Self-doubt is often the result of unconscious habits, such as beating oneself up when things don’t go according to plan or obsessing over negative thoughts on repeat. To develop a more confident voice, we have to replace these behaviours with confidence boosting activities as shown in this video. If you want to download or print all of the illustrations from my channel, they are available here: gumroad.com/l/Full-Archive

@BeritKleivaMller45816

3 жыл бұрын

I have been working on this for many years now. It's not easy to get rid of. Because it was hindering most of my life more and more without me understanding what was wrong. After finding my boyfriend he made me realize why/what was causing it and how and what I should improve on. But still after 6 years there's still left the hardest issue. Social anxiety. It's not like I even think about it. It's just plain fear of talking, mistakes and so on. I found out how to talk easier in Norwegian but... Struggling to even say a full sentence in English. So we have tried several times facing that fear but since I can't meet that fear on a regular basis it all goes way too slow. The improvement goes up one and down one. Goes up 2, down 1. Each time. Already gone too much time. Which makes the self doubt come back. Reading English to myself out loud became whispering out loud. And even though I talk regularly I'm bad at small talk which results in bad communication. Which again causes self doubt. I'm really good at writing and making art, being creative. But the social things and daring to speak + memory of words when stressed is a real problem I'm continuing to fight on whenever I can.

@BeritKleivaMller45816

3 жыл бұрын

I think this video is very useful for everyone to know. Except for that I have been trying for maybe 6 years improving so much that had gone wrong. So this video came too late for my fight. But it's still good because it's reminding me about the stuff that still needs to be done. My 6 years of improvement included Believing in myself was the start of all those improvements. Doing stuff independently (also finding my own information instead of ask thousands of daily insecure questions), believe in my ability to remember, social skills, not being afraid of the oven or making any mistakes in general. Doing hard stuff independently (having to tell my mother to stop helping too much, through the phone or emailing the documents because I should try to handle it on my own. I didn't think I was able to do stuff like that). Going off a medication that was hurting me with the long term effects. Found out it had amphetamine in it. ☹ I literally couldn't improve with that medication since it affected my mind like a one way train. No creativity in problem solving. It was about to ruin my life. And probably ruined my improvement/ learning of social skills past 7th grade school. Since I went on it for 12 years. My brain was too childish in a way, trying to be a grown-up. After years og improving there's only one left that bothers me and that's the social anxiety. At worst I can't get out any words. Like a communication disorder. Or nervousness going to stress at habit. At best I can joke and laugh and all with my friends and family. Practising talking English since I now can talk almost normally with people around me in Norway. 🇳🇴 Sorry if the text about myself is too long. I just know exactly how it could go wrong if the right unfotunate things happen and that's why we need videos like these to help ourselves get back up again. I think my story of struggles can show what you can overcome with the will and mindset to improve.

@higherpurpose1212

3 жыл бұрын

I keep coming back to this video because of 'Embrace your self-doubt'. I keep reminding myself that failure is okay and messing things up sometimes, and the result is not death if I fail, but tbh, it's difficult and challenging when battling with the negative mind...

@shyaaammeneen63

2 жыл бұрын

@@BeritKleivaMller45816 Do some public speaking courses. For permanent transformation reprogramme your mind Reduce negative thoughts. Its quite simple with some patience.. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night before sleep sit or lie down still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Feel the stillness flow within you. Make this a daily habit for a lifetime. . Do the above meditation daily to have a good life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

@shyaaammeneen63

2 жыл бұрын

@@BeritKleivaMller45816 You are never late. For permanent transformation reprogramme your mind Reduce negative thoughts. Its quite simple with some patience.. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night before sleep sit or lie down still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Feel the stillness flow within you. Make this a daily habit for a lifetime. . Do the above meditation daily to have a good life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

*"We overestimate what we can achieve in one year, but underestimate what we can achieve in ten years."*

That second point is so key. You gotta realize that each one of us lives complex lives and that we should not fixate on the mistakes we made that supposedly affect the way strangers' view us because they won't be thinking about us in a day or two.

@sinanengin5756

3 жыл бұрын

Truly a relieving thought..

@shyaaammeneen63

2 жыл бұрын

@@sinanengin5756Be joyful by your very nature. Reduce negative thoughts. Its quite simple with some patience.. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night before sleep sit or lie down still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Feel the stillness flow within you. Make this a daily habit for a lifetime. . Do the above meditation daily to have a good life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

@sinanengin5756

2 жыл бұрын

@@shyaaammeneen63 it can be very difficult to do so when you're in a rut, but I'm trying. Every day is a new chance.. Thanks for your thoughts, i really appreciate it!

@shyaaammeneen63

2 жыл бұрын

@@sinanengin5756 Every individual's mind and body reacts differently to meditation which is ok. I have been doing this practice and positive affirmations before sleep since the last 15 years. On certain days I feel more joyful than other says but I am always at peace. Throughout the day even during any activity I am aware of my breath and my stillness. Patience and determination is needed to develop mental muscles which is the top need in the present world crisis. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir-Counsellor.

“Self doubt is a habit.” 😳😱😱 I’ve never thought of it that way before

@sinanengin5756

2 жыл бұрын

Amazing insight when you think about it huh..but I've become so good at self doubt it's become second nature.. and now I'm trying to break out of it & it's extremely difficult..

Just what i needed

@habibi0601

3 жыл бұрын

Same here!! 🙋🏻‍♀️

@shyaaammeneen63

2 жыл бұрын

Lauren, Reduce negative thoughts. Its quite simple with some patience.. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night before sleep sit or lie down still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Feel the stillness flow within you. Make this a daily habit for a lifetime. . Do the above meditation daily to have a good life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

Where was this video 40yrs ago?? Oh well, will use during the retirement stage of life. Keep these coming. Thank You!

@katielowen

3 жыл бұрын

As long as you aren’t dead in the ground, you still got time to make your goals happen!

The analogy of the ship and the crew was so helpful ! Thank you for your wisdom !

Thank you, I rlly needed this video, gave me great insight. Now I feel much more confident in myself in regards to overcoming my insecurities

Embracing the self doubt and planning for it really opened my eyes! Thanks for such insight!

Need to listen to this video everyday (I usually listen to your videos while taking a walk or doing my morning chores)

Thank you for making these videos, this is such a great channel. The illustrations really help you digest the information 👍🏻

Automatically saved this to my favorites. Needed this right away. Thank you for this video.

Thank you so much for this video! I really needed to hear this 🙂

Oh heck yeah! Great topic much needed ❤️

Been doing this since before I watched this video and I can say from first hand experience this works.

I appreciate this video and the point about overthinking going to the gym verses “just” going to the beach.

Clicked on this video so fast. Need to master myself as quickly as possible. Patience is key, but “applied knowledge” is necessary 🙏🏾 thank you

@TheArtofImprovement

3 жыл бұрын

You're welcome, Christopher

You don’t have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great!

Thank you so much, this video touched my heart

Thank you so much. I needed to hear this

Thank you for this video and all the uplifting content you create

Thank you!!!!! Wow!! Everything I needed and will listen daily.

love your content guys! Always inspires me

Thanks I watch this video before I attend job interviews. It heaps out a lot :) Wish me luck.

Thank you! I really needed this today :)

@TheArtofImprovement

3 жыл бұрын

Glad I could help!

Happy Sunday! Gotta love sundays..... thats when you upload a new vid 😄👍🏼

@TheArtofImprovement

3 жыл бұрын

Oh yes - every Sunday without fail 👍

Thank you. Wonderfully presented!

Thank you so much for this video ! Came at the right time, much appreciated !!

@TheArtofImprovement

3 жыл бұрын

Perfect!

@jacquelinevelez1982

3 жыл бұрын

@@TheArtofImprovement 💖

I promise Ima thank you once I lve made it where I want to be... I highly appreciate these videos...

Thank you for this.

Excellent information !!! Thank you for sharing!

@TheArtofImprovement

3 жыл бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

Overthinking will sabotage our success. If you think it is right just take actions.

I appreciate your videos a lot

This is a fantastic video

This is a great video!

Great video, Thank you. :-)

Thanks for the video

Thank u🥰

I wish we could be as good as you are - maybe one day💪💪💪💪 🤩 Great video - very motivating. "Gain control of our crew members" - love it👍👍👍

Thank you. GOD bless

The explanation of the quote in the beginning of this video problem is a great example of the exact problem with advice/motivation videos like this. This judgemental attitude. When people use “laziness” and “lack of motivation” as some of their catch-all explanations for most people’s problems this is what happens. An overthinker overthinks EVERYTHING, not just things that are generally perceived as intimidating. Because it’s a MENTAL HEALTH issue not because they only avoid “hard” things. It’s over-anxiety. I promise you an over thinker isn’t “just jumping in the car” to go to the beach where there are FAR more people and where people show more of their body than the gym. Crikey

I need to remember to be confident.

7. The Other Two-Minute Rule : Instead of spending time thinking about an action, do it, even though you may think it will take awhile. This will build the momentum you will need to undertake the project, or at least give you a better understanding of it.

Self-doubt is the gluttony of unbelief!

I love #2 🤯

Nothing changes if nothing changes

Unfortunately, overthinking can hold us back!

This does contain quite alot of good tips in helping for this, have been struggling with self doubt in the past and even saw some new tips in here.

I think the imposter part and self doubt is very relatable to me :(

Thank youu

@TheArtofImprovement

3 жыл бұрын

You're welcome

What a wonderful insights on overcoming self-doubt. Dreams does not come with any expiration date. So break-free yourself from your own self doubt and manifest your dreams into a reality. We send you tons of positive energies that will transform your self doubt into self-confidence.

Told you I'd be here

whats the worst that can happen if I fail...well I could end up being homeless, like many other Americans...so I don't see how that step helps at all with alleviating anxiety or self-doubt.

Oh. Really. On it.

Any tips for when a person lists their fears and there is a possibility of death or illness?

I think you got No1 backwards. I find big chunky goals intimidating and I'm less likely to do them. I find small elements of a more conceptual chunky goal far less intimidating and easier to get on with.

I don't know why anyone did not mention this but he is literally saying some amongus stuff at the end of the video LOL.

CANEI Continuous And Never-Ending Improvement

@TheArtofImprovement

3 жыл бұрын

Nice acronym

@ironicdj1234

3 жыл бұрын

@@TheArtofImprovement Got it from the book "No Excuses: The Power of Self-discipline" by Brian Tracy

Your written quotes disappear too fast

If you can't journal, take the phrase, "I can't," out of your vocabulary.