Thank you Alexis. Very specific to our needs . Finally & Slowly able to calm down my anxious thoughts with your videos and deeper insights you share along with this . Thank you

My ex says he´s incapable of saying that we're never getting back together, but he insisted in saying that this needs to happen naturally. I really don't know how I could ever make myself not want to be with him, even if I'm feeling way better about the breakup now. But I really don't feel good about this idea that we need to bump into each other one day and see what happens, without expectations. I feel we got to a point where it is impossible for us to get back, because even if we love each other, he feels overwhelmed about my desire of getting back together with him, while I feel extremely distressed thinking that I need to wait until destiny decides or not to make we meet each other by chance...

@DDartlover8888

7 ай бұрын

Same here. Maddening.

@darrellborland119

6 ай бұрын

@carolineelias7827...I feel your pain, Carol. There is a diagnosis for his condition, and maybe invite him to a discussion concerning treatment, after a date? After all, as we all know, time moves on, and maybe his avoidance-issues can be mitigated. Your ending leaves me feeling that you are putting up with less than you should, and looking poor, no offense intended. You deserve better, and I hope you are considering implementing changes in your favor, and ultimately, his. Please keep us apprised of your progress. Thank you, Darrell.

@skyt8327

5 ай бұрын

Any updates? I hope all is well!

@carolinegelias

5 ай бұрын

​@@darrellborland119 thank you so much for caring! At the end, I couldn't take it anymore and sent him a message telling him about everything that I was feeling. He didn't care about it very much, said that he wasn't sorry and told me that at this moment he needed to be alone and doing whatever he wanted without any concerns about the consequences of his acts. I found this to be extremely selfish and told him so. It is really over now and he hurt me too much, so there's no chance we're getting back together. I'm dealing with the grief right now, but knowing I do deserve more than what he was giving me. Thank you so much!

@carolinegelias

5 ай бұрын

@@skyt8327 thank you so much for caring! At the end, I couldn't take it anymore and sent him a message telling him about everything that I was feeling. He didn't care about it very much, said that he wasn't sorry and told me that at this moment he needed to be alone and doing whatever he wanted without any concerns about the consequences of his acts. I found this to be extremely selfish and told him so. It is really over now and he hurt me too much, so there's no chance we're getting back together. I'm dealing with the grief right now, but knowing I do deserve more than what he was giving me. Thank you so much!

Thank you, your videos always so specific and I'm learning much

Interesting topic, quite an art to navigate these troubled waters. Thanks, and subscribed.

Excellent video, Alexis! You convey sincerity and not "selling"... Thank you.

Thank you!! Very complete video 😊

Hi. This is such an insightful video. In another video, could you please discuss why you suggest breaking no contact with your ex? Other coaches do not recommend that and let the ex contact the dumpee. Thank you!

Excellent ❤

I can’t imagine starting over with my ex-love, because we were together almost 5 years. Fearful avoidant, bought an engagement ring and couldn’t bring himself to propose, despite having perfect opportunities. OMG, enough! He already proposed without a ring three times anyway. My feeling now is, are you ready to go forward, yes or no? If so, give me a call. If not, okay whatever, total loss for both of us but I can’t help you any more than the last 4.75 years. Being patient and understanding. Grow up. Am I wrong? I want him back of course, I love him, but I’m out of patience and not about to wait another 5 years. Is this too severe a position? It is really how I feel.

@AlexisFriedlander

7 ай бұрын

Being with a fearful avoidant is difficult so I understand if you feel like giving up. Your feelings are valid. But if he is really you person, then hold on to him. Have a counseling session for both of you.

Please do a free consultation 🙏🏻

Thanks

I like the Comic Sans

@Alexis When they are nice, dont be fooled. You are not getting anywhere. Can you describe this more? I might be in this situation, but how can I tell?

What if we still live together? He talks to me about the flowers I had planted and a few times he cooked but he's distant and an avoidant sooo...when he does talk he won't look at me.

Women usually use no contact to move on. Fact.

These people sound like my narcissistic ex but only worse

If it's a break up ,why we need communication skills if was luck of it in the relationship?🤣...no contact..ok 😁

@markai2002

Жыл бұрын

Because some people would like to try again with their exes...?

@gabriellaadam2230

Жыл бұрын

@@markai2002 never before no contact and heal.. right? After healing it's very possible that no desire anymore to get back 🙂

@markai2002

Жыл бұрын

@@gabriellaadam2230 Who are you to decide what other people should do? If no contact worked for you, go ahead and do that, but let other people communicate with their exes if they want to. Sure, everyone has to heal, but the desire to try again doesn't leave just because you do no contact 💀

@gabriellaadam2230

Жыл бұрын

@@markai2002 no contact doesn't just worked for me.. worked for a bunch of people who deal with f#king selfish people and continuing giving them space in your life will just reassure them that all good,no consequence of their behaviour.. nobody is responsible for the other person's wounds,so why keep bleeding on other people? No ! Heal and that is in therapy and with God 's help,not on KZread!

@markai2002

Жыл бұрын

@@gabriellaadam2230 I agree that no contact is a useful tool in some cases, but I don't think every relationship and situation can be generalized. Not every ex is a selfish, horrible person.

Hey man! If it’s an avoidant ex and I’ve been doing no contact for about a month now, do you think i should break no contact at some point? And if so, when do you think it’s best? Thanks