i love that you say no but still offer to help when you can. I'm a terrible people pleaser so i think offering to help another time will help me

@Prettyswagdad

Жыл бұрын

a really awesome strategy to try when you struggle with people pleasing is saying “I can’t do that, but what I CAN do is___” !!!

The last one is dangerouse because when you say "i will help when my workload is lighter". A clever boss will lighten your load for a bit to let you take on the extra work but then suddenly workload of normal work will come back. And then when you start setting boundaries, they will try to guilt trip you.

@clarakhong1148

10 ай бұрын

Hi boss, due to my increase in workload, I will be unable to continue handling these additional duties because I will be prioritising my primary duties first. (at least that is how I would say no)😅

@jordancypress

8 ай бұрын

God I needed this 😂

@asadb1990

8 ай бұрын

@@clarakhong1148 you are talking about a reasonable boss. Im talking about an exploitative boss or a boss who doesn't say no to other bosses.

I'm a stay at home mom and I still thoroughly enjoy these videos 😆

@bobbiking2123

10 ай бұрын

Stop bragging 😂😂

I did the last one recently, we lost someone and they wanted me to take up some of their responsibilities but I told them upfront that I wouldn't be able to since I need to prioritize my responsibilities. And I am happy I did. It would have been impossible for me to do both.

can you share more on setting personal boundaries? like colleagues oversharing, being too physically close, trying to get me to gossip…

@deefee701

10 ай бұрын

I have these issues too but the advice in the video about politics is easily adapted to everything else. "I'm sorry but I don't bitch about coworkers during company time. I'm happy to do it over drinks Friday evening if you're free".

Speaking from experience, YES TO NOT TAKING ON EXTRA ROLES!!! I did this in my previous job, and was WRITTEN UP when I made a mistake. It took me threatening to quit for them to hire someone else. Because I didn't learn the darn lesson the first time. I was asked again to cover a scheduling role as well as my on call bi-weekly duty. Resulting in working 24-7 but they did not have to pay me for 24-7 since the "on call" is considered flat rate. When I made a mistake there I was denied a promotion. So, again, YES YES YES!! Do NOT take on extra duties because a co worker leaves.

I conveniently don't answer my phone if I'm not at work. I'm not as good at setting boundaries otherwise. Though I may have to soon. My coworkers keep dumping their work on me and it's getting to be too frequent.

Lol I'm just unapologetic when setting boundaries, and that absolutely has gotten me in trouble Example from my project engineering position: "Hey, crawl under that floorboard and check the wiring." "Oh hahaha, that's a good one 👍 " "What are you afraid of a couple of spiders??" "Oh, you're serious?? I will absolutely not be doing that. Not only is that completely unnecessary for this project. That's outside of my job description. " "You're still young and gonna be paying dues for a while. That attitude is going to get you nowhere. " Yeahh.. I don't work there anymore ..

Could you do a video on setting boundaries for an employee who is salary, non exempt?

Omg I DONT have a workplace, but if i did this would totally be me 💪✨💅

You’re amazing, thank you 🥰🌟💫

It's really cute how you live in a world where employees have any input at all.

Why do these videos make me feel like an uncivilized caveman? I wish I had the brains to be quick-responding and professional 😂

Great useful advice

Great advise until they call you ‘ridged’ and that you have to have trust with your supervisor….

One time a boss asked if my vacation was firm. I Said, yes it is.

What if they threaten to fire you if you did that

I was sort of being trained to potentially be a lead in my department a couple years ago and was set in charge but also set to be one of the three people working the back room and taking orders out to customers - which got busy. I was delegating tasks as needed but something was going screwey with our machines we use so when the people would pick their task it would say it was taken already so they would take another one and then the original task would return. I thought maybe it was my machine so when I went to the restroom I went to get a new machine hoping it would clear the glitch. Our manager stopped me to tell me to do what I already was doing (and not being paid for it) and I was trying to explain what the issue I was having was (and how I was attempting to resolve it) when they kept talking over me. I then was trying to explain that I can't do two things at once - I cannot be *outside* taking an order to customers and tell the next person what task to pick at the same time when the manager said "well *I* can do it" at that point I decided no more and stopped taking on the more supervisor-y tasks.

That bit about not talking politics at work, though… 👀 I wish people would go back to that. Somehow it creeps its way into conversations and I’m exhausted trying to dodge the topic.

@ebrakefml

11 ай бұрын

Or we could all just put our big boy pants on and learn how to have civil conversations without acting like toddlers because somebody doesn't agree with us. That being said, one should never ask somebody's opinion on something if you can't handle what could potentially come out of their mouth.

@McKay2

11 ай бұрын

@@ebrakefml In my experience, being in the minority tends to paint a target on one's back. When someone views a person of the opposite opinion as the enemy, it becomes easier to find fault with anything and everything they do. It keeps things a lot simpler if politics are left out of professional situations, as they should.

@LoeWhaley would be great to see Brenda collab with Erin here

What about mandatory overtime?

All of this sounds absolutely crazy to me. I've never been asked to do anything during my time off or outside my working hours and I don't remember anybody that I know reporting any of this. I assume there must be a reason why in the US you guys make 2-3x what people make in Europe 😅

Can you please do one for women that are harassed? Such as coworkers or boss begin sending Kissy face Emojis and being touchy feely

You coming to Costa Rica, big sis Erin?

Honestly Kanye's the one politics topic that would be unserious enough for me to talk about at work lmao. Him and Vermin Supreme. But if you ask me about "real" politicians hell nah

Bro why am I so happy about her using my country 😂😂😂

That Kanye guy is someone you can trust at work. Most people don’t share any controversial opinions.

honestly if i get paid hourly im happy with helping with more workload as long as i get paid for my work all is fair

Im famous for im on my way out the door i can get that to you first thing

I love your content! I have a question how do I professionally request my supervisor to never bring on a person to my team who tried to sabotage me in getting a job by reporting me for a innocent comment to HR?

Is this goin to work in a workaholic culture business?😢

"I don't talk about politics in the workplace."- said the least chill person in every office ever that never gets invited to happy hour and sits alone in their car at lunch eating vending machine food.

What happens when your in the healthcare? Asking for a friend...

This works great if you have a healthy mindset to create boundaries. What about coworkers who fail their job responsibilities and others pick up the slack? It’s called insubordination. Her “boundaries” are negatively impacting the team. She gossips 1/2 the day and claims she is too busy to take on other assignments. Everyone else works overtime & she leaves exactly at 5 everyday. We all have lives, not just her. Not a team player. I’ll be promoted to manager and plan to have a transparent discussion on expectations for the entire team.

@chocolateredvelvet

Жыл бұрын

I don’t completely understand what the comment is trying to say so correct me if I’m wrong,but if someone applied for certain things and you want them to work extra on something else without getting paid then they have the right to leave. Why should one work overtime because others can’t set boundaries?

@dennnnnn1352

Жыл бұрын

@@chocolateredvelvet yeah, the comment above is talking about a management/ leadership issue but put the blame on the employee that keep their boundaries and keeping their good life/work balance in check. If everyone is overworking, then management need to hire more workers or something because high stress will lead to potential turnovers down the line.

Annnnnd you’re fired.

but about that not talking about politics in workplace. It can be just a part to get in familiar or just striking conversation. Not compulsory to be breaking boundaries

@Suhani__Jain

11 ай бұрын

what's your take on this? Am I seeing this right?

How to sound like a robot. 😂

Can we please stop taking advise from a self employed contractor who doesn’t actually work for anyone and has no boss or coworkers, she’s just hashing out old dated advise.