I told my wife about my porn addiction today, after keeping it from her for YEARS!!! I hated to see the hurt in her eyes. She even told me to leave. However, she came around and told me that she’s proud of me for telling her, and that she forgives me. Can’t tell you how amazing coming clean feels. We are truly building our trust on solid foundation. My chains are broken!! Thank you so much Jesus Christ, for nudging me toward righteousness, and giving me the courage to do what’s right

I just confessed to my spouse and now I don't know if my marriage is gonna survive this. God help me.

@daviddykema209

4 жыл бұрын

Praying for you brother. I just had to do the same and it really hurts.

@jimbeaux89

4 жыл бұрын

How are you guys doing now? Hope y’alls marriage made it through!

Wanting to truly be truthful with my husband but it all ways used against me later. No real humility and truthfulness in him. Constant complaining about what I don’t do and living in the past. Such painful words and yet I know, without a doubt, our God loves me and sees my hurt. Confession is being truthful and it is painful...I know, and know that our God desires this....Being told I am not loved like he use to love me with no validity. Wants me to be like “when we were dating” but we don’t “date.” I desire this type of intimacy with my husband, adoration, truth, respect....ugh....pray for God to heal our marriage daily, minute by minute! Tears of frustration pouring out.

@trishawhitehouse4226

6 жыл бұрын

Sandy Burgoon My heart went out to you, and Prayed for you. Praying for your husband also. Sometimes, someone is not a safe person to confess to. Pray God brings you a Godly female friend to confide in who walks closely with the Lord. You need supernatural wisdom to discern how to interact with your spouse especially when their heart is hard and they are not allowing the Spirit of God to assist them in their life. There are times , circumstances to not confess certain things to your spouse. There are marriages where their is true abuse and such disorder, special Wisdom needs to be sought. Please seek counsel for you from a Godly woman. I used to get upset watching these things while I was married to a very dangerous man. It never made sense to me and now I know why: Most advice is given to be very general , helpful and biblical. There is a place for such help. I was married to someone who had given themselves over to horrific things I can’t even mention here. In this case, the general advice is not helpful. Only the Holy Spirit can reveal to you how to strategize in situations so extreme. Praying, fasting, and seeking Godly counsel is vital. I am now married to an amazing, Godly, spirit- filled Believer, but normal human man, with whom this kind of counsel is helpful. Praise God, Our Deliverer!

@sarahxDjiggzz

5 жыл бұрын

I am with you on this. Before I got saved I was so self deceiving and committed many sins including terrible sins against my husband. I am now a born again christian but my husband is not. I have confessed most sins to him but each time a sin from my past comes up in my mind and I feel I need to confess to him, it scratches off the scab on our marriage again. I don't know if I'm doing God's will anymore by confessing my past to him or if i'm just guilt ridden and can't fully accept the forgiveness of God for my past sins. I need help.

@trishawhitehouse4226

5 жыл бұрын

@@sarahxDjiggzz I know it's been a while, but I pray you got some help. Living in a marriage where someone uses your honesty to harm you is very painful. Praying you found a female friend/ counselor to help. Celebrate Recovery can be a great Christ centered place to find safe guidance while dealing with complicated and painful challenges. You are a sweetheart and I can tell have a humble heart. Please reach out..pray for the right woman friend to come alongside. Jesus loves and is proud of you! He hears your prayers and is acting on your behalf because you trust Him.

Absolute amen. I can testify to the power of confession in marriage. My husband and I have been continually confessing our sins for a few years now, and it has transformed our marriage. We are so incredibly close and ONE. We have absolutely no secrets between us and it’s incredibly liberating. We have both killed some serious sins by bringing them in the light. All of this has happened by Gods Grace of course.

O'my! Im terrified of confession. Prayers for me. Im in debt need to confess about that. Im lonely am afraid of being alone if I confess. Never a good time to confess.

This is one of the most helpful episodes I've seen so far-- and that's saying something! Thank you so much for going through the "theoretical", practical, and spiritual steps of all of this! Please, share more "tough subjects" like this!

This is so good! I needed this today and it just popped up on my suggested videos. WOW!! God is Good! I love everything y'all do, keep up the hard work.

Minimizing the lie and sin is so much worse than the actual sin. I have done this so long to my wife and broken her so much.

Thank you for transparency! This is a message that is an answer to prayer. I pray for your marriage to grow even stronger and deeper in Father Yah in Heaven!

Thank you so much for this video. I’ve struggled with lying, pornography, and self righteousness. Unfortunately, I didn’t confess to my wife as much as she found out. We are very close to loosing ourselves and our marriage. Please pray for us and thank you for this video.

This message really went into the depths of how holy marriages are designed to be by God and how it painfully yet wonderfully reconciles you to Christ through confessions. Thank you for the work that you're doing. God bless and love from India !

I have a major sin that I need to confess to my husband. I am getting sick over this. I was overcome by darkness that led me to a gambling problem for a year now. I have decided to never gamble again since it has led me to financial ruin. I need to confess to my husband. Please pray for me that he forgives me, and we can move past this.

Great message. Thank you!

A lot of husbands can relate to this. I hope many men will be able to watch this and finish the whole episode. Thank you for sharing this one!

Wow, this is my first time listing to you and this is very good material with truth. Thank you for this video, and your work. God bless you.

Wow! Thank you so much for sharing! I am single, but I am glad I saw the real part of marriage aside from the fantasy and how to deal with it instead of running away! It opened my eyes to practice Godly life, including this topic, now before marriage or relationship. SIngle or married, we all live for God, and Christianity is a daily walk with Christ. Everyone needs to hear this message! God bless you!

Wow! This was spectacular. This is going to be so hard on both of us

Fantastic message. I just wanted to comment to the fact that you mentioned someone pointed out how you two "interrupt" each other....I don't view it in that light. If anything I see the refining of the message being equal and your passion for the discussion is so apparent. Thank you. PS- just wanted to make sure you knew there is a segment of your audience that isn't married yet, still find you so valuable and inspirational.

@MarriageAfterGod

6 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for your point of view. And love that you are watching even though you aren't married yet :)

Thank you , no one speaks about this ..... I needed this I pray I can go through with this

This has been such a wonderful message to help me allow Yah to refine me and allow me to be merciful towards my husbands challenges and to confess my failings. There is freedom, the enemy can no longer beat us up about the hidden things!! Thank you so much!

:) long one too! this is so good!! no one even thinks of this stuff for their friends and other family.. or their spouse! i hadnt thought of it. i mean, we've confessed big things. but i think definitely what we need to work on the most is giving the space. often we feel justified in getting mad at each other over things, tho with our porn issues, i dont remember getting mad as much as disappointed, and we did actually pray about those times too. often, when you dont confess, then you dont have to revisit. i think it gets harder when you know you have to revisit, or it has to come up in a "so, how is this going" sort of way? maybe letting GO of that, trusting in your spouse's confessions! but maybe that goes back to confessing fully and correctly too. this was such good stuff! do we capitalize the pronouns of God too? took me off guard when they werent ;) (and theres a tiny little number skip.. 11 to 13? in the notes. lol)

Great message this week! My husband and I have been trying to be more patient with each other when we sin. He is in the process of quitting smoking, and the first and second time he's confessed sin I have been patient. However, if he were to do it again I know I would be upset. This gives me encouragement to be more patient with him and be sure that God will reshape him by killing the fleshly desire to smoke.

@MarriageAfterGod

6 жыл бұрын

Love this testimony. And I pray that God would continue to help your husband walk in freedom and strength.

So grateful to you and to God.

Wow knowledge is power I thank you Lord

Thanks god for this video.

Amen thankyou Jesus for speaking to me 😭😭😭😭.

Great message!! This touched both me & my husband! It was a great reminder of how important communication is in our marriage!! Can't wait to see next week's lesson!! And BTW: love your shirt Jennifer 😊😊

Indeed 💛🙏

So i guess if i been watching porn i should tell my husband?😰 I never made that type of confessions.😰 it would be hard is a bit embarresing. What if he judges me about it?😰😧😧😧i would have to feel very comfortable to share stuff like that.

Ok...that's all I'm going to say at this point with my husband. But GOD 💔

People always say you cant get help if you can't be honest with yourself. Great viewpoint!!! My wife is me and I am her. So if we cant be honest with each other then how can we recieve the help we need to help us change?

Learn to listen b4 you judge ,forgive nd learn to forget .but if there's no reason to solve the problem you need to ask for a help by praying honestly to each other ask the help of God nd the elders of the cong.but if he /she wont listen well its up to you if you will still be with her or with him

Thanks ! What if what you have done is terrible and your terrified of telling her because it would break her and your scare of losing her

Lies cant help to build strong kind of relationship big or small needs to avoid it or confess it that makes bothways can free to confess freely to your spouse your sin.

😺what if im not sorry because i like it and i dont feel guilty? 😓😒i confesse that i like it? How can i think is bad?

I’m worried that my wife won’t want to restore our trust.

how if confess and tell spouse, and in the future suddenly remember there is one more to confess - similiar case and situation happen before the first confession but forgot to tell her.. do I need to confess once more say I forgot the one similiar case but different times ?

Is the eph 5:25 shirt out of print?

As the bible says in a relationship there is sadness nd joy ..thats why husband nd wives needs to follow nd practice what jesus good examples of being submissive to our almighty father jst like husbands submit nd respect Gods theocratic ways treating their wives jst like themselves ..wives submit themselves to their husbands supporting all the way they need to share building a strong foundation with their relationship spending quality time nd knows how to respect bothways nd treating each other with kindness bcoz they work as a team

How can a emotional per build and grow a godly marriage with a literal person on an analytical person

Been struggling with porn I don’t have a wife but I have a girlfriend do I need to tell her?

can a person still have hobbies and still be in GOD

What if the other person doesn't repent even when he's been caught? It's hard to let go when the other person doesn't recognize they've done you wrong. Struggling with this. I have chosen to forgive but those feelings do get stirred up sometimes specially when it continues to happen and I feel anger and resentful :(

@Mayra-dl4tm

6 жыл бұрын

This is a great message btw!

@MarriageAfterGod

6 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your honesty. The only thing you can do is continue to pray for him and continue to walk the way the Bible tells you to walk. Also, recognize that his sin is against God. Yes you are his wife and he is sining against you but all sin is against God. He needs Jesus and a conviction from the Holy Spirit to change. Pray for that. Don’t give up. And ask God to help you see him how god sees him.

@Mayra-dl4tm

6 жыл бұрын

Marriage After God thanks for that. I continue to pray for him and his salvation. Please pray that my heart does not become hard against him and to keep my eyes on God to do His work in me and in Him. Thank you for what you guys do. I pray blessings over you and your ministry.

Not all ppl will accept your whole heart confession becoz they use their pride that leads them not to listen instead they still have negative thoughts that you cheated them even if its not even if its not that exactly happened .nd since then hides all the things that you used to share togethwr as one before but i can say a cheater is always a cheater he knows how to accuse bcoz he know how to do that 😔.god fearing ppl still choose to live with hinesty nd hving dedication nd devotion to her /his to their hubby or wife .everything bcoz you know somebody up there see you .

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Melanie... that’s a lot of confessing. You giving up all the names? Or just one? You’ll have to dump a lot of your Friends list if you tell Drew. I’m not buying it. You know as well as I do, when Wayne snaps his fingers exactly where you’ll be. Oh... and you’re still subscribed to him...

Don’t need to - she’s perfect and I’m not so there is no point - no understanding and no honest self evaluation. Like handing someone the torch used to burn your house down.