How To Short-Circuit The Fear Of Rejection

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Do you ever feel like the fear of rejection is holding you back?...
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Like maybe there's someone that you would have really liked to ask out, someone that you've had your eye on for a long time, but when you think about asking them out you think about them maybe saying no. Rejecting you. So you don't even want to try. Or maybe you're an artist of some kind and you'd like to share your art, you'd like to publish it, you'd like to maybe even pursue it as a career... for me, this was writing.
But, when you think about being criticized or rejected for that art, you don't even want to throw your hat in the ring. If that's something that you can relate to, the good news is that you don't have to continue to relate to it because there's people in the world that are basically immune to rejection!
They don't feel it in the same way that you might, and they don't fear it. And the only difference between them and someone who has issues with rejection that were kind of fears it is the way that they perceive it in their mind and that's what we're covering today.
How can you make those quick little rejection tweaks? They're gonna make rejection kind of feel like something that just rolls off your back like nothing at all!
Rejection Mindsets and Strategies:
0:57 Think of a time that you have been rejected exercise.
1:15 Disassociate yourself from the rejection.
2:44 Broaden your perspective and goals of being rejected.
4:20 Success is a numbers game (roll the dice).
5:50 STOP using the word "Rejection"
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  • @felixtira5245
    @felixtira52457 жыл бұрын

    I'm trying to become a dictator in my country. Your videos had helped me a lot!

  • @Charismaoncommand

    @Charismaoncommand

    7 жыл бұрын

    That's a long, hard road my friend :)

  • @DevilsInferno1

    @DevilsInferno1

    7 жыл бұрын

    "a ruler with total power over a country, typically one who has obtained control by force." I believe that sometimes that is necessar----yo what the f*ck?!

  • @lunatic4152

    @lunatic4152

    6 жыл бұрын

    Felix Tira hahahaha hilarious 😂

  • @patricksmith3871

    @patricksmith3871

    5 жыл бұрын

    HAHAHA

  • @Soul_Alpha

    @Soul_Alpha

    5 жыл бұрын

    We can install you there, for a small fee of a million dollars of course.

  • @TheYvesL
    @TheYvesL7 жыл бұрын

    This guy's wardrobe is 100 Black V-neck T-shirts and one jeans

  • @FrVitoBe

    @FrVitoBe

    7 жыл бұрын

    nha hes doing this live as soon we click the play button

  • @bikinipuncake724

    @bikinipuncake724

    7 жыл бұрын

    I bet he isn't even wearing any pants or underwear. He's gone free falling.

  • @UNOwen-nn6ui

    @UNOwen-nn6ui

    7 жыл бұрын

    +BikiniPUNCAKE FREE falling?Thats a New one to me :P

  • @nicholasnicolaou7015

    @nicholasnicolaou7015

    7 жыл бұрын

    steve jobs also had one outfit he wore throughout his career

  • @samfdsd2134

    @samfdsd2134

    7 жыл бұрын

    it;s ok! Mark Zuckerberg wears the same type of t shirt every day! It's an image and won't waste time on what do I need to wear. It really save much time.

  • @HidingInMyRoom1989
    @HidingInMyRoom19897 жыл бұрын

    i fear rejection but i fear not asking and never knowing more

  • @ohfreud3981

    @ohfreud3981

    3 жыл бұрын

    jordan peterson ftw

  • @thesilvershota3091

    @thesilvershota3091

    2 жыл бұрын

    hiding in my room? THE JAPANESE SCRUB IS HERE? WAHHH?

  • @shiulimital6950

    @shiulimital6950

    2 жыл бұрын

    you've literally just summarized exactly how I feel!

  • @caiofarias7020
    @caiofarias70207 жыл бұрын

    Well, I asked a girl to go out, she said no, but no worries! Just 3.8 billion left to go for!

  • @zee6778

    @zee6778

    5 жыл бұрын

    Lol don't do it bro, find someone who wants you! Im saving your reputation.

  • @gman9722

    @gman9722

    5 жыл бұрын

    No, it’s more like 4.1 billion because there’s more women than men on the planet

  • @lelouchvibritannia6851

    @lelouchvibritannia6851

    5 жыл бұрын

    Yeah same here man

  • @uhjhyujhi

    @uhjhyujhi

    5 жыл бұрын

    Caio Farias that’s the spirit!

  • @blueshanks1

    @blueshanks1

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@gman9722 yeah but how many of those are within his age range? Billions of those are old ladies, little girls, obese and just hideous. It's more like 500 million

  • @Micoolaw
    @Micoolaw7 жыл бұрын

    I get rejected everyday. I'm addicted to it. Running towards my fears. I think it's made me crazy

  • @markoselendic9633

    @markoselendic9633

    4 жыл бұрын

    I wanna be like that

  • @battub7384

    @battub7384

    4 жыл бұрын

    Balls of steel...

  • @matthew7823

    @matthew7823

    4 жыл бұрын

    Should start a diary

  • @alanholmes2633

    @alanholmes2633

    4 жыл бұрын

    Probably made you fearlessly

  • @Tarikan5

    @Tarikan5

    4 жыл бұрын

    You are an adorable slug.I will give you a kiss. *Gives her a Hersey's Kiss* True story.

  • @lukestar9082
    @lukestar90827 жыл бұрын

    i love how there are no cuts when you talk. i can actually understand pretty much everything you say even though i don't speak english that well. when i watch other youtubers who are making cuts in their videos i always feel like i'm missing out some of the information.

  • @ElMoShApPiNeSs

    @ElMoShApPiNeSs

    7 жыл бұрын

    Good point. To me it represents his confidence and conviction in what he's saying. Which is reassuring.

  • @wilruugames

    @wilruugames

    7 жыл бұрын

    I think your name represents confidence and conviction

  • @ElMoShApPiNeSs

    @ElMoShApPiNeSs

    7 жыл бұрын

    William Ruud You're god damn right it does.

  • @user-ez5vq9fd2t

    @user-ez5vq9fd2t

    7 жыл бұрын

    It's almost like he's good at what he's teaching other people to do and be.

  • @ElMoShApPiNeSs

    @ElMoShApPiNeSs

    7 жыл бұрын

    Paul Kim Your comment is pointless.

  • @daffertube
    @daffertube4 жыл бұрын

    You took me from feeling "rejected" to realizing that I have an infinite opportunity and infinite 2nd chances to get what I want! Thank you!

  • @sabyasachidas7912
    @sabyasachidas79127 жыл бұрын

    you have no idea how much appropriate your timing is. I am going to ask her out tomorrow. God bless you man and keep making impacts on our lifes

  • @ingo7908

    @ingo7908

    7 жыл бұрын

    Good luck bro. Let the rest of us know how it goes

  • @sabyasachidas7912

    @sabyasachidas7912

    7 жыл бұрын

    +Spurs vG surely I'll

  • @sabyasachidas7912

    @sabyasachidas7912

    7 жыл бұрын

    +Spurs vG surely I'll

  • @sabyasachidas7912

    @sabyasachidas7912

    7 жыл бұрын

    +Spurs vG surely I'll

  • @crediblemusic

    @crediblemusic

    7 жыл бұрын

    Don't do it bro. She's going to reject you and you will be upset for long time. Instead, just go to a night club and hook up with a drunk chick.

  • @lucarago5492
    @lucarago54927 жыл бұрын

    "Rejection is a step in the right direction" :')

  • @jeffbilyeu884
    @jeffbilyeu8845 жыл бұрын

    I'm a licensed therapist and I feel like I get so much from this channel. Very great content that actually sticks in my mind! I apply so much of this to my life. I rephrased "rejection" to "it wasn't a good fit." Thanks again, Charlie.

  • @Charismaoncommand

    @Charismaoncommand

    5 жыл бұрын

    ~ Glad you're getting value from the channel Jeff!

  • @ru27109
    @ru271095 жыл бұрын

    I feel confident about the rejection that my crush just gave me. He thankfully explained why and now I feel better. Thank you. I was about to cry. Now I am smiling 😀 thank you.

  • @annajames9682
    @annajames96827 жыл бұрын

    I have a serious fear of rejection and I will never be in a relationship because of it. My lack of confidence is staggering. I pretend to be confident by being loud and crazy but in reality I don't have much.

  • @buzwemaka7264

    @buzwemaka7264

    3 жыл бұрын

    I've never related to something quite like this.

  • @felipecabrera5317

    @felipecabrera5317

    3 жыл бұрын

    And how's life now 4 years later?

  • @blixow2542

    @blixow2542

    3 жыл бұрын

    .

  • @marianormann9599
    @marianormann95997 жыл бұрын

    I have social anxiety and this channel is very helpful!

  • @Charismaoncommand

    @Charismaoncommand

    7 жыл бұрын

    Happy to share :-)

  • @LetsStopThisSong

    @LetsStopThisSong

    7 жыл бұрын

    Maria Normann same here!!

  • @stephenosoko6451
    @stephenosoko64517 жыл бұрын

    Learning to disassociate yourself from the rejection is such an awesome mental shift! Having this frame really gives you the liberty to express your creative, talk to that girl you like and live a life that you will be proud of when you look back as an old person. Great video!!!

  • @Charismaoncommand

    @Charismaoncommand

    7 жыл бұрын

    Thank you kind sir!

  • @BarChordA
    @BarChordA7 жыл бұрын

    This is a great perspective. You consistently shed light on the not-quite-obvious truth. As a perfectionist, I have stifled myself artistically for years, never wanting to do anything for fear that it wouldn't meet my high self-standards. I've recently begun attempting to create one thing (drawing, poem, song, video, story) per day and show it to someone, even if it isn't my best work. A friend of mine once said "If you try to be great, you probably won't even be good, but if you try to be good, you'll probably be great." So I'm trying earnestly to be good.

  • @happymommy22
    @happymommy226 жыл бұрын

    I've been dealing with rejection from familly... It's hard enough when outsiders reject you, but to have your own blood reject you.. that's what really hurt.. followed by rejection from the church and my in laws... I just want to say thank you.. for the first time in weeks I feel a sense of hope again.. It's hard for me to disaccociate myself naturally because i wa taught otherwise.. but you're right.. that rejection word is tied to our sense of self worth. I am worthy.. And I'll keep going ... because i am good enough... thank you mr. Charisma =)

  • @iliyanshterev9187
    @iliyanshterev91877 жыл бұрын

    hey man i just adked a girl i like on a date and she blushed and said no just a plain no but i did it after i watched the video and i realy didnt die :) thx

  • @Charismaoncommand

    @Charismaoncommand

    7 жыл бұрын

    Good man!

  • @realbenjaminseda
    @realbenjaminseda7 жыл бұрын

    You're literally the reason I do KZread videos giving dating advice, keep up the vids bro! I LITERALLY just posted a dating advice video on HOW to get GIRLS and not be REJECTED. Please see this and let me know what you think.

  • @DeadDystroyer

    @DeadDystroyer

    6 жыл бұрын

    Ooooh sweet God, what a shameless promotion, love your vids tho :))))

  • @BatmanDiaz-hq3ov

    @BatmanDiaz-hq3ov

    6 жыл бұрын

    This is so epic i love u zeus!

  • @mr.k4311

    @mr.k4311

    6 жыл бұрын

    Based Zeus is a legend

  • @rtx_____

    @rtx_____

    6 жыл бұрын

    Oh Zeus is here, what a surprise oki

  • @NaqrSeranvis

    @NaqrSeranvis

    6 жыл бұрын

    Yeah, how to never be rejected - erase the term "rejection" from your mind. Then you can be turned down, you can fail, but never be "rejected". The only advice I think is right: eventually you will succeed. Don't fear failures, because they are a natural path to success.

  • @kennethc.2921
    @kennethc.29217 жыл бұрын

    You can't control outside forces but you can control the meaning you give to them.

  • @XSnowStorm13X
    @XSnowStorm13X6 жыл бұрын

    I was a guy that would never get rejected wouldn't fear anything but I've had three rejections in a row and then dated a girl who simultaneously had a boyfriend and lied to me.It's been a bumpy road I had crazy amounts of confidence but now I just don't feel it in me.

  • @matheusqc5405

    @matheusqc5405

    5 жыл бұрын

    I understand you completely and can relate. In my case, i've dated about 5 times in my life and got cheated on every time. It's sad and it's bringing me down but i've always had the objective of being married to a faithful and good person so i'll keep on going.

  • @oeu3669

    @oeu3669

    5 жыл бұрын

    Gin Winsky the weird moment when you want two people who seem really nice and want the same things to just end up together 😩 I wish you both AMAZING HAPPY FAITHFUL LOVE AND LIGHT ❤️💛❤️💛💖

  • @888records

    @888records

    5 жыл бұрын

    There are gonna be a lot of people that leave you but if you keef going you'll find those who won't.

  • @archeofutura_4606

    @archeofutura_4606

    4 жыл бұрын

    Negative thoughts within, negative thots without. If you can’t get rid of one, then you take the other out

  • @jamesarmstrong2521

    @jamesarmstrong2521

    4 жыл бұрын

    Because you valued yourself higher and better then any other man. Nothing wrong in that but at same time its arrogant to think all women fancy you, and want you when they don't. Maybe im wrong but i was like you, but it was your pride hurt not the rejection its self... learn from it and grow as a person. And value people as much as you value yourself... what im learning

  • @conorturk1757
    @conorturk17577 жыл бұрын

    Do you think fear of rejection is tied in with attachment of validation?

  • @thestrawberryshogun8373

    @thestrawberryshogun8373

    7 жыл бұрын

    It is

  • @MistuhCoolio

    @MistuhCoolio

    7 жыл бұрын

    damn, that's deep

  • @tagaway6173

    @tagaway6173

    6 жыл бұрын

    Conor Turk yesssssssss!! That's my issue. Is not what a guy think of me, is what I think about myself that closes me down. And don't make me start to tell you the job offers I rejected after applying. I'm telling you, I wish my own validation wasn't an issue.

  • @aliibilli

    @aliibilli

    4 жыл бұрын

    yes!

  • @becool86R

    @becool86R

    3 жыл бұрын

    What do you mean ?

  • @asdfghjkl21181
    @asdfghjkl211817 жыл бұрын

    Love the "roll the dice" strategy. It's the perfect antidote to the impulse to stop trying that rejection can sometimes cause. Thanks for all your well thought-out and practical advice!

  • @ryancoppard2833
    @ryancoppard28337 жыл бұрын

    I think one of the most important things to consider before taking that risk and asking the girl out or going for that job or whatever, is that you want to be able to say "oh well" not "what if?" You don't want to have to look back at a point in your life and lament the fact that you let the fear of rejection hold you back, because you'll have those times where you want to strangle your past self for being such a chicken but theres nothing you can do about it, whats done is done, better to be able to say "oh well, at least I tried" and thats only assuming that you DO get rejected.

  • @Redchocobo
    @Redchocobo7 жыл бұрын

    In the end, all experience is experience Quick question: How many takes/ what do you do to make these videos single take?

  • @RiotingGaming

    @RiotingGaming

    7 жыл бұрын

    Think about seconth he did a video and yeah i guess its onetake

  • @anonymous352

    @anonymous352

    7 жыл бұрын

    Looks like you wrote your comment in "one take" too, lol

  • @RiotingGaming

    @RiotingGaming

    7 жыл бұрын

    +Anonymous haha sorry bur im not a native and i was Talking to a Person German while driving

  • @anonymous352

    @anonymous352

    7 жыл бұрын

    +RiotGaming No worries, although that sounds like a dangerous combo, haha

  • @dbsllama6042

    @dbsllama6042

    7 жыл бұрын

    +Anonymous fr

  • @TheCobraLord
    @TheCobraLord7 жыл бұрын

    Have you ever thought about doing an episode on Frank Underwood from House Of Cards?

  • @Foretelling

    @Foretelling

    7 жыл бұрын

    Oooh please!

  • @LeEnnyFace

    @LeEnnyFace

    7 жыл бұрын

    up

  • @Mr11kankan

    @Mr11kankan

    7 жыл бұрын

    YEEESS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11111111

  • @mcopeland4829

    @mcopeland4829

    7 жыл бұрын

    that's fucking interesting! he should do big lebowski or ramsey bolton video too.

  • @AAscension

    @AAscension

    7 жыл бұрын

    Can I ask what you mean? Frank Underwood is a psychopath, and is not comparible to human beings who are not a psychopath...

  • @zielin32
    @zielin327 жыл бұрын

    Charlie, I appreciate all your videos a lot, but I think they might be just a bit more helpful, if you could summarize the steps at the very end, so that they sink in. Otherwise I often have to look for them manually, which isn't a big deal but still takes time. Thanks a lot and keep going!

  • @Charismaoncommand

    @Charismaoncommand

    7 жыл бұрын

    I'll try to remember next time!

  • @dbsllama6042

    @dbsllama6042

    7 жыл бұрын

    +Charisma on Command that'd be great

  • @mikeesteves8427

    @mikeesteves8427

    4 жыл бұрын

    i love how this has actually become a thing he does now

  • @sushipbestdeck8995

    @sushipbestdeck8995

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@mikeesteves8427 yeah👌

  • @danialahmadvand6328

    @danialahmadvand6328

    3 жыл бұрын

    Bro I think you really changed a thing in this channel

  • @sayantiju
    @sayantiju7 жыл бұрын

    I would be without a job for the first time in my life starting in January... and this video made me smile and look forward to the new adventure of job search that awaits! Thank you Charlie! :)

  • @Sadboyghost
    @Sadboyghost7 жыл бұрын

    I wish I had watched this video when I was younger. Very good advice.

  • @Charismaoncommand

    @Charismaoncommand

    7 жыл бұрын

    Thanks so much :-)

  • @legendarien1075
    @legendarien10757 жыл бұрын

    Your single takes are really impressive! It makes you seem organized and confident (which I know you are)

  • @joannayu4744
    @joannayu47447 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for this video... I've been binge watching all of your videos but this one really just hit the nail on the head. I've been way too scared to really reach out to people and ask for advice. I reached out to a handful of people and I already got asked for coffee this weekend by two people to talk about my career path. It really was the fear of being "rejected" because I always felt like I was never good enough to even talk to people. Thank you for your advice!!

  • @EvilSamson95
    @EvilSamson955 жыл бұрын

    wow. when you said "if you have of piece of art you've not published" my heart literally skipped a beat. As well as I did for the last couple of years. Thanks for all your work, I'm really digging it and it helps me a lot ! :*

  • @brahiamdorado9635
    @brahiamdorado96355 жыл бұрын

    “They just weren’t into what I look like.” Story of my life.

  • @franklinmarichal
    @franklinmarichal7 жыл бұрын

    Greatest vid on rejection that I've seen EVER!!!! Don't mean to sound lame with the enthusiasm or cringy for that matter but yeah I'm pumped up and feeling all kinds of worthiness now with this new perspective on rejection that I didn't have before. Thanks bro and keep doing what you're doing!

  • @TheCobraLord
    @TheCobraLord7 жыл бұрын

    This video gave me chills, very helpful and very insightful

  • @wongmarco7604
    @wongmarco76047 жыл бұрын

    Great work here man! I am just literally addicted to your videos and spent a whole day going through your channel. Amazed at how you can give such insightful advices and clear delivery, identify the common problems that shy people and introverts always have. You are just like a life coach! Hats off to u!

  • @bryce223453
    @bryce2234537 жыл бұрын

    Good point about viewing rejection as thinking too small/narrowly

  • @BrokenSymetry
    @BrokenSymetry5 жыл бұрын

    Fully agree. I used to have absolutely no ability to approach women. Now, I'm still learning, but it's exactly like he said - don't focus on rejection, focus on understanding what does and doesn't work, and - improve. Think constantly, try to get better, and you will. You don't even need anyone's tutoring - learn from other people's experiences, but think for yourself. Eventually you'll find out what approach works for you best. Just by thinking that way, you'll be miles ahead from where you were before.

  • @oterdverg
    @oterdverg7 жыл бұрын

    I know she would say yes, because I know she has a crush on me. I'm not afraid of being rejected, but I'm still afraid of asking. Why?

  • @Karak971

    @Karak971

    7 жыл бұрын

    You may still be worried about rejection, irrationally in this case, because of your mindset or how you view yourself. If you know that's she's crushing then go for it, I was in your situation and didn't do it and I regretted it for a long while.

  • @DevilsInferno1

    @DevilsInferno1

    7 жыл бұрын

    Akrak is right. Instead of pondering why, because to be honest you'll never fully know, my advice would be to eliminate anything that is getting in your way - any negative thoughts, any thing you have doubts about, and then go all-in because then even if you get "rejected", as this video just explained if you go in with the mindset of learning it's not really a "rejection". My idea of going all-in would include the mindset but also for example if I doubted my clothes I would wear nice clothes; if I doubted what I was going to say, I would have a think and practice; if I doubted my hair-style I would focus on changing it - HOWEVER, if I had doubts about getting rejected I would also prepare for that. I would say "haha, that's fine, but just for future reference can you please tell me why not?" If you go all-in, you will have no regrets. Just don't change your personality - you are who you are.

  • @kabuuzahkabuuzah5690

    @kabuuzahkabuuzah5690

    7 жыл бұрын

    U don't really want her , that's why

  • @acharich

    @acharich

    7 жыл бұрын

    Fear of the unknown..? Or maybe fear of success even..

  • @matthewp.5758
    @matthewp.57587 жыл бұрын

    This channel is for real, much appreciation for what you're doing.

  • @Charismaoncommand

    @Charismaoncommand

    7 жыл бұрын

    That's awesome to hear - glad you're liking it!

  • @evry1tookem
    @evry1tookem6 жыл бұрын

    I'm a 30 year old perpetually single person and this 1 year old video is the best help I have found for my biggest fear. I don't fear much, but rejection is up there with apex predators. I had given up a while ago but this has given me the confidence I needed to succeed. Thank you. Subbed.

  • @Charismaoncommand

    @Charismaoncommand

    6 жыл бұрын

    ~ That's awesome - glad to hear you found it helpful. Welcome to the channel :-)

  • @animaniacs538
    @animaniacs5383 жыл бұрын

    Do this it works: “it is what it is”

  • @utsavsharma3917
    @utsavsharma39177 жыл бұрын

    Hello Dude!! *Will you please do a video on Adolf Hitler's Charisma* _Serious_

  • @eduardotejerasosa8476

    @eduardotejerasosa8476

    7 жыл бұрын

    nah brah osama bin laden is more charismatic than hitler.

  • @GreenFlame44

    @GreenFlame44

    7 жыл бұрын

    That's actually a great idea.

  • @Astfresser

    @Astfresser

    7 жыл бұрын

    yes good idea

  • @crediblemusic

    @crediblemusic

    7 жыл бұрын

    Obama is charismatic. Just look at how many idiots idolize him.

  • @halher-3033

    @halher-3033

    7 жыл бұрын

    It was his political opinions that helped him not so much charisma

  • @jplot85
    @jplot857 жыл бұрын

    The way you explained this topic, the speed you used and the examples you used were perfect and I don't think you can improve anymore. Nearly perfect. Thank You for making these videos

  • @sloth7745
    @sloth77457 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for the video! Once again, I'm impressed how you manage to take the essence out of a really broad subject and break your advice down to a few bullet points, while staying authentic and sincere

  • @burgemccole2243
    @burgemccole22437 жыл бұрын

    Hey Charlie, love your channel and videos! I think what you said in the video is very true, and I would like to relate an important thought. People often judge themselves by results. Doing so is a mistake, since one has control merely over his actions and not over their consequences. As you said, you roll the dice - the score is beyond you. Hence, focusing on the process and whether you were true to yourself in your actions, instead of on the outcome, is key to handling an undesired result and moving forward unaffectes.

  • @Charismaoncommand

    @Charismaoncommand

    7 жыл бұрын

    Great input!

  • @F3ARL388
    @F3ARL3887 жыл бұрын

    This advice also applies to failure. Good tips.

  • @Hooghog
    @Hooghog7 жыл бұрын

    That dice role idea really made what you were talking about sink in! Keep up the fantastic quality videos

  • @marklavenderlive
    @marklavenderlive7 жыл бұрын

    Hands down one of the best KZread channels. I'm excited for your next quality video that I can soak in. For now I'll apply taking rejection as a learning experience.

  • @sarahalex4057
    @sarahalex40577 жыл бұрын

    Just found your channel and this has actually given me the push to investigate my idea for a business.

  • @Charismaoncommand

    @Charismaoncommand

    7 жыл бұрын

    Nothing makes us happier than hearing people are applying these tools, let alone so quickly ;-)

  • @steffen2678
    @steffen26787 жыл бұрын

    Great advice for constantly improving yourself! I also saw an improvment in the way you sharing your thougts in the recent videos Keep up the great work

  • @CrochetDelight
    @CrochetDelight6 жыл бұрын

    I love how specific you are in your explanations. From time to time I am afraid of "rejection" but over the years I have learned that, we only live once, so we need to be the best us that we can be, and try to live without regret. Later on in life there will be things we regret not doing, all simply because we were afraid of being "rejected". Because what's more important? Being rejected or being yourself and taking chances on things like asking someone out that you like, or going after a job? Always be yourself and take some chances. This video reminded me of that because recently I've been too afraid to ask out a guy that I am quite smitten with. Thank you for another great life experience video.

  • @carinag4238
    @carinag42387 жыл бұрын

    Every time I need encouragement or inspiration, I watch your videos☺️ Thank you for making me a better person.

  • @marielaquintero
    @marielaquintero7 жыл бұрын

    I´m loving your channel... I´ve already shared it with my friends and colleagues.

  • @lesserknownseriesost4269
    @lesserknownseriesost42697 жыл бұрын

    Ya you can learn from rejection. Learn not to try again.

  • @DJNHmusic
    @DJNHmusic7 жыл бұрын

    Your presentation has such a natural and humble vibe to it, unlike most KZreadrs who are so arrogant and self-righteous when talking about self-growth. Although inherently everybody knows that they're not the only ones with these kind of struggles it's still good to hear your own experiences and how you've learnt to overcome them. You really give a strong positive impression in the sense that you actually want to help people overcome their fears and grow and don't just do this to get famous or for the money. Good work man, keep it up, I love watching your vids even though I know a lot of it already but it's encouraging to hear it again nonetheless :)

  • @Pwutm
    @Pwutm7 жыл бұрын

    I actually laughed and cried while watching this video relating your points to my past experiences. Great video, thanks man, love your channel.

  • @aprilzhao6471
    @aprilzhao64717 жыл бұрын

    makes a lot of sense..loving this

  • @Charismaoncommand

    @Charismaoncommand

    7 жыл бұрын

    Happy to hear that!

  • @thomasenns9757
    @thomasenns97577 жыл бұрын

    To sum one major point up with the words of Conor McGregor: You win or you learn.

  • @isabellasommer9639
    @isabellasommer96397 жыл бұрын

    I've watched so many videos from this channel.. and yor smile still makes me nervous! I love your way of explaining these things with such fascination and enthusiasm !

  • @ForHonorUSMC
    @ForHonorUSMC7 жыл бұрын

    I literally feel like every time I have a conversation with someone (or myself) about one of my social issues, you post a video within days pointing me in a better direction. I needed this today; thank you.

  • @Charismaoncommand

    @Charismaoncommand

    7 жыл бұрын

    Happy you found it useful

  • @crush3630
    @crush36307 жыл бұрын

    Thanks it was useful as always.

  • @Charismaoncommand

    @Charismaoncommand

    7 жыл бұрын

    Glad you like it, thanks!

  • @lampersonlampy9146
    @lampersonlampy91467 жыл бұрын

    Charlie i've been watching your videos alot, and i am alot more charismatic. Thank you

  • @Paul-je7qu
    @Paul-je7qu3 жыл бұрын

    I've been watching you for almost 3 years. You always teach me a lot of new things. Thanks for all your work

  • @sekounitoto6442
    @sekounitoto64426 жыл бұрын

    I have to re-watch this video a few more times today, memorise it & take it to heart.

  • @nikizogs982
    @nikizogs9827 жыл бұрын

    You just earned an subscribe my friend, keep up the good work proud of you

  • @Charismaoncommand

    @Charismaoncommand

    7 жыл бұрын

    Welcome to the channel!

  • @HeyBoiay
    @HeyBoiay7 жыл бұрын

    Life is a #'s game. You hit the nail on the head, great video

  • @Charismaoncommand

    @Charismaoncommand

    7 жыл бұрын

    Thanks!

  • @mistercrabs1391

    @mistercrabs1391

    7 жыл бұрын

    +Charisma on Command thanks for the tip i have a date next saturday thanks to you!

  • @brynjones6398

    @brynjones6398

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@mistercrabs1391 how'd it go?

  • @ujjvalnarang5970
    @ujjvalnarang59704 жыл бұрын

    A Genuine Thanks from Heart Charlie. You saved a heart from so much pain.❤️❤️❤️

  • @stackmanification
    @stackmanification7 жыл бұрын

    Best fucking channel for this kind of advice. You're not a dickhead who acts as though they are helping those lesser than them. You approach it as though you're on the same level, and just giving a change of perspective that might be helpful. You're awesome, and these videos are basically mini TED Talks. Keep it up.

  • @nicholasn.2883
    @nicholasn.28834 жыл бұрын

    If you get rejected, hit em with a “dang bruh” Works every time

  • @ShawnFX

    @ShawnFX

    4 жыл бұрын

    lmaooo what happens next then?

  • @user-nt4rq5ml4m

    @user-nt4rq5ml4m

    3 жыл бұрын

    she'd be like "big oof better luck next time fam"

  • @Unico1601
    @Unico16017 жыл бұрын

    U are absolutely amazing, I'm glad that I found your channel 😍

  • @Charismaoncommand

    @Charismaoncommand

    7 жыл бұрын

    Welcome aboard!

  • @baiparaskov

    @baiparaskov

    7 жыл бұрын

    This movie is now aаvailаblе tо wаaatch hеre => twitter.com/1ba03513cb794157a/status/796185992562491392 Hоw To Short Circuit Thе Feаааr Оf Rejeсtion

  • @AgeOfNerros
    @AgeOfNerros7 жыл бұрын

    I don't know why this struck me right now, but I kinda feel you were more at ease doing this video than others, the fluidity of the speech is common to all your videos, though your look and your expressions in general are making it feel more personal. Maybe it is because I watch your videos for a long time, but that felt like a deep talk with a friend, and I like it this way. Keep up the good work, thanks from France

  • @godwinsamuel5239
    @godwinsamuel52394 жыл бұрын

    I've been getting really good at facing rejections myself and had to take a few yesterday, and went pretty good with that, but I still found this video helpful because now I consciously know how I'm doing what I'm doing, and I can accelerate my progress. So thank you for posting this video.

  • @peterfrech9595
    @peterfrech95957 жыл бұрын

    Bryan Cranston seems to be a character worthy to be analysed :). Whenever I see interviews of him, he always seems so incredibly likable and charismatic, and I can't figure out why.

  • @FPLNameless
    @FPLNameless7 жыл бұрын

    You really deserve the likes dude, keep up the your amazing work!

  • @Charismaoncommand

    @Charismaoncommand

    7 жыл бұрын

    Thank you kind sir!

  • @Raya134
    @Raya1345 жыл бұрын

    Watching this before my interview later today. This helped me feel calmer than anything else I've tried or watched. Thank you!

  • @kida930

    @kida930

    5 жыл бұрын

    Ryan How was your interview?

  • @Giu_Bag
    @Giu_Bag4 жыл бұрын

    I actually already had positive mindset about rejection before watching the video, but I never really disconnected myself from the concept of "rejection" itself. That was the missing point I got from this video. Thank you, Charlie.

  • @sf5823
    @sf58237 жыл бұрын

    This is the perfect video, thank you for making it :-) xxx

  • @Charismaoncommand

    @Charismaoncommand

    7 жыл бұрын

    Appreciate that!

  • @sf5823

    @sf5823

    7 жыл бұрын

    :-)

  • @HulaHoopingHannah
    @HulaHoopingHannah7 жыл бұрын

    Could you do more charisma profiles featuring women? I'd love to start comparing and learning more about strong charismatic women.

  • @MiaHessMusic

    @MiaHessMusic

    4 жыл бұрын

    Yes please! It's different being a woman.

  • @helluva667
    @helluva6677 жыл бұрын

    Used your videos to 'study up' for college and even on the first day I already am noticing a difference with how people perceive me. Great work and great videos keep it up!

  • @Charismaoncommand

    @Charismaoncommand

    7 жыл бұрын

    Nothing makes us happier than hearing people are applying these tools :)

  • @majitopadron8121
    @majitopadron81216 жыл бұрын

    This guy always helps me to see the bright side of the things

  • @justuswhitaker6237
    @justuswhitaker62376 жыл бұрын

    I just got used to it

  • @kristiannoel4866
    @kristiannoel48664 жыл бұрын

    When she rejects you she loses someone that loved her, you lose a girl that is making a wrong assumption.

  • @simondezeeuw2042

    @simondezeeuw2042

    4 жыл бұрын

    Sounds inspirational, but in reality you both lose nothing at all, because you didn't have anything in the first place...

  • @kristiannoel4866

    @kristiannoel4866

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@simondezeeuw2042 she had the opportunity to be with you, if she chose not to take it, then she has lost her right to any sympathy when she says she can never find "a good man" because of her decision. She is simply looking for her "perfect guy", a lot of good men are available to her, but she will turn them down until she runs out of options, and then wonder "why the good men have all gone" while stroking her cat.

  • @ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan

    @ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan

    4 жыл бұрын

    Like one of my russian friend said , he want to make a girl his girlfriend . But she said she has boyfriend , and now she is working in China like a dancer lol

  • @ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan

    @ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan

    4 жыл бұрын

    Love people who love u ))) Care about people who care about u

  • @kristiannoel4866

    @kristiannoel4866

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@hellohellohihi In which case she should have the decency to say it straight away so you can find someone who is into you because it will be better all around.

  • @Suiraqua31
    @Suiraqua317 жыл бұрын

    This channel is a gold mine.Thank you very for all the information, keep up the good work.

  • @bltotrs92
    @bltotrs927 жыл бұрын

    aww its so sweet how you show your love for your viewers in the end as you said that it would make you incredibly happy if you helped us to reach our goals :)

  • @shaunmabey9790
    @shaunmabey97907 жыл бұрын

    Don't trust your smile

  • @Clembo

    @Clembo

    7 жыл бұрын

    Guess he's got to do it more times.

  • @shaunmabey9790

    @shaunmabey9790

    7 жыл бұрын

    +Clembo when some fool try's to be clever but it's just not funny

  • @Clembo

    @Clembo

    7 жыл бұрын

    +shaun mabey mabey, not!

  • @shaunmabey9790

    @shaunmabey9790

    7 жыл бұрын

    +Clembo new one that

  • @Andreyabish

    @Andreyabish

    7 жыл бұрын

    I'm sure he doesn't care

  • @rsdhftw
    @rsdhftw7 жыл бұрын

    How about a video on how cersei lannister manipulates people?

  • @jackalll98

    @jackalll98

    7 жыл бұрын

    Dude Cersei is like the worst manipulator, even Tommen could manipulate people much better than her

  • @xSmuckerZxJelly

    @xSmuckerZxJelly

    7 жыл бұрын

    Haha funny she couldn't even control her own kids, she's a terrible manipulator

  • @Crick1952

    @Crick1952

    7 жыл бұрын

    How absolutely horrible she is at manipulation could be a video

  • @xSmuckerZxJelly

    @xSmuckerZxJelly

    7 жыл бұрын

    +Crick1952 good idea learning from someone's mistakes so you don't do them

  • @callum7081

    @callum7081

    7 жыл бұрын

    No those videos will never help you, more videos like this.

  • @macbeth455
    @macbeth4553 жыл бұрын

    I was feeling really bad about this- until I saw this gem recommended, thanks - I really needed this today

  • @Puxomawi
    @Puxomawi7 жыл бұрын

    I never thought of life as a dice game, and I can feel that it's already changing the way I think of things. Thank you!

  • @TheNashPhoenix
    @TheNashPhoenix7 жыл бұрын

    Hey, great video. This comment is the my first step. I'm attempting to write in english basically everywhere, as a non speaker, to one day publish what I already do in my language Took me time...

  • @halher-3033

    @halher-3033

    7 жыл бұрын

    Good English

  • @sadrien

    @sadrien

    7 жыл бұрын

    Your writing is better than most people who speak english, bud.

  • @beckampotoczny6732
    @beckampotoczny67323 жыл бұрын

    “You say ‘she rejected me,’ ‘he rejected me,’ ‘that company rejected me,’ and you are implying that they looked you dead in the eye as a whole person and said-“ *Reeses* *Eggs* are *Back* *Baby*

  • @caznya14
    @caznya143 жыл бұрын

    I have subscribed to this channel. I have learnt things that were helpful I suffer a lifetime of being paralysed by my fear of rejection. Numerous examples im not going to write here but all I will say to you is you're doing a helpful thing for mental-cripples like me!

  • @urchibified2044
    @urchibified20443 жыл бұрын

    As an artist, I love every time you give a shout out to artists!!!!

  • @user-qt6ud3sp6w
    @user-qt6ud3sp6w7 жыл бұрын

    Well, looks like now thanks to this tomorrow I'm gonna ask out the girl I've liked a lot for over 6 months :) Thanks! Edit: I replied with what happened

  • @Charismaoncommand

    @Charismaoncommand

    7 жыл бұрын

    Love to read that! Good luck

  • @FubbleSmurf

    @FubbleSmurf

    7 жыл бұрын

    Well??

  • @FluXxxie

    @FluXxxie

    7 жыл бұрын

    we all know what happened :(

  • @ingalerborg33

    @ingalerborg33

    7 жыл бұрын

    How did it go? Im thinking about asking someone out as well, and Im scared!

  • @justinlee37

    @justinlee37

    7 жыл бұрын

    and the great thing is that it's no big deal!

  • @SV-ed4qn
    @SV-ed4qn4 жыл бұрын

    I'm not afraid to get rejected. I'm more afraid that when they say yes, what next lol

  • @justinedelacruz3667

    @justinedelacruz3667

    3 жыл бұрын

    Relate lol

  • @momqabt
    @momqabt2 жыл бұрын

    Getting rid of the word "rejection" easier said than done, still, the best advice I've heard over the years.👍

  • @kimchutcheon4299
    @kimchutcheon42996 жыл бұрын

    You are a GREAT teacher, you are teaching me to be fearless. Thank you.

  • @Charismaoncommand

    @Charismaoncommand

    6 жыл бұрын

    ~ Appreciate it Kim!

  • @alexpoobum
    @alexpoobum7 жыл бұрын

    I feel like im always scare of everything and its kinda stopping me from doing alot of things, perhaps it stems from a fear of rejection

  • @WitchLuw

    @WitchLuw

    4 жыл бұрын

    tru

  • @ChoskarChulian
    @ChoskarChulian7 жыл бұрын

    Brother Big Tip: Improve Lighting. It looks 2 dark dull and pessimistic. It's not terrible but it could be much better.

  • @xSmuckerZxJelly

    @xSmuckerZxJelly

    7 жыл бұрын

    I think it's fine but it could be better

  • @jaziel3684

    @jaziel3684

    7 жыл бұрын

    +Molotov323 haha

  • @Foretelling

    @Foretelling

    7 жыл бұрын

    +Molotov323 wtf

  • @dbsllama6042

    @dbsllama6042

    7 жыл бұрын

    I prefer it personally.

  • @sadrien

    @sadrien

    7 жыл бұрын

    NO, i like this lighting!

  • @ec304
    @ec3047 жыл бұрын

    I don't usually comment on videos, but these that you have put out are really interesting. It has helped me see that it's more than just not being shy--which I am. I never knew there was so much associated with confidence; this particular video on rejection was very insightful, thank you for all you are doing for people like me who have difficulty in the social area of life.

  • @grilledcheez1
    @grilledcheez14 жыл бұрын

    I've watched a lot of your vids mate but I genuinely think this is one of the best you've done. Only 3.5 years late. Cheers

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