As a husband, my most important assignment from God is the protection and care of my wife.

@janelleg597

11 ай бұрын

Thank God for you ❤

@britneyog9537

11 ай бұрын

Exactly!

@sarahalderman3126

11 ай бұрын

That is beautiful ❤ This used to be what it meant to be a man. Unfortunately these days you might as well be a “unicorn”.

@jared3235

11 ай бұрын

@@sarahalderman3126That very sweet of you to say. Thank you. Made my day.

@robertmcneely5202

11 ай бұрын

I've read the Bible, it's not your most important assignment. Maybe up there, but not the most important.

“I would much rather have a different job and a whole wife…” Dr John, I wish all men felt that way.

Dr Deloney should fill the gap and write a book for Dads.

As a pastors wife, I know exactly what she is going through. I also do not like the word “called”. It is a cop-out and is a mis-used word. Often times it is used to control other people. Unfortunately, he is not putting his marriage first. He is allowing other people and his desires before his wife. People who rely on their “feelings” are not reliable. He is controlling the situation and expecting submission with no questioning on her part. This situation is not good. And I can tell you how this will end and it’s not good

@LoudUpstairsNeighbor

11 күн бұрын

I grew up a PK, and you see this couple over and over. It's sad and dangerous.

We are Christians and have found that when God calls one spouse the other isn’t in pain physically or mentally because of the spouses calling. Something seriously wrong with this selfish husband.

@brightpage1020

11 ай бұрын

I agree peace usually comes to the household... When God is behind the decisions not just one person's heart.

@acpfeiffer6057

10 ай бұрын

Yes. All husbands have been called to be good husbands, likewise with wives, and anything else He calls them to do will not interfere with that.

@karenholt8441

23 күн бұрын

Yes! I believe the Bible teaches God calls a couple or a family, not one person in that situation.

After 15 years in a highly controlling marriage I am 3 months free (via divorce) and I know exactly what Delony means by "a shell of yourself". I am having to relearn to trust myself and un-knot all the stories I had told myself and was told by my ex-husband. It is exhausting work but also so freeing. I cry often out of anger that I didn't see it and joy that I am out of it and can rebuild this one amazing life with the help of my family and community ❤️💪

@skimbaweed

21 күн бұрын

Sending you love and peace on rediscovering yourself 🙏💖

The way Dr Deloney always talks about his wife 🥰

@Pcj74049

11 ай бұрын

Yeah

@SheaLeona

11 ай бұрын

Right!! ❤❤❤

#1: They have given 8 years! That is no small thing. This is not a failure, it's a new season!! I'm with Dr. John-- Your wife's needs absolutely can be Providence too!

I had issues with my weight and my husband was very gentle, encouraging and positive. I managed to lose about 30 pounds and am healthier than I have been in the last 30 years. My husband takes credit for all my hard work about once a week. LOL! Now I can tell him "try to keep up"!

@sarahalderman3126

11 ай бұрын

I actually have the opposite issue with my husband and weight. My husband prefers me about 25-30 pounds “overweight” in my opinion (and the BMI). I am in my 40’s now and finally after 9 children I managed to get my weight to my own goal. Only to learn that he prefers me heavier. At this point I’m going to do what makes me happy.

@lesley1484

11 ай бұрын

@@sarahalderman3126 my husband prefers me 25 to 30 pounds heavier, also. However, as I age (I am now 56), I have to be cognizant of my overall health (heart, joints, etc.).

@aelh123

11 ай бұрын

Same here ! My weigh was just the sniffles of my cold. I was very depressed and I had a very caring, patient and encouraging husband to help me through that.

@Missybella92227

11 ай бұрын

@@sarahalderman3126 Maybe it’s out of his insecurity? Partners can at times become jealous from the attention you’re receiving and insecure from your self confidence. I’ve noticed how my fiancé sabotages my diet and gym time. Glad u don’t let him interfere with your self love👏👏👏

To the first caller... I don't know if she's told her husband anything yet, but for her own safety she should get her passport and any other important documents safely secured away from her husband.

I feel so sorry for Celeste. She sounds so fragile and exhausted. She has to put herself first and leave. Especially, if her husband won't put her needs ahead of his own and thee ministy's. She's tried her best to adjust to life in Azarbaijan for 8 years. It's time to go.

Having grown up and watched my mom just do anything my dad felt he was “called” to do… I throughly appreciate the way he spoke to her😭😭😭

@mildajasaite871

8 күн бұрын

Do you think divorce would have been better?

I went on my dream trip to Greece years ago and I became so homesick. It’s beautiful but it’ was so hot, the food was so different and it’s so hard when you don’t understand a language. It made me have more empathy for immigrants who come to this country.

The way people allow religion to completely take over their lives is insane. It's fine to believe in whatever and practice it, when it's negatively affecting the ones you love it's time to rethink how you are practicing your religion.

@canecorsomom2023

Ай бұрын

Exactly. Show me in the Bible where it says that's how worship is supposed to look

women do NOT lose weight by "going to the gym". The most important and very first thing that needs to be addressed with an overweight female body is nutrition and its relationship to hormones. Fatigue suggests adrenal burnout which has a direct effect on hormones. If any woman lacks proper minerals, amino acids, vitamins, and natural fiber from whole foods, there are eventually going to be health-related conditions including lack of libido, lack of energy, and emotional problems such as depression and anxiety, and of course weight issues. And yet, the focus of the question was on the gym... ay-yi-yi...

@blueseptember2174

11 ай бұрын

Nailed it. This is the ticket right here.

Oh man, that last email… so I’m a mum of two and I go to the gym (home gym) I used to go with my partner, and it was honestly great for a time. But we had to stop going together because we’d be in their for like 2-3 hours because we’d both need to do sets and we’d lose an entire evening in the gym, it was tiring. Now we go separately and honestly there are some weeks where I can only go in once or twice a week because life is exhausting sometimes especially as a busy mum. Sometimes I really like to prioritise other things than the gym. It doesn’t mean I’m lazy. My partner is really disciplined and rarely misses his gym sessions. There was a period of time where he did start to put his expectations and standards onto me over the gym and I had to tell him that for me, I felt that as a pressure. Now he’s totally fine with whatever amount I want to do in the gym and has even started asking what he can do to help me go back in more but that’s always on my terms. There’s a way of communicating concerns, putting your standards onto your wife and phrasing it like “well I go x amount of times per week” almost as if you expect her to do so too. It should be expressed as a concern and from a place of love, like “hey I’ve noticed you’re more tired than usual, are you doing okay?” And if she says “I’m stressed, I feel like I’m being demanded off all the time,being a mum is exhausting me” then you ask how you can help, then maybe in time she’ll come back to the gym, if you value her then she will have a great foundation in which to value herself and she’s so much more likely to be able to take care of herself in that space.

Here is my input.. as a wife, mother, caretaker.. I've been married for goin on 8 years. I used to be a stay at home mom til the kids started goin to school. My husband used to help daily with house work before I stayed home. After I started goin to work he hasn't helped much. He got into a routine of the house already being clean dinner on the table when he got home. So now I'm working, kids, dinner, groceries, laundry, trying to keep the house clean. No body helps! If the same is happening with him, I'm goin to guess she is turning him down because she is exhausted. She feels like his mother!! We all know that is a turn off. It puts you in a state of depression and you have to force your self to do something. My suggestion is start helping in those areas. She will see you trying and she will move more and she will be happy and she will loose some of that weight.

@starlingswallow

11 ай бұрын

Beautiful suggestion!!!

@pimaggot

11 ай бұрын

I agree but he shouldn't harbor covert contracts. He shouldn't have the idea in his head that "if I do more around the house she will do this..." instead of I need to do household chores because I am an adult and that is what adults do.

@wyleecoyotee4252

11 ай бұрын

This is why women divorce

@ameliepc165

20 күн бұрын

Agreed. And we always name what's visible, the simplest chores that come to mind, but we don't talk about all the invisible labor. They think they help by cooking a few meals, doing laundry here and there, vacuuming... but there is so much more that needs to be done, planned and thought through. Yes it is helpful... but it helps as much as a teenager doing their chores. That's nowhere near a partnership. It's still a turn off for me.

I have seen so many people get used by different churches. The higher ups claim it’s a “calling” when it isn’t. It’s a way to get people to do what the church wants.

@jaykiser4103

11 ай бұрын

Genuine question. Why is that wrong?

@sackettfamily4685

11 ай бұрын

It's not, except when it hurts the people. My husband briefly worked for our own church and it was soo toxic as a work environment that he quit after 30days. Pay was a bit light and the hrs weren't enough for the amount of work expected. He also had back pain and it's was physical labor.

@sarahalderman3126

11 ай бұрын

That is LITERALLY all religion is.

@jackiemyers2773

11 ай бұрын

​@@jaykiser4103because it's not always in the best interest of the people only the church.

Imagine if women told their husbands every time we weren't attracted to them.

@sarahalderman3126

11 ай бұрын

Omg🤣😂❤️ Seriously though! Men don’t seem to grasp this FACT! They act like their attraction is the only important thing. Little do they realize that women also have to work on being attracted to them ALL the time.

@brightpage1020

11 ай бұрын

😆 😒 No. Nooooooooh. Don't get toxic. 😂

@kristinrichmond8185

11 ай бұрын

😂

@glitterstarbeau

11 ай бұрын

I would tell my husband, but he's still young and cute

@Jillygirl-yn9to

11 ай бұрын

So feel you on this. As women we seem so much more accepting of a few flaws in men (including a few extra pounds) whereas women sometimes really struggle to maintain an attractive figure after giving birth, taking care of the household and often while holding down a fulltime job. I think both partners owe it to the relationship to take care of themselves but if an issue needs to be addressed, I just ask that it be done with love vs. judgement.

First Caller: this is so typical of some churches. 🤦🏻‍♀️ The leaders claim that they speak for God, tell you that YOUR feelings/heart can't be trusted (bust out the scripture regarding the heart being deceitfully wicked...) but THEIRS can and they turn you into adult, co-dependent babies that can't make grown up decisions for YOUR OWN LIFE. Unfortunately I see this everywhere. I was IN this as a young adult. If you have a relationship with Jesus/God, then YOU can hear from Him. God gave you a brain to use, a gut to pay attention to. You are allowed to make grown up decisions about your own grown up life. What these leaders do IS manipulation and coercion, sometimes even gaslighting. NOT COOL. Celeste, I hope and pray that you will get some help and support, that your husband listens to you and that you two become a team again and make decisions for your family together, without the rattling of people outside of your marriage! ❤🙏🏻

Why is he so attached to staying-it’s not like she’s unwilling to serve elsewhere *and* she’s bilingual 🤦🏻‍♀️

Good job John! Caller #2, just remember that men receive love through respect. It is super different than how women receive love with time and attention.

@GwenMotoGirl

11 ай бұрын

This! Yes.

@blueseptember2174

11 ай бұрын

As I've gotten older I just want respect more so it may not be universal

@camillegodwin6398

11 ай бұрын

I have a deep need to be respected. And I’m a woman 🤷‍♀️ How could I ever feel love if I don’t feel I’m respected in my home?

@jessegraham6971

11 ай бұрын

@@camillegodwin6398 He should respect you to. The point is that men don't need near as much of your time and attention to be "complete" as a woman does. Another way to find that respect, which is overlooked by women, is learn to appreciate the things around you that you and your significant other are able to provide. That is your man showing you respect in a way. The house, the cars, the lifestyle. Like John was saying, keeping the grass mowed is a mans way of showing respect.

@mystiquevening

11 ай бұрын

That’s not true, humans are humans and they need some of all. Men and women are vastly similar, with each individual (not dependent on gender) being different because of their circumstances since birth and the society they were raised in. But we all need love, attention, respect, peace, kindness, communication, a listening ear, etc.

This sweet woman ❤my heart is moved for her. I would love to be her pen pal so she can have strength and support ❤ we as women have to rally around her and love her through this situation ❤ mental health is very important. Stay strong Celeste

1st caller - I been a medical missionary, a little different - to a few different countries: some I'm more comfy with than others but our time was always limited to a couple weeks in country, not indefinite. Your body is like out and your husband don't want to cross the pastor, but he's willing to cross you... Then, for your own sanity, leave the country. Talk to him. Tell him you love him and you want to stay married and you admire his spirit of service for committing to this, and all that but you just can't abide this lifestyle right now at this point in your life. You're too uncomfortable to stay. Nothing against him or your marriage. Say, "I'm heading home while you figure out which priority is best for you to pursue at this point in your life. No love lost. I've made arrangements to return. I was so behind this when we came and think it's awesome that we went for it! And I'm so proud and thrilled you're my husband and you are doing this... But I have to go. I won't be here with you any longer. God is calling me to... Somewhere else at this point. Somewhere I feel more valued. I'm sure you can understand. I hope you pray and meditate and that God let's you know which way to turn. But I have and He has and for me, it's away from here, asap. And I can't ignore those feelings even if you can." "I'll be available for you from there if there is ever anything you need. I support your decisions either way. And I love you."

@blueseptember2174

11 ай бұрын

Just say nicely "honey, I love you but I don't want to live here anymore". Easier that way and no misunderstanding 😅

@brightpage1020

11 ай бұрын

@@blueseptember2174 love how you edited this down! Bless you and thank you.

@blueseptember2174

11 ай бұрын

@@brightpage1020 lol, you're very sweet

There's a presumption that the third caller's wife is overweight because she is not exercising. That may be the case, but the first thing that needs to happen is a checkup with her doctor. Tired all the time could be an emotional response, OR it could be entirely physical. If her thyroid is out of wack, or there's some other imbalance, that's going to impact her well-being, and going to the gym may not fix it. As mentioned, post-partum depression is a thing.

💯 on "calling" it's a crutch

Very well said! ❤ I’m listening 😂married 25 years ago & still learning!

The music addition in Caller 3 segment was glorious lol

Dr John, you are so frickn amazing, you have no idea!! To have a conversation with you about life and all.. You are helping so many, you have NO idea. Thank you

The first caller's husband sounds controlling and there is something keeping him there and its not a "calling" I think he's been influenced by a 3rd party she may have no choice but to leave him there.

@3roachkidsdhe

11 ай бұрын

Her husband could be brainwashed and not intentionally controlling but his mind is controlled

You always make so much sense.

In regards to the wife who’s too tired to engage-things like hormones, thyroid, autoimmune (hashimotos thyroid), and gut issues cause such severe fatigue, apathy, depression, brain fog, etc. Women are affected so much more often than men. A “regular” doctor won’t find these issues-they just aren’t trained to. If anyone is or knows someone with these issues, please consider a functional medicine provider who knows the right tests for these issues. Signed-someone who has lost a large portion of my life to severe fatigue and depression from these issues, but is recovering after finally finding the right provider.

@neededtobesaid4275

11 ай бұрын

Yes, I was surprised that the "DR." in Dr. John completely missed that. Maybe she's dealing with post party depression.

@GarwoodPerformance

11 ай бұрын

Agree, but it doesn’t have to be post partum to be hormones or depression. I’ve never had a child :)

Azerbaijan is safer than the USA, the scenery there is breathtaking, food is fresh and tasty. Some of us would be so grateful to be working there. This is a spiritual matter in my humble opinion. I feel bad for the lady. Let me just say this : she does not need language to showcase the Gospel if her husband speaks the language himself. The people there are watching her and her joy or lack therof is a testimony. She is in a position where her peace, grace and joy can have a very powerful impact in the spiritual lives of those watching her. That being said, I am sure her pain is real and she should be her husband's most important mission field. He should minister to her first. This is meant to encourage not judge.

@jillhargrave-george4510

15 күн бұрын

Agree..although eight years is a bit of a stretch!

Sounds like a Cult..

Celeste is in a very dangerous situation. I hope to God she gets out of this alive

Im muslim. And I must say John you done well. This is like a cult.

@tfernandez6806

11 ай бұрын

Caller #2…husband is probably jealous that he’s not the center of her universe anymore…narcissist possibly she just doesn’t notice the signs because it shows up in a different way. He loved having a wife , but now she’s a mommy and he has NO desire to be all around with a stroller as a family etc. John missed some hidden agendas here, husband doesn’t want to do dad stuff. Period

@megscott222

11 ай бұрын

I'm not necessarily disagreeing with you but you're 100% throwing stones from a glass house. If someone said this about your beliefs, they could be jailed, harmed or even killed.

@arielrocks10

11 ай бұрын

@@megscott222it’s not about the religion or beliefs. They’re telling her to not feel or express her feelings..that’s not just some inherent belief system. She doesn’t even know why she’s doing it nor does she seem to like it..since she’s trying to leave. Obviously, somethings wrong about that belief system to her, or she probably wouldn’t be on here.

@tessaoshea5697

14 күн бұрын

​@megscott222 don't you think it's possible she's/ he's calling it out as an Islamic cult?

I feel like because I have been in the same position. If I'm in God's will....I have a peace in my heart that God has given me...

If i could i would love to speak with this women. I can relate with it. I am also missionary since 2017. And i can support what john delony says. Its so so important to have good advicers.

I think 8 years in a foreign country, away from broader family structure, seems excessive... I would have thought the mission role should only be 2-3 yrs then sub someone else in,.. this poor woman is stuck and the pastor should be considering the well-being of her and the family!

The last call….🤣😂🤣 Oh my goodness… I can see it now. Husband works FT but does absolutely nothing else… pats himself on the back bc he “goes to the gym” despite not allowing for her to. Meanwhile she ALSO works, cares for their child solo, does all the household chores, grocery, laundry, and everything else. She’s probably 10-15 pounds “overweight” and she either doesn’t care bc she feels unattractive or she prefers being unattractive.

In regard to Dean’s email, if my husband said anything to me (when we were married) about my weight or health, I’d see right through it. He’s probably more concerned about himself than about his wife. He has time to go to the gym 6 days a week, after work, I’d blow my stack. Are you kidding me? Hes in love with himself and his needs, not hers. I wish he’d been on the phone-coward!! He’s tough at the gym with the guys but weak at being a loving husband.

Wow! Bravo!

Brilliant!!

A. Why is it ok to be with a man who doesn't listen to your feelings??and B. Why is ok to be with a man who doesn't listen to your feelings??F that

@wyleecoyotee4252

11 ай бұрын

⬆️ Why women have gone their own way.

Let's gooooo! Moving forward with life 🧬😀 stabilize structure within the roof of our homes, embrace positivity and devotional advice both inbound and outbound with our loved ones?! Yeah! ?? I agree 💯 with the call earlier today. What a great idea 💡 I am focused forward with truth love and light 2024 🎉 HNYE~HNY'2024 🥂

@France149

8 ай бұрын

Oh &+ I am a woe~man of my word to 💯

Love the advice of husband and parenting😀

He left his family for a woman he barely knew that he met online, and you expected him to be a good family man? 🤡🤣

@starlingswallow

11 ай бұрын

I didn't hear this story in the three calls mentioned on this show....?

@jackiemyers2773

11 ай бұрын

She didn't say he left his wife and kids. She said he left his family as in mom, dad, sisters and brothers . I was waiting on Dr. John to clarify but I can tell by the story that's what she meant. Also she said she stopped talking to half of her family so that's just how she worded it because it seems family is big to her.

@show_me_your_kitties

5 ай бұрын

He didn't leave that kind of family. Clean your ears.

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Yes, there is absolutely a place for a spouse to address weight issues. As long as it comes from a position of love. Both men and women’s bodies change, weight is just the most common. Work together. Understand and learn from each other.

"Struggling with attraction." Yeah, good answer. 😳

She left and cut ties with her family and hooked up with her husband without dealing with her own drama first. It was an escape for her. But unfortunately, trying to change the past by being in a new relationship doesn’t work.

If my husband said he was struggling with attraction, I’d tell him to look in the mirror, Bucko!! And would talk to a lawyer and get out.

Her hubby is nuts and I'd be getting a divorce.

I wish that your husband would appreciate you as a couple and not how the church or the pastors see him. He is singling you out, and that’s not what’s supposed to happen, especially in the church. Wives are the backbone in a marriage and he doesn’t respect you. He has lost his path and has gravitated towards status. He needs to be grounded but it’ll take so much to get him to see that he has strayed from his path.

A second caller is absolutely me and I decided to walked away when I was pregnant with our second child so I'm done and I'm trying to just corparenting and it's very exhausting to even do that

That’s where Ruslan is from!

Does he have a mistress/kids in that country? It’s odd that he’s so determined to stay.

@sarahalderman3126

11 ай бұрын

Most likely…

@mariaking4950

11 ай бұрын

Or maybe he's a very big fish in a small pond and it's good for his ego. Easy to speculate....perhaps he thinks the USA has plenty of ministers and this country needs him more....who knows? But he's definitely not listening to his wife or caring about how she feels.

Delony’s souther accent 😂😂

This guy’s letter about his wife is full of CONTEMPT. The weight is just the scapegoat.

I am very curious as to what church they are connected to. Does the caller share that at all?

@twinmaples.carnivoreroad

11 ай бұрын

This could be the same one my kid is part of.

The Poisonwood Bible by Barbara Kingslover

A pastor bullied my missionary husband till he hung himself. Your relationship is with God, not any hierarchy. His priorities should be God, Family then Ministry. Because if your family is not right, your ministry will be right either. Obedience refers to the act of following orders or instructions from a higher authority, such as a parent, teacher, or employer. It implies a sense of compliance and adherence to rules or commands. On the other hand, submission involves willingly yielding to someone else's authority or control. It goes beyond mere obedience and encompasses a deeper level of surrender and humility.

I do think that attraction should be discussed but I really do think men should be educated in female attraction as well. I get that men focus on appearances, but as a woman we focus on everything, all at once. So yes while the babies are infants something’s gotta give… just not forever. As a momma of 9 its goes up and down… now I’m down, in my target. Only just learned after 23 years that my “ideal weight” is about 30 pounds UNDER what my husband believes is my “ideal weight”. Told him not to worry… I will likely eventually be forced back up.

@sometimesising1016

11 ай бұрын

They don't care. They just say we're rejecting them. Their attraction is what matters lol

@sarahalderman3126

11 ай бұрын

@@sometimesising1016 I don’t believe it is all they care about, it is however often the ONLY thing they know of. We experience attraction differently, using different senses. If we don’t discuss our attraction with each other we can go a lifetime without fulfillment. Simply because we never asked and they never guessed. Sometimes the truth hurts, even when they’re wrong AND when they’re right. I would rather our loving relationship be more important than sex. We need to be able to discuss sexual attraction in a matter of fact sense. Not insensitive but it must be a safe place, not one of condemnation or shame. But of loving honesty. I would rather my husband share with me that he finds me more attractive when I am “ … “ and at least have the option of altering my habits to achieve that, than to believe that I am doing everything I can never knowing…

@standground8284

11 ай бұрын

@@sarahalderman3126 I agree with you and I too prefer a loving relationship more than sex. From my experience, having to safe space for open and honest (including uncomfortable) discussions leads to more to more sex anyways. I think everyone should want to know what their spouse finds attractive about them.

@sarahalderman3126

11 ай бұрын

@@standground8284 i agree entirely! Open and loving honesty beats the alternative of a shallow and unfulfilling relationship every single time.❤️

Caller one....sounds like a cult to me!

The amount of commercials really interrupt the show

Mean Dean lol

22:22 so, you don't want him for what he is, but for your expectation of growth? 29:20 she's the one with expectations and she has no blame? how about she starts expecting less and acepting more?

@sarahalderman3126

11 ай бұрын

Sounds like she has ALREADY accepted FAR TOO MUCH! Time to get up or “get out”.

Just a side issue but I'd say you shouldn't have read the name and place of the caller who pulled out. Along with the other info his wife could identify him...

It's really ironic. Everytime a woman says she is not attracted to their husband, Dr deloney is so sympathetic and says it has to do with him not showing affection or being invested. In other words, the guys problem. When a guy says it, he attacks the guy for being lazy, not doing enough or something else to lay on the men. It must be easy to be a therapist, just dump on a guy and sympathise with a woman... wonder what this guys actual success rate is, besides the blaming and then hanging up on the call..

Shouldn’t the who disappoints be the one to make amends?

Good grief. Her weight is a reflection, not the problem.

6:35 How this man believes that God is not speaking through his wife's misery is beyond me!!! He already has a sign!!! And John, you know if you got those pastors on they would gaslight you and tell you that she's crazy and not telling you the whole truth Etc. So you would really have to see through their bullshit

Third non-caller She may just not care that she's gained weight. Women are constantly being told "if he loves you then he'll love you even when you gain weight." or "You had a whole baby, and your body has changed." or "Big girls are pretty too." etc, etc, etc. Surprised Dr. John didn't bring up postpartum depression. Being too tired could be an indication of that. Unfortunately, Dr. John put everything on him.

@flashthecorgi2053

11 ай бұрын

Jenna the person in the recent comment that you just said “input was trash” said postpartum depression could be an issue so Delony didn’t need to bring that up again.

@sarahalderman3126

11 ай бұрын

True. Its far past time for us all the accept ourselves for the way we are. Be healthy and happy. 10+- pounds is unimportant.

There are too many subordinate women on John's calls. Who cares what your husband feels "called" to do. Surely Celeste feels a "calling" of her own somewhere else? Why is the husband more important than the wife? Because of patriarchy? Because the husband is more important? Religion makes me so mad sometimes.

@DorothyM45

11 ай бұрын

Because some women don't have the backbone they need.

@joetheboy04

11 ай бұрын

Someone's religion makes you mad? Does homosexuality make you mad too, Nathan? What about someone else's culture? Your point stands but let go of that bitterness, white knight!

@vivianworden2706

11 ай бұрын

Actually a narcissist will use any leverage against you. This guy used religion some use their dream of making it big in Hollywood. This one guy made his wife stand at a finish line fir his triathlon one week after her c section, holding her 1 week old baby in 80 degrees heat. Yes I know he didn't make her. She was so beaten down she complied without question.

@jenica1388

11 ай бұрын

Absolute. These religions are used as a tool of the patriarchy too often. Women’s wants,dreams,needs are just as valid and important as men’s.

@vivianworden2706

11 ай бұрын

Also when you say there is so many subordinate women on John's calls. Of course, why would someone call if everything is fine.

2nd caller. So much is being left out. Was the pregnancy planned? Did she all of a sudden want a child after going into the marriage saying "no children"? Did she just stop using birth control? Did he say that he didn't want kids? Is he working 2 jobs to support the family because she quit her job to take care of the baby? I wish Dr. John had asked more questions. So many weren't asked. I wish the husband/father would call in. It's typical that Dr. John automatically assumed that her family "stopped talking to him"? Straight to making the husband the reason why part of her family isn't in her life.

My spouse disappoints me Daily and im single

The wife married to the pastor needs to tell her husband that this job abroad is killing her then give him a date that her and the children are going home to her parents. I would put it at 6 months.... she could be dead in 12.

Dr. John, I’m wondering why you think Christian literature on fatherhood is nonsense. Genuinely curious.

@sometimesising1016

11 ай бұрын

Think the Bible vs "Christian" books.

Get a divorce!!!!

She needs a thyroid check!

The fact you married a man you only knew at the time for 9 months maximum is on you. You DON'T know each other. Now going through things and having a young child together, so much is coming out. Smgdh...

Dr. John why are you allowing the two female helpers on the show to have any input?

@flashthecorgi2053

11 ай бұрын

“Two female helpers” you mean the producer and associate producer of the show. The people who make the show happen 😂

@CrystalM1917

11 ай бұрын

They primarily work behind the scenes bc they produce the show.

@neededtobesaid4275

11 ай бұрын

It's good to have a woman's input on how to relate to a woman. But, the one producer started out twisting his comment to "he called her lazy". So, I considered her input trash!

@flashthecorgi2053

11 ай бұрын

@@neededtobesaid4275 he pretty much did call her lazy that was not twisted Jenna is 100% right! Even Deans language in the email is judgmental.

@dabd8175

11 ай бұрын

@@flashthecorgi2053 Jenna is like all females, accountability makes them physically sick 🤣

Submit to males females

@wyleecoyotee4252

11 ай бұрын

It's not the 1950's dude . Time for YOU to adjust

The first caller barely said anything and doctor John bologna is just rambling

John you best be careful when speaking about God and the calling in others. Yea he needs to do more for his wife and possibly even leave; however, when people hear a calling it’s not a feeling! Gods order is God, wife, children!

Is John not a christian? Your calling in faith comes before everything and everyone else. Imagine if John was advising people in the Bible. Like yeah job this isn't working you should just cave in. Or when the disciples were upset he would say just stop following Jesus. This was disgusting

@lydia8965

Ай бұрын

If you are referring to the first caller, his advice was actually on the mark. Called to following Christ is not the equivalent of called to a specific country to the detriment of your family and 8 years is not a short amount of time. I have been in that caller's shoes and "calling" was a way bigger part of the conversation than it needed to be. It was all about "well if you're called then just push through!" from our toxic leadership until I hit the point when I didn't want to live anymore. It took moving halfway across the world in crisis and years of working through marital conflict and my own issues to recover from the slow burnout that wrecked my life and to remedy the lack of support from my husband who seemed more married to ministry than to me while we were living overseas.

@brendondowdy5651

Ай бұрын

@lydia8965 I'm not going to pretend like that can't be the case however if we are both Christians we have to acknowledge that if God is calling him to do that then he should do it even if it's hard. Following God is the hardest thing to do on earth.

@lydia8965

Ай бұрын

@brendondowdy5651 Do you think God is calling him to serve specifically in Azerbaijan, under the specific leadership that is hanging his wife out to dry and she should just suck it up and keep going even if she is dying inside because submitting to her husband means keeping her mouth shut about what is slowly killing her? The woman is totally isolated while surrounded by people who are willing to use her as a step stool to accomplish the goal. God may well be using her situation to redirect her husband, as was the case in my situation, because, like Moses in Midian, the call hasn't changed but the minister needs some significant work. Is it possible that God cares just as much about the state of your marriage as he does about the state of your ministry? It sounds like they need to spend some time addressing the state of their marriage. Just keeping on because it seems more faithful to "the calling" may be another way of abandoning your spouse, and I think it often is. For better or worse, the ministry you build tends to reflect you and if you are unhealthy you are unlikely to be capable of building a healthy ministry. There are more options than following God's call while sacrificing your family to do it and not following God's call.

@lydia8965

Ай бұрын

@brendondowdy5651 Do you think God is calling him to serve specifically in Azerbaijan, under the specific leadership that is hanging his wife out to dry and she should just suck it up and keep going even if she is dying inside because submitting to her husband means keeping her mouth shut about what is slowly killing her? The woman is totally isolated while surrounded by people who are willing to use her as a step stool to accomplish the goal. God may well be using her situation to redirect her husband, as was the case in my situation, because, like Moses in Midian, the call hasn't changed but the minister needs some preparation. Is it possible that God cares just as much about the state of your heart and your marriage as he does about the state of your ministry? It sounds like they need to spend some time addressing the state of their marriage. Just keeping on because it seems more faithful to "the calling" may be another way of abandoning your spouse, and I think it often is. For better or worse, the ministry you build tends to reflect you and if you are unhealthy you are unlikely to be capable of building a healthy ministry. There are more options than sacrificing your family to follow God's call and choosing not to follow God's call.