How to Help an ADDICTED LOVED ONE (2020)
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Timing is everything when it comes to how to help an addicted loved one. If you ask for change at the wrong time, it can backfire. In this video, I'll tell you exactly when you should try and intervene with someone who has an addiction and when you should not intervene. If you ask them to change at just the right moment (and you have a good solution), your loved one's chances of making progress will skyrocket!
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About Me:
Personal Experience:
I grew up in an addicted family. In fact, it would be way easier for me to tell you who wasn't addicted versus who was addicted. Seriously, I have absolutely no memories of my grandmother without a glass of vodka in her hand. My mother died due to her addiction to methamphetamines. I've had countless addicted step-parents, and my older sister has struggled with serious (life-destroying) addiction for as long as I can remember.
All that being said, I always felt I had a great and loving family. My sister and I spent every summer swimming in my grandmother's pool. (the grandmother who struggled with alcoholism). We called her Mimi, and she was great. My mom was attractive and very creative, not to mention lots of fun!
Growing up like this gives me a unique perspective on addiction. I can know that someone is struggling with addiction but still see their wonderful qualities.
Professional qualifications:
After graduating from counselor school in 2004, I worked in a private psychiatric hospital for 10 years. This facility provided acute care (short term) for serious mental health and Substance Use Disorders. I learned a LOT from my experience working in a psychiatric hospital.
I got to see and treat almost every type of mental health and addiction issue you can think of, but it felt like a revolving door. I'd see the same people come in over and over and their families were absolutely desperate for help.
Unfortunately, the system isn't set up to help families in general. Knowing what it's like to live with addiction, I was all the more frustrated.
All this led to me deciding to leave the hospital and start my own addiction treatment center, specializing in addicted family systems.
Over the years, I had developed lots of good relationships with other clinicians, and I knew who was the best! I put together a superstar team, and we now run out own outpatient addiction treatment practice called Hope For Families Recovery Center.
We've worked very hard not to tie ourselves to the "big system." We don't work for the insurance companies. We don't work for a hospital system, We don't answer to anyone except our clients, their families, and the licensing boards that provide us with our professional license. We have all Licensed Professional Counselors (LPC)-(which is mental health counselors) and also Licensed Addiction Counselors (LAC).
We don't provide inpatient treatment, but we do partner with a phenomenal sober living facility called Greenville Transitions. They offer top-notch sober living care for young men in the early stages of recovery. www.greenvilletransitions.com
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Hi Amber! Thank you so much for your videos! They are a HUGE help to me and to help me keep my sanity. I appreciate this particular video because I can see where I've been doing this right with my loved one, and not right.🤦♀️.....that frustration and anger with my boyfriend's addiction really pushes some buttons on me! I'm working in it! Keep these videos coming girl! You're saving my sanity!
@PutTheShovelDown
4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for your positive feedback Kim. Knowing my videos are helping people is exactly what keeps me making them.
@lydiamilanovic439
4 жыл бұрын
@@PutTheShovelDown Your videos are what's keeping me sane. I thank God for you, God bless
My son got kicked out of his program for low grades recently and all he said was university is not for me. I never liked it or fit in. And then he said don't expect me to be a somebody. This is his response to to pretty much everything, it's a form of emotional torture.
@PutTheShovelDown
4 жыл бұрын
You're probably right about it being emotional torture. He's probably saying it because he knows it gets to you. Don't let it get you rattled.
@merncat75
3 жыл бұрын
Or it could be that he is verbalizing his own emotional torture coming to the surface, could be that he's feeling pressure and overwhelmed and lost and already feels like he's going to be a disappointment to you so in his mind, he might be thinking.. 'why bother trying if I'm just going to fail anyway?' 🤦♀️ Try not to put too much pressure on him. I completely see both sides because if he is struggling in some way, whether it's struggling with self-esteem, school, general anxiety or.. it could be a number of things combined. Just tell him whatever makes him content in life, as long as it's something that will sustain his health and well-being, then you will be happy for him and support his decision. Sorry, even if drug addiction is in the picture, many times mental disorders and illnesses go hand in hand with addiction and sometimes the illness is controlling the addiction, if that makes sense. 😞
oh I want to go to 90-day rehab... oh that's not happening people haha Great video as always xx
@PutTheShovelDown
4 жыл бұрын
Definitely NOT Happening!
@LisaNEdwards
4 жыл бұрын
Put The Shovel Down haha I know I tried so hard to get him there
What if all they do is complain about how others are causing them problems? I don’t heard a smidgen of being responsible for any of her own problems.
@paigevon3936
4 жыл бұрын
This is very common. Right now their brains are wired to deflect ownership of those problems onto someone or something else. Once they take ownership of their problems, they’re expected to deal with said problems. If they say “I’m about to get fired because I’m late everyday” then they know that they’re expected to correct that problem, which in most cases means addressing the big issue: the addiction. They would have to not drink the night before work, and show up to work on time in order to keep their job. But if they say “I can’t believe they fired me for being late again, it’s not my fault I got a flat tire on the way to work!” (making it seem like their boss was unjust and it was a one time situation - even though it wasn’t) then it takes that blame off themselves, and manipulates other people to feel bad for them, and when someone feels bad for them or their situation (even though they know it’s from their own doing) it validates their addiction even further. It’s a rollercoaster.
@AYe-ly2yo
4 жыл бұрын
Oh trust me I know how you feel. They feel nothing is their fault in literally ANY scenarios. My ex even think it is my fault that I gave him money because he "never asked for it", which was simply not true. It is part of it and all you can do is keep yourself out of those meaningless debates.
Amber, is the Family Recovery Academy always accessible after you purchase it? Or is there a limited time frame on having access to it?
@PutTheShovelDown
4 жыл бұрын
D James hi D, there is no time frame Family Recovery Academy. It will be there for the foreseeable future.
@PutTheShovelDown
4 жыл бұрын
D James you get screws for as long as you need it
What, exactly, is the deal with this often heard phrase......"I can't go to rehab unless I use one last time, it has to be in my system". Or, "I'm not going to detox sick!". What's up with that?
It sounds like any change is next to impossible.
@PutTheShovelDown
4 жыл бұрын
Hi Eric, I don't want to leave people feeling hopeless. You can definitely make an impact. Especially if you know when and how to ask for change.
@merncat75
3 жыл бұрын
It could literally take months or years 🤦♀️ The process of addiction is not for anyone with lack of patience, that's for sure.. and the irony is most addicts have no patience.. they want quick results and faster rewards.
Hi Amber, I would love to join to learn techniques with how to deal with my husband and his addictions. I am based in the UK. Is this something that I can do and still benefit from?
@PutTheShovelDown
4 жыл бұрын
Hi Jin B. Absolutely, you can still be part of the Family Recovery Academy. It's an online program so you can get access to it anytime you need. Addiction is pretty much the same no matter where you are. We've had people from all over the world using our system and getting good results. Here is the link, in case you'd like to learn more about it. www.invisibleintervention.com/invisible-intervention-online-course-sign-up-split-test/
@jinb2209
4 жыл бұрын
Put The Shovel Down thank you so much. That’s really reassuring and I looking forward to joining
@AYe-ly2yo
4 жыл бұрын
@@jinb2209 I am part of the program. It is great!
@jinb2209
4 жыл бұрын
A. Ye thank you for letting me know
first comment!
@PutTheShovelDown
4 жыл бұрын
You're on it!!!!
My son is in bad shape. I am afraid he is going to die. Should I initiate the Marchman Act?
@sharonbarnes9080
5 ай бұрын
What is the Marchman act?