s/o to the hmong dude who made it on genius brain lmao

I also believe in abandoning your family, some people are toxic trash.

“If they can’t do the stuff that shouldn’t have to be said then it’s already a bad sign “ applies to so many things 🙌🏾

“The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb.”

Will certainly be a sad day when david decides to call it a day with these podcasts. David and Joe vids in particular are so satisfying. Thankyou guys !

7:38 "Yo quiero 🌮 butthole" 😂😂😂

God I needed a topic like this. I'm moving out of my parent's house soon and cannot wait.

@narutoxzx123

4 жыл бұрын

@@Mnguyen92 gl

@Unforgiven11

4 жыл бұрын

You got this, fam.

I agree with Joe on abandoning family. It doesnt matter at all if they share your blood or last name, if they're gonna be shitty, toxic, entitled people, bye felicia! There's a background story as to why I firmly believe and agree with Joe on this. So when I was 16 and my brother was 11, my dad committed a horrible crime before he committed suicide. Now two things happened that showed me two sides of humanity in my moment of pain from sudden loss and trauma. One side was love and apathy (if not empathy) from the community of my church congregation who were there for my mom and the two of us. The other side was 180 turn of relatives to a horrible stranger wanting nothing more to do with us than to drag us to court over a stupid wasteland of a ranch where my PTSD stemmed from that was passed down from my dad to the two of us. I later on found out from a family friend that this particular sister of my dad's had the audacity to call everyone from my church congregation (especially my old bishop and current bishop) to rally them up to talk shit about my mom in court. All refused and told her to stop causing more pain on us, she ignored and hung up. I was livid and my blood boiled hella hot when I found out that information and gave up on the idea that the bitch who didn't respect my dad's wishes and religious beliefs and wanted money from our inheritance was my aunt. All this pain from her and other relatives who were on her side in this whole ordeal are the reason why I firmly believe in abandoning family that won't give a shit about your pain at all when it happens. EDIT: I'm half Latina so my culture does and doesn't have any influence of how I feel. Does because I have others that are all I got who've been by my and family's side since the loss happened. Doesn't because the ones treated me and family like shit are the ones who left out of our lives and won't ever give a damn about it.

The telling yourself a positive story about Uncle Ding Dong is gold. I've done that many times in my past and it's helped release me from a lot of needless pain

I’m moving out to since me and my parents are not on speaking terms and the best thing to do for me is leave

Family can be toxic negative people too. The way you are treated by other's is A. How you treat yourself and B. How you allow others to treat you. Once you are an adult you aren't bound. Dont depend on noone. Cut all toxic and negative people out of your lifes. You do not need energy leechers. Now if its people you cant cut off at all then do your best to distance yourself from them and keep busy. Set boundaries.

This turned out a lot more understanding than I thought it would be. I think people also should remember not to verbally and mentally abuse someone who is already in the dumps, like this uncle. That's a sure fire way to keep them down. If you want someone back on their feet, don't hinder the process by pushing them back down with your words and actions, because someone who is down is already mentally vulnerable usually, and that just breaks the cycle of them buildling enough self confidence to get back on their two feet. You don't need to make those mental barriers tougher, and it's cruel to do so. If you can't help them, though, that's fine-you're not obligated and you don't have to dote them and hold their hand, but just leave them be and stop bothering their healing process. As much as you don't like the uncle, he probably doesn't like you either.

When it's just you two > other guests

That topic on ambition also affected me as a kid. My dad as a pastor was so focused on church, flying to different countries for conferences/missions. And you know he really tried his damn best to spend that time with me when he could but it was always God’s work first. And sometimes I do wish I understood the bigger picture sooner and put different value on that time because I thought he’d be around forever. But because of his sacrifice I’m able to live comfortably now. So it is a give and take.

@kao5789

4 жыл бұрын

Paul Jung are you a moonie?

This is one of the realest podcast I’ve ever heard! Literally gave me 10yrs of wisdom in under a hour 👏🏽

Joe, real talk! 🙌🏼 definitely enjoyed this podcast guys. It’s nice being able to relate to others.

Im firm believer in pursuing your own goals instead of worrying about others. Instead of getting angry at people who aren't gonna change you should just focus on improving yourself. As much as you see them, they see you, and if you keep climbing and improving it's a direct insult to them who do nothing and will continue to do so.

Damn these podcasts keep getting better and better.

You guys have no idea how much I needed this episode!! This was seriously my therapy session!

Hmong family drama 😂 A friend of mine whose Hmong just like me, works as a CNA at a retirement home. A resident there, who is white, asked her, “why is it that I never see any Asians in a retirement home?” And my friend didn’t know how to answer her question. So my friend decided to ask our little Hmong friend group about why that is. I answered, it’s because... we were raised that you can’t leave anyone behind. Especially FAMILY. Sometimes it’s super shitty because everybody got that one relative that’s a total tool, but we have to love them anyway because we’re FAMILY. Because if you “abandon” them for your own personal reasons, you’re then seen as the bad guy. They don’t even care about the reasons too. You’re just the bad guy for leaving or cutting ties with them. All in all, asian families be fucked up.

@fatee5069

4 жыл бұрын

Asian families are fucked up...? It's not an AsiAn tHinG. It's a people thing. Imagine birthing and taking care of your ungrateful kid their whole life just so they can throw you in some shitty retirement home and visit every now and again just to see if they're gonna get a life insurance check anytime soon. I think retirement homes are more fucked up than anything. I'm not gonna let the two people who sacrificed their youth and freedom for me to be the adult I am today and more just go and live in a retirement home like a fucking pet. I guess you're the tool in your family the way you automatically make it an Asian thing. LMAO stop self hating and realize PEOPLE are flawed regardless of ethnicity.

@zuychan

4 жыл бұрын

Fa Tee damn for real right. Then you look at her picture and she’s dating a non-Asian. Not that there’s anything wrong with that but you can clearly see that it’s probably because she’s a self hatin Asian.

@phae_sezs1133

4 жыл бұрын

Fa Tee Did I say it was right or wrong to put your own elders into a retirement home? I can agree that it’s not right to put your own flesh and blood into a home being taken care by strangers who are paid to take care of them. Why? Cause I was RAISED to be like that. I was saying that BECAUSE I was RAISED in an ASIAN FAMILY that taught me to LOVE every person in my family REGARDLESS whether or not they’re greedy people who live off of your family. I was saying that, in our culture, mainly asian or Hmong culture- you can’t break ties with the people who put you down. Who live off the wealth you obtained on your own. I’m not a self-hating asian, don’t know where you got that from. I love my culture and the people within it, if you wanna talk about why I chose to be with a non Asian person, that’s another topic that doesn’t have to do with whether or not I hate asian people.

@fatee5069

4 жыл бұрын

@@phae_sezs1133 I don't care if you date an Asian guy, white guy, Latino guy, black guy, woman, trans. Lmao it's just the whole "Asian families be fucked statement" because you realize that most minorities have that same mindset right? To not abandon your family good or bad... The fact that you automatically assume it's solely Asian makes it look like you're tunnel visioned into not even seeing that non Western societies hold a great value on family ties. Anyways good talk

Hey guys I loved this podcast. So many points hurting that spot. Thanks for the insightful suggestions. A lot of what you guys mentioned is actually what I did when I had to cut out a toxic friend this year :)

I really needed to hear this. Thank you, David!!

What Joe is talking about around 12:00 mark is the Two Factor Theory of Emotion. When we we see a stimulant (uncle low life) and we create labels (create different stories) to essentially create an emotion or reaction out of it either positive or negative. Psychology is crazy and I can’t believe Joe just talked about it lmaoo

Great topic. Great advice as always David and Joe!

I freaking love these podcasts pls never stop doing these

Wow great timing with this video. Had an issue with a family member last night 😤

Love you guys! You guys are the realist! ❤

This episode hit me to my core! When you work for customer service and people keep shitting on you, can’t help but fight back because I was at the heat of the moment. Then i regret on how I reacted. This topic really is enlightening.. thank u!

Thank you for this podcast!

"I can eat for sure" lmao

This was quite a good topic and gave me some wisdom.

Awesome second segment on drive and commitment.

I rlly need to know this rn and I'm glad to have some answers.

The "blood is thicker than water" phrase is actually bullshit, the full thing goes "a promise made in blood is thicker than the water of the womb" and I fucking loved when family members tried using that against me

Insane how this came up during the time my parents are splitting and me needing to help my mom with her life

Love yall perspective. My boyfriend is a entrepreneur and let me tell you sometimes you take a second plan. What you guys said is 100% the case, but when you have good communication its easier.

Needed to hear this.

In for these deep convos

Haha. The ass uncle, every family has one. My brother called ours out for being a drunk in front of his wife and kids. He made fun of my bro a lot till he popped off on him that one day. That shit was hilarious, the look on his face was priceless.

Ya'll are some smart ass funny dudes, love these episodes! Oh and Joe continues to be my longtime crush

Good podcast 👍🏻

this is exactly what i needed, i just had a dumb argument with my brother about my birds and his cat

48:25 I've felt this too many times honestly when it comes to making videos/films in my area.

I agree with what Joe said about assholes are assholes and when he said distancing myself from them, I thought he was gonna follow it up with smth like Distancing myself from them will allow for more room for people that care about me and the ones I want to come in.

I'm high key that person.. thank you for calling us out on this!

pls do a podcast on how to build the right team and network!!

Unless you hear straight from the person's mouth and understand what they're going through, never negatively pre-judge someone. Like what Joe said, they could've been dealt the shittiest hand and are only making the best of it the way they know how, and could in fact be handling it way better than you could in the same situation, and need time to help with the healing process. When times are good, fortunate people always forget what it's like to be completely screwed through no fault of their own. But if you have evidence there's no higher goal or direction, then you could cut judge AFTER the evidence comes forward. Always seek to understand first before you write someone off. And you might have to do deep digging to get the truth out. People hide their traumas and setbacks for many reasons, most frequently due to stigma & ridicule, and many times for noble reasons such as not wanting to burden other people with their problems, opting instead to work through them alone and silently, because it's _their_ cross to bear. It's the approach that's not only healthier and smarter, but also more compassionate and understanding.

Twitter is my shyt! I’m damaged and I have a dark sense of humor so...twitter feels like home

David struggling to pronounce “Pessimist” was the funniest thing!!

Geniusbrain is talking about hmong people 😎😎

Please bring John Chang on! Would love to hear some of his stories

Do you mean plecostomus? It’s a sucker fish they’re very popular in fish tanks since they eat the grime that the other fish create.

I read this wrong. I thought it said losing family members. Like someone died.

Props david, I'mma get those sweats! #discount #cheapass

i try to have the same kind of outlook for fuckhead managers and pervy customers and coworkers 🙃 and they’re right, I shouldn’t expect much else out of them 😂😂

Did Joe just quote Coach Corey Wayne?!

Sounds like a Hmong lol

David is one fine tall Korean man.

My extended family is toxic afff, I’m always hiding from them but they always end up finding me. I think I need to get out of the state. The only reason I stay is because of the love I have for my family(dad, mom, siblings) They’re always wanting to know everything about me, when something good happens to me instead of being happy for me they’re angry??!

Patreon asker is definitely a Hmong dude. The 2/too/to/Tou in the username gives it away. Lol.

Can yall talk about social media

I'm definitely the loser in my family. I hate the career path I'm on, don't have a significant other, don't really have any friends, and no one in my family really even likes me. All they do is criticize me and tell me how much of a loser I am at family get togethers. That's why I avoid family gatherings. I'm just going through life all alone, day by day, until the day I die.

@salinax98

4 жыл бұрын

Robert Hsu if you change the perspective and say, you’re the winner in your family then maybe your life would have a different meaning to it as well. Your winning by living the life you want without anyone expecting anything! Rather than so much pressures on you:)

@roberthsu4862

4 жыл бұрын

@@salinax98 It is extremely difficult for me to change my perspective, especially when I know it isn't true. I kind of wish I wasn't even born.

This is some real shit.

That's an Einstein reference or quote isn't it, Joe.

After you left jk I kind of forgot about I’m still subscribed to ur channel, it’s kind of like you forgot about dr. Dre

hat if ur the one everybody hates in the family an u live along an they come over, there food here? (I don't know)

Yes he is hmong

Deadbeat whoever. My father in particular, what nothing to do with him. But the whole blood thing makes me feel guilty, so I still listen to his whining occasionally and say HB and merry xmas. A waste of my consciousness and grief, but it's hard cause my grams asks me why. So I continue with the self torture.

I 1000% believe you should abandon toxic family. blood may me thicker than water but shit is thicker than blood.

Xinnie the pooh!

#YangGang

3:25 - Meh... honestly? This appies to male fuck-ups only. 🤷🏻‍♀️ 9:29 - I love what both DAVID had to say right here. "Do it for you."

Should get Theo von on.

People who aren’t comfortable with their thoughts/morals/opinions lash out at those who challenge or oppose their views. They are so uncomfortable with their beliefs that they get defensive, rather than a person who is comfortable with who they are and what they believe in, can respectfully disagree and move on. However an example that I myself can’t let go is when one’s belief is driven to take away someone else’s right to believe what another opposes. Once you take away someone’s right to their beliefs it crosses the line between church vs. state. Any thoughts?

Mada fo mayn

The camera angle threw me off a little, makes me want to pick up the camera and fix it.

Joe is too jovial to give advice.