How to Love Oneself: A Dharma Talk by Sister Dang Nghiem

This talk is available on the free Plum Village App plumvillage.app/ A truly enlightening Dharma talk by Sister Dang Nghiem, about teens, screens, deep joy and learning how to love oneself. It all starts with your true presence.
"I say, it is OK, I am here, I am going to take good care of you. It is OK, relax. I am safe now. I love you. I love you."
The talk is a compelling invitation to come home to yourself, and to start to love yourself truly: your body, your feelings, your mental formations, your perceptions, your consciousness. Knowing how to love yourself brings the deepest joy.
Sister Dang Nghiem dedicated this talk to all tweens and teens, but the talk is valuable for people of all ages.
🎙 The actual Dharma Talk starts at minute 3'30".
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📌Recorded on December 31, 2021, at Deer Park Monastery, USA, during the Holidays Retreat 'Joy in Oneself, Joy in the World'.
🎙 Sister Dang Nghiem (Sister D) ➛ plumvillage.org/people/dharma...
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🎥 You may also like this introduction to healing your inner child by Sister Dang Nghiem ➛ • Healing Your Inner Chi...
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  • @FloChai
    @FloChai Жыл бұрын

    I am almost 50. Yet this dharma talk resonates within every part of me. I now know what seeds I would want to cultivate in me more. (Sometimes i forget !) I am grateful, 🙏 thank you

  • @sylviasaunders8406
    @sylviasaunders84067 ай бұрын

    Sister D is my favorite Nun. I have all her books and have read them several times. I always find something new. I exchanged emails with her a year or so back. She gifted me something that has been so helpful to me. She is whom I go to in my thoughts when I feel overwhelmed. A few minutes of mindful breathing when I ask her to breathe with me brings me back to peace. Thank you Sister D. I love you.

  • @thekalilovechannel

    @thekalilovechannel

    12 күн бұрын

    We ❤ Sister D!!

  • @earthpearl3790
    @earthpearl3790 Жыл бұрын

    When you so lovingly invited the teenagers to come to the front, the teenage part of me began sobbing for they never encountered such care. The focus of you practice on supporting young people is truly noble. 〰♥

  • @user-zw6lf3mp8o

    @user-zw6lf3mp8o

    Жыл бұрын

  • @ZeusHoney
    @ZeusHoney5 ай бұрын

    I keep coming back to this dharma talk whenever I need to recalibrate, reflect, internalize and heal. It's a powerful reminder on how we should stop seeking answers, love and validation from external factors, but to look inwards instead. Thank you for this wonderful gem, Sister Dang Nghiem.

  • @ravenwild5184
    @ravenwild5184 Жыл бұрын

    Gratitude and Blessings for this talk. With a suicide every 40 seconds around our world now and almost half being teenagers these conversations are vital. Would love seeing these in every school in the world and starting in grade school to instill habits of self worth and an understanding of harm of much social media. May all beings love, respect and honor ourselves and thus each other. Living a heartfull life.❤

  • @levihan3777
    @levihan3777Ай бұрын

    Sister Dang Nghiem’s talks always have me touching a deep deep part of myself that I never knew needed to be touched by love. And I end up in tears with a feeling of warmth.

  • @sherrilawrence662
    @sherrilawrence662Ай бұрын

    Sister D!❤❤❤❤ favorite monastic and teacher 🙏true continuation of Thay ❤

  • @swadenashville
    @swadenashville Жыл бұрын

    You are changing the world, Sister D!

  • @sleepycat224
    @sleepycat224 Жыл бұрын

    I love the the Zen Buddhism and everything Buddha learn out even if I’m a Catholic. You are beautiful and I know that Thomas Merton liked Zen and mindfulness. Bless you 🙏🏻🕯️♥️🕉️☸️☮️

  • @sleepycat224

    @sleepycat224

    Жыл бұрын

    Love

  • @gemfire400

    @gemfire400

    Жыл бұрын

    They say Buddhism meets you where you are. To help you be a better whatever you already are. Whether you identify as buddhist, catholic, christian, atheist, young old, anything

  • @drmarkrieke

    @drmarkrieke

    Жыл бұрын

    Buddhism is more of e way of life than religion. Essentially common sense

  • @mississippirsol1576
    @mississippirsol1576 Жыл бұрын

    👋 What a fantastic dharma talk, Sr. Dang Nghiem! I'm not a teen but this message resonated with me at many levels and helped me to understand myself better. Blessings to you and to the Deer Park and Plum Village practitioners. 🙏

  • @shaneross7428
    @shaneross74282 ай бұрын

    Soooo peaceful watching this ❤

  • @suzyharthcock7913
    @suzyharthcock7913 Жыл бұрын

    Dear Sister D, Your gentle kindness. and wisdom is always such a gift. I truly love your spirit . 🪷🙏🏻😘🪷

  • @plumvillageapp

    @plumvillageapp

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for taking time for yourself today dear Suzy ❤ plumvillage.app (free)

  • @Meodon383
    @Meodon383 Жыл бұрын

    This... this came at exactly the right time. I have started my self love journey but for the last two days I have had the 'knot under my sternum'. I have tried to sit with it, not to run from it but I get consumed. This talk was so deeply insightful, her energy is so calming. I cannot thank you enough for offering this wisdom so freely... truly the most honourable work.

  • @derekmcluckie9946

    @derekmcluckie9946

    8 ай бұрын

    i hope the knot in your sternum has gone i understand i get that too x

  • @jj1221ify
    @jj1221ify4 ай бұрын

    Wow. Exactly perfect. The part about trafficking 😔 sending so much love to you.

  • @sleepycat224
    @sleepycat224 Жыл бұрын

    The 5 Components How thru and important they are Sr Dang . Must come back to my breath again even if I am 67 years old. Bless you dear Sr. Dang🌈🙏🏻💖🕯✨🕉☸️ How I miss Thay , but he is with me in a Amaryllis flower in my apartment ❤

  • @plumvillageapp

    @plumvillageapp

    Жыл бұрын

    Beautiful words dear Jan. Thank you. 🙏🏻 Plum Village App Team plumvillage.app (free)

  • @23Bentley45
    @23Bentley45 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much, dear sister. Your talks and books have helped me so much. I wish I had had a mentor like you when I was a teenager. But I have access to your wisdom now and I can grow and learn how to be joyful and how to love myself

  • @iforgiveyou3031
    @iforgiveyou3031 Жыл бұрын

    Love you sister ❤️❤️❤️

  • @plumvillageapp

    @plumvillageapp

    Жыл бұрын

    🙏🏼

  • @annetterank6268
    @annetterank62682 ай бұрын

    You are so haerdtouching. Beautyfull thank you so much❤❤❤

  • @sleepycat224
    @sleepycat224 Жыл бұрын

    You are so peaceful and compassionate Sr. Dang🙏🏻🕯️♥️🕉️

  • @drewgrant2795
    @drewgrant2795 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you Sister, bless you. Im glad to have found your Dharma talk on self harm video one dark night I was having a month ago. I am 24 and have a 4 yo daughter and am healing from many traumas my body carries. I find comfort in your voice and kind smile. God bless

  • @plumvillageapp

    @plumvillageapp

    Жыл бұрын

    Smiles to you dear friend. Keep your practice. 🙏 Plum Village App plumvillage.app (free)

  • @tomblack2064
    @tomblack2064 Жыл бұрын

    You're so peaceful and lovely

  • @ruthnamaste
    @ruthnamaste Жыл бұрын

    Sister D is a wonderful teacher! 🙏

  • @allynerosenthal280
    @allynerosenthal280 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for continuing Thay so beautifully, and sharing your light, and love with us. ❤

  • @plumvillageapp

    @plumvillageapp

    Жыл бұрын

    Dear Allyne, thank you for the heartfelt words! A lotus for you 🙏

  • @fingerprint5511
    @fingerprint5511 Жыл бұрын

    I ordered Sister Deng's book after listening to this talk. I'm hoping the Dhamma of the first Noble Truth of suffering will truly open my heart and finally have Right VIew 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

  • @plumvillageapp

    @plumvillageapp

    Жыл бұрын

    Beautiful. Please keep your daily practice dear friend. 🙏🏼 Much loving kindness from the Plum Village App Team 🙏🏼 plumvillage.app (free)

  • @johanna11980
    @johanna11980 Жыл бұрын

    Powerful video to Empower self-love for each person, Thank you Sister Dang Nghiem and Plum Village

  • @nocturne8916
    @nocturne89167 ай бұрын

    Sister D! You are so kind and compassionate. I even feel this immense love is unbearable so I cry while listening to you. But your sense of humor made me laugh again 😊 Clearly I’m not quite used to this type of true love and happiness and I have buried myself in the “fast food” type of love and happiness for so long… I will need to spend the rest of my life unlearning and relearning how to love myself and others. I told my mom about the immense healing power that Buddhism has and that all kids should learn this from childhood. She thinks that it’s bad for the kids. Oh my, no wonder I suffer… I’m glad that plum village is teaching kids these priceless lessons! 🤍

  • @user-cj9ly4rt5l
    @user-cj9ly4rt5l8 ай бұрын

    BEAUTIFUL ❤️ Sister... THANK YOU for your HEALING words... I so NEEDED to hear them 🫶

  • @graceacer9369
    @graceacer9369 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you

  • @sleepycat224

    @sleepycat224

    Жыл бұрын

    Bless you❤

  • @SB-rw7oq
    @SB-rw7oq Жыл бұрын

    Thank you Sr. Dang. The talk is so meaningful ; & delivered with such grace, joy & love. I enjoyed hearing the laughter of the listeners. 💖💖💖

  • @Happygoddessa
    @Happygoddessa Жыл бұрын

    What a beautiful way to teach the most important principles of a good life. Thank you so much for the gentleness also to the young people who took part in the retreat.

  • @c.kainoabugado7935
    @c.kainoabugado7935 Жыл бұрын

    Learning. I am immature in appropriate self love practice. Ty to Dang Ngheim for your talk.

  • @elchristian3266
    @elchristian32668 ай бұрын

    Sr. Dang Nghiem's way of being is such an inspiration.

  • @sleepycat224
    @sleepycat224 Жыл бұрын

    You are amazing dear Sr. Dank. Thank you. I wish I can come over to Plum Village one day🙏🏻🕯️🕉️☸️

  • @s.terris9537

    @s.terris9537

    Жыл бұрын

    So you know, Jan, Sr. D currently resides at Deer Park Monastery, Escondido, CA.

  • @donnahenderson4350
    @donnahenderson4350 Жыл бұрын

    I wanted to say thank you! I shared this with my children today.

  • @plumvillageapp

    @plumvillageapp

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you, Donna, for this sharing! A lotus for you 🙏

  • @ruhied957
    @ruhied9578 ай бұрын

    Profound❤...thank you for this deep understanding of your pain and putting it out so well, simply making each word deeply understood...felt and ok ❤

  • @terrybochansky6271
    @terrybochansky62716 ай бұрын

    ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @paulrush4545
    @paulrush4545 Жыл бұрын

  • @sherrilawrence662
    @sherrilawrence662 Жыл бұрын

    Love you Sister D 🙏♥️

  • @sohocraft
    @sohocraft8 ай бұрын

    🙏🏻❤️

  • @nocturne8916
    @nocturne89167 ай бұрын

    Sister D! You have helped me tremendously in the past few years. Wish you a peaceful and fruitful 2024❤🎉

  • @nguyendl4477
    @nguyendl44774 ай бұрын

    Thanks Sr Dang Nghiem for your helpful sharing about mindful breathing and healthy habits ❤

  • @tiddlyNum
    @tiddlyNum Жыл бұрын

    So beautiful Sister. Your voice is pure peace. I will share with all the children and adults who may listen to me. Thank you for your wonderful gift.

  • @seancasey5024
    @seancasey5024 Жыл бұрын

    You are beautiful inside and out. Thank you for your teaching dear one.

  • @mckenziele6788
    @mckenziele6788 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you sister. This talk is so practical, so down to earth and so relating to our daily life. Digitals and gadgets are two edges sword, I can use it to listen /watch meaningful talks from Thay and sisters/brothers, or I can get drown in it with negative & violent stuffs. This wonderful talk should be introduced to all schools and parents. Much appreciated Sister!!❤❤❤❤❤

  • @carolynanderson5033
    @carolynanderson5033 Жыл бұрын

    Helpful, comforting teacher, thank you sister

  • @kanencoffee
    @kanencoffee Жыл бұрын

    Beautiful! Even for the experienced practitioner. It’s time to love ❤yourself.

  • @e.karolina5572
    @e.karolina5572 Жыл бұрын

    💛💛💛💛💛💛💛

  • @MelissaDeleen
    @MelissaDeleen Жыл бұрын

    This talk was special to me... it touched me very deeply. Thank you for all that made this video possible to come to us. ❤️

  • @ilonkaleibfried2142
    @ilonkaleibfried2142 Жыл бұрын

    Beauty of continuation 🙏🥰😊

  • @chongseitmooi2593
    @chongseitmooi25939 ай бұрын

    Greathanks sister 🎉fr tis lovely Dharma principle ❤

  • @daphnelee4659
    @daphnelee4659 Жыл бұрын

    A wonderful teaching. Thank you Sr. Dang Nghiem 🙏

  • @ralf1952
    @ralf1952 Жыл бұрын

    Excellent instruction so wonderful ❤😁.

  • @paulwangler4354
    @paulwangler43548 ай бұрын

    So healing. I love you all

  • @guittatim4300
    @guittatim4300 Жыл бұрын

    I met sister D at a retreat in 2007. She has a medical degree from a university in California. I love sister D

  • @plumvillageapp

    @plumvillageapp

    Жыл бұрын

    🙏🌺

  • @user-ed6tq2uz9r
    @user-ed6tq2uz9r Жыл бұрын

    Thank you ❤️

  • @Blonde111
    @Blonde111 Жыл бұрын

    The Catholic nuns could learn love and compassion from this beautiful soul. Grew up in catholic schools, the nuns never made any of us feel loved or connected.

  • @plumvillageapp

    @plumvillageapp

    Жыл бұрын

    Dearest Helene, Thank you for sharing your experience and thoughts. We are happy to share that many people from all religions do practice with us. Thank you for watching today friend. 🙏 Waking Up
 Waking up this morning, I smile.
 Twenty-four brand new hours are before me. 
I vow to live fully in each moment
and to look at all beings with the eyes of compassion. Plum Village App Team plumvillage.app (free)

  • @jomyb55

    @jomyb55

    Жыл бұрын

    @@plumvillageapp 🙏

  • @lynn8298

    @lynn8298

    Жыл бұрын

    It depended on the nun. Some knew how to share loving-kindness.

  • @Ryley-yc3uc
    @Ryley-yc3uc9 ай бұрын

    Fantastic talk. Wonderfully done 🙏

  • @Brendatalks963
    @Brendatalks963 Жыл бұрын

    The beautiful love you share and are is the true message and touches all so deeply. Great thanks 🙏

  • @mortonvrose
    @mortonvrose Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for this wonderful talk, sister. Thanks for reminding us and for making such a good impact on our young people. 💓💟💓

  • @marilynferro9546
    @marilynferro9546 Жыл бұрын

    Sr. dang u are a gem ! ❤. U r so comforting to me .....u seem to have all the answers. I will try to live by what u preach. Thank u so much.

  • @jiniaroon8640
    @jiniaroon8640 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you Sr. For such a kind and empowering talk delivered with such grace & compassion🙏

  • @AbhinavGulechha
    @AbhinavGulechha Жыл бұрын

    Brocolli and carrot😁 - awesome talk Sister D. It was meditative. Gratitude!

  • @nicoledelissen977
    @nicoledelissen977 Жыл бұрын

    I smile with the broccoli meditation 🥦💖

  • @plumvillageapp

    @plumvillageapp

    Жыл бұрын

    Wonderful veggies! 🧡 plumvillage.app free

  • @nicoledelissen977

    @nicoledelissen977

    Жыл бұрын

    @@plumvillageapp 🇵🇾💖

  • @positivevibes3418
    @positivevibes3418 Жыл бұрын

    Soooo beautiful. Sooo much Love❤️. Thank you. 🙏❤️🕊️

  • @manu.guarnaccia
    @manu.guarnaccia Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for sharing such precious wisdom 🙏

  • @butterflybeatles
    @butterflybeatles Жыл бұрын

    Oh, yeah, she's wearing a hat. I can listen. She is beautiful.

  • @inaramenduno6455
    @inaramenduno6455 Жыл бұрын

    Coming back to the breath.

  • @franklinstephen3268

    @franklinstephen3268

    Жыл бұрын

    Hello how are you doing?

  • @_deut6.9
    @_deut6.9 Жыл бұрын

    I don't know who this is for but if there's someone here who has been struggling with hopelessness from constant narcissistic abuse from people practicing self love around you and naturally you're an empathic loving/giving person... you're not a people pleaser or traumatized to behave as a loving/giving person. You do not have to do all the meditation/yoga/affirmations to get to a place of peace and "enlightenment' that constantly seems like menta/emotional work when life circumstances constantly breaks you down and sucks out your life and exhausting you of your autonomy. If you're downcast running on low energy, hanging on my a thread in the spiritual treadmill and this trend of everyone seeming to be on and working for them and not for you because there seems to be no break. I'm here to let you know whoever this is specifically for that God is real, Yeshua (Jesus) is real and alive and if you reach out to Him to come into your life to heal everything with full surrender, He will reveal His character to you, His presence and heal/restore/change you in ways you never imagined and the people around you from the inside out because of your still small voice and faith to reach out to Him. Turn away from practices demons have distorted to become "like God" there is truly a Father figure no human beings can be perfect in, One who will mend things you thought you forgot about but deeply in your subconscious and lift darkness off of your life in a time-line that is not your own personal effort to struggle to get there/get positive/get "self love" and turn into a narcissist bc the world treated you with such take/take/take mentality. You don't go at this life alone. This meditation and all this is temporary. Whoever is reading this, God of Israel of the Bible is for you. Cry outloud to Him and invite Yeshua into your life for complete healing not of your own personal efforts. You're not meant to do this life alone. Hang on and keep holding on and cry out to Yeshua (Jesus) for help. He is with you and He is for you. Don't give up. Keep praying. Amen

  • @JohnCampbellmarleybikes
    @JohnCampbellmarleybikes Жыл бұрын

    All master teachers need a whiteboard...

  • @mica-yl4bj
    @mica-yl4bj9 ай бұрын

    do any of these talks exist in london?

  • @plumvillageapp

    @plumvillageapp

    8 ай бұрын

    Dear friend, are you referring to Dharma talks? If yes, you should be able to join Dharma talks at local sanghas and retreats. You can search for London sanghas here: plumvillage.org/community/international-sangha-directory Hope this helps. With gratitude 🙏

  • @joycepearljones4907
    @joycepearljones4907 Жыл бұрын

    She speaks to us in the morning so softly. Mindful breathing; Zhineng Qingong. Start here each month. I awaken at 4 or 5 naturally. So my day is very. I am gone back to elementary school; I am starting over in my World of Learning. My teacher are global teachers. She lives in Viet Nam; He resides in NYC. Podcasts. This is how we will learn in the future. We learn in air: Longwoods Botanical Garden. Signing family gets poor. Superstitions and Science- based learning. Where is your school. Where are you teaching. What do you teach.

  • @joycepearljones4907
    @joycepearljones4907 Жыл бұрын

    Start with my breath at night: I am afraid to close my eyes; because If I am angry: Be Here Now (Bob Ram Das, book) it is the greastest Joy. Finding Joy in Community is my sister's book. She wrote 3 chapters. Would you like to come for a moving meditation on Amtrak. A few years back. I took a 3 week meditation tour from Lawrence, KS to San Francisco. ....to be continued. You vote here. Would you like me to tell this story online? Joyce Pearl of Global Gardens. My clients...

  • @__hemya
    @__hemya3 ай бұрын

    37:00 , 43:00

  • @sylviaandrews7970
    @sylviaandrews79708 ай бұрын

    C. Z

  • @awolpeace1781
    @awolpeace178115 күн бұрын

    Sighing makes you poorer

  • @nancyhutchings2748
    @nancyhutchings2748 Жыл бұрын

    Voice way to soft. Could not hear. Disappointed.

  • @juliaoconnor5688

    @juliaoconnor5688

    Жыл бұрын

    Perfect with headphones

  • @MarvaJacksonLord

    @MarvaJacksonLord

    Жыл бұрын

    It sounds fine on my phone with no headphones

  • @AbhinavGulechha

    @AbhinavGulechha

    Жыл бұрын

    Sounded fine for me with earphones

  • @poetryjones7946
    @poetryjones7946 Жыл бұрын

    That loud gong is intolerable and damaging can’t you soften it to not hurt eardrums when people have earbuds or headphones?

  • @ShoshanaBrand
    @ShoshanaBrand Жыл бұрын

    What are the face masks for? There is no reason to wear them.

  • @plumvillageapp

    @plumvillageapp

    Жыл бұрын

    Dear friend, this talks was recorded December 2021 when restrictions where in place. Please read the description for more details. Hope this helps. 🙏

  • @timnickoll
    @timnickoll Жыл бұрын

    saw the masks and immediately stopped watching

  • @plumvillageapp

    @plumvillageapp

    Жыл бұрын

    Dear Tim, this talks was recorded December 2021 when restrictions where in place. Please read the description for more details. Hope this helps. 🙏

  • @timnickoll

    @timnickoll

    Жыл бұрын

    @@plumvillageapp ty for elucidating

  • @dedbaka

    @dedbaka

    Жыл бұрын

    To throw away an opportunity to listen to wisdom because some people don't follow your political beliefs is sad. You will miss out on so many blessings from others, when you judge them instead of appreciating the gifts they offer in love.

  • @butterflybeatles
    @butterflybeatles Жыл бұрын

    UhOh!, they're wearing face diapers. I can't listen.

  • @complexlittlepirate3589

    @complexlittlepirate3589

    Жыл бұрын

    They are being loving, kind and responsible to themselves and others, to help keep everyone safe.

  • @juliaoconnor5688

    @juliaoconnor5688

    Жыл бұрын

    What are you talking about🤔

  • @gemfire400

    @gemfire400

    Жыл бұрын

    Head phones are very helpful here

  • @reemsaif3105

    @reemsaif3105

    Жыл бұрын

    Lack of self compassion.

  • @LisaHart17
    @LisaHart17 Жыл бұрын

    Bless you, Sister. You give me a new chance every time I listen to your Dharma talks. At 60, from an abusive childhood, your kind and gentle love and encouragement help me continue to heal. You nourish my child and teenager within who did not have you then but is so grateful to have you now. 🙏🏿🪷🙏🏿💕

  • @dakine4238
    @dakine42383 ай бұрын

    I'm really grateful to come across Sister Dang Nghiem. I listened to her meditation and I relate to her so much because I struggled with depression all my life. I'd love to hear more of her singing meditations they are so comforting. Thank you for sharing your wisdom, story, and love.

  • @saoirserosenstock8144
    @saoirserosenstock8144 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you ❤

  • @paulrush4545
    @paulrush4545 Жыл бұрын