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@RebeccaZungEsq

3 жыл бұрын

I will be there live to answer all your questions. Can’t wait to see you there!

@desireesnyder3364

Жыл бұрын

the nepotism in the courtroom makes it impossible to defeat this.

@LION-on4gd

Жыл бұрын

🎯🌞

@user-ki8mg5jh3n

26 күн бұрын

In other words, narcissist survive on survive on destroying everything good around them and without destruction. They cannot survive because their survival mechanism. And its existence is to lie to see you destroy

@user-ki8mg5jh3n

26 күн бұрын

Narcissists always have us tangled in their drama exaggerated stories They always have some bogus complaint.Luring idiots into feeling sorry for them They never tell you the truth about how they really are because they would get dumped on their face in a minute if you found out I no longer value the narcissist nor their fake friends.Because if they were decent human beings they would try to help demand or at least discouraged the wrongful attacks on Innocent decent, good people that they know. Or don't know, but assume without smelling. The fishy station where what this narcissist dictates, is a logical irrational makes no sense and is living a complete lie. At my expense as a silent superhero pulling off the impossible I have no f to give she took them all

“When a toxic person can no longer control you, they will try to control how others see you. The misinformation will feel unfair, but you stay above it, trusting that other people will eventually see the truth just like you did.” - Jill Blakeway

@gingertully3505

Жыл бұрын

This is so true. My oldest son devistated me. He destroyed all my relationships I had with family friends and my own husband that wasn't his biological son but we been married 30 years and my husband loved me so much that he seen right through all his crap. Today my son and I don't speak at all but that was a decision I had to make 2 months ago. It has got so out of control that he even went to my pastor and told him a ton of lies on me. I don't get why he hates me so bad. I thought I raised him good. Somewhere I had to of failed him. I feel so guilty and wished I knew what could make it stop and make him feel better so he wouldn't attack me in such a mental way.

@evelina787

Жыл бұрын

@@gingertully3505 God bless you 🙏Truly feel your pain & it is so upsetting Did your Son have someone else a powerful strong influence in his life whom could've poisoned your nme & mde him think badly of you? This is what it seems like Did you ever @sk him? Someone did this, tried to poison someone extremely precious' nme to me, when i ws a Child They told me lies about someone extremely precious & importnt & yes tempor@rily, i believed the lies But thank & pr@ise God i went to the precious person whom ws being lied about & told them /@sked them if the lies were true & they were given the chance to clear their nme But if i hadn't i wouldve continued believing these lies & their good nme wouldve been poisoned I'm so wondering if this is wht's happened to you & i pray you get the chance to confront him Ple@se try to discover mend your rightfully good nme God bless you You deserve the best ✨☘️🙏

@kimcarter1383

Жыл бұрын

EVELINA…thank you for your honest words! Saying to “STAY ABOVE IT” was just what I needed! GOD BLESS YOU😘

@evelina787

Жыл бұрын

@@kimcarter1383 Thank You for your lovely comment dear Kim God bless you million times ✨☘️🙏Sincerely hope life's now treating you extremely kindly & now you have such brilliant aware ness, you can steer clear of the oftentimes negative effects of their mind g@mes :- You're worthy & deserve much better treat ment, completely ✨☘️🙏

@nigelmccray9616

Жыл бұрын

We cant help how people turn out... you mentioned your pastor, so in the Bible it talks about king Manasa who's father raised him good but he wanted to live how he wanted to... plus even God's own sons turned against him and who could be a better parent than him. So don't let his behavior get to you stay strong and stay positive 😎🙏

It's easier to make somebody believe a lie than it is to make somebody believe they've been lied to.

@targetedtyranny4661

2 жыл бұрын

People will believe bad quicker than good, or gossip.

@GothicUndone

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely! Going through it right now. And before I realised what was going on I fell into their pushing of all my buttons. They have effectively turned the majority of my family against me (they are a member of my family). That wasn’t enough even when they got my angry incredulous reaction - They even attempted to turn my own husband against me. So now regardless of who this person was to me. Now my husband, my child and I will be moving away from them all & only have minimal communication if ultimately necessary with the one or two of the family members. Maybe. But as for them. Gone.

@thirst4knowledge676

Жыл бұрын

Love this

@targetedtyranny4661

Жыл бұрын

I think its easier to believe bad than good, people today I think are very much different because of social media, quick to tear down, people seem to love grouping up to destroy, can you imagine the good that could be done if as much went into it as they do with this gangstalking thing?

@Soothsayer937

Жыл бұрын

Love that. Also, a lie can travel around the world before the truth can get its boots on.

I’ve been the victim of a smear campaign all my life! Literally as long as I can remember! I have a envious narcissist cousin that recruited our other cousins as her flying monkeys. Before I discovered narcissism I thought it was so strange that they hate me but they all look up to me & copy my personality, style, hobbies, etc. I’ve been no contact for over a year now it feels great.

@montanamvk

3 жыл бұрын

Congratulations Alexis!! N w family, too!!? You have awesome strength!! 💜🤗

@SP-li7wn

3 жыл бұрын

My Aunt always said negative things to my cousins about my hair, Starting at age 2-3 years of age, my cousins were confused because they loved me. But it was just the starter campaign for her to continue attempting to separate us. In my case, I believe she was jealous of my connection and heart with others. She then did same smear campaign against her my uncle to try to steal his business and also to her own daughter, with same hair color as me, and she died of a broken heart.

@rogue6344

3 жыл бұрын

@@montanamvk Thank you I appreciate that! I have to be strong because I have no other choice. My cousins were horrible but the biggest baddest narcissist I had to face was my own father 😢 I am low contact/grey rock with him.

@rogue6344

3 жыл бұрын

@@SP-li7wn Yes same here my family always has something to say about my hair color, piercings, tattoos, clothes, etc. anything to do with my outer appearance. I am a sweet, beautiful, kind person & that’s why I was scapegoated.

@dutchessofcreativity9397

3 жыл бұрын

Had a friend who copied my voice even...and my makeup..she did Smokey eye... she stopped...as I was more simple classy... she told me her boyfriend said that she now sounded like me....she even used to ring up men and say sexual things and he thought it was me...only one occasion I knew of...she rung a guy in front of me saying I thought his nose was really sexy....so when I saw him he rubbed his nose on me the whole time... we didn't sleep together as he was kind... but he was so lovely and sweet... but I couldn't date him due to my friend doing that... and I couldn't explain it to him either....do wonder if she rang up other men....hmmm

I recently had a lightbulb moment when it comes to smear campaigns. As painful as they are to experience, it can be the best thing that ever happens to you because to defeat it this requires that you draw ALL of your energy away from it and back to yourself and start to value what YOU think more than what even a whole group of people think of you. Hard to do, but you can only do it when you are centred within yourself and able to ALLOW others to think as they will, without needing to control it. It is one of the best ways that a codependent person gets a wake up call and finally heals their wounds so they can move forward in life healed and with ALL of their power drawn back to themselves.

@indynadeau4908

Жыл бұрын

Doing it right now.

@peacedove1182

Жыл бұрын

This is so true.

@PoetiK_JusticE

Жыл бұрын

It’s also a blessing because it often makes them mad, Which makes them throw a tantrum, act out, & react in a way that allows a victim the proof and enough ammunition to FINALLY hold them accountable. Legal proof for protection orders, harassment charges, etc. As a victim of a Narcissist that I have children With, then the only hope for escaping their toxic abuse forever and to have the ability to heal, is to create legal walls between him and yourself so they are forced to be held accountable by the law. It’s the only way in my opinion!!!

@revolutionunderground

Жыл бұрын

Codependent is now considered a derogatory victim blaming term, because it is.

@revolutionunderground

Жыл бұрын

@@PoetiK_JusticE YES! SAME HERE

A smear campaign is a wonderful opportunity to find out who your friends are, and to separate out the flying monkeys. Once you learn the gray rock technique, all the crap will roll off your back and you can grow as if there is no tomorrow, even if it is your family.

"IGNORE. Don't give it any life."

@user-ki8mg5jh3n

26 күн бұрын

Narcissist don't have a life so they try to pull your life down Narcissist don't want anything good with potential to flourish

@user-ki8mg5jh3n

26 күн бұрын

Narcissist can make you sick They need to learn their lesson the hard way because they don't ever appreciate good people I just can't believe how stupid idiots are to believe or want to believe what the narcissist is mirroring about their target. Who likely is innocent while the narcissist exaggerates while discouraging you from thinking critically to figure them out. Narcissist want you to brainlessly.React like a pendulum swing.Or else it won't be your friend unless you're a good puppet on a string like an idiot useful idiot

My older sister and my son are both narcissists and have conducted (are still) smear campaigns against me. This has resulted in tremendous losses for me in family relationships as well as very public humiliations. I've lost so much, even my good name, to these horrible people. Saying just to ignore it is not helpful. The helplessness is enraging and heartbreaking. I've wanted to end my life because of this. There is no solution, no reaction, and people just don't go to the person being maligned at all, but choose to believe what they're told. It's evil and malicious. And devastating.

@summerfowler3723

4 ай бұрын

And all thier flying monkeys are passive aggressive

@lisabowden402

2 ай бұрын

I’ve had the very same thing, BUT when I removed myself from it , and really looked at what losers these abusers are, it helped me so much to see how much better I was than they will ever be. Much of their motivation is out of jealousy . They are jealous of who you really are! Please believe and realize this.

@diannebrett4074

2 ай бұрын

It’s my mother and stayed enmeshed because of my sister with MS who passed away last year and my father who also passed last year. 58 years old. All extended family thinks I’m the monster. It’s so awful, there are no words. If you haven’t lived it, you can’t imagine it.

@lisabowden402

2 ай бұрын

@@diannebrett4074 I agree. It’s horrible and I just about lost it , completely. If not for my faith I wouldn’t make it. My mom would be overjoyed to know that she caused pain to me or anything that would happen . That’s enough to keep me going. I’ll live to be against her.

@codrake784

Ай бұрын

Hi there. I have a sibling who has inherited the same trait as our father. A complete Dr Jekel and Mr Hyde and tries to manipulate me all the time. He accused me of something I allegedly did to coerce my father to alter a document. When I showed my sibling a copy of the letter that my father wrote out, it actually proved that I was completely innocent and whilst my sibling was reading the document I was shocked to see that no tantrums was being displayed. So far, to date, no apology has been given. We have another sibling that needs looking after, and it is bloody nightmare. I do know the feeling that you are going through.

The most damaging person to a narcissist, is themselves. They are truly their own worst enemy. The pain that they have to deal with everyday is unbearable and that's why they lash out on other people as a prey as a life blood source.

@marydonovan6681

3 жыл бұрын

I agree they are tortured souls.

@AllUCanEatChurros

2 жыл бұрын

Plenty of us had abusive childhoods and do NOT go on to abuse others.

@signe8321

2 жыл бұрын

@@AllUCanEatChurros But we non-narcisist - that sometimes were also abused - are everywhere on the internet. Here we are everybody. But in real where are we?

@ashchan0504

2 жыл бұрын

This is NO excuse for a narcisst. They just DONT WANT to heal.

@msjannd4

17 күн бұрын

@@ashchan0504 They are sadistic and get a kick out of hurting others.

You really have to look at them for what they really are broken children in an adult body

@vickipacheco9787

3 жыл бұрын

I'm done, cant Fix broken. Only GOD can be the answer for their Narcissist disorder. My question is, some people have Horrible beginnings and they don't sell out and becomes an EVIL NARC. Were is the tipping point??? Some bloom into an Empath, a light in this Earthly experience. Shut them down!!! 1 in ten are Narcissist 's ??? I work with the public with a Nursing company. HAWAII 30 yrs. Here on Maui.It's not paradise anymore.🌴🌺🌴The Narc Capital of the World.!!!

@selfproclaimedesper778

3 жыл бұрын

Oh god i love this comment

@Sunshine-vu6ie

3 жыл бұрын

@@vickipacheco9787 God showed me who I thought was my sister in a dream choosing to continue to suffer. They chose to continue suffering. They don't know what they really done. So sad for them God showed me she is now full possessed God was using me to speak to her in real life and in the dream I was speaking to her but she ignored what I said she had grey paint under her eyes and she reached for more grey paint to put under her eyes while she continued crying. I remember thinking in the dream your hurting why do you want to keep hurting more it's so sad. God also told me she chose to believe the lies of Satan. She may not have known it was the devil but its the feeling and you recognize how painful it feels I felt the same I didn't know it was the Devil but I refused to believe what I was feeling and the thoughts I was having God was with me and as time went on God showed me this was the Devil making me feel that way it wasn't me. I am 24 she is 18 she was the golden I am the scapegoat. I also felt in my spirit satan laughing at her saying " I fooled you" God is greater please choose God HE WILL SAVE YOU AND HAS A PLAN FOR YOU I didn't let the Devil stomp all over me and wipe his shit in my face don't you either!! God is coming back!!

@marydonovan6681

3 жыл бұрын

Well said

@accountcompromised2166

3 жыл бұрын

I agree, I noticed that the female and male narcissist are quite immature they enjoy turning people against each other and pretending like they are everyone's friend. The term "divide and conquer" applies to narcissist.

Just yesterday a flying monkey and I had a real honest talk where she admitted that I wasn't doing anything that she'd heard. Finally she admitted that the narcissist was a liar and disrespectful. What helped change her mind was that she saw me in creation mode not giving energy to the narcissist or anything he's doing.

@TheTea247

2 жыл бұрын

This comment is very helpful. Thank you for sharing it. I’m going through something similar and my response was to continue creating and doing what I enjoy, and she smeared that as well. I’ll continue doing me and let her continue to be a harassing, bullying sociopath. Thank you for this.

@humblebeginnings5826

2 жыл бұрын

God bless you, I'm glad God granted you such Grace

@Thysta

Жыл бұрын

Now that sounds credible. The real you became visible, and since the narcissist has none, truth became clear!!

@spacecatmowgli4723

8 ай бұрын

So true. People see YOU doing YOUR thing. You FOCUSSING on YOURSELF. You, thriving. Not being impacted by the negativity shows that apparently that negativity wasn't real. It wasn't worth it for you to pay attention to it, even when it should've affected you. that's what the other people see. You're so right. They see you create, and focus on you and get things done and get things out there. That doesn't add up with the negativity they heard about you from the narcissist. It shows you're not impacted, and the info therefore must be bullshit. You set an example, and all other people can do is either look up to you, support you. And if they don't and stay jealous or angry - then that's none of your problems!

@gladiammgtow4092

4 ай бұрын

Careful - one a flying monkey always a flying monkey.

I've dealt with a smear campaign for 14 years.....I'm finally starting to get my name back.......the more I fought the smear or tried to prove the ex narc false..the more people actually believed the narc. So I went silent...stayed silent and it took time but people have figured him out. Plus now hes going through another* divorce so hes a little busy...ha.

@joycec.5395

3 жыл бұрын

You are giving me hope 14 years? I am on year 15 so maybe I can outlive his lies.

@aspire8298

3 жыл бұрын

Wow, congrats. Wishing you the best.

@elizabethandiosa4579

3 жыл бұрын

@@joycec.5395 it's not worth your health or peace of mind. Plus they become more abusive with age. They could poison you to make it look like an illness or worse. Very often not able to prove you were poisoned. Many drugs poisons do not show up in standard lab work. Plan your escape. Do not tell him. That's when they're most likely to be homicidal and murder you or try.

@JoinUsForDailyPrayers

3 жыл бұрын

Waw

@pointsbeingmade7996

3 жыл бұрын

Same it ruimed my whole career.

I’m so tired of their dirty work!

@tcbcmoto4895

2 жыл бұрын

I'm the same they are fake jealous miserable people God bless us 🙏

I am proud to say I have successfully shut down their stupid smear campaign and exposed the narcissist! After 13 years of abuse I finally took this step

@reginapolo3357

3 жыл бұрын

Congrats. Please stay strong

@lemusiciensolitaire8792

3 жыл бұрын

Please share how!

@CarolDudeck-bl7kz

3 жыл бұрын

I know exactly I was so tired of the lies, triangulating, gaslighting and deflection!🥶

@vibe_oli

3 жыл бұрын

I'm going through this now 😑 I'm to the point where I dont care what he says about me to others. They can believe his lies but I dont. Hold on to yourself! Its so important.

@joycec.5395

3 жыл бұрын

You are fortunate to have been able to do that. None of the people my ex talked to would even speak to me after he was finished with his smear campaign. They ran from me.

Thank you Rebecca. I am finally divorcing him after 40years.

@reginapolo3357

3 жыл бұрын

Stay strong honey!

@freedomrings2830

3 жыл бұрын

I too, after 43 years am on my way to peace and freedom! What other people think of me,is none of my business! No contact , no response!

@accountcompromised2166

3 жыл бұрын

Congratulations, Celebrate you. I am currently going through a divorce from an evil Narcissist.

This is 100%%%% my ex husband. Smear campaign in my small town and I just don’t care anymore. It drives him crazy that I am happy and don’t give him the time of day.

@user-of9bx1uk3u

3 жыл бұрын

Winning!💖

@christianpulisic7784

3 жыл бұрын

Katrina,You are beautiful 🌹🌹🌷,you don't need a narc 😈 in your life!!

@Mushroom321-

2 жыл бұрын

👏👏👏

You can't ignore them. As an example at work, a young lady came up to me, crying, and said that I called her a sl*t. I found out that some narcissist told her that, and pointed out that I wouldn't say that about anyone, and I wouldn't - ever. If I just ignored it, she would have continued to believe it.

I moved out yesterday. He tried to get into my head the day before. “I love you”, “I miss you”. Etc. I feel freed!

@jonathan3752

3 жыл бұрын

stay strong they don't give up easy

@vivianejik2138

3 жыл бұрын

Awesome. You're free

@tonyacarpenter4983

3 жыл бұрын

@@jonathan3752 really!!!! I hope to stay strong!

@lovewhitey2027

3 жыл бұрын

@@tonyacarpenter4983 U can do this block, change # whatever it takes 🗣✍🏻📱

@reginapolo3357

3 жыл бұрын

Stay away. Don't look back please. It will be rough at first but it will be so much better. Love

The thing that sucks the most is when they set you up, call the police, try to have you arrested, get a protective order against you, and spread their venom to everyone you know and affecting your employment.

@malaika4960

3 жыл бұрын

Mine tried that He called the police and was arrested himself. You should have seen the death stare he gave me!!! 😅😅😅😅😅. I think he is a psychopath 🤔. Can't fix stupid though! God does not like ugly 🙌 🙏 😌

@d.w.7114

2 жыл бұрын

The narc kept threatening to have me arrested. He called the police on me when all I was doing was folding laundry and getting ready for bed. The police told him to stop wasting their time and told me to leave him. I left a week later. He also threatened to ruin my career several times. I actually decided that the best thing for me was to move far enough away from that area to protect myself in my career.

@charlenekelley7268

2 жыл бұрын

This happened to me. My ex mother in law thought nothing of calling the police repeatedly, saying I was abusing her son. Called my employer anonymously of course trying to get me fired. Finally the police refused to come out. They can do a lot of damage. Takes years to repair, if at all. Thank you for this video, very helpful.

@kikataye6293

2 жыл бұрын

@@charlenekelley7268 wow! She was nuts!!!

@Jackgritty28

2 жыл бұрын

How do you deal with it,get rid of narcissist,a smear campaign requires slander,you don't need to feel victimised,why insist on the pursuit of it,take care,don't doubt yourself,if it doesn't sound plausible,ask to illicit a proper response,respond to it by denying any untrue illegal allegations,try to ignore it,they are evil people who should be ignored,don't engage in conversation with them,without their narcissistic supply,they will suffer,focus yourself and deal with it appropriately✔️✝️💲

If your circle believes their lies, you might want to check the people in that circle. The smear campaign came down on me too, but my friends actually fought the narc back; cursed her out; rejected her attempt to smear me right away.

@jamesrutter4100

Жыл бұрын

My sperm donor tried smearing me at work. It didn't work because they all know my work ethic. His fantasy role of scapegoat and useless loser fell on deaf ears and he could not believe it when people called him out on it immediately. He slipped and said something under his breath about how he didn't understand how I was respected enough that NO ONE believed a word he said

✌😂They can smear all they want, I already walked away/no contact from them all (fam of origin) just over four months ago. New town, new business, new people, fresh start, all is going exceptionally well and my new business has already begun generating income, so far it has earned more than triple what I spent setting it up from scratch. 👍☺👌

@annknower4603

3 жыл бұрын

Way to go!! I had a guy try this with me. He knew how private a person I am, so he purposely tried to get the town talking bad about me. What an absolute CREEP! I moved to another state and am going to ignore the hell out of him from now on!

@lauraoverstreet9987

3 жыл бұрын

Congrats!!!

@accountcompromised2166

3 жыл бұрын

Congratulations to you for moving forward💃

@accountcompromised2166

3 жыл бұрын

@@annknower4603 I understand, I am a very private person and I had no online presence whatsoever. My narcissistic ex used my name pictures put them on several social media sites and created bogus profiles using my name info. 2 years after the fact i am still trying to get the rest of this bs removed.

@theweirdsistersoracle2

3 жыл бұрын

That's awesome! I've done similar. Moved 3000 miles from home, doing things to better myself, slowly but surely my business is doing better, and they all hate it. I don't care. I'm done listening to them try to guilt me into moving back, you know, "I don't care if you're happy, we can't see you, so move back and be miserable so we can be happy." kind of thing. I feel so much more free than I ever have!

My ex husband has created himself an entirely new reality and rewritten our history completely to anyone that will listen. Anyone that matters knows the truth. I'm finally in the stage where I no longer feel the need to defend myself. I leave it simply "your perceptions are your perceptions" and I move on.

@damianavegamaisonet7960

3 жыл бұрын

It is so perfect when you see the monster and know that you no longer feel the need to defend yourself. Forget that crap. Its a waste of your precious time. It is absolutely exquisite to be free. Keep loving yourself and never go back

@constancedenchy9801

3 жыл бұрын

Mine created a whole new fabricated life. He refers to beating my face and cheating on me as "when I was younger I made bad choices"

@kategould4857

3 жыл бұрын

He has to believe that b.s. he has created or face the reality that he is not perfect. It must be exhausting twisting everything in his ickle mind, oh well!

@lauraoverstreet9987

3 жыл бұрын

Try to keep person info. Private! Get a safety deposit box..even a p.o. box and mail it there.

@accountcompromised2166

3 жыл бұрын

Im going through a divorce right now from an evil physically abusive drug addicted thieving man. He was robbing me blind in our own home. 🤔

What I suddenly thought when dealing with a narc's derailing of my thoughts, was: "What am I not doing while I'm paying attention to this?" That gave me clarity.

@chriswinter8255

3 жыл бұрын

That is a perfect way to describe an all too common mindset in this situation.

@cara0405

3 жыл бұрын

yup!

@maca5868

3 жыл бұрын

Excellent comment

@angaeltartarrose6484

3 жыл бұрын

all my former bf wanted was every single second of my attention & life.

@MyOver50

2 жыл бұрын

Great idea!

Spot on in my experience, you will not win with a narcissist they endlessly play games, shutting them down and easing them out of your life is the best way to go.

@edwardc6288

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely, ignoring totally plus no contact beats the narc down. With regards to the smear campaign, its essentially out of your control, so I guess just remaining positive and confident and knowing who you are is the best path to take.

I was attacked and smeared by my MIL for YEARS! I was and have been deemed as a “strong” person for getting through it, but can tell you it hurt a lot. I mean she made it ALL up. It was scary & mind boggling. She won a few outsiders, but I know she lost the smear war. I chose to ignore and believe it worked. I feel & felt an emotionally intelligent person will see through it. Best wishes to any who is dealing with a smear campaign.

@mariadesol5821

2 жыл бұрын

I SINCERELY COMMEND YOU FOR SHARING THIS AND YOUR STRENGTH AND EFFORT TO OVERCOME THIS. I LITERALLY FIND IT SO DIFFICULT TO GO OUT IN PUBLIC BUT IM KEEPING IT TOGETHER UNTIL IT ENDS. THANK YOU FOR SHARING THIS. IT HELPS SO MUCH FOR ME TO STAY POWERFUL AND POSITIVE ENERGY MOVING FORWARD

@rachelflemens7926

Жыл бұрын

Thank you

..duct taping their mouth and putting them in the basement.. hahahahaha!! made me laugh out loud 😂 one can dream right lol

@judiezell4306

3 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣🤣❤

@lynnoe6147

2 жыл бұрын

Lol!!! I have definitely felt like that too.....duck tape their mouth

@Naturevsnurture86

2 жыл бұрын

Gave me a laugh she is right

@Naturevsnurture86

2 жыл бұрын

Shut them down

I've had this problem with a sibling. I didn't know what a narcissist even really was, until I started researching this type of behavior, then it it all made sense.

Being a kind, helpful and empathetic person, I (unknowingly) was a magnet for narcissists...not so any longer (but unfortunately too late to avoid their successful smear campaign.) What these evil people do is purposely destroy lives. The ONLY person they care about is themself, and they will use anyone they can and say any lie to further their evil agenda. It should be against the law to be a narcissist. I only hope that they reap what they sow. Interestingly, the 7 things God hates (Proverbs 6:16-19) describes things a narcissist does. They know exactly what they are doing; if they did not, they wouldn't lie about their behavior when confronted.

@Soothsayer937

Жыл бұрын

You are not alone in your experiences. I agree it is the devil's work. I'm waiting on the Angels of Avalon.

@dennismclaurin1487

Жыл бұрын

I believe I was falsely and secretly accused to the authorities back in '93 by a narcissist Jezebel neighbor of things I know not. 2 Tim.3 mentions lovers of themselves and false accussers. Satan is called the accuser of the brethren ( Rev.12:10) There's plenty of Jezebel types teaching in the temple today(+ Rev.2:20) Rev.18 speaks of her. God knows she has blood on her damn hands. Those types are like the IRS: They won't rest until they make you pay. Except, there's death and destruction involved with a Jezebel's charges. The righteous judge ( Rev.19:2) has to take charge of this one and shut them down because I'm in the Devil's hands, under the judgement of the world

I can't agree more to ignore it. If you can bite your tongue for a few hours, sometimes they'll even start apologizing because they need something from you, even just attention, again. This has been the biggest lesson in patience I've ever had in my life. And yes, create YOUR OWN life. Even with all the little things in my new tiny rental home, I say "but its mine (or ours since I have a daughter) and I am rebuilding a peaceful, calm, positive life"

@gmohler

2 жыл бұрын

Outstanding! Validate yourself, quality time with daughter, healthy boundaries, Mindfulness thoughts, and self- control. Great job Nicole!

@salauerman7082

2 жыл бұрын

Excellent point: they need something, like your attention… HAVE PATIENCE, amen!! I needed that encouragement.

SHUT THEM DOWN!!! It is exhausting

@christianpulisic7784

3 жыл бұрын

Jennifer Lea,Your lovely smile 😊 can make the news!!

Left my ex narcissist nearly 20 years ago. Took me awhile to unengage with him, but have been married to a wonderful man now, for going on 15 years! I moved forward and never looked back. Raised my son to be sa good and decent young man, who's married, had a toddler and is successful in his career. Once you're free, just let it all go! Don't look back! People will believe what they want to. Drop them too, as I did. I now only allow people who add to my life in my life. Blood suckers are not even allowed! No need for them!!

The smear campaign started before I married the guy July 4, 1987 and is still going on thru alienation of my sons, his stepsons.

has anyone ever noticed the more negative the comments people make about someone the more willing others tend to believe them?

@nancykabata7401

3 жыл бұрын

Their likes believe them. You don't need to them anyway

@livingfree7153

3 жыл бұрын

It’s INSANE!!! They say the craziest things ! It seems others would laugh at them and run away but they stay and believe their lies! 😡

@ravenone6255

3 жыл бұрын

How much is true?

@carpathianken

3 жыл бұрын

It's a common phenomenon because boring low life's with no standards love drama & conflict.It's even noticeable online how many abusive & malicious comments with not one shred of evidence attached to them get thousands of likes, comments & attention, while wholesome & supportive statements & comments get overlooked & dismissed

@accountcompromised2166

3 жыл бұрын

I agree, I have been dealing with a Narcissist smear campaign for years and these self righteous flying monkeys actually believe these bs lies about me.

If you have a good sense of self, it will never really matter what they say. They are sick and if people cant see through their tactics, and personality disorders . So be it.

I wish I saw this video 1 year ago, It would saved me a lot of energy by explaining myself but is never to late, just remember the smear campaign, and the flying money are the haters they never like you to begin with, why it is matter what they think. Stay silent! “SHUT THEM DOWN!”😀 the more you acted like nothing happen the more upset they get. Because you are not giving them what they want. Trust me the best reaction is NO reaction

@lovewhitey2027

3 жыл бұрын

Silence is golden

@jasonbrowning546

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, spot on.

@danbride9407

2 жыл бұрын

Yes some times I think that was what Bruce Lee said some times the best action is no action.

@soniamart937

2 жыл бұрын

I totally agree with you and this is exactly what I have done no Reaction from me none at all which is out of character for me however I’m not that me anymore that me was with him and now I feel sane again his campaign has just started I discarded him 2plus years ago, I am dealing 🙂

@kathystevens7532

Жыл бұрын

What surprised me was that the women who smiled at my face, suddenly became some kind of a swamp creature feeding on his swamp stuff. They were exposing their own inner turmoil, making them feel better, for a little while. So many people needing therapy that hid it well before being given an opportunity to regurgitate it. All their demons came out to play, even church people. I was so surprised.

The problem is that you don't know what they said, but people begin to act ill at ease or hostile around you. If you ask them if something is wrong they won't say, but get worse. People are lost, you know who's behind it, but you don't find out why they are so angry. One person I was friends with 3 times over decades, and I ended the socializing each time because I felt smothered by meeting their needs but no place for me. Each time, I also lost another friend, including one I thought was a close friend. But you don't find out what was said to make them that angry. For some reason they won't tell you.

@Soothsayer937

Жыл бұрын

You totally feel the shift in the attitude but no one will bring it directly to you. That is their own fear and that's what turns them into flying monkeys. They can't think for themselves.

@judithgannon5642

Жыл бұрын

@@Soothsayer937 one was a very sharp person and a lawyer, who was once a Public Defender! You would expect her to be able to spot lies and a liar.

My ex did this so effectively. Told everyone I out of the blue told him I wanted a divorce, that he has no idea why, or what he did wrong and turned all our friends against me. He even tried this with my own father.... not that I was leaving because of the emotional abuse, porn and alcohol, spending all our money on rubbish. People love a shocking story.... so they eat the lies up. It was so heartbreaking for so long.... but you learn these people were never your people. But the narcissist isolates you from your friends and fills your life with their supporters.

I've cut ties with ALL her flying monkeys (my mother is a covert narcissist). This includes the family church people and common friends. It really made a huge difference. I no longer have to deal with the comments or attitudes or even them going off on me about something I never did or said. It was easier than I thought and relieved me of a lot of stress.

@TheBecksHemmings

Жыл бұрын

Well done. Do you have children?

@lisac7151

Жыл бұрын

@@TheBecksHemmings Thanks. I don't have any children. Things have changed over here though. She is in a full-swing smear campaign against me and trying to draw me back in with the family. I made a call to my aunt and told her I was not going to an upcoming party (for my mom) and refused to be treated like crap by my mom's flying monkeys anymore. Anyway, you know how the story goes. You pull and they pull you back in. Hope all is well with you.

@sowmyakarthikeyan8654

9 ай бұрын

​​@@lisac7151I was tortured by a narcissist gang, I came out of the gang silently first but they started spreading lies about me, that I am very harsh and all..I got this information from another my friend and all I did was spread the truth...the truth was so awkward for that gang that they no longer come to me.... I spread the small facts by withholding big issues with me to some people before the narcissist gang itself. Then they no longer come to me...as they don't want to come near me because all I need to spread the hidden truth about them.... it took time for me to build people and then make myself stronger...but I no longer need to worry about their smear campaign, because I know so many people now, they are afraid of my network.

Man I feel a strong urge to send screenshots to the same people who are doing his dirty work not knowing what type of person they’re defending but I keep having to hold back and just block them. It’s been on my mind a lot but I’ve stayed silent.

@Jams141

3 жыл бұрын

I’m currently going through this. My narc says I’m the abuser/cheater on social media and I have soooo many screenshots of him cheating and begging. It’s so frustrating while my name gets a bad rep

@veryimportantbody

2 жыл бұрын

@@Jams141 I’m going through this same thing right now. How did you manage?

@dnk4559

Жыл бұрын

It’s so hard to not want to defend ourselves! We can’t win though if we react. Good job not responding!

I’m so glad more and more people having awareness on narcissism.

Just had a smear campaign this week - my response to accusations by abuser - they got angry I stayed calm did not justify my behaviour, let them rant - then said - thank you for letting me know I have No Comment to make - see you, bye and walked away. They stood shocked with no response.

I'm done with this narc Shut him down !!!!!

@lemusiciensolitaire8792

3 жыл бұрын

CANCEL NARCISSISTS.

It was hell on wheels even his creepy sister got on the ban wagon!🥶

@dixiewaller1379

3 жыл бұрын

Yes!! The mom, sister & him r all equally crazy!!! Sooo glad I am out & working on healing!!

@rebellucy5610

3 жыл бұрын

Even intellectual and rational family members from the Narcissists family will quickly turn on the victim because they (behind the scenes) have been told how bad a person you are.

@Oceans780

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, the family sticks together always. They all the same thing.

ANYONE GOING THROUGH NARCISSISTIC ABUSE, YOU ARE WORTH MORE THAN THE ABUSE YOURE GOING THROUGH. YOU JUST DONT KNOW IT. One thing that helped me is that i had friends who could see right through her even though i couldnt at first. I wish more people had that. If you feel that something is wrong, listen to it and investigate it the best you know how to. Dont let them isolate you. Thats the worst thing you can do. The best thing you can do is keep contact with friends, family if theres anyone there. If you get a chance to meet up with someone you havent seen for a long time, take it. Ignore the other person when theyre trying to guilt trip you by saying that youre not giving them enough attention or that youre ignoring other obligations. If they realy love you, they truely love you, theyll be encouraging you in success of your goals. Theyll be wanting you to spend time with your friends and family because they know what theirs means to them. If youre dealing with a sinister mind and feel that youre being manipulated or gaslit, dont let them make you feel like youre going crazy. Your gut will never lie to you. Here's another thing. Talk to some war veterans that have been discharged. Theyre always looking for ways to help others, believe it or not. They need it to feel whole themselves. And they can smell a lie like a fart in a car if the narcissist has already begun their smear campaign. So dont lie to them youselves. ABOVE ALL, DONT NEGLECT YOUR OWN LIFE. YOUR TIME IS THE MOST PRECIOUSE COMMODITY THAT YOU CAN GIVE TO OTHERS. DONT WAST IT ON THOSE THAT DONT APPRECIATE IT.. Keep doing what you love to do and never let anyone humiliate you about it. NEVER. Take care of the ones that appreciate the time you spend on them. Ignore the ones that have no appreciation of your time because it's a waste. Rebecca Zung, thank you.

Sometimes the narcissists are family members with access to your children and grandchildren.

@TLW369

3 жыл бұрын

True!

@sherrydickie8459

3 жыл бұрын

Thats my case!

@karenblum6185

3 жыл бұрын

@@sherrydickie8459 Sad to hear that. How have you been advised to handle things for the best result?

@karenblum6185

2 жыл бұрын

@Gemma Dann Too sad younger, insecure siblings have lied and cheated at least 40 years while I worked, raised children. Sister told woman who didn’t know me, she raised my children for me (never spent one hour with them); I met this woman by chance working summer in different city while kids were in college. Upon hearing my name she excitedly told me how lucky I was that sister raised my children for me. How do you deal with that... the outcome is true loss of grown children, as you are no match for the sick need to tell such lies to total strangers. I am heartbroken.

@karenblum6185

2 жыл бұрын

@Gemma Dann Yes, it is odd (a mild description), and yes, it has made me sick. I always gave sibs (she controlled younger sib: we are each 5 years apart.) a pass for behavior I didn’t understand. I simply begged to have and play a piano. Taught myself on a toy until age 9 when a (cheap, but real) piano arrived from relative. Teacher was hired for both sister and me. I stood at the door waiting for the lessons, while sister ran out of the house to avoid them. I gave her nastiness a pass, as I was a concert pianist by age 11 (practiced 4 hours a day because I loved it so) and whole family went and sat through me on a concert stage with an orchestra. Was also star of school play in 6th grade... yes, excused nasty behavior due to that. Rather than create her own life skills of things she loved to do, (and she was so good at so many things I could never do!) she made her life’s work lying, sneaking and cheating. I was told by youngest (for 40 years: “xxxxx has been trying to get rid of you since she was 5”). Being picked on, calling me crying about her, I told him to handle it and get good at what you love. Instead, he became, what I now know is called, her first ‘flying monkey’! It continues, adding more monkeys through the generations. (Yes I went to a respected Narcissist-Empath therapist. So terribly depressing) I was a music teacher, then music minister. She copied younger brother and became a CPA he put to work one day a month... complaining about her all the way... again I said there is absolutely no need to share with me. The pain is overwhelming, as you know. Thank you for your kindness. As I’ve been writing, both sibs continue working on my children, grand children, cousins, and more!! There must be a way to counteract this pain, other than ‘no contact’.... After all, “we” are the ones without contact! Too much pain for the wrong people!

I let a narcissist move in 3.5 months ago. His true colors emerged a little over a month ago and the last month has been hell. I’m getting him out though. He started the mud slinging once he realized I was serious about kicking him out. I didn’t lower myself to his level although I easily could have participated in the name calling. I’d never in my life been spoken to like that. My mother is a narcissist too, but not nearly as imbalanced as this man child. Wishing everyone out there the best of luck cutting this type of needless purposeless toxicity out. Now I see why these people have no real friends and even their family turns on them. No one deserves that kind of crap treatment.

@stephenbyres8763

2 жыл бұрын

Ghost him

@ascensionessentials

2 жыл бұрын

@@stephenbyres8763 I absolutely don't speak to that person anymore.

Shut them down- Be a rock: Strong Silent No thought of what they will do, because you cannot control them…why waste your energy?

I never responded to my narcissistic sister’s smear campaign and it was never shut down until I was out of the relationship. The title of this video was shut down the smear campaign and the advice was to not respond. All I am saying is that it didn’t work.

Amen. I'm struggling to get my mind off what they are doing. I need to stop caring what they are doing cause they left me for dead.

I love the "I deny all allegations" short and sweet without having to address them. We are going to use this! Wow! Thank you so much!

My vulnerable narcissist’s smear campaign just started. She even has her very religious mother posting things. The “flying monkeys” phase has started 😢 Thank you for the advice. My therapist is helping me stay strong… inhale…. exhale… I’m working on getting back to what is important to me, but no longer being naive about people generally being good on the inside… my eyes are so open now… I’m already seeing so many people around me having their own agenda and not caring about anyone else as I thought before… it’s scary to see. But, it’s also helping me see while the truly good people are in my life… not near as many I’m afraid… But, I believe I’m now a stronger person for it…

Correct we cannot give energy to those areas that will withhold us from spiritual growth

I made that mistake of going back to the people he tried to smear my name to and it just made them look at me even more crazier. I started staying silent.

@Heliscope

3 жыл бұрын

This is what I was thinking. My sibling has lied to our relatives so much. If I try to explain how things really are I start to sound crazy because her lies are so crazy. I would jump into a crazy wheel. I don't know what to do. It is terrible that my relatives think I am a horrible person, although I allways try to do what is right. Everybody believes my sibling because her lies are better than the truth. She is a master actress and charismatic. I am just honest and it is not so interesting. I am sad that my relatives think bad things of me.

This calmed my ridiculous levels of anxiety around a narcissist in my life. Thank you so much 💕

My ex’s mother is twice my age, but somehow has time to bully me and publicly harass me just because of what her son said about me- not what she knows to be true. SMH, I’m moving away just so I can be free from this demonic family of abusers and bullies.

@d.w.7114

2 жыл бұрын

My ex narc’s mother would bully me, sending mean texts calling me delusional. I had been nothing but kind towards her. I blocked her. It was confusing to have the flying monkeys attack me.

My heart is so pure that why his mom,his family, my family, and my friends know I'm the most beautiful person inside/out that they all believed me how he treated me they all ended up having no respect for him. My family and his see his true cold colours. I'm grateful I have lots of support 🙏 he can say whatever he wants which no one will believe him.

Took Me Thirty Years To Figure Out Mysupposed 'Best' Friend is A Narc!-Unreal!!!!!-Goodbye & Good Riddence!

The ducktape and basement sounds like a good idea 🤔 And i am an empath ... 😅🤣 lol

Shut Them Down! Thank you Rebecca Zung. For the past two years I've been dealing with a full blown narcissist. An absolute total nightmare.

I've listened to him talk about everbody, and think if you don't have anything good to say, say nothing. A big red 🚩 🚩 🚩

Being a psych myself, I limit watching content on Narcissism to 3 people on YT - you are one. Relevant. Knowledgable. Concise. (you're not surprised that the other 2 are Dr R and RichG. ?!)

Shut them down!! "I deny all of these allegation, thanks, see you at 3pm!" Hahaha, I love that. Thank you for the tips, I'm learning how to navigate a smear campaign on me in my partner's family. My takeaways from this video: ignore the negativity campaign, focus on what you're creating, and don't get into the details with them.

Hi Rebecca. Greetings from Poland. I am a man, 61. I am in the divorce process now. I have watched your several films on narcissists. Now, I fully understand disgusting narcissistic behaviour of my wife. I know what to do thanks to your advice. After 32 years of my marriage, I think I need to recover. It will definitely take some time. I am quite successful guy in many different areas of life. I have never lost my self esteem although I came through many hardships done by my wife. Now it is time for peace for me. Thank you Rebecca again. You are doing wonderful job helping others. I wish you good luck ! Marek

Never be somewhere you hate because you can’t afford to be somewhere that makes you happy!

Starting writing my book. For a few years i was told i was losing my memory. The family member often said "when you get dementia" huhhh?? I am inly 50. After watching this video, I have had a few lightbulb moments. I started to believe I was losing it. Thanks for the video.

I've been a victim of Narcissists all my life and I really need to break free. Been trying but always fails

@SierraAspenAutumn

2 жыл бұрын

Me too. Try try again. Eventually it has to work out.

Shut them down!!! I too was a victim for years! Ugh!! Love this thank you!

Finally found the strength to leave my toxic marriage, currently being smeared to my family but it’s ok I’m just glad to be getting out 🙏🏾

@accountcompromised2166

3 жыл бұрын

Im also currently going through a divorce from a Narcissist. My best friend divorced a Narcissist and he tried to turn her whole family against her even her adult children against her. Narcissist are evil and everyone that they recruit to work against us are called "flying monkeys". You should research narcissist flying monkeys. Please stay strong online friend this too shall pass.

My daughter have 2 favorite go to The smear lie is followed by “You just don’t know”. When asked for examples, creating mystery, curiosity to follow. The smear lie is followed by “Grandma tell them” or insert name.

Thank u so much for this. I’m telling u I have been thru this smear campaign for years. It’s truly maddening!

@CarolDudeck-bl7kz

3 жыл бұрын

Always gaslighting

Some smear campaigns can encourage stalking, so I think that some smear campaigns could be dangerous and should not be ignored. The fear what they could do is real

@Soothsayer937

Жыл бұрын

Just so; it tends to escalate.

@8472turtle

Жыл бұрын

This happened to me after I had a no contact order placed on him so me and my kids could have peace. I was in a shelter... Moved on rebuilt my life... No contact order went for years the DV situation was so bad for me n my kids. Two years in.... His girlfriend... A flying monkey started to harrass me and threatened online. I had to tell them to back off the police would be involved and can release police report/medical records on me and my children to prove he was lying. Cys reports on him from abusing my child from previous relationship. She backed down and left him only after he put her too in a hospital.

What about taking the narcissist to court and suing them for defamation of character???

Oh the stories I could tell of my past relationship. It’s way behind me now. Mine was a female narcissist ... beyond evil!!! She almost brought me down until I found people like you to educate me on what I was dealing with. Thank you Rebecca!!! You are doing a great service through educating on this subject!

@sharke8351

2 жыл бұрын

@Hughes SignCo maybe someday I will. It would be a long one! I’m about to retire so I may take some time to write of my experience ... thank you

@salauerman7082

2 жыл бұрын

@Shark E: Dr. Les Carter (I may OCD double check) is excellent also. Rebecca and Dr. C have complementary material.

Thank you for your advice. Yes, ignore them, dont give them any response & reaction, and stay positive. Always be yourself and be positive, no matter what. Narcs spread negativity, we spread positivity. I'm dealing with covert narc coworker. I struggle hard to survive againts her smear campaigne, false accusation, projection, triangulation, etc, and she never stops.

I totally needed to watch this.There is more than one Narcissist attacking me at the same time. Three at least right now at the same place. Ughhh..

@roselikethewine

3 жыл бұрын

You're not alone. I'm dealing with 3 as well... And realizing I come from a family of them. Best thing is to educate yourself and ignore them. They're always looking for pity, a reaction, your energy. Only saying hello goodbye and keeping the conversation very bland is how you can start separating yourself from them. I keep telling my bf this, but he isn't woke yet.

@Rose-dl6xg

3 жыл бұрын

Same here, probably anywhere from 5 narcs I suspect, and it could be a few more, depending on a very covert family member. Ugh 🤨

@maryjay3610

3 жыл бұрын

You are not alone. I'm dealing with the whole tribe😢 10 years of toxic marriage with three children and at the stage of being discard by my covert NARC husband. I pray God grand me strength to Keep on fighting. His family took their smearing campaigns on facebook live video trashing me.

@mdmmalou

3 жыл бұрын

@@maryjay3610 I'm sorry for you. Its so mean to do! Remove all those nasty individuals from your facebook. Then the fun goes off!! Take care of you and your children. Shut them down!!! 👊🏽

@hlengiwemasondo2858

3 жыл бұрын

Please soldier on, I will pray for you too. I have been thru that

SHUT THEM DOWN! I HAVE STARTED MY NEW BEGINNING AND I HAVE CREATED A SATISFYING WONDERFUL AWESOME LIFE😅💚

Priceless information, thank you so much💛

Shut them down! I did just that, I ve ignored my narc smear campaign.

@hlengiwemasondo2858

3 жыл бұрын

It is so painful

Incredible video! I think it’s your best ever. And I’ve seen a lot. Thank you so much for what your doing for the hopeful thrives. ☺️

Good advice. Thank you for the inspiration!

I’m so glad to have found this channel

Thank you for you encouraging and empowering videos! Really is helping so much to deal with the narcissists in my life.

Pivot from the negative👎 Pivot into the Positive 👍

It’s my life but it will forever blow my mind a father can do this to his own daughter…sick sick man.

Thank you Rebecca. Your insight is always so helpful.

Thanks so much for your help to shut them down and move forward!

SHUT THEM DOWN. Rebecca you are amazing. Thank you for your great advice.

Thank you. So passionate and helpful ❤️

Yes...Thank you Rebecca for your amazing videos. Very much appreciated 🙏

I knew all this shit years ago...finally it has a name..

Rebecca, you are SOOO right! Focusing on one's self instead of the narc is so freeing! I wish I had discovered you 6 years ago!

Thank you so much! You’ve helped me deeply!

I love your videos Rebecca Zung. Thank you for sharing these for us. So very informative.

Even though I am watching this right now I am so going thru something similar, all because I don't get jealous. Thank you so much for this inspirational video. SHUT DEM DOWN!

such a wonderful human ... you have certainly helped me realize the narcs that were trying to control my life and impact my world ... no more ... they are in the rear view mirror and very bitter ... moving onto better people and places due to your guidance .. thank you :)

Great video Rebecca ... So beneficial ... Thank you 💖

i needed this. thank you!

Excellent! Love the positive quantum talk at end- so true! Thank you!

@christianpulisic7784

3 жыл бұрын

Cindy Luisi,I admire your pretty smile ☺️!!

My mother has been like this towards me my whole life. I can’t have a relationship with my sisters because of her, she attacks every relationship I have in the small town I live in.

Exactly! Great positiv input and overlook !!