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@DominionAnako-bb7ry

20 күн бұрын

Motivation

@meetfreedom333

19 күн бұрын

I love what you do, you are great 😇Love to you’re heart and mind✨🙏✨❤️☮️

@Portia620

17 күн бұрын

I suspect betrayal in multi partners because rarely a small portion of pop is healthy!!!

@Portia620

17 күн бұрын

Not wanting to explore at all. The more u learn the more I underarm why people are so heartbroken

@Sammpeep

15 күн бұрын

Por favor podrías poner este video en tu otro canal de español !!! NEIL STRAUSS TAMBIÉN TIENE FANS LATINOS !!! Saludos desde 🇨🇴

The entire point of monogamy is to create a bubble of emotional and physical intimacy. When that is broken, it's game over.

@khanyingosi9229

16 күн бұрын

Really I don't understand what exactly monogamy,

@travelchannel304

14 күн бұрын

Polyamory closed relationships can too. Good point!

@Sarara-mv5sx

14 күн бұрын

Obviously. Cheaters have a character disorder.

@alenaadamkova5322

14 күн бұрын

Now European scientists in Sweden or somewhere found out that Artificial intelligence, is not very intelligent it puts together wrong information about humans, all kinds of inaccurate information about humans and it looks like a strange mixture "mambo jumbo" nonsense or like some strange caricature of information. ....But they found pout AI has very strong "convincing" power. They found out that Artificial intelligence is able to convince people about "it´s own" truth by 82 percent. So be careful what you read on internet and dont take it seriously, if some channel or article say to you some nonsense, it may be also result of AI "convincing" powers and strategies. Especially dont give these informations to little children or to teenagers who dont understand life and who need positive example.

@immers2410

14 күн бұрын

@@Sarara-mv5sxyeah, some people are just much more prone to shitty behaviour. They’re fairly easy to spot. Trump is a great example

when somebody cheats, it is essentially over.

I will not accept infidelity, violence and addiction in my relationship...

@VivienReacts

18 күн бұрын

@@embethnewlandauthor my ex husband has addiction with gambling and he put me and the kids in trouble, so yeah addiction in any form...

@anoncspan4129

16 күн бұрын

​@@VivienReactsI'm not trying to be critical, at all. But I agree with the addiction thing being nebulous. Would you mind, please share your definition of addiction? Is it about the result of the action, like, in your case, damage. I am sorry to hear about your situation. I sympathize. ❤️ Every time I think of addiction, I always go back to Dr. Matés perspective, which changed my own.

@VivienReacts

16 күн бұрын

@@anoncspan4129 i didn't know he has that gambling addiction until someone came to our house and he said that our house belongs to them bcuz he sold our house behind my back, and I confronted it to him also I called his mom and brother so they can deal with him also, and that time he confessed that he sold our house and cars and he has pile of debts bcuz of gambling that he's been doing for long time 🙈🤷

@jenniferbrown3782

16 күн бұрын

IMO addiction is the overriding impulse to participate/do something that is out of alignment with the direction you want for your life (or relationship). If “it” is interfering and you can’t stop, but you don’t want your life to head in that direction, it’s an addiction. If you like what you’re doing, want to keep doing it, and other people have a problem with it, you’re just not in alignment to be in a relationship with them. So end the relationship (instead of hiding the addiction).

@idaliahernandez1083

15 күн бұрын

Create boundaries based on what you just said.

Not every woman doesn’t want sex during menopause and every woman does not experience post partum depression. Feels like an excuse for bored men to cheat during these times in a woman’s life.

@corrinastone4683

18 күн бұрын

I don't think he meant all women, he was speaking about a specific relationship.

@sheenaupmost876

13 күн бұрын

I had post partum depression really bad on my last child..never experienced it before and I have had multiple pregnancies

@Faithgrace295

12 күн бұрын

If she /he is sexual and a good love life may be forever if lack is evident. urges are prevalent and evident in behaviour arousement to energy reciprocation within a loving respectful union 💕 or shy. Single

@jennyj0007

9 күн бұрын

Men need to get more clued up on how women's bodies work. My husband used to work with older married men and he'd listened to their advice. Men may have a job that is extremely stressful and they just want to come home to piece and quiet (within reason if you've got kids). Have grown up conversations instead of screaming at each other.Unfortunately, in the world there's lots of dysfunctional people and trying be in a relationship with these type of people is a recipe for disaster.

When my husband cheated, he always gave himself away. He told me about the person for a start.. one was south American and he started learning Spanish.. saying she'd offered to help and do a language exchange. 😅 They usually tell you about the person but create plausibility for them.

@Prophezora

19 күн бұрын

That's true.

@KimKennedy-fu9re

18 күн бұрын

So true!

@reneclark2556

17 күн бұрын

#TRUTH

@mazzamaz3827

15 күн бұрын

OR in my case, have a great disdain toward them!

@emilyhurst4829

13 күн бұрын

Yep! Sometimes even introduce them to you! Narcassist love to tell on themselves! Believe what they say! That's not their "Home girl "!

Betrayal trauma is huge to get over and heal from. Especially when the one cheating hasn't learned from his mistake..

@SS-fd2pc

19 күн бұрын

"Her" mistakes in my case and yes I am completely devastated but I have healed before and will do it again. I was moving across the pond to change someone's world and my own. Very sad....

@iamthegreatiam2075

19 күн бұрын

“Their” mistakes. Now we sound like alphabet soup crowd.

@davidc2072

18 күн бұрын

Guessing you’re not a millennial. Women cheat more often than men do now. They are enrolling in college at higher rates, getting higher paying jobs, etc so they have more opportunity like men used to. Not to mention the dating apps giving them instant validation and opportunity.

@staciacrick3373

18 күн бұрын

Probably because that person is selfish and truly doesn’t care how the behavior effects their partner

@mrnice7570

15 күн бұрын

*her choice

You lost me at polyamory as being functional and healthy for raising children. About four minutes in yeah, no.

@margaretgollnick5262

19 күн бұрын

💯💯💯💯

@rkeppel4243

19 күн бұрын

Where did you find this guy, Lewis? His life sounds like he swings from one extreme to another. This conversation is difficult to focus on and follow. His voice is also very irritating.He is considered an expert?

@sweet2sourr

19 күн бұрын

To me it sounds better than many other factors that disrupt childhood development. Like not having parents, when your parents are addicts, or having a parent with untreated mental illness.

@laurencerosenthalwinckler4439

19 күн бұрын

Thanks for your expert opinion. I wonder how many polyamorous families you have interviewed to conclude your thesis that "it isnt fuctional and healthy for raising children".

@user-jv5do6wc8c

19 күн бұрын

You miss the point

Respected and Pick-Up Artist are contradictory terms.

@ipesina

11 күн бұрын

he seems really awkward and giggly for a successful pick up artist. if he was around me i would just think he seemed like a weirdo.

I let men know up front that if they cheat, I cannot stay. I’m gone. I have not cheated as exposed to temptation as I’ve been. I don’t understand cheating and so I do not accept it!

@sherriflemming3218

19 күн бұрын

Infidelity is a dealbreaker. Safe People by Henry Cloud The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft Never Forgive Infidelity - Sam Vaknin podcast Cheating Triangulation In Sick Relationships ---Sam Vaknin Interrogate Your Partners Their Past Is Your Future - Sam Vaknin podcast The Genetics Of Cheaters --Maken Murphy podcast

@BUBBLESPOGO

19 күн бұрын

So he knows what to do if he wants to get rid of you.😅😅😅

@ExecutiveZombie

19 күн бұрын

@@BUBBLESPOGO Or he can save all the drama and admit, confront it’s time to go?! Drama Free. 🆓

@abram2535

18 күн бұрын

I think womans who cheat cannot stand to husbands who cheat on them.

@staciacrick3373

18 күн бұрын

@@BUBBLESPOGOThat behavior is exhibited by an emotionally weak and immature man

Consent isn't an issued when the partner isn't aware of what is REALLY going on. It's humiliating

I still don’t think you answered the question about how do you recognize a person that is going to cheat?

@Ornatish

12 күн бұрын

Agreed. They never said the thing.

@msolomon7389

12 күн бұрын

At 42:40 they do get into the answer, briefly.

@chocolatemonster949

4 күн бұрын

He said several times - enmeshment with a parent.

@robbo3132

21 сағат бұрын

​@@chocolatemonster949would enmeshment with a sibling be the same?

Women usually tolerate it for financial reasons and children. It is so immature for men to think that their need for sex is more important than their wife and their knew born. It's very immature and selfish.

@samco63

18 күн бұрын

Bingo! What happened to personal responsibility and accountability? People are so selfish and all about their own needs and me me me these days. Crazy.

@user-ex3mx7hk4l

15 күн бұрын

WHAT ABOUT ME WHAT ABOUT ME WHAT ABOUT ME The mantra of the cheater!

@Faithgrace295

12 күн бұрын

Give to charity what about me feels great. And keys to peace

@MX-CO

7 күн бұрын

And it's also immature of a wife to get into a relationship with a man that she doesn't want go have sex with. (Sex is the glue) to the relationship

@susannafox-impostorsyndrom8781

4 күн бұрын

financial security will always give you the power to make the right choice for you, that's why they take financial freedom away from you...men and women.

Makes me want to stay single.

@queenie8677

19 күн бұрын

Hahhahaa me too 😂😂

@irinadumitru9088

19 күн бұрын

​@@eagleeyeeagleeye3143omg I can't believe what you said 😅...hoping you re just joking😅

@eagleeyeeagleeye3143

19 күн бұрын

@@irinadumitru9088 not joking :))) 🤟🏻

@eagleeyeeagleeye3143

19 күн бұрын

@@irinadumitru9088 why is that insuling for you? Wake up we're almost 2025 🤣

@anthonykarnes6804

19 күн бұрын

Like you have a choice

Gosh, Lewis is such a mature man. His empathy and love for his girlfriend/fiancé is palpable.

This guy's not honestly talking about relationships. He will turn with the wind it seems from hearing about his life and choices back and forth. Not worth really listening to him

@TJ-cn9wq

18 күн бұрын

we called them "slimey"

@esmeramsay8179

16 күн бұрын

Flakey narcissist with tons of word salad coming out of his mouth , honestly one of the most basic and immature conversations I’ve ever heard between 2 older men like them - embarrassing

@leniyemsvictorero2360

14 күн бұрын

he gives a weird vibe

@kimmyfenn6313

9 күн бұрын

Omg you guys are my spirit animals, he wreaks of slimmy pratt …….

Cheat on me and we are done in the spot. The trust is gone and I will never trust you again. Cheating for me is a guaranteed ending to my relationship with me. More power to women who can forgive.. not a chance in hell for me.

How is having no self-control and boundries, hurting a partners feelings healthy for raising kids? Because that is what polyamory is. Not being adult enough to make a decision, comit to one person and decide each day to love that person, no matter how much temptations there are elsewhere.

@northofyou33

19 күн бұрын

No it isn't. It's an admission that anyone can care for more than one person. That's just a fact. Polyamory is an attempt to allow the heart to do what it naturally does.

@dits2007

18 күн бұрын

@@northofyou33 you are not talking about the heart, but about the egoistic s*x drive. It is our self-control that distinguishes us from animals.

@soul-etude

18 күн бұрын

I agree polyamourous relationship is a response to not being able to establish deep connections. You just can't have that one significant connection with morecthan one. The fact he "has seen" happy families like that give me a hint he has not seen far enough and close enough. Polyamourous relationships are a chaotic life on all levels - emotional and physical and create only harmful, desease-prone future.

@Holistretch

17 күн бұрын

Um, no. It’s not.

@davidjonburke2729

14 күн бұрын

You don't have a clue how much work people have to do in polyamorous relationships. 😂

Wanting to be a better person, consciously and working at it, is my pre-requisite for any friendship, and most definitely an intimate relationship! No one is perfect, and we all have triggers, so starting a relationship with an agreement that makes both parties feel safe is brilliant!

I disagree. You can change yourself but it doesn’t mean they ever will and because you have changed, you’re perspective will change and the relationship won’t work. I’m all for growth but if there’s only one person willing to do the work then it will never work out because we’re always evolving and all have different seasons of ourselves.

@sherriflemming3218

19 күн бұрын

Personality and character is fixed. People don't often change. Never doubt patterns AKA The Track Record.

@user-xv3zr4lm1j

19 күн бұрын

@@sherriflemming3218 totally agree! Two things you can’t change

@EllieE-kz3zr

17 күн бұрын

I see it more like if you change yourself it's about healing the wounds that made you attract that kind of non-monogamous partner in the first place.

@user-xv3zr4lm1j

17 күн бұрын

@@EllieE-kz3zr wow. So true. And you’re so right.

"Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents" by Lindsay Gibson is the book Lewis mentions and everyone should absolutely read it. It changed my life and made so much sense for some of what Ive struggled with.

The thing about children raised in polyamorous relationships being healthier is pure nonsense. For starters, the motivation of bashing the nuclear family has always been a theme in academia at least since the Communist Manifesto. In terms of science, polyamorous relationships are scarcer in comparison to monogamous ones. Therefore, you will find all kinds of people in monogamous relationships. The chance to get a more representative sample among the polyamorous ones will be way harder.

@Bloodsport1337

12 күн бұрын

The stats show that the nuclear family worlds for less than half of the country. Facts don’t care about your feelings

Thank you Neil. Great wake up call to stay away from TOXIC PEOPLE. ❤

@irinadumitru9088

19 күн бұрын

Exactly! He mentioned narcissistic individuals!

@lewishowes

19 күн бұрын

👍

How can you find a person who is open to start the relationship with therapy? There's none. I think you're one in a million Lewis! I agree with you!

@lewishowes

19 күн бұрын

I was blessed to find her 🙏

@hope4463

19 күн бұрын

It works only in the beginning. Before everything starts.

@toilaCarissa

18 күн бұрын

There are people. I would be upfront in the early dating phase & watch for their sincere commitment to it (through enough time), etc. Be honest with yourself, and be willing to leave if this is a deal breaker. Take care.

@rmac3217

17 күн бұрын

Probably the type of ppl who think consent forms are a thing both parties sign before having sex, aka progressive incels and cat ladies.

@rmac3217

17 күн бұрын

Probably the type of ppl who think consent forms are a thing both parties should sign with a legal witness, aka progressive incels and cat ladies.

Thank you so much for this episode. I know this is a super hard conversation to have. When I read the truth by Neil, it changed my life forever. It’s arguably the most important book I’ve ever read in my life because I grew up in a very similar way to him, while obviously different so much of his story and mine related. And when that book 1st came out, I was kind of spiraling and trying to figure out why my life and relationships are such a disaster and then I realize the same thing that he did, and it solidified my need to go on this healing journey. So thank you so much for this episode. It means the world to me just as someone who loves both you guys.🔥

@lewishowes

19 күн бұрын

So glad it resonated

@esmeramsay8179

16 күн бұрын

Jesus , the most important book you have ever read? That’s so so sad considering the masterpieces that have long existed in this world. Unbelievable

@MichaelUnbroken

16 күн бұрын

@@esmeramsay8179 have you read it? I said for me... Not the world. I've read over 400 books and written three. I stand by what I said

In the process of selling and packing my things in order to be with someone in the UK only for her to totally lie, deceive, and cheat. So broken hearted that people are like this.

@SS-fd2pc

19 күн бұрын

@@d.6861 Agreed.....dodged the biggest bullet of my life to date for sure. I help others everyday so I got that part covered. The heart is powerful and heals up if we stay in a good vibe. Thx for the reply!

He has dabbled in a different type of lifestyle I would not, but I can still appreciate his perspective. I like what he said, if you aren't healthy in one type of relationship you won't be healthy in another. Which says to me it's the integrity of the person....being open and honest, real with self and their partner. And, I can see poly relationships raising healthy children. It takes a village. Traditional homes fail every day. Another great thought provoking conversation.

I love how you made the whole thing exposing through Psychology studies! I already said that the most prevalent personality structure at this point is the narcissistic one!...wow Lewis I wish more ppl would consider doing inner healing work! Much love and light to you....Healing oneself is a very long process taking a long amount of time!

Lewis, the pain of deception is partly described as "not knowing." That's the definition of deception. If someone wants to deceive you, they will and you won't know it until the deception is revealed.

I really appreciated this interview and this perspective.It would be easier if we were all honest with each other in relationships as to what works and what our needs and values are instead of wearing masks.I can't do polyamorous relationships or open relationships and I'm always upfront about it, also loyalty is one one of my highest values because it is about respect.I rather someone walk away then hide behind my back.Own it as things happen and people fall out of love, just don't be the "have my cake and eat it too" kind of person.That is called being a hypocrite.Thanks again, very enlightening 🙏🧡

@lewishowes

18 күн бұрын

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

Mr. Howes this guy has an opinion but I don't believe healthy believers in Christ Cheat I don't believe everyone cheats. Communication is so important and Christ at the Center is so important. I truly know people that don't cheat and they life shows that. It's work .

@user-jv5do6wc8c

19 күн бұрын

hahaha you sound naive sorry

@demigoddess3311

15 күн бұрын

Lame

@esthermaloney1108

15 күн бұрын

@@demigoddess3311 it's ok just keep praying

@demigoddess3311

15 күн бұрын

I never beg and I stopped praying I have everything I need and ever wanted without a saviour or any man

@emilyhurst4829

13 күн бұрын

Amen!

So...how will I know if they'll cheat on me? The conversation got off topic & never addressed that... After being cheated on & it beinh hiddem for years, THAT'S why I'm watching this video. I'm now single & looking for my person (who I tbought i had found) & having a hard time with trust...

Trust your gut

I really appreciated the honesty of the both of you. It is beautiful to watch. Thanks gentlemen for the content!

Hi Lewis! Thanks for sharing 🙏🙌

@lewishowes

19 күн бұрын

Thank you so much for watching!

Sounds like classic narcissistic behavior to me!

'Ex-wife & best friend...' Someone hasn't figured out what kinds of lines need to be drawn in order to give a monogamous relationship any chance.

Awesome information

What a great conversation. Thank you for sharing this

@lewishowes

18 күн бұрын

You're welcome,thank you for tuning in 🧡

Yes Lewis, I enjoyed this! Very insightful!

@lewishowes

16 күн бұрын

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

As a Kavkaz & Kazakh lady myself 😂 I'm not really surprised about the Kazakh story because I even heard about dating agencies in Eastern Europe that are specified in training the ladies there to get in a relationship with men abroad. But to the main topic of cheatin, I'm very honest that I NEVER couldn't reunite with such kind of man again because I was & am still often unfortunately a crush to married men around me but I'm giving zero effs about them & in my hotel job, I even saw such kinds of men with their affairs in their arms & still acted like "The Very Hungry Caterpillar" by checking out & flirting with another ladies including me. That's why I really appreciate my quiet single life because since all happenings, I have seriously trust conflicts❣️

Yes. I appreciated the comment about going to counseling in the beginning of the relationship. Genius!

Love what you said about feeling like “the big me can take care of the little me”. I think that is the ultimate goal. Working on that as well. Great interview.

Thank you 🙏 Relationship can be very difficult

I have found that being in a relationship where one person is ok with accepting lots of help and attention, but when the other partner needs help, there is radio silence. Be very careful with getting involved with narcissists, a tough feat since some experts say 1 in 6 are narcissistic. A relationship with a narc is always one sided after in initial honeymoon phase. Being alone is 1000 times better.

Amazing to hear, see and experience men being so vulnerable, authentic and open to help us exponentially in our healing journeys. You chaps deserve medals/trophies for sharing and enlightening us. Thank you from the heart

@adavlora3801

18 күн бұрын

I'm not buying it.. .

@esmeramsay8179

16 күн бұрын

😂😂you can’t read people at all , this is all so shallow and silly it made me laugh at their weird basic interactions and poor questions, really sad and odd to see men at this age talking like this my goodness!

Excellent conversation.

@lewishowes

13 күн бұрын

Thanks for watching! I'm glad you liked it!

Thank you. This is what every sweetheart should know. It’s the missing “sex education” lecture. Often learned too late in life. Thanks again.

@irinadumitru9088

19 күн бұрын

Lewis s point was not to do a ,sex education , but exposing cheaters!

I loved this conversation and the enthusiasm to connect you both have! “The truths don’t work if you don’t find them yourself.”

@esmeramsay8179

16 күн бұрын

Word salad

Thank you for this information to be revealed! 😊

Super interesting episode! Thank you 🙏 🎉

@lewishowes

18 күн бұрын

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

It's too bad that the dissenting voices are the loudest in this comment section. This interview was insightful and had a lot of gems. Neil has lived a life of curiosity, exploration, and adventure into some things I wouldn't dare step into. He's gained wisdom and shares it through his talents. It's okay to take what you want to and leave the rest. I enjoy his books...even The Game, which was infuriating and informational. Lewis was amazing as always. I enjoyed this session. Thank you!

@laurareinaga6736

12 күн бұрын

I 100% percent agree some people in the comments missed out on wonderful enlightment in this conversation because they can not get past their own judgment .

Would love to hear more of the signs of a cheater x

Thank you so much to you both, especially for sharing the personal relationship with this topic with transparency 🙏 very powerful, chills. Such an important conversation/topic for all of us to consider in our own relationship and lives.

@megancrittenden4508

3 күн бұрын

Yes

You need to invite Teal Swan on your show. She’s the expert on the root causes of this topic as well as relationships.

@MissBrennan

19 күн бұрын

I completely agree!! She is amazing!!

@missteikio

19 күн бұрын

There was a recent documentary called The Deep End on Teal Swan as being accused of being a cult leader

@AndreeaT-fj6dd

19 күн бұрын

Would love to see her

@Prophezora

19 күн бұрын

Look up batel skater...

@EmyAmi

19 күн бұрын

Teals the truest deal ❤

That was fascinating! Thank you Lewis you often bring the best food for thought.😊💋💚 Lewis can you please put here the link to the previous interview you did with him? I tried to find but I could not. Thank you.

@lewishowes

18 күн бұрын

Thank you so much for your feedback 🙂

You all have made me realise that therapy - especially as a family - is necessary.👍🙏

Very interesting and is so true!

😮thank you so very much for sharing this because it's a trigger for me I realize just now and I realize now I have a trauma I have to deal with ty so much for bringing it to my reality. It really helps.

I love your insights on encashment. Thank you!

@lewishowes

12 күн бұрын

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

Thank you Lewis for bringing my legend (Neil) on your show, this conversation is so advantages in my life at this present moment in time, and I have to confess that I have listened to this podcast via Google podcast and now on KZread and I have just completed the To Die For and cant wait for the 4 June, Love sent always from South Africa.

@lewishowes

16 күн бұрын

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

Lewis, I loved this pod episode. It's too bad to see a majority of your commentors being so negative on this thought provoking guest. I thought there were some exceedingly helpful life tips in it. Thank you!

@lewishowes

16 күн бұрын

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

I learned a lot from this interview! ❤

@lewishowes

14 күн бұрын

🧡

I still didn't get the sign

@Bluebirdhouse

14 күн бұрын

He never did address this, he kept bouncing off subject down another rabbit hole. Ironically it’s the name of this video, yet he never gives the signs.

Constant discussion sounds as a good recipe. I think it's like a successful business that always gets customer feedback in order to maintain changing customer satisfaction. Feedback is communication and it has to be non-stop and open and honest.

Thank you gentlemen for this most interesting presentation !!! Good communication is a VERY and ESSENTIAL key in any relationship...

@lewishowes

10 күн бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it!

Yes, thank you both.

Yes great content

@lewishowes

19 күн бұрын

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

Great show

@lewishowes

18 күн бұрын

Thanks for being here! 🧡

Awesome eye opening podcast. Was with someone for 5 years that kept me completely away from his mom until the final year, which revealed they were completely enmeshed and she had full control of him. So either he would avoid her altogether, which didn't seem healthy to me, so I kept pushing for peace, which led to losing him completely and him getting under her spell and changing personality entirely. He was never fully present in the relationship, both of them were functional alcoholics and habitual liers, and it's so satisfying to learn why it was the case. Thank you. 😌 Learning lessons the hard way!

This choice of guests is a surprise for me. I am a big fan of you Lewis, and I always see the good in all your interviews for the past 3 years. This guest is not a good representation of the type of relationship most people strive to have. His values are not good, and I liken this to a criminal teaching people his tricks to help avoid interaction with this kind of a person. No real value to me as a spiritual person looking for growth and guidance in this new world. I could not listen to this for too long, because my time is valuable and can’t waste it. Maybe he was a sex addict before the term was coined.

@annahayes1007

17 күн бұрын

Agree. I'm an intelligent, educated, well-travelled woman, who interacts conversationally with many people from many different cultures. i am an American who moved to France at age 60. I found it difficult to comprehend much of his responses to the questions Lewis asked. Surprised that Lewis scraped the bottom of the barrel with this guest.

@esmeramsay8179

16 күн бұрын

🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯

@MarinaNic8

14 күн бұрын

Same

I don’t resonate with this at all but I respect it.

Renowned but defo not respected, at least by me.

@Bloodsport1337

12 күн бұрын

Who asked?

Only one of Lewis's interviews I couldn't finish. Healthy polyamorous relationships???

@shantihstar

17 күн бұрын

It gets good he only mentions it at the start to make a point. They don’t go on about it. They get into why it's unhealthy to lie and traumas that cause certain behaviours.

@shivanthikulasingham6131

13 күн бұрын

Healthy ANDD Polyamorous do not belong in the same sentence. Same here, I started watching and a few minutes in, I was done.

As a general rule, therapy is helpful. That said, it’s not a good idea to go to therapy with a partner who has significant controlling or narcissistic tendencies. You refrain from telling the truth (bc that type of person is easily hurt, and you’ll “pay” for it later - after your therapy session), and that kind of partner tends to easily point out what’s “wrong” with you, that makes them a “victim”. And that type of person can be charming, and very convincing - bc they genuinely only see things from their own perspective. The therapist inadvertently ends up helping the partner with controlling/narcissistic tendencies.

Please put time stamps no one’s gonna watch an hour and half of this to find one part they want to see

@davinarasmussen

10 күн бұрын

There are chapters, not sure if they were added post publishing?

Cheating expert? Wow! What the world has come to.

@mississippiatheistette8769

19 күн бұрын

i asked the same question about him being the most respected and renown pick up artist in the world

@rmac3217

17 күн бұрын

The most renowned pick up artist is like the most beautiful insta model, not hot to normal ppl.

@esmeramsay8179

16 күн бұрын

Can’t imagine he ever ‘picked up’ any woman with that voice and awkward demeanor, delusional little story teller I think

@shannongilmourpeersupport

13 күн бұрын

He is all over the place… parroting therapy lingo giving off a sense of incencerity- creepy vibes

Anyone got a short hand version? Tldr? This vid is waaaay too long 😮‍💨

@dits2007

19 күн бұрын

Stay single.

@AxelleAigner

19 күн бұрын

Watch this on double speed. I always do.❤😊

@rmac3217

17 күн бұрын

​Single is better than a bad relationship. This is from someone who is married with a kid, but I did get lucky as we didn't plan it and U obviously have to just guess if a woman is going to be a good mother and look after the house if U are working, or that a husband is going to still dedicate time to his family after work.

Thanks

Can someone explain to me how another person can want to have one night stands when they truly believe they’re in a relationship with someone they love? 13:58 I can understand how some people can have sex without emotional connection, and I can understand how people can have sex with an emotional connection, but I can’t understand how one can have an emotional connection/love and then have sex with a different person with no emotional attachment.

@KellyJoseline-jg2wi

16 күн бұрын

Make sure you watch him closely by getting a clone copy of his messenger apps, to know what his been up to and activities going on backdoor

Great discussion! So many questions remain: What is a healthy relationship? Do most women ever do the work on themselves when they cheat or do they often just blame their partners?

test for true love....are they willing to spend time with you, in a non transactional manner.

Commitment is to transparency - I can make my own decision based on that. Which isn't happening in a broken relationship

How do you know if someone is using you? How do they respond when you say no to what they want. Theres your answer.

Hi dudes, where are the signs of them possibly cheating??

This conversation of enmeshment could be highlighted more, it is surprising and more common then one thinks. Kenneth Adam’s has good research on this.

I only agree with monogamy in relationships but the rest of the podcast was great. I almost stopped listening to it after 5-10 minutes but glad I listened to the whole thing. GREAT INFORMATION!! Thank you!

@lewishowes

18 күн бұрын

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

Once someone cheats you now have an open relationship because of the one cheating. And I’d be out immediately.

This is interesting

I thought this was Stanley tucci.

@verykimberly

19 күн бұрын

Lololol

@skysullivan4072

4 күн бұрын

Would have enjoyed Stanley a lot more than this guy.

The problem is days are usually busy. That's why doing it before bed when everything's quiet n your done w the day seems like a good time, but I do understand your point about being tired.

30:30-31:20 1:07:39-1:12:50 These go hand in hand.

Healthy polyamourous relationships are exceptions rather than rule. You also have to define healthy.

It was only a study he mentioned; not necessarily that he supports it. This interview has valuable advice on relationships that you miss out on by being too judgemental in the beginning.

I've learned about enmeshment with family after your grown and your parents and the entire family have expectations from you that aren't healthy ( example once you get married you have your own family but the parents or extended family expect you to show up at Christmas when you may want to do something else with your spouse) instead of finding solutions that work for everyone

@Jess-kn8vl

10 күн бұрын

That's a tough one. In my case, if for whatever reason we couldn't go even if we wanted to, we had to prepare for retaliation.

I enjoyed this. I would so much rather listen to man talk honestly about uncomfortable subjects and choose to agree to disagree and keep moving in alignment with my own traditional values than listen to a deceptive man lying to lure you in to fulfill his own needs. Honesty and authenticity always gives you the option to walk away.

@lewishowes

16 күн бұрын

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

One thing I don't don't know whether Neil recognizes as having been a factor in his own cheating was the fact that he had the ability to do it. A lot of people (both men and women) who have seduced partners in the past will sometimes wonder if they've "still got it". This creates a huge temptation to try to seduce someone new. It's a powerful form of self-validation.

no

Appreciate your story Strauss. ☂️☀️🧟‍♀️

@lewishowes

19 күн бұрын

👍

“Why wait 2 years and have all these chemicals connecting”. ⚛️ -Lewis Howes breaking it down to crystal truth

@lewishowes

19 күн бұрын

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.