Work it like a muscle is so true. It’ll hurt at first, but eventually gets strong.

@GoldCODMyt

3 жыл бұрын

True 💯

I am so freaking needy when i really like a girl. my worse quality F hate it.

@thomasvan3786

4 жыл бұрын

You 're not alone.

@mastereppsreturns6586

4 жыл бұрын

Why are you acting like it’s out of your control? Like it’s ingrained in your DNA? Like it’s something you can’t change?

@fernandocastro4107

4 жыл бұрын

Master Epps Returns some people are that way. Ive met people who couldn't change it for the sake of a relationship and it sucks for them....

@gboy7warriors121

4 жыл бұрын

Same I always have to text her first and start a conversation.

@Explorshon123

4 жыл бұрын

@@fernandocastro4107 That's just a self imposed cage. Of course it's hard, really hard, but change is possible, especially in the area of acting needy.

as a woman, i say this is too much of a work. i agree with the playful thing but for other... pursue a little bit but it should still be a somewhat equal union. if u have to do all the work that's not dating that's slavery.

@rustneversleeps85

3 жыл бұрын

Welcome to the men's world XD

@lambomigue93

2 жыл бұрын

It's hella of alot harder than throwing up a half naked picture of yourself on Tinder so women have it easy these days when it comes to actually getting experience in

@alangwhiteTheBoss

Жыл бұрын

Some women love attention too much

@riseofthephoenixclan

Жыл бұрын

Factz, she says no then that’s it

@fitnesswithwasif3995

Жыл бұрын

I agree

Tbh chasing women is an art..its a game..I like how they say never play the friend to get the girl..but ive actually slept with women doing that..not all the time but sometimes..or never talk on the phone..I remember talking to a female on the phone alot ..sometimes hours and she fell for me we had sex and this girl was getting hit on everyday by men viral pics and everything..true you shouldn’t be needy but i believe the best way with women is to be a range or unpredictable at all times..be playful..be rude..be aggressive..be vulnerable..be honest but change all of the time..be laid back then post pictures of you being outgoing and loud..women like waves of emotions..when they dont know what to expect they love it..plus never care about the outcome just go with the flow dont think too much..whatever happens happens..also study her..women are just like a career..would you go into a business without learning a few things first to make it easier? Find out what kind of guys her exes were..look up her sign a little..if you can tap into her emotions she’s hooked trust me

@samib3589

4 жыл бұрын

Too much work man 😂 study her like a career? Or I can just stick with IB and make a shit load of money haha

@canival317isback

4 жыл бұрын

Hours? Yeah you’re weird. MYbe 10-15 max. I don’t even talk to my father for more than 7-10 min. You sound like her side bitch

@EmperorThePro

4 жыл бұрын

@@canival317isback you sound like you're lonely af, thats nothing to boast about

@fraserlally4300

4 жыл бұрын

@@canival317isback Bro. It shouldnt be hard to talk to her for hours. It should be the apportate result of a positive conversation. It's a win win. And they usually love talking on the phone. Just riff about your day and ask her all about hers. Let her talk and talk and unload all of her shit and you get to a chance to play with her, joke, make fun of her a little, give her compliments, flirt, lil bit of dirty/sexy talk. It's the best. And the more you do that with her (not every day of the week tho), the more she thinks of you and wants to see you. Then you get to have your fun. Bro. Communicate with the female. They love long phone calls. Its essential.

@canival317isback

4 жыл бұрын

Fraser Lally yeahs let net wake up. Take hours out of my day, to talk to a girl on the phone. Lol. Delusional

Realistically, persistence does not work on all women. I'm only persistent to a point where she'll either give in or won't budge. Personally for me, it's a win-win situation

I get it that there's a girl out there you really want to take out but if you're getting continually turned down I would go the other way. Reason is, the more you pursue the more you push her away. You deserve a girl that is as interested in you as you are in her. I know it takes a while to find but focus on your self confidence.

What works for me , is to have a lot going on in your life . Whether it’s other women , activities , or both , you won’t care too much about a girl you just met if you have a lot of other stuff to do . If you have a good rapport with a girl , but she keeps saying no, it’s a matter of time that she says yes. As long as the interactions are good and positive though.

@Tgogators

2 жыл бұрын

and despite popular belief it's ok in many of these situations to let things develop over time (that's how I got my last GF that lasted 4 years), although meanwhile you can certain try to get with other girls. That's good for romantic relationships with co-workers or fellow classmates. If she gets a BF meanwhile, I'm cool I got other girls I can go to. The trick is not letting it off-center you.

No other video explained it this well, thanks man, it really makes me change my mentality

Knowing how to pursue without being seen as needy or desperate is a big part of game

@Jibin.25

5 жыл бұрын

So there's this girl that definitely showed interest in me when I spent time with her but turned down my invitations to spend time with her. She did accept the second week and we had a great vibe together, but the week after when I invited her to hang out again she turned me down. Should I just give up or should I do what you suggest and when there's a fun event that I'm sure shes interested in I should invite her still?

@thomasrichards646

5 жыл бұрын

Jibin Yep invite her man

@BlackBBQChicken1998

4 жыл бұрын

@@Jibin.25 no bro give out she did see somebody and she is having as the last option go get somebody else bro she not the one

@mikejeezy06

3 жыл бұрын

@@Jibin.25 I mean if she’s hot and cold with you bro. Then play the same game, just be cool. Invite her places and if she says no then man, go to the event anyway. Show her that you can have fun with or without her.

@canm7157

3 жыл бұрын

@@Jibin.25 What happened?

Thank you so much for this video Lloyd. Since getting into tuning up girls and improving my dating life and everything, due to being an extremely needy dude in the past and also from having an abundance mindet, which isn’t a bad thing, I would instantly dismiss any women who I had to work a little harder for as time wasters and used to think of pursuing in general as neediness. Good to have your take on how to do it the right way. Thanks man!

Yeah I’ve been wondering the paradox between pursuing without being needy. Cause I run into this a lot. Thank you addressing this

Best video ever, I am in this situation right now. This motivates me, thank you Loyd!

That was super motivating when you talked about relating business with dating and how in life you will fail and succeed just as you will with women. (around the 10 minute mark). It’s such a simple remark that I (we forget)but a great, HUGE reminder that I (we) should hear! AMENNNN

I like this guy he tells it from his own experiences & he has valid points!

Good to hear it from the perspective of a good looking guy who has had ups and downs. Thanks for sharing.

You’re way too good at this. If you stop making KZread videos I’ll call the cops. Knowledge and respect is key. Stay determined. RIP KOBE

My sense of humor has inadvertently helped me through a lot of stuff in life. When you're funny looking you better be funny too.

I like u dude! You’ve just gotten me in a better mood for keep been persistent with this particular German girl but not only her, maaaany more at the same time 😎

Its interesting how you mentioned a lot of things in this video, encouraging people do to these but are congruent with what you teach.

Within 1-2 months and 2-3 rejections then I tell them to get with me when they are available and I remove them outa my life and I move along. No girl is worth my time if they don't return the ball when I toss it to them. It takes two to tango so have some self respect and grab yo balls and move on if they don't wana play.

Dude this is a great video, with practical example.

Unfortunately, in the #MeToo era, most guys are terrified of having sexual harassment accusations lobbed at them, so they take a no as no. It’s just not worth the risk if you don’t know what you’re doing.

@LouisSubearth

4 жыл бұрын

The easiest way to avoid harassing people is to know when to back off. If you see discomfort in their body language, stop it and move on. That's all you have to do. That will show you respect their boundaries and perhaps give you a second chance. If they don't, just move on after backing off.

@LouisSubearth

4 жыл бұрын

@E-M Entertainment that's ridiculous, as it would open the door to more sexual harassment because now nobody can call out their assaulter

@elmalanmalan2175

3 жыл бұрын

Is so sad now days because when you like a girl they will think is harassment

@asmrfoodieuk7965

2 жыл бұрын

When is a no never a no? A no is always no you complete egotistical lunatic.

@MrCjchamp

2 жыл бұрын

If a girl says no why would anyone want to chase?

You can break down her walls sometimes. Show her the value in you rather than begging for her time. Send her clips of you at a concert, rooftop bar with a pretty drink. She may not have friends providing this type of stimulation and will need you to manifest these experiences for her.

Very inspired by this talk. This applies to all goals and dreams too. Nicely done!

@TheSingleGuy

5 жыл бұрын

Exactly Justin! Happy this helped you!

I really needed this. Thank you, man.

This helped a lot. Sounds like I've been doing fine so far. It's been a few months for me too, and she keeps giving decent responses most of the time, but I was worried about seeming creepy. Apparently, part of the issue is she hasn't fully dealt with stuff from her abusive ex a few months ago.

Okay, this gave me a mountain of hope 😂

Thanks bro! A very motivational video!!

Hi Lloyd, really interesting to hear you say examples of what you do. Best, kieran

Great vid man, love it!

Damn dude this is a great video!! Keep up the good work man!

Thank you man, you just boosted my confidence

the best thing i have found to do is never ask her out, just text her every now and again until she gets suggestive.

@only1jmar54

3 жыл бұрын

That's what I did & out of nowhere one day she text me " I want to go out with you " our 1st date went GREAT ..works everytime , we have to let them chase us

@agee7777

3 жыл бұрын

@@only1jmar54 nice one brother

@davorebo5790

3 жыл бұрын

@@only1jmar54 so what about the 2nd date.. lol did she suggest as well

@only1jmar54

3 жыл бұрын

@davo she most definitely did , everything is still going great...we got a date set for today in 2 hours...she kept telling me she missed me so I finally set something up again 👌🏾

@davorebo5790

3 жыл бұрын

@@only1jmar54 just curious what do you plan for your dates ?? Like drinks / dinner or something fun to do like bowling etc..

Too much work pursuing a girl like that months? I'd much rather cut my losses and keep finding women that have high interest in me, women that will chase me, women that benefit me. It's all about me. I have tons of women that I know liked me but played hard to get. I used to when I was younger now I just don't have patience or time

@TheSingleGuy

5 жыл бұрын

Haha yeah, I used to think that as well. I've found a lot of really hot girls like to be pursued. But if you've decided that its just not worth it that's a solid choice too.

@Kloutkulture

5 жыл бұрын

TheSingleGuy Yea they do it's a turn off for me but hey man it's all about preference

@mastereppsreturns6586

4 жыл бұрын

Easy come, easy go, my friend. Cutting your losses till you meet a girl that likes you might be a good idea, but losing her would be just as easy as getting her. I know what you’re thinking “who cares? I’ll get another” yes you could but remember, history with a girl can be special and can actually cause her to stick with you longer if she has more in common with you than just mutual attraction.

@tesnb

4 жыл бұрын

Ur just using an excuse , u gave up and don't wanna admit it

@adammitry3543

4 жыл бұрын

@@TheSingleGuy Your videos are really good, but on this one, I'd walk. If I have " to pursue for months"..a. she's playing games. ..b Scarcity creates need. If she is blowing me off, why chase? I guess I'm confused here..

Thank You for this wonderful video

Always remember though fellas we are the “PRIZE” not chicks YESSIR‼️🗣🙌🏾

Yes I think a lot of good looking guys struggle with this because they r used to girls being easier so the girls who say no they just accept it.

dude...if you have to work that hard for a girl to be interested youv already lost. the value in getting a girl is her WANTING you without manipulation.

@curtwhitaker7665

4 жыл бұрын

jesse james game is literally manipulation and there’s nothing wrong with it if you’re not manipulating in malicious manner

@boy123838

4 жыл бұрын

You are like the dude that says: just do it, witchout clarifying

@pwnshhhop51

4 жыл бұрын

No, his advice is good. It’s not worth chasing a girl who clearly just isn’t into you. You’re undervaluing yourself by doing it.

@wallthemart

4 жыл бұрын

@@pwnshhhop51 in my case im kinda judging the situation where she seems unsure and on the fence about me. I've made up my mind i dont wanna move on which is why i came across this video. In my case i believe i made the right decision by staying persistent because she doesn't TOTALLY think im a wanker. Just partially. I think with time i could win her over. Wish me luck dearies

@Harastrotarot

4 жыл бұрын

agreed, as a woman, it's the truth. pursue a little bit but it should still be a somewhat equal union. if u have to do all the work that's not dating that's slavery.

I've been rejected by Women so many times that it isn't even funny. I got Married once by pure luck. It lasted 7 years but I think the reason We drifted apart over the years is because I had a boring life. Thank You TheSingleGuy for the Most Excellent wisdom and advice. It's very much appreciated. 👍👍

I like His Honesty .... Very Good ....

I had a chick invite me out to a haunted bar around Halloween. I told her I'm interested and to send me the details. No response. She ghosted me for four days. The wrong way to do this is "wtf hello?! I thought we were going out?!" Instead I went with "hey if we don't get that haunted bar soon, the ghosts are going to head south for the winter." She texted back, apologized, and we ended up having a great time.

@DJmonAtomic

3 жыл бұрын

They get scared you are gone fuck em over

What if it’s a rejection; should you be persistent off of that? And how many times can you re-approach before switching to another girl?

Not gonna lie with my ex the first days she said, "your such a good" friend. I didnt give up a few weeks she was riding me so dont give up

Great video , great advice and completely agree with everything you are saying. My crush might be dating other men at the minute, but im not giving up on her and I'm going to let her know that she can hit me up if any relationship she as with any other guy at the minute goes wrong , she can always give me a buzz and we can go out.

@perryhiley6749

4 жыл бұрын

Don't do that. If you are not sure that she likes you back, don't wait up on her. And by likes I don't mean "occasionally talks to me". I mean actual signs she likes you. Hell,there are girls that will give signs they like you when they actually don't. Happened to me recently.

What about the girls that dont say no but just ghosted me? Please help? Do i still need to hit her up?

AWESOME VID! 100%

Conclusion: Always be playful in conversations and have positive mental attitude and know whether or not it's a 'maybe' or a real 'no'

What’s the outtro instrumental on this video?

Being consistent without being persistent.

You’re a smart man my friend.

I grew up with my mom preaching to me constantly "let your yes be yes and your no be no." Having that drilled into your head constantly screws up my approach.

9 years ago I met the sweetest and hottest girl ever and it costed me zero effort, I just looked good and a had good story plus I was nice. She was 9 years younger and fell for me right away. It felt good but there was never much chemistry. After 9 years we stopped and it fucking sucks coz we married with kids. Im 40 now and im gonna go on talking to as many girls i possibly can untill i find another beautiful women with chemistry this time.

Yes. Woww thank you!

Man, You are wise...

Thank you !

Seems to be contradictory to a high value mindset.

@sigmaman721

4 жыл бұрын

👍 many coaches confirm.. A popular football player (soccer) asked a chick out over a 20x... well she is his wife now but how did he feel being rejected so many times? Maybe it was unintentional but he put her high above himself by doing that pursue...

But how can i stop being needy if i've never gotten laid or had a gf?

What does it mean when last night she came to my place and we had fun and took some pictures together, and today she was cold at university. I sent her two messages that went seen but without any answer... She uploaded a story and i liked it, but when i did upload one, she ignored it.... Any tips ?

I like his style 👌🏼👌🏼

Am I giving up quickly or don't tolerate ghosting?

Hello Sir! Could you pls make a video about how to approach a guy that I love and who loves me too but I suspect that he is impotent and I need to tell him that I don't care and make him comfortable not being embarrassed about it

Persistence is not that hard if you really don't care. You will eventually lose every girl sooner or later and if you accept this and stop caring you will not appear as needy because when you don't care you cannot be needy (logic).

When loyd Christmas delivers someone to the airport he makes sure she gets all of her luggage.

But if someone text me even though I tried to reply later and seemed like a high quality guy , I cant help to reply them as soon as I can lol. Cuz i feel bad if I reply them really late

great video

I don’t think it’s being needy, i thinks it’s just the guy likes the girl and wants to be with her but the girl doesn’t want him. Needy or not the girl just might not like the guy. Dating doesn’t have to be a game

she said she is not interested, should I keep going?

If a girl says No, do I really want to continually hit her up or find someone who is receptive? It's ok to pursue with clear intent. But if a door shuts, move on

Bro how do you be playful when being persistent? And how to be playful during text?

Single Guy make a video on long distance texting as well man. What if you are in a long distance relationship?

Really Good Video

At the end of the day if you want a girl youre needy, full stop. Theres no way around it. I hate this shit I cant get over that fact because I actually want someone but I cant just play it off or pretend its not that, and thats why im needy. I want to work on it but its such a big hurdle.

@BackwardshturT

5 жыл бұрын

Lol good luck with that attitude Garbage Can

@garbagecan1150

5 жыл бұрын

Thats the point, im trying to change it

@TheSingleGuy

5 жыл бұрын

There's nothing wrong with going after a girl. Successful people go after the things they want in life. Unsuccessful ones expect everything to come to them

What if she’s still being playful after about 20 no’s ?????

This was a great video thanks lloyd

How to know she is lying that she has a boyfriend? I usually don't give up that , but she might not although. She did told that she has a boyfriend, then i replied with, good i will find another girl then , and she laughed and was depressed on the next day.

I think I did give up too soon on one a couple of days ago. At first I thought I pushed too hard and that I should’ve quit sooner, but now it really seems like I actually mistook a shit test for a rejection. I’ll do better next time.

At some point, I became persistent with women when it comes to asking them out on dates. When I attempt to set a date to meet and get the "I'll let you know" line, 9 times out of 10 at least from my standpoint, they never follow up on letting you know. So whenever I get that thrown at me, I persist by saying, "let's plan, anyway. If something comes up, well either work around it or just postpone". She'll either agree or won't budge. If she doesn't budge, then I just withdraw the offer, leave it at that and move on. I never settle for "I'll let you know." Otherwise, there's absolutely no need to be persistent, if her attraction level is high enough to the point where she will jump fences to make the date with you happen

Doesn't that go against what you say 'don't try to make plans with a girl if she says no 2 times'?

@cookmeadrinkshow4814

3 жыл бұрын

it does, but he is dating other women, so he is not needy, just persistent. big diff.

NotificationGang

This girl told me to “f off” and she also told me that she has someone else. I think she’s giving me hints. Shall I persist?

@bencrosbie

3 жыл бұрын

🤣

Corey Wayne says to set a date when she reaches out, I find thats a good way to do it

Where did u go Lloyd

Did he jus say stripper?..but ya playful persistence...that's 🗝️

6:15 exact thoughts everytime . more mad at myself tho 'why tf are you acting so weird?!!"

be playful when persistant

Sir, motivational

@TheSingleGuy

4 жыл бұрын

haha thanks

Most other game shit, said this shit was pretty much a waste of time, and needy. I mean it's not working amazing so far but ill get a nut here n there. Just a process. Gave me another view.

She said to me that being persistent and consistent will make her decide if she will love again. Since she had a very bad relationship with her ex she was really wounded.

@xFlared

4 жыл бұрын

Don't listen to what women say, listen to what they do. Treating her like a princess will be your undoing. kzread.info/dash/bejne/dZZor5eLadHYdqQ.html

@ninepuchar1

4 жыл бұрын

@@xFlared i think so too. Just like how,you dont want to spoil your kids

"I'm going to go to it, even if she doesn't come". That could get disappointing very soon.....

This is why I like the arranged marriage aspect of some Asian cultures

dude was getting strung along by a stripper... i thought i had it rough

@jeanantoinecondorcet9117

3 жыл бұрын

It never ceases to amaze me how American "pick up artists" all seem to think that trashy strippers are somehow the highest quality women and continually pursue them and put them on high pedestals...

U buggin She say no, I’m not interested anymore

I think this is the missing key for me. And its the missing key for a lot of 'MGTOW' people. Being able to pursue without being attached to the outcome is magic.

Dude, do you do anything else apart from chasing or talking about women. Let me know when you find the answer

Indeed

Even if you are persistent and get yes from no,you are rewarding this behaviour of "play hard to get"by women.getting yes is not worthy when you put so much time and energy .dont persist.let her sink brother.

Whats up brother! I dont get it man... One video you make says DO NOT hit a woman up if shes ghosted or otherwise stopped communication and with this one its well, if your going to, be playful and fun?! I had the most amazing first 2 dates with a woman, and she ghosted me big time! Haven't heard from her for 2 weeks... I mean we were feelin each other big time! Not sure what happened, women are so unpredictable!!!

Great video! Could you make a video about pursuing a girl, who is in a long distance relationship? Do you pursue such girls like other girls aswell? Kino has been exchanged and we are both playful, but I didnt have the balls yet to make a kiss close.. also I dont want to hang around her too much so that I dont get too deep in the friend zone.. any advice? :)

@TheSingleGuy

5 жыл бұрын

Yeah, try not to spend too much time around her. There is definitely a chance that she could be using you for attention while her boyfriend is far away. You can tell her how you feel and be unapologetic about it, but she has to know she can lose you. Women will keep men around they know are safe but will never respect them enough to date them.

In the end what matters is if she likes you. If shes into u, how shitty u many be at texting she will still respond to u! And on the other hand, how good ur at texting and if shes not into u well shes wont text u back, doesnt matter how funny you are, interesting you are or whatever. She will still wont reply to u!

Can this be applied the other way around? (Girl pursue man) or do you not recommend it?

@stevewalther2293

4 жыл бұрын

No...

@s.dawson7068

4 жыл бұрын

No, in most cases the only way a guy will give a girl a chance that he rejected at first is if she falls back and finds a way to look more attractive physically