I agree with most of what you said. I disagree with the mewing, only because I've heard it's more an ineffective fad, worse it actually damages your jaw. But, hey, to each their own. Outside of that, yes, when it comes to your health and wellbeing physically, emotionally, and mentally, you have to put yourself first. No, you don't have to be perfect. You don't have to "love yourself," and you don't have to have all your ducks in a row, perfect job, body, life. You just need to be in a good place. Content. You're going to keep growing, changing, learning. So by trying to reach some level of perfection before you decide to meet someone is only a productive form of procrastination.

@timetraveler6949

6 ай бұрын

yup, better to get filler or fat grafting.

What you said is so true about getting rid of those who weren't right for you but it sucks when you are picky and you felt some sort of way or connection.

@The-Cute-Gemini

5 ай бұрын

Hi

This is the first holistic approach to attractiveness I've encountered so far on KZread

Thank you: I am 76 years old and had a long term relationship of 25 years. Your advice and insight is incredible. Well done, delightful Jaks.

Good advise about sugar, I have diabetes and it is not nice. I would advise everyone to avoid sugar. It causes hair thinning and teeth loss, muscle loss. Diabetes is a curse.

Thanks for this Jaks! 😊 have a great day!

Jaks - where does all this wisdom come from? You are such a bright light in this worrying world. Thank you.

You made a great point about how you said another way to get heartbroken is by having 1 or 2 dates and then the person cuts it off citing "a lot of pressure".... long story short 2023 was a horrible year professionally and personally. Had a break up with a guy and family fall out (thankfully much better now!) but I was at my lowest and sent a guy 26 texts in like a 12 hour span...and I guess it scarred him away. Anyway, I like your vibe and I too wish happiness. Its just so easy too get heartbroken attempting to date guys. Most seem to be in to meth and hooking up only...or the ones im attracting :(

thank you so much, it feels refreshing knowing that there are others who actually want a serious relationship rather than just fun

Very good advice. You are so down to earth and great guy.

Never go looking for one! I'm 60, and I've had 3 partners 6yrs, 12yrs and current going on 21yrs. together I never went looking, they all just happened. When you are looking you will also look pass the right one, just let it come to you

@mrboutdoors

5 ай бұрын

I have heard this so many times. When you say you never went looking but found a partner how did you find one out of interest?

@JosephCompnotta

5 ай бұрын

@mrboutdoors you are for good time and you strike up a convo and end up taking for hours

Be a friend first to that someone, if they are true, they will return it in kind. Ethans Travels, another KZreadr, I enjoy both channels videos of your adventures with common sense and everyday style. Cheers

I've had most success at bars or nightclubs meeting guys, online dating has been worthless. Its better in person because you see the person in front of you and not through some picture.

Thanks Jak for your inspiring video!! Very practical and comprehensive. I find hope in your video.

I think you beard looks great. It is hard for me to find dates on the dating apps. The ones that message me are not in my area. You give good advice. Excercise and diet is important. It is important to look and smell good.

Thank you for the video, you shared some great advice. Also, your voice is just so soothing 😊

thank you for these videos, as a young queer manI love hearing different perspectives

You’re so calming

I needed to hear this.

Very sound advice Jaks. A lot of positivity in what you say and how to approach situations. Have you ever thought of being a life coach? I believe you would very good at it.

An old friend, said 'with really good friends - work and platonic' if they had a meeting for lunch etc, and they got a 'better offer' they would just text or call and say 'better offer' - and there was no need to explain. Invited for a free meal "better offer", invited to go to the movies with someone else "better offer" ..... I always thought that was funny annd nice to have this understanding with your good friends.

A lot of cultures push people to get married especially in Indian culture

Gays together forever ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

And ya, great tips I would say teeth whitening Crest white strips are great. I think some facial hair/ stubble is hot too. And good hair! Def an attractive vibe.

Great advice. You look amazing and I love your personality.

Thank you for the video. For some reason younger guys like me but i have to make sure i dont date someone to young, I had a bad experience years ago but I liked many of your ideas but u r right always be yourself when meeting others. God Bless you

Hii jaks I just want to say there's tips and nip little stuff you talked about sounded really helpful because I have been single for way to long and I am ready to mingle you know soo now I know how to go at it the way thank you love kevin

Man are ever well spoken and wise ! Just wondering what type of books do you read and who are your favorite writers , fiction and non fiction ?

I enjoyed your vlog and the hard truths to getting a boyfriend or at least creating the best premise for aforementioned. Good luck on your search. 👍🙏😎😜

Regarding diet, unless I'm mistaken, you said once that you only eat one time a day. Is there a particular reason why? Is that enough to sustain you during your workouts?

I agree with everything that you said especially when it comes to nutrition. However, identify a lot of things that you identify with as well. But I grew up I continue to live it's a very small, dusty town. It is way more expensive for someone to buy foods that are not processed or healthier. And well, there's a large socioeconomic factor to eating right, and also cooking is kind of a semi -intimate and personal activity if you think about it. Most of cook in a style of how we were raised. There's something comforting with eating something that offers some nostalgia. At least it does for me. So learning how to cook with quality ingredients I had to learn as an adult. But yes to the nutrition thing. You're older self will really thank you for it! Because you pay for it later definitely!

I hope you dental Floss it is a part of my daily routine Jaks before i brush

I've been trying to get a BF for a *LONG* time, so I am hoping your advice will propel me into a new era! Did I say it had been a LONG time? 🤣🤫😔

Funny you said that. yes, my last few dates were like 48 hours and it was too much...started good, ended badly

Sounds like great advice to me. Finding a "good" dating app is easier said than done.

Great advice ❤

From one square jaw to another….. thanks, old surfer here, and thanks for mentioning our dermatologists. 🤙

I also agree with most of what you said, except for "mewing." That's a relatively new topic and still needs further investigation before we can start recommending it. It can be approached from some disciplines, and the ones I've researched say NOT TO DO IT. So just because some things seemingly work doesn't mean they are good for our health. Also, sunscreen should always be used when exposed to UV rays, whether the weather is cloudy or sunny.

Jaks, you are great! I am attracted to you voice! :D

You can find a boyfriend, by not looking for one.

@garethscott3399

6 ай бұрын

Very true!!

@mrboutdoors

5 ай бұрын

How do you find a boyfriend without looking?

@garethscott3399

5 ай бұрын

@@mrboutdoors Just make them flirt with you instead of you flirting with them. 😁

@chriswood1210

4 ай бұрын

@mrboutdoors if you like this guy and your sure the feeling is mutual, the suddenly become unavailable. He'll want you even more. But don't be to unavailable. With guys it's more about the hunt and chase.

@michaelblower7363

4 ай бұрын

Feels too much like a game 😢

How about .... I found a boyfriend... MARRIED THE HANDSOME HUNK 🔥 and still married 28 years & con't . ❤

I’m crushing lol 😆 such valid points and it’s always attractive when someone invests in themselves

So in brief: - Be young - Be hot - Be pristine healthy with no chronic conditions That's it, good luck if you don't match these 3 (You'll really need it)

@viktor2434

2 ай бұрын

Someone didn't really watch the video...

Your picture on the dating app is the most important part of the puzzle. I am a second generation photographer. Nothing sells a product faster than an excellent image. How many times have you brought an item because of the picture on the box and was disappointed? Too Many! Dave

@wolfwoof2000

6 ай бұрын

I think it's putting a problem on a bad thing. I think it's very sad to think you'll attract more people because of your image. If that stops someone to text you, I wouldn't like a date with someone that emphasize beauty. For hookups I understand

@davidjaslow6458

6 ай бұрын

Unfortunately, this is the Pepsi Generation you have 3 seconds to make an impression. Dave

For 30 plus bros, maybe recommend botox and filler, had some surgery a few years ago as well, highly suggest juvaderm or Radiesse for collagen and lifts. Jawline too

@mariandown2327

6 күн бұрын

Botox, for 30+? Pls... Maybe for 60+. 30 or 40 or even 50 is not that old.

Point on!& intense! WoW.❤

You did not cover online dating scams, I have ran into a lot of those. I am very cautious when I first meet someone online. How would you handle someone you meet from a different state or country?

@Jaksattacks

21 күн бұрын

This is a whole video on it's own I think I should make one going over the potential pit falls of online dating.

@greggdevine2028

21 күн бұрын

@@Jaksattacks 🥰

You have charm and are very comfortable....which is a word I use to describe myself..... I am curious if you have any formal training or advance education ......You present yourself as a friend I would like to know and have.

Well I probably need this lol

Just checked in to your blogs ,,,, I enjoyed it very much,,,, and I’m sensing that you are the type of person that generates GOOD KARMA. Keep up the good work,,, and catch you next time. ✌✌✌✌✌❤🇬🇧🇷🇺🇳🇱

I haven't had one in 30 years so I've given up anyway

It's like moths drawn to a flame - putting your best self out there makes you unresistable.

Dude can we just meet lol

I don't really want a boyfriend. Not yet anyway. I like my freedom. I did have one once but he said I was too cold and independant because I wanted my own space.

In 2016 was not looking for a BF . Met a guy things clicked. Scared the crap out of both of us. We were working on a project. We were passing tools back and forth. The right one with out a word being said. It was one brain working 2 bodies. Well things went down hill fast. Were married with in short time. He took my last name when we did it. Still in shock at times how fast things went.

Just be yourself. You dont have to change anything about yourself to get a Man. Either Men will like you or they won't. Everyone wants someone who is happy with themselves. Just make yourself happy and others will notice and want to be around you.

Yes I am looking help me

The best advice I got from this was you need to act like you don’t care too much about

I could be that person. Handsome Canadian Studios. Lawl

This feels like a lot of effort when there are bigger fish to fry.

Literally all you have to do is walk down the street and you'll find one.

@winnied87

Ай бұрын

When you're gorgeous and cool and grab attention, sure.

Shallow....

I can die for your hair or teeth

i amhonest anditry to be myself

Be genuine… be yourself. And by the way. I like your hair style right now. It is a good mess.

Mewing is a great way to cause damage to your jaw, I definitely wouldn’t do that.

great advice, how is it that you are single

@ycw228

4 ай бұрын

Unfortunately, one needs to meet the right person at the right moment in the right place.

Next do one on ways to get rid of a boyfriend ! 😳

@michaelblower7363

4 ай бұрын

Hand them over to the poor folks who are actively looking for one? 😂

You mean a longer jaw line?

I love being single and wouldn't have it any other way. But, for those of you looking, l hope you find your soulmate.

You are so cute...

I don't think I'm cool enough to find a boyfriend.

Everything in this video is about superficial stuff nothing to do with values, attitude etc :/

Hello. Jax. Believe. That. That. Is. Spelled. Correctly. My. Name. Is. John. Holladay. Listened. To. Your. Suggestions. About. How. To. Find. A. Boyfriend. Skin. Care, Proper. Diet, Exercise, How. To. Dress. And. Feel. Comfortable. Daily. Dental. Hygiene. All of. These. Things. Are you excellent. Points. To. Offer. Your. Listeners, One. Of. Which. Is. Me. For. The. Most. Part. I. Found. The. Suggestions. Most. Helpful. I. Will. Echo. What. You. Said. If. Someone. Doesn’t. Care. To. Hear. What. You. Have. To. Say. Then. I. Would. Say. Don’t. Let. The. Door. Hit. You. On. The. Way. Out. Everyone. No. Matter. Who. They. Are , no. Matter. Where. They. Are, Has. A. Right. To. Their. Own. Opinion. I. Work. In. A. Grocery. Chain, Interact. With. Many. Different. Personalities. All. Day. Long. I. Enjoy. Listening to your. Suggestions. Dating. Apps. Aren’t. For. Me. As. For. Technology, After. I. Turn. The. Device. ON, I. Am. Totally. Lost. Have. A. Wonderful. Day. I. Live. In. California. It’s. Brr. Cold. Have. A. Nice. Day. A. Listener, John.