How to Not Die Alone: Overcoming Your Dating Blindspots - Logan Ury
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Have you ever looked around and wondered, 'Why has everyone found love except me?' you're not the only one. Great relationships don't just appear in our lives - they're the culmination of a series of decisions, including who to date, how to end it with the wrong person, and when to commit to the right one. But our brains often get in the way. We make poor decisions, which thwart us on our quest to find lasting love.
Drawing from years of research, behavioural scientist turned dating coach Logan Ury reveals the hidden forces that cause those mistakes. But awareness on its own doesn't lead to results. You have to actually change your behaviour. In this live interview session, Logan will show you how.
Incorporating insights from behavioural science, original research, and real-life stories, you'll learn:
- What's holding you back in dating (and how to break the pattern)
- What really matters in a long-term partner (and what really doesn't)
- How to overcome the perils of online dating (and make the apps work for you)
- How to meet more people in real life (while doing activities you love)
- How to make dates fun again (so they stop feeling like job interviews)
- Why 'the spark' is a myth (but you'll find love anyway)
And more…
Logan’s data-driven, step-by-step approach has the potential to help you find, build and keep a relationship, in which both partners thrive.
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Logan Ury is a behavioural scientist turned dating coach, and the author of How To Not Die Alone. As the Director of Relationship Science at the dating app Hinge, she leads a research team dedicated to helping people find love. After studying psychology at Harvard, she ran Google’s behavioural science team-the Irrational Lab.
Logan’s work has appeared in The New York Times, The Atlantic, TIME, The Washington Post, GQ, Glamour, Vice, on HBO, BBC, and she was a featured speaker at SXSW in 2021. You can learn more of her works at: www.loganury.com
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Пікірлер: 25
I’m over here thinking I know what to look for and I know best..yet I have a 100% failure rate!
I’ve been doing research for a year now to understand how to do relationships and literally not die alone. I have been working on healing from trauma and am learning about attachment theory, read the book ‘attached’ and yesterday I discovered this gem of a woman, she explains my problems so well! I really want to become more secure attached and learn how to effective communication and find love.
Too many people approach dating and finding a partner like buying a car. We tend to treat others as objects as fantasized “affection” or “love” rather than unique complex individuals with immense depth.
@carolshannon6449
2 ай бұрын
That is an excellent point. So true.
How does another person "make you happy"? What is being "happy" like? Why is the word "happy" so often used as the goal of being alive? What is perhaps more important is that you are aware of genuinely "mattering" to the other.
Need of the hour ,thank you!
We all die alone. A relationship won’t change that.
@anitach5901
Жыл бұрын
no one is supposed die alone
@ellie698
Жыл бұрын
True
@JaysonT1
Жыл бұрын
@@anitach5901 Everyone does.
@aaronclarke1434
Жыл бұрын
Never understood this saying. There’s no soul, so “you” don’t die alone. “You” don’t transmigrate anywhere. Isn’t there all the difference in the world between dying alone and dying surrounded by family and friends? You also exist in other people’s memories, so those who aren’t alone literally take longer to die in the form of information.
@renzo6490
Жыл бұрын
@@anitach5901 …according to who?
and theres me who cant get far enough away from people
When the time comes for you to die, you imagine yourself lying peacefully in bed surrounded by people who, somehow, will reduce your fear and ease your passing. Wanting to make this fantasy real is not a good reason to find a partner. The future might not turn out to be as you plan. You might die suddenly in an accident. You might be completely unaware of your surroundings at the end. Your “loved ones” might be very inept at supporting you emotionally. They might make matters worse. Not wanting to be alone at the moment of dying is a terrible motivation for bringing a person close. I suspect that the title of the video and the book , “How To Not Die Alone “ is misleading. It’s also ungrammatical.
Even if there are 1000 loving people at your deathbed, You Die Alone
She's basically describing The Sultan's Dowry problem, which has been around in the world of mathematics, since the 1950s... But, here's the thing, we moved on from more sexist times where fathers had to pay to get rid of their daughters.
Higher a friend when your time comes its cheaper that way not personal advice 😮😉👍🤔😀
@renzo6490
Жыл бұрын
Hire.
everyone dies alone. Connect with your Spirit and the Spirit of the creator, and you will grow stronger.
I'm not looking for a partner in fifties . That's miserable. Cheers
She should team.up with Roosh V
I wish I was sparky
💕😷
She's pretty