High self esteem comes from accepting yourself fully and completely. Independent of any external circumstances in your life. This is harder than it sounds.

@SomethingSomewhereJustOnce

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah it's hard to completely accept yourself especially your flaws.

@papagrounds

4 жыл бұрын

And it's the dummies that makes it hard. There's always those whose low self esteem's only mission is to bring everyone down to its level. When you truly learn to turn the other cheek for those people, you start to accept yourself as you should.

@joeyfigueroa4748

4 жыл бұрын

Well said man, I couldn't have said it better myself. That is very true, it is much easier said than done. If I had anything to add, it would be that this *is* the reason so many people struggle with depression now a days, learning how to address your past properly and forgiving yourself is definitely up there on the list of hardest things everyone deals with.

@mauricejohnson1068

4 жыл бұрын

Authentic Self Guide so hard 🤦🏿‍♂️ I look so happy on the outside man but emotionally ima mess . I put it all out on KZread , because ion want anybody to know, i gotta be strong for my friends who are going through worse

@ImagineFreedom

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly! Too many people are dependent of opinions of others

Okay, this guy really knows what he's talking about.

@ManTalk93

4 жыл бұрын

Right? He's one of my favourite youtubers. Sick profile picture, btw! 👊👊

@FireMuscle11

4 жыл бұрын

He wouldn't have 3mil sub if he doesn't.

1. Failure does not make you unworthy of happiness 2. Offer yourself as much compassion as you would a dear friend 3. Don’t deny the responsibility for what you do now 4. You need to learn a healthy, enlightened selfishness 5. No matter what everything will be ok

@ekinteko

4 жыл бұрын

1. Don't be like Thor 2. Be like Black Widow 3. Be like Nebula/don't be like Nebula 4. Don't be like Captain America 5. Be like Tony

@christianhinojosa848

4 жыл бұрын

Great advice!

@aaronokemaysim7310

4 жыл бұрын

He goes more in depth into these reasons, explaining what exactly they mean and how you can achieve them.

@makedeimpossiblehappenii8157

4 жыл бұрын

*I would like you to be there on all 73 self-help channels that I have subscribed to*

@Mackan272

4 жыл бұрын

I never saw the real world issues in the marvel movies until now.

Also Tony’s goodbye message ends with “everything is gonna go exactly how it’s supposed to”

"Listen to the voices in your head that hold you back, thank them for doing their best to protect you from change and let them know that you can handle it from here" Love the way you said that Charlie!

@nomanjaved3155

Жыл бұрын

💯

#2 is a rule in Jordan Peterson's book: "Treat yourself like someone you're responsible for looking after"

@YerbateraMaddy

4 жыл бұрын

I don't agree with everything Jordan Peterson says but I do like this tenet

@Steve_305

4 жыл бұрын

@@YerbateraMaddy y not?

@teaisfortired-6467

4 жыл бұрын

The Demented Man32 you shouldn’t agree with everything that someone says. At that point, you’re justifying statements that you might have disagreed with if the ideas presented had come from someone else.

@adwaithratnakaran8017

3 жыл бұрын

@@teaisfortired-6467 I don't think its right to say "you shouldn't agree with everything that someone says". I'd say "you shouldn't necessarily have to agree with everything that someone says". Because sometimes you do meet people who you share almost every opinion on a topic with.

@mjolninja9358

2 жыл бұрын

@@Steve_305 jordan’s “ideas” are echoes, check out the roots of what he chirps; Jung & Nietzsche pretty much.

this is absolutely true. Man when i was feeling low it was because my self esteem was low and it triggered anxiety. When the self esteem went up anxiety went away.

*Self-confidence takes time. Believe in yourself, its a great place to start.*

@grahamstrondak7040

4 жыл бұрын

And I say HEY! What a wonder kind of day...

@jaxx-inspiregrowcreate2862

4 жыл бұрын

@@grahamstrondak7040 haha 😂 you got it my friend

@mauriocarson2149

4 жыл бұрын

First step tell yourself that you’re worthy. Second write down some affirmations and meditate. As time goes on engage in whatever action in life that you want to take with a new reborn self-confidence.

@etiennev.6331

4 жыл бұрын

Take action...do something that will build that self belief and that self confidence... challenge yourself. Think about something that will make you proud of happy if you did it now. Go do it. Over and over again

@jaxx-inspiregrowcreate2862

4 жыл бұрын

@@etiennev.6331 That's it!

“best friend brain” is just... literally breathtaking i was like “wow” great video as always

"Start being selfish." Oh hell yes.

@2du2

4 жыл бұрын

GodfallTM Ayn Rand anyone

@SNinjaQK

4 жыл бұрын

selfless people should act more selfish and vice versa

@ExtremelyTastyBread

4 жыл бұрын

@@2du2 Howard Roark laughed, and we should too

@vaughnrob4548

4 жыл бұрын

Easier said than done. :(

@idioticdemon2619

2 жыл бұрын

HELL YES.

"Positive selfishness" is called owning your needs and desires. It's not just doing what you want. It's taking responsibility for it.

Who need therapy when you have this guy?! Much love from Sweden

@ManTalk93

4 жыл бұрын

Haha, well said!!

@jonathann2717

4 жыл бұрын

Sweden??? Oooooh das tuff

@raphaelmotta7630

4 жыл бұрын

I know this is a joke, but this is far from therapy and a therapist can get alot deeper and help you get better and lasting results and see problems you never even realized you had.

@faelzonta

4 жыл бұрын

Everyone need it. Therapy is the best way to get self-knowleadge. Without this, lives get extremely harder

This may be the best review of 'Endgame' out there.

@kevinc.cucumber3697

3 жыл бұрын

Its not a review of endgame though, its a review of the characters

@CLSGL

2 жыл бұрын

@@kevinc.cucumber3697 More like a psychoanalysis, but yes

This channel is like a life saver for these teenage mood swings and social anxiety

You were the first one that introduced me to The six Pillars of Self-esteem by Nathaniel Branden, a book that changed my life. For that, I'm forever grateful. The six pillars are: 1.The Practice of Living Consciously 2.The Practice of Self-Acceptance 3.The Practice of Self-ResponsibiIity 4.The Practice of Self-Assertiveness 5.The Practice of Living Purposefully 6.The Practice of Personal Integrity Thanks again for keep educating me in a fun and entertaining way Charlie & Ben :)

@alexanderSnilsson

4 жыл бұрын

@Ezhil Abhinandan You can find the a bit shorther audiobook here on youtube, which is plenty enough.

Once your mindset changes, everything on the outside will change along with it.

"Failure does not make you unworthy of happiness or love." Depression: hold my beer.

@7Zsta

4 жыл бұрын

😇 it is truly hard, but, better days Are possible...

@7Zsta

4 жыл бұрын

@ Chris Kerr God keep you, dear! 🙂

@Meryemsb

3 жыл бұрын

@akshay satish Alright so is cancer then.. Thanks

@hazukichanx408

Жыл бұрын

Anxiety: "Are you sure it doesn't? Like, really sure? Does objective certainty even exist?! _AAAAaaaaaaaaa~!!"_

There was one picture I saw of Thor holding Mjolnir in that one scene from Endgame and the caption said: Even in depression you're worthy.

I would love to see more videos about accepting and being happy about being alone. For me, I enjoy being alone and honestly I don't feel lonely because I embrace my precious time with myself by doing hobbies I love such as playing piano, painting, tea drinking, bow and arrow, camping and so much more. Embrace bring alone. It's quiet and you can spend a lot of time truly getting to know yourself and what you truly want out of life. And the conversations I do have with people are amazing. Each conversation you have with a stranger is precious and unique. Just the other day I was getting work done on my car and had a 20 minute conversation with the owner there about the education system. Did I know much about the subject? Nope but you said what he believed, I said what I believed and we questioned each other with joy. This happens all the time. Again, you are alone not lonely.

*Nothing outside of you can make you whole.* What you seek is within, manifest it.

@LK56835

4 жыл бұрын

actually, what's outside of you can make you great... but also, it can start from within

@daybuttons7541

4 жыл бұрын

How did I know to expect you here? The guy that comments on every KZread video ever.

@claura5391

4 жыл бұрын

wow you're everywhere

“Understand why you did what you did lead to forgiveness” simple, but powerful...

When I heard that line " I love you 3000" memories crashed back with smile on my face.

@wuxian1

4 жыл бұрын

sameeee i smiled sadly

Charlie, I think Howard’s line “My father never met a problem he couldn’t solve with a belt,” also bears significance, because at that time, Tony realizes that his dad had it even harder than he did, and was just doing what he thought was better than what he himself got (the belt, repeatedly). I find this to be a very conscious viewpoint: bigger-picture.

Dr. Strange’s mindset: There is always a way, it’s your responsibility to find it

*Self-esteem comes within* - Understanding your human worth and that nothing or no one can take it away from you, if you don't let it/them Self-query: asking yourself what, why, how and being honest with aswers

@ImperiaGin

4 жыл бұрын

I've found that nihilism made me more outgoing

@mauriocarson2149

4 жыл бұрын

@Abe. That’s intriguing. I’ve always found nihilism to drive me to feed my curiosity for knowledge. Even in the end if it’s only subjective. Asking questions and seeking out the answers through reading books and reflecting on the material that I read was always my way of overcoming nihilism. I take it you’re an extrovert, so you must overcome it’s downfalls be engaging in conversations and profound debates with others.

Charisma on Command is one of the most under-rated channels on KZread.

Wherever you vision yourself being is where you will end up.

@ImperiaGin

4 жыл бұрын

We're all gonna die. So no matter what we do it doesn't matter. Each and everyone of us will meet our end. Doesn't matter who you are

@jarischol331

4 жыл бұрын

Abe or look at it this way. We’re all gonna die. So why not make the most out of this life as long as we’re here?

@lunamoonlight5102

4 жыл бұрын

@@ImperiaGin I just have one question: Does the future already exist or no?

Self-esteem is earned through pursuing your goals and practicing your values and beliefs despite the approval or disapproval of others.

@etiennev.6331

4 жыл бұрын

You hit the right spot !! 🙏🤙👍

Dont forget the understated lesson taught by Banner. By accepting the things we are most often ashamed/afraid of in ourselves (our id if you will). We learn from our shortcomings and grow exponentially because of it.

Real self esteem comes from full acceptance of who you are and to fully trust in your own abilities. Once this is managed everything is possible.

*guy gives 5 excellent tips on how to feel better about yourself* Depression: I am inevitable

@AbhijeetIngle945

4 жыл бұрын

All we now need are the infinity stones :)

Didn't expect to cry while watching this.

Work on your inner world and continuesly level up your mind and your outer world will follow

@ManTalk93

4 жыл бұрын

Too true! Inner game work comes from within, as the name implies!

@mauriocarson2149

4 жыл бұрын

Inner world and external world are a mirror of each other

Hey I just wanted to suggest you do a breakdown on Zendaya. I saw an interview where she came of as very charismatic but I can’t quite pinpoint how.

*_Tony Stark_* is the embodiment of HIGH self-esteem!

@ImperiaGin

4 жыл бұрын

Often times he's actually a depressed man who drinks too much

@benjaminkuti2009

4 жыл бұрын

Tony Stark has high self-respect.. his esteem often fluctuates, its not so easy to identify this.

@therealjesus1317

4 жыл бұрын

@@ImperiaGin Depressed man who drinks alot? Don't know where that came from.

@MichelLedig

4 жыл бұрын

@@therealjesus1317 from the HQ

@therealjesus1317

4 жыл бұрын

@@MichelLedig Last time I checked Tony was never depressed only upset about what happened.

I love how one lesson gradually blends from one character to the next and how you narrated it all so smoothly! 👌👌

I always watch these videos and I always say to myself: I’m gonna be like that. And then after a nights sleep, I completely forget that mindset. Which is sad.

Just wanted to say that because of your channel, I’ve become a much more confident person. Thank you for making these videos.

I love your channel and tips. As a small KZreadr/entertainer, I really needed this one.

@PutingPinoy

4 жыл бұрын

Charles Sevilleja salamat, Kakampi! Yeah, I do plan on it once I get back to the Philippines.

This is *THE BEST* video on this channel. It's new and much needed in everyone's lives. Some more than others. *THANK YOU*

Spot on. I totally agree, one's success and failure depends on your attitude and one's ability to adapt and learn from them.

I'm crying. Is this normal? I'm crying about this video.

From my experience what helped me the most was understanding and accepting myself, befriending my inner self.

This was an amazing breakdown. I really really loved and related so hard to Thor's storyline... doing all the things you mentioned in his story arc and even Nebula's really really helped me these last two years, so I can attest that these things are sound advice! Loved this video, thanks so much for helping us all gain in our self-esteem! ♡

This just might be my favorite video from you. Phenomenal.

Do a video on Lucifer bloody MORNINGSTAR!

@honestlyitwassobigiwantedt4046

4 жыл бұрын

YESS OML

@jezuzmaximum7510

4 жыл бұрын

Agreed! He always has personality struggles and it would be great to analyze it

@georgbergsten6050

4 жыл бұрын

Yes please

@mskjaer496

4 жыл бұрын

Also very charismatical, and it cant be all looks because there are plenty pretty assholes out there..

@takeofffense

4 жыл бұрын

Yes!!

Your transitions between topics are impeccable!

Your discussion of Steve’s change in mindset is great and enlightening. Lots of people complained about Steve not being the same “I can do this all day” guy, but that feels like stagnant character journey. I thought Endgame hinted at how Steve moved on when he confronted his old self and was like “I knooOOW”

One of your best videos by far. As someone who went through a similar crisis, this is exactly what I needed to hear. Earned my subscription easily.

The quote and you're explanation of the mother's advice was a knee slapper for sure. I literally hit myself out of shock

Thank you Charlie and Ben! I have watched for years and have only grown to appreciate your work as time goes on!

Charlie, I just want to say thank you. I'm a painfully shy individual lol, but your videos remind me to get out of my own head and relax and have fun. I'm not who I want to be yet, but I'm not who I was either, and I owe that partly to your videos. Thank you so much 🤗 Keep it up!

John Slattery as Tony father is prefect casting

This is one of the most amazing, beautiful videos I have seen on Self - Esteem. Maybe the best yet. It is a deep, real analysis, that avoids clichés and catchphrases like "believe in yourself", "you can do it", "believe everything is possible" ...mindsets that may generate harsher and more negative feelings towards oneself. The way you exposed all of your ideas through EndGame was amazing, super clear, and made me like that movie even more!! (didn't think that could be possible) Thank you!! Beautiful work

@paulbrandel5980

2 жыл бұрын

Loved treat yourself life your best friend and enlighten selfishness Topnotch video on self-confidence

This one of the best and most important videos I have ever seen on youtube, sharing this with everyone I know right now.

Thank you for sharing this video with us! I was really moved ,and at several points of the video, had to blink back some tears. The things you said in this video, especially the part about allowing ourselves forgiveness, really made me think that from now on, things can get better.

Wow... After this video I had to rethink my whole life from where I was then, to where I am now. Really puts a smile on my face! I'm saving this vid in my special playlists

You're the king of extracting life lessons from entertaining fiction

This is such a creative way to combine the topic of confidence and one of the best action movies ever! You guys did such a great job on this one! One of my top favorites for sure.

Very, very good video. Gave me goosebumps the realization that in you have to have faith that in the grand scheme of things everything will turn out fine.

This channel is such a gem. Great video, as always.

Four minutes and I'm literally crying a river. Thank you very much for this video.

That can popping sound was much appreciated and also very fitting. Popping open the explanation in a sense.

Self-esteem is the root of charisma. Higher self esteem means higher confidence. Higher confidence leads to charisma.

I really needed this at this moment of my life. Thank you for clearly explaining all the key aspects of self-esteem. I never imagined it could all come from the last avengers movie. I hope this video gets more views and is shared with others who will need it as well. Thank you so much

The lesson on "Everything is going to be ok" is actually something Ive been integrating into my own life to help with my anger issues. The question to ask yourself of "How will this situation matter 5 years from now?" has helped a ton with keeping myself controlled where I can make a calm, logical decision on a dilemma.

Literally every single sentence this guy says is worth pausing the video and thinking about. His videos are really worth your time unlike other unpractical videos on the same topic.!!

One of your best videos BY FAR!! This is so useful, I’ve taken notes 😊 can’t wait to implement these in my day to day, thank you!

I'm glad for finding this channel, it helped me alot through my years as a high school student. I have to say that self acceptance is a key factor for improvement while balancing to not let arrogance kick in. Thank you for making these videos, peace

Charisma on Command, thank you so much. I’ve just recently come out of a tremendous emotional breakdown and I berate myself as I usually would in its fallout. This is exactly what I needed to have some clarity and peace with myself 🙏 🙏 This ought to be mental health on command

Been holding back my tears ever since this video started. Thanks for this

I really needed that “should” bit.

This is the most helpful video that I have seen from the rest of your videos. Thank you.

Really like how this video focuses on inward -> out. So many other speeches/motivators focus on outward-> in (i.e. fake it til you make it).

Omg thank you for posting this video. I like how you use examples from movies & tv, because it reminds me of how many movies I still need to watch🥲

Feelings are like waves; they come and they go. It is worth understanding that especially about the bad feelings you might have

This one is perfect. I needed this today.

Your vids are getting deeper these days... nice one

I love that this movie's story writing bears the capability to have this sort of video be built off of it as a platform.

I cried watching this video, can't thank you enough. I needed this.

This is amazing!! I didn't even think about all these characters at this prespective! Man thank you for this job!)

I really needed this thank you so much

I know one day I can afford CU program but for now I can only thank you for these youtube videos. I learn many things from these informative videos . Thanks for making these videos and helping us. genuinely appreciate your works and never stop making these videos

THANK YOU SO MUCH FKR EVERYTHING YOU GUYS DO!!! You guys have helped me and so many of us MASSIVELY! Awesome video.

This video hit home. I had not realized how much I needed to watch that.

This is undoubtedly one of your best work

Love the therapeutic video Charlie

This is the best Charisma on Command video I've ever seen. Thank you.

#2 is a GAME CHANGER. Thank you

This video is amazing. I went through some major changes in my life and personality in the last year, and I think I've used most of the methods in the video, but it remindes me of how important it was to me, and how believing I can change changed me and my live even though everyone told me I couldn't

Oh my god, this is a real deep analysis of these characters. What you said about cap is amazing

As always, wonderful video!

He has gotten so good that his efforts seem effortless in these videos

Absolutely loved this video, two of my fave things. This channel, and marvel ❤️

this video really helped me, and connected with me. thank you for making these.

This video is very powerful. Thanks for these awesome tips. In the past you sometimes did a summary at the end of the video of all the advice given. I really liked that and would appreciate it if you could do it in future videos. Keep up the good work and thanks again :)

Thank you for this. I needed it 💚 We are worthy of love and forgiveness. We are good. We can do it.

This was really insightful and comforting.

this is a great character arc analysis. good job!

This video was exactly what I need to move into the next chapter of my life, thanks