Watching this hoping to change my habits of being a manipulator , its already ruining my relationship with my love ones and my inner self still rejecting/denying that I'm a manipulator and its bad I feel bad, hoping I can change it and will try to visit a psychiatrist as well to help me with this, thank you so much for your video for opening my eye that my wrong doings is really unacceptable.

@corybreckon

7 ай бұрын

Accountability is the first step brother. Same here. Trying to change for myself and everyone around me. Much love

@cookiexcatz

12 күн бұрын

I'm glad to know I'm not alone, thank you for this comment.

So helpful! Thanks for doing these videos from this angle as opposed to the angle “of the victim” being manipulated.

@ThisisBronwyn

2 жыл бұрын

Thank u Jessica! So many of our worst behaviors are a result of simply not having the right tools. Thank u for commenting!!

I just discovered that i can't take a no , especially coming from my partner...and damn I've been so manipulative :/ i wanna change so bad tho i really don't wanna be that person anymore . thank you for this video .

@ThisisBronwyn

Жыл бұрын

Be so proud for recognizing this!!! That’s half the battle! You can change. I know this for a fact. Just keep doing the work and keep seeking out information and teachers to help you grow. Transformation is actually a lot of fun once you get the hang of it! Good luck and thank you so much for letting me know my video helped you!!

@arhetou8052

Жыл бұрын

@@ThisisBronwyn thank you again for the video ! So helpful .

So the core reason is not manipulating as a process. It's about I can't take a no and live with it. Thank you, that was a helpful thought. Now I'd go work on rejection acceptance, because I feel like somehow it became a major problem to me.

@ThisisBronwyn

Жыл бұрын

Well done!! And it’s a problem for so may of us so you are in good company!

I just realized I’m being manipulated by some and I’m also manipulating others. I’m here so I can stop manipulating people because I’m done with myself. I feel like I can’t stop, it breaks me inside every time I do it. I started manipulating people when I was little to get my parents to do stuff, but now I do it because I’m insecure in my other communication skills despite being outgoing and a major extrovert. I just turned 16 and I want to stop it before I get deeper in my life

@ThisisBronwyn

11 ай бұрын

Bravo!!!!! You’ll be a jedi master by 18 if you start working on this now!

Being manipulated is a terrible feeling . We’ve all been there . After watching many videos about how to not be manipulated, I did some self assessment and realized that I need to look at myself also . Thank you for making this ❤ very helpful

I picked up manipulation tactics from my family growing up, they're heavy manipulators and guilt trippers which I picked up over the years and I do it without knowing. Thank you for giving tips and help on how to fix these habits.

Thank you for the reassuring intro, was feeling real crappy about myself but you didn’t magnify that for me. I was taught this as a child and I am determined to change this for my own children. Thank you ❤

thank you so much! i am currently at a crossroads in my relationship where my girlfriend is basically like "if you can't change your way of being a manipulator then i will leave" so I went exploring for a video to guide me to getting rid of this habit and this helped so much. I'm unsure whether my girlfriend will leave or not but I'm glad I know that I can apply these tips and grow as a person for myself.

I am so glad that 6.2K people are willing to better themselves and I hope you will inspire many more people to turn away from bad habits and harmful behavior.

12 years old currently, i had went through some traumatic situations when i was younger and it affected me in a weird way, i had started dating secretly at a young age, a girl i knew hwo i had dated recently told me it was because of me all this and that happened (personal stuff) and i know it was because i weirdly coped through maniplation, but uunitentionally, that shit really takes a toll on you, i really wanna make myself better to be successful but its hard, i really appreciate you making this, cause it really does make you feel horid, and i js wanna have those around me to feel..safe

@ThisisBronwyn

Жыл бұрын

Well if you’re already working on this and improving yourself at age 12, you are on your way to becoming a truly incredible human being! Bravo! Be patient with yourself and notice how you react when things don’t go the way you’d like. Sit with the disappointment and you’ll see that while it hurts, it doesn’t last forever and you can learn to negotiate with people in a healthy way instead of manipulating. Hang in there and keep at it!!

@zeliyah_00

Жыл бұрын

Same thing, me and my friend fought occasionally because of me being "too good" and always looking for others validation (which apparently is a sign of manipulation) and he's told me that I've manipulated him in some cases. It just hurts to know that I've been hurting him and I kept on breaking the promises I gave him but I wanna just improve during the two months of vacations I have. Also I'm sure you're gonna get through this! Just to let you know you're not alone

@ThisisBronwyn

Жыл бұрын

Love this. The fact that you can see your behavior and want to change is just huge. Keep doing the work. It’s not easy but it is so worth it. 🤗

Manipulators are people who did not get their needs met in childhood

I have manipulated so long that I subconsciously rely on it when I rarely even get no’s regardless. Sometimes I notice that me genuinely having a conversation can come across as manipulative on accident. Almost no one has ever said anything to me abt it but being self aware I notice it myself

@ThisisBronwyn

10 ай бұрын

Bravo! Ask yourself to notice how you feel when you don’t get what you want? Where do you feel it in your body? Can u let it be what it is? Can you love yourself even when you’ve gotten a “no”? Can you love/respect the person who says no? You’ll find that the world doesn’t end and that you are ok. No matter what. Sending hugs.

Thank you so much! I have realized that last night I unintentionally manipulated my best friend. He wanted to watch the musical I am in, instead of helping my costume. I had recently complained everytime he was late, even when he was not there, but then I noticed seeing myself as someone from my past.

before even watching, i am just thankful this issue is being addressed from this side. been trying to find something like this

This advice was so helpful! It ALL rang so true with me. I could never have put into words what was happening inside of me. Thank you, thank you, thank you! I never knew I was being unintentionally manipulative until someone told me today. I'm feeling pretty shaken up and ashamed of how I've treated other people in the past, and also kinda amazed that nobody else has said anything to me about it at any point during the past two decades of my adult years! But then, many of my closest family members are not very assertive themselves often choosing to beat around the bush (if they say anything at all), or be outright passive aggressive and manipulative. So perhaps it's no surprise that they haven't confronted me about my behaviour. Neither of my parents are very good at holding people accountable, or comfortable in voicing their own needs directly to others. I just wonder what my friends think....they're intelligent, clued up people, and I can't really believe that nobody's called me out yet. But I guess it's easier to make excuses for someone and to keep the peace than directly challenge someone about their antisocial behaviour. some of them lack confidence and others are outright conflict avoidant, at all costs. I'm just glad that someone held up this mirror, because I had sensed inside of me that there was something I was doing that felt uncomfortable, squirmy and gross, I just couldn't put my finger on it. My mind was just hiding it from me. Gonna give these tips some thought and try to apply them. I'd add one more reflection to this list - that sometimes we don't even care voice our own needs to OURSELVES, let alone someone else. So if you're not even comfortable giving permission to yourself to have preferences, needs and wants, then that's probably the place to start.

Thank you for creating this video. I feel like, for me, it is hard to admit "I may be acting manipulative" because it has such negative connotations, so it can be hard to work on without resources like this that teach without shame. You are a very kind individual ❤🥺 Shine on

I believe I am a manipulator. I am desperate to change, I don’t want to control others at all I am a horrible horrible fucking person. Thank you for this video and assisting myself and others into understanding and taking steps towards being better people. Edit: I’m honestly unsure to figure out why I manipulate people because I had no idea that I did it. It’s always been subconscious but looking back it’s been there for a long time I think. I don’t think that people should have to tell/give me what I want because I’m special or something, I believe I am just afraid of rejection. I am scared of myself and using others, I desperately need to visit a therapist. Thank you for everything

I love these videos that are focused on self reflection and improvement.

Thank you, i was manipulative in my relationship now i know and it worked. Thank you for helping me❤

Thank you for all of your videos. They are helping me ground myself and give me a reality check with my relationship and life in general. Thank you, this is one of my first steps into recovery with becoming a better person!

@ThisisBronwyn

2 жыл бұрын

Hooray! Thrilled they are making a difference. Life gets sweeter the more we work on our selves, our integrity, and our relationships! Bravo!

I needed this. As a thank you, I've liked and subscribed.

That was reaaaally helpful .. knowing what to expect to deal with emotionally through the process

Thank you. Sincerely.

Be honest to ourselves is alway a good pay back for our own authenticity and peace of mind.... And also help us to built a good relationship with ourselves and others.... And Projection make perception..... Thank you for sharing love this 💖Resonate deeply and I have had that type of experience us a child🙏

thank you!! this video helps me see what i need to improve and how to do that

@ThisisBronwyn

Жыл бұрын

So glad!!

this helped me so much im crying to this bc i'm about to lose my relatiionship bc no oone wanted to pay attecntion to me has a child and every since then i've copyed there starts on my gf and she's giving me one week to see if she still want to be with me so i need to change know but bc of my parents i'm prob going to lose my relationship, if i do stay in my realtionship i have rn i just want to thank you so much for helping me

I heard it because we often can’t be authentic (fear of rejection of authentic self), but also being unable to take no makes sense too. I’m 27 and the manipulator habits from my childhood are back. I’m gonna grow up and just get rid of them all together lol

@ThisisBronwyn

Жыл бұрын

Well said and agree with you! As for handling it “once and for all..” it’s more of a lifetime of getting better and making progress! 😂 just keep making progress and be kind to yourself even as you are holding yourself accountable. This is hard work and the fact that you’re trying is huge. Big 🤗

@TheBiggestMoronYouKnow

Жыл бұрын

@@ThisisBronwyn I mean not falling back into negative behaviors. You can change the way you were raised, but you can change the outlook I feel :)

@ThisisBronwyn

Жыл бұрын

Amen!!! What a great attitude and perspective to start a new year! ✨🌟✨

hi this helped me a lot ill try these out

thank you for this ❤

@ThisisBronwyn

Жыл бұрын

You are most welcome, Carlos!

this is so helpful that you so much ❤

@ThisisBronwyn

Жыл бұрын

🤗

My husband of 16 yrs left/separated from me, temporarily, I think, I hope, in November, partly because I am a manipulator, and partly because of something that didn't have anything to do with me. He put a stipulation though, he will not come home at all if I continue to try to manipulate him, or anyone else anymore. He said that he was realizing his worth, and that I needed to make more of an effort, and he was right. I haven't been a partner to him for many years. He is so very much worth all of my efforts, he is right about that too. Thank you for making this video, I had an extremely traumatic childhood many times over, and the validation that I felt from your compassionate lesson made me sob out loud like a little girl. I have diagnosed major depressive disorder, generalized anxiety disorder, ptsd, and BPD, but my husband and I are fairly intelligent people, and I have held two or three different moderatly successful professional careers, so I know that I am capable of fixing this, I am determined. I look forward to subscribing and watching all of your other informational videos. Once more, this video is and will continue to be so helpful and healing for me, so thank you so much for that, I love my husband so much, I always have, and i don't want to lose him because of being afraid, I won't.

@ThisisBronwyn

Жыл бұрын

Danna, thank you for telling your story. I applaud you for your efforts to change and I KNOW that you will be successful. Be ruthlessly kind to yourself while being ruthlessly honest with yourself and you will see transformation. Keep going, and know that you are loved. Shine on!

Thank you

Thanks for helping people.

@ThisisBronwyn

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for watching!! I appreciate it!

Hi, thank you for this video. Is it recommed talking with friends and parents about this or just try to fix it within yourself?

thanks i found that video very helpful, my girlfriend broke up with me a month ago, past weeks have been hell... after texting with her for a while today I found out that I am manipulative, I need to get rid of this habit... so that she can give me a second chance

@ThisisBronwyn

Жыл бұрын

Bravo!!! It is not easy to admit this and I’m proud of you for doing so! Keep watching these vids and working on yourself and you will become a better partner!

Sending this to my friend fr

@ThisisBronwyn

Жыл бұрын

Awesome. Thanks for spreading the good word!

I need serious help so I’m here

@ThisisBronwyn

Жыл бұрын

Welcome!!!

@dannachristensen1774

Жыл бұрын

Same. Its not going to be easy, but I know that we can do it, we owe it to our loved ones and to ourselves to figure this manipulation stuff out, and then never use it to cope again.

@ThisisBronwyn

Жыл бұрын

Amen amen amen! as Glennon Doyle says “we can do hard things!”

Excellent

@ThisisBronwyn

Жыл бұрын

Thank you!

I am sorry for being manipulative. I want to be better than that.

@ThisisBronwyn

Жыл бұрын

Bravo!!

So currently in this situation now. My partner thought we had such and such in our bank account so he wanted to go and withdraw it. I didn’t let him know that there was no longer that amount in there so when we went to get it out my card wouldn’t work and I called the bank which then he found out there wasn’t even that amount in there. Is this still manipulation and what form?

Hi thank you for this video. Me and my gf has been together for 10 years, since we were 14.. Ive never appreciated her enough.. I thought I was ''the only guy on earth'' until today.. Recently she decided to part for a bit.. She said she still loves me, she wants to marry me but she is not strong enough.. She needs to fix herself in order to love me.. I took the smile from her, she has always prioritized me, my dreams etc. It really shocked me and when I realize she really means it.. she really wanna part in order to love herself .. Im cant stop crying.. I have never cried for a girl in my life.. Ive always been the guy who was confident and I always thought I was the real thing until today.. I reflected on our relationship and my behaviours.. Im truly sorry and mad at myself for stealing her years.. I felt like it was one sided one.. She gave me everything, but I did not. I feel egoistic and manipulating. I don't wanna be like this... I feel like everything I did was a behaviour of a sosiopat towards my gf. Yet she said that we will still be in relationship.. but we wont live together until she is healed.. I dont know how I can live without her.. I'm scared and Im lost.. she was and is my lottery. I want to fix myself and come back as a man, not a man child.. But right now, I do not have strenght to fight.. I'm trying, i really do.

@ThisisBronwyn

Жыл бұрын

Oh my dear one … I hear this with my heart. In a sense, men are groomed by culture to prioritize their own dreams over those of the women in their lives. And it is painful to see that in retrospect after a breakup. But just like she can grow and heal during this time, so can you. You are both precious and made in the image of God, The Force … whatever you want to call it! Use this period to learn to meditate, get centered and whole, and learn as much as you can about listening and about communicating with empathy. Go get a copy of the book Nonviolent Communication (life changing!) and practice! Regardless of what happens with your beloved, these activities will make you a better man and you will be able to love yourself more. Which you deserve! Sending you so much love and so much strength. Thank you for watching and for commenting.

@10SoccerCrazy

Жыл бұрын

@@ThisisBronwyn thank you so much for understanding and replying 🙏☺️

@ThisisBronwyn

Жыл бұрын

🤗

@10SoccerCrazy

Жыл бұрын

@@ThisisBronwyn Hi. Its an update to my current status. So I moved away from our apartment and currently renting an apartment nearby. Today she came with food and watch an episode of a series called,, EXIT. she looks happy and she enjoyed her meal with me. Idk what's on her mind. But I'm happy that she looks healthier by taking distance from me. I did not want to ask too much about our current status. She looks happy and really talk active so Im happy for her 😊

@ThisisBronwyn

Жыл бұрын

Good job!!!!!! Keep listening and keep open’ bravo!!

Yes help me

She is so overwhelmed making this video, although the video was nice😂

I have never manipulated anybody. I have no friends. One must interact with humans the to be able to manipulate them.

Had to watched this because i feel like I'm manipulating people and i hate it😭😭

@ThisisBronwyn

9 ай бұрын

So sorry this is happening to you!

I need help because I can't help it, but I told someone I was a manipulator and it gave them two choices, one tell others and risk the friendship they need or, two hold on to it, and I don't even mean too. Also, I'm honest about most things but somehow, I turn honest things into manipulation. I hung around a guy who everyone liked he had that vibe and I studied and took that vibe and surrounded myself with people at that point puppets, and I'm only 13 but I know so much about manipulation I just don't know how to stop it. I come out stronger as a manipulator too everything in this video I counter I don't know what to do its slowly driving me insane.

@simonanavardauskaite6728

3 ай бұрын

Hey, I also find myself manipulating people…. It’s so tough but I’m learning not to beat myself for it because it just keeps us stuck there. The important thing to notice is that we all just want to be liked and loved and feel like we belong, if we continue manipulating we will never have any real friends because slowly they will pull away. It’s a scary thought, but if I sit with it long enough I’m aware that the thing I want the most can be unreachable if I continue to manipulate. Practice stopping before you do/say something and check what the intention is, normally we feel slightly yuck when we manipulate, it’s like some sort of a inner device that guides us, how cool? Call yourself out, it makes you feel strong and empowered to really own your words and actions ! Good luck. Be kind to yourself (:

@hollow00073

3 ай бұрын

no it ok now because I'm a therapist friend and that helps me nit manipulate @@simonanavardauskaite6728

i think i got my answers but the problems lies as you mentioned towards the end. the inherent problem with bpd of being rejection sensitivity, a lot of us are very suicidal. do you think we should consult a therapist in regard to that?

@ThisisBronwyn

10 ай бұрын

Absolutely yes. If you EVER think of suicide, talk to a professional … it’s not something to ignore or try to handle alone. Reach out. There are so many resources. Sending you strength and love.

Friends copy of the work school

im really trying to being such an asshole to everyone including my gf like i love her a lot and i dont wanna be manipulative or a dick to her

@ThisisBronwyn

Жыл бұрын

Good for you! Do the work … it’s hard but it is such a better way to live and love! You got this!

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