. The caveman mentality that she is trying to highlight here could well possibly be one where a man believes a womans place is in the home, having children, being a home maker and nothing more. They dont believe in equal rights and equal opportunities for gender.

@Photosbystacyb

2 жыл бұрын

@@KvngAmir it often times stems from their insecurity. They HAVE to put themselves in a position where they have complete control and the woman is not allowed to have or entertain certain opportunities.

People generally go after who they are sexually attracted to then try to make it work as a relationship. This often fails because you can't make it work the other way.

@kylieking8163

2 жыл бұрын

Why be with someone u not attracted to

@keishafromscratch

2 жыл бұрын

Without Sexual attraction how can there even be a relationship?

@quickpstuts412

2 жыл бұрын

The problem is not going for someone who you are sexually attracted to. The real issue is not developing anything beyond the sex. People often have trouble being vulnerable in relationships (guarded) and so if all you have is sex, it won't last because you need more than that.

@cosmiccrush22

2 жыл бұрын

Men do they all go for looks and we all know this is true.

@LoveLifeAllWays

2 жыл бұрын

@@quickpstuts412 this is so correct. Dealt with this before and the person said anything he felt I wanted to hear in order to keep up that aspect of the relationship but had so many complaints about me. Never wanted to let go and I kept trying. I actually felt more and he claimed he did. Finally the light bulb went off and I realized my worth. Wish it could be much more but to some it's not at all.

I think it was M. Scott Peck who once said in a taped lecture, "People repeat what's familiar, even if it isn't good for them."

@echase416

3 жыл бұрын

Great comment!

@llararulens8895

2 жыл бұрын

Then there has been no growth and that's the real problem. If ppl take the time to self reflect, love themselves and request for feedback. You will grow through change.

@nokwandajobe1021

2 жыл бұрын

Love his writings

@minic578

2 жыл бұрын

I broke down reading this. I was always very awarevof the fact that distressed life n relationships is my comfort zone no matter how painful it gets. I know that I must get out of it but never cared to put any effort. Certainty and predictability of the sadness keeps me going rather than being scared of any other unknown emotion. As a child, teen, adult, after marriage n now being a mother...life's all been the same. Never been happy emotionally but atleast, i am familiar of the situations. Every relationship i got into had the same pattern to it.

@goodtalker

2 жыл бұрын

@@emailjosie39 AKA learned helplessness?

I wish good therapy was affordable. You are right (all 15 times you said it) that therapy is a necessity!

@DrTraceyMarks

4 жыл бұрын

I think it was only 14 😊

@bimy2090

4 жыл бұрын

@@DrTraceyMarks there is no such thing as a therapy in my country. I know a psychologist who gave all informations of his client to a friend, I have to do this work alone. I started this summer and it is hard. I feel hopeless now because in every video or books. They speak about therapy.

@nkwari

4 жыл бұрын

Some people need to hear something 50 times before they think "Hmm, maybe she's right."

@echase416

3 жыл бұрын

Start taking part-time courses at community college in counseling. I can be much cheaper than therapy. (At least it’s something.)

@stacyr4768

2 жыл бұрын

@@bimy2090 there are therapy online

One of the things that I really like about this piece is that it blasts the "nice guys finish last" myth. A lot of people believe that women are attracted to men who have negative 'alpha' traits: being domineering, overbearing, hyper-accomplished, distant, cold, etc. This mythology always struck me as sexist and victim-shaming. Very often we are just attracted to whatever we grew up with in an attempt to heal the wound, as you were saying. That's it. The relationship itself becomes an opportunity to set something straight. And very often it fails and we're left confused, frustrated and hurt. This bit of awareness alone can be very powerful and transformative. Thank you.

@isasou1307

2 жыл бұрын

@Johnny blames honey you need to watch that video again and ask yourself why you feel this way about women

@absolutenothing7094

2 жыл бұрын

the 'nice guys finish last' myth comes with an awful lot of factual evidence for being a myth if you ask me. "lot of people believe that women are attracted to men who have negative 'alpha' traits" nobody thinks that way. it's about confidence not "negative traits". "being domineering, overbearing, hyper-accomplished, distant, cold" well, which one?? being domineering and accomplised or being cold and and distant?? see what i mean?? no offense but get your definitions straight. what about it is victim-shaming or sexist?? to me it struck as realistic, objective and factual. and it's only natural, evolutionarily women select bigger,stronger, more domineering men. and they should because after all, the men who didn't meet this criteria either died or weren't useful.

@surreallane9730

2 жыл бұрын

They also make one person an example for all. One woman would reject them for a supposedly manlier man but would see it as all of them. The “nice guy” may also have someone that likes him, but he is not interested in her for the same reason the other woman is not interested in him. The petty and childish behavior is definitely a turn off and there is nothing wrong with remaining kind. Kindness is also seen as a strength.

@katybee3891

2 жыл бұрын

@@absolutenothing7094 what you’re saying isn’t empirically proven fact, it’s merely an unproven hypothesis. Evolutionary biology is just made up to validate sexist beliefs. What I’m attracted to changes constantly. A lot of men confuse being nice with being fake, manipulative and lacking integrity, therefore their attempts at attracting women by „being nice“ fail. A genuinely nice guy respects me enough to be honest with me and disagree with me. That’s attractive, what’s not attractive is a man who thinks he has some kind of authority over women and who is rude.

@RevealedFilms

2 жыл бұрын

Men and women tend to want what they can’t have. Alpha males tend to be emotionally unavailable. I remember pursuing women and they would gradually back off as soon as I withdrew my attention and focused on other endeavours, they usually pursued my attention. I found that very interesting growing up.

Good points about passive men that can't handle a strong personality, I never picked up on that but it's so true. But also, passivity feels like rejection in itself. If he never directly communicates his romantic interest or feelings or is too shy and expects you to to make the "moves," it feels awful. I want to be confidently and openly pursued romantically-- not be the one coaxing them. In the past I ended up emotionally driving the relationship and refuse to do that anymore.

@Flower-dk9fi

2 жыл бұрын

It’s soooo sooo draining

@ritaevergreen7234

2 жыл бұрын

I can’t be around passive men. It feels like I’m doing all the heavy loading in the dynamic. Even in friendships I couldn’t be around people with passive personalities but I always found myself around friendships who were too outspoken because of trauma

@ameebohrer1889

2 жыл бұрын

@@Flower-dk9fi Isn't it?? It makes me angry, it's so immature. Grow a set and take a risk like the rest of us. Everyone gets rejected, even models and movie stars. If you can't handle a small thing like that, you can't handle every day stress or be a good partner.

@ameebohrer1889

2 жыл бұрын

@@ritaevergreen7234 YES! Thank you. Attraction needs to be enthusiastic and reciprocal. I don't want to feel like a mother, encouraging a child to get up and walk. I can't stand passive female friendships either-- I don't want to always be their strength. I need someone to lean on, too. It's hard to find the right balance between too shy and too aggressive in people.

@ritaevergreen7234

2 жыл бұрын

@@ameebohrer1889 I’m in the same boat. Though I have felt like a loner most of my upbringing because most friendships around me were superficial as the norm snd I was just used as someone to go to not because they genuinely sought ought my company.

After years of struggling, I'm practicing radical acceptance and focussing on what I can change and letting go of what I can't. Severing ties with toxic people whether their family or friends is crucial too.

@jessicagousse85

2 жыл бұрын

Especially the family members. "oh that's still your family" not when they're a toxic energy who constantly like to bring you down.

Again, such good analysis and advice! As a 71 year old woman, still active and attractive, I have called it “quits” with guys. I open myself up and get hammered every time. I am better off single. 🤦🏼‍♀️

@DrTraceyMarks

4 жыл бұрын

71 and still active and attractive and entertaining the idea of dating? You're my hero 😊 But I hear you, sometimes you are better off being content and at peace rather than continually in a struggle.

@melanieohara6941

4 жыл бұрын

Dr. Tracey Marks Thank you so much for your prompt reply, Dr. Marks. I do so appreciate your kindness.🌺

@torif1girl454

4 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry you've had a hard time, and I hope it changes...but you sound awfully reasonable and sane and I really admire your perspective

@eagleeye2300

4 жыл бұрын

@@melanieohara6941I'm done, too. 62 years old and the few people I have recently met are nutty. Just not worth it...I have 2 dogs and one snuggles. Way better, way kinder, way safer. Love to you.

@christianpulisic7784

3 жыл бұрын

@@melanieohara6941 You deserve better 🙏🙏🙏

Just give up on intimate relationships all together, and like someone stated below, focus on self.

After several failed relationships I started soul searching and realized I grew up in chaos and I choose chaos because I have a comfort level there. It is what I knew and was familiar with. Also due to rejection or lack of care from my parents I felt I did not deserve, any thing normal felt too good for me.I felt i wasnt good enough for a person in a normal family environment. Once I was able to see this I made the changes necessary to select healthier relationships and environments. I never had therapy but you can learn a lot reading and being objective if you search.

I've had over a dozen therapists and not one has really helped me get past my trauma past. If anything they made my life worse. Those who thinking about becoming a therapist need to evaluate themselves before going into it...Ask the question, do you really want to help others or are you just trying to find a way to understand your life and your mental issues.

@DiamondsRexpensive

4 жыл бұрын

Why not both?

@glenholmgren1218

4 жыл бұрын

Diamind Because you cannot guide somebody else successfully where you have not yet been yourself ... just saying. 😁👍😇🙏🏻

@jocelyn9167

4 жыл бұрын

Have you ever thought that you are the one not letting go of your past someone can help you but it’s still up to you to change and move forward it’s all up to YOU no one else

@DiamondsRexpensive

4 жыл бұрын

@@glenholmgren1218 Well, of course you would have to figure your own baggage first, but I mean, one can aim for both.

@AznGotChen

4 жыл бұрын

Honestly, it seems like you are the problem and you are playing the victim because you are afraid of change.

You are right. I stay away from people to be safe 💕

@VaalMaakri

4 жыл бұрын

Me too😜

@Zen-cx5tc

4 жыл бұрын

That what I plan to do now. Humans are evil!

@LisaGemini

4 жыл бұрын

@@Zen-cx5tc BUT the thing is...relationships are what life is fundamentally about. Loneliness and isolation aren't normal. In fact, they can shorten your life. I hope everyone who is avoiding having relationships with people will get some help.

@johnborland7865

4 жыл бұрын

Lisa Cunningham you say it shortens your life as if that’s a bad thing. What is the ideal span of a life? How can we know that? What are you basing it on? We know the outside parameters 0 and 125-130, but that’s the outliers, not the ideal length. So what’s the ideal? How can I know? Just because I can do a thing, doesn’t mean it’s ideal.

@LisaGemini

4 жыл бұрын

@@johnborland7865 Well, I'd like to live to be about 85. Wouldn't that be much better than dying when you are only 50 or 60? We only get one life.

OMG, for years I have been trying to figure out how my dad relates to my pattern of unhealthy relationships with men. I always wondered how I associated with having "Daddy Issues" when he was always such a great provider and teacher. Whereas I always attract the complete opposite. Well recently I accepted that I attract emotionally unavailable men. This video finally gave me what I've been searching for. He wasn't mean or abusive. I have emotional damage from his absence of validation...wow...i feel such a relief because now I have a focal point to begin healing from...thank you so much for this video🤗

My first knee jerk thought tho is a fear of winding up like my mother. Married to someone like that and losing my identity to them and never having one of my own.

@itsnotmeitsyou717

3 жыл бұрын

Omg this is me. Tbh i have a tendency of making other ppl that i love trauma my own and i do it with my mom and little sister alot. Because of this i have a deep intense fear of ending up like my mother and attracting men like my father and step father. This reality plagues my existence.

@issavirgo6079

2 жыл бұрын

Same.

@niyaalott6436

2 жыл бұрын

This 💯

@wyleecoyotee4252

2 жыл бұрын

My experience as well, especially with my last bf. I lost myself and the woman I was ceased to exist. It was an unhealthy relationship. Never again for me. I can thrive on my own. Have friends hobbies, a good life.

She literally just made me text my 12 & 13 year old sons to let them know how proud I am of them and much I love them. I hope I don’t eff them up in any way shape or form but I probably did and wasn’t aware of it. Geesh parenting is tough 🤦🏾‍♀️😔

@testtest2609

Жыл бұрын

You are a good parent. You are honest with yourself and not in denial. These are commendable traits that lend to growth. "When you know better, you do better." - Maya Angelou

@divathedivinegoddess8001

Жыл бұрын

@@testtest2609 Aww thank you 🥰

Your first relationship example of invalidating fits my current boyfriend. Starting out I wasn’t telling him to change his habits/behaviors, but soon he started drinking too much, neglecting his studies at college, and ignoring himself. We talked through certain reasons why his life started going this way and I understand them and his low self esteem. We’re on a break now for each of us to work on ourselves because I was becoming consumed with getting him back on track that it was making me unhappy and I started getting frustrated that he wasn’t taking it seriously plus I didn’t want to be nagging. It’s not who I wanted to be in the relationship.

More videos about how to stop this kind of toxic relationships. How to heal the relationship with your parents that your subconscious manifest in your relationships with partners. Thanks!

@DrTraceyMarks

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the suggestion Treicy. While you’re waiting, Stephanie Lynn coaching does a lot of videos on narcissism, emotional abuse, etc.

"What if this is as good as it gets?" -Jack Nicholson

I lovvvveee how she appreciates what therapists do. Therapists are not psychologists nor are they psychiatrists- and they shouldn’t be used interchangeably. Some people are just repeating phases, and not getting the right help. Thank you for this.

The hardest thing for me was realizing that the majority of my relationships and friendships were a repeating cycle. I just ended a 10+ year friendship because my therapist helped me realize that she treats me the same way my abusers did. I'm in a relationship with someone who has treated me so well, it's the complete opposite. I'm experiencing something that I have aching for my entire life. 😩

This describes me. I come from a seriously messed up family, absent father, and emotionally toxic, verbally abusive, critical...overworked mother who herself comes from an abusive family. So she simply transferred her issues to me. Then all my relationships were toxic. Attracted to nuts and insane men. I have no idea how to fix it.

@suzannemeade6335

2 жыл бұрын

Me too

@SpicyLittleChicken

2 жыл бұрын

Same and when I respectfully talked to them about the issue, they absolutely dismiss/deny it.

@historiqueafricaine1225

2 жыл бұрын

Dina we have the same experience. I can personally share with you 2 things which helped me 👉🏾 firstly: start reading books to understand & recognise what was going on with my emotion & the kind of person I was attracting. If you like to read I'd recommend you those (they're eye opener) "waiting and dating by myles munroe", "breaking generational curses by marilyn hickey", "wendy dilemma by dan kinley". 👉🏾secondly, do spiritual healing it really help on a deeper level. God knows all we have been through in life & sometimes we don't even remember particular set of events that shaped our mindset, attitude etc but our subconcious mind still remember the pain felt at various stage of our life and it come out in many ways especially in relationship. Praying with verse like deuteronomy 29:29, matthew 7:7 and asking God for revelation about our childhood or family dynamic so that you can break generational chains through prayers & action (therapy, christian counseling, getting advice from people in healthy relationship) it really make a difference

@randomcompilations201

Жыл бұрын

Learn to spot red flags, give no second chances, after 2-3 red flags run. Also keep a note on all the red flags so you don't forget

@akeishaharris

Жыл бұрын

You have to heal from your trauma.

This is relatable. In my childhood, my father would constantly saying what I said/think/do was wrong. Now in my relationship, everytime my partner trying to correct me I got so pissed 😅

My pattern was definitely about emotionally unavailable parents. Even before my dad died he was withholding and wouldn't contact us. The problem continues because so often men are taught to be emotionally unavailable, and so the majority of the men that I have come in contact with maintain that stereotype. So even though I know my negative patterns and have worked hard to resolve them, I'm still having trouble finding emotionally available men. I usually give them 1 to 3 months to demonstrate their emotional availability or any level of emotional investment. And most of them can't make it happen. So part of this is definitely an individual thing, but a good portion of this is sociological in nature.

I figured out a long time ago that my highly critical mother had an impact on my relationships [doesn't help that I had undiagnosed ADHD].

@DrTraceyMarks

4 жыл бұрын

ADHD and highly critical don't go well together. ☹

@Parvati1981

4 жыл бұрын

@@DrTraceyMarks Precisely - it really did a number on my self -esteem.

@secondopinion53

4 жыл бұрын

Parents can and will put their Grown children on a Guilt Trip! If your not careful Especially when you're not part of the Family Click!!

On the surface, my dad seems like a really nice guy: he has a sense of humour etc. seems loyal and my parents seemed to have a great marriage. I married a man just like I thought my dad was, and my husband and I been happily married for 32 years. It's a lucky thing I didn't find out until after I was married that my dad slept around. Sometimes secrets are a good thing.

@DrTraceyMarks

4 жыл бұрын

Yes it sounds like it.

@sexyladyakb

4 жыл бұрын

Your husband isn’t unfaithful like him though right? I’m guessing / hoping not.. what a blessing to be married so long

@janets7291

4 жыл бұрын

@@sexyladyakb My husband and I work at the same place and drive in together, so he'd have to have some awesome ninja skills to sneak in any hanky panky LOL!!. Both my siblings know what my dad did. He's 91 now, and my mom passed 10 years ago. We'll let him pass without telling him we know what happened.

@ritaevergreen7234

2 жыл бұрын

Well if he slept around then he was never loyal

@wyleecoyotee4252

2 жыл бұрын

@@janets7291 That's really good of you. My father cheated on my mother all the time. I let him know what a disgusting SOB he was to ruin my mother's and family's life.

Broken people make broken people. Understand the brokenness within you & start meditation cycle for answers. Forgiveness is a gift to yourself. You don't need the hurtful beings in your life to forgive them & to forgive yourself✌✊

@SpicyLittleChicken

2 жыл бұрын

Couldn’t agree more!! Great point.

I'm 45 and honestly, sometimes I ask myself if I have "time" to fix myself and enjoy life and relationships. I don't know if it's pointless or a quimeric quest, but I feel so lonely everytime...

@shevettejackson8129

2 жыл бұрын

Sad

@SM-ey9uk

2 жыл бұрын

Not too late :) maybe at 50 or more like 60. There are divorced ppl out there

I just got out of my 4th time being the victim of a psycho/sociopathic girl . I’m just now at 45 learning about myself and why I’m the perfect target for these types. I appreciate these videos.

@Passions5555

2 жыл бұрын

I'm glad you got out. Abusive romantic partners are the worst.

I was raised by emotionally neglectful narcissist parents. Life full of Narcs. Finally learning to keep Narcs out of my private and social life.

This is exactly why I want to be a positive parent for my kids. I want them to always have positive relationships with other people. (Friendships or relationships)

I’m nearly in tears. All my life I struggled to understand why o kept dating men like my father until I realized through this video, it was because my father really messed over my mom and I felt like she was too passive about it. So I dated the same guy and would always be good at proving him wrong and letting him know I wasn’t the bxtch to fūck with because I’d already be conjuring up in my mind ways about how I would always beat him at his own game. I know I will never get that apology and a chance to see my father atone for what he did to my mother. So I did it to other men. Being overbearing and strong willed would protect me.

Doc, you're helping many. Jah blessings to you.

@DrTraceyMarks

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much Michelle 😊👍🏼

I was in a bad relationship.my ex was abusive but i was attracted to him for no reason.maybe i was recycling my abusive parent's behaviour.

@vius0013

4 жыл бұрын

Mn On yes... Our parent’s show us what “love and feeling secure” means, wherever that is unfortunatly. As instinctive babies and children we just absord it. I had an absent dad and now most are my partners were selfish and emotional unavaileble

This really helps, i never knew my relationship with my parents would determine my behavior and my common sense. So much emotional damage, and now i could take small steps to fix these myself. Thank you so much 🖤

Thank you for this video. I was starting to feel like i m crazy. I can see myself in all of the situations you ve described. I grew up, raised by a very dominant egocentric mother who never complimented me on anything, but rather blamed me for various things. My father was very passive in my education, never really involving himself other than the money he would give us. I have always dated 2 kinds of women. The very dominant and somewhat abusive ones that would never accept me as i am, and the ones that would never consider me as enough, always wanting to date other people, or cheat on me when we are on serious relationships. I can t really take it no more. I have stopped daring.

So true, this is why I stay single 🤷‍♀️

@mrs.camillewarrenempress3115

4 жыл бұрын

Same here

@EphemeralProductions

4 жыл бұрын

same for me. this reason, among other reasons.

@KateeAngel

3 жыл бұрын

I stay single because I don't really feel like I want relationship. What is the point of having relationship just because everyone does it? I have seen people, who wanted to date someone just because, and it wasn't good

@mikefanelli1

3 жыл бұрын

Not sure avoidance is a good approach either...

@letakeokuk5446

3 жыл бұрын

If you notice a pattern, stop dating.....✌🏾

I did this my very 1st relationship. Repeated my parents drama. Going forward, I haven't had this issue but I'm dating men from different backgrounds, all who ghost or leave after 6-10 weeks b/c they don't want to put in the work FOR ME. It hurts too but I can appreciate being single knowing what's going on out here.

I didn’t go to a therapist. Im 100% for therapy, but I just never had the time. What I did was I came into myself. I put myself first and I discovered who I was. I became someone who id want in a partner. I became extremely self aware and accepted all of my flaws. I have no guilt or shame in who I am and I choose to move forward and improve. It’s incredibly evident in my life that this has worked for me. I’ve been tested multiple times and so far, my old patterns of behavior rarely come to the surface… sometimes there a break, but not often. I also watch a ton of psychology videos and relationship psychology videos to help me understand how we operate.

As a therapist who works with women who are struggling in their marriages I really appreciate the clarity you bring to this subject and the explanation of object relations theory. Your question 'what does your partner do to make you feel bad?' is also a crucial one to ask. Thanks for this video.

I had a serious breakthrough revelation while watching this. Amazing stuff.

I feel like my four partners I have had have all been really different which is interesting to me. I feel very open-minded with my partners and that I can take on different people but still manage to connect with them in different ways. I am proud of that.

I have lived in line with this patterns through my entire adulthood till now, both love relationship and acquaintances from college and work. I was attracted to people who were aloof or cold to me and turned down by people who cares about me and genuinely pays attention to me. It’s very important to start bringing these patterns into awareness and heal step by step, little by little, and day by day.

I have NEVER found a therapist who touched on half of what you just did!!!

Dr. Tracey Marks is wonderful. You break things down to where it's easy to understand. You hit on topics that are very needed. I have repeated the same pattern in my relationships and wondered why. Thank you for helping me.

@DrTraceyMarks

4 жыл бұрын

You’re welcome Angela. Thanks for watching.

Wow , so professional! If am in need of therapist I would find someone like you

@DrTraceyMarks

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you.

I find myself in relationships with Man child's. Men who are co- dependent on me. I usually feel sorry for them thinking my love will make things better.

@adrenna1973

2 жыл бұрын

I use to choose men this way. I finally figured out I was simply repeating patterns from childhood.

@historiqueafricaine1225

2 жыл бұрын

You can't raise an adult, I have been there too it's important to learn to put boundaries and heal from childhood or teenage trauma. Do you like reading? If so i'd suggest you those books (they're excellent): "boundaries by townsend", "breaking generational curses by marilyn hickey", "waiting and dating by myles munroe" doing spiritual healing is important too if you're a believer, Jesus-Christ is a healer too it really help to cast upon him all the hurt and trauma you've been through

@jujub3483

2 жыл бұрын

@@historiqueafricaine1225 I love reading thank you so much. I will purchase them this week

I love the way you speak without 'emotional attachment' to what you're saying, it's comforting. I'm a guy who's found it tough to find therapists who I feel comfortable with. The invalidation aspect of relationships was my 'eureka' moment. I've spent a lot of effort 'trying' including with the therapists until I couldn't any longer...it's a weird loop to be in

I noticed that something was wrong with me and men when I approached my 30s, and my solution was to stop dating entirely. I'm 55 and now completely shut off from that world. I discovered that I was doing the same thing with female friends in 2008, and my solution was the same: stop having friends. I know something's wrong, and I know it's family-related somehow, but I can't work it out and didn't want to step on any land mines in the meantime. And life was busy enough without dropping everything and taking time and money to figure it out. So here I am -- 55 and solitary -- and for the most part, I do like that -- I'm more introverted nowdays. The part I don't like is 55, solitary, and constantly seething with concealed rage that exhausts me. That's nothing I should expose anyone else to, so solitary is best for all concerned.

@trayc8573

2 жыл бұрын

Same here. And Amen. You're not alone in how you're feeling 🙏🏽

@jasigana8900

2 жыл бұрын

Therapy? That's what it is for, right? To help?

@jcortese3300

2 жыл бұрын

@@jasigana8900 It's also expensive and time-consuming, and takes time away from other things. It was a cost-benefit thing.

@labellegene7971

Жыл бұрын

@@jcortese3300 it takes time but it’s worth it.

@testtest2609

Жыл бұрын

Self healing is an option. You can use many tools to release trauma: journaling (free), meditation, breath work, fasting, spending time with animals/nature, cold water washing, yoga, bodywork, massage, EMDR, micro-dosing psychedelics (like Syrian Rue seeds, acacia bark, mushrooms, etc).

Thank you Dr. Tracy. The swag man does know how to handle my strong personality. I've had to be strong due to the neglect I've experienced as a little girl.

@DrTraceyMarks

4 жыл бұрын

It’s not always a bad choice. The swag man needs someone too 😊

Recently a guy I felt in love with ,broke up with me . At first , everything was magical but then personal problems showed up and he distanced himself . I did my best to try to understand what he's going going through and be there for him but in the end he just ended up the relationship . Yesterday he said he stopped having feelings for me. The question is how can someone change his mind so fast ? Why can't I keep someone for the long-term ? This type of situation had happened before and I'm sick of it. All I ever wanted was to find someone with whom I can build something serious , someone willing to stay.

@tarotread9632

2 жыл бұрын

Sorry no one answered yer question. Chances are the transition was gradual, but they di'nt AD-mit it or tried to bury it 'n' hide it, hopin' the feelin' would go away. Only for it ta IN-crease over time, til they couldn't hide it no more, 'n' decided ta end it. To y'all it seemed instant, but to them it was a gradual process. Simmler story fer when ya break up 'n' they're in a relationship almost immediately afterward. It didn't happen over night, they started somethin' small 'n' tried to hide it 'ntil one day they felt SE-cure 'nuff to letcha go. Then commited to the other person, or maybe even b'fore they let ya go! Hope that helped ya!

@theconsciousmultiverse

2 жыл бұрын

Same

@theconsciousmultiverse

2 жыл бұрын

This is why this video is very narrow. Cause i dated seemingly nice guys who turned out to be really bad. People are pretenders...they get bored of you easily

@patypus555

2 жыл бұрын

You need not blame yourself for this.

@TheKim369

2 жыл бұрын

I would guess the feelings were gone when he started distancing himself. It just took him some time to tell you. Think about it, when we have problems is when we lean closer to the people who matter to us. I am not blaming you, but I had a problem with meeting really nice guys, and then eventually they would turn into assholes. I wondered what I was doing to them to make them turn out that way. Someone pointed out that I was meeting assholes who knew how to act nice, once they got comfortable they didn't bother trying so hard. Upon refection, it made sense. And perhaps in a different way, the same thing is going on with you. Like, they were all unable to take it to the next level, and back away when things start getting too serious.

OMG this Dr is a genius!!! She can easily explain something complicated. God bless you Dr.

@DrTraceyMarks

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much 🤗

This woman is so amazing in how she "SEES" people! Bravo! 👏👏👏👏

The synchronicity of this video popping up in my feed is amazing! I am trying to figure out how to stop being attracted to the same kind of negative relationships.

Basically, it's because you have unresolved childhood trauma and bad relationships with your parents, so now you are stuck in a loop trying to recreate those same relationships with other people who aren't your parents, in hopes now it will be different. You need to heal.

I was at least 5yo thinking I wasn’t good enough. I’m 56 yo now and I’m finally understanding my worth and value through therapy and counseling.

Grew up with a parent who did not recognize my existence now I am attractive to men who don't really care or accept me Holy shit the women is me

Once again, holy hell, looking back, I realized why I've had these relationships. I kept getting put down for my efforts (various people). My last relationship was one I thought was right but just as you said, same woman, different clothing. I'm glad I found this, it has been eye opening

Self Care Management is the best thing while facing a crucial situation & brutal people... It'll help you understand various aspects of life as well as different scenarios..

Oooweee!! She hit the nail right on the head with that woman example!! Omg I really do find myself attracted more to the men who are emotionally unavailable because I had an absent father.. this was such an eye opener! Thank you so much for sharing ❤️

This just clarified the truths I learned from listening to Loveline over the millennia, Dr. Drew is half the reason I’m alive. I think gay men choose partners that are based off both parents. Every man I’ve been into has been a little sullen, self-centered, grandiose, addicted, but at the same time caring and seemingly giving enough to keep you around...like my Dad. And a little of Mom thrown in there, so it’s always about their feelings not mine and I’m supposed to already know how to act and react to them because I’m so smart but so mediocre at the same time. I stopped myself just recently from dating two people because I picked up the same old vibes and the same old looks in the eyes and brash confidence that would’ve made me swoon once. Now it just irritates me because I know I have to move on by them.

I’m 56 and the cycle stops now. My mother is bipolar and on the narcissistic spectrum. I tried to love and please her my whole life and she did unforgivable things. Than I was in a 16 year relationship with narcissistic. I was uneducated in narcissism so my whole life I forgave abusive behavior. It was my normal. I was always so depressed when I was alone which pushed me into unhealthy relationships. Now I am finally content with my alone time and actually have enjoyed being single and free for the past 2 years.

Bless this woman - not only Dr. Auntie educating and informing - but she gives us info that we can take to counseling to actually heal.

You did my therapy session. This is exactly what I needed to hear!! Thank you! I can begin my healing journey from here.

Thank you Dr Marks for all that you do. Your videos have saved me. Especially with my Bipolar type 2. This video. Is very informative. Thank you once more! 😊

@DrTraceyMarks

4 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad they're helpful. Thanks for continuing to watch. 🙂

I like to believe that everyone has their issue or baggage. Whatever you want to call it. We must find someone whose baggage isnt too heavy. And vice versa. Don't look for the flaws. Look for the good. Communicate about how you feel and what worries you. Stay thinking positive and hopefully whomever your with can handle your baggage/issues and vice versa. If they're toxicity is too strong then move on.

Probably 80% of the earth's population needs to see this vid and learn from it. Dealing with issues in yourself(accountability, past, abuse, selfishness, whatever) just saves u ALOT of pain

I've watched this video about four or five times already. It's like hearing someone talk about my life as though they've lived it themselves. Talking to women about my pain doesn't usually end well either. Thanks for sharing Dr. Tracey Marks.

Wow. This is some powerful information. It spoke to my heart of my issues that I deal with people in or were in my life. Thank you soo much for this.

@DrTraceyMarks

4 жыл бұрын

You’re welcome Robert. I’m glad it was helpful

Omg, you LITERALLY talk my life. You are amazing and I appreciate you. Thank you for all you do for us!

This was deconstructed and elaborated so profoundly! Just stumbled on this video and I love it.

This is so deep! Thank you for taking your time out to share your educated and clinical knowledge with us.

I just now started to see this pattern, even after a good relationship with a good person ended because of outside circumstances and me pushing them away. Great content.

I just realized something, whenever I’m upset or stressed i tent to imagine or roleplay with an i an abusive relationship and it always makes me feel better (been abused and sexually harassed when i was little)

I didn't think I had daddy issues. I thought I had healed. I have family that shows me so much love sometimes I can't take it 😂😂. So I've felt accepted many times in life. I realize today that I date men who are the opposite of my dad in personality and manliness, but have the same struggles internally. They are not emotionally available. They have a lot of trauma. I thought I was attracting these people because maybe I was emotionally available. I thought maybe these men were a mirror. And in a way they were just not a reflection of me. But something I was still trying to "fix". My dad was unavailable and now I try to fix myself to make others who are unavailable open up to me. I let my guard down in hopes that they will show me themselves. I need to stop trying to fix people. Stop trying to put my emotions out there if they won't be reciprocated. And finally address the healing that is needed from the abandonment and unavailability. So glad to have a better focal point. Thank you doctor.

Why does she know me? I knew I needed therapy.

@DrTraceyMarks

4 жыл бұрын

😊

@torif1girl454

4 жыл бұрын

She knows everybody! Grouse comment by the way. It reminds me to not be slack and to make appointments like I should.

You summed it up just right, I see the dynamics that exist for my daughters because of their dad's desertion, and my relationship with my parents, who were both in the home with me. Thank you

Groundhog day Relationships..I had to step back and do some observing of Me and Life.. Today I I'm happy just to get to know me. And believe me when I say being around my family I see the patterns...

This may finally be the push I needed to get a therapist. Thank you Tracy Marks!

Unfortunately tharapist are not helpful at least here in California. I sure do wish more people like you would help.

@jumpingeezus5080

4 жыл бұрын

S. Begay Seems odd that California is to blame. I blame California for the red hot chili peppers though.

@sylviab.791

4 жыл бұрын

😂Lol just saying it might be everywhere might not. Really hard to find someone you trust.

Good thing I stop dating for now and focus more on myself .repetitive situations really sucks.btw,thanks doc.

Times like these make me grateful I had pretty good parents growing up

I know why I attracted the same relationship. Because I was afraid of the past repeating itself and it did. In different ways with different people. I attracted betrayal because my first "love" betrayed me. And I carried that with me. Now that I have released that I acknowledge that I shouldn't expect people to betray me. That's what always happened, I didn't trust, I assumed there was always someone else and there always was. Now I can see that since I healed from him I have healed from those concepts and relationships in general My concept now on relationships is that I've never had a real loving relationship maybe once. But I never gave my love to someone loyal. And I see now that a relationship is about loyalty. And I deserve to experience that. A healthy commitment. Heal from your experiences. Don't compare past lovers to new lovers. Assume you are the one and only. And you'll be appreciated for who you are.

Omg. Few seconds in, I thought she was talking about my situation! 😱 I have same set of parents!

@DrTraceyMarks

4 жыл бұрын

😊

This is such an important topic... So many people run around in circles and never get unstuck from these detrimental relationships! Please, take care of yourself! And if you need help, please know I‘m available (as a therapist). Wishing you all the best 🙏🏼💙

@DrTraceyMarks

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks Enrico.

@Enrico_Fusai_Counselor

4 жыл бұрын

Dr. Tracey Marks You’re very welcome, Dr. Tracey. Of course, I was speaking mostly to your viewers as I’m sure you can handle your own life excellently :) Nevertheless I wish you all the best, and know you’re giving incredible service to all of us sharing your knowledge and wisdom. Thank you! 🙏🏼

@sydneysweat37

4 жыл бұрын

Hi Enrico! I have a question for someone with your knowledge. Once you’ve identified the issues in your caretaker relationships, what’s the first step in resolving them? I would like to talk to my father about the emotional support I feel I lack from him but what is really to expect from that? Or is there a better place to start the work? Thanks for reading!

@Enrico_Fusai_Counselor

4 жыл бұрын

@Janice Doe Hi Janice, thanks to you for your question: it's a great one and I see that you're already aware of what the source of your discomfort is, which is the best starting point! First of all, taking a chance to talk to him is a great and mature way of dealing with a situation like that, and if he's an understanding and mature person too, you could get very good results from that. Of course, I’d need to hear more from you about what is/was actually happening between you and him, to have some context to start with. But anyway, I firstly want to share with you some premises that I believe are essential in cases like yours: 1. We are, ultimately, all alone individuals, and responsible for our own life and well-being (this is especially true because we are the only ones who know exactly what our desires, preferences and needs are, and therefore we're the only ones who are able to manage ourselves in order to meet them). It can feel sad at a first look, but it's also a very liberating truth, because it gives us the power of being whole and independent people, which we actually are. Of course, relationships are vital to us, and it's a great thing to nourish them and keep them healthy and fulfilling, but we must approach them from a place of trust in our own capacity of dealing with literally any situation in life, by ourselves (at least from a mental/emotional and overall perspective). 2. Parents are imperfect humans as all of us are, and can often (mostly always) be unable to provide us with all we need, in terms of material things and emotional support (the one you mentioned). We all tend to build up a sense that they can offer us all we need from childhood, but that's a tricky period of time to take as a reference, because our needs are basic and therefore we get the false impression that those people (our parents) have the power of being our ultimate salvation from every life situation. . That being said, the first thing you should try doing is to do your best to understand where your father came from and how he came to the point of being with you in such a way that made you feel a sense of lack of emotional support. Also, parents are often different from us enough that they're practically unable to read our minds and empathise with us enough to make us feel really understood. It's just what it is, and it's actually a goof thing because on the other hand we don't want to feel dependent on someone else for our own fundamental well-being. It's an act of emancipation. It takes effort, but it's required if we want to live our lives fully and free from the anxiety that comes from the fear of being alone. Once you accept and start processing this, I believe things will evolve within you and make you start a growth process that will make you feel better and, at that point, what your father will do for you, will "just" be some welcome "extra" love. . Anyways, if there's more to that and you feel like you prefer sharing it privately, just let me know (maybe try this KZread messenger link? youtu.be/addme/_Xer3WATAB_zEdd8my2ua9IDAUZNqQ) . I hope this helped you and I wish you a good rest of your day. Take care, Enrico

@sydneysweat37

4 жыл бұрын

Enrico Fusai thanks so much Enrico! Bless you

I can't emphasize how important this video is to me

I am so grateful for you, Dr T: you are very clear, and seem to be so balanced and normal. There are tons of YT guiders out there who come across as vainglorious narcissists, but you are just plain and clear. I hope your days are boring and predictable, unless you want something different. 🔘❤️♾️

You have no idea how much I needed to see this. Thank you so much. Now it's time to peel to the root of the problem.

@DrTraceyMarks

4 жыл бұрын

You’re welcome. I hope the peeling is revealing. 😊 I just made that up.