I appreciate how you’re stressing the fact that the person who you’re trying to break from isn’t always ‘toxic’. Sometimes the people are still good people, y’all are just different now. To me, that hurts the most. I’d rather HATE the person than love them so much. That would make it sooo much easier. But like you said, sometimes it’s the best thing for both you and them.

@betteryoubysabrina

3 жыл бұрын

girl yes, can definitely make it harder since you have love for them. but you become such a stronger person being able to let go w love, knowing that there is something better for the both of you guys ♥️

@4lifemusiclova

3 жыл бұрын

@@betteryoubysabrina do you recommend sending a text to let them know that you’ll always care? Or just letting what is, be what it is? I’m struggling with letting go because I’m not perfect myself. But it’s time. It’s become too stressful to think about anymore and being the only one wanting to fix anything.

@betteryoubysabrina

3 жыл бұрын

it’s completely normal for it to feel hard, and for guilt to come up thinking you could’ve done something better or just feeling bad in general etc. sending a text telling them you’ll always care can definitely be helpful on both sides & is something i’ve also done. they may not fully understand but that’s okay. you know what needs to be done. it’s also helpful to journal about your feelings if it’s really feeling tough to do and energetically sending love to them, yourself & the situation while also energetically cutting chords if that makes sense 🤍

@4lifemusiclova

3 жыл бұрын

@@betteryoubysabrina makes perfect sense, thanks again girl. Greatttt words of wisdom!

@betteryoubysabrina

3 жыл бұрын

glad I could help 🥰 sending so much love xoxo

This is exactly what im going through atm, my current friendship just doesn't serve me anymore. We have been friends for 9 years but as we are approaching our 30s I realise we have absolutely nothing in common anymore and nothing much to talk about but the past when we used to drink and party I also find that I am drained with every encounter we have, I just don't enjoy seeing her anymore. Thankyou for giving us the tools to be able to deal with this situation because its so hard and not spoken about enough !

@betteryoubysabrina

3 жыл бұрын

it’s not fun realizing you don’t resonate w the same people you used to 😅 but you really know it’s not right for you when you feel it’s draining, & that’s great you’ve become aware of that! some people are just meant to be in a ~part~ of our lives. sending so much love for the both of you in this situation 🤍

@jrwheeler81

2 жыл бұрын

If you find that someone drains you or that the only thing you have to talk about or that you have in common is the past, you know it's time to move on. This has happened to me before. I had a good friend for many years and it used to be that we could talk for hours about anything and everything; however, it eventually got to the point where our conversations felt forced and we had to dig for things to talk about. Then, our conversations would usually start with something like, "Hey, remember that time X number of years ago when this happened?" The past was literally all that we had to talk about. We never had any fun experiences together anymore. We had simply grown apart and had little to nothing in common any longer. It has now been a good 4 or 5 years since I've seen or even heard from this person, and we used to get together almost weekly. I doubt if I'll ever see them again.

@Claudia-yc8xk

2 жыл бұрын

@@jrwheeler81 it really is a journey, I'm truly learning that not everyone you start with you will finish with no matter how close you are. Its very uncomfortable and quite sad to begin with but as time goes on you realize that it was the best thing that could have possibly happened. I'm hoping the same thing happens for my situation.

@KBQuick81

2 жыл бұрын

Exact same situation for me as well!

@friendlyfiresyeah

2 жыл бұрын

Dang I've been feeling like this about my bff (idek we are bff anymore tho lol)

Covid really made people start to see the truth of their lives. It has definitely helped us to grow❤ you have to let go to grow

@betteryoubysabrina

3 жыл бұрын

I 100% agree 🤍

@leannbarker572

3 жыл бұрын

True!

@rnopes21

2 жыл бұрын

That's very true. I've made some pretty drastic changes as a result. Feels good, but it wasn't without it's unpleasantness initially.

@bespincustompropsbombarta8300

2 жыл бұрын

What it showed me is there are more sheep than than free thinkers and most of my friends are not able to think freely and need to be told what to do. So now I fell sad that they are not on the same level as myself.

@SpicyLimon4723

Жыл бұрын

Yeah it’s been never ending since then for me

I let go of friends and the guilt is still there. also, it is very difficult to make new friends as we step into adulthood. you could address that in a new video! thank you for this one!

@betteryoubysabrina

3 жыл бұрын

ask yourself, what about that situation is making you feel guilty? can you see how letting go was beneficial on all terms? release any need to feel responsible for other people’s feelings. if everything is in good intentions, there is no need. in a world of unlimited possibilities, you can attract into your life whatever you believe 🦋

@mandolaa4855

2 жыл бұрын

Ι feel u

@emiliocedeno369

Жыл бұрын

I like what Sabrina said in this video and in the comment she replied to you. You just have to keep on keeping on. It’s okay to let them go. You won’t die. Focus on you 🧘🏽 And the right people will come 💚

@emiliocedeno369

Жыл бұрын

@Louis76 ​ I hear you, it can be hard to make friends but you’ve gotta try somewhere and sometime. Go on Facebook and find some good friends there in the free group events around the you. Pick up a hobby like photography and offer to help others with their profile photos or something. You can do it Louis. 👊🏼🙂

@emiliocedeno369

Жыл бұрын

@Louis76 all love. I’m currently on the same boat. I know how it is 🙏🏼🙂

I definitely had to let go of friends as I moved into different phases in my life. And I don't regret it! It's really improved my life for the better.

I tried the "Slow Fade". But I felt that I was being dishonest to both of us, by not admitting openly I no longer had the same level of affection or desire to hang out together. So I made the more painful break. "The Truth Will Out"

I’ve out grown all my friends now I have no friends and that’s ok but it gets super lonely but now I’ve found my self and my new hobbies and things that I LIKE and now I feel like I’m ready to find MY PEOPLE ❤️

@betteryoubysabrina

2 жыл бұрын

Yesss and you WILL find them! / they will find you! They’re looking for you too 🤍

@Itsjrob_

2 жыл бұрын

@@betteryoubysabrina ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️thank you for that I needed it

@Butterflyyyy9

2 ай бұрын

Same here love ❤❤❤

I decided that in 2021 I would start to listen to my intuition and speak/act accordingly. My intuition told me I needed to let go of a couple of people in my life, so I did. It was one of the hardest things I had to do in my life, because we used to be very close. I blamed myself for months and feed off of negative self talk. I have the tendency to see everything as right or wrong and since they hadn't done anything particularly wrong, I started seeing myself as the monster. Still to this day, I sometimes fall back into the loop of self blame and self hatred, which then becomes self pity and blaming them. It's not easy at all, but I'm trying to be more patient and compassionate, both towards me and them. I love them but I had to fly way in order to love myself.

@betteryoubysabrina

3 жыл бұрын

the guilt really does get to you, i’m going to be making a video on how to deal w the guilt of letting go friends so stay tuned but I totally feel you on that. remember that you’re not a bad person for bettering yourself ♥️ you’re not a bad person for stepping away from whatever doesn’t serve you. you’re not a bad person for listening to your intuition & letting yourself be guided towards things that are more aligned w your higher self. constantly forgive yourself & remind yourself of this. what you did was RIGHT. if the friendship wasn’t aligned for you, it wasn’t aligned for them either. some people are meant to just play a part in our lives, not stay in our lives forever & that’s okay 🤍

@ritajrg

3 жыл бұрын

@@betteryoubysabrina thank you so much for the kind words, I really appreciate it! 🤍 I can't wait to see that video, I'm sure it will help a lot of people. I'm grateful that the universe brought you into my life!

@jessicaribeiro8928

2 жыл бұрын

Tu és eu neste momento. Como nunca me fizeram nenhum mal e eram amigas há muito tempo, sinto-me um monstro. Mas na verdade, estamos a fazer o melhor para nós. Ainda choro pelo facto de nao me identificar mais com amizades que achava que eram para a vida...infelizmente nem tudo é um conto de fadas.

@ritajrg

2 жыл бұрын

@@jessicaribeiro8928 Acredita que aos poucos tudo isto melhora. Começas a perceber que não é natural manter todas as amizades de infância/juventude para o resto da vida. As pessoas mudam, passam por experiências diferentes, evoluem em sentidos distintos. Com o tempo poderás entender racionalmente as razões desse afastamento. Pode levar meses ou anos. Ou podes até nunca entender com a mente. Mas a alma entende, o teu corpo energético e astral tem todas as respostas. Aceitar o que é tal como é e confiar em ti e no Universo (ou no que acreditas) é o necessário para acalmar essas dores e curar essas feridas. U got this 🤍

@jessicaribeiro8928

2 жыл бұрын

@@ritajrg Muito obrigada Rita 🤍

I agree with a lot of what you said. I'm a very creative person, and none of my friends were. At first, it wasn't a big deal but now as I am getting more serious about my creative career goals, it is hard being around people that don't share the same creative energy. I even felt jealous of my brother (also creative) who had a whole group of creative friends who would make films together, write scripts/plays -overall, they were productive with each other and were moving in the right direction. Instead I had friends that would rather drag me out to drink, date and things that didn't serve me. They weren't terrible but you're right, it's hard to 'get higher/grow in potential' with people who aren't on that frequency.

@betteryoubysabrina

3 жыл бұрын

yeess, it’s so needed to be in a group that you ~really~ connect w & can grow with on a deeper level. it changes so much 🤍

@mor9820

Жыл бұрын

i am actually very intruiged by this because i do wonder if for creative individuals is it possible to have people close to them that are non-creative. I don't mean like everyone is in the creative industry but by nature i wonder if some element of creativity must be at the core of the people closest to us. Doesn't matter if you are an accountant, lawyer, scientist, etc.. creativity I think can be broken down into other traits and play into how people view and come at the world and i think ties a lot to emotional intelligence maybe? idk I just wonder that. because if i now take a look back and examine the people closest to me, they are all in various careers but one thing I know, they all value art and creativity and it matters to them in some capacity.

@alisonfriedman5288

8 ай бұрын

@@mor9820 I can say from personal experience that it is possible for creatives to maintain friendships with those who are more business-minded/ structured/ traditional with what they do. Just as long as they are supportive of us, have the same values, and share similar interests. For example my boyfriend is more business minded while I’m more creative but we both value respect, manners, showing kindness, listening without judging.

Some people are just plain toxic or takers and immature. Pray the Lord sends you someone who you will click with. I don't believe in the law of attraction but this is good advice. A friendship is a two way street and is mutual

Sometimes you definitely feel like you need to move on. My problem is that I keep looking back. Good times etc.

@karmasutra4774

4 ай бұрын

They are nice memories and that will never go away. You had them and now it's time to make good memories moving forward with others

Friends are overrated, being alone with silence, no distractions. Just you and solitude. That's how you get to know YOU. When all is said and done towards the end all we have is ourselves, we need to be at peace with that.

@betteryoubysabrina

2 жыл бұрын

Being alone to get to know yourself *is* definitely important and to be at peace with who you are, but I also think that we as humans need community - to be picky about who we let in, but making sure we still allow others in 🤎

@anoriginalname

Жыл бұрын

friends are definitely not overrated, this is probably the best bond you create on earth. we need alone time just like we need to be with other human beings. you can’t spend your whole life alone, it’s proven that loneliness leads to diseases and serious problems. we are social creatures and we need people around us in order to function normally and basically not go insane. i can partly agree with you on “all we have is ourselves”, but in the same time i truly believe that it’s never only you. there are people who’ll always be there for you, root for you and love you till the very end. they’re not many, but they exist.

@MeghanMarzio

Жыл бұрын

Being alone is bad for mental health and COVID proved that.

@JCC56

11 ай бұрын

Exactly

@JCC56

11 ай бұрын

Friends are overrated.

It is so hard sometimes to move on from a friendship. But like you said, we should always listen to our intuition. And for sure there are some that are revived later in life. The older I get, the more I cherish energetic growth in relationships even if it is hard sometimes.

If you love someone, set them free. You then allow yourself and them to grow. Life is all about growth and at the end of the day we have to let go of each other anyway. Don't cry because it's over but smile because it happened.

@betteryoubysabrina

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed!! 💗

@karmasutra4774

4 ай бұрын

Healthy attitude. You have the memories

It's funny how the people you hang out with the most are the habits you start copying. You won't notice but others will first. My mom noticed this with me, i was picking up lazy bad habits and it was affecting my future and the plans I was making. When she told me I was offended but when I took a step back i realized she was right. I'm slowly hanging out with them less and less and since doing that i have been working a little harder and elevating more. This video was perfect, every other video only talked about toxic friends and drama this and drama that. I needed something like this, something about a person who is trying to better themselves and because of that they are outgrowing their friends.

@bevanbuckwheatshea5520

8 ай бұрын

Good idea.

I like how she talked about when a friendship doesn’t serve you. To me, I feel like my goals and my friends goals are at a completely different level and at some point I feel they are whats blocking me from getting there. So I’m trying to build a space for myself to grow but I feel that they always are a bit clingy, and won’t understand WHY I need the space.

@boobear9488

15 күн бұрын

This is worded well. I expressed to my friend that I just need space to hyper focus on my pathway. And she feels that because we aren’t face to face it is detrimental to our friendship. It’s very clingy behavior but I don’t want to tell her that. I’ve told her I needed space because I’ve been through a lot the last few months and only I can fix it. She is trying to link up every time she is off work and gets upset when I’m not available smh 🤦🏽‍♀️

Girl, this is EXACTLY what I'm going through in my life right now... for the past month, I've been searching for videos on this topic nonstop... glad I found yours. I do feel super guilty and am now in the grieving process but I know that this is the best decision for me. It's still hard. I quit drinking completely to become a life coach among other things and I don't resonate with my friends anymore...

@iLastStar

2 жыл бұрын

can I ask why? why is it you ended those friendships?

@Green_Cloudsz

Жыл бұрын

Are you feeling better?

You can also be honest and tell your friends that "Hey, I need to take a break from you". They sometimes need to know why you're avoiding them, so this thing about talking less and less to a person can be harmful if they don't understand why you're doing it.

@betteryoubysabrina

3 жыл бұрын

it definitely depends on the situation but yes you’re right! it can be more beneficial at times to be straight up with them and let them know how you’re feeling & why

@vibesmasterjam

2 жыл бұрын

I agree... its better to be upfront about it. I get not wanting a dramatic break, but that's like a boyfriend suddenly ghosting you.

@mor9820

Жыл бұрын

I have a question about this because that is what I am trying to figure out. How do I know if its better to say it or not. Because its not that I want this friend out of my life. They are just not in the same "tier" of friendship anymore. They are no longer emergency contact best friend level, they are more would love to catch up if we are in town together in a group setting kind of level for me now. and I just don't know if that is beneficial to communicate or how I would even go about doing that when she thinks we are still best friends. and I dont know if its kinder to take my space and let it happen naturally. i am truly at a crossroads.

@tatiana_2566

Жыл бұрын

@@mor9820 honestly in the same boat and don’t know what to do either.

I had to let go of a best friend of 13 years but I’ve outgrown him and it’s not the same anymore, feelings were mutual. I really thought this friendship was gonna last forever but I was naive.

@betteryoubysabrina

2 жыл бұрын

And that’s so okay!! New friendships will come that will replace it that will match that growth you’ve had and that newer direction you’re in 🤎

The real challenge is them not noticing the dynamic has shifted and not being able to understand boundaries and expectations have changed. They try to hoover me back into their BS and the only thing I can do is not answer them anymore. No amount of explaining helps a toxic person understand what they refuse to look at within themselves.

Wow great video!! I really needed this, i’ve been holding on to a friendship that i’ve outgrown for so long. I’m getting very tired of dodging them & having here and there pointless interactions. I started applying healthy habits ; mindfulness ; leaving things that don’t serve me ; etc. While they were still doing/saying the same things. it’s so much harder to let go of someone you know is a good person and had great memories with. My intuition has been nagging me constantly, so i slowly distant myself. it’s working. i wish that person nothing but good fortune and hope they find reflections of themselves in other individuals.

@betteryoubysabrina

3 жыл бұрын

so glad you resonated 🤍🤍 i went through the same thing 😫 but it feels so freeing to walk away from things/people that no longer serve you! also stay tuned for part 2 i’m going to be posting soon! it goes more in depth of how to find new friendships that you align with after leaving outgrown friendships, and it should also help 🥰

@ashvergent

3 жыл бұрын

@@betteryoubysabrinaI couldn’t agree more! Definitely liberating releasing the weight of outgrowing past friends. Oh wow, Awesome! I will be looking forward to part 2, would love some insight on how to attract friendships that i can vibrate with 😇💖 thank you again!

So stressful... most people don't accept that friendships may naturally end, because there is no benefit or evolution.

I feel like there are so many parts of my personality I want to change and expand, and that my friend group, many of whom I’ve known since childhood unconsciously prevents me from doing so. As we have grown so accustomed to our habits that when we hang out or communicate it’s impossible to break them. I love many of these people so much, but they are holding me back, and it’s not even their fault

I've had friends end friendships with me without any explanation, and I can honestly say, it is one of the worst experiences in the world. You are left wondering, "What happened!" And yet, had there been a discussion or explanation, if we had a talk, I would have hurt less. At the very least, there would have been less confusion and self-blame; there would've been clarity.

@betteryoubysabrina

2 жыл бұрын

I do agree that we should have that difficult conversation & give clarity for those closer friendships!

@coolskunk6186

2 жыл бұрын

I can relate 😪💔

@mor9820

Жыл бұрын

do you have any suggestions on how to have this conversation in the kindest way possible. I do NOT want to hurt my friends' feeling and she thus far has been my best friend.

@behroozshahdaftar4209

Жыл бұрын

@@mor9820 Hello. First, hurting someone and someone feeling hurt are not the same. When we are honest with people, and sincere, they may feel hurt, but it doesnt mean that we--that you--are the cause If I may ask, do you want to end this friendship, or do you want to have a tough talk with a friend?

@GranTube

11 ай бұрын

@@behroozshahdaftar4209 that all depends if you think the friendship is worth saving than have a talk with him/her even though it's tough if you think the friendship is not worth saving than let them go

You give me the courage to let go of friends that really doesn’t serve me, I have been ignoring this idea for a long time but I feel this is the right time to do it.. to attract new things that really serve me. I definitely support this. Cuz we just live once so why would ever waste our time and energy with people who doesn’t give us the energy we really need?

@betteryoubysabrina

3 жыл бұрын

exactly! our energy is so precious & who we spend our time with affects us so much more than we realize 👏🏼 mustering up the courage to step away is the hardest part. you’ll thank yourself later for it 🥰

I’ve had some friendships that have died off due to lack of communication. A lot of people were in the habit of receiving messages, reading and not responding or neither. If I didn’t reach out, I’d probably never hear from them. One who I had a great friendship with drew away, got married inviting all the friends in our circle except me. That was upsetting. I’ve had to move on and cease friendships quietly

@karmasutra4774

4 ай бұрын

Yeah, it feels personal, but maybe it's not. People have so many complexities it is hard to mesh with all all the time. I pulled away from a group too. It changed and just not interesting right now

Yes, when you grow - you must go!

This video resonates so much with me! It’s true not every time we cut off the person they’re toxic, sometimes we just outgrow them and they outgrow us.

@betteryoubysabrina

2 жыл бұрын

Yes 100%!!

Cant you just lessen a friendship instead of ending it? Some friends, you dont see often anyway.

You probably won’t see this, since this is a recent comment but thank you so much for this video. Today is my birthday and I just cut off a long 3 year online friendship. Me and her met twice in person and we’ve always had each other. We were like sisters. We did everything together and we were so close. She helped me out of my comfort zone with my anxiety around irl and my depression and I gave her advice for her problems she was facing at home . We talked every single day of our lives and sometimes all day and all night . There was never a dull moment until when I noticed she started being super distant a few months ago. We would talk like once every week, sometimes it would be just like 1 hour every week. She made many new friends which I was okay with and didn’t mind. But she started to not make any effort to hang out or talk to me, when I tried to talk to her about anything it seemed like she just didn’t care what I had to say. She would change the subject and talk to me about what she wanted to talk about (which she’s never done that in the past) I got the courage to tell her that I can’t handle the friendship anymore and that the friendship is just too much for me and that I’ll be changing into a new person . She didn’t even wish me a happy birthday today (which she always does) and she got mad at me when I said I wanted to leave her and blamed it on me. I still love her so much . Life is hard

Just wanted to say this video hit hard for me because I’m going through a situation where I feel I’m outgrowing my friends but I feel guilty about it. Your video helped me put things in perspective. So I just wanted to say thank you for making this. Keep it going.

@betteryoubysabrina

3 жыл бұрын

i’m glad it helped you! it’s SO normal to feel the guilt when you outgrow friends. just means you’re a decent human being lol but realizing it’s for the better on all grounds is really important. your life will uplevel when you let go with love the things that don’t serve you 🙏🏼

I am so glad I found your video, I can relate so much! Thank you for this. I’ve been having similar thoughts lately. Most videos on KZread talk about friendships ending because things get toxic or there’s clearly a “bad friend” in the scenario. But sometimes you can just outgrow friendships even though nothing was wrong and nobody did anything bad! People grow and change, interests and hobbies change... it’s completely normal.

@betteryoubysabrina

3 жыл бұрын

yes I wish it was more normalized to end friendships that you’ve just outgrown! no hate & no toxicity, just not much relation anymore 🤷🏻‍♀️ i’m glad you resonate 💓

I just broke up with my friends .. I got love for them .. but I had to step away because the friendship doesn’t serve me anymore , I feel like I don’t fit it in .. I’m feeling guilty and sad

@betteryoubysabrina

2 жыл бұрын

So normal to feel this way - also so proud of you for taking that step to better yourself!! Know that you’re not a bad person for stepping away from what isn’t serving you anymore, forgive yourself & let yourself process these emotions through maybe journaling & watch my part 3 of letting go of the guilt if you haven’t already as it may help! Sending so much love xx

I'm going through this now. 2 friends I have known over 40 years! Lately, they don't seem to be as supportive of me as they used to be. It's time to let go and move on.

It's so lonely though. If the person is a huge part of your life then there's a hole. That's where I'm struggling.

I broke up a 3-year lasting friendship and it's been a whole year since, I've grown so much and so many of these things you talked about are so true. I'm in a better place now. I came here because I was feeling guilt for how I treated them when they wanted to separate. I wasn't ready to! But I don't hold it against them now and it really is true that you love your friends even after leaving them. I appreciate those 3 years so much more than I could have when I was friends with them.

@betteryoubysabrina

2 жыл бұрын

Yess thankyou for sharing 🤍🤍 I hope this video series was helpful for you for letting go of the guilt!

your friends will hold you back if you let them its the crab in the bucket syndrome when one crab tries to leave the bucket other crabs on the bottom pull them down. misery loves company they will annoy and drain your energy they want whats best for you but they don't want you to leave them behind. it takes a lot of balls to say no to others and yes!!! yes!!!! to your self we do need allies we need friends but when you raise your standers for living you have to say good bye, no matter how painful it feels if you have a vision follow it because if you don't you will go back down with them. always be grateful for the time you had but you really want people lifting you up giving you kind words showing you love rooting for you because when others pick you up they pick them selves up as well.

@rickynunez3109

Ай бұрын

@@lightinthelantern yes when I would do good things for my self they would get in my way. And when I stopped hanging around them my life got better and they stayed the same we grew apart

What ever he does… it’s never “wrong” or “toxic”. But hanging out with my friend is exhausting. We are so different, from the very start actually. We don’t have all the other people in the group to fill in the other syuff anymore

Thank you so much for this insight. I have been feeling guilty about wanting to part ways with people simply because we are moving in different directions. Perfectly nice people, but I find myself getting irritated because now I feel obligated about hanging out with them... so glad I am not being a bad person because I want to move on.

@betteryoubysabrina

3 жыл бұрын

yes you’re totally ~not~ a bad person for just growing in a different direction! people change & that’s not a bad thing! so happy this helped you 🤍

Went trough this today ! Wanted to end a friendship with someone I know since high school nothing bad happened the energy & sprak just isnt there. They started crying and that they hope this wasnt a friendship breakup. So I just said we let it go and see how it goes. But I actually want a clean break. Its like continuing the friendship is dimishing me energetically. I dont want to hurt them. But I also want to take good care of myself. It may sound harsh but I need to do what is best for me. This is really not that easy if someone hasnt been toxic.

@betteryoubysabrina

3 жыл бұрын

I totally understand this 🤍 it doesn’t sound harsh though, you do have to do what’s best for you. it’s definitely not easy, but you’re not a bad person for not resonating w the same people anymore. a clean break can make it easier especially so that person can have closure. there’s not much more you can do other than to give compassion, wish them love & let go w grace. wishing you the best in this situation ♥️♥️

In that sort of in-between phase where I don't hold anger towards them, don't want to be around certain ppl, but am figuring out who I DO want to be around. Kind of alone but peaceful too

@betteryoubysabrina

2 жыл бұрын

Ahh “the void” ✨ such a beautiful place to be. This is your time to get super specific on who you do & don’t want to have in your life! Excited for you for what’s to come 🤎

@queenofscrolls7585

2 жыл бұрын

@@betteryoubysabrina thankyou so much for the support on my journey, kind soul💚

I've struggled with this understanding in the past that friendships come and go as we maneuver through different stages of life. It's a natural process but can be super painful to come to grips with. I've come to terms with this over going through a period of grieving. Now I feel better and more confident about letting some friendships go. Often the longer you are away from the person the easier it is to identify why they are no longer a good fit for your life.

@karmasutra4774

4 ай бұрын

Exactly ❤this is what I am processing. My friend group of the last five years changed. So now I am so not into it .. going to take some time and later get back into some other group and start over

i’m in a friendship right now that i really need to let go of. mostly because of the other person being toxic. it’s just not healthy at all. we don’t get along very well, and she isn’t a good friend to me at all. we have also just grown apart from each other over the years so i know that it’s time to let go. also i’m not talking about my bsf my bsf is AMAZING!!

@betteryoubysabrina

3 жыл бұрын

let go of whatever doesn’t serve you & blessings will come 🥰🤍

I love this. Such great advice, so on point, honest and real. Thank you so much, can't wait to see all of your other content!

Isn't it better to just have a closure than just to simply fade away? That almost has the same effect as ghosting. I have one friend who does this to me. She said our friendship is "lifetime," but she is slowly replying less and less. It is very clear how uninterested she is in communicating. I think it's cruel and lacks respect for the other person.

@betteryoubysabrina

3 жыл бұрын

definitely depends on the situation & the relationship w the person! yes sometimes it is better to have closure, especially if you guys were very close. sometimes it’s easier for the other person if you start to fade away and then give closure so it doesn’t seem to come out of nowhere. if you weren’t insanely close to the person, sometimes the closure itself is more hurtful than just slowly fading away. every person & situation is different though so it’s important to do whatever feels most right and least hurtful to everyone involved 🤍

@mervin530ify

2 жыл бұрын

That is definitely what is going on with my childhood friend!!! It is so imbalance that I am the only one who needs her and never a time she needs me!

@mervin530ify

2 жыл бұрын

It hurts like hell!

This is a great video. I was feeling this way for a long time, because i've changed lots, and I've stopped some old habits and that has caused me to outgrow old friends, and I always felt guilty about it that I don't have much reasons to reach out to them, but I've made tons of new friends though.

@betteryoubysabrina

Жыл бұрын

I’m glad it resonated love 💗 you’re not a bad person for changing your habits, and if that means the same people don’t resonate w you anymore, that’s okay 💗

This is a great share Sabrina. Appreciate the perspective. You are absolutely right. Life is about change and growth. Sometimes we need to create the space in our lives for the better

Friends not ‘ serving you’ is not the right word. It’s just that you are moving in opposite directions. You need to grow a thick skin and prepare for our friends drop us too! It’s important though to not completely close the door on people completely, you never know when you’ll need them and as you get older you realise that kind people are hard to find, so be kind ( unless they are toxic or narcissistic, then I suggest you run and don’t look back!) It’s not a race, you can still go ahead, limit your contact with your current friends and make new friends. There is enough love to go around I’m sure.

@ct6852

3 ай бұрын

Yeah I think it's best not close the door completely. And no one moves in 'opposite directions'. Everyone grows whether they want to or not.

One thing I've learned in life is to accept other people's harmless choices and lifestyles instead of having to have things "resonate" with you. If you have to "resonate" with people around you its because you have a fragile self created identity your trying to protect. Don't become a square peg in a world of round holes. It doesnt lead you anywhere fun. Trust me!

@betteryoubysabrina

2 жыл бұрын

Yes practicing acceptance is such a healthy thing to do! In my opinion we don’t want to surround ourselves w people we don’t resonate with though.. it will leave us feeling unfulfilled & wanting more out of our relationships

@Doodlebopjunior

2 жыл бұрын

If everyone around you has nothing in common w you and you don’t agree with any of their decisions why would you want to be around them

@ct6852

3 ай бұрын

Yeah sometimes people are a bit too prissy when it comes to differences. Like newsflash, every one on the planet is unique from one another in one way or another. It doesn't mean the love isn't real. Circumstances change and that's ok.

wow, this is the exact video I needed to see. THANK YOU so much for making this

You're amazing! Thank you for the wonderful advice and tips on relationships. :)

Been going through this experience often lately and this definitely made me feel better about my decision of cutting them off. Awesome video! Much needed

@betteryoubysabrina

3 жыл бұрын

so glad it helped 🥰 stay tuned for part 2 of this video if you’re interested! i’m publishing it soon & it goes into why you need to cut them off & how to attract more aligned friendships 🤍

I can't thank you enough this was everything I was looking for no one really talk about friendship in this way last year I let go of most of my friends and even though it felt so right sometimes I feel guilty or doubtful so your words were so helpful thank you

@betteryoubysabrina

3 жыл бұрын

so glad it was helpful 🥰

@nyny9189

2 жыл бұрын

Yea

I am goin thru THIS! I’m lonely sometimes but I rather not be irritated by talkin about same stuff that I’m not interested anymore 😬

@betteryoubysabrina

2 жыл бұрын

I feel that!! You’re not alone 💗💗

Aaaaaah this is exactly what I'm going through and I knew it was going to happen 3 years ago then lockdowns accelerated the process! Thankfully I already was creating a new friends group before hand thanks for the confirmation

Thank you so much. This is exactly what I needed to hear💗

@betteryoubysabrina

2 жыл бұрын

So glad it helped 🥰

Hey! Recently I cut off some friends from my life. Although I have been feeling more positive energy in my life because of it, I do still feel guilty for doing it. There are a lot of videos for people that got "broken up" with and not many trying to see the side of the people doing the "breaking up". This video helped me a lot, Thanks!

@betteryoubysabrina

2 жыл бұрын

so happy for you that you made that change! it’s so normal to feel guilty ab it 😅 I actually recently released a part 3 to this series talking about how to deal with the guilt that should be able to help w this 🥰🤍

This helped me so much. Thank you. I have been struggling with doing this and have such strong feelings of guilt. Thank you for the clarity 🙏

@betteryoubysabrina

3 жыл бұрын

so glad I could help 🥰 the guilt is so normal (& just means you’re a nice person) - journaling it out can help you release those feelings & help realize that it really is for the better 💓

Thank u for this ma’am, I really needed help getting away from people who just wouldn’t let our friendship fizzle

@betteryoubysabrina

2 жыл бұрын

i’m glad it helped 💜

I am 44 years old and I do not really understand. You can just phase people out and leave the door open. My closest group have hanged out since we were like 15-16. My friend who have it worst when he was 20 is the one with the highest income now, who serve the best food. The guy who seemed the best we all left because he's a narcissist who never grew up. We have challenged eachother on occasion. Called out eachothers bullshit. Had fights. Made up. So many times. Every time we grew back stronger. People got their drivers license, their first apartments, got jobs, lost jobs, got girlfriends, broke up, got married, got kids, argued with their kids. They are basically my brothers now. So all those times we said we don't want to see them anymore, I am kind a happy that was a lie.

Hi Sabrina, my name is Matt Winick and I want to say that I enjoy watching your videos about lifestyle and advice about how to better improve yourself. I have autism with a learning disability. It’s hard for me having a disability because I get bullied by other people including some friends about having a disability, struggle to communicate my thoughts in different settings, and have trouble comprehending on learning different advance subjects. Also with a disability I face people getting negative about how they don’t like people who are different and don’t appreciate on who I am despite working hard to try my best. I’m able to relate to this video because I want to take a break from people including friends because I want to grow better, take a break from negativity that people put on me, and work on finding motivation. I have doing volunteering work to help feed homeless people including people who low income in A2 downtown to help me find compassion while help people, exercise to help build my body, write letters to influential people who inspire me, and do morning walks. You are very inspirational to me to find motivation when I struggle with a disability and the world on being harsh on me. Thank you for inspiring me.

@anonymous-eu8oh

Жыл бұрын

i know that it’s hard but you need to cut off negative people to grow as a person, those negative people are holding you back from working on yourself. find people who accept you for who you are as a person. it’s amazing that you’re helping people in need and working on yourself, and while volunteering you might even make new friends since you guys share similar interest. i wish you the best of luck in your self discovery and self growth! 🤍

You’re amazing! Thanks for this message, Currently dealing with this 🤦‍♂️

This is so good❤️ This deserves millions of views

thank you thank you thank you , i’m immensely grateful for you ‘opening up’ my courage and strength and realization to let go of my friend group. I’m still iffy about it but i KNOW i need to do this , my soul isn’t at peace. I’ll update y’all if i’ve left or not 🤞🏾💕

@betteryoubysabrina

3 жыл бұрын

finding the courage to go through w it is the hardest part! your intuition knows what’s best for you, so if it doesn’t feel right - listen to your gut. you got this 💖

@emile1271

3 жыл бұрын

How is it going?

@inathi9022

3 жыл бұрын

@@emile1271 It’s great , i immediately found a new group of friends who i cherish, and i’m not on bad terms with my ex-friends we just just don’t talk , as it should be . I’m more confident and i’ve gained many acquaintances that’ have supported me . I’m so much happier and grateful that i got the strength to finally do it . thanks for asking 💕

@betteryoubysabrina

3 жыл бұрын

@@inathi9022 I love this for you!! 🥰🤍

I needed to hear this. Thank you!

@betteryoubysabrina

3 жыл бұрын

so glad it helped 🥰

Loooveeee your video❤️ Definitely helped!!!

Suuuper helpful and strong insights Sabrina! Thank you so much for this!

@betteryoubysabrina

Жыл бұрын

So happy it was helpful love 🫶🏼✨

Well said! Great video!

BEST VIDEO on this topic I have found . Thank you!!

@betteryoubysabrina

2 жыл бұрын

so glad it was helpful for you! 💙💙

I really loved your weighted analogy. I do a lot of self blame for friendships not lasting just assuming it was because of me, though it people aren’t connecting on the same level there should be no guilt letting go of those people/person! Enjoyed :)

@betteryoubysabrina

3 жыл бұрын

i’m glad it helped 🥰

I needed this so much thank you ❤️

@betteryoubysabrina

2 жыл бұрын

💖💖

For the past 2 years, I’ve been making excuses for my best friend and her actions/behavior toward me. I went thru a lot in between, and she wasn’t really there. I had a substance abuse problem when her and I were friends. She always wanted to drink/smoke, and I wanted to stop because I ruined alot of myself because of substance abuse. But since I stopped, I stopped resonating with her. She was careless, would drive under the influence and say passive aggressive stuff, or had ill intents. I eventually just popped and lashed out through subtweeting and we ended our friendship. I feel a lot of pain, but a lot of relief. I feel like she was stuck. And I felt like I needed to grow or felt like she made me feel like a bad person when I’d speak about how her actions hurt me. She’d cry, apologize but never changed. I just got sick of it, but I didn’t know how to let her go. I felt relief when she blocked me. But I’m still in a lot pain & trying real hard not relapse. But I’m trying to figure this out, and I found this helpful video 🥺

Thank you so much for validating me ❤️👋

@betteryoubysabrina

3 жыл бұрын

sending so much love 🥰💖💘

Great advise for a challenging situation.

Honestly, the only video that I feel like ever made me understand and help about my friendship cuz it wasn’t “toxic” like how it can be in most cases but as for the some cases, this video was SOOOO HELPFUL! 🥺✨~

@betteryoubysabrina

2 жыл бұрын

So glad it was helpful love 😸

I needed this!! Appreciate you!!

@betteryoubysabrina

2 жыл бұрын

Yes so glad it helped! 🤍🤍

Thank you so much for this, it helped me so much to understand that its okay to let go of friendships but also no one ever talks about the feeling after this like the feeling of guilt or that you made the wrong decision when you see them all together and you feel like you are missing out and i think that's the hardest part because often its for your own good that you cut off friendships you have outgrown but sometimes it hurts and you miss the friendships and start to make yourself believe that the situation was better than it actually was but i think nostalgia definitely plays a big part in that and its okay to not feel okay for awhile but ultimately its the best thing for you. I am just praying things get better and that i find friends that are right for me.

@betteryoubysabrina

2 жыл бұрын

Expect things to get better, & they will. Much love to you xx

@maisie1722

2 жыл бұрын

@@betteryoubysabrina Thank you so much xx

I resonated with everything that you said girl. ❤✨

@betteryoubysabrina

3 жыл бұрын

so glad it hit home 💗

yes! Wise words! Thank you for sharing this! I learn't a lot! Inspiring ❤️❤️❤️

@betteryoubysabrina

2 жыл бұрын

Happy it’s inspired you! 😻

Every word spoken was and is exactly how and what I’ve been currently going through and if anything brought 100% peace and confirmation that my feelings are valid and real. Thank you so so much for sharing this video. This both confirmed and helped tremendously!

@betteryoubysabrina

2 жыл бұрын

So grateful it’s helped you out love 🥰🤎 this was my intention to help others feel heard in this situation & to help them out in making their decisions so I’m glad you feel that way! Sending so much love xx

Great video, very well explained and very empathetic. I needed to hear this, thank you.

@betteryoubysabrina

3 жыл бұрын

so glad it resonated ♥️♥️

Literally in love with your thoughts! You are awesome. I wish you were my friend.

@betteryoubysabrina

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂 I appreciate you 💕

This hits home!

@betteryoubysabrina

3 жыл бұрын

so glad it does! 🤍

This video resonates! Thank you ❤️

@betteryoubysabrina

3 жыл бұрын

💗💗

Love this video! Literally what I’m going through right now. I’m on a journey to bettering myself in multiple ways, and I tried to take my best friend of 15 years with me. But I realized that this journey was for me, and that she and I just don’t resonate anymore. So I truly believe my ego is what’s holding on. Intuitively I know what to do. Your video has inspired me to do what’s best for me! Thank you so much! Bless you! 💕

@betteryoubysabrina

3 жыл бұрын

i’m so glad it was helpful 🥰 trust your intuition! you’ll be so glad you did in the end 🤍

@brittreneeswaymain

3 жыл бұрын

@@betteryoubysabrina you’re absolutely right! Thank you so much again!! 💕💕

@brittreneeswaymain

3 жыл бұрын

@@betteryoubysabrina Just subscribed!! 💕

@betteryoubysabrina

3 жыл бұрын

@@brittreneeswaymain thankyou love! 💖

@MarikaTheEmpress

3 жыл бұрын

@BrittReneesWay OMG SAME !!!!

This really resonated thank you ❤️

@betteryoubysabrina

2 жыл бұрын

So glad it did! 🤎

You are so lovely. Thank you for this video. Its very real! ♥️

this is the video i've been looking for! in my case i definetly felt like my friendship started to turn toxic, which made me very upset after a while. i cut them off abruptly one day, and the "breakup" if you will was harsh and I'm still trying to let it go. i hold no grudge, we just don't connect like we used to. thank you for this video

@betteryoubysabrina

3 жыл бұрын

i’m glad it could help 💖💖

I've been letting go of a handful, not reaching out to them anymore, not making plans. Just wishing a happy birthday or a Christmas card, but no getting together. I wouldn't say the friendships were exactly "toxic" but more like "go nowhere" friendships; or friendships of habit, going through the motions. No hard feelings, but just not feeling it. I'm 60, but have so much energy in me and am constantly growing career-wise, and creatively. I'd rather talk about creative, fun things than gossip or talk about ailments (which people in my age group tend to focus on). My goal for 2024 is new friends. I thought it might be impossible at my age, but via my career I did meet a cool person. I invited her for coffee next week. Just like romance, friendships can also happen when you least expect it! Don't settle! ❤

I'm glad I came across your channel!

@betteryoubysabrina

3 жыл бұрын

💖💕💘

Needed. Thank you.

@betteryoubysabrina

3 жыл бұрын

💘💘

Thank you so much, this was so genuine and real. I think it's time for me to let go, but I haven't made new friends in so long so I am scared/: I have always had the same friend for a while now but i feel like i outgrown her. btw ur beautifulllll

@betteryoubysabrina

3 жыл бұрын

when you go into a new chapter of your life with optimism, expectation of positive results (ex: making new friendships), and detachment of how it will come to you - your new friends that resonate with you on your level will find you. every time you have a “scared” thought, take a deep breath & trust that they’re there and that they’ll come in divine timing 💓 hope this helps love

@ElodieluvsGod4ever

3 жыл бұрын

@@betteryoubysabrina love this advice Sabrina !

Thank you for this video. Helpful indeed - gave me some perspective 👍🏼

@betteryoubysabrina

2 жыл бұрын

So glad it helped love 🤎🤎

''Looking out for everyone involved'' stuck out to me thats a great way to see it

This has helped me so much and I am grateful to you for posting it. Last week I broke up with a friend I've had for 38 years because I just couldn't deal with some old patterns and it got way too heavy for me to carry. I waited too long and it ended very badly with me basically laying it all out because she wouldn't give me space to work it out. Then she pushed me and I fell i to an old pattern. I feel so devastated and guilty but your presentation has made me realize that I don't have to paint myself as the bad guy. I really feel we are best off on our own paths right now, just wish it hadn't ended so poorly because I will always love her.

@betteryoubysabrina

2 жыл бұрын

Forgive yourself love!! You both were just doing the best you could, it’s not an easy circumstance to be in! Sending you sm love 💘💘

@pammitchell3098

2 жыл бұрын

@@betteryoubysabrina Thank you for the kind words. You have really helped.

THIS is the video i needed, I have had toxic friendships before or just messy complicated ones and we ended on bad terms:’). However the friends i want to distance myself from now aren’t bad people at all, I love them. However i feel we just outgrown each other and have too many issues now and then to keep trying to make things work and I don’t want to end on bad terms with them. I just don’t want to put them on this pedestal no more and work on myself on my own in summer. I just feel I need change and so this video was very helpful, it’s not always for bad reasons or needs to end in a bad way.

@betteryoubysabrina

2 жыл бұрын

I’m so glad this video was helpful for you!! Soo many people are going through this 💘💘

Thanks for this video :). Mentally I’ve already left this friend group, but the guilt from knowing (or thinking I know) how they’ll perceive me when I leave this group chat is holding me back. They go to my college as well so seeing them after all that is killing me. I’ve been ghosting so I’m sure they know I don’t wanna be in the group anymore, but jeez. This is all so stressful. I don’t wanna hurt their feelings bc they literally didn’t do anything wrong, in general or to me, but holy shit. I just feel like I’m paralyzed with anxiety over this. I have no idea what to do. I’ve thought about messages I could send to soften the blow, but that just seems like it’ll blow the situation up even more… Would it be better to just continue ghosting or leave the group chats? I really wanna leave, bc I’m tired of seeing the notifications, but I’m afraid of the resentment

Thank you for making this it’s really helpful. This video described one of my “friend” and my friendship with each other. We don’t talk anymore and we don’t hang out anymore and we both feel awkward around each other so it’s weird when we’re by ourselves. But I want to leave only one of my friends because she doesn’t treat me right. She doesn’t treat any of my friends right but they don’t see that yet. I’ve been thinking about this for a couple months now and I wish sometimes she would just disappear. It sounds mean but I have wished it before. I just hope because I don’t want to be her friend my other friends and I can still be friends because my friends are her friends and I’m not the one girl’s friend.

@betteryoubysabrina

3 жыл бұрын

that is a tough situation - and some people may have difficulty being a “good” friend because of past circumstances/beliefs they’ve had. its good you guys can hangout w a mutual understanding that you guys aren’t close, even if it’s awkward. wishing you & everyone involved the best in this situation 💖

Great video. Definitely resonated❤❤❤❤

@betteryoubysabrina

2 жыл бұрын

💛💛 i’m happy it did

You talk about this in such a mature and good hearted way. I'm very impressed by your advice, on something I've been struggling with for so long and sought out advice on many times!

@betteryoubysabrina

Жыл бұрын

I’m so glad it was helpful for you 🫶🏼✨