Ooooeee they be so disrespectful not just to teachers but to each other it's sad to see. Thank you for creating a video like this

@FeedTheirNeeds

Жыл бұрын

You're welcome:)

@SpiritWolf209

7 ай бұрын

This is my first year teaching and I was absolutely shocked at how mean and disrespectful the students are toward each other.

But they talk over you and don’t even listen

@FeedTheirNeeds

2 ай бұрын

Yes, you're right. It's a challenge. This is where attention-gettering strategies come in handy.

@ibphysicsclassroom

Ай бұрын

Respect is only with Asia and Africa. The few Africans that mingled with the west we are really struggling to put up with them. The human right spoilt everything

Nothing is personal.

The problem is, I've watched a gazillion youtube videos on classroom management and they all say "use your consequences" but that's the part I have trouble with. What should the consequences be? Nobody gives suggestions on consequences and as a new teacher, I don't know what to do. If there's no consequence, there's no classroom management. Edit: I'm coming back because I feel like my comment came across rude. I love your videos! I'm just frustrated, have a very difficult class and had a horrible day. I'm going to watch some of your other videos for ideas.

@anonymous-ms4lv

Жыл бұрын

I've seen teachers 1) give a verbal warning 2) send student to different class for a bit 3) if behavior continues, send them to front office

@donettethorpe3187

11 ай бұрын

Hi there,. I am teacher in Jamaica. So my consequences going to be their play time. Am gonna try that. Let them sit with me during their break.

@doreenchambers9579

8 ай бұрын

Punishment is taking something they want, or iike away from them temporary.

@starforbes4596

8 ай бұрын

Exactly no one seems to have the answers to logical consequences in classroom!

@AlumniQuad

8 ай бұрын

@@starforbes4596 Sounds like a complete and utter dereliction of duty of college and university Education departments, state education departments, school districts, and individual school leadership.

Thank you for sharing educator in training ❤ I’m trying to do better as well bc I can come off strong with delivery and tone and with an attitude bc of the disrespect the student gives. I wanted to find another approach, so thank you. I think a meeting should be had between me and the student. Even though I was minding my own business when all of a sudden that student said what are you doing to me bc I was sitting down thinking about what to do next and that student kept a grudge ever since, and tells my what she is not going to do.

Some people are meant to be teachers. If you can't relate to the population, group, age group or race of where you are trying to teach, move on. Having Genuine Empathy for the young generation and their society are a must have. Not just to be there for your paycheck or your own benefits. I've been in the teaching fields for many years from K-12, and have seen too many BA degree teachers leave from one school to another for various reasons but mainly due to stress from children. So, if you want to teach, then teach and mean it well.

Maybe it is up to us to help TEACH what respect looks like so we can have a respectful generation! 🙏🏻🌞❤️ thank you for your videos.

@FeedTheirNeeds

28 күн бұрын

Yesss!! That's is what I have been advocating. Or at least TEACH what respect looks like in a class setting. We can't afford to wait for the respect to simply show up in our current society.

Great advice.

Thank you for sharing this advice. I subbed for the first time in middle school and I was in complete shock. I’ll try this next time and I already know what consequences I need to set in place if they don’t stop🙃

@FeedTheirNeeds

7 ай бұрын

You are so welcome! Wishing you success :)

@CR-pf1es

7 ай бұрын

ditto to what you just said, I'm sub for paraeducator I and II _ please help us out with naming examples of consequences - thank you!

I’m a kindergarten teacher and I’ve tried EVERYTHING. Call backs don’t work, asking for a level 0 doesn’t work. Taking a preferred activity away doesn’t work, calling parents comes back and bites me in the butt. I’m screaming into my pillow trying to teach a lesson for the 3 kids who care enough to learn how to build words

@watermelonraccoon636

Ай бұрын

Same, kinder and everything, i cant figure it out at all

@FeedTheirNeeds

28 күн бұрын

Hi @TheKnallkorper, see me an email, let's work this out :)

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾Keep it coming!

@FeedTheirNeeds

8 ай бұрын

Will do. Thanks.

Thank you so much for this information! I will be utilizing this site!!!

@FeedTheirNeeds

9 ай бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

This is great information. Thanks for sharing it with the community. Keep up the good work Michele.

@FeedTheirNeeds

Жыл бұрын

Thank you! Will do!

Question: I’m an art teacher, in a school that has not had an art teacher in two years. I don’t work for the school I work for a nonprofit whenever I showed up for my first day admin just put me in a room 20 minutes before my first class, and gave me a schedule of classes. I have K4 through eighth grade., because I don’t work for the school teachers are supposed to sit in during the period, and a lot of my teachers are frustrated because specials are usually a planning time for them, so sometimes they just dump them. On top of that this is a school that is entirely behavior problems. There are some classes that I still have not been able to get through expectations and I’ve been seeing them for three weeks now. I should also mention that I have a couple of education credits, but I am not an accredited teacher. I’m working really hard to come up with fun lessons to fill our 40 minutes with, but sometimes teachers won’t even bring their class by the time that I do get them we only have 20 minutes left, or there are a few students who still are testing me and are being majorly disruptive. So my question is how do I navigate all the negativity towards my art program and also establish rules and boundaries in the little time that I do see the students?

@FeedTheirNeeds

7 ай бұрын

Hi Lacey, here are some suggestions: In regards to the negativity, ask to have friendly conversations with the teachers (1:1 if you can) to talk about what's happening on both sides. Let the goal be to work out expectations and actions (i.e. compromise) that both of you can take to make it work for everyone. Let them know your plan with the 40 minutes and maybe they can lesson plan or grade papers while in your classroom so they can see some benefit to being timely. To establish rules and boundaries you will have to teach, practice and give feedback. I have online 1 hour workshop that shows you how to set up a classroom management system that you can customize. I'll leave the link. When I say teach, I mean introduce your rules an expectations, support your teaching with activities (maybe an art project or cartoon that demonstrates the rules or one rule at time) , also it's important to be proactive and review the rules and/or expectations before activity (if you can do it in a fun/creative way). This effective especially in the beginning. Then provide consistent encouraging and constructive feedback when they follow or don't follow the rules/expectations. I would be happy to help you come up with something specific to your needs if you want. ROOTING FOR YOU!!! Check out these links: michele-s-school-e13f.thinkific.com/courses/free-mini-workshop-strategies-for-the-first-month-of-school www.feedtheirneeds.com/classroom-management-framework-workshop www.feedtheirneeds.com/consultations

I’m staff support my students know I will write you up so quickly. I work with Seniors I will snatch that GPA down some notches. And erase those senior privileges🤷🏽‍♀️ They don’t play with me now

This was very helpful, thank you.

@FeedTheirNeeds

28 күн бұрын

You're welcome!

It's not just teachers.... We got them in my neighborhood. I had to go outside (because I heard a child cursing like a sailor) and told this 11 year old to stop cussing around the other children (my son is 7 and was out there). He was so horrible and rude. He's like, "I don't have to listen to you, you're not my mom and I can do whatever the hell I want!" Oh my gosh I couldn't believe it... I tried reasoning with him and explaining why he shouldn't curse. He absolutely didn't care. He just kept on and then I said, "I've never seen you in this neighborhood before, where's your mother?" He refused to tell me and just kept talking back. He was just awful... I literally ended up saying,"You're so rude and disrespectful! What kind of people are raising you!? You should just go back home because other parents don't want that behavior rubbing off on their children." 😅 My neighbor ended up coming out and saying he should stop with the foul language too...but he just spoke back to him too. I just can't believe it. Absolutely horrible kids and no respect for anyone. I just don't know what we're supposed to do outside of the classroom and home when we see them out running the streets and being so awful. Realistically there's no repercussions for them at all. I hate to say this.... But parents are failing these kids. That little boy had a brand new bike, a mohawk helmet... And so I know he's not going without. However his parents probably spoil him and ignore him which is why he's so awful.

@FeedTheirNeeds

28 күн бұрын

You're right. It's not just in the schools. We are seeing troubling behaviors in different areas of our community.

Thanks for this... 🙏

@FeedTheirNeeds

8 ай бұрын

You are welcome

When something is not ok and won’t be tolerated, what does that mean. It seems there aren’t consequences that they even care about.

@FeedTheirNeeds

6 ай бұрын

Hi, when I say it's not ok and it will not be tolerated, that is communicating to the student that their behavior will not go unaddressed in my classroom. That also means there will be consistent consequences coming their way. Sometimes I feel like it's a student's job to make it seem like the consequence does not matter on the front end. The consequences I've used for even the most challenging students were not effective because they were severe but because I was consistent.

The problem in many districts if not all, students is never to be blame and teachers cant give consequences, it is only on paper but not in real practice. I have been written up for making a student after numerous warning to behave and i made him standing facing the wall for 8 mins. written up for this is a serious matter because teacher are not allowed to give consequences, this will take away teachers authority to disicpline thus could result a teacher who is going to care less because of not want to deal with the principal.

@FeedTheirNeeds

28 күн бұрын

Hi, I think the key in your situation is to find strategies that work at your school. I know that having a student face the wall for 8 minutes would have never been supported at the different schools, I've worked in. That's why I provide typically school-approved examples in my workshops. I do have some videos on my channel that give specific consequences, maybe they could work for you.

I’m here because I’ve been insulted by people that are younger than I am and I always wanted to know how to handle it also to put the exact words in a searchable context.

Thank you for sharing this video, you gave me ways on how to manage a student.

@FeedTheirNeeds

8 ай бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

Would you please give examples of everything you talk about. Thank you the video was great

I love this video!!

@FeedTheirNeeds

7 ай бұрын

Hello, Thank You.

I really needed this message, thank you. I'm taking notes.

I found this video extremely helpful! Thank you!

@FeedTheirNeeds

8 ай бұрын

I'm so glad!

Great information!! Thanks so much for sharing.

@FeedTheirNeeds

8 ай бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

New teacher here, thank you.

@FeedTheirNeeds

26 күн бұрын

Welcome!

You're amazing, your videos are extremely helpful! Greetings from Vienna

@FeedTheirNeeds

9 ай бұрын

Happy to hear that!

Thank you for the wise tips, and it was short and to the point as well. I'm a contract private music teacher, and I have experienced a bit of disrespect from a student, who is not being as co-operative as I would like, he is smart, but I think he does'nt understand the meaning of practicing with good habits, I'm going to try to comunicate that, but he has this level of disrespect, that I'm trying to understand why is he being that way, I feel like he has a know it all type of vibe. Or who cares about this lesson it won't affect my grades. (I teach private lesson at a private school) so anyways, I will have to learn to work on my communication skills, and hopefully see a improvement.

Thank you for your professional advice. I thought everything that you said was appropriate and wise. However, I would Really like to see your suggestions depicted with Real dialog that I can utilize. Please and thank you!

@FeedTheirNeeds

2 ай бұрын

Are you talking about actual verbiage to use in the classroom?

Sorry, your suggestions are well-meant but ineffective.

I teach in Alabama and have done so for over 30 years. My students are better behaved than they have ever been.

@FeedTheirNeeds

7 ай бұрын

That is amazing!!! Woot Woot!

@CR-pf1es

7 ай бұрын

If so then explain what you do to keep it so, dont just brag for nothing...thank you for tips

@glennwatson3313

7 ай бұрын

@@CR-pf1es Its not me. I'm terrible at classroom management. Its the kids. They are just very well behaved, for the most part.

Does this work? If so, why? How? While getting into a power struggle is pointless (and never works), I am not convinced that this method is going to get results...the disrespect is so bad.

@FeedTheirNeeds

2 ай бұрын

You're right the disrespect is bad. I was not sure these methods worked until I was forced to try them myself (i.e. out of options). And the disrespect was out of control! But when I did I was surprised by how much my mindset played a part in the success of using them. You have to take a risk and try it out, I did. NOTE: Not saying this works with every student.

I would like to up my skills as it relates to student behavior. Students sleeping in class and can't be involved with learning activity. 14 year old boys/Girls who refuse to participate in class.

@FeedTheirNeeds

7 ай бұрын

Yeah, this is challenging! Thanks for sharing.

👍👍👍

Thank you for the very helpful and practical strategies you shared. These are very realistic and treat students with respect while still holding them to high behavior expectations!

@FeedTheirNeeds

28 күн бұрын

You're welcome :)Glad it was helpful!

What about if you have lost control of your classroom?

It’s worse when The Principal or Assistant Principal ask students to tell their version of a story involving a teacher and what the students say is the GOSPEL TRUTH. You better best believe respect has gone out of the window.

Been there done that but these methods really don't work for my students.

I feel link I’ll need to put this on my desk to guide me in those moments. What do you think about sharing these steps with students at the beginning of the year?

Honestly, I think the best approach is to be like Data in Star Trek-and android with no feelings but instead approach your assignment goals and classroom management strategies with patience and with a long-term mindset. Select one of several disrespecting students at a time for focus. Go through the tiers. Ask for private time to discuss. If that fails, talk to parents. If that fails, talk to admin and a parent conference. And if all that fails, repeat again and again until the student realizes you're just as steadfast at making their lives miserable as they are yours. In time they'll get the message.

When teaching secondary school students I used to struggle with student backchat after I had alerted them of their disrespectful behaviour - I had many instances where students would follow up with 'i don't care' when I verbally corrected their behaviour, and I would pull them up on this which would escalate the issue further. Would it be better to ignore this and carry on with my teaching? And if so, I'm not sure if this would send the message to the rest of the class that it is acceptable to do this?

@FeedTheirNeeds

2 ай бұрын

Hi, I don't know what "pull them up means", but when I am working towards shaping a specific behavior, a few things...(1) I fully expect students to respond negatively because change can be hard and they may be using this response to discourage me from keeping the boundary or expectation set. , so I don't not let those initial responses deter me (2) I make sure I have taught, modeled, possibly role played the replacement behaviors. (3) I continue to give feedback (correction, redirection or encouragement) consistently, however I may change the format to planned ignoring or signals to decrease the disruptive impact on the class. But also explaining ahead of time that just because I did not respond in the moment does not mean the behavior was not noticed or accepted. (4) I follow up with 1:1 conversations with the student to get an idea of why they are having difficulty or pre-determined mostly classroom-based consequences from my classroom management system. Hope you can pull some nuggets from this :)

What are some strategies for not taking things personally from students disrespect? Ive had one student in particular who has been giving me a really hard time and it seems targeted at me

There’s really no point guys. I’m a teacher and students are shit these days. There’s nothing you can do. Times have changed.

@FeedTheirNeeds

6 ай бұрын

There is ALWAYS something we can do!! Yes, times have changed and our students are a reflection of that. However, there are thousands of teachers who are willing to step up to the plate and be the change. I get your frustration. And NOBODY is saying it is easy, but giving up on our students as a whole is not an option. PERIOD.

@samuelamizade9395

2 ай бұрын

Many of the students come from home already convicted that they do whatever they want cause this is how their parents raised them. The bad behaviour has provinience and it is the kids home.

new sub, i like your chanel. question! If is student communicated inappropriately how you would respond? What would you do if the student ever persisted would you involve parents and the principle? thanks

@FeedTheirNeeds

9 ай бұрын

When students communicate inappropriately, I tend to respond in 3 tiers. First time: I verbally correct the behavior, then redirect behavior. For example, " That's not acceptable (or you are being disrespectful/ inappropriate, etc.), instead you can say... or you can respond with (Fill In The Blank...) Second time: In the moment I will give the student options. For example, "Try again." or "Change your tone" or " You can... or be quiet." Later in the period or day, I will have a brief 1:1 conversation where I ask the student about the behavior, remind them of the expectation or rule then ask if they are willing to change their behavior or follow the direction. Third time: I may or may not verbally redirect briefly. But usually I simply implement a specific consequence from my classroom management system. I would probably communicate with the parent after the third time (which not a consequence from my perspective). I would involve the principal if the behavior significantly disrupts instruction for the class or if the behavior escalates to something more disruptive. Hope this helps:)

students cant dare to disrespect me... i hv been a teacher of teenagers sincd 23 years.

@kaycampbell364

8 ай бұрын

what's the secret

@FeedTheirNeeds

7 ай бұрын

I think she/he hinted at it. With 23 years of experience and still in teaching, you will definitely pick up some effective strategies and practices to manage student behaviors.

Could you please give more examples Thank you

@FeedTheirNeeds

7 ай бұрын

Not sure what type of examples you mean. Examples of student behaviors? Or strategies?

what do you do if there are two students who are being disrespectful to me and then arguing with each other at the same time. This happens after they’ve come in after lunch. I have tried everything but I really don’t know what to do. I’m not a teacher but a classroom assistant

@FeedTheirNeeds

28 күн бұрын

Hi, not sure what the behavior is exactly, but I would determine which one is the most disruptive first and address that one. Then address the second one later in the day or week.

One thing i noticed is that pupils don't like bice teachers they wabt rude and those who don't tolerate nonsense

And when you say, that's not acceptable in the classroom, they reply, "F"-YOU!

@FeedTheirNeeds

2 ай бұрын

I say don't be moved by their initial response. In fact, expect a negative reaction to boundaries being set with challenging students. Continue to be consistent in using your management system. I have taught and worked with many students who started with and "FU" to end with "Thank you", " I love your class", and " You're the best".

satan is busy.

It’s too late in the day to be trying to finesse this sort of nonsense. And if the kids don’t have any respect then it automatically follows that they don’t have any for you either. Kids who only respect physical violence are uneducable and perhaps belong in daycare for the maladjusted but certainly in nobody’s classroom. It is inevitable at this point that in person teachers will be automated out of existence, and that the only remaining teachers will be the ones inside the kid’s computers who perhaps consult with hundreds of kids per day. What the school will still have is custodians, security guards, child care works and perhaps one hourly tutor per computer lab, and these tutors will not be teachers who develop curriculum or lecture but merely help the kids when they get stuck. And there will no longer be grades either.