Gossip is such a huge red flag! Whoever gossips to you will absolutely gossip about you. I have not found this to be untrue in any relationship.

@TedraFor

4 жыл бұрын

@@mirabella2222 who doesn't gossip? Lol

@drewtrulock333

4 жыл бұрын

Omg this girl put on this perfect angel spiritual image and then gossiped till the cows came home. She is most likey doin her smear campaign right now on me :[

@TL-00

4 жыл бұрын

👌

@travis6694

3 жыл бұрын

Yes this is true. My ex would talk about about ALL of her friends as well as her parents who took care of her.

@brees5697

3 жыл бұрын

I am just learning that now, I would ignore gossips drama, and confided in them based on emotional intimacy they falsely created. Lessons learned hurtfully.

Definitely trust your gut. Thats something I should've done months ago and failed to listen. If something is off, your body will let you know

@asryn96

3 жыл бұрын

FACTS. 🎯

@willieboy8798

3 жыл бұрын

never go with your gut...that is a guess job! instinct keeps more animals alive....that means using all your senses in union.

@piaaadah

3 жыл бұрын

@@willieboy8798 but your gut feeling IS your instincts.

@willieboy8798

3 жыл бұрын

@@piaaadah look up the word! not a cloud in the sky but the barometer dropped ...rain no rain???? no gut feel to it...

@Jennyispoop

2 жыл бұрын

Yup lost so much money due to not listening to my gut

1. They push your boundaries early on 2. They ask if you trust them 3. They guilt trip you ( if you feel guilty all the time you’re being manipulated ) 4. You don’t feel enough ( they wear you down over time - you’re always proving your worth to everybody) 5. They project what they are onto you ! Manipulative people are essentially insecure & broken people. Healthy people don’t turn you down. Tips: 1. Don’t allow anyone in your life easily always give it time 2. Have solid boundaries 3. Cut down spending time with a person instead space out interactions 4. Don’t trust anyone unless they prove they are trustworthy which takes time 5. Watch if actions match with words 6. Don’t over share or share anything personal about you 7. Don’t share your fears or anything vulnerable 8. Don’t let them know what makes you angry 9. Anything can be used against you so watch out. How to deal with people like this: 1. Believe nothing they say about others 2. Don’t fall for guilt tripping/gaslighting 3. Don’t react with anger/tears or anything negative instead be detached 4. Be in control of you and your reality, when you know your value and worth as a person you won’t allow anyone no matter how manipulative to take that away from you. Your belief in yourself, your worth and value in your own eyes can’t be taken or distorted by anybody. Imagine your “self” was under threat the person inside and someone outside you was trying to do all these manipulative techniques to destroy him/her, how would that make you feel?! Recognise these strategies and when you see what’s happening you won’t fall for it ( how can someone play you when you already know the game they’re playing?!) they can’t! Learn the games and protect yourself and your sanity. Stay safe ✌🏼

@Ngoziscreativity

Жыл бұрын

Thank you

@deathharpproductions3094

Жыл бұрын

EXCELLENT JOB! Thank you!

@natubb

Жыл бұрын

Hi Jasmine, i just read this and took a huge decision, leave him. I screenshot this to read it again when need it. Eternally grateful ❤

@sterlingray3982

Жыл бұрын

God bless you for posting this recap!❤️❤️❤️

@jeanettewright5077

Жыл бұрын

Thanku x

ALWAYS trust your gut feeling. trust me. if you do not it could prove to be a disaster.

@alexisrene5854

3 жыл бұрын

I dated a narc and took a break from dating for almost two years now but I can’t tell if certain things are my gut or just paranoia Bc this guy hasn’t done anything to me but I’m just waiting

@asryn96

3 жыл бұрын

Indeed. Our gut tells us when something is really bad. We end up confirming that our gut was right.

@onlyluvisreal6691

2 жыл бұрын

I was love bombed and I fell hard. I didn't notice the manipulation until I was living with him in a different state. I literally can't believe I fell for the lies!

@barbarachipman9436

2 жыл бұрын

@@onlyluvisreal6691 do not blame yourself. these people are the ones with issues.

@userunknown7578

Жыл бұрын

This comment doesn't have enough likes!

This video shows me how manipulative I can be in one way. I definitely rush intimacy with someone I really like, but it’s not for some evil ulterior motive. I just get so excited that I’m actually interested in someone, and I want to know them and I want to be seen and known. Definitely goes back to childhood emotional neglect. I never considered that manipulation before now.

@maryamzu4565

4 жыл бұрын

Same as me. I think everyone has some traits of manipulation sometimes but it doesn't mean we are manipulaters.

@deryagungor1217

4 жыл бұрын

You should be careful about your assumption. Your desire to rush intimacy with someone is coming from a different place possibly, it is a more geniunie feeling than what manipilators do. They usualy have a bigger agenda. but trying to seek intimacy quickly is also alerting and probably have hurt you so far in your relatinships so you may still want to work on why you need intimacy so quickly and how you could calm down. You can look at 'attachmnet styles" like anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, etc. You probably have a tendency to anxiously attach people. Understainding attachmnet styles might help!

@vhayashi7369

3 жыл бұрын

I don't think you are manipulating. I think you just crave intimacy really bad, I can relate!

@rainbowcity911

2 жыл бұрын

me too, when i was socially awkward i read a book on how to make friends. with cool questions to ask. but i didnt plan to use their information againts them.

@daisygonzales2311

2 жыл бұрын

I can relate to you.. it’s not you being manipulative.. you’re just being true to yourself.

Emotional abuse is currently a crime in the US. I would like to see a video on how to bring legal charges against narcissists for emotional abuse.

@jesskrohnn

4 жыл бұрын

Night Train they would probably manipulate their way out of it😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣

@godswillm575

4 жыл бұрын

I wish I knew that it has been criminalized. I would have fought differently and harder. Not given up

@godswillm575

4 жыл бұрын

@@jesskrohnn exactly.

@Riaree

4 жыл бұрын

Is it really? Well boy do I have quite the case...

@cynthiadean884

3 жыл бұрын

@Юлия Юлечка Юлия Андреевна it's very hard to prove and as such, generally not prosecuted.

I wish I saw this 4 years ago

@clarissamck

4 жыл бұрын

You and me both .

@naida6958

3 жыл бұрын

19 years for me

@kevowens94

3 жыл бұрын

1.5 years for me

@allyw1364

3 жыл бұрын

I had a feeling he was coming on too fast on first meeting and it weirded me out a bit, but because everyone said he was lovely give him a chance the rest was history, He literally walked out and left me after nearly 3 years together with a new supply already waiting......and what a joke after 6 months he wanted me back!!! Aaarrr hell noooo!!! I had a giggle to myself the other day because I found out they broke up.....grass aint always greener KARMA bus comes around ladies dont worry their creeping around catches up with them👏

@sptc37xing96

Ай бұрын

Me tooooooo

Knowing you’re waiting for information/their call but they withhold the information by not contacting you. When they do, several days later after silence, they act like nothing is the matter, forcing you to ask about the information you were awaiting. Future-faking during the first week is another one.

@Reilly5

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for this insight! It's helped me solve a question I had! (Being, why was communication so difficult when I reached out?)

@scottp2462

4 жыл бұрын

Oh the lack of information! How many times have we all heard, “I don’t know”, “I’m not sure”, “maybe”, “I’ll let you know”, “possibly”, “I’ll think about it” and similar phrases. They use these as stall phrases to keep you planted in their future and not have to make any adjustments to their mode of behavior. They hope your questions just go away so they are not accountable for anything.

@asc3nding7li0n3

3 жыл бұрын

Omg!! True

A manipulatinve person uses deceitful tactics to twist your words, play on your emotions etc, all in the attempt to have their desires fulfilled. They don't care about your values and autonomy as an individual, once they have their way to use others. You're nothing but a tool to them & it all boils down to control.

@Larawonderandwander

3 жыл бұрын

Great summary

@kaym.2854

3 жыл бұрын

@@Larawonderandwander Thank you. Experience is the greatest teacher.

I'm currently 6months no contact with the narcasist! I'm having therapy for PTSD, your videos are such a great help! Thank you soo much! God bless you! Lots of love from the UK..❤

@CommonEgo

4 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad to hear you're out and getting the help you need to recover, and I'm happy to hear you've found my videos helpful. Stay well ❤🙏

This is literally my marriage. I had co-dependent issues and I should have left the relationship early on, but I can’t go back. I’m just grateful God has redeemed me and I am on a path to healing!

@humaneleaguelancPA

3 жыл бұрын

God Bless you! Continue healing and moving forward!

@judykalavot2031

3 жыл бұрын

God bless

@jr6999

3 жыл бұрын

I can’t believe I didn’t see this before . So cunning the way it happens .. I don’t know what to do now :(

@Twinmama143

2 жыл бұрын

17 years with him and 2 kids. I was codependent too. Didn’t realize it until he manipulated me to move out of state

One pattern of subtle manipulation I have experienced quite frequently in my life is getting a compliment, followed by a request, like: "You're so awesome at doing XY, could you please do XY for me."

@rochelledavenport4054

3 жыл бұрын

...And I used to think it was just me, LOL.

@lexitao3022

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for pointing this out! Helped me notice a friend's narc gf use this on another friend of mine.

13 signs that you are being manipulated: Manipulation is a big topic. There are different types, levels, areas where we experience it. If you notice patterns, then something is OFF. If you notice that something is off, then always trust your GUT. Why do people manipulate? Essentially to get their own way. There are 3 GOALS of every manipulative person: 1. Especially to hide their true intentions (never a good thing). 2. To avoid responsability for something they have done. 3. To gain your trust faster than you would normally trust somebody (the most damaging goal). The 11 signs you've been manipulated: -signs you met a manipulative person (1-4): 1. Someone you just met is pretending to be interested in all the things you are interested in (red flag, inconsistencies, actions and words are not aligned) 2. They "vaponize" compliments (the compliments dissipate, over time they fade away). They overdo the compliments, their reaction is over the top. 3. They ask too many personal questions (e.g. what's your most embarassing childhood memory?) Why would they want to know that? To later use it against you. 4. They just latched onto you. (After you met them it is "hard and fast" , they are integrating you into their life, they are forcing a connection artificially). "Love-bombing" phase, idolization phase. 5. They are always playing the victim in their life. 6. You feel like you owe them (there are always strings attached). They will do sth small for you, and ask sth big. 7. You feel like you have sth to prove (e.g. they have negative opinions of you, you feel like you need to change, you are always less than anyone). It messes with your sense of self-worth or self-esteem. (The most damaging thing). 8. You hear gossip all the time (about coworkers etc.). You know they are gossiping about you. It takes other people down. 9. Gasslighting: you always question yourself and your sense of reality. They try to override it with their sense of reality, and make you accept it. 10. They will use your fears against you. (The ones you disclosed in the early phase of the relationship) 11. You feel like you can never get your point across. (They will talk over you, or yell. And if you fear confrontation, that can shut you down, when you wanted to have a healthy, productive conversation.) 12. They use guilt and shame to keep you under control. (They might make you feel ashamed for being proud of yourself, the way you dress, your eating habits, your beliefs. If somebody is constantly making you feel like you should be embarrassed with yourself, that's a sure sign of being maniuplated!) Manipulative people are extremely judgemental. 13. They will exaggerate or over simplify your concerns, in an effort to make you feel foolish. (E.g. they didn't come straight home from work, didn't tell you, or respond to texts/calls. Then they tell you: " I know, you have a problem with people going to bars, or being happy"- when in reality you just want them to be considerate.) That is another form of gaslighting, because you end up defending yourself from ridiculous accusations, and end up losing track of what you wanted to discuss. (This is them trying to avoid responsability). If

@Mike-xt2lh

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly correct ! I've experienced most of everything you just wrote from these narcissistic predators .

@avgonyma1

4 жыл бұрын

@@Mike-xt2lh horrible!! I experienced probably most of them, despite this person seemed quite laid back and not that obvious at first. (I definitely didn't see jealousy too much, or limiting my freadom, or trying to separate me from people). But the second part of the list (gaslighting, trying to shut you up in a conversation, guilt tripping, trying to suggest there is sth wrong with you, or that you should improve your life because it's not working...) constantly. And ugly, escalating fights. (I did not see this at the beginning or I would have left on time). I hope you're doing fine. I am not even completely saved/resolved from this yet.... Btw, Christina is good, isn't she? I''ve never seen anyone (with the exception of professionals with 40 year experience on this topic) break it down so clearly, with such to-the-point examples.

@Mike-xt2lh

4 жыл бұрын

@@avgonyma1 Just glad that I'm not the only one who experienced most of these things . I also hope the same for you .

@avgonyma1

4 жыл бұрын

@@Mike-xt2lh thank you. It's horrible because unless you have some boundaries in place, or if you have never before had experience with this, then you end up burning so much time to recognise it for what it is, and even more to get out.

@Duke_Scanlan

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks.

I would LOVE to see a course like this for kids. Teaching your kids how to identify these things can help them make it through the terrors of middle school. Lol.

@amberbergstrom3739

3 жыл бұрын

Yes!

@lexitao3022

2 жыл бұрын

So much yes! And not just middle school. Help people in general navigate through the terrors of life. :)

@sketchinbeats

Жыл бұрын

And life period.

I have also noticed, especially for people who are new to being manipulated, everyone else warns you about the person. Friends, family.. they can all see the signs.. but you keep defending the person even when you know something is off. Especially during the love bombing phase. Because you are willing to risk anything for that love to be real.

Christina be speaking facts ! Also if you're dealing with a manipulative person is they are highly disrespectful . They go from best friends to worse nightmare . Yes blame shifting , professional victims , they make you feel like you owe them , then they gaslight us , they also love gossiping and asking personal questions , stuff that makes you feel uncomfortable . They wanna make us feel less than . They are very nit picky & judgemental , hypocritical and they avoid responsibility .

@CommonEgo

4 жыл бұрын

Best friends to worst nightmare... very true ❤🙏

@Mike-xt2lh

4 жыл бұрын

@@CommonEgo Yes unfortunately .

@AMo1-

4 жыл бұрын

Took the feelings I had made it into words. Couldn’t have said it better lol

@jp-gy3vh

2 ай бұрын

Yes that’s exactly what happened. One minute it was cheerfully supporting each other, the next was insults and accusations, and the demand that we keep things “professional” and no apologies

The hardest way to recognize it’s happening is when they do these things and proceed to accuse you of doing it to them…

Am I the only who thinks she looks like Céline Dion? 🤔

@sarahvministry

4 жыл бұрын

No. She's prettier 😁

@MaisyMimi

4 жыл бұрын

Celines much younger prettier sister

@kimberlyholcomb4995

3 жыл бұрын

Haha I can deff see that !!

@fathersdaughter1225

3 жыл бұрын

Lol 😂... no your not.

@humaneleaguelancPA

3 жыл бұрын

Actually, I think she is more beautiful than Celine, in a more natural way.

I would like to know about jealousy when being in a relationship with narcissistic person. I feel that he's making me jealous on purpose and then blaming me about being jealous. Can you make a video about this?

@AikoFox

4 жыл бұрын

In my experience with dealing with 2 narcs, they do and they do it on purpose. They do it knowing that it bothers you and to make you feel like there is something wrong with you and they keep doing it until you "hopefully" give in and tolerate it and stop talking about it because you get tired of their reactions, tired of feeling "that" way, tired of their repetitive statements about it, afraid that you're wrong when you're not and that they will leave you (which would be a blessing in disquise). They do it to keep you off center and to keep doubting yourself breaking down your self esteem. Narcs are quite sadistic. They know this hurts you but they want to keep breaking you down so they can keep taking from you and making you feel unsure about a lot of things so that they can keep doing whatever they want to do without being bothered. They are emotionally draining.

@phoenixrising8007

4 жыл бұрын

Ice Queen Truth! Deliberate emotional abuse is cruel and sadistic. Trust your gut, if you feel it trust it. Believe yourself and second guess narcissist instead. The X triangulated me with everyone, his Co-workers, neighbors young and old, male and female, grocery clerks, gas attendants, wives of friends, mutual friends, even the cat, lol. Then he would gaslight me or project jealousy on me, blame shifting his behaviour to put me on the defensive.✋ never again

@michaeljackson7361

4 жыл бұрын

May be triangualtion

@chasnme13

4 жыл бұрын

i had a good relationship with my ex's ex wife, mother of his son....he hated it , he would often try to make me jealous especially if we were fighting then when i'd call him on it he'd flip it on me and on occasion had even humiliated me in front of the ex wife about it ...the ex wife he would openly call horrific names in front of their son and couldn't stand (because she got away and remarried, smart woman!), but yet he would call and chat with her about her work trips, mutual acquaintances pretty much about everything BUT their child...i later found out from her he would sometimes call her to "vent" about me, our relationship but she said she wouldn't put much thought into it because she knows how he is ....but what a betrayal! i now know this to be triangulation and wouldn't you know he did it with me and his mom whom i used to be very close to, and now with the new supply...before i was taking the bait but now i just ignore it

@phoenixrising8007

4 жыл бұрын

C Ran Good for you for stepping back from it all. I’ve been there done that, experienced both sides. I was the “ diplomat “ the peacekeeper but the X never appreciated it either. Wishing you all the best ✌️

I just exited a relationship where my partner had all three motives of a manipulative person: hid their true intentions, avoided responsibility, and lovebombed me with visions of marriage, children, and repatriation; they were codependent and while I was grieving my lost father, they were developing another side relationship and cheating. I wish I had this awareness in the beginning. I had a bad feeling, but I trusted them because they seemed to love me so much. I trusted them, and they were dangerous. And this video is helping me heal.

Something else to listen to apart from your gut instincts is that feeling of being left feeling drained by somebody that you have interacted with. It is another internal warning sign telling us we have been around somebody who is not good for us. If you feel relief when they have gone, pay attention to this feeling.

Mine forced the connection with my family and friends immediately. I never met anyone in his family in 3 years. I was never introduced to a friend of his.

@holly.7971

4 жыл бұрын

WitchyEmpath555 he probably had zero friends and family who disowned him 🤷‍♀️

@dieie13

4 жыл бұрын

@@holly.7971 True on the friends, I learned he didn't have any. Family was in another state. He always went home for Christmas, told me he would take me and then always fought with me before he left, alone. I wouldn't hear from him until he got back.

@Starfishxoxo

4 жыл бұрын

@@dieie13 Yeah he fought with you on purpose

@dieie13

4 жыл бұрын

@@Starfishxoxo Looking back I learned he did that a lot. It's so wonderful now that I don't have to deal with him.

@scottp2462

4 жыл бұрын

Ever why their list of “friends” changes names every few months? Constant turnover of people because some of their “friends” offer very little benefit to them or call them out on their behavior or just cut them out because of their behavior. Of course every new friend is the best person ever until.......

Sadly this was my spouse, seeing so much now and allowing myself to see it now that I managed to get away and stay away. Thank you for reaffirming this that yes staying away is the best for me.

I’ve just discovered I have manipulating behavior!!! And I’ve been heavily manipulated!!

@jimmysmith736

Жыл бұрын

Same

I worked for a sociopath for two years. Out of six employees, including me, five of us thought he had no empathy for other people, and he was self absorbed. He was very manipulative. He didn’t sound like the person described in this video. He had charm, and would talk to you like you were his friend. But workwise it became more and more a master servant relationship with no respect for my personal space. He’d just tell me what to do, with no regard for me as a separate person. His manipulative modus operandi was to agree with everything I said when it came to non work discussions, to make me feel important and valued. But when it came to work, it was “obey me”. It took me a year to see through him, and it became soul destroying to be in his presence. I ended up gray rocking him, though I didn’t at that stage know the term. It was simply a method I developed to protect myself from the invasion of my personal space. I guess this is all about honesty. Manipulative people achieve their aims by tricking you into doing their bidding, by pretending to be your friend, but in reality they are playing with your emotions. It’s a parasitic relationship. They suck you dry. Genuine people want to create an honest relationship, and they care about the effect they have on other people.

@rubberduckie5518

Жыл бұрын

I don't even think most of them are trying to play with your emotions. It just turns out that way. They're so damn manipulative they don't even see how their agendas are affecting other people. Neither do they care. They look out for number 1. You must do the same.

@Atpeace710

5 ай бұрын

There is no friends in business

I’ve learned so much about narcissist abuse and narcissism. I’ve realized I’ve been in these relationships several times

Based on my experience, a fake apology is a pretty clear sign you're being manipulated.

Yes, now I know when I am being manipulated right away...........

The covert i just dealt with recently she would say i love you so early & so much and it was dam near robotic. She would also say i can't live without you & she would do this force hard cheesey smile! Very creepy! So entitled to eveything early as if already married.

@philyeary8809

3 жыл бұрын

I've seen it. Its frightening.

@allyw1364

3 жыл бұрын

Coverts are the worst ones to get involved with from my own personal experience , they are so damaged and all round kind of weird

Great videos. My ex wife is the poster person for being a Narcissist. Expert at gaslighting tried to alienate me from my family.

Because of my nature kindness many people surrounding me manipulated by many different ways as this video described. It's annoyed time to time, all I have to do is hear from left ear and let it out from the right side. Those people always need attention and I believe they have mental health problem. Thanks for the video, it's explain me a lot.

It's been 3 years of no contact and gray rock, why the ex is the one who accuses me as the manipulative and emotionally abusive...so sad that till now the pain is still in my heart losing the kids and family that I love so much because of such disorder...

- - dang, he used everyone of those... red flags i ignored, thank you for opening my eyes wider

Thank you for the continuous support.

So true, sometimes its not as easy to notice manipulation right away but at some point you will definitely see the signs. Thank you so much for sharing this video!

There are so many Fd up people I just keep to myself. I give up. I don’t know where the normal people have gone or what happened while I was asleep bc everybody seems fake weird stupid or hateful. Too many mentally ill people. Everybody has something and is on some drug whether legal or illegal.

@edennis8578

4 жыл бұрын

Me, too. There must be something in the water, or the food? Maybe most people have always been manipulative and I just didn't realize what was going on.

@stephcarrin

4 жыл бұрын

I'm sry you feel this way. Yeah most people suck. But there are decent people out there. I for one dont do drugs. 🙂

@jesskrohnn

4 жыл бұрын

NismoFury it gets better. Hold boundaries. You can be in a relationship that is healthy if people know your boundaries up front:) it gets easier and easier. It’s all about communication and you can have fulfilling relationships. Like attracts like. You will also attract people with boundaries and balance if you resonate at that frequency/)

@clarissamck

4 жыл бұрын

I’m normal and I’ve been wondering too.

He rejected me but still talked to me next day like nothing happened. He chatted with me every day over text like we’re really close but when I want more or expressed my frustrations about what he made me feel he got mad at me. Like I was attacking him and I ended up apologizing….

Thank you for being so thoughtful and genuine, I don't feel so alone now. This is such wonderful therapy 🌼🌻

I love how you speak directly to those of us experiencing this. Not about the issue or about us, but to us. It is validating and helps with feeling connected/understood [what we have been craving, but in a healthy and clarifying way].

WOW I AM SO THANKFUL FOR THIS VIDEO !! I felt like something was off with a person & he does almost all of this. Told me “ I love you “ after a month of knowing me 💀 uses everything he does for me against me and tries to make me feel guilty and ALWAYS plays the victim when we get into confrontation.

Thank you for helping me realize that one of my closest friends has been manipulating me and is almost definitely a narcissist. I actually started tearing up when you were talking about some of your points because of how spot on they were... she's super nice to me, as long as I go along with what she wants all the time. She's got such an overinflated ego and it comes up in the extremely disingenuous way she talks to and about other people. The second I started standing up for myself she not only started yelling at me but played the victim and tried to make me feel like I was to blame for 100% of all of our past bad interactions. She's so toxic and I honestly can't believe it's taken me this long to figure it out.

Fantastic. And Gaslighting is also a form lying too. It's crazy making. Thanks for your video!

All 13 are right on point!! After 31 years I finally get it, I finally understand what it’s been all along. Thank you!

Really enjoy your content -thank-you for putting it out there -this -and other channels are helping me to navigate my way through some behaviors.

Very informative and well spoken. It is very helpful to hear a non bias voice that is here to describe scenarios and teach the potential of their meaning.

This video's a keeper. This has answered so many questions. Thank you.

So many confirmations about a situation I was in recently for several months. I couldn't put my finger on it, but I just kept thinking it was a weird ride, interacting with this specific person. KZread started recommending your videos and they have given me solace about the situation, and now I have a better understanding of why my gut turns when I see them. Extreme covert, so many of the things that happened I may not have even realized what they had done, until I did a review of the situation in my mind after the fact. Thank you for your videos, you are greatly helping people!

I had an old injury pain come back.. Could barely walk for a couple of days. Then I connected the dots... My body was literally telling me to NOT take another step forward. Thanks, body!

Oh my. Thank you so much for your video! So useful! I think I am dealing with a manipulator (maybe a narcissist, too).

It's crazy how many red flags i missed with my mother. She uses every trick in the book

You always give great examples when making a point.

@joannegabbott4360

4 жыл бұрын

Wow my ex boyfriend down to a tea

Best friends right away and that was her initial trap. I felt comfy with it because we've known each other for years before meeting this year. At church i was introduced as her best friend. Ugh, good grief. I'm glad i see this pattern in your video, and others. Thank you for putting this together!

Your really making a difference love!! I already knew some of this info but just the basics, you really opened my eyes so much more & I feel such a sense of relief !!! P.s I'm spiritual aswell 🥰

I was manipulated for 6 months by a woman. She always complained about her narcissist personality disorder mother, but she certainly was is one herself.

Recently found your Chanel Christina. I watch videos on this subject a bunch. You really have helpful insights. Thank you and thank you for your story!

My friend always treated me badly but i let it slide. I thought shes “not doing anything on purpose.” I did speak to her how i feel left out when we are with our group. She said she “had no idea.” I did accidentally something that I was so sorry for and she said that it was ok. A month later she took advantage of my trust and did something just horrible. It was her other friend who tried to justify it. Basically admitting they were talking about me behind my back and then brought up the thing from a month ago to try and use it against me and make me feel bad. Im so glad i dropped them.

You are amazing💙 you open up all topics in very unique Way. I finally get some answers. Thank you🌸

I broke it off with my narcissistic fiancé because every time we would argue or he gets upset whenever I called him out for his lies and then he would always use “I don’t think I can marry you or I don’t think we should get married.” And that was always a fear of mine because I would always end up coming back to him. It was awful. And he always did that until I finally decided I wouldn’t put up with him anymore. I’m so hurt but it was time to let go of him and his manipulation/emotional abuse.

@alishamiah111

4 жыл бұрын

Stay strong, you made the right choice!

Feeling like I had to prove something was a big one for me. Like I constantly had to play it cool. Take their bad behavior in stride. They'd bail on me or refuse to make time for me and I felt like I had to prove I didnt care. Because if I did care than I was being selfish or needy. If I cared that she ignored a text I was acting jealous and possessive. If I cared that she was acting distant, or treating me different than normal, I was "reading too much into things" I was put into this box that required me to act aloof and indifferent, or else I'd face criticism. I didn't want to act aloof and indifferent. I loved her. And I thought she loved me... she certainly used to. I basically had to mirror her attitude in the relationship at all times or else it would bring tension.

@ZmeyMusic

4 жыл бұрын

I had the same thing... Though I saw through that all and tried to change her... Well, you can't change what's broken...

100% true. I wish more people knew more about this.

Christina: I've been watching your videos for the past month or so because I am looking to heal from dealing with a woman that I really believe is a narcissist. She was already talking about marriage early on and when I asked her whether she would be comfortable if her future husband wasn't me, she responded by saying that she would never be happy. I didn't believe her but I suspected by the second month that she is a narcissist. Also, she would always tell me different stories about how she wanted money for this or money for that and it got to a point where she was really stressing me out. I had to ghost her out and block her number. Long story short, near the end, she started to get angry and became demanding and even became vulgar. I think that this is the part called narcissistic rage? I decided to tell you this also because I had to try and let myself heal. Thank you so much for being there for us. Have a beautiful day!!!

Good content, straight to the point.

Excellent video. I have a very casual friend who has latched on to me and is more like a stalker now. This person doesn't respect my boundaries needing me to re-enforce them over and over, this person, always finds an excuse to be around me, every conversation is like an interrogation, this person tries to isolate me, they have learned my schedule and are constantly look for ways to interact with me. Every so called kind gesture or offer of help feels like a trap. This person has begun to ask other people about me now too. My gut keeps telling me to avoid or limit contact with this person but it's hard because we have mutual friends. I just always get a creepy feeling about this person. They stand too close to me when we speak, this person is always trying to touch me too. I am keeping a journal about this person and I am always on my guard when they are around. Stalkers are master manipulators.

I am really appreciate at what you had teach in your video, it help me a lot!! All the topics you mentioned had answered most of my questions which has been lasting in my life for several years. I am struggle with narcissistic mother for almost 40 years, and also due to her misguide, I couldn’t recognize most of the narcissistic in my life which cost me a lot of pain and lost. I want to thank you again for your logical speech which show me most of the traits and the common conversation of the narcissistic, which I believe can help me survive after.

It's rare to find a relationship that isn't manipulative. However, once you can identify what it is that others are trying to get from you, the easier it is to navigate. You can work with it if its beneficial for you, or dodge it if it's not.

Excellent! Thanks for the video.

I’m learning this the hard way. During our date he was super nice like you literally can’t name a single bad thing about him. He’s always there for me. We had deep communication and he even brings up future plans but all of a sudden he changed and gave me silence treatment left me. Not even a month or two later he already dating somebody else … right now I’m in so much pain I’ve been way to comfortable by his lies and only realized and processing everything

Thank you for these videos I feel like I’m going crazy , I am so hurt and just devastated :(

@christianpulisic7784

2 жыл бұрын

just_peachy,You look stunning 🌹🌷🌷

I already knew I was being manipulated, but hearing what you had to say really struck me. It saddens me, because the one who is doing this to me is my Mom... I feel as if I have no life any more because it's all about her. The jealousy of me having friends, I do practically everything for her and yet, I can never catch a break. I suffer with chronic pain due to a car accident, I have CPTSD.. she doesn't understand. I'm hurting, my body hurts but she expects soooo much. I would rather kill myself getting things done, than deal with the guilt and silent treatments for saying no. .. I feel like I'm losing my mind.. it's a constant battle. Even the pain issues have become competitive.. like WOW! I have a great support system, but I also live with her because I'm on disability and can't afford to live on my own. It's tough.

@PunkMartyr

Жыл бұрын

Id take up a new hobby that gets me away from her a lot

Holy crap! Explanation is so good!

yep the last tatic you mentioned nailed it.

Thank you, very informative. I appreciate your research on this topic. It has opened a new channel in my life!

@christianpulisic7784

2 жыл бұрын

TC Weaver,You got a lovely smile 😊!!

Your videos have been extremely helpful and eye opening. I have had several ah ha moments while watching the videos. Thank you for posting them.

So a demon in human form then.

@theconfessionsofahebrewisr2975

3 жыл бұрын

Yup ! There all demons.. They will burn hell

This is crazy. I have been with someone for 3 and a half years, and im just realizing now how ive been manipulated the whole time.

@carvalhosimantha

11 ай бұрын

Hope your out of that relationship now

OMG This is probably the best one ive seen

Thanks Christina. Very helpful Such a lovely lady

This video is hitting me so hard rn I have whiplash. You never know until you’re out of a relationship like that.

Thank You!, so much if not everything you talked about here is what I delt with,

Super helpful.....also there are folks who manipulate thru others. So if someone has a jealous ex they manipulate the former partner ruining chances of them finding someone new. It is the same for family members as well.

THANK YOU for this! What you're saying about them complaining about you and comparing you to exes and such is very true. I am currently healing from a lifetime of attraction to narcissists and hope I can recover somewhat. The last one nearly took my life but should he dare to come back (bet he would) he'll get a taste of mr bat bc Ive finally solved what the magic bullet is: Enforcing boundaries. Setting boundaries wont help with a narc, they walk all over them but ENFORCING them, works. And when you learn that, they should run.

@Infinitybein

3 жыл бұрын

Yup...just dealth with another one for 3 weeks. Then discard on my birthday....withdrawal was heart wrenching for me. How did this happen AGain?! when I sat with it and reviewed the 3 weeks, I was like yea...boundaries. gotta stick to those boundaries!!

The loyalty seems to be toward the informants or provider of supply!

@christianpulisic7784

2 жыл бұрын

Rhonda Ericker,You are beautiful 🌹🌹🌷,you don't need a narc 😈 in your life!!

Currently being bullied, manipulated, told things when only they are convenient etc.. it's very hard to even have a peace of mind.

I do believe I have some traits of manipulation that I didn’t realise until he pointed out. But the problem is he has some too but he doesn’t accept it and instead just says it’s me. Surely it’s manipulation when someone makes you feel special and when they do something disrespectful relationship wise they turn around and say “we’re not a thing anyway”

great video, thank you!!! you got dat beautiful soul :)

Yeah, she had about 7 of these. But the thing is, there are normally people that we like from the beginning. There are normally people that we share intimate thoughts with. It’s normal to feel you owe to your friend or partner something. We all have friends that nag about always being victims. We all know people who flatter us.More than half of the things in the video do also occur in normal non-manipulative relationships. So where’s the line, where’s the limit? I’m not questioning the video by that, but things are not so much bw in real life. And that’s why no matter how many coaching videos are filmed, we still get duped at some point.

@hectorcastro9768

4 жыл бұрын

That's why they both get everything they deserve Both of them !! Because she has never been abused by her husband but she is going to feel what it feels like to hurt him and she doesn't think she is in danger but it is not a option

@scottp2462

4 жыл бұрын

Død Seiðr You are correct! Narcissism is on a continuum and not all toxic people are narcissists. Everyone has narcissistic traits from time to time but we work on ourselves and make positive changes. It all depends on how we deal with the narcissist or person with narcissistic traits. You accept it and live with it or you move on. I blame no one but myself for my time with my toxic ex.

I'm going through this at work. It's really messing with my head. And I'm starting to see it in people I adored or felt close to and the more I get to know them, the more I see the manipulation. The "I didn't say that" "You get upset over nothing" "I didn't do that" They never acknowledge when they are wrong.. Always talking about themselfs. Extremely judgmental towards everyone!!. Talks behind everyone's back They make you feel ashamed They belittle your feelings They are fake with there compassion What I'm getting atm is the sort of people that put u down behind your back for personal gain. I'm hoping within time I can just let it fly right by me.

Thumbs up Christina. So recognizable. Man, I felt such an idiot just after I finished my relationship with my covert narcissist ex partner. Afterwards I did some analyzing what happened and what my part was, I felt relieved. It was not personal and my ex has so much problems but always walks away when she has to take responsibilities. Her façade and her flaws I saw them later in our relationship and how she hates me for that now 18 months after our break up. I don't mind, it is her life.

@CommonEgo

4 жыл бұрын

It's a good place when you can separate it from yourself. We can walk away with our own parts to heal and leave the rest where it belongs ❤🙏

I always share a lot of your videos on Facebook learn so much watching these videos

Thankyou....so many things you mentioned are done by my so called 'friends'...what they DON'T know is I will be walking away from them, maybe not even saying why...and one day they'll wonder what I'm gone...

Thank you so much for the video. I stopped a friendship and i felt guilty, but after watching this video i feel well again. Kisses from Greece.....

@CommonEgo

4 жыл бұрын

So glad you found the information helpful. Always trust your instincts ❤🙏

This is very helpful Thank you

I picked up on the fact the narc was faking commonality with me but i found it flattering, also i was at a new school and desperately needed new friends. Everything you said here is true of him. He recently tried to hoover me, during one exchange via text i picked up on the fact that he was subtley pumping me for info about my living situation, how much spare time, money i have, where i live, can he come over. I had to throw up boundaries left and right, like you said these are not things ordinary ppl ask about. He wanted back in my life to the same level as before, immediately. I felt obligated, like i owed him to be friends again, and he guilt tripped me saying "dont throw away 14 yrs of friendship" well I already threw away 13 yrs of friendship a year ago im not sure how it got to 14 lol. It was stressful talking to him, even through text.

@lauriesandt5371

2 жыл бұрын

What's happened in the last year?

@tomusannonymous

2 жыл бұрын

@@lauriesandt5371 After this he was gone for a few months then reappeared and hoovered me again. He said he had been living in another state and had a gf who had kids so now he's more mature etc. (he just left them btw) I hanged out with him twice. He strongly wanted to relive the past, there was the same old red flags of controlling behaviour and manipulativeness. After that I avoided seeing him, he kept asking to hang out, refusing to take the hint that i was avoiding him. eventually i had to be blunt and say I wasn't interested in seeing him, I havent heard from him since.

@lauriesandt5371

2 жыл бұрын

@@tomusannonymous the leopard did not change his spots. Glad you are free.

My teens are alienated from me by narcissistic ex. Havent seen them since I left, not my choice. Kids hate me and wont speak to me. How do I get them to wake up to the manipulation? Send them this video along with many others I've researched? I want my girls back and show them true fatherly love without interference from ex wife.

@noway4380

4 жыл бұрын

Don’t make them make that choice ... keep reaching out and tell them how much you love them. When you tell them anything negative about their mom they will be offended. They will tell their mom and she will gaslight everything.

@allyw1364

3 жыл бұрын

Get the courts to help🤔

@lauriesandt5371

2 жыл бұрын

It's been a year since you wrote your situation. Can you give an update?

After spending years, I still am confused about my husband's covert personality. seems like I know him from outside but not really from inside! It's as if anytime I wanted to know him, he has stone walled, alienated, gaslighted me!

Thank you so much. Love your videos. They help so much. Everything fits and still he s so smart. I think he s a native narc🙈. Everything, even the asking for private info in the beginning. He wanted to know how my dad called me when I was little. I didn't tell him. He would have used it to seem as near and trustfully as my family. Just one of 100 things that fit exactly like all this other little and subtle habits to devalue and manipulate. Thanks from Germany😊

My husband to the T. I spent years explaining, asking etc. Not stopping it. I think he still don't understand what he is doing. Every single question he ask is somehow manipulation, he doesn't ask or say what he wants but something else, he is trying to get to the point from behind and you sense immediately that he's got a hidden agenda, some thoughts behind the question that he is not telling you. Extremely exhausting and kills a genuine, normal communication straight away. If I call him out and ask why he is not saying what he really think or asking what he really wants to know he blame it on me saying he is frustrated because of me and that is why he doesn't know how to say it.

@CommonEgo

4 жыл бұрын

Manipulation is second nature to some people. I'm sorry you're dealing with that ❤🙏

@trrahr5496

4 жыл бұрын

You have just described conversations with my husband.. to the point that I refuse to answer his cloak and dagger questions. I call it lawyering, but maybe that's not fair to the lawyers 3🙂

Absolutely helpful 👍

Good video!

Great Points.