And in most court cases, the mediators go in and choose the abusive parent because they’re not trained professionals skilled to see Parental Alienation, which is child abuse. Some parents have been in the system for 13 years and have been able to just sit back and watch their families, be severed by the power and control dynamics of the Alienating Parents Using the child as a weapon it is the most atrocious crime anyone could ever commit on another parent and child

@kimcassproductions

5 ай бұрын

In total agreement with you.

I was married to a covert Narcissist for 40years and he has alienated my 2 children from me for 7years I have grieved and I just pray for them As you say I have reached out to help others which bring me joy

As a Father Alienated, more videos like this are needed. My ex is on her second rebound relationship and these guys spent nights there. We had separated and I went by to see my 2 sons and get any Mail. I pulled up and my kids looked out the open windows and ran off the their moms room. I knocked on the half glass half screen door, she came stomping to the door and started to close the door behind her, I looked and their was another man in my dining room. She ran me off threatening to call the police, because I asked her to bring him outside. That was a Sunday night, Tuesday morning I received divorce papers. At work I received a Order of Protection. So I can’t be anywhere around her for 2yrs. I did nothing at all to deserve this. It’s been a year so far and it’s too much. I’m currently seeking mental help. I can’t understand after 32yrs of marriage, I’m not allowed to see my sons 22 & 24, whom both a different forms of Autism. Stockholm syndrome has taken them away from me. Thank you for your support and video.

@TheEsolare

6 ай бұрын

I feel you bro. Don't let this to define you, stay strong and don't let her destroy your self steem. Work ourt, start new projects, invest in yourself.

@SilentObserveUnfazed

5 ай бұрын

@PhillyD-qi9wn I really feel your pain. I read what you say. I'm 65, and I've been there. You must look after yourself. Please, no destructive habits. God bless you 🇦🇺

@lynnschaeferle-zh4go

5 ай бұрын

OMG. My 3 are autistic. The kids always look like they have emotional whiplash because I act like I love them, and then dad tells them I don’t. I am seriously defective. A real stealth campaign; I didn’t figure it out until 40 years of marriage. It took the narcissist that long to have his dream. Kinda. He didn’t destroy me, I divorced his alcoholic butt. If it helps you I can tell you that kids go with the abuser. They see the loser parent as whatever the abuser says they are. My therapist says it’s like being in a cult and I need to move on. He thinks I can build another life and actually put people in it. Not going to happen. Except for the friends I hid everybody else believes what the narcissist says I am. His revenge is complete. The reason I am writing is that 2 years away might help you understand your kids are brainwashed; and the abuser won. My comfort is I raised them, they are decent people and they are not like their dad. They have a heart; even if their heads are screwed up.

@jacobknapp2236

2 ай бұрын

You are not alone brother. I am 43 yrs old I am being alienated from my two boys they are 6 and 9 yrs old. Their mother has falsely made two protection orders against me, both times she has failed. She is on a smear campaign against me in the boys school, church and she is always playing the victim card. This is a very stressful process; luckily I have a good circle of friends and family that look for me and force me to hangout, work out and just socialize in general. My friends have saved my life. I encourage you to force yourself to stay social and surround yourself with people that love you. You are not alone.

@lynnschaeferle-zh4go

2 ай бұрын

@@jacobknapp2236 I do know people who are going through this with young children and it stinks. Your boys are at an age where they really need you. The best thing is to fight! You can become completely alienated if you don’t know what’s happening. I’m sure you video to record the toxic crap and your boys will know that you love them. If their messed up parent is too much for them when they’re older and if they run you want them to know that you are safe and loving. You should check out the Anti Alienation Project.

My grandchildren will not have grandparents. Two are dead. The alienating narcissist doesn’t make any relationship. My malignant covert has been campaigning for over 10 years and I know I’m ejected from the family. The alcohol and jealousy and childhood experiences have made me the hated enemy, he can’t share the kids I raised. Every problem of their childhood has been laid in my lap, along with how sad poor daddy is. I’m fortunate I got to raise my kids. So now the price is my life. It completely changed and now I am accepting that I was tricked into thinking I had a relationship and a family. It was a deliberate long range strategy to pay me back because he couldn’t get to his stepmom and stepsister. My therapist says there are good people but my experience is that there are different levels of bad. That includes mental health professionals. Parental alienation? What did you do that could possibly cause that? No, I am not an abuser. But I made the mistake of not being one. I didn’t alienate the alcoholic narcissist and I didn’t abandon them. Had I known I would have; the end result would be the same. Alone

Thank you for the valuable advice, yes, the cream rises to the top. Be kind to the alienator and the children see and learn from this. My ex never invites me into his home and leave me standing outside, I do the total opposite and even offer him dinner, children remember so much. ❤ Just be kind and raise above this very evil act.

Thank you for your work. You have given me hope and helped me to have hope for the future. I am going through a child custody battle for my 3 year old daughter. My ex partner wants to move away with my daughter. My first daughter from a previous relationship did move away with my first daughter and it's been over 8 years since I've seen or heard from daughter. History repeats itself.

Be the calm person in the room. Learn not to react emotionally. (Dr Les Carter's videos Calm Confidence and When an Adult Coaches a Child Against You) Don't JADE (Justify Argue Defend and Explain) Don't punish your children for treating you badly with unreasonable anger, disrespect or humiliating you. However bad it is, it is because they are in pain. If they are threatening to harm you or themselves physically, get help for that. Don't badmouth the other parent. Don't tell others about it - most people don't understand and will judge you. Only talk about it to a professional therapist who knows about Parental Alienation. Educate yourself. Dr Amy Baker talks about the 5 Factor Model. Practise self care and self compassion.

Thank you

Thank you 🙏🏽

How about saying to your kids, calmly: "That is not true. Don't believe everything your father tells you." When you say this, you are not defending yourself... Because, if you do not make it clear that this is a lie, your children might think that what the alienator said IS true.

It is SO hard! At least w/a Narcisstic Sociopath with Sadistic Tendencies -I can tell myself ‘my children’s’ lives are at substantive risk’ -if I don’t ‘disappear’!

@lynnschaeferle-zh4go

5 ай бұрын

Be safe. I couldn’t leave my kids so I had to assess my risk and forgot about the cost of emotional abuse. I was as underground as he was. You have to check up on them without their knowing. Document everything and having a dog might be helpful. At the least the kids might come around

@teddebiddle

5 ай бұрын

@@lynnschaeferle-zh4go yes 🙌 rescue dog rescued me & after 15+ years! My girls (22 & 25) came to see me last year… They are not the happiest…

@teddebiddle

5 ай бұрын

@@lynnschaeferle-zh4go also- I didn’t leave my girls; they were taken!

@lynnschaeferle-zh4go

5 ай бұрын

@@teddebiddle I’m sorry, I knew how painful it is. From what I understand you have good chances to recover a relationship. Of course you need to get them first. I think in a lot of circumstances the defective parent either gets tired, or the teenagers get in the way of their fun! lives.🙏

@teddebiddle

5 ай бұрын

@@lynnschaeferle-zh4go thank you, & I grieve with you too for all the damage done to our beloveds…

I was an erased parent. Erased from my child's life by her Mother. Now I am a minimalized parent. I have been litigating in Bucks Cty PA since 2016! And counting. Why? PACS 2904 is not enforced. That is interference of a custody order felony 3rd degree. I am suing for negligence for my ex AND her attorney for $50k since I did not see my daughter for most of 2023. I am now seeing my daughter every Saturday for the past 7 weeks! I will be in court again on April 15. Will the judge award me the $50k or ANY custody make up time? No probably not. I am a member of IC-3 Interference of Child custody Coalition. We are trying to get PACS 2904 enforced. My advice. Represent yourself. Join IC-3, FACE (Family and Childrens Equality) and/or any state specific political group. Engage in civil disobedience Litigate, go after their money, and never give up!

@samdunlap5365

4 ай бұрын

Haven't seen or heard from my children in 14 years now,and they are in their 30's now 😢

@samdunlap5365

4 ай бұрын

Didn't see graduations,my son got married and I missed that.who knows if I have grandchildren or not

@fatherscarecourtsdont1389

4 ай бұрын

@@samdunlap5365 join IC-3 Interference of child custody coalition and helo us get The law enforced.!

@fatherscarecourtsdont1389

4 ай бұрын

Get involved politically to change the system Get a court order to see your sons If you ex denies you sie her for contempt and civil damages

@fatherscarecourtsdont1389

4 ай бұрын

@@samdunlap5365 if your kids are adults you or they can reach out anytime no court order necessary Get involved politically to change the system

A couple of years? This can be a decades long journey when dealing with a borderline ex and narcissistic family structure. Be kind to yourself and embrace a greater character not present for your children...

How is it that the mentioned org’s don’t recognize & research such a psych & emotionally damaging set of effects on children!!!!!?????

Remove family courts

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