how to deal with friend breakups | detachment, friendship standards, moving on

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  • @tamkaur
    @tamkaur6 ай бұрын

    Reply to this with one non-negotiable friendship standard you’re setting for 2024 ❤

  • @ramaadhav

    @ramaadhav

    6 ай бұрын

    Someone who shares the same values as me. No one with a rotten mindset is allowed in my life anymore

  • @fathimaarshada4241

    @fathimaarshada4241

    6 ай бұрын

    Someone who would like to see me grow.. Instead of constantly pulling me down

  • @urdailyadvice

    @urdailyadvice

    6 ай бұрын

    someone who inspires me to be confident, love the videos tam, keep it up!! ❤️

  • @sophiiia0054

    @sophiiia0054

    6 ай бұрын

    I have to trust them with my whole heart

  • @ttmoore8750

    @ttmoore8750

    6 ай бұрын

    I need to feel as if this is a two-way friendship, not someone's stories on Instagram.

  • @rakshithaashok3409
    @rakshithaashok34093 ай бұрын

    Being alone is better than feeling alone in a friend group.

  • @velvet6403

    @velvet6403

    2 ай бұрын

    so true i was in a group of 4 other girls and they always excluded me. it sucked so much

  • @ariella75
    @ariella756 ай бұрын

    I needed this soooo much cuz i don't want to spend 2024 crying over a friend that doesn't care 🙌

  • @javiyaaastha7286

    @javiyaaastha7286

    6 ай бұрын

    Me too😢

  • @kpopcharlits

    @kpopcharlits

    6 ай бұрын

    Broo we are facing the same problem, i block her 5 days ago and i am feeling so good

  • @monematamanna3873

    @monematamanna3873

    6 ай бұрын

    same girl

  • @heartattackchuufromloona36

    @heartattackchuufromloona36

    6 ай бұрын

    real

  • @heartattackchuufromloona36

    @heartattackchuufromloona36

    6 ай бұрын

    @@kpopcharlitsjennie!

  • @mannatbudhiraja8420
    @mannatbudhiraja84203 ай бұрын

    Les be honest 50% viewers are one who are confused whether to leave your bestie or give her another chance since you were so close

  • @Shami_Audrey

    @Shami_Audrey

    2 ай бұрын

    bro 🥲so real!

  • @Rishhhhh985

    @Rishhhhh985

    2 ай бұрын

    Yeahh😢😭

  • @Candydice26

    @Candydice26

    2 ай бұрын

    Real 😢😂

  • @kari3960

    @kari3960

    2 ай бұрын

    Yesss

  • @sukb6136

    @sukb6136

    2 ай бұрын

    what did u really do then after watching the video

  • @donewlifee
    @donewlifee6 ай бұрын

    sis saves us everytime. I REPEAT SIS SAVES US EVERYTIME

  • @katherine.n.martinez

    @katherine.n.martinez

    6 ай бұрын

    Yes! Such a good video! We have to start prioritizing our own happiness and have only positivity around us. I also have a self improvement page! Let’s grow together 🤎

  • @Sheedah-21

    @Sheedah-21

    6 ай бұрын

    Subscribed love your videos too🫡💙​@@katherine.n.martinez

  • @meisclaro
    @meisclaro3 ай бұрын

    it just hurts sm to even think that we aren't a part of each other's life anymore. what hurts even more is, it didn't even end on bad terms, we just faded

  • @srinidhi.selvam

    @srinidhi.selvam

    Ай бұрын

    :( that's just most cases tho

  • @nedavius
    @nedavius6 ай бұрын

    oh my god NOBODY talks about how painful this is!! but everyone deals with this. thankssss

  • @katherine.n.martinez

    @katherine.n.martinez

    6 ай бұрын

    Yes! Such a good video! We have to start prioritizing our own happiness and have only positivity around us. I also have a self improvement page! Let’s grow together 🤎

  • @jungledrawsthings7761

    @jungledrawsthings7761

    4 ай бұрын

    For real. It’s hard to stay strong, but we know we have to because we can’t let them win. I hope you can get through this as well as myself, it’s no fun to deal with.

  • @nini6438

    @nini6438

    2 ай бұрын

    Today i cried at school i hated it letting her see me cry.....i felt so bad that i called my parents to take me home

  • @molebogengblessing9872
    @molebogengblessing98725 ай бұрын

    She has been blaming me for our friendship being toxic and i realized i was never the problem. I'M ENOUGH !

  • @phizzy123
    @phizzy1236 ай бұрын

    i had a friend who i considered to be one of my best friends who out of the blue ghosted me completely mid last year. i was devastated and kept ruminating over what i could have possibly done wrong, especially since the last few times we had hung out prior to them ghosting me, they never gave me any impression that there was something wrong with the friendship or our relationship with each other. i had been beating myself up literally the rest of the year, but recently i decided that i don’t want to consider anyone a friend who would do that to me. if she didn’t think i was worthy of a sit down and a grown conversation, then it’s clear we thought about the friendship very differently. going forward, i only want to welcome friends that can have these grown up, and hard conversations with me, even if it’s about us going our separate ways. this video really helped me get the closure that i needed!

  • @hosephhoesta

    @hosephhoesta

    5 ай бұрын

    help we in this together girl... i had a guyfriend who did similar shit to me recently and i still dont know why. we were fkin close too😀

  • @justmeofficial9910

    @justmeofficial9910

    4 ай бұрын

    This is exactly what happened with me. It turned out she just used me to cope with her mental health and as soon as I was of no help to her I was ghosted

  • @pash8523

    @pash8523

    4 ай бұрын

    ⁠@@justmeofficial9910dude yes I am in the same boats and I DO BELIEVE THEY USED ME TO HELP THEIR MENTAL HEALTH!! we deserve better! We are more then being non profit untrain therapist! We deserve support too and proper communication

  • @perfectionisboring6785

    @perfectionisboring6785

    4 ай бұрын

    Quite similar happened between me and my longterm close friend. She already gave me subtle hints since 3 months and didn't wish me on my birthday but kept on watching my stories. She gave excuses of her trauma from her narcissistic ex and her getting fired from job and not being employed for an year almost. I sympathized with her and things continued but still she would initiate conversation almost null on WhatsApp but would be sending me reels on Instagram and sometimes would act weird to my few serious types of questions or topics making them about her. Few days back I asked about how she was doing, she blocked me all of a sudden for this. How ridiculous! I literally got panicked and blocked her back and severed all ties with her. She did unblock me afterwards but I didn't give her third chance to make myself fall into the loop of her moody and unpredictable behaviour and her trauma dumping on me and using me as her emotional punching bag for her trauma from her ex, ex friends and her former workplace My duty was to help her heal and suggest many such pages and channels including Tam Kaur's and advising her to take therapy. Rest it's her battle and she has to fight on her own

  • @chawhsuthwe5552

    @chawhsuthwe5552

    Ай бұрын

    Same. I was with that one girl who I share interests and ambitions. She was my closest person in class. We ate lunch together and almost everything. Now she has quit the school. I asked her a question and tried to stay friends, but she didn't even view my message. She replied to other girls in the class, though.

  • @cabdifataaxxuseen1497
    @cabdifataaxxuseen14976 ай бұрын

    Going thru a friend ship break up and this came at the exact moment thank you

  • @Lazybear2222

    @Lazybear2222

    6 ай бұрын

    Me too

  • @natallyVB

    @natallyVB

    6 ай бұрын

    Right, im so heartbroken. I had to wait a lot to have a kind of closure, I didn't want it to end..

  • @Yurpsh

    @Yurpsh

    6 ай бұрын

    friendship breakups feel worse than real breakups

  • @Cadeebolt09

    @Cadeebolt09

    5 ай бұрын

    @@Yurpshfr

  • @lauraevers3276

    @lauraevers3276

    4 ай бұрын

    Same😭

  • @sweetlike_honey
    @sweetlike_honey6 ай бұрын

    yes girl 2024 aint bout to be me wasting my tears on ex-friendships that don't deserve it!!!

  • @natallyVB

    @natallyVB

    6 ай бұрын

    I decided that this year. I have been crying years for this person because I thought we were gonna reunite and I needed clausure from what happened and all the hurt. But the universe heard me and after not seeing her for so long I saw her at the distance, she looked happy. And people said she showed no importance to me at all. Im so heartbroken about all the care I had, all the mental health lost, even physical. Time lost, studies because of mental health. But I think seeing her happy without me was the closure I needed to leave everything in the past and overcome my present by myself

  • @katherine.n.martinez

    @katherine.n.martinez

    6 ай бұрын

    Yes! Such a good video! We have to start prioritizing our own happiness and have only positivity around us. I also have a self improvement page! Let’s grow together 🤎

  • @sweetlike_honey

    @sweetlike_honey

    6 ай бұрын

    @@natallyVB yes girl that person is ( I hope) doing well rn but I'm way more glad u got the closure and realization to stop giving a damn abt them, its high time you leave that era and enter a fresh and wayy better chapter of your life..wishing you best of luck on your journey bestie! i wish the best fy

  • @natallyVB

    @natallyVB

    6 ай бұрын

    @@sweetlike_honey thank you so much 😭❤ Sometimes I still do not know how to overcome the hurt and struggle but ill find a way. I hope the same for you, new things will come 💌

  • @dollfaceloveslanadelrey
    @dollfaceloveslanadelrey6 ай бұрын

    i just JUST cried about how am i the second option in every friend group then right after i stopped tam posted this masterpiece. I'm certain she can read our minds !! like what how--

  • @ridaxenub3162

    @ridaxenub3162

    6 ай бұрын

    RIGHTTT ????

  • @por_bookblog7437

    @por_bookblog7437

    6 ай бұрын

    I used to feel the same way until I started solo dating. Now I enjoy my company so much that I won't settle for being anyone's second choice

  • @prajaktashinde2425

    @prajaktashinde2425

    5 ай бұрын

    Gurl leave them and don't spend your time being anyone's backup friend. You deserve better 😌

  • @dollfaceloveslanadelrey

    @dollfaceloveslanadelrey

    5 ай бұрын

    thank you sm

  • @aadhyalagisetty1625

    @aadhyalagisetty1625

    2 ай бұрын

    GIRL CUS SAME, even I cried last month because I am the second option in our friend group this video helps alottt

  • @xojust_j
    @xojust_j4 ай бұрын

    I cut off two close friends, because at a time when I really needed it, they used my depression against me, saying that I would never be able to do things, leaving me much more down than I already was. I even thought about suicide. I'm still suffering a lot and thinking a lot about whether I did well, I'm still going to compete with an ex-friend in a test for a position, I didn't want to lose to her. I think it's my pride.

  • @ariyannabeltran1300

    @ariyannabeltran1300

    2 ай бұрын

    No matter what happens it will be okay. I deal with that too and you have purpose love! God created the universe and the most beautiful oceans and thought of creating you! I’m here if you like to reach out and talk about anything and this goes for anyone ❤️

  • @Me_Palak
    @Me_Palak6 ай бұрын

    I litreally have 0 friends and yea I do get upset about it but I think it's better be alone then being with fake people. For me friend word is not any less than my family so I am gonna choose quality friends and I know someone right will come up without struggling for it 💗✨

  • @aayushi73_

    @aayushi73_

    6 ай бұрын

    hey ! We can be friends! 🥹

  • @arsiema2

    @arsiema2

    6 ай бұрын

    ​​@@aayushi73_hi, can we be friends?

  • @rashmiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii

    @rashmiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii

    5 ай бұрын

    Heyyy we can be friends!!

  • @Me_Palak

    @Me_Palak

    5 ай бұрын

    Omg you all are too sweet!!!! 🥺💞🫂

  • @PrincessRosie64

    @PrincessRosie64

    4 ай бұрын

    Same I will be friends with you girly! You got this!❤

  • @barbaraban10
    @barbaraban106 ай бұрын

    This came in perfect time, since I'm literally in a current friendship breakup, and, like you said, there's little to none information about it. Thank you for making this video!

  • @katherine.n.martinez

    @katherine.n.martinez

    6 ай бұрын

    Yes! Such a good video! We have to start prioritizing our own happiness and have only positivity around us. I also have a self improvement page! Let’s grow together 🤎

  • @Theodora._.loveshappiness

    @Theodora._.loveshappiness

    6 ай бұрын

    Me too. And I still miss my toxic friends. I know I shouldn't but I do.

  • @dishabelagali5377
    @dishabelagali53776 ай бұрын

    01:30 drama & toxic friends 10:40 conflict & normal friends 21:30 move on & heal 31:00 lesson & new mindset

  • @faustajuss6324
    @faustajuss63246 ай бұрын

    I have been trying to detach emotionally from a friend and have been looking for signs of why I should detach from them and this video couldn’t have come at a better time

  • @ukoopbs
    @ukoopbs2 ай бұрын

    Broke up today but hardest thing is I have to see her everyday in college and I am so scared what will happen 😭😭😭

  • @Maddie-pe4ct

    @Maddie-pe4ct

    Ай бұрын

    update? about to go through the same thing..

  • @ukoopbs

    @ukoopbs

    Ай бұрын

    @@Maddie-pe4ct I just ignore her as much as possible though she apologised but this is like everytime she apologises and I give her another chance and she does it again so this time I ofc forgave her but I didn't forget what she did , as they say forgive but don't forget so ya just following that I just ignore her as much as possible and hangout with other friends and I do feel sad to see her everyday but I have to somehow remind myself that what she did and ya trying to move on somehow.

  • @laraaaaaa146

    @laraaaaaa146

    4 күн бұрын

    Hi! Just here to say you’re doing so well and I hope the best outcome for you from this. What you did is hard! I hope you acknowledge that!

  • @squeen988
    @squeen9886 ай бұрын

    Watching this video made me realize how worthy I am of genuine friends who won't be afraid to communicate with me when things get messy, respect me for who I am, never see me as a second option.

  • @kritijain7605

    @kritijain7605

    6 ай бұрын

    Absolute mood❤❤

  • @boutalebsiham4726
    @boutalebsiham47264 ай бұрын

    Not me getting betrayed by my best friend and it involving a guy I liked, double edged sword. I forgave her, tried to show sympathy, remained respectful and asked for an adult discussion only for it to be met by guilt-tripping, avoidance & lack of empathy. The greatest pain is when you realize that you cared and valued someone way more than they cared and valued you…

  • @claryfray2737
    @claryfray27376 ай бұрын

    I'm convinced we have some sort of psychic connection, because one of my closest friend and I had a huge fallout a while back and I REALLY needed this. And now its here 🤯🤯

  • @hooman4971

    @hooman4971

    6 ай бұрын

    babe u watch shadowhunters??

  • @katherine.n.martinez

    @katherine.n.martinez

    6 ай бұрын

    Yes! Such a good video! We have to start prioritizing our own happiness and have only positivity around us. I also have a self improvement page! Let’s grow together 🤎

  • @alexaistrying
    @alexaistrying6 ай бұрын

    Shoutout to the guy who ended our friendship because i liked him...twice 💀 he was kinda toxic and one sided to just me but at least it happened before i turned 20. Thank you so much for putting this info out there! Romantic love isn't the only kind of love out there people!! 💙

  • @_its.a.bella.
    @_its.a.bella.6 ай бұрын

    GIRLLLL it's 2am rn and i'm crying blaming myself about a toxic ex friend,the timing of this video is just perfect.

  • @haaniahunez
    @haaniahunez6 ай бұрын

    I literally broke up with my best friend 2 days ago, i needed this so much, thanks to my idol, tam and the universe

  • @silverbaepsae6859
    @silverbaepsae68596 ай бұрын

    Not only is this perfect timing, but the part about imagining a reality with a better circle of friends and not letting go of who I need to impacting my manifestations is sooo true. I know to let go of the old so I can make room for the new, better things and people. Thank you ♥

  • @natallyVB

    @natallyVB

    6 ай бұрын

    Right! It doesn't matter how, even if there was not closure on the friendship. We have to move on because there are so many things on the world experiences and people we are missing right now because of not letting go

  • @katherine.n.martinez

    @katherine.n.martinez

    6 ай бұрын

    Yes! Such a good video! We have to start prioritizing our own happiness and have only positivity around us. I also have a self improvement page! Let’s grow together 🤎

  • @sofiamarieborja6089
    @sofiamarieborja60896 ай бұрын

    What I love about Tam Kaur is that her experiences and her alone are so relatable.

  • @aureus2636
    @aureus26366 ай бұрын

    I loooove this. Everyone always talks about how to get over a romantic partner, but no one talks about getting over a friendship.

  • @Nssi._rdg
    @Nssi._rdg6 ай бұрын

    These things aren't taught at school. Growing up without having an elder sister and not able to share myself with anyone, content like this fills the void. Whenever you feel low, just think that u are a big help to many out there❤

  • @LUBNA_KHAN_1412

    @LUBNA_KHAN_1412

    6 ай бұрын

    Hey. Its the same with me . I am the eldest siblings. Even I dont have any friends . If there is anything I can say is believe in yourself. Feel free to share anything on my comment. - Your anonymous friend :)

  • @Nssi._rdg

    @Nssi._rdg

    6 ай бұрын

    @@LUBNA_KHAN_1412 🤗

  • @LUBNA_KHAN_1412

    @LUBNA_KHAN_1412

    6 ай бұрын

    @@Nssi._rdg ☺️

  • @chisannesennott
    @chisannesennott4 ай бұрын

    reminder that the lessons you learn from breakups don’t have to be crazy inner wisdom that alters the course of your life. i believe the greatest lesson you can learn from any type of breakup is something that’s often overlooked: the fact that you CAN be loved. it happened once, it can happen again. love takes on different forms. but looking at the core, love is love. going through a friendship break up right now. it’s rough. i’ve lived with a bit of a toxic mindset because of how often i’ve been hurt by people before. but this time i’m trying to reach towards the light instead of descending further into the dark. the sun will shine through our windows once again. the sun is always there. there is periods of absence. but it always comes back.

  • @somiaatef9395
    @somiaatef93956 ай бұрын

    FRIENDSHIP STANDARDS 14:27 1- Do you still get excited to spend time with them? 2- Do they align with your future and your higher self? 3- Are they a positive influence on you? 4- Do you trust them with all of your secrets and do you believe they are loyal to you? 5- Are the conversations you have together fulfilling? 6- Do you leave them feeling happy or drained? 7- How do they make you feel about yourself? 8- What’s their relationship with themselves like & how is that impact you? 9- Can you truly say you respect the person they are & you’ll support them in their journey of going into the person that they want to be? 10- what does this person bring to your life? 11- Am I capable of being a good friend to them ? do I really like and respect them that much?

  • @titiksha__345

    @titiksha__345

    5 күн бұрын

    Gonna take a ss

  • @lisafgr
    @lisafgr6 ай бұрын

    wake up mother just posted!

  • @katherine.n.martinez

    @katherine.n.martinez

    6 ай бұрын

    Yes! Such a good video! We have to start prioritizing our own happiness and have only positivity around us. I also have a self improvement page! Let’s grow together 🤎

  • @priyadeshpande23
    @priyadeshpande236 ай бұрын

    I NEEDED THIS RNNNN

  • @adelkaa__08

    @adelkaa__08

    6 ай бұрын

    SAME

  • @j_liette
    @j_liette6 ай бұрын

    Literally cried my eyes out an hour ago :( . I was gonna comment abt perfect timing cuz im going through shit rn but then in the comments most ppl are going through it too 🥺🥺. So I hope everyone gets to live a beautiful happy life ❤💫 and find someone that truly does love you.

  • @rt2gd

    @rt2gd

    4 ай бұрын

    FELTT

  • @vanessaprincesssa
    @vanessaprincesssa6 ай бұрын

    Ever since the beginning of 2023 I have been through the ugliest friendship break-up. THANK YOU, TAM ❤ I have been healing and it’s going well. 🎉😊

  • @throughtheblueside
    @throughtheblueside6 ай бұрын

    my favorite advice was about my friends having high self-esteem, because it made me self-reflect. if I talk about my self negatively to my friends, it sets a bad example for them as well. another reason to start improving my relationship with myself

  • @m.g.844
    @m.g.8446 ай бұрын

    I needed it so badly a year ago. I feel like this part of me is healing

  • @natallyVB

    @natallyVB

    6 ай бұрын

    I needed this 4 years ago😂 but just now I think I am healing by myself actually

  • @katherine.n.martinez

    @katherine.n.martinez

    6 ай бұрын

    Yes! Such a good video! We have to start prioritizing our own happiness and have only positivity around us. I also have a self improvement page! Let’s grow together 🤎

  • @siyaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
    @siyaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa6 ай бұрын

    I am going from a several friendships breakup. I thought that maybe I was the problem. Then,i realised my worth. That whatever happened, happened for my good. I am happy now. I start cutting off those friends who are toxic and are spreading negativity in my life. I am not cutting off those people's because I am toxic. But because for my peace. Thankyouuuuu so muchhhh tam!!!!! You're besttttt. I loveeee youuuu 💕

  • @bydiksha
    @bydiksha6 ай бұрын

    Following your advice since last year i literally changed my life, from getting a proper morning routine to having a great mindest, believing in universe, achieving my goals, manifesting (it really works), developing my own style, beating procrastination and everything. Thank you so much Tam❤ you really leveled up my life🎉 kudos to youu✨️

  • @Loveyourself-Ayya
    @Loveyourself-Ayya6 ай бұрын

    You’re presence is so elegant and gives off Marilynn Monroe energy in your own beautiful way. You have been such an inspiration I truly love watching your videos while I’m cleaning around the house ✨✨

  • @mvstrqrdd
    @mvstrqrdd6 ай бұрын

    stop. how does this girly actually read my mind im scared. i literally am going thru a group friendship breakup cuz i stood up for myself and theyre making me the villain. girl everything ur saying is so true like oh my god. thank you so much tam youll always be my idol

  • @Mansheen11770

    @Mansheen11770

    6 ай бұрын

    Wishing u the best nd don't even let such people's opinion define ur worth. Proud of uu for standing up FOR U!! Xx

  • @ananyaaa_017
    @ananyaaa_0174 ай бұрын

    im so serious when i say this, this video was EXTREMELY helpful, i cannot even put into words how much appreciation i have for this and tam, wish all your hardwork pays off. such an inspiration.❤

  • @soumyagupta5746
    @soumyagupta57465 ай бұрын

    I have been friends with this girl for 7 years and she was the most toxic person i have ever seen in my entire life . She make would make fun of my mental heath problems infront if others just to make herself look cool . I would go home and cry in my pillow for whole night thinking about what's wrong with me and what have done to deserve all this . I asked her to be on my birthday she said she was sick so she wouldn't be able to make and on the same day ,same restaurant i saw her with her boyfriend . I was to scared to leave her because i had noone excpet ho her and now i m left all alone couldn't take that anymore . I was chokimg , dying every single day , i felt like some has put a big stine on me heart and world is crashing down.

  • @maitreyisriram6471
    @maitreyisriram64716 ай бұрын

    I recently left a friend group that I had been besties with for 10+ years, so I needed this video to learn how to basically move on without them. Thank you Tam!

  • @nebulasofia
    @nebulasofia6 ай бұрын

    I feel like you always upload what I'm currently experiencing. I'm in a phase of my life where I'm experiencing changes in friendships and making new ones, since I feel like the universe is pulling me to take decisions and see if I do it for myself or forbthem.

  • @katherine.n.martinez

    @katherine.n.martinez

    6 ай бұрын

    Yes! Such a good video! We have to start prioritizing our own happiness and have only positivity around us. I also have a self improvement page! Let’s grow together 🤎

  • @ttmoore8750
    @ttmoore87506 ай бұрын

    Thank you for this video it spoke to 16-18 year old me. She owes you a hug.I cut off my whole social group at sixth form and my social group outside of sixth form basically kept the same energy as them. I went off university and never looked back, I think it killed them more as everyone they ran into who knew asked for me and then over time stopped asking me.

  • @ryansfunnyandvlogingdojo1245
    @ryansfunnyandvlogingdojo12453 ай бұрын

    the only women i genuinely respect

  • @cataclopintheskywithdiamon8032
    @cataclopintheskywithdiamon80326 ай бұрын

    Now when i think of the friendships that were toxic, i realize it was obvious that it was not going to last. In "friendship" as in love relationship, there are red flags. And the questionS remain the same : why did i settled for something less than what i deserve ? what is my part of responsability (NO SELF-BLAMING 🙏) in the dynamic ? how can i change positively ? how can i grow from this ? When i was able to see these relations out of the lense of victimhood, i felt instant gratitude for these experiences because i knew i had stepped into the opportunity to build my self for the better. 💜

  • @shalenah

    @shalenah

    5 ай бұрын

    I resonate with this sooo much 👏🏽👏🏽

  • @jafar.777_
    @jafar.777_6 ай бұрын

    thank you sm for posting this, I've been thinking about unfriending one of my friends for awhile because I think we've outgrown each other, and we are both bad influences for the other

  • @eden3181
    @eden31816 ай бұрын

    THE TIMING OF THIS AAAAAA

  • @iamjadennicole
    @iamjadennicole5 ай бұрын

    Thank you for this video! I have always struggled with friendship breakups much more than romantic ones lol. Your perspective on this really helped me see a different way of dealing with this kind of hurt. ❤️‍🩹 Always love your uploads & your energy 😊

  • @sanskriti_barua
    @sanskriti_barua6 ай бұрын

    omgggggg I’m crying because this is EXACTLY the video I needed back in 2022 & beginning of 2023 when I had a friendship breakup with my best friend‼️ It did hurt in the beginning but I was SO DONE with the disrespect! But now coming out on the other side, I TOTALLY 💯 AGREE with EVERY SINGLE WORD you said! Thank you for this & whoever is going through this, I’ll say the pain gets diminished with time. Give yourself grace! ❤️‍🩹💋

  • @katherine.n.martinez

    @katherine.n.martinez

    6 ай бұрын

    Yes! Such a good video! We have to start prioritizing our own happiness and have only positivity around us. I also have a self improvement page! Let’s grow together 🤎

  • @sanskriti_barua

    @sanskriti_barua

    6 ай бұрын

    yesssss 😌💌

  • @yaramoe979
    @yaramoe9796 ай бұрын

    I genuinely love tam . I literally dropped alot of my friends just because they don't align with my future self and I left one and am literally so fulfilled cause we both can grow and bloom with each other zones

  • @sal-lu_22
    @sal-lu_226 ай бұрын

    YES I NEEDED THIS ❤️ tam is the big sister we all need !!!

  • @elle.is.a.menace
    @elle.is.a.menace3 ай бұрын

    my toxic 'friends' stopped talking to me literally today.. and they where so rude , embarrassed me in front of people mainly boys for attention , shouted at me and always gave me disrespect for no reason and i would always let it slide to avoid drama , i have always been trying to detach myself from them but never had the courage now that this has happened and i watched your videos you don't understand how you are helping me right now!! THANK YOU

  • @rashiarora4778

    @rashiarora4778

    18 күн бұрын

    I went through the same a few years ago and just graduated and saw how much values and morals i gained by the same drama! I hope ur journey feels even better ❤send all love

  • @manandeepkaur3530
    @manandeepkaur35306 ай бұрын

    I genuinely needed this advice an yr a ago, cause the amount of pain I went through was endless. Hearing u talk about friendship breaks made me realize I was not wrong to feel the way I felt, cause somewhere I started blaming myself for not getting the respect, love, appreciation and a positive response in any sort of communication we did. I dealt with this feeling of pain each day and then finally I decided to stop letting me treated that way. But all of that has made my a strong person with high set of value, also that realizing my worth in a relationship is so imp.

  • @m_i_a_aa
    @m_i_a_aa6 ай бұрын

    i literally cannot believe this just came out at the PERFECT time. there could not have been a better video than this. Thank you so much Tam ❤❤

  • @lailamo7399
    @lailamo73996 ай бұрын

    Literally such a great time to post this video! My best friend and I just ended our friendship and I see it as a positive thing, eventhough it’s unfortunate. With videos like yours, others and books I stood my ground and don’t feel any regret or guild :)

  • @katherine.n.martinez

    @katherine.n.martinez

    6 ай бұрын

    Yes! Such a good video! We have to start prioritizing our own happiness and have only positivity around us. I also have a self improvement page! Let’s grow together 🤎

  • @rickydoa9198
    @rickydoa91986 ай бұрын

    oh my!! i asked for a video on this ages ago and im so glad to see tam create a video on this. currently im a struggling with a friendship breakup and i really hope I can find ways to heal. thank you tam for paying attention to ur subscribers !!

  • @ImMadihaSalman
    @ImMadihaSalman6 ай бұрын

    Thank you for being you Tam. And I think the lesson that hit me the most is the part about the loneliness that follows after a break up. Or at least the fear of it. It's hard since I'm kind of in the middle of it but I can already feel the new found respect and love I have for myself for being here with me.

  • @hadiyafaisal-bm6nk
    @hadiyafaisal-bm6nk6 ай бұрын

    ITS LIKE U READ MY MIND I NEEDED THIS SMMMM ILYYYY

  • @akaridana3238
    @akaridana32386 ай бұрын

    Omg Tam, this video is coming out at the perfect time

  • @swasssieeeeeeeeeee
    @swasssieeeeeeeeeee6 ай бұрын

    SO MUCH NEEDED TAM YOU'RE THE BEST🥺💜💜

  • @vickyscott703
    @vickyscott7035 ай бұрын

    Omg I so glad I found this. Its been 6 months since my friendship breakup its been hard but hearing this makes so much sense. I'll always have love for them and wish them all the happiness

  • @rakshatembhare2708
    @rakshatembhare27086 ай бұрын

    PERFECT TIMING WITH PERFECT VIDEO!!!!!!!!!

  • @Rishita_Naik
    @Rishita_Naik6 ай бұрын

    Perfect timing Tam🥺Much needed video. Guys am I the only one who's loosing friends a lot lately from the very few ones I had😫Not knowing what to do and where and when I'll find my tribe😢

  • @jazzmine86
    @jazzmine866 ай бұрын

    Loved it when you said not every loss is a loss some of them are blessings. So on point.

  • @simplygalaxy9463
    @simplygalaxy94636 ай бұрын

    Thank you sooo much for this, I can definitely see this helping out so many people I love how you’re always happy to make time to give advice to people, you are literally an angel sent to earth ❤❤

  • @the1andonlylulu
    @the1andonlylulu6 ай бұрын

    i needed this.😭😪

  • @T7_975
    @T7_9756 ай бұрын

    Tam is gonna be my lifetime fav teacher

  • @sehajpreetkaur990
    @sehajpreetkaur9906 ай бұрын

    I LOVE YOU FOR DROPPING THIS VIDEO 😭😭

  • @annie_j
    @annie_j6 ай бұрын

    you have no idea how much i needed this! thank you tam for being the big sister I never had, love you girly

  • @molebogengblessing9872
    @molebogengblessing98725 ай бұрын

    I spent a long time holding on to her because we went to the same trials and tribulations,today i realized she didn't love me at all.

  • @Shruti-go7sk
    @Shruti-go7sk6 ай бұрын

    Tbh while going to comment i just realised that lot of people going through the same thing just sending love and power to you alll❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @chabytemmie
    @chabytemmie6 ай бұрын

    YES NOBODY TALKS ABOUT THIS

  • @saraaraujo7455
    @saraaraujo74556 ай бұрын

    I NEEDED THIS SO MUCH

  • @jasleenkaur6483
    @jasleenkaur64836 ай бұрын

    You're definitely my big sister❤ thank you soo much for pushing me to become better person... And this topic is so important no one talks about.. Love you lotttss❤❤

  • @hkstudies7920
    @hkstudies79206 ай бұрын

    I'M SO IN LOVE WITH YOUR VIDEOS AND THE EFFORT YOU PUT INTO THEM, WAS GOING THROUGH A ROUGH PART IN MY LIFE WHEN I FOUND YOU, AND SINCE THEN I'VE BEEN HOOKED, YOU ARE MY BIGGEST INSPIRATION BEING A BROWN GIRLY MYSELF. LOVE YOU SOOO MUCHHH

  • @katherine.n.martinez

    @katherine.n.martinez

    6 ай бұрын

    Yes! Such a good video! We have to start prioritizing our own happiness and have only positivity around us. I also have a self improvement page! Let’s grow together 🤎

  • @ShravaniNayak-is8vo
    @ShravaniNayak-is8vo6 ай бұрын

    Omg! What a timing, I needed this tam!

  • @bellabarojas5336
    @bellabarojas53366 ай бұрын

    I’ll be applying your advice to most of the relationships in my life that I feel are falling off, thank you so much for releasing content like this! ❤

  • @TheClaramayBelles
    @TheClaramayBelles6 ай бұрын

    Love your content sm, you always give amazing advice that is very motivating ☺️❤️

  • @luras-stories9878
    @luras-stories98786 ай бұрын

    I needed this

  • @woolgatheringjane2793
    @woolgatheringjane27936 ай бұрын

    Omg this video couldn't have had more perfect timing, thank you!!!

  • @star._.822
    @star._.8226 ай бұрын

    i was going through a friendship breakup, and next thing i know, u posted- im so glad you posted- LY QUEENNNN!!

  • @roni9766
    @roni97666 ай бұрын

    Tam😭Thank you this is just in time, so many friends betrayed me and lied to me and everyone is so fake so i left a friend group, i hope this will be helpful, love you😭❤

  • @_akanksha2016
    @_akanksha20166 ай бұрын

    "does this bring me closer to my higher self".....thisssss one damn effing thing is turning me to the sassiest bossiest loveliest fking self every single day...ahhh I'm in loveeee with the way I respond to any and every situation every other moment everyyyyy day...💪🔥👑

  • @zzz6526
    @zzz65265 ай бұрын

    I swear, ur literally a goddess tam !! 😭❤️

  • @ecstasy3692
    @ecstasy36926 ай бұрын

    what if they were actually a good loyal friend but they just drained you constantly because all you guys would talk about was negativity or trauma dumping?

  • @simplyyyfab_u_lous_3266

    @simplyyyfab_u_lous_3266

    Ай бұрын

    Pls stay away from such...misery love a company💜☮️

  • @lina-bkz
    @lina-bkz2 ай бұрын

    what hurt me the most is that they didnt even try one bit once i stopped trying first in our friendship we never met once i stopped talking first we never talked again , it felt like they were waiting for me to do it so they can find reason to leave me out . and seeing them having fun without me hurt but i moved on an long hurting prosses but i moved on ❤

  • @xoaries7688
    @xoaries76886 ай бұрын

    how did you know i needed this?? love u!

  • @shreeya5189
    @shreeya51896 ай бұрын

    OMMGGGGG, THIS IS WHAT I NEEDED , YOU ARE A LIFESAVER ❤❤

  • @agustdpr
    @agustdpr6 ай бұрын

    hearing about the detachment part kind of affirmed me and what i have been doing so far in my healing journey, thank you sm tam

  • @christenmadison260
    @christenmadison2606 ай бұрын

    I don't know who needs to read or see this but Child of God I know there is a lot going on in the world right now, I know it might seem as though all hope is lost but don't you worry because God in his infinite mercies and Love has a perfect plan for your life and he will definitely bring you out from these adversites and trauma you are facing now victoriously just as he's blessed me and my family at the very point we felt all hope was lost celebrate with me and my family as we just completed our first home through trading and waiting patiently. in all you do, I want you to know that you are not alone God is always with you and there is a blessing with your name on it.

  • @user-ig2qy7yq9y

    @user-ig2qy7yq9y

    6 ай бұрын

    congratulations!! I will love to be your friend dear as well. as sharing some ideas which you're benefiting.

  • @user-ig2qy7yq9y

    @user-ig2qy7yq9y

    6 ай бұрын

    please how do you earn or should I say how does it work. are there steps I need to take, I need guidance my friend.

  • @kathrynkathryn2571

    @kathrynkathryn2571

    6 ай бұрын

    How does this trading stuff work? I'm really interested but I just don't know how to go about it. I heard people really make it huge trading

  • @christenmadison260

    @christenmadison260

    6 ай бұрын

    It is really not as easy as it sounds but Maymuun J Choi's insights and strategies have been helpful to me and my family.

  • @christenmadison260

    @christenmadison260

    6 ай бұрын

    Remember, success in trading and investing takes time and effort, but with dedication and discipline, it is achievable

  • @delaneyimiller
    @delaneyimiller6 ай бұрын

    AHHHH YAY I’ve finished like every video I’ve been waiting for a new one loveeeee this

  • @deandrevanmali9754
    @deandrevanmali97546 ай бұрын

    sooooo needed this video Tam 😭

  • @NityaGoyal-2802
    @NityaGoyal-28026 ай бұрын

    I just wanted to let you know that I came across your channel recently, and I have to say, you're amazing! You're such an inspiration to me. Keep up the great work!

  • @bhawnamishra8057
    @bhawnamishra80576 ай бұрын

    I had tears in my eyes at the end of this. But it was a much needed video.❤

  • @lpcas
    @lpcas6 ай бұрын

    tam ily so much you dont understand how much im greatful for you

  • @jpierce8148
    @jpierce81484 ай бұрын

    Girl I needed this I had a major falling out with my coworker who I had a massive crush on and who I thought was my friend only to see finally he was indeed not. It took me so much to unfollow him, for him to block me instead of asking why, for him to pay attention to another person at work and for him to avoid me like the plague. I would’ve been okay with just being friends if he had cared just as much but simply did not want something romantic. But he had to keep playing games and gaslighting me into thinking he cared. Thankfully he’s moving soon

  • @aesthetic2727
    @aesthetic27276 ай бұрын

    Needed thiss!!❤Was feeling a lil low todayy...tysm!When you upload my happiness is on another level everytime!

  • @haliec496
    @haliec496Ай бұрын

    Yeah, I'm at the outgrowing a friend stage atm. We were party buddies and all of the drama that came with it. During covid my mindset changed, stopped alcohol, didn't go back to partying. So we no longer vibe. Its cool. She is a popular party girl so she has a big circle. I keep mine small. I love my life now, I have many many hobbies, a great job and homelife. Im not missing out. I am my own best friend. Great video.

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