How To Get Rid of EGO and Promote Humility - Jocko Willink
Join the conversation on Twitter/Instagram: @jockowillink @echocharles Excerpt from JOCKOPODCAST 215
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@joe-mama944 жыл бұрын
I don't know if you'll read this Jocko but you are helping me change my life.
3 жыл бұрын
he dont give a shit lmao
@julieevans3110
3 жыл бұрын
Maybe not individually.... while he’s mocking Dong Jong.
@diochan6038
3 жыл бұрын
@ bruh
@Lukas-cg3ms
2 жыл бұрын
@ of course he cares. Jocko does these podcasts to help people, duh
@unkon129
2 жыл бұрын
@@Lukas-cg3ms he definitely doesn't read any comments but he does care about changing people's life, just like he did with mine too!
@qdllc4 жыл бұрын
Ego...a product of fear plus insecurity.
@Kyman23
3 жыл бұрын
Good way to describe it. Really makes you ponder on that
@sunn1846
3 жыл бұрын
Not tryna be a smartass, but technically that would be a sum, not a product.
@qdllc
3 жыл бұрын
@@sunn1846 - Math for the win.
@mdb60
3 жыл бұрын
“The first half of life is devoted to forming a healthy ego, the second half is going inward and letting go of it.” -Carl Jung- In knowing this one can then say that ego is a part of psyche that is positive until it is not. Is it fear driven? Is it insecurity based? Perhaps, perhaps not. The neurosis that a human being has as it pertains to both psyche and its ego is a varying entity, everyone is different, situations dictate this. The one constant that Jung preached was self honesty when gazing in the mirror. The inability to do so was in his mind what drives ego out of control. And let’s be honest, truth hurts, and few embrace pain. Therein lies a huge quagmire for the individual and their quest for self control. My proof? Look around you,. Excess and Access is a death knell.
@maxos-4135
3 жыл бұрын
Thats the bad ego, the good ego is to try get better on what you do😉
@charlestour46814 жыл бұрын
Bravo. Humble pie is always hard to swallow with your pride. My life got a lot easier when I realized it was not my job to be right but simply honest. Let others be right. Let others argue about what’s right. My job is to focus more on being honest. If I’m honest then everything falls into place much easier.
@jasonishwara7680
4 жыл бұрын
amazing comment. I will repost this comment on my instagra. Thanks dude 👊
@mikejohnson6135
4 жыл бұрын
Incredibly worded
@blainemont1014
3 жыл бұрын
Amen brother.
@donkeylzc
3 жыл бұрын
I dono for me I felt I was always (not tootin' my own horn here) way too honest. Especially on the wrong time. Very blunt. I felt dishonesty is sometimes useful to meet my objective. What do you think?
@popopr5113
3 жыл бұрын
@@donkeylzc sometimes its not what you say (your honesty), rather HOW you say it (ij this case being blunt). Try other softer approaches or indirect approaches while still being honest. Jujitsu
@rivalsports62764 жыл бұрын
As a high schooler, constantly surrounded by entitled and rich kids, with giant (unearned) egos, I wish that we had the Jocko Podcast as a class.
@pawsonarove
4 жыл бұрын
Save your breath, focus on you first.
@thatsawesomelol
4 жыл бұрын
be the example for those around you. be how you see jocko, for those around you.
@beastwolf7
4 жыл бұрын
Amen brother
@exf3
4 жыл бұрын
Just wait 4 years and you’ll see them fail. It ain’t worth it.
@Edgar-Friendly
4 жыл бұрын
Rival Sports for non-academics, I use Jocko and Jordan Peterson with students. Even some rich entitled students know that there is something more and hunger for it.
@andagain98264 жыл бұрын
I pride myself on my humility.
@ebrahimmusleh
3 жыл бұрын
Wow wow wow, Very humble
@yourkingdomcomeyourwillbedone
2 жыл бұрын
But I am the most humble of them all.
@beerinoculum4 жыл бұрын
THIS - is what people need to see
@henkverhaeren3759
4 жыл бұрын
Right, that is why I am watching
@DT-sb9sv
4 жыл бұрын
Indeed.
@damienholland8103
4 жыл бұрын
In most places I've worked most people are humble it's that 10 percent of employees / managers that aren't and they cause all kinds of problems whether that's not doing what they are told would be a good idea, being lazy, being overconfident and making bad decisions, not being polite, or whatever. As a regular employee not involved in management there isn't much I can do besides confer with managers who are also humble and understanding and let them deal with it.
@notloki33773 жыл бұрын
Ego is the result of fear. Fear is what happens when you have a worldview that does not completely serve you and you are also unwilling to learn.
@jme22664 жыл бұрын
His "ego" voice has me cracking up
@weareallinthis3668
2 жыл бұрын
LOL
@finalform49714 жыл бұрын
one of the true leader of our world. leader is not position nor title, it is personality, it is mind, it is action, it is integrity.
@Commissioner.
4 жыл бұрын
Name one
@dimebagdarrell4949
4 жыл бұрын
jocko
@Sulamanjansulttaani
4 жыл бұрын
Tergridy weed.
@davidahern77054 жыл бұрын
Absolutely love Echo’s demeanor and the chem between these two somewhat gentle giants. Great examples for us all.
@micksmith72074 жыл бұрын
Take ownership, poke around lightly, allow room for self analysis, do jujitsu and eat some steak.
@atomsk3250
3 ай бұрын
Underrated comment
@alexrandall85572 жыл бұрын
Just if anyone's wondering, what Jocko is describing with "pulling the string" is called the Socratic Method. You ask a directed line of questioning that evidently leads to the conclusion you want. It's incredibly effective at changing minds, because people feel like they came to the conclusion themselves, rather than having it forced onto them
@Lilitulitu4 жыл бұрын
omg the ego conversation is so relatable to me. I work in a room full of super stars, but I am the only programmer. So often I can help them do their job more efficiently but they won’t ask me for help, and if I try offer my help they say no. It’s really frustrating. The last shift I worked I tried to be a but more assertive and just create the fix for one of my coworkers to try show him it would help, and instead he just did it manually anyway 😭
@cardenas2620024 жыл бұрын
Ego will drive you into a pit of unsatisfied eternal thirst, eternal hunger, greed, fear, and an endless world of unanswered questions.
@Fizz-Pop4 жыл бұрын
Diplomacy. Sounds easy, but it isn't. Many of us have never learned it, never needed to. Jocko makes it sound easy, because he learned it the hard way. I aint saying don't try, I'm just saying learn slowly. You aint gonna be Jocko the next time you talk to your boss, but you can apply this stuff over time. Knowledge is more than listening. It is doing. Be careful, not quick.
@H0kram
4 жыл бұрын
Best advice out there. Everything in these podcats takes practice and failures. So everyone can eventually craft a customized solution for his problem, by adopting the right approach. It's definitely not easy. There's a freaking reason why is so unpopular :) . It physically hurts, to keep our ego in check while using diplomacy with a boss who has a huge one. Takes a lot of time to be consistent and make it a habit, that eventually leads to much less internal fights and thus stress, than before practicing it. Before we fuck up again thinking we got this and we discipline ourselves again. But it needs to get worse before getting better. Because you first fight both your too big ego and the other person's inflated ego.
@matthewrenko7586Ай бұрын
You'll never know me and most likely will never read this but as someone else said, you have changed the trajectory of my life with your knowledge and advice. You cannot reach the end of your journey if you start out facing in the wrong direction. It feels like I'm finally facing the right direction and I thank you for opening my mind so that I could recognize that
@AkilesJose2 жыл бұрын
I laugh so hard everytime they do these voices. Seriously, every single time. Wonderful talk. This is something I'm having issues to control, I think I'm almost there, but still it slides from time to time.
@djcrackademiks11914 жыл бұрын
Your ego holds you back from everything good life has to offer. Read the book “Ego is the enemy” by Ryan Holiday, changed my perspective about a lot of things
@S.C.-wo8hq
4 жыл бұрын
My ex-girlfriend is all into narcissism and it all goes hand and hand. Humility is a good thing and when I think about my biggest experiences of personal growth, many stem from being humbled.
@bluwng
4 жыл бұрын
Books are dangerous, authors are as imperfect as you are, what makes you think they are right. Jocko also has ego, he is playing the guru, in all actuality he has no experience in corporate America.
@Theendman42
4 жыл бұрын
@@bluwng Ever heard of his company called Echelon Front? That's literally his job, to go into "corporate America" and help companies with leadership. Giving advice isn't ego. What makes you think you are right? Be skeptical, sure, but if a book makes sense, and it is practical and helpful, then, it is just right enough to be effective.
@S.C.-wo8hq
4 жыл бұрын
@Mular Everyone has an ego but i'm not sure I understand your question.
@AManofBalance
4 жыл бұрын
Everyone has an ego. Having an ego isn’t “bad.” It’s necessary. However, if you don’t know who you REALLY are (not your mind, body or feelings), your “personal identity” might cause you a lot of suffering.
@christopherdean6973 жыл бұрын
Love this it's absolutely truth... I've had the hardest time keeping my ego in check. Now I have a hard time keeping quiet when i notice other people allowing their ego to fill the situation and the room. Also best Ego voice ever!
@typ0442 жыл бұрын
My humbleness is the greatest thing about me.
@buzzcrushtrendkill4 жыл бұрын
Studying Buddhism greatly helped me with the ego and how it creates suffering.
@justwill8239 Жыл бұрын
Really appreciate Echo’s humble attitude and his talk about his own example! Respect
@david6pac4 жыл бұрын
im so glad to have found this podcast. everything that Jocko says is very applicable to life in general
@SkreltNL4 жыл бұрын
Thanks again Jacko+Echo+everyone involved.
@angbandart Жыл бұрын
Holy s***. I was just getting in my car thinking "I've come a long way, and I think it's thanks to overcoming the ego, a painful part of life. Anyway, let's see what Jocko has to say today." and this video was at the top of my Home page
@paulisaaksohn91792 жыл бұрын
You guys are the father and the elder brother and the mind coach I never had - all in one.
@scoogsy Жыл бұрын
I come back to these videos when I start slipping off the path to get some perspective. Thank you Jocko and Echo.
@big-k-7.62.4 жыл бұрын
"Those are miiiine" had me dying haha. You are the greatest Jocko!
@artofvalor93963 жыл бұрын
Man... So many people need this advice! So many undeserved/unearned egos out there!
@greeleypeterson81193 жыл бұрын
I definitely have to do this daily. Thank you for these podcasts
@BlessedTex_4 жыл бұрын
"Ego massage"... Brilliant
@jonathancoffey69374 жыл бұрын
After listing to this and coming back a week later I have found this is very hard for me to put into practice and at the fron of my mind among other things. With that said it gave me the opportunity to look at my life and daily interactions and slowly start to critique myself and my thought prosses and I can see a very small change in my perception of my life and I believe that if I keep at it I wont just kill my ego but I'll change who I am and be able to maintain a healthy mindset moving foward. Baby steps
@alexsanchezj.55754 жыл бұрын
That cough tho. The cough of a dragon.
@matthewbutler6557
4 жыл бұрын
Yo fr lmao
@espada94 жыл бұрын
I found the best way for me was to start training Brazilian jiu jitsu and muay thai at 43. It was a great lesson in humility. 12+ years later and I'm still getting humbled.
@j.w.matney8390
4 жыл бұрын
I had the same experience when I started climbing at 60. Very humbling when a 10 year old can climb harder routes than me. Anybody can be a teacher.
@zeppelin1n46 ай бұрын
Thanks for making me a better man and leader jocko
@SS-mp4wl3 жыл бұрын
Thank god for Jocko! Sooo multi leveled.!!!
@Concojone52 жыл бұрын
This is fantastic. I always confront, but this is so much better!
@hoffamane Жыл бұрын
I struggle with this but it’s getting better the more I learn
@TheTurtlePenguin4 жыл бұрын
Thank you guys. After watching this I confronted my partner about a fight we had last night. I took ownership about my mistake of demanding her to admit her mistakes, and in doing so admitted I was being egoistic myself in that situation. She forgave me, and we reconciled the whole thing. Taking ownership about my ego hurt a lot. But it was worth it, since I came out better than I was before it. Thank you.
@ryneprince7113
4 жыл бұрын
No better sex than make up sex 🤣
@sourcesauce
Жыл бұрын
lol
@aidanmcelligott23293 жыл бұрын
I too am extraordinarily humble
@SupermanJH684 жыл бұрын
Great stuff. Absolutely necessary subject
@essencev89272 жыл бұрын
You are helping me to change my life jocko Thankyou.
@yteka994 жыл бұрын
Something that really got rid of my ego is a different subject but possibly the same idea. I thought I was really good at riding motorcycles on the street. I went to the race track to ride with people who train and learn regularly. I quickly realized I was actually a really bad rider. Joining the groups in learning and training how to do it well gave me a great appreciation of what being good actually was and the importance of always learning and being open to new ideas.
@kennethcurtis1856
Жыл бұрын
My son, who was about 35 at the time, thought he knew a lot about shooting handguns. After attending one intro to firearms class, he goes, 'Wow, I learned a lot.'
@tommihaapanen8464 жыл бұрын
I had a quarrel with the missus. Then I come to you Jocko for a morale boost and boom you just tell the solutions for the exact problem we just had with the wife! This isn't even the first time, you are becoming a life saver for me, sir, thank you!
@amishshark35494 жыл бұрын
Much needed stuff to hear
@pajarito7263 жыл бұрын
I can see this happening in every business. So pull threads, reveal the problem, attacking egos will result in failure
@jimwilson2784 жыл бұрын
@8:28 I half-expected Jocko to say "my precious" LMAO
@Jessehermansonphotography4 жыл бұрын
This is probably the most important part of EO imo
@tysully52454 жыл бұрын
I really enjoy these clips
@BuddhatheRockstar4 жыл бұрын
WOW... THIS WAS my reality check!
@FunnyFred673 жыл бұрын
I’m currently watching this because I realized that I had an ego when I looked at the thumbnail and said “I don’t need to watch that because I don’t have an ego”
@LouisianaPyro933 жыл бұрын
The best teacher is having your ego get put in check. That changes you. Life does that. Overcome and be better everyday
@1976ondy3 жыл бұрын
When Joko make them funny tough voices , priceless 🙏🏽😂😂😂😂 "ohh,ohh, my supporters dont wanna step up!"👊🏾
@MichaelJames707 Жыл бұрын
Loved this episode 🙏🏼
@ShellC888 Жыл бұрын
Wow he's humble its a attractive trait 💓
@daves-c89194 жыл бұрын
This approach is useful. It's worked on me in the past and it will work on me in the future. I have a feeling laziness might not exist...what I mean is humans are looking for homeostasis. We are looking to put out the minimum amount of energy necessary to maintain where we are at this moment. No matter where we are, we've all made it this far. The only things that will make us put out more effort are: 1: We get a gut feeling that we are suffering more than we need to be, or 2: Something or someone we trust is hinting at a better version of ourselves that's attainable. Legitimately trust the intelligence of the person you're talking to. If they need to change, it won't come by calling them lazy or by laying out their problems...They are the only ones that can grasp their entire lives and change. Thanks for the lesson, gentlemen. I'll try to integrate it.
@Tactical_DZ4 жыл бұрын
Hell yeah, great message 🤘
@windowpain96153 жыл бұрын
Perfect explanation of micro-managing = ego.
@marcusspurlock94433 жыл бұрын
Awesome video! Could have used this much sooner (for myself and some other folks in mind...) than now but better late than never. 👍🏽
@user-sx5kx3pq2i4 жыл бұрын
pull the thread reveal peoblem avoid confronting if posssible be a bouncer, use minimum force necessary
@simonprice53743 жыл бұрын
Jocko, you are both correct. A slapjack is a leather-wrapped piece of flat metal used to slap with a uniform flat point of contact with the metal bending to provide additional momentum. A blackjack is a leather-wrapped coil spring with a piece of thick metal on the top. A flick of the wrist and a black jack builds instant momentum for small quick hits with insane impact. Both items are leather single wrapped with a double wrap on the impact points. My blackjack was about 8in long and had a leather band to slide my hand in as I held it, keeping it on my hand like a glove. My slapjack was about 15in long and had a leather loop meant for the wrist. Both are great tools but their legality depends on the location. Love your show and wise insight, Sir. Thank you for all you do.
@fgfgfg42 ай бұрын
Recognizing this is my first step took me long enough man I want to become better
@johndcoffee6324 жыл бұрын
Joe Rogan: Have you tried DMT?
@Sulamanjansulttaani
4 жыл бұрын
Yeah well that dissolves ego
@peircesherpa9042
3 жыл бұрын
Roe jogan: I’m on it right now
@marcusmiles4234
3 жыл бұрын
How to really destroy the ego
@user-jw8oj2mi6i
3 жыл бұрын
Jocko: Have you tried Jiu Jitsu?
@internet_internet
3 жыл бұрын
Why yes, I have.
@harveysanchez69934 жыл бұрын
This was so funny and educational
@shanepdooley4 жыл бұрын
Where I grew up a blackjack was a small wooden bat that had been drilled out and filled with lead. A slapjack was a wide, thick leather piece with lead sewn into the center.
@adamgolding4 жыл бұрын
Okay... but how do we build a culture where you can actually be direct and honest?
@adamgolding
4 жыл бұрын
Do a piece on radical honesty--tell me when and how this is wrong: facebook.com/adamgolding/posts/10107446637905022
@Commissioner.
4 жыл бұрын
Sex robots?
@Abraxastrust4 жыл бұрын
Suggest editing / cut to reactions of guest or in this case echo . Would help the conversation flow naturally ..
@et96504 жыл бұрын
Damn.... Echo looks JACKED!
@airpods3198
4 жыл бұрын
J O C K E D
@SimpleFly734 жыл бұрын
Bad ass psychology
@charlesbourgoigne21304 жыл бұрын
Humility, discipline, courage, helping others, sticking together etc, these values used to be called „a good character“; it seems that modern „self-help“ books have completely forgotten this idea; you need to look in older books to find them; Benjamin Franklin wrote on them (13 virtues), or Marcus Aurelius, for example. I really hate that today, many people with power and reputation promote the opposite: The „easy wealth“, that it’s ok to be a selfish asshole because that’s what might bring you succees and that you don’t need to help others. That you constanly have to show off and impress others with how amazing you are. That is our modern world. The world of „celebrities“ who promote such „modern“ values. But you have the freedom to not follow their example. To not follow them on instagramm or whatever their name. But as Benjamin Franklin wrote in „the way to wealth“: after the old wise had told them his good advice, the people, after applauding him, just returned to their old habits, their vices as if nothing had happened. So, it is only on yourself to be better than these „modern“ values and be an example to others. It’s not a new invention (though I‘m sure the „self-help-books“ will discover this in the future as a „revolutionary idea“ and make big profits), it is common knowledge and testable in real life today.
@1234clarknj
4 жыл бұрын
Charles Bourgoigne Great observation Charles. Stephen Covey talked about this as the ‘Character Ethic’ vs ‘Personality Ethic’ in his book 7 Habits for Highly Effective People.
@fastawake8704 жыл бұрын
cant spell LEGO without it.
@ariesmyers25634 жыл бұрын
March 24 listening Manny like to expand his knowledge 💯🔥🔥🤷🏻♂️🙏🙏♈♈
@johnduffi625 Жыл бұрын
i love how jocko imitate ego 😄
@darrenwhelan2479
Жыл бұрын
How good is the voice :XD
@horsehorse4595 Жыл бұрын
Thanks for the video. A person can never...and I mean never change another person. A person can only change themselves. This goes against all society training us since childhood. If a person is completely ego driven it's their responsibility to change themselves. If they WONT? Then walk. No matter who it is.
@jakeizlove4 жыл бұрын
Thanks!
@billsmith8574 жыл бұрын
Two very important men
@beauknows16773 жыл бұрын
Greatest way to rid others of their egos, feed it. Greatest way to rid yourself of ego, starve it.
@defoedezign6 ай бұрын
It’s our ego that makes us believe the other persons ego is the problem.
@christopheralexander15544 жыл бұрын
An ego tripper is the master of excuses
@saramcgaha14064 жыл бұрын
Life altering with ego1 and ego2 situation equals more than the sum.
@oyenkachiboguw56244 жыл бұрын
Not only you can do it but the most important things is the person that produces the resources so you leave it to the person that produces the resources this is the most important things because before the person brought it you he or she knows can do it
@A8vscRrabbit4 жыл бұрын
I love this
@ParadymShiftVegan3 жыл бұрын
*Eckhart Tolle and David R. Hawkins are the masters of overcoming and transcending the ego.*
@sporkcunt81002 жыл бұрын
I want to be like these men when I’m their age maybe not some super solider but a good self actualized man
@iamtheteapot74059 ай бұрын
It is a slapjack that he was thinking of but there is also a military baton referred to as a blackjack.
@kotypryor7524 жыл бұрын
Same could be said about confrontation of any sort. Flank & over run your problems. Don't give a chance to defend themselves.
@markmcintire47673 жыл бұрын
I've always heard it called "blackjack." Im in the same spot as Jocko... like 98% sure but not 100. Lol it makes me wonder if you guys ever researched it to settle your mini dispute. Love the podcast. Ive watched so many that im starting to watch re-runs. Life changing.
@willbaskin7002 жыл бұрын
i'm in a band and just realized how much ego i have to deal with including my own
@b.l.a.c.k.s.t.a.r4 жыл бұрын
1:00 nice knowing you jocko
@Lorendrawn
4 жыл бұрын
Nope. Those coronaviruses are gonna get seize-clear-hold-build ed in Jocko's body.
@ForgottenKnight1
4 жыл бұрын
That was staged.
@MrCheckster20004 жыл бұрын
As a kid I was taught to never let go of my EGO.....haha
@shadowrealm6
4 жыл бұрын
*crickets* lol
@laurelinlorefield3184 жыл бұрын
Coming from academia, I spit out my coffee in guffaws when he mentioned lots of crazy egos at work.
@bronco11994 жыл бұрын
Question; how to get rid of ego? Answer; "get rid of your ego!"
@bronco1199
4 жыл бұрын
The tag line clearly says "how to get rid of EGO and promote humility" the ego is a necessary evil but generally not helpful.
@bronco1199
4 жыл бұрын
Aaaaand my comment was an inside joke for people who follow Jocko more regularly
@LosDjango0074 жыл бұрын
Wow. I’m already doing this. Thanks
@bronco11994 жыл бұрын
There are blackjacks AND slapjacks. A black jack is a weighted, flexible piece of braided leather that resembles a small baton. A slapjack kind of looks like a leather toungue, also weighted and with a strap made to palm the weapon. There are different sizes of both "tools".
@Yotun-of-the-WWW4 жыл бұрын
One needs ego to know one is
@bobhoman94103 жыл бұрын
My one hour speech on humility.
@dragonofdanksspacestation77792 жыл бұрын
I am young but my ego destroyed my life. i now rebuild with more care.
@coritellastory3 жыл бұрын
love this analogy of pulling the thread...the approach of being a hammer to a nail does not work. eager learner here ready to master life
@morenby_k47 Жыл бұрын
Jocko you're awesome! I love You. #BR
@rgectvla26954 жыл бұрын
In the Marines, they tell us to lead by example. The SNCO, NCO, and Officers would follow that one person who yells from the top of their lungs. Then it becomes a domino effect, the moral of the unit and platoon just becomes total toxic. Our company motto, "The beatings will continue until morale improves." I was leading by example. My example is to have empathy and sympathy and to bring my squad and platoon up. Once the other leaders see what is happening. Here comes the mind games, yelling, and trying to make themselves bigger than you. Do something right, you're in the wrong. Do something wrong, you're in the right. Glad I got out from the toxicity and wannabe masculinity. Yelling to me, it just seems you haven't grown up and acting like a child. Grown ass men yelling and try to belittle you. People need to read Carl Jung, his mind is in a different level.
@espada9
4 жыл бұрын
I've found that being tough and SMART beats macho tough every time. I'm impressed you read Jung, most idiots don't even read books in 2020. There is hope after all.
@corporaterobotslave400
4 жыл бұрын
My experiences with Marines and LEOs are that they mostly need healing in their inner child, having been ABUSED by authority figures, parents, teachers, etc. Abuse is a lifestyle for some, especially Marines.
@stevebean1234
4 жыл бұрын
Interesting to hear. I almost joined the Marines, except double vision put a damper on that. I'm having organizational difficulty in the corporate world now. It's tough - I've been in good organizations and using Jocko's techniques are typically respected. However, there are organizations that implicitly value herd mentality etc. I have "the scapegoat mentality". Over time, people just end up bullying me. I've gone to a bunch of therapy about it, but like these videos the response is just "don't be a scapegoat". Strange, because when I try to stand up for myself it just brings more heat on. Oh well. Sick of having to move organizations. Sick of having to wonder if the problem is me or them. I spent a long time at my first company and things went really well... but, was it me or them?
@fastawake870
4 жыл бұрын
no one needs to read your books...:P
@davidkepke1435
4 жыл бұрын
stevebean1234 Im like you. Your approach can work if the higher ups also embrace it. Toxic people above you have authority over you, and when good faces bad in those situations, the bad often is the winner. They will detest your success and fear your power of influence and no matter how subtle you are. With some people or corporate cultures, its a no-win situation.
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I don't know if you'll read this Jocko but you are helping me change my life.
3 жыл бұрын
he dont give a shit lmao
@julieevans3110
3 жыл бұрын
Maybe not individually.... while he’s mocking Dong Jong.
@diochan6038
3 жыл бұрын
@ bruh
@Lukas-cg3ms
2 жыл бұрын
@ of course he cares. Jocko does these podcasts to help people, duh
@unkon129
2 жыл бұрын
@@Lukas-cg3ms he definitely doesn't read any comments but he does care about changing people's life, just like he did with mine too!
Ego...a product of fear plus insecurity.
@Kyman23
3 жыл бұрын
Good way to describe it. Really makes you ponder on that
@sunn1846
3 жыл бұрын
Not tryna be a smartass, but technically that would be a sum, not a product.
@qdllc
3 жыл бұрын
@@sunn1846 - Math for the win.
@mdb60
3 жыл бұрын
“The first half of life is devoted to forming a healthy ego, the second half is going inward and letting go of it.” -Carl Jung- In knowing this one can then say that ego is a part of psyche that is positive until it is not. Is it fear driven? Is it insecurity based? Perhaps, perhaps not. The neurosis that a human being has as it pertains to both psyche and its ego is a varying entity, everyone is different, situations dictate this. The one constant that Jung preached was self honesty when gazing in the mirror. The inability to do so was in his mind what drives ego out of control. And let’s be honest, truth hurts, and few embrace pain. Therein lies a huge quagmire for the individual and their quest for self control. My proof? Look around you,. Excess and Access is a death knell.
@maxos-4135
3 жыл бұрын
Thats the bad ego, the good ego is to try get better on what you do😉
Bravo. Humble pie is always hard to swallow with your pride. My life got a lot easier when I realized it was not my job to be right but simply honest. Let others be right. Let others argue about what’s right. My job is to focus more on being honest. If I’m honest then everything falls into place much easier.
@jasonishwara7680
4 жыл бұрын
amazing comment. I will repost this comment on my instagra. Thanks dude 👊
@mikejohnson6135
4 жыл бұрын
Incredibly worded
@blainemont1014
3 жыл бұрын
Amen brother.
@donkeylzc
3 жыл бұрын
I dono for me I felt I was always (not tootin' my own horn here) way too honest. Especially on the wrong time. Very blunt. I felt dishonesty is sometimes useful to meet my objective. What do you think?
@popopr5113
3 жыл бұрын
@@donkeylzc sometimes its not what you say (your honesty), rather HOW you say it (ij this case being blunt). Try other softer approaches or indirect approaches while still being honest. Jujitsu
As a high schooler, constantly surrounded by entitled and rich kids, with giant (unearned) egos, I wish that we had the Jocko Podcast as a class.
@pawsonarove
4 жыл бұрын
Save your breath, focus on you first.
@thatsawesomelol
4 жыл бұрын
be the example for those around you. be how you see jocko, for those around you.
@beastwolf7
4 жыл бұрын
Amen brother
@exf3
4 жыл бұрын
Just wait 4 years and you’ll see them fail. It ain’t worth it.
@Edgar-Friendly
4 жыл бұрын
Rival Sports for non-academics, I use Jocko and Jordan Peterson with students. Even some rich entitled students know that there is something more and hunger for it.
I pride myself on my humility.
@ebrahimmusleh
3 жыл бұрын
Wow wow wow, Very humble
@yourkingdomcomeyourwillbedone
2 жыл бұрын
But I am the most humble of them all.
THIS - is what people need to see
@henkverhaeren3759
4 жыл бұрын
Right, that is why I am watching
@DT-sb9sv
4 жыл бұрын
Indeed.
@damienholland8103
4 жыл бұрын
In most places I've worked most people are humble it's that 10 percent of employees / managers that aren't and they cause all kinds of problems whether that's not doing what they are told would be a good idea, being lazy, being overconfident and making bad decisions, not being polite, or whatever. As a regular employee not involved in management there isn't much I can do besides confer with managers who are also humble and understanding and let them deal with it.
Ego is the result of fear. Fear is what happens when you have a worldview that does not completely serve you and you are also unwilling to learn.
His "ego" voice has me cracking up
@weareallinthis3668
2 жыл бұрын
LOL
one of the true leader of our world. leader is not position nor title, it is personality, it is mind, it is action, it is integrity.
@Commissioner.
4 жыл бұрын
Name one
@dimebagdarrell4949
4 жыл бұрын
jocko
@Sulamanjansulttaani
4 жыл бұрын
Tergridy weed.
Absolutely love Echo’s demeanor and the chem between these two somewhat gentle giants. Great examples for us all.
Take ownership, poke around lightly, allow room for self analysis, do jujitsu and eat some steak.
@atomsk3250
3 ай бұрын
Underrated comment
Just if anyone's wondering, what Jocko is describing with "pulling the string" is called the Socratic Method. You ask a directed line of questioning that evidently leads to the conclusion you want. It's incredibly effective at changing minds, because people feel like they came to the conclusion themselves, rather than having it forced onto them
omg the ego conversation is so relatable to me. I work in a room full of super stars, but I am the only programmer. So often I can help them do their job more efficiently but they won’t ask me for help, and if I try offer my help they say no. It’s really frustrating. The last shift I worked I tried to be a but more assertive and just create the fix for one of my coworkers to try show him it would help, and instead he just did it manually anyway 😭
Ego will drive you into a pit of unsatisfied eternal thirst, eternal hunger, greed, fear, and an endless world of unanswered questions.
Diplomacy. Sounds easy, but it isn't. Many of us have never learned it, never needed to. Jocko makes it sound easy, because he learned it the hard way. I aint saying don't try, I'm just saying learn slowly. You aint gonna be Jocko the next time you talk to your boss, but you can apply this stuff over time. Knowledge is more than listening. It is doing. Be careful, not quick.
@H0kram
4 жыл бұрын
Best advice out there. Everything in these podcats takes practice and failures. So everyone can eventually craft a customized solution for his problem, by adopting the right approach. It's definitely not easy. There's a freaking reason why is so unpopular :) . It physically hurts, to keep our ego in check while using diplomacy with a boss who has a huge one. Takes a lot of time to be consistent and make it a habit, that eventually leads to much less internal fights and thus stress, than before practicing it. Before we fuck up again thinking we got this and we discipline ourselves again. But it needs to get worse before getting better. Because you first fight both your too big ego and the other person's inflated ego.
You'll never know me and most likely will never read this but as someone else said, you have changed the trajectory of my life with your knowledge and advice. You cannot reach the end of your journey if you start out facing in the wrong direction. It feels like I'm finally facing the right direction and I thank you for opening my mind so that I could recognize that
I laugh so hard everytime they do these voices. Seriously, every single time. Wonderful talk. This is something I'm having issues to control, I think I'm almost there, but still it slides from time to time.
Your ego holds you back from everything good life has to offer. Read the book “Ego is the enemy” by Ryan Holiday, changed my perspective about a lot of things
@S.C.-wo8hq
4 жыл бұрын
My ex-girlfriend is all into narcissism and it all goes hand and hand. Humility is a good thing and when I think about my biggest experiences of personal growth, many stem from being humbled.
@bluwng
4 жыл бұрын
Books are dangerous, authors are as imperfect as you are, what makes you think they are right. Jocko also has ego, he is playing the guru, in all actuality he has no experience in corporate America.
@Theendman42
4 жыл бұрын
@@bluwng Ever heard of his company called Echelon Front? That's literally his job, to go into "corporate America" and help companies with leadership. Giving advice isn't ego. What makes you think you are right? Be skeptical, sure, but if a book makes sense, and it is practical and helpful, then, it is just right enough to be effective.
@S.C.-wo8hq
4 жыл бұрын
@Mular Everyone has an ego but i'm not sure I understand your question.
@AManofBalance
4 жыл бұрын
Everyone has an ego. Having an ego isn’t “bad.” It’s necessary. However, if you don’t know who you REALLY are (not your mind, body or feelings), your “personal identity” might cause you a lot of suffering.
Love this it's absolutely truth... I've had the hardest time keeping my ego in check. Now I have a hard time keeping quiet when i notice other people allowing their ego to fill the situation and the room. Also best Ego voice ever!
My humbleness is the greatest thing about me.
Studying Buddhism greatly helped me with the ego and how it creates suffering.
Really appreciate Echo’s humble attitude and his talk about his own example! Respect
im so glad to have found this podcast. everything that Jocko says is very applicable to life in general
Thanks again Jacko+Echo+everyone involved.
Holy s***. I was just getting in my car thinking "I've come a long way, and I think it's thanks to overcoming the ego, a painful part of life. Anyway, let's see what Jocko has to say today." and this video was at the top of my Home page
You guys are the father and the elder brother and the mind coach I never had - all in one.
I come back to these videos when I start slipping off the path to get some perspective. Thank you Jocko and Echo.
"Those are miiiine" had me dying haha. You are the greatest Jocko!
Man... So many people need this advice! So many undeserved/unearned egos out there!
I definitely have to do this daily. Thank you for these podcasts
"Ego massage"... Brilliant
After listing to this and coming back a week later I have found this is very hard for me to put into practice and at the fron of my mind among other things. With that said it gave me the opportunity to look at my life and daily interactions and slowly start to critique myself and my thought prosses and I can see a very small change in my perception of my life and I believe that if I keep at it I wont just kill my ego but I'll change who I am and be able to maintain a healthy mindset moving foward. Baby steps
That cough tho. The cough of a dragon.
@matthewbutler6557
4 жыл бұрын
Yo fr lmao
I found the best way for me was to start training Brazilian jiu jitsu and muay thai at 43. It was a great lesson in humility. 12+ years later and I'm still getting humbled.
@j.w.matney8390
4 жыл бұрын
I had the same experience when I started climbing at 60. Very humbling when a 10 year old can climb harder routes than me. Anybody can be a teacher.
Thanks for making me a better man and leader jocko
Thank god for Jocko! Sooo multi leveled.!!!
This is fantastic. I always confront, but this is so much better!
I struggle with this but it’s getting better the more I learn
Thank you guys. After watching this I confronted my partner about a fight we had last night. I took ownership about my mistake of demanding her to admit her mistakes, and in doing so admitted I was being egoistic myself in that situation. She forgave me, and we reconciled the whole thing. Taking ownership about my ego hurt a lot. But it was worth it, since I came out better than I was before it. Thank you.
@ryneprince7113
4 жыл бұрын
No better sex than make up sex 🤣
@sourcesauce
Жыл бұрын
lol
I too am extraordinarily humble
Great stuff. Absolutely necessary subject
You are helping me to change my life jocko Thankyou.
Something that really got rid of my ego is a different subject but possibly the same idea. I thought I was really good at riding motorcycles on the street. I went to the race track to ride with people who train and learn regularly. I quickly realized I was actually a really bad rider. Joining the groups in learning and training how to do it well gave me a great appreciation of what being good actually was and the importance of always learning and being open to new ideas.
@kennethcurtis1856
Жыл бұрын
My son, who was about 35 at the time, thought he knew a lot about shooting handguns. After attending one intro to firearms class, he goes, 'Wow, I learned a lot.'
I had a quarrel with the missus. Then I come to you Jocko for a morale boost and boom you just tell the solutions for the exact problem we just had with the wife! This isn't even the first time, you are becoming a life saver for me, sir, thank you!
Much needed stuff to hear
I can see this happening in every business. So pull threads, reveal the problem, attacking egos will result in failure
@8:28 I half-expected Jocko to say "my precious" LMAO
This is probably the most important part of EO imo
I really enjoy these clips
WOW... THIS WAS my reality check!
I’m currently watching this because I realized that I had an ego when I looked at the thumbnail and said “I don’t need to watch that because I don’t have an ego”
The best teacher is having your ego get put in check. That changes you. Life does that. Overcome and be better everyday
When Joko make them funny tough voices , priceless 🙏🏽😂😂😂😂 "ohh,ohh, my supporters dont wanna step up!"👊🏾
Loved this episode 🙏🏼
Wow he's humble its a attractive trait 💓
This approach is useful. It's worked on me in the past and it will work on me in the future. I have a feeling laziness might not exist...what I mean is humans are looking for homeostasis. We are looking to put out the minimum amount of energy necessary to maintain where we are at this moment. No matter where we are, we've all made it this far. The only things that will make us put out more effort are: 1: We get a gut feeling that we are suffering more than we need to be, or 2: Something or someone we trust is hinting at a better version of ourselves that's attainable. Legitimately trust the intelligence of the person you're talking to. If they need to change, it won't come by calling them lazy or by laying out their problems...They are the only ones that can grasp their entire lives and change. Thanks for the lesson, gentlemen. I'll try to integrate it.
Hell yeah, great message 🤘
Perfect explanation of micro-managing = ego.
Awesome video! Could have used this much sooner (for myself and some other folks in mind...) than now but better late than never. 👍🏽
pull the thread reveal peoblem avoid confronting if posssible be a bouncer, use minimum force necessary
Jocko, you are both correct. A slapjack is a leather-wrapped piece of flat metal used to slap with a uniform flat point of contact with the metal bending to provide additional momentum. A blackjack is a leather-wrapped coil spring with a piece of thick metal on the top. A flick of the wrist and a black jack builds instant momentum for small quick hits with insane impact. Both items are leather single wrapped with a double wrap on the impact points. My blackjack was about 8in long and had a leather band to slide my hand in as I held it, keeping it on my hand like a glove. My slapjack was about 15in long and had a leather loop meant for the wrist. Both are great tools but their legality depends on the location. Love your show and wise insight, Sir. Thank you for all you do.
Recognizing this is my first step took me long enough man I want to become better
Joe Rogan: Have you tried DMT?
@Sulamanjansulttaani
4 жыл бұрын
Yeah well that dissolves ego
@peircesherpa9042
3 жыл бұрын
Roe jogan: I’m on it right now
@marcusmiles4234
3 жыл бұрын
How to really destroy the ego
@user-jw8oj2mi6i
3 жыл бұрын
Jocko: Have you tried Jiu Jitsu?
@internet_internet
3 жыл бұрын
Why yes, I have.
This was so funny and educational
Where I grew up a blackjack was a small wooden bat that had been drilled out and filled with lead. A slapjack was a wide, thick leather piece with lead sewn into the center.
Okay... but how do we build a culture where you can actually be direct and honest?
@adamgolding
4 жыл бұрын
Do a piece on radical honesty--tell me when and how this is wrong: facebook.com/adamgolding/posts/10107446637905022
@Commissioner.
4 жыл бұрын
Sex robots?
Suggest editing / cut to reactions of guest or in this case echo . Would help the conversation flow naturally ..
Damn.... Echo looks JACKED!
@airpods3198
4 жыл бұрын
J O C K E D
Bad ass psychology
Humility, discipline, courage, helping others, sticking together etc, these values used to be called „a good character“; it seems that modern „self-help“ books have completely forgotten this idea; you need to look in older books to find them; Benjamin Franklin wrote on them (13 virtues), or Marcus Aurelius, for example. I really hate that today, many people with power and reputation promote the opposite: The „easy wealth“, that it’s ok to be a selfish asshole because that’s what might bring you succees and that you don’t need to help others. That you constanly have to show off and impress others with how amazing you are. That is our modern world. The world of „celebrities“ who promote such „modern“ values. But you have the freedom to not follow their example. To not follow them on instagramm or whatever their name. But as Benjamin Franklin wrote in „the way to wealth“: after the old wise had told them his good advice, the people, after applauding him, just returned to their old habits, their vices as if nothing had happened. So, it is only on yourself to be better than these „modern“ values and be an example to others. It’s not a new invention (though I‘m sure the „self-help-books“ will discover this in the future as a „revolutionary idea“ and make big profits), it is common knowledge and testable in real life today.
@1234clarknj
4 жыл бұрын
Charles Bourgoigne Great observation Charles. Stephen Covey talked about this as the ‘Character Ethic’ vs ‘Personality Ethic’ in his book 7 Habits for Highly Effective People.
cant spell LEGO without it.
March 24 listening Manny like to expand his knowledge 💯🔥🔥🤷🏻♂️🙏🙏♈♈
i love how jocko imitate ego 😄
@darrenwhelan2479
Жыл бұрын
How good is the voice :XD
Thanks for the video. A person can never...and I mean never change another person. A person can only change themselves. This goes against all society training us since childhood. If a person is completely ego driven it's their responsibility to change themselves. If they WONT? Then walk. No matter who it is.
Thanks!
Two very important men
Greatest way to rid others of their egos, feed it. Greatest way to rid yourself of ego, starve it.
It’s our ego that makes us believe the other persons ego is the problem.
An ego tripper is the master of excuses
Life altering with ego1 and ego2 situation equals more than the sum.
Not only you can do it but the most important things is the person that produces the resources so you leave it to the person that produces the resources this is the most important things because before the person brought it you he or she knows can do it
I love this
*Eckhart Tolle and David R. Hawkins are the masters of overcoming and transcending the ego.*
I want to be like these men when I’m their age maybe not some super solider but a good self actualized man
It is a slapjack that he was thinking of but there is also a military baton referred to as a blackjack.
Same could be said about confrontation of any sort. Flank & over run your problems. Don't give a chance to defend themselves.
I've always heard it called "blackjack." Im in the same spot as Jocko... like 98% sure but not 100. Lol it makes me wonder if you guys ever researched it to settle your mini dispute. Love the podcast. Ive watched so many that im starting to watch re-runs. Life changing.
i'm in a band and just realized how much ego i have to deal with including my own
1:00 nice knowing you jocko
@Lorendrawn
4 жыл бұрын
Nope. Those coronaviruses are gonna get seize-clear-hold-build ed in Jocko's body.
@ForgottenKnight1
4 жыл бұрын
That was staged.
As a kid I was taught to never let go of my EGO.....haha
@shadowrealm6
4 жыл бұрын
*crickets* lol
Coming from academia, I spit out my coffee in guffaws when he mentioned lots of crazy egos at work.
Question; how to get rid of ego? Answer; "get rid of your ego!"
@bronco1199
4 жыл бұрын
The tag line clearly says "how to get rid of EGO and promote humility" the ego is a necessary evil but generally not helpful.
@bronco1199
4 жыл бұрын
Aaaaand my comment was an inside joke for people who follow Jocko more regularly
Wow. I’m already doing this. Thanks
There are blackjacks AND slapjacks. A black jack is a weighted, flexible piece of braided leather that resembles a small baton. A slapjack kind of looks like a leather toungue, also weighted and with a strap made to palm the weapon. There are different sizes of both "tools".
One needs ego to know one is
My one hour speech on humility.
I am young but my ego destroyed my life. i now rebuild with more care.
love this analogy of pulling the thread...the approach of being a hammer to a nail does not work. eager learner here ready to master life
Jocko you're awesome! I love You. #BR
In the Marines, they tell us to lead by example. The SNCO, NCO, and Officers would follow that one person who yells from the top of their lungs. Then it becomes a domino effect, the moral of the unit and platoon just becomes total toxic. Our company motto, "The beatings will continue until morale improves." I was leading by example. My example is to have empathy and sympathy and to bring my squad and platoon up. Once the other leaders see what is happening. Here comes the mind games, yelling, and trying to make themselves bigger than you. Do something right, you're in the wrong. Do something wrong, you're in the right. Glad I got out from the toxicity and wannabe masculinity. Yelling to me, it just seems you haven't grown up and acting like a child. Grown ass men yelling and try to belittle you. People need to read Carl Jung, his mind is in a different level.
@espada9
4 жыл бұрын
I've found that being tough and SMART beats macho tough every time. I'm impressed you read Jung, most idiots don't even read books in 2020. There is hope after all.
@corporaterobotslave400
4 жыл бұрын
My experiences with Marines and LEOs are that they mostly need healing in their inner child, having been ABUSED by authority figures, parents, teachers, etc. Abuse is a lifestyle for some, especially Marines.
@stevebean1234
4 жыл бұрын
Interesting to hear. I almost joined the Marines, except double vision put a damper on that. I'm having organizational difficulty in the corporate world now. It's tough - I've been in good organizations and using Jocko's techniques are typically respected. However, there are organizations that implicitly value herd mentality etc. I have "the scapegoat mentality". Over time, people just end up bullying me. I've gone to a bunch of therapy about it, but like these videos the response is just "don't be a scapegoat". Strange, because when I try to stand up for myself it just brings more heat on. Oh well. Sick of having to move organizations. Sick of having to wonder if the problem is me or them. I spent a long time at my first company and things went really well... but, was it me or them?
@fastawake870
4 жыл бұрын
no one needs to read your books...:P
@davidkepke1435
4 жыл бұрын
stevebean1234 Im like you. Your approach can work if the higher ups also embrace it. Toxic people above you have authority over you, and when good faces bad in those situations, the bad often is the winner. They will detest your success and fear your power of influence and no matter how subtle you are. With some people or corporate cultures, its a no-win situation.