How To Show Them You've Changed & Save Your Marriage

One of the most common questions that we get at Marriage Helper are from spouses who are asking, "What can I do to show my spouse that I have changed and how can I get them to come back?"
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People are asking us this question because we're so desperately wanting to do something to change where the marriage is headed, stop it in its tracks, and bring that spouse back. But there are so many things that go into this that it's not just a simple pill, a quick sentence, or a quick solution. It actually takes you first understanding some of the things that have perhaps pushed your spouse away, and then beginning to change your behavior over a period of time for that to happen.
So, Dr. Beam, how are we supposed to go about understanding how to bring our spouses back and show them that we have changed?
I wish we had a very short, simple answer to that with some magic words, and then you could go do the incantation and all of a sudden it works, but it's not that way. Kimberly Holmes is our CEO here at Marriage Helper. As we talk about this, understand that typically marriage difficulties didn't occur overnight. It took a while for those things to develop. Now, can they happen that rapidly? Yes, occasionally they can. But the questions we'll be dealing with today with the callers that have called in, are not situations that occurred instantaneously. Actually, those are very, very rare, but things that happened over a period of time. And that's what Kimberly just said. So, remember these two things as we go through this. If you want to resolve a marriage issue, two words that you must remember and almost use as an incantation, if you will, would be consistency and time. Kimberly, we talk a lot in our workshop for example, and we won't try to replicate all of that here about Sternberg's triangulation of love. Sternberg is a great researcher. Researches in three or four major areas one of which is, "what is love?". Without having time to explain all of that, basically Dr. Sternberg says that love has three basic components. One is called intimacy. One is called passion, and one is called commitment. Let me define those very quickly then we're going to talk about them. Intimacy has to do with, "into-me-see". In other words, I can be open, transparent, and vulnerable to you, and you can also be those same things to me. We build trust based on that. We open ourselves up to each other based on that. I feel accepted by you as I am not as you wish me to be. The same thing's happening the other way around, it's reciprocal between the two of us. Passion has to do with sex, of course, but it's a lot more than that. Sternberg defines it as being a craving for oneness. It's what I feel at any given moment. The more intentionally I feel, the more passionate I think that I have, or feel that I have. The third one commitment has to do with either something you evolve into like one day you realize, "wait a minute, we've developed a relationship where I really want to be here," or it could be an actual decision that you make, "I've decided I want to commit to being with you." While one says, "commitment can be made one time, and then you live it the rest of your life." In another sense, it really is made on a daily basis because of the fact that life can change. Now, Kimberly, we do a great deal on spending a lot of our time in our workshops explaining that more than we can do here.
VIDEO CHAPTERS
0:00 Your Spouse Doesn't Think You've Changed
1:34 How To Show Your Spouse You've Changed
11:53 What If Positive Changes Aren't Enough For My Spouse?
26:14 How Do I Convince My Spouse I'm A Better Person Now?
38:04 What If My Wife Lost Trust In Me After Years Of Unmet Promises?
45:55 How Do I Show My Spouse I Won't Be Controlling Anymore?
54:17 Key Takeaways From This Episode
57:44 Valuable Tool In Helping People Change For The Better
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  • @markcooper5764
    @markcooper57643 жыл бұрын

    My wife and I have only been separated for a week now, but with the information you have provided me with just these videos alone has given me hope! I feel like even if we don't end up overcoming all of our issues, I know for a FACT that I will be coming out of this hardship a better person! Thank you so much!

  • @blkrbbn1535

    @blkrbbn1535

    2 жыл бұрын

    How is it going so far?

  • @mgomez414

    @mgomez414

    2 жыл бұрын

    How is it going?

  • @wasilazakari7566

    @wasilazakari7566

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,l got help from a great man who brought us back together..

  • @heavyrightfoot7947

    @heavyrightfoot7947

    Жыл бұрын

    I hope you are in a better place now.

  • @user-sg9st3im9o
    @user-sg9st3im9o10 ай бұрын

    Hearing her explain the little t trauma and the big t trauma is exactly where I got stuck in the grief of the death of my 7-year-old son's death. I have been able to heal but it took many many years of self-reflection and a great deal of anger and sorrow.

  • @AustinKloud
    @AustinKloud2 жыл бұрын

    Oh my God - why couldn’t I have found this 10 months ago…. I have pushed my wife away from why made us love each other when we first got married. I’m such a foolish fool- only now in my demise do I see how wrong I have been. I’m sorry Noelle - I love you and want to fix me and our marriage

  • @el1te1984

    @el1te1984

    2 жыл бұрын

    Go get her back bro!

  • @natasharandall7967

    @natasharandall7967

    2 жыл бұрын

    Remember it’s never too late…

  • @cpbhs6001

    @cpbhs6001

    Жыл бұрын

    Go get her don't give up

  • @lupost8433

    @lupost8433

    Жыл бұрын

    If you love her fight for her back before is too late.

  • @marianagarcia3799

    @marianagarcia3799

    Жыл бұрын

    AUSTIN REMEMBER THAT YOU WERE CREATED BY GOD TO BE THE PROVIDER, PROTECTOR & THE LIDER IS IN YOUR D N A.. YOU ARE THE HUNTER, THE WANT WHO CONQUER A WOMAN IN THIS CASE YOUR WIFE.. GOD WILL BRING HER BACK TO YOU BLESSINGS

  • @michellejonelunas3925
    @michellejonelunas39257 ай бұрын

    My husband came home Saturday before last for only 17 mins for the entire day. It was my 40th birthday. He blindsided me and my 13 year old son. We were truly clueless. It's been awful. He continually convinces himself and tries to convince me that this is best- that we grew apart and are different people. I guess he was really good at hiding it because we just had incredible dates over the past few months. He'd already told our 17 year old daughter, his sister (whom we haven't seen in 10 years and he rarely talks to who happened to come into town on my birthday), his brother in law, his mom and father that he hasn't spoken to in a couple of years. I was devastated. ... I have no idea what to do or where to go. He'd convinced me to be a stay at home mom 17 years ago when he chose to be a truck driver. He's now a contractor, but we've created our lives around me being home for the kids. I share a vehicle with our oldest daughter, so I often don't have the means to get out if she has it for work and classes. I'm already in therapy and everything I start to feel better, he crushes me again.

  • @nnylasoR

    @nnylasoR

    Ай бұрын

    (((((((HUGS)))))))

  • @mountfun
    @mountfun3 жыл бұрын

    I am in the same situation as that caller from Australia! Thank you for sharing this.

  • @bondservantx9881
    @bondservantx98813 жыл бұрын

    Wow, I've been through the exact position of the callers! The take aways are huge ! Although our kids(hers and mine), are on thier own, there is the empty nest syndrome, which I believe led to our seperation. There has been a son lost during our marriage, and has contributed to our issues. We)she has not had time to grieve which she has states, and completely shuts down trying to process. She & I have been abused as a children, neither of us has had any counseling to confront our issues. It's only obviously now, to seek couples counseling! Thank you for your videos, I've been following for 7 months since our seperation! I greatly appreciated your work! God Bless you both and your team, and family!

  • @MrWilliamx3
    @MrWilliamx3 Жыл бұрын

    thank you for all your videos, marriage lows are the ones the show who we are.

  • @biersmorgen6609
    @biersmorgen66097 ай бұрын

    There is always hope with time space and genuine change

  • @Hamann9631
    @Hamann9631 Жыл бұрын

    I love your honesty. I mean by not promising unpromisable things. People aren't machines which always do the same thin, whereas, the controls on a machines always do the same thing.

  • @Kevin-ql7qw
    @Kevin-ql7qw2 жыл бұрын

    Thank God I found this video. Exactly what I need right now...

  • @wasilazakari7566

    @wasilazakari7566

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,l got help from a great man who brought us back together..

  • @jeffslater3708
    @jeffslater37082 жыл бұрын

    I enjoyed the presentation of information. Helpful in multiple ways. As I begin my journey to remake myself and by proxy, marriage. I am encouraged thru your talks. The edu. You folks provide is valuable. Ty.

  • @wasilazakari7566

    @wasilazakari7566

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,l got help from a great man who brought us back together..

  • @tdilly8530
    @tdilly85302 жыл бұрын

    Thank you very much for the wisdom from above. Praise the Lord

  • @wasilazakari7566

    @wasilazakari7566

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,l got help from a great man who brought us back together...

  • @richardlebreton6690
    @richardlebreton66903 жыл бұрын

    Wife's career took off to the point that she makes *A LOT* more than I do (Or probably ever will). Family suddenly shifted from "doesn't matter who makes what no-one will "just work" when it comes to chores/child care" to "if I don't do it it doesn't get done" even when I ask her to help. A few years ago when she had a few too many she confessed that since she makes so much more money and I do all the "Woman's work" she doesn't see me as a man anymore and no longer loves me or find me attractive. She doesn't want a divorce and if I try for one she'll make it so that I'll never see my kids again.

  • @dannyp8503

    @dannyp8503

    3 жыл бұрын

    Jesus man. Go work on yourself and get away from this awful person

  • @HustleHabit

    @HustleHabit

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hope you hired a maid, and got back to being strong and healthy.

  • @fryy69

    @fryy69

    2 жыл бұрын

    I’ve been in this exact situation. What I did that was effective was that I continued to be the leader of my family. I prayed for us before our meals, I took us to church and led her and my children spiritually. I worked out everyday and built a muscular body. I play a very traditional fatherly role for my son and try and be a good example by honoring and cherishing his mom, my wife, and instilling respect and honor into his worldview. I also got her respect back by not always agreeing with her. Sometimes I would disagree if I genuinely did and take a stand for what I felt was right. She ended up respecting me more and treating me as the leader. She is happier than ever and so am I. She respects me and I love and cherish her.

  • @jerryanddiannedennison5644

    @jerryanddiannedennison5644

    Жыл бұрын

    @@fryy69A wise man ! Good for you!

  • @MCKVX1

    @MCKVX1

    Жыл бұрын

    Don't divorce go on the marriage course divorce affects everything

  • @arturoacosta8301
    @arturoacosta8301 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for all this information. I has really helped me.

  • @stephenedwards4036
    @stephenedwards40364 ай бұрын

    I love you guys so much, such nice people and so informative

  • @joegaccetta5799
    @joegaccetta5799Ай бұрын

    This material is so helpful!

  • @amybostic1439
    @amybostic1439 Жыл бұрын

    Trust me-the hurt has created a wall for my husband and he fails to be willing to give me the space/grace to be different without assuming he knows how I will behave or react. This has been the hardest time of my life. The irony is he’s the optimistic one and here I’m the pessimistic one-yet I’ve worked through my hurt and not held any resentment and he can’t work through his emotions and let it go.

  • @hereim5648

    @hereim5648

    Жыл бұрын

    Same here.

  • @waysha69able

    @waysha69able

    Жыл бұрын

    Just wondering if you've been following the program and if his views have changed at all yet?

  • @blairh1991

    @blairh1991

    Жыл бұрын

    Same here

  • @Yayakoshii1990

    @Yayakoshii1990

    Жыл бұрын

    Same. It feels like my soul has been ripped from my body.

  • @jonathanbyrd4724

    @jonathanbyrd4724

    8 ай бұрын

    I believe he CAN let go eventually. Yes it will take time and prayer but I’m in his spot in my relationship and God is healing towards her. God can heal him too. Keep believing!

  • @genasoriano559
    @genasoriano5592 жыл бұрын

    I really like your advice specially the Consistency and Time. This is really a great steps that I could do. Thank you for sharing.

  • @wasilazakari7566

    @wasilazakari7566

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,l got help from a great man who brought us back together..

  • @wasilazakari7566

    @wasilazakari7566

    2 жыл бұрын

    Whatsappin him 👍☝️🤘👍🤝

  • @sunnyelizabeth2910
    @sunnyelizabeth2910 Жыл бұрын

    Excellent poscsst! Thank you!😇

  • @GundoMotsoare
    @GundoMotsoare3 жыл бұрын

    I really needed this to deal with my situation. I know for sure, there is hope.

  • @TAMIKASM10

    @TAMIKASM10

    Жыл бұрын

    Can I have an update on your situation please 🙏

  • @WayneTheWolf
    @WayneTheWolf3 жыл бұрын

    Kim and Dr. Beam have a true passion for what they do. This has helped me so much personally to understand myself and what I ca do to be better. I have hope. Thank you

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    @ivannapoppins9063

    2 жыл бұрын

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  • @theofficialbigrob
    @theofficialbigrob2 жыл бұрын

    Thank You.🙏🏾

  • @tamarajones4369
    @tamarajones43692 жыл бұрын

    This was very helpful. My husband left sort of abruptly. I wish I had found this month ago. Even if this does not bring my husband back it will help me to become a better person.

  • @wasilazakari7566

    @wasilazakari7566

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,l got help from a great man who brought us back together..

  • @wasilazakari7566

    @wasilazakari7566

    2 жыл бұрын

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    @davidsturges7820

    2 жыл бұрын

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    @davidsturges7820

    2 жыл бұрын

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  • @ddpoppy6048

    @ddpoppy6048

    Жыл бұрын

    What happened, did you get a good result with your husband? Can you share?

  • @randyscott9896
    @randyscott98962 жыл бұрын

    Just awesome

  • @lukeleonardrasmussen3550
    @lukeleonardrasmussen3550Ай бұрын

    Another good one

  • @d8a889
    @d8a8893 жыл бұрын

    This was an eye opener! Thank you!! God bless!

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    @ulhifiungodwin9288

    3 жыл бұрын

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  • @tatainmalio6083

    @tatainmalio6083

    3 жыл бұрын

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    @tatainmalio6083

    3 жыл бұрын

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    3 жыл бұрын

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    3 жыл бұрын

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  • @jeancharles2088
    @jeancharles2088 Жыл бұрын

    It is unfortunate that we bring ourselves to mistreat ourselves by the mistakes we made...I am happy for this information...

  • @shaec3405
    @shaec34053 жыл бұрын

    Also, it's important to know what your partner's love language is: so you CAN communicate the real changes you made... In those bite size, patient, tiny bits are a time. I find the advice they give here gold, combined with Mel Robbins advise on overcoming (situational) anxiety and speaking your partner's language.

  • @wasilazakari7566

    @wasilazakari7566

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,l got help from a great man who brought us back together..

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    @wasilazakari7566

    2 жыл бұрын

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  • @moyaking8961
    @moyaking89613 жыл бұрын

    This year my husband and I will have been married for 44 years. Im 63 and he's 78. Since 2015 he has had a on off relationship with a woman who is 10 years older than me. We've tried getting back together 3 times moving house each time. This last time was the 1st of December 2020. About one week ago I found out that they'd be in contact with each other again. This is the final straw as far as I'm concerned, I'm done with his lies and deing deceitful. I will now concentrate on me and my happiness, doing the things that I love.

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    @lovethadam82

    3 жыл бұрын

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    @tatainmalio6083

    3 жыл бұрын

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    @tatainmalio6083

    3 жыл бұрын

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    3 жыл бұрын

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  • @jessejames88
    @jessejames883 жыл бұрын

    This was very helpful, overall - thank you. The part that I found the most useful was the section with the case studies & your responses. Many thanks and God bless you both.

  • @MarriageHelper

    @MarriageHelper

    3 жыл бұрын

    Glad it was helpful! We may focus on providing more details on case studies for future videos. Blessings!

  • @mansurumar5004

    @mansurumar5004

    3 жыл бұрын

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  • @tatainmalio6083

    @tatainmalio6083

    3 жыл бұрын

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    @tatainmalio6083

    3 жыл бұрын

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    3 жыл бұрын

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  • @terrymurphy7220
    @terrymurphy72203 жыл бұрын

    This is Awesome

  • @wasilazakari7566

    @wasilazakari7566

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,l got help from a great man who brought us back together..

  • @wasilazakari7566

    @wasilazakari7566

    2 жыл бұрын

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  • @biersmorgen6609
    @biersmorgen66096 ай бұрын

    All situations are the same , lack of trust safety and commitment.

  • @ST-cy6we
    @ST-cy6we Жыл бұрын

    Great video

  • @MarriageHelper

    @MarriageHelper

    Жыл бұрын

    Glad you enjoyed it friend! Consider subscribing if you haven't already! We'd love to help you!

  • @ST-cy6we

    @ST-cy6we

    Жыл бұрын

    ​@@MarriageHelper These videos have really helped me. In November my wife "discarded" me. She vanished, changed her phone number, blocked me on facebook etc. I was totally blindsided considering our last discussion was a nice talk and we discussed future plans. Your videos have helped me to stabilize myself, to focus on what I did wrong and learn from it. I hope that my wife returns and that we can try again. Perhaps, I can do better this time.

  • @glentheophile1886
    @glentheophile18863 жыл бұрын

    Alot of what was said is true but I would like to speak with u all

  • @Islander_Selva
    @Islander_Selva6 ай бұрын

    I'm trying to save my marriage and I committed adultery. I truly messed up

  • @mjperfume1523
    @mjperfume1523 Жыл бұрын

    He said hes vowes and hes broken them and i feel very very hurt. Marriage in our family is for ever, even though theres been health oroblems

  • @AverageAufa
    @AverageAufa2 ай бұрын

    it becomes more difficult when my husband is not emotionally intelligent. his upbringing taught him to hide and avoid emotions. he did smth but he just wants to apologise and move on. our first marriage counselling is teaching him to verbalize my emotions. “I can see that you are angry, you are filled with hurt from my mistakes. I understand why you are feeling the way you are.” it sucks. i wish i could see and feel his remorse and guilt, but it does not come naturally. he’s practicing from a script. i know he is learning but at the same time i hate myself for marrying a emotionless soul.

  • @joannep5974
    @joannep59743 жыл бұрын

    I appreciate that you all have a desire to help people and I'm so glad so many have been helped. But, I have to disagree completely with your opinion of what you think people are asking for when they say they want magic. Having been betrayed I've said the same thing, but that is not at all what I was referring to. I was wanting "magic" to erase the pain, fears, and hurt. Basically a magical do-over to prevent what happened or to have changed to have been enough for my spouse so that it wouldn't have happened. Unfortunately, without context from either of those spouses it would be unfair to assume you know what they are saying or thinking. And I hate to bring it up but the injured spouse may see changed in the other one, but what he did to cause the hurt doesn't seem to be have been addressed. So, how do you expect to move on without that.

  • @timdavis6590

    @timdavis6590

    2 жыл бұрын

    She didn't come back but she did say she wasn't with Mike any way she was gone for a week and when she came back she was with him she still say she hasn't done anything with him he is still staying with her they supposedly have separate beds I believe her but I still don't like it she shouldn't have him there. Maybe someone can tell me what I should do

  • @mjperfume1523
    @mjperfume1523 Жыл бұрын

    Every time theres s argument, he always runs to her, textes her and she seems to be able to calm him down which makes me feel so insecure.

  • @quintincrum797
    @quintincrum7979 күн бұрын

    How do this work when they stonewall you, ignore you? How do this work when they're no longer in the house?

  • @asamusicdude
    @asamusicdude2 жыл бұрын

    I've been separated for a yr now and I text my wife every day which she doesn't mind but recently I sent her a spicy sext which I havent done in years and surprisingly she reciprocated but the next day went cold lol I love my wife and I'm super confident in who I am now and my trust in God is no.1 been working out and its showing really fast. cant wait for restoration

  • @MarriageHelper

    @MarriageHelper

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hey asamusicdude! It sounds like something that could be extremely beneficial to you would be our SMART Contact Toolkit. This will teach you exactly what to do to start rebuilding healthy communication with your spouse! Highly recommend you consider checking it out here: marriagehelper.com/product/smart-contact-toolkit-product/ We truly hope it helps you.

  • @jeffangelo5447
    @jeffangelo54478 ай бұрын

    Please take a moment and pray for Jeff and Shay to be reconciled in marriage. Thank you.

  • @susanrichardson4354
    @susanrichardson43543 жыл бұрын

    This is Susan I enjoy this help your doing to help people and myself with my same sex marriage .thanks

  • @tatainmalio6083

    @tatainmalio6083

    3 жыл бұрын

    Hi friend, do you really need help to recover your relationship and get your partner to love you more?????

  • @tatainmalio6083

    @tatainmalio6083

    3 жыл бұрын

    Let me recommend you to someone called baba Eseohe that helped me recover my relationship and get my ex back to me. He can definitely help you also ❤️❤️

  • @tatainmalio6083

    @tatainmalio6083

    3 жыл бұрын

    Watzap him now for help...........

  • @tatainmalio6083

    @tatainmalio6083

    3 жыл бұрын

    +2=3=4=8=0=8=4=0=2=3=9=5=5

  • @tatainmalio6083

    @tatainmalio6083

    3 жыл бұрын

    +2:3:4:8:0:8:4:0:2:3:9:5:5

  • @shanepettys9896
    @shanepettys98962 жыл бұрын

    My wife is moving out and has started the paperwork for divorce. It is a good idea to write a letter just asking for a separation instead of a divorce?

  • @MarriageHelper

    @MarriageHelper

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hey shane pettys, so sorry to hear you are going through this. Because of the complexity of this situation, we would strongly advise you reach out to us directly! You can call us at 1 (866) 903 0990 and be connected with one of our Client Representatives who will guide you to the best resources we have available for your situation. You can also schedule the call yourself for a time that works best for you by following this link: marriagehelper.com/marriage-strategy-call/ We look forward to speaking with you directly if you will allow it!

  • @mjperfume1523
    @mjperfume1523 Жыл бұрын

    My husband doesnt believe in therapy, bc his parents didnt go for thrrapy, so he says i dont need therapy.

  • @anniemcmillen940
    @anniemcmillen9402 жыл бұрын

    I swear, covid ruined many marriages.

  • @ivannapoppins9063

    @ivannapoppins9063

    2 жыл бұрын

    whatzpp him I was like this be'fore I know who can he:lp you out text him now he can solve your problem:: don't waste your time here,....

  • @Naan795

    @Naan795

    2 жыл бұрын

    It uncovered challenges that the relationship had before, unfortunately this was the way to open the eyes

  • @wasilazakari7566

    @wasilazakari7566

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,l got help from a great man who brought us back together..

  • @Lizardbrainzzz

    @Lizardbrainzzz

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@wasilazakari7566 bot

  • @asamusicdude

    @asamusicdude

    2 жыл бұрын

    Covid doean have a mind.Vows are made by humans who can decide to stay or leave keep promises or brake them have Principles or compulsions go by feelings or go by love. Human nature is the problem not some virus with a 95 survival rate

  • @user-mj1ht1tw2w
    @user-mj1ht1tw2w Жыл бұрын

    Oui je parvient à trouvé ça très bien et normal ,mais sérieusement moi j'aime bien et je fais ce que je pourrai à mes pouvoirs et à mon niveaux sur ma relation oui j'aime bien oui

  • @MarriageHelper
    @MarriageHelper3 жыл бұрын

    What should our next topic be for Relationship Radio? Leave a comment down below with your suggestions! We want to help you and serve you the best way we can. ❤️

  • @jessemoore1834

    @jessemoore1834

    3 жыл бұрын

    My wife is going back and forth. Last time it was a week which she had me cancel her trip to see the OM and book a family trip for the summer. She added me to her bank accounts. Then she felt guilt and went back to the LO. My little kids are torn. The back and forth is damaging to them. Can we discuss the difference between bipolar snd limerence. They seem reflect the same symptoms.

  • @Kate42

    @Kate42

    3 жыл бұрын

    How about a situation where the wife knows for a certainty that her husband has had an affair and the husband will never admit to it and now wants your relationship to work and you feel like the only reason he does is that you believe that she left him and now he wants back with you? And he believes that you really don't know for sure what has been going on. Should you stay or leave considering he will never admit it?

  • @asamusicdude

    @asamusicdude

    3 жыл бұрын

    Spouse that puts thier family before marriage

  • @hmmmyuup3669

    @hmmmyuup3669

    2 жыл бұрын

    How a separation needs to take it's time and rushing back in could ruin everything good that was coming of the separation.

  • @roberthensley3427
    @roberthensley34273 жыл бұрын

    My wife had moved on to another man can my marriage still be saved?? Divorce will be final June 21 , HELP

  • @kestonluke6439

    @kestonluke6439

    3 жыл бұрын

    Prayed for you bro. It is well.

  • @kestonluke6439

    @kestonluke6439

    3 жыл бұрын

    In that boat too bro. If you want to talk lemme know.

  • @sonicblue6775

    @sonicblue6775

    3 жыл бұрын

    Just move on. Trust me my wife met different men(5 over 32 years) when she felt I was not in the marriage emotionally. I now am in that same place since April 3rd. Just destroyed me again. Still trying to save the marriage. Not going well this time. Why do I stay, good question. Love?

  • @carlmarch9591

    @carlmarch9591

    3 жыл бұрын

    Let her go why do you want her after she left for another man get your self respect back and kick her to the curb get yourself the best you have ever been physically financially confident, you will enjoy telling her were to go when she tries to come back and you have other options all the best my friend never sit there waiting man up and move forward

  • @roberthensley3427

    @roberthensley3427

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@slowiendeary2846 yes I do who is this and what's their number???

  • @SexiSeahawk69
    @SexiSeahawk693 жыл бұрын

    How do I call in

  • @brianstoops7612
    @brianstoops76122 жыл бұрын

    How do you show changes when spouse won't talk to me and has shut down all forms of communication

  • @toddbarton8997

    @toddbarton8997

    2 жыл бұрын

    I'm in the same situation, I have really made changes, a big one is I've changed my perspective. I honestly see how many mistakes I was making. I just want her to at least know I'm owning my problems and making changes. Hang in there bro, I'm praying for you

  • @jenniferforrester7662

    @jenniferforrester7662

    2 жыл бұрын

    Marriage Helper has a lot of information on smart contact to help you be ready if/when communication begins. I was in a similar situation and it worked for me. Go to marriagehelper.com/courses-more

  • @wasilazakari7566

    @wasilazakari7566

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,l got help from a great man who brought us back together...

  • @sherriehunter9282

    @sherriehunter9282

    Жыл бұрын

    I'm in the same situation with my husband and he has even moved in with the OW

  • @mjperfume1523
    @mjperfume1523 Жыл бұрын

    He cant even say good morning to me, he always has a frown on his face whenever he gets comes out of the room bc hes been sleeping together, cuddling each other as she has sneaked into the room, but he denies that never happened, she hides in the closet, after he comes back into the room. I can hear them talking to one another in the room. Why cant he just be honest with me and say the truth whats really happening in that room. Thats a coward to me!

  • @CarolineAnandSiddiqui

    @CarolineAnandSiddiqui

    8 ай бұрын

    Reading this at 2am and it scared me like a horror movie!!!

  • @dilvashi7759
    @dilvashi77592 жыл бұрын

    Do you incorporate John Gottman's work?

  • @amybostic1439

    @amybostic1439

    Жыл бұрын

    They absolutely do- they speak of his research often

  • @eileenfuentes6975

    @eileenfuentes6975

    Жыл бұрын

    Attended the workshop. Yes.

  • @mjperfume1523
    @mjperfume1523 Жыл бұрын

    I n my case he wont talk about our past bc he doesn’t want me to talk about what We did in our past. He refuses to recognize that we were married 52 yrs of marriage. He has his thing break into our house I feel she is an intruder as far as im concerned. She started sneaking in from Dec 2022 and i dont want her too. She comes everynight and im sick of her lies and his too. I dont think he will ever trust me. Theres so much secrets going on, its none of my business he says!

  • @bishopanthonywilson440
    @bishopanthonywilson4402 жыл бұрын

    My wife and I are separated but still living together but she wants a divorce but I do not. She has a friend but she shows that she is still wants me but sometimes not. Is there an opportunity to be a part of your classes but financially unable to. I had stroke and not working now. But really need this

  • @dannyp8503
    @dannyp85033 жыл бұрын

    Both spouses have to want this. When one is like my wife it doesn't matter who I am. Plus she cheated with another married man. Why does part of me still think it can work. I'm a moron.

  • @tatainmalio6083

    @tatainmalio6083

    3 жыл бұрын

    Hi friend, do you really need help to recover your relationship and get your ex back to you??????

  • @tatainmalio6083

    @tatainmalio6083

    3 жыл бұрын

    Let me recommend you to someone called baba Eseohe that helped me recover my relationship and get my ex back to me. He can definitely help you also ❤️❤️

  • @tatainmalio6083

    @tatainmalio6083

    3 жыл бұрын

    Watzap him now for help.............

  • @blkrbbn1535

    @blkrbbn1535

    2 жыл бұрын

    You’re not a moron at all, you want your wife back. She’s probably in limerence. Is there an update?

  • @celine_anne
    @celine_anne Жыл бұрын

    Can I do this process even being divorced and no contact 😢😥

  • @lukebarrett2317

    @lukebarrett2317

    Жыл бұрын

    I found out there are prayers for fixing divorce and broken marriages. Although me and my wife are now back together and our love is even stronger but I was a total mess when she first dumped me.

  • @barbaramurphy9412
    @barbaramurphy94123 жыл бұрын

    How do you get your spouse to go to counciling

  • @blancaherrera6361

    @blancaherrera6361

    3 жыл бұрын

    I’m in the same boat. He those not want to try anything to help our marriage. And he just told me that he was getting a divorce. And the thing is that this whole problem those not involve an affair😢 I don’t know what to do our what to say.

  • @EpicLoveInstitute

    @EpicLoveInstitute

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@blancaherrera6361 We hear your pain. One way you can inspire a man to go to counseling is through the doorway of sex. We don't know the specifics of your situation but what we can tell you is that most men want consistent physical intimacy. If sex has dried up in your relationship and you know he wants more sex, here is an idea of something you can say to him: "Honey, I miss you. I miss the connection we used to have. I want to be intimate with you again. I want to understand how I can be a better partner. I need your help and input so that the counselor can help us. Would you be willing to go to therapy with me so we can feel connected again and be intimate again?

  • @magicj599

    @magicj599

    2 жыл бұрын

    you can't, unless they want to.

  • @Lizardbrainzzz

    @Lizardbrainzzz

    2 жыл бұрын

    Haha good luck . Normally when they don’t want counselling , it’s because there afraid of all their shit getting dredged up.

  • @sadetiriana
    @sadetiriana Жыл бұрын

    How to show them you've changed? How about letting the actions speak for itself? If someone's changed, it will show. I think of my narcissist husband watching something like this and using it to manipulate me

  • @tereugalde45311
    @tereugalde45311Ай бұрын

    This is count-fit person. This person not family.

  • @davidkool5131
    @davidkool5131 Жыл бұрын

    Marriage is a trap... nobody teaches youngsters before signing that contract... eventually it's a mental pain and consequences of jeopardizing your health, finances and low self esteem 🤦🏻😑

  • @MarriageHelper

    @MarriageHelper

    Жыл бұрын

    Hey @davidkool5131, thank you for your comment. However, we disagree. We believe there is ALWAYS hope for a marriage no matter what. If you have had a bad experience in the past that has caused you to feel this way, we understand wholeheartedly. But there is always hope. If you change your mind and decide you would like to seek help for your marriage, we would love to talk to you and will always remain a safe place for you. You can call us directly at 1 866 903 0990 if you'd like to chat. Blessings,

  • @IsabelleApuya-ky5bo
    @IsabelleApuya-ky5bo Жыл бұрын

    I can’t trust my husband anymore he cheated and lies countless times I don’t want to save this marriage to be cheated and lies at again.