I have anxious attachment and idk why my bf is still with me but I'm glad that he is. If 3/4 hours go by that he doesn't text me i start getting anxious and I over/double text. I ask multiple times a week if everything is okay with us 🤦‍♀️ I worry about running out of things to text with him about and I worry when I don't hear from him constantly. I'm a mess but I'm working on it with a therapist

Love you plugging therapy as well! I don't like the stigma that sometimes surrounds it putting shame or embarrassment on someone attending therapy. People should be congratulated for getting help! Glad it improved your mental health, as it did for me as well. Excellent advice here too! I suffered from attatchment issues just like this when I was younger too. Self love...mind, body, and, soul is something I wish for all humans to achieve. Said it before and once again, I LOVE your intelligence as much as the humor, thanks for sharing Kristin! God bless!

I cannot verbally express how much these fi days help me -entp

watching this while I panic the hell out of me cuz my bf didn't text back for 18 hours, can't take my breathe properly or even work or eat, man that's sick

INTJ with Anxious Preoccupied and all of this is spot on. I needed the person to whom I felt attached as much as possible, and when there was no contact and I tried to focus on other things, most of my thoughts were focused on how to set things up so I could drop everything immediately if the other person reached out. All of my most stressful Ni-Fi loops happened with situations where my AP attachment style just amplified everything. Anytime I had a concern or felt a need that I should have expressed, I was too terrified to express it because what if it was enough to push the other person away and make them realize they could do so much better than me. I've been working on it now since pushing away someone very recently with my bad habits stemming from this, but I can still feel these anxieties constantly informing every thought process (even if I'm lucky enough to say that these are getting weaker over time).

I recently lost a friend because of this, I placed a lot of pressure on them and I ended up overwhelming them. They meant a lot to me, so I decided that I'll start to improve myself so this doesn't happen again.

Does anyone have the thing where the only person you want to talk about your anxiety in your relationship with is your best friend but your best friend is also your partner

But i dont love myself.

being alone does not help, you have to feel your life with things you love and satisfy it

Yep, I've noticed ESFP folks are extremely insecure and do a lot of outward action to cover it up or make up for these insecurities.

honestly, thank you.

Of all the MBTI/16-personalities-skit channels, yours is my favorite. So glad you’re doing this work.

You might find this tragicomic:

Thanks as always! I’ve found value in every one of the Fi-days videos.

I'm an INTP with avoidant attachment style. I used to be with someone who had anxious attachment style, but at the time I just believed that's how weirdly emotional humans were. It was a disaster. I wish I had understood at the time where their anxieties were coming from, but it manifested as a lack of trust and inability to do things on their own. I hope they have moved on and healed. Given that I've told my best friend on multiple occasions I'd rather set myself on fire than be in another serious relationship, I don't think I have.

Your video helped me to realize that I'm actually able to change those unhealthy patterns in my relationships, so now I'm full of motivation to do it! Thank you very much! <3

I relate to this so much. Due to my kinda rough upbringing I had extremely low self esteem and sense of identity. This made me to always look for validation in a partner, but many people, especially the touchy-feely types I am attracted towards, get this sentiment and will pull away. This then feeds into the vicious cycle of trying to get in touch, but it just makes things worse. The absolute worst what I've yet got to go through was relationships with people who have avoidant attachment style. Upon any sign of anxiety from my side, there's a huge change they will pull away due to their own issues. Anxious+Avoidant can be quite brutal, but it really got me to think and look deeper into it. Getting to know about attachment style theory was a massive eye-opener.

I greatly appreciate this video. I'm currently working on and trying to heal my anxious attachment style and be more secure. I've just about ruined my relationship with the person I want to spend the rest of my life with. I very much want to be better. It does make it really difficult when I live in the same house as my parents, as they are the main factor in what made me the way I am. It's hard doing the work oftentimes because I don't exactly have my own space.

I really appreciated this content. I'm an anxiously attached ENFP who has been in this kind of pseudo-relationship with an avoidantly attached ENTP. It can be sometimes difficult, but I've been trying to learn enough to overcome.

This was awesome. I was searching for this exact thing and for a while I was finding ones rather overtly not for men or not digestible by a man. I truly appreciate it.