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@thekaiser4333

Жыл бұрын

In Germany we do not tolerate failure.

@defenderofwisdom

Жыл бұрын

Speaking as someone who studied metaphysics and ontology for a good 5-6 years I can say I have no f*cking clue what "the ontology" of the library is supposed to mean. Like, did you forget that drywall exists? Or that processes will occur in the building, but that the building isn't a process it's an independent continuant containing an aggregate of books? Or that while books are independent continuants the stories in them are generally dependent continuants? Like, wtf does regarding the being or existence of a library have to do with capturing an aesthetic form after a reliable structure is defined? Sounds like a buzzword use of the word, have you considered the radiology of the library? Or the entomology of the building? ffs Some managers try to be philosophers...

@sarahrsn3589

Жыл бұрын

Well, did a girl tell you that you are beautiful, you are neat in your words and clothes and respectful, my favorite type for finding girlfriends, but I want to know, do you do that all the time or just in front of the camera? 🇸🇦😆✊💚

@Tethloach1

Жыл бұрын

I think it is very productive to have positive feedback. Thats literally what makes the most sense, negative feedback should play some part. Ideal feedback Ratios: 75% positive 25% negative Positive: All that is right Negative: Room for improvement If people like it then they want more.

@TankEnMate

Жыл бұрын

In Australia vocal fry and uptalk is the norm, please don't lose it!

Please, don’t change your voice, or limit your hand movements. That’s what makes you original, unique and not plastic. I watch your content for its content and your unique way of delivering it. I love your fresh and unique approach to your message which is why I’m here, learning and being entertained at the same time. Criticism is easy, creativity and originality is hard. Thank you for being you.

@thewrongopinion7811

Жыл бұрын

Ditching the vocal fry would be a good idea, surely

@stephenvalente3296

Жыл бұрын

Italians constantly gesticulate with their hands. It's an accepted part of the cultural identity, so why not anywhere else? I'm told I don't take criticism well, but who does. I can self-analyse that criticism, and don't always agree with it, but I will at least try to vocalise my viewpoint either way. Realising it was right is ultimately is accepting failure and figuring out how not to repeat that in future.

@Casmige

Жыл бұрын

The forced contrived vocal fry is fake. People are tired of fake. People want authentic. Written in a very strained low-voiced unnatural voice-to-text cadence.

@lanarodrigues1974

Жыл бұрын

​@@stephenvalente3296 We latinos also talk using our hands and whole body. I always thought It was an universal thing until I stumbled upon the comments she shows in the videos. How can someone be bothered by that? I mean, when I'm talking to someone, I'm not looking at his/her hands. I guess people in north american must be a little more "riggid" with their communication (?). Also, I didn't understand whats with the vocal fry stuff complains. I'm not a native english speaker and I can understand her without having to recur to subtitles.

@SeaUnicorn

Жыл бұрын

I like the hands and the voice too. Makes it more lively and like she really wants us to understand the subject. Also how do you even change your voice, isn't it genetics?

I don't really know what vocal fry is, but I think the way you talk is fantastic. You're one of the most watchable and listenable presenters on this whole dang platform. I only discovered your channel today, after I saw a short where you talked about architecture. I instantly thought to myself, Holy Cow, I could listen to this person talk about literally anything all day long. I guess I'll stop myself there before the gushing gets out of hand lol. You're doing great work, I hope you'll keep going for years to come.

@markedgood

Жыл бұрын

Same. The comments about mannerisms are petty. We all have unique quirks. Celebrate them. If we didn’t have them we’d become monochromatic robots.

@davido9450

Жыл бұрын

I recently came across this channel and instantly dove in. I'm not sure if it was because of my untapped interest in architecture or just the way she presents. Likely a combination. I subscribed immediately which is very unusual for me.

@NickyLunaLove

Жыл бұрын

It’s the kinda raspy croak that can happen when you try to speak low

@tanxyrogue847

11 ай бұрын

this videos just made me watch a 20minute video on vocal fry

@bawbsmith

9 ай бұрын

Maybe next time, just look it up before saying that you don’t know something.

UPDATE: video is live again! Please let me know if you still have issues with the playback!

@waisign

Жыл бұрын

yeap. i guess i was not the only one. Looking forward to this. Keep it up!

@kebetulanbisa

Жыл бұрын

@@waisign it works on my phone, but only audio... meanwhile on pc it says my chrome can't play it

@Hemispherically

Жыл бұрын

At least we can hear you

@UsmanSubhani2020

Жыл бұрын

yeah even the preview keeps crashing the app 😲

@onebyfourbynine

Жыл бұрын

It worked fine on Tuesday, right after you posted it. Yesterday I wasn't able to continue where I left off. Weird...

I think a video on giving feedback would also be good, at times that's where the failure in communication starts

@DamiLeeArch

Жыл бұрын

Great idea!

I absolutely love your videos. Your presentations and insights are always professional, organized, and thoroughly developed. As for the complaints you've received, I have never thought of these things as negatives. Your voice, your expressions, and your gestures are yours. They are a part of who you are. They are a big part of why we all show up to watch your content.

@stevenvtrebus5039

Жыл бұрын

I absolutely agree. 😊

@7R1LL10N

Жыл бұрын

Same here 🎉

@lucasbhogal3790

Жыл бұрын

can only agree too

@MayDay_NTH

Жыл бұрын

100% agree.

@bodawei425

Жыл бұрын

Totally agree. You have a great personality. Your gestures and your voice are what make you unique and stand out from the others. Kudos! Keep going !

I'm retired now Dami and learned a few things on the way. People are way to judgemental and need to focus on their own s-it a lot more than they do. Some people will never like you and look for ways to undermine your performance and finally, watching your videos are a source of inspiration for me. Your delivery, content, topics are all exceptional. I am not an architect but you have helped me embrace the subject, isn't that what it's all about

I come to your channel to watch you because of your ability to convey a topic in an engaging way. Your expressiveness and personality is a large part of what makes it possible for me to stay and listen and learn from you. Please don’t change a thing. That said, we could all benefit from trying to become the best version of ourselves that we possible can…no exceptions.

Dami, let me go on record. I love your hand gestures. They are expressive, and natural. There may be quite a few, but so what. I love your facial expressions. I like your voice. Project more if you like, but I do not have a problem with it. You are showing a mature, self-deprecating, and analytical approach to all types of feedback which is both admirable and sometimes productive, but also bear in mind that some bosses, clients, and coworkers at certain times and in certain places can be just bloody unreasonable. Some are un-observant, some are insensitive, some are unfair. There will be times when after a calm evaluation, it may be a justified conclusion that you are being unfairly accused, bullied, manipulated, or that they are throwing their weight around. On those occasions it is ok to smile, and tell them charmingly but assertively that you do not agree, and why you do not agree. Sometimes you need to re-take a hill. I think it is brilliant that you started your own business, and I look forward keenly on watching your ongoing successes.

As someone who has trouble giving feedback, receiving feedback, and everything in between. I appreciated your measured and well-thought-out approach to explaining feedback as a whole and wanted to say thanks!

By the way, that's crazy how, the quality of your work make me listen stuff that I don't even care, so I learn again and again. Perfect tone, perfect voice, perfect rythm, image really good... You nailed it ! (My comment has nothing to do with this specific video, but with your work in general) About this video, really cool, good to see a deep feedback like that

Your vocals are OKAY and your hands are not SMALL. In fact, when we first subbed was because of the way how you presented the video on 'THE LINE' and the choice of how you chose your style of voice. Keep at it. The comments at 1:05 really annoys us. Your awesome! Edit: Thanks for sharing this wholesome content about feedback. We truly gel in how we humans react towards criticism that are against who we are as an 'identity' - identity triggers. Stay awesome!

@IsraelCountryCube

Жыл бұрын

Her hands are small. Don't deny I don't know whats to say there other than what is

@personaladdress3539

Жыл бұрын

@@IsraelCountryCube but its a good thing

@shinbakihanma2749

Жыл бұрын

Her hands ARE small. She's a little asian chick. That's how her hands are supposed to be😕

@rolux4853

Жыл бұрын

The vocal fry is definitely there, most women learn it because their real voice didn’t give them enough confidence and they use it to make them „bigger“. Most People will not acknowledge it because they are personally hit by it, but that’s the background.

@chrisworkhunter3876

Жыл бұрын

@@rolux4853 it's a dog whistle for misogynists, let's be real here

I actually love how you communicate, your vocal presence, and your very engaging hand gestures. Keep it up! :)

1st, I never leave comments so this rare exception for me means I was really impelled to share this feedback: I’m not an architect (although I wanted to be when I was young) and yet I’ve been religiously watching all your videos for over a year. I’m wildly impressed by your content, creative delivery, and natural presentation skills. I’m very grateful for all the countless hours and effort you put into creating these and I learn so much from them that translates to my profession and/or life. I’m shocked that anyone would leave negative comments, and wish to echo the scores of positive comments here on this video. Thank you DamiLee for everything! I’m proud to be a fellow Vancouverite of yours 😁 (is the grammar in that last sentence correct? Feedback please!)

@stevenvtrebus5039

Жыл бұрын

Again I totally agree.

@IsraelCountryCube

Жыл бұрын

*atheistically procrastinatingly* stupid you say religiously when there's nothing religious about it.

@nassimabed

Жыл бұрын

You inspire me to start a Grammar Police League specialized in negative feedback specific to grammar and spelling. It pulls legs incredibly well when wielded strategically in social media comments 😂😂

@yuzuke4573

Жыл бұрын

I'm not allow to vote because there is no organizers to take care of the events.

Spot on. I think you're a brilliant documentarian that just so happens to be an architect 😆

I can't believe the negative comments people have posted...so unnecessary. You're so endearing, expressive, intelligent, comical, well-spoken... the list goes on. And this was yet another great video - one that's applicable to anyone - not only architects.

I'm in my final year of art school and I'm really struggling with weekly group crits. It has been excruciating getting nothing but negative feedback every week for 6 months, its had such a negative toll. Thank you so much this video has helped me tremendously in trying to navigate the entire situation. I've been able to reengage with the group and even access on other major problem areas.

I was so scared of critic and presenting my projects at first year of studies! :) Now I feel very confident with public presentations or group discussions but back than it was a nightmare! Presentation is a skill which even shy people can master :) Great video , as always

You’re genuinely hilarious with your little edits and stuff. You have better comedic chops than SNL (ok setting the bar low, but still). These approaches are super helpful to just about any relationship too. Great video.

I only recently discovered this channel and don't often write youtube comments, but I felt compelled to write. I work in IT and also give and take a lot of technical training so I have seen a lot of presentation styles over the last 30 years.. Your presentation style is absolutely top drawer. Your hand movements and your voice come across as totally natural and it makes your videos a very easy watch and listen. Sometimes people can take continuous improvement too far and actually make things worse, look at those golfers who have been brilliant, then tried to rebuild their golf swing, it often does not go well. Right now, in terms of your overall presentation style you are that pro-golfer, I wouldn't change a thing.

I love your voice, the way you talk, your sense of humor, all of it! That's why I started watching your channel. I am a photographer so I'm interested in architecture on some level but your delivery made it even more enjoyable. I really loved the creativity you bring and as your channel has grown I love your new stuff more and more. I just watched your video "Why we need AURA in our Lives" and was blown away. Your ability to combine your knowledge of architecture with other real-world topics in beautiful and creative ways is like magic. Keep it up! love it all! =)

Thanks for sharing your experience! Useful to anyone regardless of your profession. Honestly learning how to receive feedback I think is more important than learning how to give it! Thanks for reminding me about the book.

Great video, Dami! As an Engineer I can definitely relate and it's nice to hear this topic broken down from someone who has faced these situations recently. Also, I honestly like the way you talk, I find it unique and it's actually one of the many reasons I enjoy your content. Maybe that's just me lol but I'd say don't stress too much over it 😅

@DamiLeeArch

Жыл бұрын

Thanks!! I guess it also goes to say, you can’t please everyone 😅

@MarkWRoberts

Жыл бұрын

@@DamiLeeArch I actually had to "Google" "Vocal Fry" as I had no idea what it was... LOL, and maybe it's just me... but I "don't" hear it... as for the hand movement, I think it adds to the "descriptiveness" of what you are saying, helps fulfill the statement with emphasis on topic. Yep, you said it best, you just can't please everyone...

@stevenvtrebus5039

Жыл бұрын

@@DamiLeeArch I didn't know what Vocal Fry was either. The definition doesn't really help understanding what it is supposed to mean. I love watching ypur videos even though I am not an architect. Keep doing what you do.😊

@hcxpl1

Жыл бұрын

@@MarkWRoberts I feel the same about the vocal fry and now I'm curious if she didn't change her voice a bit from earlier videos, seeing as I discovered her recently. About the hand gestures I do agree, though, I find it really expressive and helpful to keep up with what she's saying, as Tom Scott would put it, they are a meaningful part of communication.

@ludwigsonline3499

Жыл бұрын

I like the sound of your voice (including the fry). What I always find difficult to understand, if someone has an issue with your way of presenting stuff, they can leave at any time…no one is forcing them to stay. So why comment like this (1:05) and not in a supportive way. Keep up the good work, you are doing great!

Your ability to discuss such drastically different subjects in such a thorough and professional manner is amazing, while adding your own sense of humor so seamlessly! Love it! Wishing you all the success and enjoyment you deserve in your journey.

I know nothing about architecture but this channel has quickly become one of favorites. I appreciate the content.

That nervous “he he “ when you were explaining the circumstances to your boss I felt that

@DamiLeeArch

Жыл бұрын

🤣😂🤣

Dami I actually appreciate your voice and the casual feel that and fullness that having vocal fry has. I'm fairly tall and speak in a naturally low register, giving me alot of vocal fry as well. It's nice to have a full sound when alot of content creators push their voices and EQing of them often high & too loud. This probably wasn't solicited feedback and I apologize but felt like this was a moment to show some appreciation!

@robertmartens7839

Жыл бұрын

*a lot

One thing I've learned as I've progressed in my leadership is to obtain consent before offering feedback, as well as trying harder to 'pull' feedback that's timely, specific and actionable so others know how to give useful feedback. many times feedback is too general or vague, or comes too late to be useful. If you get in the habit of making sure your receiver is ready to hear it, as well as being specific about the types of feedback you want/need, it helps others know how to help you.

Experience can definitely help with managing constructive feedback because we begin learn how to interpret it as useful towards a greater good instead of a negative tear down. In addition, if we envision our assignments from a meta-view (managements perspective) it really helps get us through a project because we know that we're contributing our part to a larger cause which can also aid us in better empathizing with the decisions that management are making since the stakes can be much higher for them. Having a Stoic, Zen or similar mindset really does help us exercise healthy detachment from things that are beyond our control allowing us to appreciate that edits, revisions or start-overs are going to be a part of the process and that it has nothing to do with our lack of ability and everything to do with bringing out our best work on every project. Management chose to hire us and not somebody else so that means they really do believe in our potential ... no matter how much annoying feedback they throw at us! PS - I like your hand gestures, seldom vocal fry and up-talk. Some people may think it's an issue but I don't agree whatsoever, it's a personal preference.

“We’re processing this video. Check back later”. Is the message I get when I try to watch this video :(

Vocal fry is something you are born with or acquired throughout years of speaking. I watch KZread for two things, to get entertained and/or to get educated on things I do not understand. You do both perfectly. If people cannot get past through the so-called "vocal fry voice", they're just being nitpicky. Love your voice and I love your content. I can listen to it endlessly and not get bored with it even though I have no clue on architecture and how does one work. Much love from a fan (and a subscriber) in the Philippines.

Thank you for the insightful (and really helpful) video. Not only was this good for me to hear (and absorb), but also caused me to not only reflect on how to receive criticism, but on how I should treat others if I am in the position of having to make a criticism - by being polite and courteous to others and focus on the issue, not the person. Your insight and wisdom are gifts - and I appreciate your willingness to share these gifts with us.

Hey, What an amazing way of putting this delicate subject! As a Previsualization artist i deal with this roller-coaster feedback on a daily basis and it is so important to not take criticism as a personal attack for anyone's sanity... this video should be shown in any life-schooling class .. Bravo!

You'd think every single person that went through architecture school should be able to handle negative feedback somewhat fine, since some architecture teachers can be very rough, but sadly that's not the case. The biggest issue is to define yourself by your creativity and then having negative feedback targeting that one thing, hard to separate your ego from the objective "reality". I just found your channel a couple weeks ago but i gotta say i love your content and the way you present it.

@arturodelarosa4394

Жыл бұрын

Also you asume the feedback is objectively right. It is worst when the feedback is truly wrong, and yet you are still expected to manage it. Perhaps that has to do with your example here, as students, there is a high likelihood that the the teacher is giving good (objectively speaking) feedback even if done in a negative way. But as a profesional, you are most likely getting feedback from either a client, that has no idea what he is talking about when it comes to architecture, and yet makes some dumb demand. Or people who are presumably your equals in skill and knowledge and wont necessary be giving you good feedback but rather their opinion on what is better. Leading to conflict. rightfully so.

You are great, just ignore annoying comments like the ones you shared. Love your content and also how thoughtful and interesting your topics are. Cheers!

Great summary on the topic, I will recommend to others. Two things that I find I find helfpul: 1) Active listening. If I'm not sure if I understand what the other person is getting it, I might say "Let me see if I understood that correctly." or "This is how I understood you. Did I get it right?" and then summarize it in my own words. 2) Reframing. It's not positive or negative, it's pleasant or unpleasant. It really helped me to notice to differentiate between what has been said and what my reaction is.

Just discovered your content and love how much research, thought and passion goes into your videos. There's nothing wrong with your voice or mannerisms. They make you who you are and I would argue they also make people connect with you more. I see a lot of people here saying the same. You mentioned that it's important to consider feedback when a lot of people are saying the same thing (and I agree!) but we tend to only do this when the feedback is negative and not when it's overwhelmingly positive. We'll find the one negative comment in a sea of positives and hyper focus on it, so that lesson goes both ways. Thank you for the tips on taking criticism more effectively and recognizing triggers. Definitely plan to use some of those techniques with my own clients going forward. 🙏🏾

I am facing the issue: "Your browser can't play this video. Learn more". Does anyone else face that?

The difference between being an architect and most other professions is that you are still being mentored by your bosses even past the intern phase. Criticism isn't just about your performance, but also your growth as an architect. In good situations architectural mentors can really help young architects grow, while in bad situations this mentor/student relationship can be abused. So one has to gauge if the feedback is positive or negative. ( a learning experience or not). If you are learning, don't fight it. But if you are in an abusive job, don't stay.

@luzhang2982

Жыл бұрын

Spot on. Regardless of the occupation, one has to first identify if its valid criticism, or abuse and other actions in the guise of 'criticism'. Frankly, if its truly a genuinely helpful or toxic work environment. That isn't always going to be the case, and assuming good faith isn't always the best idea. You have to actually find that out and gtfo if its not the case.

I just found your video. Your opening sequence was right on. I am a set designer, and I have faced these situations often, and was reminded of some advice I received from one of my graduate profs: “Don’t fall in love with your own work.” This is about communication. Early in my career it was about the skills in design; the drawing, model building, learning to be a competent colorist. As I progressed ,(having received much difficult feedback), I started having more meaningful meetings using quickly built white models that could be ripped apart and reconfigured right then, or doing sketches while in active conversation with the client. But it took awhile.

I'll be graduating this semester! and you channel really helped me improve my perspective through this whole 5 years of learning and growing. Love the content the effort the insight and humanizing the whole thing basically. Thank you so much for what you do!

Well, I've discovered your channel not that long ago and have binge watched your content for many, many hours. You are an amazing storyteller, and your videos are dynamic, engaging and beautifully edited. I love your sense of humour and your courage. It's not easy putting yourself out there and dealing with these trolls. Keep up the amazing work, you've made this Vancouver doctor here fall in love with architecture! Cheers

Sending you a lot of respect! (1. for making this video, and 2. for breaking down these issues that we all deal with! Very intelligent way to look at life’s obstacles 💪💪

Just discovered your channel & love it!❤❤❤In the meantime every person working for success on any level, keep in mind that others may often try to pull u down, & keep u there out of jealousy, fear, their own inadequacies, etc…. We flawed & often lazy humans have a hard time when we see others succeeding.

wow this video couldn't come up at a better time. I recently switched to freelance in a field that i have little experience in, and have been having a hard time accepting feedback from clients. Thank you so much for this! It was really helpful, can see myself rewatching this video a couple of times for the info to really seep in

No idea what vocal fry is or any of that other stuff. Those PDfs don't belong on an international platform. People have cultures and accents. Hand gestures are a natural part of a conversation that has always existed. Let's all stand motionless with our arms at our sides while talking. Literally inhuman, but let's do it. God forbid a fly to enter a sign language scene. I never noticed your hand gestures until I saw those comments. I'm looking at your pupil and iris and regularly gaze away during processing and listening like I'm supposed to. A growth mindset is important, but seeing the pretentiousness in those comments suggests other issues that are not yours. These are the unworldly bunch who stare at TikTok with their eyes glazed over. With all that said, your philosophy of growth and growth of philosophy is impressive. Professional Human Being: Certified

@DamiLeeArch

Жыл бұрын

Hahaha yeah I guess something I should have also talked about is learning to filter out the BS and pretentiousness 🤣 that’s a skill on its own!!!

Actually, what draws me to your videos is how you present your topics. Your voice has a commanding, yet reassuring tone when you explain your thought process and your hand movements just reaffirm the intention of you're saying. Being critiqued is not easy, especially when coming from your peers or your clients. But what you gain from it can be helpful, depending how it is absorbed. Sometimes people can't agree how a space should be perceived, so hopefully a compromise can emerge. Keep up the good videos.

@TheJunmengo

Жыл бұрын

Yeah same here, also there literally a thousand, dozen thousands of creators on this and other plataforms that might suit more your tastes i never understand people critize things that someone can't change you're just mean and unpolite i find her voice soothing

What?! I just found your channel and I'm already a fan. Not only your content is appealing, well redacted and mesmerizing but your videos are pretty well edited and quite soothing actually. Keep up your good work

My aunt is an architect, she sometimes brings her friends and relatives at her place to ask for opinion and other eyes perspective occasionally. Its not an easy job trust. Its like doing graphic arts but w a few measurements, definitely huge respect to you :). Dedication and keeping it forward no matter what the opinion out come is.

I love your videos, it really explains obstacles in architecture and I am thankful that you have our back. Also don't let anyone attack your hand gestures, it is just how you express yourself.

Huh, I find your voice quality & overall presentation to be clear & pleasing. To each his own, I guess. Your videos are superb with compelling content so thank you for your obvious hard work on them all 🌸

Hey. Thank you so much for this. This video showed up on my feed right after I got home from taking some feedback at work. I took notes during this entire video and rewinded it when I needed to to make sure I understood the entire message. You are my guardian angel in this moment. I am in school and entering a new industry as an automotive technician. I work with a team of top performers and am learning how to navigate my own shortcomings and limitations while I am in school full time while working evenings and weekends. Again thank you for this video. I’m literally about to write an email to my leadership team to discuss the feedback I just received and this has helped me to overcome my own emotions and use this moment to grow. I’ve been watching your channel recently and really appreciate all of your insights. Cheers from Kelowna. Glad we are sorta neighbors. Keep designing epic things. The world needs thoughtful architecture.

I found this really interesting as I am an artist in DeviantArt. As much as I hate criticism, sometimes the critical comments are right and the changes to my art only take a few minutes. I have to be open to criticism, especially from experienced artists. It stings sometimes, but I think we always strive to get better, and this is just a part of that process. Good video!

Very good video. Understand how to deal with feedbacks and discern good and bad critics are soo important in college and academic realm too

@DamiLeeArch

Жыл бұрын

Yeah very true. That’s why having regular crits and performance reviews early on in school is so important

Even though I have no idea about architecture , I’m addicted to your videos! After this one specifically, I realise it’s the way you speak. It tunes so clearly in my head ! Gj and good luck with your channel!

The first time I started watching one of your videos, I was at first a bit surprised by your voice, but a few moments later, I was enthralled. The tone of your voice, how you express your ideas, I find the whole experience beautiful and unique. I recently learned about "vocal fry" and that it is supposed to indicate anxiety among other things. I immediately thought of you and then thought..."Nah". Maybe for some people that is the case, but personally, I feel your voice calming and soothing. And the quality of your content is really among the best KZread has to offer. Feedback at work can be harsh and so very often, it can take place for a myriad of reasons not related to somebody's actual performance. In the maybe fictional scenario in this video, it almost seemed like somebody felt threatened, but it's just one of so many possibilities. Great tips though and food for thought!

Idk if it's my phone but for some reason the video is stuck on the thumbnail, no other videos in ur catalog just this one, hmmm. Well either way, glad to have found your channel, very interesting and inciteful. Subbed!😁

Forget criticism. Your the most inspiring architect I have seen. Your the reason I take interest in architecture. Much love to you.

@Kay0Bot

Жыл бұрын

That's the road to failure

Thank you for the video. I got depressed over negative feedback from management. Now I know how to calm myself down and respond professionally.

I work in the VFX industry and so much of this applies. Thank you!

You are UNIQUE! Keep up the good work!

Your videos are great My 15-year old daughter is considering architecture as a career and she watches your videos on a regular basis. Keep up the great work.

@Zhijinglim

Жыл бұрын

hey, dont

@carlsmith8850

Жыл бұрын

@@Zhijinglim Dont what?

@Zhijinglim

Жыл бұрын

@@carlsmith8850 the way architecture is presented through media or at least how most people know it is very different from reality, architecture is a path that is highly passion driven and also earn very little money compare to the effort needed to put into it . I recommend talking to someone that has an architectural background to make decision. Please dont look at the bright side of architecture only. (coming from someone in architecture for 8 years)

@carlsmith8850

Жыл бұрын

@@Zhijinglim Thanks for the help. Its like most things in life.

Hi Dami! Just wanted to say that I think your videos are brilliant, you have a charming personality and I constantly look up to you and your channel.🥰

As someone who is also always told that i “use too much hand gestures”, I can totally relate, but I haven’t noticed that about you until you pointed it out here!

This is all very valuable information. However, it assumes a couple of things. It assumes that feedback is correct, that it's honest, and that it's done for your benefit. In a good relationship, all of those things are true, but not all relationships are good. So it's also important to evaluate the person giving your feedback, your relationship, and how aligned this feedback is with your development and career and personality etc.

@DamiLeeArch

11 ай бұрын

That’s a very good point

I know you’re not a civil engineer or city planner but watching you play City Skylines would be fascinating

@Ulriquinho

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Yes!

@betterwithrum

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Plus 1, Sim City 4 as another path

Receiving criticism helps you learn about areas of your work that could be improved but it also helps you manage your own emotional reactions, helping you improve your leadership qualities. On top of this, you're also gifted insight into the other person.

I wanted to echo the tons of appreciative comments here, not just to be a cheerleader, but because I genuinely feel the same way about your videos! I LOVE your videos and not only have not noticed the vocal fry or hands, but really love every aspect of the way you present. It is clear you have invested a tremendous amount of time, energy, creativity and skill into these and the production value AND content is top notch…which leads me to my feedback about feedback! I was a life coach for almost 2 decades, so my job was literally feedback for 8+ hours a day! I love what you say about growth mindset AND, in the hopes that it is useful, I would also add that it’s really important to decide if the feedback someone else, or even many someone else’s, are giving you is something that is important to YOU to address. People have different preferences and priorities and values and styles, so, while I am all about finding the truth in the feedback you are receiving and using it to grow - I would say, don’t forget in there, to check in and make a decision about who YOU want to be and what’s important to you and only change in that way if it is something you want to change for yourself. Like with the vocal fry, yes, maybe a group of people spoke out that didn’t like it and that’s their perogative. BUT, those are the only voices you heard (initially) because the rest of the folks not only weren’t bothered by it, but likely didn’t even notice it (like me) as a thing at all to comment on, let alone express criticism or support. Only because you have published this video and highlighted those critiques, you are hearing that there are WAY more voices that feel the opposite way. So, I think it’s great that you were willing to work on that critique, but if it’s just because you heard it more than once, I don’t think that means it’s worth changing for - UNLESS - it is something that you personally agree with and think needs improvement or changing. There are just as many voices that you weren’t hearing that wouldn’t case their votes that way…and ALSO, your voice and hand movements are not a subject of democratic debate! We don’t get to vote on it! People have their preferences, but, you are a human being, not a Starbucks coffee order! You are you and you are in charge of who you choose to be. Full stop. So, to me, what’s left is the question, what do YOU think about your voice and your hands - work on it if you want to - don’t work on it if you don’t want to, and you can move forward knowing that there are some people that like it, some people who don’t (and most people who don’t even think about it at all). When a person includes this question into the feedback process, then, no matter what people think about you or your actions in the future, you will be at peace with them because you have the power of being in integrity to yourself. I know, I am not the best at being concise…that’s something I need to and choose to work on…later :) I hope this is useful. Thank you, Dami, for helping me learn and grow in all the ways I want to as I learn about being an architect and a designer. Can’t wait to watch another video!

This is archiphilosophy 😊and it is a pleasure to listen to you. Thank you

Always amazing stuff. Question... am I suppose to be looking at the still phrase of your thumbnail the whole time?

What you said around minute 13:00: I do that with character development for stories. I usually have some other idea first about who they are, but I'll try to think of things that they're interested in or that would deeply concern them, and then either read articles or watch movies and whatnot trying to assume that point of view. It's about as soul-tickling as you can imagine.

Such a helpful and thoughtful video Dami. Thank you for sharing your experience, I learned so much. The growth mindset section is so mature and brave of you to adapt for yourself and I just wanted to say that I appreciate and enjoy the way you express yourself; it makes you, you. Love your channel. 🙌

she's a cutie.

@LoseMillion

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Hu?

@HShango

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Everytime I see Dami, she's too attractive

Conflict resolution and interpreting another individuals way of speaking and behavior are the soft skills that make a HUGE difference in creative environments. The hardest moments in my career have always been the best learning opportunities. Usually it just means you're ready to grow some more.

I really enjoy your videos and your perspective. I wish these existed when I was in studio. I think your critiques are well thought out and well presented with the perfect amount of comic relief. Don’t stop, this one in particular could be a valuable tool for people starting studio or just life interactions in gen. Thank you

You are so great. Your voice, your sense of humor, the tone of your voice and the edition of the video. Non-arquitects , like me, are learning so much from you.

I love your voice, but more importantly, I really enjoy your perspective on architecture. Videos like this where you bring in the business, processing, managing aspects of architecture are great too, because it's applicable across business sectors and life in general. Keep doing what you do!

OMG I ❤ this. My evaluation of you: your success is triggering my/others' jealousy and as a human I feel like breaking you down rather than building you up because...... ancestors?

Wonderful video! As someone with a role that heavily features client work where engineers are regularly working directly with the stakeholders of our projects, there's a lot of applicability here. I would also agree with another comment here that expressed interest in a sort of flip-side video in this vein focusing on how to provide criticism. A lot of the people we receive feedback from at work are not necessarily in roles that involve a lot of project management or require them to evaluate others' performance, so they can struggle to provide actionable feedback. For my purposes, that feedback is often quantitative--does something function the way it needs to, does it satisfy whatever restrictions may be in place for the project--so what makes a poor response is fairly cut-and-dry, but I've definitely worked with quite a few people who struggle to communicate when they think something could be better without coming across as destructive or spiteful. Outside of that, I think an important caveat to dealing with criticism (which I believe you express here to some degree already) is that sometimes there really isn't anything to be done about it. Not all feedback is correct. Sometimes people don't actually think about what they are saying, and it really is a matter of explaining why a decision was made. One of the most difficult but necessary parts of my work is when a client comes to us, expresses something along the lines of, "this doesn't work the way we want it to, it needs to be like X, Y, and Z," and then we essentially have to say, "No, that isn't going to happen, and that can't happen." Similar situations can be true in intra-office feedback, where it can be necessary to be able to communicate with your peers and management that you understand what they are saying, but that other things are or will need to take priority. I also think a lot of our ability to respond to and grow from feedback can depend on the environment it is received in. Criticism may be actionable, but if it's given in a space or manner that is abusive or dehumanizing, it can be difficult to identify what aspects of the criticism should actually *be* acted on; e.g., if you are told that your behavior reflects poorly on your organization, some of those points may be true, but if that feedback includes criticisms like engaging in cultural practices or speaking another language--being an 'other'--it may be challenging to really know if any of those points should be accepted. Once again, this was a fantastic video! Thank you for making something that provides concise, functional information. In many places receiving non-trivial criticism can be treated as a personal failing, and providing people with the tools to introspect and consider how even negative responses can be used to develop both professionally and personally is incredibly admirable!

I'm a classically-trained vocalist with thousands of hours of public speaking and performance experience. Your voice is amazing, clear, articulate, and unique. Your hands aren't small, annoying, or distracting... in fact, in the short time I've been subscribed to your channel (during which I've watched and listened to many hours of you speaking) whenever I've had stray thoughts about your hands, it was usually, "Her hands are so cute!" or "I love the way she talks with her hands." My point is that your delivery is flawless, and you shouldn't change a thing-especially not for haters on KZread. Thank you so much for all of your hard work and for producing the wonderful content you make! You've made me a better, smarter person and I (like so many others) cherish you as a creator and educator.

This was a great video!! I loved all the advice and how you tied it to personal experience, that made it real for me. I realized that I do have some "fixed" mindset ideas about who/what I am and I need to work on being more growth-oriented around those areas. Also I don't think you talk to too much with your hand! you're wonderful!

Awesome video on how to handle feedback. I learned a new trigger "Identity Trigger". One mechanism I inculcated during my 38 years in managing people is to use a system called as SBI i.e. Situation, Behaviour and Impact.

I like Dami Lee as is!😽 And and fully support the path you are traveling. The reasons we pursue our goals pale in comparison the lessons learned by just walking the path.

i saw your video in rec and watched it out of curiosity and now i continue to watch your videos cause i love listening to your voice. it’s soothing.

I give public talks several times per year, and I actually record my talks so I can improve. One thing I noticed myself doing was repeatedly saying 'So' at the start of sentences. I notice other people doing it too now as a result. I used to say other filler words too but i mainly eliminated them...words like 'eh'...(this one was pointed out by a friend as a constructive criticism) ...it was simply a matter of being aware that they are simply filler words to eliminate a silence. I learned to be ok with small pauses and silences in public talks, which in turn helped me eliminate them. Some criticism is good. Helps us improve. However remember, there are a lot of trolls out there who hate seeing anyone doing well...they love to run you down. P.s. you do move your hands a little much...but on the whole, your videos are really nicely put together. Keep up the good work.

The egg scene really had me laughing! Thank you for the video.

Thanks Dami i am a Kitchen Consultant & During Preliminary Schematics i faced some negative feedbacks during web calls but your vids really helped me out

Not an architect. But work in construction. I have to give and take criticism, almost daily. This was a value watch. Ty for your honesty and sound advice.

Impact vs intent is a good way of describing why some people find it hard to receive feedback.

I'm a carpenter and I love building things. I take so much pride in what I make when someone has any criticism I take it hard. You are extremely intelligent and I'm sure you are a perfectist. Don't take things to hard let your work speak for it's self. Your awesome

I think your presentation skills, professionalism and insight are fantastic! Keep up the excellent work! Working in the medical field in leadership has been tough recently, and your videos have been a huge help the past couple months. Thank you.

the first video i saw of yours (Burning man video) i subscribed. Knowing myself i wasn't into those kind of things but somehow your video kept me draw in then it hit me later on. i think i really like listing to your voice, and how it feels comforting to me and by watching your vids i learned a lot about architecture. keep up the good work on the vids, i really enjoy them.

Oh no, I love the way you speak. Your verbal and non-verbal communication is awesome, engaging, and fun.

Absolutely love your videos, the information, the creativity, the visuals and most of all your personality (which shines from your beautiful voice, your smile, your hand gestures and the way you share your perspective). All help to create a very special experience: unique, innovative, thought provoking and expansive. Love them. Thank you. Incredibly grateful to have found you.

Don't change a thing. I came over from a clip on Instagram to this channel because I found you so intriguing. There will always be those that berate or criticize you for things that others (like myself) find intelligent and even attractive. Ask yourself, is the criticism you're receiving designed to make you a better person or a better person for the one criticising you. Food for thought.

That sitcom-perspective-shift trick is absolutely a godlike play 😄

hi, i'm new here. and i just want to jump in saying: i love the vocal fry. it sounds awesome. YOU sound awesome. ♥ pls don't change it too much ^^ also, more on topic: i am a senior software engineer (funnily also doing a lot of software architecture) and for a time i had a big problem with positive feedback. i don't know why exactly, but at my workplace i get so much positive feedback that it feels kind of surreal at times. and i fear that i could some day become conceited and take this feedback for granted. so i changed my view on the feedback. when someone says to me "you do X so well, it is amazing", i just interpret it like "i am very interested in X". i use this to steer my mentoring for my fellow junior devs and this seems to work really well. maybe too well, because now they always tell me how good the mentoring is 😅

That little bit at 1:45 about the library model was interesting. I always thought of architecture as the technology of buildings, but there is a psychological factor in how the building is to be used. But those two skills can be hard to find in one person.

Quite interesting topic. Thank you. Also today I learned what "vocal fry" is (with help of another video explaining the concept) and now I can put a term to something that I tend to find attractive and comforting about voices :D

I have a perf review coming up. This video was very helpful. Thank you!