My ex and I broke up just 3 months ago. We've been together for almost 4 years (there was a long break up in between, we just get back together when he courted me for months). He have his new gf now, which I believe is one of the reasons of our break up (that he still denies and cannot admit despite all the things that I've seen and heard that they did behind my back). He's my loml until now and everything still hurts. It just hurts even more when I realize that I've been manipulated by the loml. It took me some courage to admit that I was manipulated by him and that I let him do that to me, but it's true that a victim won't realize it until she let herself out of that situation. What's frustrating is that the damage has been done and you cannot do anything about it but to move forward and keep on trying to forgive yourself for letting other people take that much power over you. I hope for everyone's healing, including mine. It's hard to move forward, but it's harder to stay on that situation. May we all keep the courage to take a step, little by little. 🦋

@msd7845

2 ай бұрын

Need to take that leap too

Sometimes, you can't even see if someone is gaslighting you because the intention of the person's action or words is so pure that the other person saying it isn't also aware that they are gaslighting you. For example, the classic one. If someone says something offensive about u tapos you feel offended, they would say, "Ikaw naman, di ka marunong mag-take ng joke." So, this would make you believe or think na maybe you're just being too sensitive that you can't even take a joke. Or someone would say to a person with mental health issues, "It's all part of God's plan." "Just try to be positive!" seems optimistic to say to someone, but it can be a form of gaslighting as it devalues the weight of how the person feels.

Listening to your podcast is good for students who are still confused about the topic that they want to research or study.

Hi guys, from Australia here. Really loved your podcast. Very interesting topic and relatable and the way you delivered your opinions and thoughts about the topic is very clear . More podcast guys and interesting topics. Can't wait to listen new podcast. Enjoying listening while driving or riding a train.

Wow! I love the idea of not giving a damn of what one say, then not giving the satisfaction that person wanted will make the person feel awkward. 😆😆

Yaaaay! new upload 💙

I think what makes manipulation distinct from influence/persuasion is the intention behind the action. While we all influence each other in some way it becomes manipulation when it’s a planned out scheme to persuade/influence a person with a hidden agenda without them realizing they’re being guided by the manipulator’s own benefit/desires - unfortunately, often at their expense.

@adrianiii3125

2 ай бұрын

Another way to view this could be, a person may not really have ill or manipulative intentions, nevertheless, if we perceive that person to be manipulative, however sincere that person really is, s/he will always be manipulative in our eyes no matter what s/he does. Either way, it's a lose-lose situation..

@yunacagayat1478

2 ай бұрын

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Galing! Wide range nga ng topics… I agree to you both na mas ok na meron nang terms at definitions, however agree din ako that at times we need to experience those things para alam din natin sya… though makakapag strategize kapag nandun ka na sa Situation para di sobrang sakit 😅

Another way to view this could be, a person may not really have ill or manipulative intentions, nevertheless, if you perceive that person to be manipulative, however sincere that person is, s/he will always be manipulative in your eyes no matter what s/he does

Thank you so much ate kryz and kuya slateer for sharing your perspectives, prospectives, understanding and advices.

Ohhh, I feel si bad knowing that I shame him on social media because I was hurt. I am playing the victim, I think so.

Is playing the victim applicable to a workmate na everytime na lang na may deadline and di pa nagagawa ang work, biglang magkakasakit. So kahit na nakakainis kasi ako gagawa ng work nya, part of me is nagguilty bakit ako naiinis since ang reason nga nya is about health🤷‍♀️

So me talaga yung galit pag walang flower pag special occasions.😅 guiltrip pala yun.🤭

Example ng isolation - kunwari hiwalay magulang tapos sasabihin ng isa huwag sumama sa mga lakad ng kabila dahil lang galing siya sa kanila

Naku isa po ako sa naka exp ng guilt tripping. Hirap sikmurain. Lalot ginuilt trip ako during ng isang meeting. hayst.

I think the title should be.. how to spot a manipulative person or how to avoid being manipulated 😅

@margofloat25

2 ай бұрын

Yes agree

@binibiningmatatag1056

Ай бұрын

It's click bait kase

share naman on podcast how to to be direct in a nice way. I feel pareha meng kryz better leave than to say my point. But I know Im not helping myself and the other person.

@yohan433

2 ай бұрын

I am not a confrontational din. I learned from friends to pray before meeting that person who offended me.

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I'm getting regular here.. 😅😊

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Hello po

nah id win

playing the victim.. mag kukunwaring may lagnat para ma bilhan ng Milo tas Skyflakes or Orange tas Skyflakes we 90's

@abidabsss6576

2 ай бұрын

Skysib this is so legit haha

So me, yung tipong di naisipan ng asawa ko lumabas, ako yung mag aaya tapos wla ako alam san kami magpunta. End up siya din mag iisip san kami mgdate.😂😂.

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@MileenMapile

2 ай бұрын

Meron po sir.yan din po napansin ko sa una kaya ginamit ko isa kung phone may sounds po sir

@MaryRoseRivera-og3vp

2 ай бұрын

I really love watching you two talking to each other sharing your experience and opinions about evertything❤ 🥰

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