#selfhealers, let me know if this one is helpful! I promise you if you practice this one, life shifts. -Nicole @the.holistic.psychologist

@sandrajovic9304

4 жыл бұрын

❤

@kendrawilson9964

4 жыл бұрын

This was very helpful for me, thank you for posting this ❤️

@islagrace9960

4 жыл бұрын

Please please can you do a video on dissociation. I have been struggling with dissociation for over a year now, and some advice/understanding would be so valuable :)

@traceyoconnell9270

4 жыл бұрын

You are so amazing, Nicole. You speak so comfortably and fluidly about such complex feelings. So grateful you are teaching so many of us these valuable skills. It's so hard to remember to do the deep breaths- but EVERY TIME I DO, it works to help me calm down and feel my feelings rather than resisting them, avoiding them or screaming out. So tough. So worthwhile. Will continue to practice. FYI I took deep breaths the entire time I was watching this video and now I feel so much better than when I started watching.

@Samantha-th1dr

4 жыл бұрын

This was very helpful to me, Nicole! I just wrote in my future self journal this morning that 'I can use my breath to work through unproductive thoughts.' Thank you for explaining how I can do that better. I'm going to start practicing my 5 belly breaths every morning after I journal. :)

Why does mom know how to push my buttons? She installed them.

@savedbygrace9788

4 жыл бұрын

Cy Colburn gotta rewire your circuits

@peunn3407

4 жыл бұрын

Why does she only here me when I’m not talking to her?😬

@mandygreen6734

2 жыл бұрын

@@peunn3407 😂

@bringontherainbows8369

9 ай бұрын

This was an awesome comment

@gdm1979

6 ай бұрын

Exactly!!!

I used to do this I learnt Emotional intelligence & don't get triggered in the first place anymore, Learnt that I am 100% responsible for the creation of all my emotions, others don't cause my emotions others don't cause me to react, I do all that by myself, I can CHOOSE myself whether to react, I also Choose ALL my Emotions/feelings, learning this completely changed my life, I kicked all Drs meds Psychological types & healed myself from CPTSD PTSD DEPRESSION SEVERE ANXIETY SEVERE HYPERVIGGILENCE BI-POLAR few other nasties by learning Emotional intelligence, Learning I have a Choice because I choose my emotions/feelings I choose my reactions NOT OUTSIDE SOURCES I took 100% responsibility for myself & made different choices Said with much Love Kindness and Respect to all ✌🤔💖

@sandrajovic9304

4 жыл бұрын

I'm finding the same

@azaleaslightsage1271

4 жыл бұрын

@@sandrajovic9304 BLESS you on your Self healing self realisation Journey it's a Beautiful Journey a Beautiful space to be in ✌💖

@mariateresaemotionalmusings

4 жыл бұрын

I did the same so I congratulate you my fellow emotional warrior🎉 taking time to reflect and do the deep inner work that's needed helped me make that all important shift into my own body. When emotions from others make me feel icky I immediately tell myself that that's on them and has nothing to do with me personally. Good stuff my friend!

@azaleaslightsage1271

4 жыл бұрын

@@mariateresaemotionalmusings LOVE reading this Huge high 5 to you ✌💖

@mariateresaemotionalmusings

4 жыл бұрын

@@azaleaslightsage1271 awwww thank you...high gives right back atcha🤜

Before opening this app I asked the universe to show me something I need to see and this was the first thing in my feed. ✨✨

@xtinamarie_333

4 жыл бұрын

Same!!! ✌️❣️

Can we just sit together and I could release all my neuroses while you hold my hand and I cry

@TheHolisticPsychologist

4 жыл бұрын

We sure can, Gini.

@giniroserealestate

4 жыл бұрын

@@TheHolisticPsychologist Bless you for being here

@milaknowslight6307

4 жыл бұрын

I felt this ❤️

@tilottamam7315

4 жыл бұрын

gosh I'm crying through these videos

@eps4560

3 жыл бұрын

That sounds like a good idea to start one of those Meetup groups to do that. Just hold hands and cry it out. 😆 I am not kidding. 😐

The pause is so important, it helps us begin to ask why we’re feeling this way, and recognize that emotions and facts are separate things-once we have the space to pause, reflect and assess, we can also begin to routinely validate our own feelings, thoughts and perspectives as valuable, understandable, and completely acceptable without always immediately acting on them from a place of reactivity.

This happened to me today, I got triggered by my boss and in my emotional reaction sent him that nasty email.. I immediately felt really ashamed of it, and apologized. And now I see this video, so this will really help me in the future. If I would've waited 10 minutes and breathed, I probably wouldn't have responded in such a way. I have to learn to give myself time as well.. I'm usually very impatient and wanna get things over with, but 'cause more trouble actually. Thank you for your videos!

Working on responding rather than reacting in my life right now with my therapist ❤️ so this is perfect.

@TheHolisticPsychologist

4 жыл бұрын

It's powerful work, Nichelle.

@nichellehowell

4 жыл бұрын

🙀 we have the same name

Sadhguru said: the privilege of how I am feeling is only assigned to myself, to no one else. this is very helpful, thank you Nicole! it helps so much to understand it physiological to make more sense. love you so much, steph

@evadebruijn

6 ай бұрын

Seen Sadhguru on Diary of a CEO? ✌️

It’s been a year I’m trying to change my reactions when I feel emotionally overwhelmed. I get triggered many times and every time I make the promise that this wouldn’t happen again. I have always thought that I needed to change the people who hurt me, showing them that it was not fair to treat me like that. But I always failed. With this video I now truly understand that I cannot change people . I have understood that the only way to heal and to change my responses when I feel emotionally overwhelmed is to return to me and the most simple way to do that is breathing. It is incredible that your videos always come in handy because yesterday I had a very bad reaction after a while . God’s listening to me. And thank you Nicole for being his mouthpiece ❤️

@TheHolisticPsychologist

4 жыл бұрын

I see you. This is beautiful.

You, Tara Brach, and Yoga with Adrienne have had such a eye-opening and compassionate impact on my reparenting journey.

@EonsOfReflection

3 жыл бұрын

here, here, same journey >:D p.s. I also really love Christina Lopes, Teal Swan and J P Sears. maybe you might too :)

@AmbersSweatyChoker

3 жыл бұрын

YWA 🌹🌹🌹

@amimartino5364

2 жыл бұрын

Love Tara Brach

I saw this comment on another youtube video in the comment section that helped me! "This emotion I am having is real, but it may not be true."

It works, BIG TIME. Mom yelled at me “Do it right.” I was cleaning her spit up. Wow, I thought to myself who did this to her? I also realized why I’ve adopted don’t try, why bother, I quit to soooo many areas of my life! I had a good talk with my inner kid.

When she said,"I scream, 'f*ck you." I about died. I guess I didn't expect a therapist to be so salt of the earth. Hysterical. ..Very wise and relatable speech.

Some times I feel dark heavy emotions I don't even know thier names

@TheHolisticPsychologist

4 жыл бұрын

you and me both.

@smilelikeUmeanit90

4 жыл бұрын

emotions OR feeling? Not the SAME , I think.

You are actually explaining what ECKHART Tolle teach..wow...thank you...HOW TO RESPOND TO THE PAIN BODY.. you are friken amazing..thank you so much

Breathwork worked MIRACLE for me. I can't say that enough. I started that in December as a part of my routine. Then at the time of new year resolution, i wanted to make a resolution of 'doing yoga' but then i said to myself, it should be small so that i can follow. After beating my own resistance, i finally take a resolution for breathwork. And I'm so proud of myself for keeping it till date. None of my resolution survived this long. Thank you so much Dr Nicole. You are constant member of my gratitude journal 🌸🙏

I needed to head this!! I have such a bad reaction to reacting emotionally and it really hurts my relationships....I am going to start practicing this. Thank you!!

Damn KZread. You know me better than I know myself 🤣

@keyboardevangelist8956

3 жыл бұрын

Eternal life in heaven is a free gift from God. No human being deserves it due to his/her good works. We have all sinned and fall short in glory of God(eg.Jesus says if any man looks at woman with lust he has committed adulterly with her in his heart..No man is that pure😅). So how did God give us this free gift🤔? He sent his only begotten son to be betrayed,humiliated ,beaten and die as fine/payment for our sins and rose from the dead on the third day. Since he is a just God and has to punish sin. All you have to do is humbly repent of all your sins(read the 10 commandments) honestly turn away from them. Believe in/trust that Jesus did that for you. Confess with your mouth that he is your lord and saviour..You will be saved from hell🔥. The holyspirit(his omnipresent spirit) will in dwell within you and convert your cold heart of stone into that of flesh that can truly love God and be a slave of righteousness and not of sin. This might be the last time you read the true gospel of salvation..look around 🔥🔥 the end is nigh. Please don't reject God's gift. Your soul is on the line.Jesus loves you❤

I love that your videos are so accessible, 15 minutes or less, but so impactful! And, easy to digest, which helps. Thank you!

Please please can you do a video on dissociation. I have been struggling with dissociation for over a year now, and some advice/understanding would be so valuable :)

@TheHolisticPsychologist

4 жыл бұрын

I will do this very soon.

@hayat9095

4 жыл бұрын

Please I would like to know more this disassociating myself etc etc

Needed to watch this today, thank you!

Thank- you for making these helpful videos! Love your channel! 😊

Thank you so much. I appreciate this and all of your other content so much.

Thank you that was incredibly helpful ✨❤️

I liked and subscribed to your channel today. Your content is timely and relatable to me. Thanks! Here’s to a healthier 2020!🥳

Thank you so much for this. Very well explained, very helpful.

Love love love your shorts !!❤❤😊😊

Thank you, Dr. Nicole!

I really needed this video this weekend. Been a doozy. Thank you Dr Nicole

So thankful to have come across your page. So helpful!

Wowwww I just found your channel and I already know I’m going to be hooked... The way you explain things is so straightforward and super factual. Loved this vid♥️

your videos help me so much, thank you!

OMG... I love your channel!! Found you a few weeks ago. Keep them coming. These are gold. 🤩

Extremely helpful as well.as very timely for me. Thank you!🙏❤

Thank you for breaking this down in such a comprehensive way!❤️

Life changing practice. I was a big reactor. Thank you for this.

Thank you so much for this, Nicole. I really appreciate you. 💕

I truly enjoyed it and found it to be very helpful.

Omg so happy I just found your page, This is so relevant over my life I do this all the time I have awareness about my reaction but I don’t have structure on how to handle it. Thank you so much

You are great at what you do. You explain stuff so clear. Thanks doc!

So very, very helpful Nicole. Thank you so much for sharing this and all your other amazing videos!

Thank you so much. Found this at the right time. Very helpful.

Great insight. I have gotten a lot from interviews you've given, and will share with my friends. Best to you in 2020.

thank you. the tools you provide are invaluable. so grateful to have (finally) become aware of your channels and all the work you do. a blessing to receive these gifts 🌸

Great video!! Everything was explained so well and quick and brief!! Thank you.

I really needed this. I have needed it for years. Finally, a real way through.

This is very helpful information Dr Nicole. Thank you!

I just love you so much ❤ so genuine!

I’ve been looking to understand this!! Thank you for sharing! I really appreciate this because when I have kids, I’ll teach them how important their spiritual and emotional relationships are. ✨💗

This is so helpful! I’ve been wanting to learn how to deal with this better and the timing of this video is perfect! Thank you so much 💕 your videos have helped me so much paired with future self journaling. It has helped me more than going to therapy.

I am so grateful that I found you through Insta, and now I am so obsessed with your topics.Has been helping me a lot in my self healing journey in this lockdown. Thank you.For being so kind

Wow! First time visitor- that was awesome. I'm subscribed. Thank 💚 you - will be gack for more.

You have helped me tremendously!

So helpful.. thankful for this

This so HELPFUL. Thank you DEVINE 😊 💓

Thank you so much, I can completely relate, but your meditation has helped immensely. This is so helpful too.

Dr. Nicole, I have been following you for a while on Instagram (so grateful to my sister for introducing me to you) and now on KZread as well. . I just want to say I LOVE YOU. You are doing a brilliant job at helping people HEAL. You matter!

Thank you for sharing. I am healing evolving& finding many answers here. 💕

Thanks for sharing! 🙏🏼

You remind me of a teacher of mine whom I adore, and every time I watch one of your videos I get this warm feeling in my chest. You are an awesome person. Thank you for everything you are doing.

Good insights on emotional triggers n reactions or responses

Thank you. I was searching for a way today to work through pain that was arising again when your email arrived in my inbox. The way you articulated the process and pattern of triggers and how we can choose to respond in a way that is empowering really resonated with me.

I def needed this yesterday 😄 The breathing really is a heaven sent. It helps when I'm losing my sh*t. Grounding

I don’t even imagine that there are videos like that ♥️!

Lovely Video! Definitely going to try this helpful advice :)

Thankyou so much for this vital information 💓

So helpful. I'm so happy I ran across your video today!! Thank you

Thankyou this was so helpful, im so grateful for all that you have contributed to the community. You have no idea how much of salvation you bring into our lives. So blessed and thankful to have come across your channel! I just came out of an argument with mom..and its not easy living with a critical mom for most my life..for me this is the case with both my parents. Its actually heartbreaking to witness how me and my sisters get differential treatment based on how well we are capable of meeting their needs. And they do all this unconsciously but this pattern being repeated over several years have left a lot of resentment in my heart despite all the effort put into being present when around them, their critical words and differential treatment trigger past wounds and i end up reacting! Its a very slow healing process!!!

Thank you so much for this. I just had an extremely volatile reaction today that I'm afraid might've hurt my relationship deeply. I wish I saw this sooner, but now I know how to handle my emotions if I ever feel them come up again. I can't thank you enough

Thank you for this i need some deep work to heal

You are such an amazing person sharing all of this with us

I found this video helpful, you made me feel better, thank you, and I'll be watching more of you, for instance : "Here's what to do...". Thank you :)

I’m such a shallow, chest-based breather that my left lung collapsed when I was 21. At the time, Doctors had no idea why. Years later, now that I’m well down the self-healing path, I realize it’s because I was never breathing properly and held all my childhood traumas and wounds in my chest/body. My goal/purpose now is to help heal others so that they don’t have to experience these physical symptoms anymore. I’m so glad that we are now waking up to the mind/body connection!

@mjrussell414

3 жыл бұрын

Gen K Wow. I’m glad you are on the path to reclaim your life and find your purpose. Your story reminds me of that book “The Body Remembers,” how emotional trauma can affect health.

A huuuge thank you for this. So many videos tell you what is wrong, but not how to deal with it 💝🙌🏼

Dr. Nicole....I love your Sunday Pearl's of wisdom! As somebody who practices yoga, I have definitely benefited from breathwork and the energy it can build and also release into our bodies. It's hugely important! Once again you have captured a healing tool so articulately here in your video that we who are on this self healing journey can immediately put into practice. A million thanks🙏💜

Thanks Nicole - I was inspired by your teaching with a white board and did it myself... all the best, Dr. Sheila :):)

Yes, a very helpful reminder, thank you. I really appreciate your holistic approach, it finally merges the two aspects of personal work I'm most drawn to, the very human perspective of psychology , and the spiritual. I don't find this very often, yet so important 🙏

Incredible. Thank you

This information made so much sense to Me thank you 🙏🏻

Absolutely I agree to get a hold of our feelings to know how to handle them under a lot of stress not always easy it does take a lot of practice what you said is very true

Very helpful, thank you!

Thank you 😊🙏 so very helpful!

Thank you for sharing. Priceless gems that I soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooneed. Nuff Love from the Caribbean.

Perfect!! Thank you 1000 times.. just what I needed to learn..🙏🙏🙏

Just listening to your advice causes me to remember to be kind to myself and to praise myself even in small wins and I am just gonna keep that positive momentum going

I really needed this.

One of my favorite things about you Dr. Nichole is your calming voice. Thank you for sharing. You have helped me a lot.

Yes, this is helpful! I like the idea of practicing this breath each day so when triggered it is a go to breath to release the trauma of hurt/shame that arises so quickly. I usually need to talk to someone and talk myself down off the ledge, but this shows me a tool to use to bring myself into calm awareness and I believe will become a wonderful tool for self healing!

Thank you so much Nicole for all the help you're providing us! You have no idea how powerful your teaching is for me onto the path of recovery from such awful experiences. Thank you really! =) I just need a precision here: I'm working on myself but my horrible "parasitic thoughts" (as I call them) do not wish at all to leave me in peace while working on my recovering journey... They are even worse than ever. I'm trying to stop them in a positive but firm way and they stop for some time (few hours, days) but they come back eventually and won't stop their triggering nonsense until I react on them (in a negative way of course: getting enraged towards those past events once again, making me feel like sh*t, guilty, etc.). And they pop e.ve.ry.day, it's exhausting... It's like living in an eternal state of arm wrestling with yourself every f**** day. Is it really the ego at work here? I don't understand why because ego is meant to protect us, not to break us even more, isn't it? What would you advise to work on for this specific matter? Any help would be really appreciated! =) Thank you Nicole.

thank you! this is very helpful

You are 💯 percent right in all you say here .

Thank you for this advice and reminder! I have the tendency to internalize these emotional reactions which then trigger migraine headaches that leave me debilitated for hours (sometimes days!). I am so so so tired of this way of being, and will continue doing breath-work to help my shattered nervous system.

Thank you for all you give us, so many from my generation don’t realize we bring the past forward….we are hurting those whom did not hurt us… appreciate your tool you share and your heart…

Thank you, lately (months now) I've been dealing with triggers that I didn't recognize at such and didn't know what to do with them. I will use this technique.

Yes! Deep breathing and belly breaths really does help. I had some triggers come up yesterday and I focused on this type of breathing all day and it really helped me to calm down and center.

Thank you for this, because it clarifies that breathing deeply is in fact a skill that needs to be learned. I have been feeling embarrassed for not being able to breath deeply - thinking I'm just super out of shape or something, or that I have week lungs (basically I thought I didn't have control over it.) But now I know it IS something I can control just with 5 easy breaths a day. I feel silly for not realizing this before

Thank u soo much Dr. Nicole!! Like I have no words to express that how happy I am to come across this vedio! This is exactly I'm struggling with my family and I wanted to change the way I react, I know that I have to change but cummulative things makes me respond in heightened way I'm really gonna try this and change this off as soon as possible Thank u once again 🥺

Man! You just somehow solved my biggest life problem. I have a critical mom, I love her but we get in bad bad fights. Hope this gets better.

This actually happened to me the other day before I even realized I was being triggered. It was a smaller more shallow breath but I didn't lash out on someone I knew deep down wasn't intentionally "hurting my feelings". With this method you just discussed maybe now I can do even better.