This man has a wonderful message for the person desiring to overcome trauma through relationship.

Thank you so much! Terry is a masterful teacher, mentor and therapist.

OMG that story - so beautiful. so so so so so beautiful. "I forgot" heart breaking story. incredibly beautiful - I felt it.

@angelamossucco2190

6 ай бұрын

Beautiful

Thank you. A non- contempt life. Excellent advice.

What a blessing that KZread popped this presentation up for me. The concept of the "adaptive child" is priceless!

@angelamossucco2190

6 ай бұрын

I hear you. I suggest the work of Alice Miller (The Drama of the Gifted Child) , Heidi Priebe, Lisa Romano, Marshall Burtcher, The ACA 12 step program (!) and Gabor Mate.

I’m crying too!

Wow.. thanks for this.. million thanks ;)

Very powerful! I experience a very traumatic childhood and so much of this speaks ro me. I so desperately want to feel safe and not fear abandonment. I need t I hang on to the idea that if I'm girt again, it wont be the end of me, it's recoverable.

@angelamossucco2190

6 ай бұрын

I hope you read Pete Walker’s book CPTSD and get help from KZread practicioners like Ana Runkel and Lisa Romano and Marshall Burtcher.

@janestinson5047

6 ай бұрын

@@angelamossucco2190 I haven't heard of any of this, I'll definitely look into it! Thank you!

Good stuff

Fantastic talk

Based on my own experience I am curious to know how well this couple is doing since this do or die session. I have experience many breakthrough moments over many years and just like when our nervous system is in fight or flight, I believe we can also get caught up in the chemical feel good emotions and all is well. So I would really love to know where this couple is today in their progress. I'm not expecting to hear a Pollyanna outcome but wondering if they are in a self-sustaining relationship due to the experience we have witness on the video. Thank you!

In my personal experience true liberation is harmony with our own automatic responses.

Brilliant

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We ought to be very careful about pinning problems on one way or another of living. We do need each other to be healthy and fulfilled; we also are individuals with our own thoughts and desires. Looking back, too much of anything will cause trouble in any area of life, from chocolate cake to deforestation. Knee-jerk reactions to the polar opposite will almost always cause harm to ourselves or others. There's no absolute middle, only a swaying back and forth, but it's the gentle waves not the storms that are habitable and enjoyable.

What if you are so traumatized you dissociate?

@Slonceism

Жыл бұрын

I suggest you try and find a therapist that would help you with this issue. Dissociation is supposed to helpful in threatening situations when no other solutions are available (escaping, fighting back, negotiating) - a last resort to protect the mind from being in the painful sitution. It probably was an adaptive protective mechanism back then when it started in your life - but now it seems to overpower all other ways of solving problems, facing relationships, etc. The best you could do is to find a therapist who would help you understand why this mechanism is still present in your life and if there are any better ways to cope that you could gradually learn to replace dissociation.

Doesn't we bring peace to our hearts, our bedrooms and living rooms, Ukraine and the Earth from the same place?

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Most of it is in the resting except the bit about patriarchy and white men seems a bit like a child’s black and white thinking if you ask me

Being kind is a personal choice. I respect that Terry chose this path and he teaches it to others, but it is not the entire spectrum or even a fundamentalist choice. It does not mean you will receive what you give, and it can easily become a trap. How many men ended up listening to Terry because their partners/wives wanted to, only to eventually understand that Terry's way is how their partners wanted to be treated by them, but that it wasn't reciprocal?

Hacks

@eeyoresgirl55

Жыл бұрын

Don’t be so hard on yourself 😂

@Andretii

Жыл бұрын

Poor adaptive child, you still need more work to do. lol

@Alphacentauri819

10 ай бұрын

One word labels, without any more elaboration...undermines you being taken seriously. Why not just say it to yourself, vs comment it here? Do you engage in introspection and metacognition on the daily? If not, you might want to learn and employ those ways of thinking. It would behoove you.