The eye contact does work. If a guy walks towards to and you walk past him if you look back after he has past you and see him doing the same you have a very good candidate there.

@zythr9999

6 ай бұрын

In what way?

@williamclark1244

19 күн бұрын

Agreed. When I was younger that used to happen to me a lot but I was just too shy to approach any of them after that.

@cretugrigore6273

2 күн бұрын

I didn't quite understand how eye contact worked. Can you explain ?

You were close with #2, but not quite on the mark. I mean as the surest way to tell if a guy is into guys. If you are able to be around him for a while in a public space, pay attention to who he looks at. If a good looking woman walks by and he doesn't follow her with his eyes; but he is checking out the hot guys, then he is one of us. Men just can't help but to look at what they think is sexy!!😉😉

@zythr9999

6 ай бұрын

That's nice!!

@zythr9999

6 ай бұрын

​@@GilleoniYou do?

@arnoldsands1610

28 күн бұрын

Number clue.

I agree with you so much with eye contact, especially in a world with so much hate for the lgtbq+ community and sometimes outwardly showing your sexuality can cause outside harm. Eye contact is something that has WORKED for me in the past, and there is always that beginning awkward stage, where you show that you notice each other, and recognize the other person's existence. This is, in fact, how I met my first boyfriend! He was sitting on some steps talking with his friends, and there was that instant click, for just a second of eye contact, and then this happening again and again, until we actually started talking and having a long conversation that ended with us talking about our sexuality, our type, and eventually each other! ❤🧡💛💚💙💜

@justmeajah

6 ай бұрын

Me when

@alanpease8474

6 ай бұрын

Good observation. This is some stuff I hadn't really thought about before. I think I just naturally check out guys without even thinking about it but now maybe I can this to my advantage. P. S. You are a gorgeous man with a beautiful smile. 😊

For me? It's pretty simple. We let our bodies get closer. We flirt. There's the magnetism . . .

You're not a loser handsome. 😘🏳️‍🌈 You're a winner baby. 🌈

@BigDaddy-ys5zs

6 ай бұрын

Winner of what? A hairy butthole?? Really. Really??

@RobOlivierbjr64

6 ай бұрын

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🌈😎

@ryanlewandowsky2077

6 ай бұрын

@@RobOlivierbjr64lt

@movingloz

6 ай бұрын

Amen.

You are not a loser. You are amazing. I have had a bad 2 years and your videos have helped me. You are amazing

1. Straight guys who are dressed by their wives can have a confusing sense of style. 2. That eye-contact clue disappears when we age out of pretty. 🤣 3. Leaning back and flashing one’s armpit hair, especially without a bicep flex, is a good clue. 😍

@nomylearnspalestine

2 ай бұрын

🥺😔

@americanpatriot430

14 күн бұрын

😂😂😂 pit hair??😂😂😂 what if I shave my pits?

Ya, I don't argue, but even if I see a cute guy, who is for sure into guys. I'm not approaching him. The idea of going up to a complete stranger, feeding them some line, and hoping they reciprocate with accepting a date. It just seems weird, and it feels like a jerk move to be putting us both in that awkward situation.

@dominicportelli7468

6 ай бұрын

But men have done it since time immemorial and will do so forever so just give it a whirl man!

@Godwlingua

6 ай бұрын

@@dominicportelli7468 We gotta say not everybody is the same...we all have our preferences. We are a diversity of humans put in a pot. Forced to live together forever. Diversity is everywhere...nature, home, school, countries, races, ethnicity, politics, human body, sexuality, gender, universe.................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................etc

@Dragonmoon8526

6 ай бұрын

@@dominicportelli7468 Under the right circumstances, I would be more open to the idea. Buy, honestly, I'd rather make that approach in a more controlled environment. Where I know we're both looking for the same thing. Randomly in the general public, isn't it.

@dennisjones7996

6 ай бұрын

what I used to do back in the day, I mean 30 yrs ago, !, lol, when I looked good, If I saw a guy I wanted to talk to, I used the hokey line " " do u have a match " ?, Like I did'nt even smoke (well cigs anyway ), and when they pulled out a match, I would coyly say, OH, I DON'T SMOKE !, I JUST WONDERED IF U HAD A MATCH, IS ALL , Well it did work as an ice breaker for me !! Good luck!, Oh, and a good sense of humor doesn't

@EVillager

6 ай бұрын

You don’t always have to ask for a date on the first conversation. Be friendly and see what you have in common. Don’t put pressure on yourself. Enjoy the opportunity to get to know someone.

I wish I had been as open and as confident asa you seem to be when I was young. Good job. I think you set an excellent example.

I will say this, if you live in a rural area the guys all dress pretty much the same, jeans, boots, flannel / plaid button down shirts,T-Shirt underneath, baseball cap / cowboy hat.

@zythr9999

6 ай бұрын

Meaning?

@Gilleoni

3 ай бұрын

@zythr9999 I think he's saying that when everyone in your environment is a clone, the fashion cues discussed are of little use

It really has depended on the times. As I was growing up, coming out to get one killed. It’s rough, especially since knowing when I was 6 years old. I’ve lost many friends in coming out, even coming out slowly to them.

@charlesstenton4267

6 ай бұрын

I knew at 4 , and my experiences echo yours. I learned long ago that it's their problem, and not mine.

Jaks, you are a very handsome young man, intellligent, polite and humours. Thank you for the tips. Enjoy your life you seem like a lovely person too!

First of all, you're not a loser. Second, sometimes you get a vibe about someone just by your interaction with them. I have even asked just so I know for my own benefit. Unfortunately, that can be risky. A lot of straight guys are insulted if you ask, and they shouldn't be. At any rate, I love this video. Thank you Jaks!! Have a wonderful day!

lol, I’ve always found being naked in bed with another guy going for it was always a dead giveaway. 😂😋. On a serious note Jake, don’t put yourself down. You’re not a loser. You’re a great looking guy and you are being true to who you are. When you meet Mr right, you’re both going to be ok.

its simple. ask him if he knows how many minutes are in a year.

@Godwlingua

6 ай бұрын

I don't know how many minutes there are in a year but what does this have to do with my sexuality???

@tannereustace

6 ай бұрын

@@GodwlinguaI think it's a reference to the musical Rent ;)

@crewdogger

6 ай бұрын

five hundred twenty five thousand six hundred minutes

@pault5557

6 ай бұрын

Good one!!! 🤪

@SM-bg7tq

6 ай бұрын

A 365 day year or LEAP year - gotta know. 😅😅😅😊😊😊

Thanks for the video, man! You do a great job

4:00 Sir, please! ☺ first time watching. Good stuff. And I agree with you on all three points.

When someone holds your gaze that split second longer... that's how you know if their thoughts aren't platonic

@winnied87

Ай бұрын

The last person to give me look into my eyes and smile was.. a straight barber, who gave me a new haircut the same day. We met while taking the same bus. Oh well. 😂

@i.t.t.

Ай бұрын

@@winnied87 yes! a smile and a look in the eyes by someone doing their job should not be confused for flirtation. But even with them, you can usually feel if it's a friendly smile or an insistent one, that look held a bit longer than is professional and acceptable.

@winnied87

Ай бұрын

@@i.t.t. He gave me a tense look into my eyes and smiled when we met outside his workplace. It was a nice look, not aggressive. Still, he talked about his girlfriend numerous times and I didn't take it as flirting. Could be my new look as he cut my hair shorter then usual that day and my eyes with long lashes got more noticeable.

@i.t.t.

Ай бұрын

@@winnied87 I would misinterpret the shit out of that then 😅 my mind would be spinning... oh could he be bi? Maybe he's telling me about the GF because they want a 3way. Can they be poly etc. I'd then proceed to test him 🥴

@winnied87

Ай бұрын

@@i.t.t. Same, man. I couldn't forget this moment for a while.

My favourite thing is just to get to know that person and just ask or figure it out by getting to know them more. It’s less click bait I know but whatever

@AdidTurreno

6 ай бұрын

I do this too. So much easier and it makes me feel like a spy lol

My first boyfriend and I used to study with each other, the sexual tension was real, and I guess we made eye contact. Lmao

@andrewgonzales1359

3 ай бұрын

We f***** after we studied. Lol. It was amazing.

This is the first vlog I've seen of yours,andI found it spot on. I saw comments about loser feelings,I didn't catch any of these. The term "gaydar" is appropriate as occasionally you just know. I appreciate how you emphasize respectful interaction with those around you. Just do what you do, you have a good head on your shoulders. And if I may say an attractive one also, along with attitude. Thanks...

@krane15

14 күн бұрын

You don't "just know." You know because there are signals broadcast that make it clear enough for most people to figure out. Take shoes for example: A long time ago somebody said you can tell everything about a man by the shoes he wears. Unfortunately, that doesn't work as easily for women. Well maybe if he wears combat boots?

you may live in 2024 but my midwestern city is still in the macho 1950s. Those types would take extreme offense to that question and let you know with one of those aggressive under-the-breathe pitbull growls. You know the ones, sunday afternoon football guys who know everything about yards, downs, players, and their lives. It's most important to them that they show manliness with their maga hats, dark sunglasses, and a faded old glory tee with something about guns and freedom printed on it. oh and big ass truck.

@zythr9999

6 ай бұрын

Then behind closed doors they face down butt up in the bed?

Yes, my Gaydar is strong! It is always in the eyes for me! The eyes are the windows to the soul! I love your KZread channel Hot/Sexy Jaks! Stey you, never change! ;)

You are not a loser on the internet! you are a good looking guy! :D thanks for sharing your thoughts!!

I like you Jaks. Your opinions are interesting. I’m subscribing.

Enjoyed your topic, the last one I could relate to 😊

Hi Jaks, just saw your video. First of all, Happy New Year. I am very glad you posted. I had a crush on a guy from work. Nearly told him how I felt. He's totally straight. Pity. Thanks for the advice.

@zythr9999

6 ай бұрын

That's hot!!

I can relate to this. Great job Jaks and I think you are so gorgeous 😍 No to hate just Love. ❤️

You are not a loser. I just found you on January 6th. I think you are a cool guy. I like your beard and hair.great video.

See Jaks, you always give good practical advice, just like on your TikTok’s! Donnie

I loved your video and I can see and feel your positive energy ❤. I’m in my 50’s and find your observations to be very true 😉

Wow, Sweet youth. Thank you handsome, I'm 74 and appreciate your advice. Came out late and now I'm just a now functioning individual taking up air space.

Such a refreshing change to listen to you. Keep up the good work! (Just subscribed.) 👍🏻🌈

I like your video. I have always been good at small talk when meeting people. I just go for it and ask. No reason to feel weird about it. We are people we are social creatures. We have voices... Use them! : ) Might like the answers you get. Thank you Jaks. You are cute.

First time watching and fun video ! Very nice ......

The ultra white teeth veneers are also a giveaway

@BO_Riddle

Ай бұрын

Then you've never visited Colombia

@krane15

14 күн бұрын

@@BO_Riddle I'm pretty sure he's being sarcastic.

……I’m SOOOOOOOO glad I’m not in my 20’s, or 30’s anymore!!!

@zythr9999

6 ай бұрын

Hear hear

@winnied87

Ай бұрын

Well, nearing 40 and accepting being single for more decades.

@krane15

14 күн бұрын

There's an old belief that most good writer are in their 40s because before then, they don't know enough to write about anything that anybody wants to hear, or finds enlightening.

Holding someone's stare and count three Mississippi 😊

Bonjour Jack, de retour en Alberta, le soleil de la French Riviera ne te manque pas.) You're right, simplicity is the best way, just asking respectfully the question with a large smile ;) Take care and hugs ☯ 🙏☀🏖

New subscriber here, I like your channel so far and you're cute to boot!

You're incredibly handsome! And also you speak very well and you're very educated. I'm impressed. Would be nice to connect with you on social media. Very informative video by the way. Thumbs up

This guy is gorgeous and so handsome 🧡

You’re not a loser , you’re awesome! You ARE so right about the fashion thing, the look thing, fruity?(lol) , most guys wouldn’t care if you ask em unless they’re TOTAL hillbillies LOL! U rock jaks 💚💜❤️🩵 Thx Zane 👍💙👊

@winnied87

Ай бұрын

If you have money to spend on fashion, then yes. If you don't, the fashion game will probably not count.

3:25 i feel like im playing a cat and mouse game at the moment 🥲

I admire your bravery. It’s takes balls to go hunting looking around. You’re a neat handsome guy.

You are so dead on about the split second look. Also also watch to see who the guy looks at. I enjoyed your channel. Thanks.

Hey Jaks great video! If I ever saw you in public, you can bet I would give you some eye contact!😜

I’ve always heard when they open their mouth and a purse falls out. Lololol!

@darrelljustice6105

6 ай бұрын

For the older generation ("Friends of Dorothy") it would have been Judy Garland's purse.

Respect, Jaks.

Mmm. Hadn't heard the expression "alphabet mafia" before. But I love it.

AWESOME VIDEO 💜💜💯

Your a handsome, intelligent beautiful person. Well spoken words. Me, 69 years old and agree with you very much. Would like to meet and talk with you 😊. From Connecticut ! Wish u the best.

love the hats

Wow, what an amazing guy. More please🙏🕉🙏 it’s 2024!!!!

Hi Jaks , your beard and mustache look good on you ! 🔥🔥

the ‘look’

I think for most of my life I've been pretty much invisible to other humans.

@winnied87

Ай бұрын

I always had a cute boy look, which attracted bullies in school and now a look or a few from strangers. Given how many appearance-related things I was picked on in the past, it seems more comfortable to blend in and be unnoticed as much as possible. But there's a catch - being lonely and feeling invisible sometimes.

@krane15

14 күн бұрын

You're not. Your observation skill are weak. Some people are like that. Its not necessarily a bad thing.

@auldfouter8661

14 күн бұрын

@@krane15 I grew up with two brothers who kept telling me how skinny and ugly I was. My young brother's insult of choice was that I looked like someone from Belsen.

The eyes don't lie.

Adorable and sweet I enjoyed your commentary... I'm sending you💜from Arkansas🏳‍🌈

Good info it helps

The heteronormative firewall that "straight" guys live behind is pretty solid. Ninety percent of human beings are right handed. It's the same firewall. They can't imagine anything different because it rocks them to the bedrock.

@weskitten

6 ай бұрын

Left hander here!

What about bi? Haha

@Jaks. I like your Style, You're not a loser. I wish to speak on a technical level. Please look at ME. Look into the LENS. Do NOT look at yourself in the display screen. It is off putting. You need to connect to your viewers and you can do that by looking INTO THE LENS. Lesson over.

All of these are valid

I agreed with guys kept looking for desires and searching type of guy, chill😂❤🥰🏳️‍🌈

Hey, can't follow you with any notification -it's a bell crossed out and one can't change it. Do you know what is going on?

@johnrichards3666

6 ай бұрын

Do you have an Amazon Fire tablet?

It's not hard to tell, no matter what there style.. it's very simple to tell through certain mannerisms, gestures, how they talk, eye contact, etcetera... Even when it comes to macho men, I can usually see right through it even though I may not say anything, but that is so I don't offend that person.

@zythr9999

6 ай бұрын

Care to share?

@krane15

14 күн бұрын

You're not seeing through anything. They're telling you. Just in a more subtle way.

Baby, you are NOT a looser ❤❤❤

Holy crap, you are definitely not a loser, no way

He is a very handsome guy…

Ur not a loser ur a great KZreadr and u are a handsome men so don’t say ur a loser ❤

Never call yourself a loser, it’s other people’s issue. Not yours

@krane15

14 күн бұрын

No, its not. You need to admit your weakness before you can correct them. All that PC stuff is mostly fake.

I think it's more just an overall feeling...watching someone interact with the people around them...watching yhe way they move and talk and carry themselves. It's toughest when you haven't seen lots of gays yourself...then your experience is lacking and it's harder to recognize these things.

thanks for the tip

Fruity I like that word ❤

okay but what if you really like this one guy, but he's like a 10 and ur like maybe a 4 or 5, like there's no way that's gonna work. cause that's what my first crush was so I never asked, but I found out in the end from others.

@winnied87

Ай бұрын

Or your self-image is bad and you never believe someone as hot as him will like you.

Yep 👍, Gaydar is seriously a thing. lol. We can tell if another guy is family.

@zythr9999

6 ай бұрын

How?

Ask him. (Massive eye roll)

This is accurate

Are you trying to find a relationship? What tips do you have for finding one?

They can’t tell the fact that I’m G.. 😂 But it’s hard 🥺

So fruity they have Toucan Sam tattooed on their shoulder? I mean he does have a roll of Life Savers on his bill.

U ever here that saying, everybody has a price

❤........... old school cruising before computers. Potential Meat Market on every corner!

God bless you ❤❤❤❤

Super duper cute 🥰

What does it matter what one's sexual orientation is? Unless you are trying to date them their sexual preference is persona3

@winnied87

Ай бұрын

This makes sense, too. Strangers usually keep things to themselves when in public. Most feel awkward when you approach them and so do you. It's ok if they notice you or give a look, but mostly it's just that and they may even pass you by without any reaction. Now, imagine you perceived accidental look as flirting and tried to react. 😂

Just subscribed.

@zythr9999

6 ай бұрын

Because of his looks?

Big handsome brute.

Adorable and lovely

i just think its funny when he says fruity😂, no offense Jaks, Love man!!💚💚

Not a loser, Bud!

what if I always catching him looking at me

For me it's kinda obvious when we share the same bed lol.

YOUR NOT A LOOSER! Please don’t say that about yourself!

You are not a loser okay. Love you 💕👬💯💚

I am 72 ( and handsome). I like hearing what the young guys have to say.

At 4:55 into your post, you said, “I don’t know, guys.” Oh, Jaks, please break that habit of undermining yourself and ymand sabotaging your message by saying, “I don’t know.” Best wishes and warm regards. *** P.S.-You look so hot 🔥 in your tank top 💪, especially when you lean back and put your hands behind your head.

My longtime friend from college (since 1970's) never dressed in style, he was/is always a mess.

Not acting like I’m here bc of that guy I like at school 😭😭😭