When I do something embarassing, I end up thinking about it every so often for years. I always wonder if people think I'm stupid for something I did a year ago. Now, I've realized that everyone except me has completely forgotten about it. That really helps.

I was painfully shy growing up and missed out on so much because of it. I have grown out of a lot of it but still have WAY to much of a lack of self confidence. I was lucky enough to find one place in my younger life where I was not shy and was actually outgoing. Looking back on it, the key was really to just trust yourself. Trust that what you say or do is interesting or not going to offend anyone. And, very importantly, get out of the habit of overthinking/analyzing/rehashing things you say and do by trusting that it is fine. I know it is much easier to say than to do but, if you can truly let go and just trust in yourself, things will come together. The problem is that being shy you don't know how and, when you do try, you are really just forcing yourself to pretend that you are confident and that will not work because you try to think if how a confident person would act or what they would say in certain situations. This is not you, this is not trusting in yourself, it is pretending to be the confident person that you are not and people can see through that. Just accept that you are not, currently, a confident person and trust yourself that you are just as good and interesting as the vast majority of people. But note that doesn't mean a no holds bared and say and do anything you want attitude. Trust that you know how to act and what to not say because you do know. Sorry for the long post but, as I'm sure many know, being shy is a very personal and an extremely consuming part of your life.

@g_underscore

3 жыл бұрын

Thxs man imma try thjs

This is 100% me I've always had problems talking to people or stepping out my comfort zone but I'm working on it

@charlowalliset1484

4 жыл бұрын

joseph robinson that’s good keep going don’t give up

@Galaxy_World

3 жыл бұрын

Ye same

@Galaxy_World

3 жыл бұрын

@@charlowalliset1484 ok

@Galaxy_World

3 жыл бұрын

@@Datdoode42069 wow

@Daisy21670

2 жыл бұрын

Me to.

Wanna have a conversation with a shy person? Give them alcohol you will be shocked on how much they are hiding

@mrmoogle2432

4 жыл бұрын

Or cocaine

@bupechikonde1917

4 жыл бұрын

@@mrmoogle2432 i know right 😂

@bjewel3751

4 жыл бұрын

MrMoogle facts 😂🤣

@jonathandiaz-ef6th

4 жыл бұрын

RADIATION so true when i have a few drinks im chatty

@johnpierce3782

4 жыл бұрын

Facts I delfy talk alot wen I'm drunk

it’s christmas eve and everyone is sitting around the table and are talking to each other while i’m sitting on the couch on my phone

@harrisonplott4674

2 жыл бұрын

Me at every family event

If you are reading this: Have a great day, you are amazing☺️

@BigSocksProds

4 жыл бұрын

Stop

@AlejandroGonzalez-wo5fk

4 жыл бұрын

I read have a great gay and I was surprised because thats why im shy lol

@filthyrug

4 жыл бұрын

Im actually crying, this comment made my day. Literally nobody has ever said that to me.

@dimitrakista629

4 жыл бұрын

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@sunray_surfer

4 жыл бұрын

@@BigSocksProds 😂

i'm so shy i shake up and stutter whens someones talking to me but no matter how much i try i only can be confident when speaking to people online

@nisab7199

3 жыл бұрын

BRO RIGHT

@sibelgeorge1379

3 жыл бұрын

Bro iw acted to ask u something.. do u spend ur childhood indoors more?

@adog6704

2 жыл бұрын

I can’t even talk to people online 💀

@kianamcintyre9671

2 жыл бұрын

SAME

@galbro480261

2 жыл бұрын

in this day and age you have to be careful even saying normal average things that piss people off and trigger them.

Also, stop doubting yourself. You are you! You are beautiful and amazing! This might be just a comment, but i mean it! Have an amazing day 😊

I’m so shy at school but for some reason I broke free from it when I’m in public or with people I’ve never seen before

@q_w0ckk

3 жыл бұрын

same btw stop committing tax fraud floppa

2:22 i thought i saw something else for a second

@samriwelkeish7981

4 жыл бұрын

S S you dirty boy lol

@walkergirl2498

4 жыл бұрын

Ctfu

@evelynrincon9047

4 жыл бұрын

😂😭

@grabmethattojifushiguro9701

3 жыл бұрын

Shy and dirty minded yes

I actually found a solution to be confident... Many people are shy because they're afraid of what others will say about them but think of the next : Whenever you want to do or say something in school, DO IT IMMEDIATELY WITHOUT EVEN HESITATING OR THINKING... And IF you thought that people would talk about you.. Just remember that even if you say it wrong or do it wrong! Whatever the others have to say.. It won't even matter in the end, let them say whatever they want because in the future.. Things would still be the same.. In fact to overcome shyness, you need a big experience.. Example my experience of how I overcame it is when i had to give a speech in front of hundreds at school and while going to the stage I actually was shaking but I gave the speech and finished it right and returned smiling... My happiness was unbearable...

another reason as to why I’m this way is because I stopped caring . I stopped caring because others just don’t care about what you say, others will talk over you, not hear you and ignore you because of looks.

like i’m loud around my best friends and people that i feel comfortable around but other people and different classes i get very shy i hate this

@gavingamz3914

2 жыл бұрын

Same here

Shyness and introversion are quite different.

@mrmoogle2432

4 жыл бұрын

Shy person: want to talk to people Introvert: prefers to be alone

@akorthouwer

4 жыл бұрын

@@mrmoogle2432 not necessarily shy people can also be introverts. It has nothing to do with ur preference

@Pinkpilatesprincesss

4 жыл бұрын

Wilson Mpesha I consider myself an extrovert but I’m kinda shy

@bratulescunicusor7211

3 жыл бұрын

I am a introvert and a shy person at the same time I always want to be alone and when im with a group of friends I prefer to stay silent

@wilsonmpesha904

2 жыл бұрын

@SwordieSlice311 One step at a time. Try small conversations first or just say hi and let someone else do the talking. It's a process that just gets easier with time. Just give yourself a small goal each day.

This is me all the way

A shy person lacks self love and respect, thus being insecure about own abilities and worthiness.

Just practice talk to people and you’ll get used to it and learn different type of peoples just try to understand and learn from the experience

why is this exactly what i need

@HUSTLER-AT-HEART

4 жыл бұрын

Haha

You're using the word "antisocial" out of context. What you meant to say was asocial.

well i'll be got danged, top think crawled right into my heart and knew one of my biggest current problems. i never thought me being shy was a problem until i got older and learned as an adult i really need to learn and open up. thank you again top think!😁😁

@TheLadyEmerald809

4 жыл бұрын

im sorry, but i have the most backstage kind of job anyone could ask for, its why ive been at it for most of my life at this point. but STILL, i have to 1)speak to guest/costumers 2)speak to bosses 3)speak to people coordinating schedules or what have u and 4)speak to employees. so yes i know for 100% im an introvert and know i wont suddenly be an extrovert nor want to, but i do have to learn to speak to people without wanting to blow my brains out at the mere thought of doing so. this is still a great lesson to learn

Ok after watching this I noticed something, I'm not anti-social, I just really dislike talking to people.

@GiganFTW

3 жыл бұрын

Because your shy. You are A-social because you are a coward.

All of these are easier said than but if you're able to go through with this, well congratulations you overcame yourself

Me being antisocial cause me to almost lose my Bestfriend aka my girlfriend but thank god I have a great girlfriend who knows me so well that she’s willing to help me through it ❤️❤️

I'm only super social online but I'm super antisocial if it isn't online

I do all of these things and all my life I’ve been very antisocial and my sister has always been the outgoing one.so all my life I’ve always thought I was a disappointment because I could never be up to my parents standards. my parents always yelled at me for being so shy but I never could help it.

Basically, we are in are heads. Like there is a spotlight on our heads. When In fact all people have the same human feels we do. It just they have more experience being around people than we do. So, try and interact more with people . On a small level to saying hi to the person who works in a the supermarket. To a higher level of going out to a new bar to meet people. Find your level to start at and GO AND GET THEM!!!!!

This channel is so dope! 💯👍

This describe s me perfect ly. However it also makes me feel broken

I remember one day me and my friend were going over to other friends houses and asking them if they wanted to ride their bikes to Dairy Queen to come eat with us, then I was riding fast and was in ground of everyone. The thing is I used to be really shy but then started interacting more and talking more but I guess some friends didn’t notice so then my other friend was like “I love how Krayson is in front of the line but he’s so quiet” I FREAKING HATE WHEN PEOPLE SAY IM QUIET OR SHY, it’s so annoying. And not just that, I was over at another friends house 2 weeks ago and as soon as I walked into his house he was like “Hey listen I’m not trying to be rude but why don’t you talk so much and why are you so quiet” I guess he can’t here me because I literally freaking talk a lot and I’m not so quiet but I know what it tells like and I’m pretty sure most of you are like 😑 just like me

@Jordan: If you're having troubles approaching girls... hit up UnbreakableConfidence, com.. Those books are really helpful. The key to having a successful dating life is to detach yourself from the fear of rejection. If you can get to a point where u can approach girls without hesitating.. you'll have so many options.

THANK YOU!

I think the reason i’m shy is because I can’t carry a conversation or I don’t know what to say and I think thats the reason i’m shy is because I don’t want to going and making people feel awkward or making myself feel awkward its just really weird I have a few friends and when I talk to them I feel like they have to ask the questions or it would just be awkward so yeah I wish my brain would come up with better stuff to say :(

@dancingk9233

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you. 🙏 It feels really good to know that I'm not the only one who thinks and feels that way. This is me 100% I needed to hear this. I thought I was the only 1 in this world that had that mindset.

@takentactus8779

3 жыл бұрын

@@dancingk9233 No problem I’m still going through this right now and hope someday that you will get past this as I am trying to right now

@adrianssongs4910

5 ай бұрын

This is exactly what I think but once I started to stay off my phone more I was able to talk more with confidence

This really helped me

I needed this so much. The tone of the video was easy and reassuring

im just thinking about how many people i can actually be friends with if i talk to them like omg

Thank you

Yeah chill approach already. I’m waiting.

Summary: Isolate your failures Find patient friends Imaginary rejection Let go of the reigns The unspoken language Express your ideas Expect the average Stop being shy guys 😊

10:39 a good talking point would be the hair that is chopped off the person on the right

THANK U!!

With this stuff of the pandemic I have become anti social but I am working on ma self

All my life I’ve been like this, shy, quiet, introverted and at this point I’ve pretty much have just gaven up on being social because it’s not going to happen any time sooner. It’s really difficult to be someone your not yk? I would totally love to be super social and outgoing but it’s just not my thing. I prefer peace, and quietness. I love the idea of things but when it happens I feel totally lost. All my life I’ve wished to be more social but that wish is now gone, now I just wish to be happy. It’s all I ask for but it’s difficult. Another reason why I’ve wanted to be more social is bc I crave attention and am a ppl pleaser, yet I never do anything abt it bc I realized that I hate attention. 🧍🏻‍♀️ honestly I don’t even know what I want at this point, I’m just all over the place. Yes I’m using this as a vent post ig. I really need to get myself together

@Brayden-zl9rz

2 жыл бұрын

I'm with you I want to be sociable and want people to talk to me but when they do I try to get the conversation over with as fast as possible but at times I can be very sociable and I think I've got it but it goes away and ig that's why I keep trying because I love the feeling when I was sociable idk any more to be honest I think I'm with you I'm just going to quit trying

I'am afraid that if I speak people will say ''No one cares''

0:41 Did the arrow ever hit the target? I guess we'll never find out.

@magnafire1

4 жыл бұрын

In context, it was not going to hit.

I used to have friends and be quite the “social butterfly until I got older and now I prefer being a loner. Just be your alone you don’t have to be miserable. People are complex and it takes time and energy to invest in relationships. Let your family be your friends and if you don’t have that pets are good too if you have the money and time to care for them properly. ❤ you are not alone! If you feel lonely try working in retail and I promise you, that you will value silence and space for the rest of your life!!!😉

I’m the same way but I’m getting older and it’s a lot better for me

Thank you. I’m trying to make new friends because my last year I lost everyone one of my friends. I only have my self. But honestly, I love that! I rather be alone in school projects. I think I can handle it and I like to have control. But I also want one best friend. Guy or girl.

@azourisuarez4040

2 жыл бұрын

OMG sameeee!!!!!!!!

You might want to reconsider this video. Antisocial behaviour is completely different to being unsocial/asocial.

I like to being shy but if some thing I have to say I say it🌹

The is no cure, I’ve tried everything

Intoverts left the chat.

eyecontact is my ruining when people look at me its like their looking into my soul

the last one hit me hard 😓

ty

I am antisocial and I need to get a job and it will be my first one and I get so worked up just thinking about it because I I’ll see people I know I’m not good with counting money or dealing with people so I’m trying to get a job in storage and my anxiety won’t even let me go in the store to ask for an application I literally hate going out in public because I feel people are judging me I don’t know what to do

That would be scary is there is a pill that helps with that

I have 2 tips that has cured me from my social anxiety and I learned this from my experience. Tip 1: Consider everyone to be an NPC that you have various dialogues to pick a conversation. Tip 2: When you try to say something or approach to someone, count less than 3 and go. I always count to 3 and that's my cue to do anything. I overcame my lack of confidence with this and I hope it will to someone too.

@ronevlogstv

4 жыл бұрын

Bruh you treated it like a game

@nori-wr

4 жыл бұрын

@@ronevlogstv Whatever method works for you do it. This is mine

Honestly for me it’s getting bullied since I was in 1st grade I am in 11th now so I am always awkward and 2 perfectly describes me

The thing is I’m not even really shy I’m just a little awkward around new people and surroundings and sometimes my friends like I tend to focus on my phone but mainly listen to music while they’re talking

@2fast260

2 жыл бұрын

same

I really can’t because I had that problem before all this

Super Nintendo at 4:55........good times

I’m so anti social i will start getting nervous, and panic and start gripping my hands hard

I agree😀

Bro the quarantine had me fucked and still fucked socially I was so social previously, but now I just don’t talk to people i have a strong fear of rejection so I don’t try to initiate conversations

@shanegrant6454

2 жыл бұрын

Facts

aside from working on my own shyness, i have to look out for mean people

@therandomizer03

3 жыл бұрын

Feel u bro, just dont think to much

Hi all my other shy friends

i have a question my problem its like the exemple num one. if somebody forget my name or the last conversation we had. thats when feel sad i feel bad because i feel asshame i feel im to small and to avoid that feeling i prefer dont talk with nobody to dont leave a space to make me feel bad. so what would be the area that i have to work it ? would be with self steam? what could be my issue or im just so shy ?

How to over come the communication barrier and how to improve that can u explain!!!!!!!!!

In your video you clearly didn’t state that antisocial is not the correct term when talking about shyness or being an introvert , but in your description you have a source that says don’t say you’re “ anti-social “ but never follow up with using that in your video. Your title is a reason why those in our society continue to mislabel themselves , anti-social is used for an disorder that correlates with being a sociopath. Now some people may really be antisocial but shy and antisocial do not go hand in hand and you should remove it from your title , and use the correct terminology which is asocial.

When I play social apps like Rec Room, I can’t make myself come to talk to anyone XD

I wouldn’t say I’m shy since I’m the “class clown” of the class but I’m still pretty anti social and lackin is social express

What has being shy got to do with 'antisocial' ??

I think my recommendations are trying to tell me something

Shy is the same thing as anti-social, as far as others see you. Person is really more disliked than even arrogant, rude, loud, show off types. They will never say that though. The reason is other people think your dumb, just stupid, or mean. It's really a bad way to be. I was like that at one time. Absolutely no friends. Family even disliked me. But I learned to reach out, say something. I'm still a introvert though, and I hate people all ways need attention and noise. But now, I will tell them to their face "shut up" !!!!

I’m in high school and when my cousin tells me why I don’t hang out with my friends it’s because I’m shy

This is 100% me

I love being antisocial

This is the weirdest channel I know. Has clickbait title and shitty thumbnail that makes me expect some guru to just give some useless advice. But then I watch the video and it actually has reasonable advice. And this is with EVERY TopTink video I have seen

My social awkwardness increased after quarantine……

in my defense (before watching this video) i dont like the people i currently work with or live with(renting a room in a house) i have been social in the past i am an introvert, so i dont like small talk i dont want to be in a romantic relationship, just to have sex or to not be alone all signs point to antisocial or shy, but im not stupid. i dont think im antisocial or shy, i just not stimulated or impressed by the people im around on a daily basis

@iboremytherapist

4 жыл бұрын

oh, and i hate homosexuals

@turkeybut

2 жыл бұрын

Facts

all you have to do is go out in public and look at people faces and demeaners that will make any educated smart person anti-social. and all you have to do is speak the truth on stuff then they will hate you even more. but you will be more accepted have more friends be invited to parties etc. if you have more flaws because then you wont be indirectly judging them.

I'm not a introvert passe but for reasons am yet to figure out, I come off as weird

i don't agree with shy people hanging out with shy people. u learn from people what you don't have. one of my best friend in highschool is a comic. i was the shy kid. he brought out lots of extrovertness in me. i'm still on the shy side but not as much.

@KSi-nj5ee

4 жыл бұрын

A shy person hanging out with a shy person may be good for some as it can help to have a friend that understands exactly how you're feeling and some to better communicate with

Confident asf watching this so now you boosted my ego hehe

"Reins" is misspelled. "Reigns" means something very different. Nobody proof-reading?

Did anything bad happen today. YES, I MADE MY RUGBY TEAM LOSE 88 TO ZERO.

Is this narrator from Top Think a psychologist?

goddamn it! this whole time as an introvert, i dont like small talk cuz its boring / pointless

I really hate being anti social but this r solid advices

I'm just scared of humans

@turkeybut

2 жыл бұрын

What the hell

Not shy I don’t how to start a conversation

@karstenfuglsang1638

4 жыл бұрын

Start how are you.. it's easy

it’s christmas eve

I'm watching this in my underwear at 4 in the morning drinking gin and sparkling apple juice from a 7/11 plastic disposable wine "glass" at the age of 25 in a small studio apartment on my birthday. Just typing that makes me loathe myself even more. This unchecked anti social problem is manifesting it self in a more obvious form. Fuck

@kopiovastaava4648

3 жыл бұрын

You don't even know what "antisocial" means, so be quiet.

I'm even scared to go mart and go online classes I wanna live life but my anxiety is stopping me.. I need help!!

@jianawilliams724

3 жыл бұрын

I am too so you're not alone =(

I smoked a lot of herb and got a job in retail to cure my shyness

@davidmerco7724

2 жыл бұрын

me pasa lo mismo, eso me esta quitando mucho tiempo soy asocial

Being asocial is not a disorder or a disease, as far as the diagnostic criteria goes. A Behavior vs a disease or disorder ,are two different things. For example: Sociopaths often display anti social behavior, and some people who are on the autism spectrum can have asocial tendencies. Asocial behavior or antisocial behavior are behaviors that can be identified. It’s not a diagnosis in the scientific literature. For example a person can display anti social behavior patterns for a time in their life. Most criminals are Actually not sociopaths ( some are Obviously), But many are not. And they commit horrible crimes still and were Capable of really hurting people. I can chose not to Socialize with my peers by not going to the party and staying in for the night, this is asocial behavior. this doesn’t Necessarily make me autistic. Just because autistic people can be asocial doesnt mean every person who has Engaged in asocial behavior has autism.

Does anyone know exactly what is going on at 2:22? 🤔

@samriwelkeish7981

4 жыл бұрын

La Rosa getting out of comfort zoom

That me

Asocial*

You need to edit the title of this video to "How to stop being shy and ASOCIAL. ANTI-SOCIAL means you are mean, and have a predatory mindset. There's a reason why sociopaths and psychopaths are diagnosed as having Antisocial Personality Disorder. These people, and anti-socials who aren't ASPD, are not the least bit shy or suffer from confidence problems. Quite the opposite actually... they aren't afraid of anyone and can get you to grovel at their feet if they're slick enough. Shy and asocial people aren't able to do this.