Get your kid a flip phone or text only until 13-14. For communicating with parents. Not being on the internet 24/7. Elementary students certainly don’t need one.

@KMF3

9 ай бұрын

No until graduation from highschool. All electronic devices.

@lisafoodie8443

9 ай бұрын

my child has a lite phone, no soc med8a account... and he still has a life, a more peaceful life compared to kids with smartphones... i keep telling him be kind to everyone and life is not just about the individual but the community.... we exist for the community not just for ourselves...

@MOMO-m0m0

9 ай бұрын

@@KMF3that’s just absurd, you’d just be sheltering the kid. I’d give them a phone at 16 or 14.

@devynselnes4282

9 ай бұрын

No kids need one... Until they can read and write at grade level... At a bare minimum 😅

@devynselnes4282

9 ай бұрын

​@@MOMO-m0m0🤣 kids did better 100 years ago buddy... Without electronics 😅

Social media will go down as one of the true pariahs of our modern day culture.

This message cannot be ignored for the success of children, families, communities, and ultimately the country. Keep preaching!

@jaamall

9 ай бұрын

It will be like it was when we were younger and getting bullied, I hasn't gone away, just changed forms

A huge problem is that many parents especially the older ones arent computer savvy.

@mbii7667

9 ай бұрын

It's not that hard for them to learn

@xmaverickhunterkx

9 ай бұрын

No need to be computer savvy to tell your kid to stop using their phone/computer or certain specific sites and maybe better; keep them busy.

I'm not even a parent I'm just a regular 23 year old and this video was informative and helpful! Keep it up PBD!

It’s gonna get more savage now that so many teachers and single mothers have adult content out in todays age. Imagine showing up and your mom getting ran through is being shared across the school ☠️

@mbii7667

9 ай бұрын

Hot

@salvador.garcia

8 ай бұрын

That's mother's fault. Poor kids, but that is why always "son of a bitch" have been a slur.

Thanks Pat, for taking the time to tackle this subject. I have 3 kids and am a little paranoid about all this. Trust me, I know about most of these tactics as I was bullied as a kid (but still managed to defend myself well) and still feel some form of anxiety when watching my kids grow and knowing that each passing year, they will most likely experience it. As a concerned parent, the best thing to do is to learn about the ways to avoid building a vulnerable child and have them built strong mentally and aware of the traps/dangers.

The understatement of this whole conversation is why do they call it a smartphone, apparently it hasn't made the younger generation any smarter.

@NinjaRunningWild

9 ай бұрын

Smart phones, dumb people.

@mbii7667

9 ай бұрын

It refers to the phone itself, not the user... your attempt at being clever has failed

None of my children have a phone. I have a 13, 11 and an 8 year old… no phone I don’t care.

@lisafoodie8443

9 ай бұрын

my year 7 has a lite phone just incase of emergencies... my year 5 one doesn't have a phone at all...because were immigrants, im the only one in our home who has a soc media account... they dont feel theyre missing out on anything... they know which things in life are truly important...

@nnennaochiche2197

9 ай бұрын

Same ages as mine. No phone. Regulated access to laptops

@marlonmoncrieffe0728

9 ай бұрын

Good on you! P.S. Though I personally see nothing wrong with high schoolers have non-smart phones though.

@missauntietom

9 ай бұрын

Good parenting skills!

@missauntietom

9 ай бұрын

You have great parenting skills if your kids have just a flip phone and not a smartphone!

When i was growing up cyber bullies would find me after school and beat me down with hard drives. They would throw me in a recycling bin and then threaten to empty the recycling bin, it was terrifying Things have changed.

@karmadeliveryservice1505

9 ай бұрын

Oh yeah the worst was when they made me look at their floppy disk

@The_King_Basi

9 ай бұрын

​@@karmadeliveryservice1505and then showed me how their ram worked

My kid didn't get a phone till he was 10 and that's cause he got home 30 minutes before I got off work. It had parental apps installed and I blocked anything I didn't want including anything on social media. I allowed 1 hour a day and then it locked except for calls and texts. Now he is 14 and has 2 hours but only KZread no other social media. He has strait A's and is doing great. To much social media is bad.

@marlonmoncrieffe0728

9 ай бұрын

Good on you!

@dkvestboy

5 ай бұрын

I was 13 when i got my first cell phone a Motorola on 2001 but i love my gba more

i remember when i used to take those internet safety sessions in school for granted. things like not accepting friend requests from unknowns, not using real names or disclosing too much info on your profile. i'm glad my parents didn't get me a phone till i was 15, my friends all had phones by the time they were 12-13. just basically don't engage in conversation/interaction with anyone you don't personally know on social media. especially when it comes to accepting unknown friend requests as i've had friends who've had their accounts hacked cause of this. when you're a kid you don't really take internet safety seriously cause you have this non-chalant attitude that it won't happen to you. luckily i was never a victim of cyberbullying, if any child is reading this please do take internet safety seriously.

I agree with you 100%. Blows my mind seeing all these kids with smart phones!!! Big major problem 😢😢😢

I’m so glad my husband sent this to me! I am sharing this with every parent I know! My 6 year old daughter dealt with bullying a year ago and it was the most heartbreaking thing to hear once I FINALLY got the information out of her. She went into panic mode. Broke down in tears like I’ve never seen, body shakes, fever and everything from the fear she had of telling me but I made sure to sit down with her and I showed her how to speak up for herself. She never dealt with it again and she’s back to her happy self! It’s so important to notice all the signs and tackle them right away!

God bless you and your family PBD!! I hope this reaches many people and they can implement it with their families. I was a bit teary eyed watching this, thank you for sharing so much good into the world & especially helping children and parents have better relationships and deal with challenges ❤

100% of the kids in my children’s classes have smart phones. My kids are the only ones without a phone at all.

Cyber bullying can literally be stopped in its tracks just stay off social media no offense to anyone just saying

We got our daughter her own house phone line. It's been awesome! It's in her room. She's in third grade and now her friends that are like her without phones are getting landlines too. It's adorable. The kids call each other and are always making plans together.

To me it's incomprehensible that schools even allow smart phones on the premises. We couldn't have a Walkman or Gameboy, or any portable video game device. We couldn't even have a digital watch unless we could correctly read an analogue clock. A smart phone is infinitely more destructive, and completely unnecessary for children. As far as parents needing to communicate with their kids, plan ahead. If something earth shattering happens that absolutely must be communicated during school hours, call the office. After school they should be somewhere that has a phone. These must be the same parents who were raised by TV when they were children.

The easiest thing to do is to NOT give them the phone in the first place . Don’t allow them on your phone and don’t give them a phone. Problem solved.

@matshepherd118

9 ай бұрын

My kids are five and six and have never touched our phones. I can’t imagine being such a shitty parent that you throw a screen in their face so you can ignore them. Sad.

Excellent video and advice. Keeping healthy, open communication with your kids is the best way to protect them because due to the world we live in- computers needed for homework and divorce/schedules, many kids need cell phones to communicate with parents so banning them also creates difficulties. Kids need to understand the dangers, know how to get help and be aware of the dangers and risks associated with online predators of all ages and types.

Awesome video. Watching from Texas. Thanks for the data. Supports my stance on why I haven’t allowed my kids to have a smart phone. Teachers appreciate it in school as well!

@ericrohani199

9 ай бұрын

Well done!

@ericrohani199

9 ай бұрын

Well done!

Thanks so much for this information Pat.. you’re a great father, I had a father growing up but never had real conversations with him, I need to be better for my kids. Thanks for always bringing the heat 👍

Hello Patrick Bet David you will probably never see this comment so, thank you for the video brother and you are truly appreciated. I am going to use it in one of my Live Streams for Educational purposes because I am a Girl Dad and work with all Fathers of Daughters regardless of their Ethnic Group and Culture. This video is 100% on point, I am a former Teacher and Dean of Students for Middle and High School Kids in K-12 Education, and I also worked in the Criminal Justice System for 20yrs. Blessings

I tell my kid dont worry about what others say. Don't ever

I knew Pat was a dreamer, I had the same thing happened to me in school. For me it was my mom that gave me strength to accept how I was and not let my entire school to bring me down when they mock me for my ideas. I later find out it is extremely rare to have visionary capable of doing what I am capable of doing. When I checked Pat numerology he had the exact same numbers as me, and that's what gave me the proof that I was like him all along. Alot of how he act his vision and what he says resonate with me since day 1 of subbing to his channel. I know exactly what he means.

Very important topic...props to pat for putting up this video

While having coffee at work. Inheard a colleauge talk about her kid bout 6 years old and the kids phone... When asked about why the kid had a phone she said otherwise she is on mine all the time!!

@natkrash5234

9 ай бұрын

Parents are not parents to their kids - they're friends. My kids know darn well to not touch my or Dad's phone without permission. My 5yo tries to be sneaky but I catch her everytime. Do I watch videos on my phone WITH them? Yes I do.... funny cat videos or like recently we watched one about kidnapping. I find videos a much better way to educate them on the dangers of the world rather than just talking about it. I plan on showing them many Valuetainment videos, and Jed's videos on dating, at an appropriate age.

@mbii7667

9 ай бұрын

In other words another female who doesn't know how to discipline kids because she has none herself

Pat, I appreciate your parenting material, please don't stop. Thank you!

One of your best yet PBD! Can't thank you enough for this content

My mother is an OS person where she never bought into the whole IM and internet dating. Both her and myself, but mainly had to raise a 4 year, who is now 22. My mother never let her just have access to social media or the internet. I always kept her away from these things. As she got older, my mom used to watch such type shows and I used to watch crime shows in the background so that my niece could absorb the info. We'd have conversations about things and she'd ask why we were being lax with her and the internet and I explained it to her. But she's become aware of the dangers out there on social media. The issue and problem today is that majority of parents stopped being parents and don't really take control of what their children can have access to and what they can't. Sure you can't stop them if they get it from someone else, but you can have proper discussions in their early years preparing them. There is no reason why children should be relaying private and personal things to ANYONE!

Agreed 18 is ideal we waited till 15 to give our teens a phone. It’s insane that parents feel obligated to give kids children babies a phone.

Kids need to learn how to deal with life, so having someone be mean to them and having them figure out how to deal with that is good for them. However, having that same experience with the entire internet is like starting a game on the final boss on the hardest difficulty.

I never take things seriously until you bring them up.

Great video. I appreciate it. PLEASE make more like this. Thank you

I love videos like this, thank-you for educating parents on the danger or smart devices. As a parent, it is very scary to see what kids are going through now a days. school alone is a scary place to be. We parents need to be there for our children at all times.

Also another thing. My niece has a mobile phone and she barely uses it except for work, schooling and to stay in contact with my mother or me. She just grew up uninterested in using it for anything else. Might be because like me she had a pretty sheltered existence but she's better than I was. When she goes to bed it's off. If she gets odd messages she gets rid of them. But that doesn't mean she's perfect because she's 22, so she's talking to people online making friends overseas. She only wants to deal with certain individuals, female preferably. But she is aware of the dangers of talking to people online. Because we never stop bringing up these topics.

Great message! One to share! I thank you!

Thanks Patrick for the great video. My son is only 5 and I keep worrying about the bullying in general. This was great informations I won’t buy smart phone until he is old enough to use it.

Yeah our lack discipline is out of control.

great subject by teaching martial arts bullying is a major point of focus, i remember talking with Curtis sliwa of the gaurdian angels and he now we have cyber bulling that was 18 years ago, and he said watch as it explodes. thanks again.

Good one ☝️- you could definitely help this issue - we are all virtual kids here … it’s all new ground unfortunately with loads of land mines … adults also don’t know how to manage the virtual bully. Having dealt with 40 million eyeballs as a job - you really need to ignore and repeat. That also means on camera - the number of people who suddenly use their space on camera to talk about it - eek 😱 bad advice - ignore and repeat. They want to be mentioned - it’s fuel.

Important vid. Thanks

PAT YOUR THE BEST ❤

We told our oldest one (12) that she can have a simple phone once she turned 13. She will be allowed a smart phone once she turns 16.

Thank you Patrick!

What people think about me is none of my business!

We have friends with a child in high school. She sleeps with her phone waiting for the next new message. She never gets a full night of sleep. As a discipline method they tried to take her phone away, she became suicidal.

@mbii7667

9 ай бұрын

She claimed to be suicidal. Don't fall for it so easily.

@matshepherd118

9 ай бұрын

It’s wild that there are people who exists that are that shitty at parenting. Yikes.

@derkong7114

9 ай бұрын

@@mbii7667 we are not the parents....

@mbii7667

9 ай бұрын

@@derkong7114 I know, tell the parents not to be pushovers. This is coming from someone who has had suicidal ideation very recently.

Thanks for doing this video

Great job guys

Great video Pat! Thank you!

We homeschool, kids heard enough of pbd to not be interested in another of his videos but we keep them very well supervised as far as electronics go. Not really a concern for us right now. 16 year old in college, 14 year old, and 12 year old have their own phones. 9 year old does not. They are responsible and I'm fully tracking and observing everything just in case.

When parents Grandparents don't hawe time ⌚or ⚒work long hr not time for children mentorship some Tv 📺 some internet 📲🖥️ hawe more influence for children grandchildren

This is great.

It's even worse with AI in Pennsylvania a high school girl's fake nude was posted in school

@mbii7667

9 ай бұрын

Tell me more

Makes me think twice about my son. Hes 9 and had a smart phone since hes been 6 or 7. Hes not on social media. Only somewhat social media would be roblox video games and we talk about content and other kids and friends messaging him on the platform. The phone is mainly for him to call me, family or play video games

@mbii7667

9 ай бұрын

Much better to get him an actual video game system...

You Da Man Patrick.

I remember having a flipphone up until grade 6 or 7. God I wish I never swapped over. It's inconvenient to text on, but I hate how much I'm on my phone with useless scroll time etc

@mikem4481

9 ай бұрын

thats why i got a watch. phone in my pocket, only look at it for calls or texts mostly. look at my watch to see the time and date. one of the great investments you can make

This one is more major than we can even comprehend.

Disconnect is a GREAT movie. Probably in my top 50 favorite movies ever. Better than Crash and Traffic

@mbii7667

9 ай бұрын

I don't think anybody ever said those are the greatest movies ever

@nickbannigan

9 ай бұрын

@@mbii7667 I wasn't implying that at all. Crash and Traffic are often compared to Disconnect, and primarily run off the same type of premise. But while we're on the topic, Crash and TRaffic have received PHENOMINAL feedback, and even won awards. They would most def be mentioned in the greatest films of the past 20 something years. So you're wrong there as well.

@mbii7667

9 ай бұрын

@@nickbannigan that's my point, awards are meaningless

@nickbannigan

9 ай бұрын

@@mbii7667 But my original point wasn't about them being the greatest movies ever, it was about how they all have the same plotline....

The internet is a big place with lots of things to learn. I think it's a better idea to heavily monitor your child's online activities starting at the age of 13/15. This is so that they can better adapt to the online environment without being too late. One thing I like to mention is that owning a laptop or computer solves quite the few issues. They can't bring it anywhere they want, and they're checked inside the household.

@davidkohler7454

9 ай бұрын

You Must stay on top of whatever your children are looking at and listening to. And you have to do it from Day One..by the time they are pre teens I guarantee they have ways of hiding it from their parents. And of course all kids can lie..right to your face.so just asking them about what they are into is not enough. Such disgusting things online. It really can destroy a young mind.

@mbii7667

9 ай бұрын

Why would you start at the age?

@HaotoAnimeOnPiano

5 ай бұрын

@@mbii7667 Because any older and it'll be really late-too late even. Social media is such a great tool, and with it being so involved in our social lives, it's better to teach someone how to use something rather than to just warn them about the dangers. This is similar to my views on gun training too. Fear-mongering won't help much when you can turn it into something that could potentially save your life.

Excellent Video

Imagine being such a terrible parent that you give your kid a phone. Yikes.

Can i talk to you about the next level of this. My wife was giving my security cams access away, placing spyware on my phone. Them purposely doing many things trying to act like i was imagining things, blackmailing me etc because i had caught her doing some things so i think she thought this was the only way to keep the kids. The level of chaos others need to no. No-one would of believed me except i have done IT my entire life and so was able to catch it. I was then about to suicide and realized something isnt right, then discovered it all.

@marlonmoncrieffe0728

9 ай бұрын

...Once again but in ENGLISH please?

@mbii7667

9 ай бұрын

​@@marlonmoncrieffe0728I understood it perfectly fine, you just might be mentally deficient

You are absolutely correct Sir

A third use case is kids may need to be an advisor to their friend armed with this info…

What happened to the Roger Stone interview??

Disconnect, swear it was called 'The Disconnect' lol, I saw it back then is a nice example of it, however Amanda Todd's story is the perfect encapsulation of online cyber bullying, stalking, and lack there of any follow through from law enforcement on the matter showing how disgusting individuals can get away with such behavior. Nice well made informational video for sure, but cyber bullying was always here and ain't going anywhere

I believe any child below the age of 18 should not be allowed to have a smart phone or be allowed on social media... Flip phones for kids that text and can call.... That's it....

I can recall of one instance of a cyberbully, a keyboard communist that larps and also bullies and labels people under a compressed amount of stereotypes. Like the person I encountered puts cyberbullies to shame, yet surprisingly enough, his rude replies and comments hardly had any affect against anyone that he is being rude to. Gets hit repeatedly in return by smart and logical replies that forced him to keep on deflecting.

If I were a Father, I’d give my child a pre-paid flip phone as their first phone. Then when he/she graduates high school, by the time they’re 18, then they can choose to upgrade to a smartphone.

Nice

I’ve been telling my wife this for months now. She’s FOR the idea of giving our (future) child a phone. I am AGAINST giving our (future) child a phone.

Would you consider making this video in other languages for parents and children of different country’s or demographics

My ex daughter-in-law got my 9 yo granddaughter a cellphone. I hate her!

@mbii7667

9 ай бұрын

This is why the 19th Amendment was a mistake

Pat Bet David has perfected the art of saying nothing with as many words as possible. The perfect scammer. He should be a politician!

Thank you for your important content, Patrick! May God bless you, your family and your work 🙏🏻☦️

Dauphin River First Nation Manitoba Canada 🇨🇦

I agree at a certain age

I enjoy these videos

third graders dont need their own house phone line...... also my kids wont have a phone unless they buy it and pay for it themselves.... they will not go to public schools ...they will not use the internet in any way without my supervision.... i think 16 year olds should be allowed to marry other 16 year olds however.... if ur not ready to marry by this age , u werent raised very well

Bro, PBD is a gift from God.

I love you Peanut Butter David! Youre smooth, not crunchy.

@TheRetroChallengerV

9 ай бұрын

You need the friction of the CRUNCH to polish into the smooth.

Tragic

A fucking men Pat! Preach bro preach! 💯

I'm 24 and my parents instead of simply denying me a smartphone made me earn one for myself, and educated me on the dangers when I finally bought one for myself. They sat me down and said that they know I'm smart and will figure out a way around their rules on my internet use but made sure to drill in my head that if I do I will see things that could have life changing negative consequences. I can see this from both sides and I agree with pat. Education, good role models and delaying in some way smartphone usage early, is what's key. Children need to be out and about playing with friends, getting dirty, scraping knees, experiencing life for themselves not through a screen.

Wife and grandson watched the entire video with me

People need to realize one thing about smartphones, they're TOOLS, not TOYS. Just as you wouldn't hand a chainsaw, firearm, automobile, or any dangerous power tool to a minor neither should you hand them a smartphone. A plain ol' flip-phone for communication's all they need. Hell, it's all I need and I'm 70! There's a reason we don't allow minors to buy firearms, tobacco products, alcoholic beverages, to drive or to vote. They're just not mature enough. High-tech equipment should be in the same category. They're still children folks. Hell, some will still be children until they're 30 years old! But that's another matter.

@mbii7667

9 ай бұрын

High schools used to have shooting clubs, just saying

@wayneantoniazzi2706

9 ай бұрын

@@mbii7667So they did! A bit before my time sadly, I would have enjoyed it! But here's the thing, the kids were ALWAYS under strict adult supervision while on the range, either indoor or outdoor and the arms and ammunition never left the facilities. High school archery worked the same, whether that's still around I have no idea.

@mbii7667

9 ай бұрын

@@wayneantoniazzi2706 fair point

@wayneantoniazzi2706

9 ай бұрын

@@mbii7667 Thanks!

Bullying will happen. Don’t take the phone away for that reason. I teach my son to be a badass. We do difficult uncomfortable things together. No caping, two kids wanted to make a meme video so they filmed a much bigger kid coming behind my son at school and punching him in the face and throwing him over a fence. My son handled this calmly while his mother, grandmother and grandfather acted like babies.

@mikem4481

9 ай бұрын

exactly. how are you sending this girl nudes when you've never even talked to her in person? i'd know i was being trolled by like the 2nd day max because i'd be talking to her about the stuff she sent. when she says "i never sent you any nvdes, ew" that would be that. lame asz kids on video games all day dont know how to talk and be social. also if ur nudes get leaked as a guy so what? ur gonna kil urself over that? this is more for girls.

My kids will have to buy their own smartphone. I refuse. They will have a phone when they get to middle school

Absolutely Ridiculous acceptance of Accountability, explain then why is this so called Danger only in Western Countries?? Not just the United States...

How do you get cyberbullied when the block button exists

Lake St. Martin First Nation Manitoba Canada 🇨🇦

Love you❤

Sending nudes is the dumbest idea. Just see the person you're in a relationship with.

I agree

PBD is “coming for your kids” 😂

12:00

Being on the receiving end of a little bullying makes you tough and builds character. It's gotten a little crazy with kids telling other kids to kill themselves, but at lower levels, it's fine. They need to stop pussifying kids these days cuz then they become overly sensitive way too easily offended adults that try to ruin civilized society. Teach your kids to roll with it and just fire back more offensive insults when someone tries to offend them.

@mbii7667

9 ай бұрын

Don't assume your experience applies to everyone else. It has the opposite effect on plenty of kids.

@zangetsuzabimaru

9 ай бұрын

@@mbii7667 That's cuz nobody teaches them sticks and stones anymore. Instead of focusing on making them tough and ready to take on the world, they're being taught that it's all about feelings. It's a problem that people created for themselves. Good times create soft men and now soft men are creating hard times. Society did this to itself

@mbii7667

9 ай бұрын

@@zangetsuzabimaru the very cliche phrase "sticks and stones" does not help anybody with anything. Give me a more practical solution.

@zangetsuzabimaru

9 ай бұрын

@@mbii7667 The more practical solution is to teach your kid that when someone tries to insult them or call them names, fire back something even more offensive. Gotta teach these kid show to pivot instead of whining to an adult like little bitches. If they never learn that basic life skill they end up spending their entire adult life crying in the corner and crying on social media and banding together with the other weak overly offended people and it leads to the dumb shit we see online today. This entire PC culture bullshit stems directly from those weak kids who were never taught how to defend themselves from words and it's ruining civilized society.

We do a little trolling