Sorry about the jarring switch to loud R&B music for the dance battle. We got copyright claimed for the original song and this is the best we can do with KZread's editor. Next time we'll pick sweet royalty free music beforehand. Thanks for watching :-)

@Liam-zt3se

5 жыл бұрын

Charisma on Command hi

@theradiantknight9771

5 жыл бұрын

Hey man would you consider making a video on what makes people want to follow Captain America? Not Chris Evans the actor but the actual character.

@andreiantonio2548

5 жыл бұрын

Charisma on Command You always give great advice! Big fan of your channel! I’m always looking forward to see them. 👍🏼

@ingenious5480

5 жыл бұрын

Charisma on Command: you are, hands down, my favorite KZreadr

@Cheerok

5 жыл бұрын

@@theradiantknight9771 1st and foremost : Values his own life far less than that off other people. Even before he became Cap and its also the reason he was chosen as a candidate for Super Soldier Serum (Grenade Test scene). Also shown by his signature tool : A friggin shield. He's the shield which protects everyone (not caring about religion, race or upbringing). 2. His general character is built on the basic values of an "honest man" archetype. Values honesty, loyalty, hard work, commitment, passion, love and peace. 3. He's a guy who does not want to lead. He's always chosen by someone to take the mantle of leader. 4. Always improving his skills on any level. Fury teaches him strategy for example, because he chose him to lead the Avengers. 5. Not hiding his failures, moreso honestly takes them as reasons to give up his position as a leader, because he does not think he would follow himself until the failure is fixed. Basically the poster image of a romanticized knight in shining armour.

This is the kinda video you watch late at night

@Redbikemaster

5 жыл бұрын

Literally doing that now

@blackkyurem720

4 жыл бұрын

@@Redbikemaster same

@ivymyles8479

4 жыл бұрын

Lol yep- I'm watching it at 12:45AM

@enderlegendgaming7490

4 жыл бұрын

MENDO 2:11 am

@LevlQil

4 жыл бұрын

1:38AM rn

How To Turn Awkwardness Into Confidence? 1. Be spiderman. 2. 1.

@seriousperson2065

4 жыл бұрын

cry more

@hopesmith8030

4 жыл бұрын

Key Word, yell less.

@hopesmith8030

4 жыл бұрын

I’m sorry, I was trying to do a thing. You know...Aaron Burr in the Hamilton musical says “talk less, smile more.” 😅

@hemzajabali7371

4 жыл бұрын

3. 2.

@anthonymardiros4070

4 жыл бұрын

i laughed

I can’t wait to practice all of these habits and completely forget them when I’m in an awkward situation

@eudaimonixx9909

3 жыл бұрын

I- yeah 😔

@dineshthakur3972

3 жыл бұрын

😂yeah

@jorigdaci3750

3 жыл бұрын

Why u describe me?

@Cazador1

3 жыл бұрын

Well I'm- When- Kinda- yeah... 😣

@dineshthakur3972

3 жыл бұрын

Actually you f**this video 🙌👏

I feel like an alien learning to be human watching these

@CurlyGenius6000

3 жыл бұрын

True, true

@nokachi3339

3 жыл бұрын

Welcome to being socially awkward

@pls-gg3fy

3 жыл бұрын

I felt like a loser searching up for this 😭😭

@ferndevil5771

3 жыл бұрын

lmfao

@ronin4902

3 жыл бұрын

@@pls-gg3fy same

My dad walked in and asked what I was watching. I told him porn. Dodged a bullet right there.

@thomasberbee4221

4 жыл бұрын

Underrated comment 😂😂

@ley4983

4 жыл бұрын

my dad told me this video would help me...

@enolp

4 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂😂

@superspurbie5335

4 жыл бұрын

Did you show him your palms?

@RESTART1-1

4 жыл бұрын

WAIT what

I have a feeling Tom doesnt even know that he is doing everything right, he just does it right

@cheerfullymorbid3286

4 жыл бұрын

i mean i feel like he’s probably just learnt overtime what hits and what misses from experience

@rileygrace3900

4 жыл бұрын

I liked your comment because of how I totally agree with you, and also your profile picture and name!

@darime

4 жыл бұрын

Liked because of the picture

@daynight3328

3 жыл бұрын

he is lucky

@nlg0x

3 жыл бұрын

Typical Tom

Imagine being Tom, discovering that he has been analyzed this well

@roseover340

3 жыл бұрын

Tom: 👁👄👁

@NomTom

3 жыл бұрын

hi

@bobthebugman337

3 жыл бұрын

@@NomTom hi Tom

@bobcake8904

3 жыл бұрын

@@roseover340 🧿👄🧿

@-lakshya7288

3 жыл бұрын

@@NomTom 😂

Me: He makes a lot of good points. I'll start doing this. Me 5 seconds later: No memory of what was just said in the video.

@StefanyDjuba

3 жыл бұрын

Write down what you understand. This helps me a lot

@laurenmtz7014

3 жыл бұрын

Your pfp matches well with your comment lol

@sherelpvt5478

3 жыл бұрын

Yesss

@nothere3982

2 жыл бұрын

Memorize it if you can't remember it fully

@midnightFox540

Жыл бұрын

Because of the you word. It's a blaming word by nature recomindation by me try to watch it again. But replace that word, in the head with I or me enstead. That is an adiea by nature the words judgemental. As well as very very disorientating and addictive. Takes a strong mind to listen to big ideas. And especially comprehend think slow aka be patient and especially being very active and writting ideas and thoughts out or talking to others about them. I hope that was helpful to someone here.

You seem to think I can think clearly in an awkward situation.

@masken8355

5 жыл бұрын

Niels Jansen How bold of him

@rebeccamclaren97

5 жыл бұрын

When my brain knows I'm in an awkward situation it will do everything in its power to make sure I don't forget it. It's as if there's a little CD player up there that's only got one track. As soon as the confidence breaks it hits the play button. "You're awkward. You're a mess. You're a failure. You're awkward. You're a mess. You're a failure. Everyone's judging you. Never go out in public again." (Replay). In reality, most people don't even notice our anxieties, and if they do they usually couldn't care less 🤷‍♀️ One day I will conquer my brain.

@ohlookabunny

5 жыл бұрын

Make a point to adopt better body language and your thoughts will follow

@TontonPanda

5 жыл бұрын

You have at first to fake, and then when you'll get use to faking it, you won't even need to fake it anymore, you'll be different. Your brain will have been trained.

@itchykami

5 жыл бұрын

Just means you have to make your behaviors automatic, so you don't have to be thinking clearly. It's ok, some people - never - think clearly.

Everyone add +1 Charisma on your character sheet.

@Mr77177177177

4 жыл бұрын

sv_charisma_999 cl_noclip 0 sv_cheat 1

@DaTrillion

4 жыл бұрын

parrot007 😂😂

@itsyah

4 жыл бұрын

Somehow this added +10 for me.. must be a bonus level up.

@blurrymagnet

4 жыл бұрын

Sweet now i have 1 point! Thanks

@eonshade6297

4 жыл бұрын

done

Video summary for you speed demons out there: Adjust your body language by: - 3 second eye contact with everyone in the room, this makes everyone feel acknowledged and you capture their attention - Use your hands to express and gesture (don’t hide your palms) - own your movement, embrace awkward situations, don’t close up Have fun with friendly teasing - laugh with the group (don’t always retort with a witty comment) - Double down on a joke aimed at you (this spreads the laughter in a friendly way) Tell your own embarrassing stories (this shows confidence) - Use high impact words (Keeps your audience engaged) - Act out the story vocally and physically (Again, keeps everyone engaged) Let go of managing people’s opinions of you - it’s freeing. (Was multitasking while watching this so do pardon me if I missed anything or wrote it in a hard to understand way)

@anfernysors4510

2 жыл бұрын

This is good comment

@beaglejuice5681

2 жыл бұрын

This should be pinned

Me: Turn awkwardness into cringe conversation.

@LexaRaeG00DSKY

3 жыл бұрын

Ugh same though

@ani-ps6wl

3 жыл бұрын

same thi

I love how we all came together to show we have no personality.

@pogger4878

4 жыл бұрын

i feel attacked but sadly ure right ;___;

@abdihassan7208

4 жыл бұрын

@@pogger4878 youre cute julia

@pogger4878

4 жыл бұрын

@@abdihassan7208 thank u!!

@abdihassan7208

4 жыл бұрын

@@pogger4878 alright im gonna follow you :)

@sebastianmolina5606

4 жыл бұрын

What the f*ck is going on here?

Ironic fact: Tom Holland is afraid of spiders.

@DEFENDERofficiel

5 жыл бұрын

i'm afraid of tom holland

@machduel

5 жыл бұрын

@@DEFENDERofficiel And spiders are afraid of you.

@bigpete7865

5 жыл бұрын

Just for the picture of Jellal, I'm subbing.

@Zetsuke4

5 жыл бұрын

Everyone are afraid of spiders when there's a huge poisonous spider on them. And that includes Black Widow.

@GarnetsWeb

5 жыл бұрын

Spiders are afraid of him

Who else is strangely nervous watching this video?

@windmill4581

3 жыл бұрын

Well me. That’s because I feel like I’m in his position talking to these people and I reallyyyy don’t like talking to people lmao

@finnthehumanboy8812

3 жыл бұрын

Tom Holland gave me sense of major inferiority complex 🤣 Bruh he's so fine af! Makes me feel out of his league but I admire him for that (I'm a woman just saying but still jelous of him 🙂)

@sheppardproductionhd9814

Ай бұрын

Yep haha

Just wanted to say, for someone like me who's autistic with mental health issues, these videos are really helpful, thank you for making them, just watching these makes me feel like I'm understanding social situation better, I look forward to seeing how I do after lock-down from these.

@el_mp11

4 жыл бұрын

You got this bro!

@neuroseller

3 жыл бұрын

They really do help a lot!

@officialidrxp3488

3 жыл бұрын

What does it feel like to be autistic and to have mental issues may I ask? Just curious.

@charlotterose6669

3 жыл бұрын

Yess I have autism and I use this to study the neurotypicals

@nopeIdontthinkso388

3 жыл бұрын

Also, we are fine just the way we are.

the only 3 second rule i know is picking something off the floor and putting it in my mouth

@SoDamnMetal

4 жыл бұрын

I think that's 5 second rule

@zanos4976

4 жыл бұрын

@@SoDamnMetal No u dead

@smittywerbenjaggerman-jens5024

4 жыл бұрын

If you’re hungry 10 secs is also ok

@sneakerheadass978

4 жыл бұрын

Persobe yeah everyone is so damn picky

@alphadogmindset5958

4 жыл бұрын

Its kept you alive and in the game!!!

"Your deepest confidence is not based in controlling the perceptions of others, but embracing the truth of who you are" This is amazing!

@dharmadharma3960

5 жыл бұрын

Emmanuel Díaz didn't expect such good advice

@dannybenhur6123

5 жыл бұрын

Truer words have never been spoken....

@afrosymphony8207

5 жыл бұрын

BARS!!!!!

@franslam7398

5 жыл бұрын

Is this really a revelation though? I get that it's phrased poetically but is it not common sense that when you know who you are and are comfortable and happy with who you are that you tend to develop genuine confidence in yourself and people's opinions tend not to matter by then?

@Bruce_T

5 жыл бұрын

Literally read this as he was saying it.

Recap : 1. The rule of the 3s : maintain eye contact for 3 seconds 2. Show your palms ( it apparently retains people’s attention when you talk ) 3. Move, gesticulate while you’re speaking ( move hands ... ) 4. Commit to what you express ( for example : when you tell a story, do imitations etc ... ) 5. Fully embrace awkwardness : don’t show the embarrassment if you’re disconcerted, go further : for example, if a friend is teasing you, double down the joke, tell your own embarrassing story, etc ... 6. Use words with packed emotions, you can use somehow hyperboles while you’re telling a story for example ... It can be words like : amazing, best, ... to describe little things 7. Have fun with the group, laugh at the jokes ... 8. And the last one ( finally lol ) and the most important : do not pay attention to what people think, it’s worthless, be yourself a 100%

@kalyaninagulapalli9749

3 жыл бұрын

THANK UUU!!

@inooninoon71

2 жыл бұрын

👌🏻👌🏻

@Soona_Paanaa

2 жыл бұрын

You are going to heaven

@Michael23541

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much, not only did u just write points but also examples. It was so helpful when taking note🙏🏻

@RainbowBandana

Жыл бұрын

I now realized why white people always used to boast behind their money and its because of insecurities due to the lack of not knowing how to be human!! Black people we have always been winning without money we just got tricked through the white man knowledge

Well, you know, Tom does it naturally. Its just the way he is. He was raised that way by intelligent, cultured and sociable people. He comes from a very good family. In an interview he said that his parents made the children had to tell stories at dinner. And I assume they, parents, told the stories too and his father is stand up comedian. Can you imagine how lucky this guy is? And besides, when he was a little boy, his parents always made him talk with other adults, their friends etc., to look in the eyes and talk. He said, therefore he had no problem working with adults. And he has been working since early childhood. Of course, Tom being comedian's son probably has an innate comic and presentation talent in him. Plus the observation his parents' behavior, plus the propper upbringing, plus a lot of experience. I repeat, he works in the industry - performs on stage, gives interviews, communicates with a variety of people from childhood. But still that is very good analysis, thank you. Many of us can use this advises, i guess. They are quite available. I think, the main thing is not to be too strict and demanding to yourself. Be kinder to yourself. But move constantly step by step, little by little and never lose hope.

@rubiess5246

3 жыл бұрын

This sis such a true and perfect comment. His life experiences led him to be the person he is today and he’s lucky

@zestooo6932

Жыл бұрын

In a cult? Im curious

@Tigerheiress

Жыл бұрын

Hes also so fine and baby boy

@angusquigley6171

5 ай бұрын

I like that-‘the inner extrovert’-good way to put it. I suppose we all have one!

Tom Holland's storytelling abilities are elite which makes him charismatic

@edin410

5 жыл бұрын

his stories seems fake because he exaggerates a lot

@jajapichai

5 жыл бұрын

@@edin410 k but they fun as hell to listen to

@parkjiminismylight6441

5 жыл бұрын

@@edin410 storytelling doesn't have to be 100% accurate. Actually 100% accuracy most of the time makes you a bad storyteller.

@ivan-py6in

5 жыл бұрын

he tell to much tho

@infernal..

5 жыл бұрын

@@parkjiminismylight6441 damn , my stories are always accurate bc I dont want to lie

"Tutorial: How to be like Tom Holland" Ok I'm listening

@alyssa2807

5 жыл бұрын

Step 1: Always be the most adorable person in the room

@ornos2004

5 жыл бұрын

@@alyssa2807 Step 2: Be awesome

@totallynormalname365

5 жыл бұрын

Step 3: Secretly be Spider-man

@marinovanderzalm8205

5 жыл бұрын

@@totallynormalname365 secretly, not so secretly

@lizisreallycooldudec842

5 жыл бұрын

@@marinovanderzalm8205oh🤭

"give everyone 3 seconds of eye contact" Anxiety and ADHD: you know the rules, and so do i.

@orenmauritzen8674

3 жыл бұрын

*Looking into the ground* I have no idea what you are talking about

@liminal2765

3 жыл бұрын

@Ayor a mm you dont know what you're talking about. i have nothing to make excuses for and im productive and i am very social. yet anxiety and adhd still overwhelm me, and i never used them as excuses. its just mental pain i deal with all by myself. so your point is?

@liminal2765

3 жыл бұрын

@Ayor a some people out there cant control these things, do you think you're making things better? you're only gonna make them feel more guilt and lean towards never talking about their problems, and have them constantly struggle all by themselves. i personally dealt with such problems. nobody ever acknowledged my mental problems, so i just never talk about them again, never mention them, even when it was clear that its taking over, i never mentioned it and i took responsibility. no matter what i did, i always look up solutions, the struggle is always there, if i ignore it it gets worse, if i give it attention i feel more struggle, best i can do is warp my life to fit these struggles. there is nothing else i can do.

@liminal2765

3 жыл бұрын

@Ayor a pretty sure you're respectable human being tho ♡

@liminal2765

3 жыл бұрын

@Ayor a guess i fell for the trap

My fave quote ever goes something like this: "if you can't control something why are you worried/stressed about it? If you can control something why are you worried/stressed about it?" -- whenever I think this I feel a lot more calm and confident. Imagine you are stressed talking and its awkward -- there's nothing you can do anyways. Then your body will naturally relax itself a bit when you realize you are locked in anyways and you will actually be more confident in the moment. This has helped me before exams, interviews, dates, etc..

1:54 Mark Zukerburg: Doesn’t show palms Me:deletes facebook

@milkbread5036

4 жыл бұрын

LOL!

@monstergir1

4 жыл бұрын

F yasss 😂

@AlexisChang

4 жыл бұрын

HAHAH

@riccardodeiana160

4 жыл бұрын

You mean, not just your account, but the entire facebook company, right?

@akshaybhatt9499

4 жыл бұрын

Cause he is not trustworthy

*Awkward moment* My brain : *let's make it extra awkward*

@WesleyWhiteside

4 жыл бұрын

This is a good point. I used to always make awkward situations more awkward, and that didn't help my relationship with friends at all. Sometimes you just got to read the room and not go through with whatever you're thinking.

@raspberryboo2

4 жыл бұрын

since we're here might as well go all the way or like the video says COMMIT

@hornetpilot1817

4 жыл бұрын

@@WesleyWhiteside that just shows lack of confidence. The only reason why you'd make an awkward situation more awkward is to show other people that it doesn't faze you and that they don't have to be faze by it either. And more often then not, you can break the awkwardness by putting other people at ease with your comfort around those situations.

@hairyputter5363

4 жыл бұрын

Meanwhile palms: 'Lets begin the real show'

@tristanjarryforvezina8415

4 жыл бұрын

Some girl: aww man, that joke made we want to kms Me: yes, I have wanted to kill myself too... HaHahA *shoves palms in her face and stares at her for three seconds* CHa cha real smooth

Hey man, I don't know if you are going to read this but if you happen to stumble upon this comment, just wanted to say your channel legitimately helped me go back to the confident outgoing guy that I once was. I went through a tough heartbreak that shook me to the point where for about 2 years I became very insecure and didn't take care of myself physically as well as mentally. Today I went out with a couple friends and a few strangers and for the first time in a long time I felt that I was the leader of that group of people. I felt super confident and really comfortable with myself which definitely put most of the attention on me whenever I spoke. So I'd like to genuinely thank you for these videos. Much love - a grateful subscriber

@anthonyvillella9796

Жыл бұрын

Good for you

I pray that this guy has everything he’s ever wanted in life because this is awesome! Wife, kids, wealth, happiness......he deserves it for teaching people things like this. I just want to say thank you.

when he went "If you're ever feeling awkward, just ask yourself:" my mind immediately completed the sentence with: "What would Tom Holland do?"

@guicaldo7164

5 жыл бұрын

Good advice! If you're in an awkward situation, just start spoiling movies!

@razvanefros411

5 жыл бұрын

Probably do a backflip or spoil the next marvel movie

@sarahq9554

5 жыл бұрын

Do a back-flip while you spoil the next Marvel movie, haha

@helishah6903

5 жыл бұрын

@@guicaldo7164 😂

@georgegertner160

5 жыл бұрын

Spoil the new avengers movie

*awkward silence* me: *shows my hands and starts talking about that time when i pissed my bed when i was 16*

@kaiwalyaghotkar832

5 жыл бұрын

Again awkward silence

@CuboCraaaft

5 жыл бұрын

you made laugh so much 😂 omg

@Driftee

5 жыл бұрын

lmao

@mft5773

5 жыл бұрын

At least you showed your palms so that means you’re not awkward 👌

@MetalGuitarTimo

5 жыл бұрын

maybe you have to be more confident while talking about pissing your bed :D

I finally realized that the narcissist abuse I went through growing up has hindered my sense of humor and chipped away from my confidence. I always thought people were making fun of me out of spite and good to know the difference after watching this video. Sincerely, thanks.

1. Adjust ur body language - 3-second rule of eye contact makes ppl feel included in whatever the heck ur talking about - show ur palms while talking 7:43 makes comments more intriguing to listen too avoids distrustfulness will come across more confidently and trustworthy - embody the ppl ur talking about too 8:47 - commit do whatever you are doing it's our fear of being judged or criticized that causes us to try to draw even less attention. But it is that limited fear that signals discomfort and creates an awkward experience for everyone by committing fully to something you don't want to do, a situation that could've gone terribly becomes one where ur confidence shines through 3:14 so if u do something goofy, whether its intentional or the opposite, ur best bet is to continue what ur doing and go all the way "by embracing awkward situations fully, you show more confidence when every single person on the sidelines" 2. Have fun w/ friendly teasing - take up more space ur being warm by even touching ur friends u show ur not afraid to take control on a physical level. these gestures signal to the group ur not someone who should be piled onto - laugh w/ the group u get to show that you can separate who u are from the part of u that is being teased the embarrassing things that u did in the past don't define who u r if u think about that it's easier to look at them with an element of humor This is what separates the people that consistently get teased from the ones the group gives up on. if u laugh with it, it mostly goes away but even more... - double down on the jokes if u try this, you'll realize it actually puts u back in control of the convo 5:41 Ur transforming a moment where ppl might have laughed at u, into one where ur showing ur good humor and confidence. Amplify the joke and spread the laughter 3. tell ur most embarrassing stories be so good at it that ur friends ask YOU to tell ur own story if u do this, it shows a supreme level of confidence since ur the one that comfortably and comically sharing what most ppl would consider a nightmare 6:52 4. use exaggerated versions of the truth 8:11 ppl need a reason to listen incorporate words that have emotion packed into them "amazing trip" "the best summer of my life" "the most stressful day of my life" 5. let go of imagining ppls opinions of u most of the awareness would just disappear remember: 99% of the awkward situations u will encounter in ur life are made worse bc ur fighting to be perceived in a certain way. relax. its only a perception ur deepest confidence is embracing the truth of who u r MINDSET makes it just flow naturally

@danishsiddiq941

4 ай бұрын

Great

"....less trustworthy...." Shows video of Mark Zuckerberg lol

@JakethThySnaketh

5 жыл бұрын

He's a damn reptilian

@manictiger

4 жыл бұрын

​@@JakethThySnaketh The galactic council of controllers dislikes the term "reptilian". The politically correct term is "scale-people".

@strazniczkanocy5386

4 жыл бұрын

LMAO

@travelwell6049

4 жыл бұрын

It was reference to a previous video about why people don’t trust Mark Zuckerberg.

@alinag9545

4 жыл бұрын

😂

Introverts : oh I see

@mellow9489

3 жыл бұрын

oh i see

@brooke8248

3 жыл бұрын

Lol exactly

I never realized how good he is at public speaking wow

Now I'm more interested at Tom's parents who taught him to be a super likable guy at such a young age.

KZread knows that I am awkward

@excellent9030

4 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂

@sneakerheadass978

4 жыл бұрын

Actually tho الرجل المستحيل

@alphadogmindset5958

4 жыл бұрын

Dammit youtube!!!

@karwat2577

4 жыл бұрын

Zuckerberg told em

@ilanitdorani5377

4 жыл бұрын

😅✌️

*_Gain experience talking to others no matter how awkward you might think you are because with experience grows confidence_*

@Justin-ev8nn

5 жыл бұрын

D D Face your fears. You’d be surprise by how many people would be interested to listen to you!

@HumansOfVR

5 жыл бұрын

@@dd9639 that fact that you even tried is a good start. At first most of us feel the same way, continue to get more exposure until that feeling slowly dissipates and watch your confidence grow. But I need to emphasize the EXPOSURE, talk to at least one person every day! Even if it's a cashier for a few seconds and just continue to add on a little time over the days and weeks

@onawal931

5 жыл бұрын

It makes me soooo tired. I literally do not have the energy level to do things like that for a prolonged period of time.

@onawal931

5 жыл бұрын

I just start shutting down. Which makes everything worse. "Who's the catatonic chick on the sofa by herself? Weird."

@secretprotagonist6241

5 жыл бұрын

@@dd9639 Please dont do it

Tom is a perfect example, I’ve always thought how good he is at handling potentially awkward situations

these videos inspire me to go out and socialize, but covid's a bish

Vid: how to turn awkwardness into confidence Step 1: be Tom Holland Step 2 : be spiderman

@tomdabomb16712

5 жыл бұрын

steampunk hulk video should be named "how does a future multi millionaire who already experienced massive success at a young age manage to act playfully awkward"

@Jarvis23713

5 жыл бұрын

@@tomdabomb16712 agreed

@manictiger

4 жыл бұрын

1. Be rich 2. Be famous

@marcusward6235

4 жыл бұрын

When you can climb walls and swing around Manhattan, you'll have so much energy it'll be hard to be awkward.

@kars676

4 жыл бұрын

But I’m Batman

"Confidence is not based on controlling the perception of others but embracing the truth of who you are" 💯💯💯

@ariadnewolf8667

5 жыл бұрын

Yes! I held tight to that too

@marcomulasso9904

5 жыл бұрын

I think it's both being yourself and using advices about our body language as these are truth about us and how we behave

@TechSupportDave

5 жыл бұрын

@@marcomulasso9904 yeah. rephrased it means to be yourself and accept your imperfections, rather than putting on a difficult act.

@Nicole-xg1yt

5 жыл бұрын

i read this on the exact moment that he said this

@TK-cs1qc

5 жыл бұрын

Aziza Shawdun so philosophical...can you be my mentor?

I can imagine the "commitment" and "take up more space" points backfiring in so many spectacularly humiliating ways I'd rather just be awkward forever.

@erinbailey8792

3 жыл бұрын

yes, smb could wright a brilliant episode in sitcome based on this. :)

@paradoxinmotion

2 жыл бұрын

haha respect

Thanks your channel I literally put myself in awkward situations every single day to practice. I go to places where I don't know anyone that don't matter much and try to converse with random strangers at every opportunity. It helps to practice thanks man this channel has helped me immensely.

I'm only awkward because I never have anything to talk about, ever. Even with good friends and family

@kestanecihasanpubg

4 жыл бұрын

have a hobby other than gaming and anime maybe

@APSTP

4 жыл бұрын

Same. It's pretty sad.

@lynnieebeaniee

4 жыл бұрын

Michael Olawoye you don’t have to have something specific to talk about, people talk about anything and everything. talk about memories, hobbies, something that interests you, something you bought. talk about something significant that happened in your day, talk about the things that are happening around you. even talk about problems. it doesn’t have to be complicated :] you never run out of things to talk about!

@justabovemediocre8911

4 жыл бұрын

@@lynnieebeaniee yea that's good and all, but I have a problem with keeping the topics fluent. I could talk about the best part of my day, but once it's stated, where do I go after that. That's where I struggle most, and I'm sure many more feel the same. You seem to know what you are talking about, plz halp. I deal with this every day in school.

@jeorgosker9368

4 жыл бұрын

@@kestanecihasanpubg I feel personally attacked

Assert dominance by letting out a chainsaw fart to fill the silence

@ilanitdorani5377

4 жыл бұрын

😅✌️

@alexish8183

4 жыл бұрын

💀💀💀

@juliajohnson6629

4 жыл бұрын

How to assert dominance using whale noises

@CodeLife_12

4 жыл бұрын

Gold

@Anthonybrother

4 жыл бұрын

dégueulasse

Something I learned from Tom during an interview was is response to how young he looks. I used to get so offend and back offish when someone pointed out how young I looked. During an interview Tom was told he look so young, and Tom responded with a thank you. I saw how mature that sounded and although he confined to look young the perception of him being young was left and was filled with a sense of maturity.

Learned a lot from watching this video intermittently over this past year. Honestly feel like I've gained some confidence just from watching it. I've had friends "tease" me, and rather than take offence, I joked back at my expense and laughed along with them; the jokes against me soon died. I've been sharing more and more eye contact in groups of people. And just the other week when I arrived at work, there were about 4/5 people that were happy to see me and they all proceeded to chant my name; usually I would curdle myself and shy away awkwardly not knowing what to do. Instead I dropped my bag and started dancing, hahah. Honestly can't believe what this video has done for me.

@zien5911

10 ай бұрын

Hey!!! How are you now?

Mark Zukerburg watching this video to be less awkward: Hey, thats me!! 1:54

@eleniusxx

3 жыл бұрын

This comment is underrated.

@ndrezpz2325

3 жыл бұрын

Lul

@rudra_baldaniya

3 жыл бұрын

Hahaha 😂😂

@louisaamabel708

3 жыл бұрын

IM DYING

@codmlover6008

3 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣🤣😭

Mark Zuckerberg is indeed the best example of what not to do... in any human interaction.

@007Julie

5 жыл бұрын

BlankCanvas88 he's like an alien trying to act like a human, at least an alien would learn eventually how to act convincingly as a human whereas Zuckerberg, well...

@polaroidandroidjeff6383

5 жыл бұрын

Have you seen Theresa May?

@samcox6156

5 жыл бұрын

He can’t be in a human interaction he is a lizard

@redbull456ful

5 жыл бұрын

Sweet baby rays

@maxamillionnyy

5 жыл бұрын

Hesalizard

I was at a family gathering with a lot of people I didn’t know once, and this was when they decided to throw me a surprise party. I don’t like being the centre of attention and there were so many people there I never met so it was reeeeallyy awkward for me. Internally I was really embarrassed and shy and freaking out. Externally however, I played it off in stride, started laughing and smiling, clapped my hands to show enjoyment for their singing, walked around the room waving and thanking everyone. Honestly I don’t even know how I did it. Later, I asked my sister if I looked awkward since that was all I could remember feeling and she said I looked like a queen coming to greet the people. She said I looked so confident and sure. That observation never fails to make me surprised. I guess anyone can end up looking confident even if they don’t feel it.

@florarobinson3656

Жыл бұрын

Fake it till you make it! You got this!!

@dragonhorseandbottle1086

Жыл бұрын

You know, I kind of understand it looks like I am trying to ruine this party, but I think someone has to stop this obsession with confidence. I hate surprise parties, I hate speaking to people I did not choose to speak, and this is absolutely normal. I never pretend I like something I hate. This stop people from giving me these things. I manage any social situation, I like speaking in public, but I also realise that being adorable for everyone is not my friggin goal in life.

I don't think even he knows all these. 😂 it's just naturally comes for him

@orenmauritzen8674

3 жыл бұрын

Maybe one or both of his parents have these skills, if so they are just literal first nature to Tom Parker

Every time i watch your videos i feel like an alien trying to learn how to be hooman

@onawal931

5 жыл бұрын

Hey, at least there are videos!

@bennyboy9628

5 жыл бұрын

You're not the only one.

@utoresa5193

5 жыл бұрын

I always felt like that.

@Bioniking

5 жыл бұрын

You’re one step ahead of Zuck

@kindratia5623

5 жыл бұрын

Hard same.

this man has watched a lot of tom holland cute moments compilations

@wade2482

3 жыл бұрын

LOL

@robertrallo3905

3 жыл бұрын

That means you probably did too

@LisaHall1014

3 жыл бұрын

@@robertrallo3905 We all did...

@ani-ps6wl

3 жыл бұрын

LMAOOO

@nickpenaranda725

3 жыл бұрын

@@LisaHall1014 i don't lol

8:37 I've been doing this my whole life and it's my favorite! Everytime I'm telling a story to my friends, family or strangers, and I make the switch from my normal voice to an impersonation of someone in my story it instantly catches their attention and makes em laugh. 💯

me and my anxiety watching this in the middle of the night like i’m not gonna freeze in every conversation anyway: 👁👄👁

*The key:* Be self ware of your awkwardness and then work towards being more self comfortable.

@Erik20766

5 жыл бұрын

Well yeah but that’s the key to fixing anything, really. It is the hardest part though

@SR77736

5 жыл бұрын

Yes self acceptance is definitely important.

@nhdarling2

5 жыл бұрын

Sure...

@Selendryle

5 жыл бұрын

Know you're awkward and own it. It's whatever

@alexandregrand-pierre1981

5 жыл бұрын

Oml when I become aware of my awkwardness, I become more awkward 😂

#1:Adjust your body Language a.Use the 3 second rule eye contact (unless your talking to one person) b. Show your palm most of the time when speaking (reveal and you'll be more confident/trustworthy) c.Commitment #2.Handle Friendly Teasing a.Take Up More Space b.Laugh With The Group c.Double Down On The Joke #3: Tell Your Own Embarrassing Stories a. Activate The Confident Body Language b.Choose High Impact Words (e.g- "Amazing Trip"," Which I think was the best summer of my life!",That was maybe the most stressful day of my life." ) c.Embody The Characters In Your Story #4: Let go of managing people’s opinion of you a.If You Ever Feel Awkward,Ask Yourself,"What perception am i fighting right now?" And then relax.Because this is just a perception of you :') I'm just taking notes,but you're very welcome! :))

@zanos4976

4 жыл бұрын

I dont even wanna knoe how often this got screen shot :F

@Elizabeth-eh8fu

4 жыл бұрын

lmao thanks, charisma +1

@paardstaart2182

4 жыл бұрын

I just took a picture of this and I'm going to write this down, this is very helpful, thanks so much!!!

@vivmicic9884

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@monstar5746

4 жыл бұрын

Congratulation, you are now not yourself anymore.

what you said around the end about sincerity regarding yourself really hit home. I think a few things finally sunk in for me. Thank you!

this has been recommended to me so many times until i finally gave in and watched it, its like youtube is trying to tell me something

How To Turn Awkwardness Into Confidence . First step : be Tom Holland

@josephfield6903

5 жыл бұрын

Second step: eat a snickers

@TK-cs1qc

5 жыл бұрын

Joseph Field you’re not you when you’re hungry

@Idkmane69421

5 жыл бұрын

chicken legs TV good since I won't be me! :))))

@impulsivebeetle6526

5 жыл бұрын

First step: be attractive congratulations now your flaws are “adorable quirks”

@CEO_of_memes2

5 жыл бұрын

Pack your bags guys y'all failed miserably.

I love how I’m watching these videos like I am alien in disguise trying to assimilate into human society. Edit: this is my first top comment ever, and i must admit i feel nothing. I definitely am an alien.

@StyeAI

5 жыл бұрын

Of course you're not... or are y-... no way.

@alext-rex5492

5 жыл бұрын

well dude you stole this comment :)

@razvanefros411

5 жыл бұрын

Ha-ha, that would be hilarious, fellow human being

@robbwinter8564

5 жыл бұрын

Haha, as a real human being i find this sentence comical, I must laugh. Haha

@lucien3705

5 жыл бұрын

Still can’t do it tho, I have my hands in my pockets am sweating shaking and can’t keep eye contact for more than 3 seconds

I’m becoming more & more awkward after the pandemic. Sometimes during the Zoom meeting I was just cringing by my word/behavior so much. I definitely need this. Also, love Tom.

This was actually helpful and using them display confidence. Just review them often, turn them into a habit, and keep going, and be content with yourself - and you got it.

"Your deepest confidence is not based in controlling the perception of others, but embracing the truth of who you are." This line has gotten me far.

@shareekwillis3934

5 жыл бұрын

Me to adventure time villan or guy that looks evil but is actually pretty chill

@realdrops4671

5 жыл бұрын

Thats a good one

@user-nf3hh8kn5r

5 жыл бұрын

Yep

@aFewBitsShort

5 жыл бұрын

You are a cat?

@shade0636

5 жыл бұрын

Stevepunk Yes.

Didn’t realize Tom Holland was a damn legend.

@Bishesh__5

4 жыл бұрын

He’ll be

@PixelYouTube

4 жыл бұрын

Neither did i lol

I feel like awkwardness turns into a more full and better form of confidence then just flat out confidence

I figured all of this out by myself. Although I never defined the specifics to myself, these are the exact actions I use in a group to communicate properly. Finding this video, and watching it, then realizing what it was felt a little odd. I think of awkwardness in a very specific way. It's a little hard to explain, but the key is to remember that embarrassment and awkwardness are things that are decided by you. If you don't want to feel awkward or embarrassed, you simply negate that feeling. Forcefully, or by easing yourself into it. It's not hard to find out these little tricks by yourself. After all, as long as you look for it, it'll be right there. Think of a way you want to communicate, and who you want to be. Then simply be that person, and be proud of it. Force that personality out and it will naturally merge itself with the conversation. Then everything after that is just you being you, without restraint.

Can you do more videos to help people who think they have a boring personality?

@mmewright3530

5 жыл бұрын

1D8G 4ZPD They're tons of articles on websites and there's tons of youtube videos that talk about that. The main component to boring people , is their everyday scheduled lives. Same routine over and over again. You don't take risks. No passion and fire in your eyes because you never leave your comfort zone. No spontaneous adventures. Not only that, but if you're constantly on social media wasting your life scrolling, it does nothing good. Start reading books that enlighten you on certain topics. Watch documentaries. Learn a new skill. Develop a new hobby. Be unpredictable.

@mmewright3530

5 жыл бұрын

1D8G 4ZPD Boring people 9 times outta 10, have absolutely no substance to their lives. It's not them that's boring, it's their surroundings.

@katarinastojanovic6627

5 жыл бұрын

Care about what you do more, do more of what you care about and own it.

@Kthlnrgn

5 жыл бұрын

If you feel like you’re boring in a conversation an easy tactic is to ask people a lot of questions about themselves and act super interested. People love to talk about themselves, so you’re making them feel good but you don’t have to open up too much. Just work on remaining relaxed (turn towards them, nod, smile, etc) and listening well. This has helped me in situations where I don’t know what to say to someone, whether it be because I’m having an introverted day or the person just intimidates me. Another one is to remember that you’re not as boring as you might think you are. I talk to people about all kinds of random things. They might think I’m weird, but they definitely don’t think I’m boring. You’d be surprised what kind of random topics can fascinate people! Either way, be relaxed, confident, and open. If the conversation lulls, excuse yourself and don’t be hard on yourself because we’re all learning!

@dhdhjhsjjddn1978

5 жыл бұрын

watch his video about sophie turner and keanu revz

Tom Holland really is one hell of a wonderful individual! So charismatic and confident at such a young age. It really is admirable!

@c.j4883

4 жыл бұрын

What does age have to do with being charismatic and confident? I was the same when I was 5 because I wasn't scared of judgment.

@labour_of_self-expression

4 жыл бұрын

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@labour_of_self-expression

4 жыл бұрын

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@Bongbongo

2 жыл бұрын

@@labour_of_self-expression thank you for the launch codes

I’m actually pleasantly surprised how helpful the philosophies and tips in this video are.

Your channel should be taught in high school curriculum everywhere. Thank you for teaching me skills that I never managed to learn before.

This video made me realize that Tom Holland is a genius

@alis7135

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, he probably has high Emotional intelligence:D

@gabia.575

3 жыл бұрын

yeah like wtf Tom is a gift

Instructions were unclear, now im in a relationship with my grandma

@fraserwatsn

5 жыл бұрын

Riich. Lmao

@daddysfreepicks

5 жыл бұрын

Hahaha 😂

@michelle5854

5 жыл бұрын

Awkward..

@gavinreid8351

5 жыл бұрын

You always were. A family relationship.

@koroanime2091

5 жыл бұрын

Sweet home alabama

that laughing one is great! I find it so attractive when people can laugh at themselves

the amount of analysis and contemplation you see in these videos is remarkable.

The thigh thing was definitely a power move

*shows palms* why are your palms so sweaty? *stares for 3 seconds* What the hell is wrong with this guy? *laughs at self* No one else laughs

@seriousperson2065

5 жыл бұрын

I can relate. It pisses me off when people misunderstand meaning of my words and behavior.

@mintz347

5 жыл бұрын

@@seriousperson2065 it's so anoying ikr...

@XRP212

5 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

@Jeffthesog

5 жыл бұрын

underrated comment!

@alastairbieneduardo4351

5 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

The 3 second rule will help in panel interviews. Haven’t tried it but I always get that pit stomach nervousness regardless

usually when I think about the awkward things that happened to me I think about it in a funny comical way, but the advice at 9:37 literally just made me open my eyes and I totally feel different about my awkward memories.

Friends teasing me in public Me: Laughs hysterically along them shows eye contact to everyone while shaking my head and showing my palms to everyone Did I do it right?

@dylana.9057

5 жыл бұрын

Razor Reznov Yep 😉

@miguelcarvalho9551

5 жыл бұрын

JEEZ i laughed so much...

@lizardlenny

4 жыл бұрын

lol

@angelm7088

4 жыл бұрын

T E dudeee🤣😂

@aquariusoul

4 жыл бұрын

Are you a Scorpio lmao

I thought this was a Tom Holland interview, but instead I learned how to be confident. Love it

So this is why I feel so comfortable when watching his interviews😃😄 He is a really good guy🤟

"How To Turn Awkwardness Into Confidence" *shows tom holland*

Yeah. None of this will work on me because I just freeze and my brain shuts down when any hint of stress shows up.

@josephinelaw1332

5 жыл бұрын

“If you have the right mindset, you don’t need the exact technique in every situation... if you just let go of managing people’s opinion, most of the awkwardness (and probably stress :) would disappear.”

@torin6258

5 жыл бұрын

Maybe you need medication

@doritosofasia1912

5 жыл бұрын

I love the difference between the replies on your comment

@rookie-boogie7834

5 жыл бұрын

@@doritosofasia1912 what am i doing here

@Lexender

5 жыл бұрын

If you have an underlying condition you need therapy/medication. If not, therapy is still good. That being, social skills, like any other skill, need to practiced and with time you'll get better.

yea bro it's not like he's a world renowned actor or anything

@wyattvinyard7238

5 жыл бұрын

Oscar Reyes there are plenty of people in the real world that use these things. He’s a world renowned actor because he knows how to act, not necessarily because he is confident. But don’t take that the wrong way; his confidence is the foundation of his acting

@pacoramon9468

5 жыл бұрын

Well he plays the same character all the fucking time.

@verda3665

5 жыл бұрын

You must be fun at parties. I mean I'm not a world known actor I'm in a little theatre group lol, but I'm doing these unintentionally and it worked for me.

@jasonmason6910

5 жыл бұрын

He is still a human being! Just because he’s well known doesn’t mean he’s automatically confident

@caseyryan1

5 жыл бұрын

You know actors aren't acting all the time, right?

I've watched this video so many times and i keep having the same realisations every time. No complaints

I just binged watched 8 videos of this channel and now I am wondering if I ever did anything right in my 37 years of life.

Basically Step 1: be yourself Step 2: embrace your awkwardness Step 3: if someone makes a joke about you or teases you just go along with it

@hairyputter5363

4 жыл бұрын

🖐️🖐️

@alphadogmindset5958

4 жыл бұрын

BE YOURSELF!! BE WHO YOU WANT TO BE

@jacksbackable

4 жыл бұрын

Asdfgh Zxcvbn correct, Show your palms....!!!! ✅

@marcussimiem3553

3 жыл бұрын

You know what I will be what I want! I now am an attack helicopter

@amergingiles

2 жыл бұрын

A bit reductive innit.

I watched this. I'm now in love with Tom Holland.

@ElElefante

4 жыл бұрын

I've also liked my own comment because I've learned nothing

@nami2827

3 жыл бұрын

@@ElElefante 😂😂

@ElElefante

3 жыл бұрын

@@nami2827 Oh hey Nami, how's the crew doing?

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3 жыл бұрын

Woah u weren’t already?

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3 жыл бұрын

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This one on how to turn awkwardness into confidence is one of your best

I took a break to work on mindset. “Perception of you…” very powerful

the situations are made awkward because you're fighting to be perceived in a certain way.... that line hit home

@abigailrobbins1981

5 жыл бұрын

This line might of just changed my life.

Nothing, absolutely nothing can be more awkward than a *handshake fail*

@cincin366

5 жыл бұрын

I'm laughing coz I've had plenty of those.😂😂

@mesmoomy

5 жыл бұрын

Hhhhha for me it isn't.. i just laugh and say "take 2" and we hand-shake again.. sometimes i even say "and now a cool handshake" and we act EXTRA weird and laugh it off. It's HOW u react when the handshake wasn't right.

@pearsemolloy9656

5 жыл бұрын

Yep tried to give a handshake to a guy one time because I thought it would be a pretty standard thing to do but he didn’t follow through with the handshake so we just ended up holding hands... so awkward lol

@twanwillems99

5 жыл бұрын

Just mention its awkward. Chances are the other person finds it just as awkward

@aydenneal1451

5 жыл бұрын

Twan Willems Yeah every time something awkward happens I just say “Well that was awkward!” And we usually both laugh and then can move the conversation without an awkward pause

Watch the video for insight, read the comments for humor LMAO you guys are the best

this is the perfect video for me and it solved my many years problem that i couldn’t figure out thank you so much

All of a sudden, I’m finding myself more attracted to Tom Holland.

@Tianerad

3 жыл бұрын

Makeup Minx 0w0

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3 жыл бұрын

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3 жыл бұрын

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3 жыл бұрын

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@marishajames3581

2 жыл бұрын

@@ferndevil5771 lady this is Keke Palmer.

That umbrella performance he did has now 18 mil. views.Tom went literally hard mode

@stoneheart8231

5 жыл бұрын

I'm sure a lot of the viewers went hard mode too

@dfo990

5 жыл бұрын

i believe that no matter what i would never be able to dance dressed as rihanna in public without freeze or move very rigid in this life.

@dalusgembalus

5 жыл бұрын

His confidence was amazing there

@marz6770

5 жыл бұрын

RiꜱᴇnHᴇᴇd Damn, he can dance O_o

Tom was raised the way he is. I wish I was too 😢 He's so lucky