basically everyone should watch this

@dominiczilahy2357

4 жыл бұрын

I agree This channel has been helping me become a better gentleman. And i thank this channel for it.

GREAT video - you guys killed it Raph!

Nr. 12 - be honest, but not discourteous Nr. 13 - do not get involved in gossip, do not gossip Nr. 14 - accept the opinion of others, stand to your opinion Nr. 15 - be unprejudiced Nr. 16 - if you argue, don't shout

I like to ask "if you could go anywhere and in any decade or century, where would you go?". This works well because it puts them in a great state of mind, it makes them smile and use their imagine.

People like to be remembered, so saying things like "I remember you mentioning that cruise you went on last year," or whatever pertains to the conversation. Also, sending thank you cards for invitations or gifts. As well as birthday cards and postcards. They are tiny little things but show that you thought about them and made an extra effort to express gratitude. Also, I find using a person's name more often, in a natural way, makes people feel good which is the mission of good etiquette.

@doctorpc1531

5 жыл бұрын

That said, people can sometimes get creeped out when you remember and bring up details they've already forgotten.

@gentlemansgazette

5 жыл бұрын

Great tips! Thanks for sharing. - Preston

@gilesbentham693

5 жыл бұрын

@Sven at 6:19 "wow you wernt always that way" erm you still aren't well dressed! I'll be giving you some fashion tips Real men can you look good in a White T Shirt and a pair of denim jeans with casual shoes/trainers??? If yes then you are a winner If no then you have to improve yourself We all have to improve ourselves

never seen you wear a turtle neck before! great look!

@gentlemansgazette

5 жыл бұрын

You can check out our recent guide to turtlenecks, here: www.gentlemansgazette.com/turtleneck-guide/? Thanks for watching! - Preston

@pattimcq8062

5 жыл бұрын

@@gentlemansgazette You forgot to say "Thank you". : ))

@liams706

4 жыл бұрын

@@pattimcq8062 Preston didn't wear the turtleneck

Video summary: "1 - Be yourself 2 - Learn conversation starters 3 - Give compliments 4 - Learn how to accept a compliment 5 - Use self-deprecating humor 6 - Focus on listening 7 - Ask more questions [preferably smart ones] 8 - Be vulnerable 9 - Minimize complaining 10 - Make everyone feel included and comfortable 11 - Embrace a positive attitude Remember, you can't force everyone to like you."

I'll ask her out by the end of this month. Wish me luck!

@vukbelcevic238

5 жыл бұрын

Good luck brother.

@braydenkelly9166

5 жыл бұрын

Good luck you've got this

@728Joe

5 жыл бұрын

Good luck!

@no-yj2cf

5 жыл бұрын

How'd it go mate?

@nonemo138

4 жыл бұрын

Hey, it's been ten months now and we haven't heard back from you. Hoping you did well!

Just love how you guys are acting all of these out. Highlight of my morning!

Thank you Mr. Schneider! Best Gentleman's channel on youtube, please never change!

I never took videos like these seriously but if you tame your ignorance and think about these things you realize its all true. Great video.

I am a woman but i am still eatching this channel because some of the videos are not only for men, most of the videos are lovely, thank you for your good work!

Love the outfit Sven

Remember to not call people Peasants XD

@rollingtones1

5 жыл бұрын

Giraffe Football: You mean like in Monty Python’s The Meaning of Life? ; )

@giraffefootball1018

5 жыл бұрын

@@rollingtones1 No, I was just referring to the fact that the presenter says in other vids if you dont do certain things you'll look like a peasant

@kurtmueller2089

5 жыл бұрын

unless they really are.

@isasa29

5 жыл бұрын

Giraffe Football :))

@AnthonySforza

5 жыл бұрын

I prefer the term "Pleb."

These tips are especially true for those in a leadership position. Additional tip - show deference to the elderly and infirm.

"Hello, mister kingsman! " -That is what I hear from my colleagues.

After watching this video I managed to strengthen a few relationships with my friends. Until recently I never thought being vulnerable would be an asset however a close friend opened up to me more and I was able to better understand and help them. So I have to thank you for this video as it really has helped.

*To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment!* *Ralph Waldo Emerson :)*

It's like I've found a "how to behave like a normal person" instruction manual, where were you in the 90s when I first needed you?

@wendyleeconnelly2939

2 жыл бұрын

90s? Well, Raphael was probably still a teenager then and Preston was still a little kid.

As someone with severely lacking social skills and a debilitating anxiety, I automatically feel like I would come across a try-hard whenever I'd try one of the active ones you talk about. Also, you cannot make fun of yourself if you are really insecure. In essence, just be stable, not depressed and normal

It works because this video makes you more likeable.

I was always wondering how to be funny without hurting other, I'm a very kind person, and strangely it never came throug my mind to use self mockery as much, thanks Raphaël

Love the video. Thanks for putting the notes in the description. Also Brown & Black is highly underrated.

A useful video with eleven excellent points.

You’re finally back!

Remember peoples names and say it at every possible opportunity, without seeming like you’re obsessed with them

This dude has it down! What a boss

I always feel enlightened & more confident after watching your videos. I salute you Sven.

I personally not concerned about being likable, but being the best version of myself; educated, suave and self-articulate.

I'm reminded to make a much more conscience effort to be a better listener. I find myself often anticipating my response, to further drive home my point, than I do to lending more concentration on truly listening to what the other person is saying and feeling. Yes, it may be a better tactic to "Win" and argument, but not so admirable when the goal is to have a two-sided conversation. An excellent video.

Wise words here...good to see Sven and Preston doing their thing with the acting/vignettes...I like you guys, yes I do :-) Tony

This is an exceptional video. Thank you for the content, education, and advice imparted.

As a teenager I know its going to take a decade or more in order to afford dressing like a gentleman. But hey, a gentleman isn't a gentleman if he doesn't act like one so I appreciate these kind of videos, Raphael!

@christinelyman738

4 жыл бұрын

Bro just work in a mine or a factory, ez money bro.

Rocking the Sagan look today I see... Outstanding!

@hifijohn

5 жыл бұрын

Well thats the '70's usually he looks like someone from the '30's

Not being judgmental is important. When I see the video I came here expecting that Sven would talk about peasants again and how to handle them, etc. To my surprise I found it very humble and useful.

Thank you ! i finally see what i do wrong in my life ! now i can start making more decent conversations.

The skits with Preston are hilarious!

Love the turtleneck. It is elegant and casual.

Great content love your videos. I’m learning a lot

Another important thing I have learned could come under listening to others. If someone is telling you about something bad that happened to them, they are looking to be comforted. In this situation you should explain that you are sympathetic and will be there for them to listen to any further problems. You must never follow something like this by telling them about something similar that happened to you; this will make them feel unappreciated, will make them more upset, and they'll probably never come back to you. Similarly, if a friend is telling you about something great that happened to them, this means they trust you and that they are genuinely excited to share this with you. You should show that you are truly happy for them; that their joy causes you pleasure. This is not the time to break their trust by attempting to out-do them with something better that happened to you. Just listen and support your conversation partner. This could be effectively summarised as, 'don't talk about yourself too much.' We're all guilty of talking about ourselves too much sometimes, but when you do notice it happening, a good redeeming sentence is, "but that's enough about me, what about you?"

Solid video!

This guy gives me such a weird vibe, but I can’t stop watching! Good video though!

9:49 This can't be overemphasised! The last thing a person wants after a long and taxing day at work is a work-related question!

@SPNKr16

5 жыл бұрын

Nah that's just common sense.

Thanks for being useful!

1:30 very wise and true words.

Amazing video, I've learnt 11 different elements that are really... I don't know how to explain it because I'm french and I'm only 17, but it's WOW ! More seriously for 2 years I think I'm trying to have such a caracter. Moreover I'm always wearing a shirt and a kind of jacket, and m'y friend at school are stonished, they seing me as a trustful guy, a gentleman and every body says that I'm really gentle. It's normal it's my life philosophy.

Loved your explanation and video

I don't know, I am liked by most person but I'm not forcedly trying to be - I am only trying to be me and I naturally understand not everyone can like you. It sucks from time to time when for example you really like some girl but she doesn't like you back, but that's part of life. But I think it's a good video for those who have problems to be accepted more !

I allways ask about hobbies.... works every time in drawing someone out in conversation and it never fails to help find mutual ground of interest.....

Information that lights everyone's lives👏🏻❗😉

great channel. Subscribed!

I have found that when introduced to someone and the conversation gets going, to use their name from time to time when making a point. It shows that you remember their name which makes them like you. And if you suspect they forgot your name put them at ease by using your own name in conversation.

What a great video. Thank you!!

I know you didn't choose it but your outfit I'm this video compliments your complexion and eye colour extremely well

@oksills

4 жыл бұрын

What do you mean you know he didn’t choose it? Who did ?

another helpful video!!!!

i love this video

Thanks Raphael 🤘🏼

I find that being able to make fun of oneself and joining in the laughter is a great way to break the ice. Humor is one of the best things to use in almost any situation.

Thanks. I think I might need to watch out for point number nine on the job.

Making a genuine effort, at ANY of these things, will put you somewhere near the top of the social skills ladder. I'm constantly shocked by how unlikeable nearly everyone i meet under 40 is. There's an enormous break in social skills starting somewhere in the 80s and it's to the point where I'd rather hang out with the WWII generation listening to their fascinating stories than trying to have an enjoyable conversation with people younger than me. And I'm 42. I'll give a concrete example: my building has a single, small elevator so you're constantly riding with neighbors, and I'd say about 90% of the time anyone you greet under 40 will completely ignore you while anyone over 40 will smile and say hi. If you walk into an under 40 social gathering don't expect the host or anyone else to introduce you to others, or even greet you half the time. Socialize with older people and you will almost always be greeted and introduced to facilitate conversations. These are REALLY basic social conventions that exist for a reason. For whatever cause most young (Americans) aren't learning them and it makes them much less likeable.

@AlessandroGenTLe

4 жыл бұрын

Not only there in US. I leave in Italy and I work in a great University here in Milan (the most advanced city in Italy). I go back and forth by public transport as I live 35km far and Milan by car is a disaster. I also noticed how people in their twenties often COMPLETELY ignore you (I'm 44 by the way), even when you do something polite, like on the tube making a bit more room for them (making sure they understand your move), for instance. Well, life Karma will make them bite the dust later, probably.

@Linux_MissingNo

Жыл бұрын

I believe it had to do with the internet diminishing the social life in a major way. Especially in the US where opportunities for social talks are so rarer due to everyone being forced to take a car to everywhere

The question"What do you do when you don't Work?" I wish I would have come up with that.

carry on the good work. i like your videos a lot. antonio has reacted to your video....just ignore it....he is so annoining. his manners n presenting skill, i reserve my comment. thank you. i hv learned a lot frombyou.

These sketches with you two are really funny

11:02 He act as my sim when he's angry

I think that conan is the better user of self deprecating humor.

great video and great tips

Amazing 🍃

The self-depricating humour... not everyone can do it, some people take themselves way too seriously. It also requires some confidence to do it. I only recently started this... but I really like people who do it, because they show themselves as human (nobody's perfect).

I recommended This channel as well as RMRS to My Friends in my Firm, i noticed they tend to wear clashing colours and Dirty Tennis shoes without socks and a nice 3 piece suit to Gala Events and Black Tie events Now their Clothes are Sharp and Crisp, shined shoes clean shaven and hair kept tidy. The firms production Took a massive boost since suggesting this channel 3 months ago. Cleaning up the look and minds of the Agents in my firm was the key to that success Thank you for your passion Raphael!

Good video

Excellent.

I find it humorous to think of a high school student going up to another and asking "Did you choose your profession or did your profession choose you?"

Good video! I agree with more or less everything you said, but I have a minor addition to make: Careful with #10 because there are people who are much more comfortable in the background when in a group situation and they will not appreciate to be put on spot. I know what I am talking about.^^ People like that appreciate it much more if they are approached under four eyes (is that a phrase in English?).

@Timrath

4 жыл бұрын

People like these really appreciate it if you say to them "Oh, you're so silent! Come on, say something!" It works best if you immediately interrupt them when they finally say something. /sarcasm

By ignoring this guy's advice, snobbishess, fakeness and by just being yourself. Just be your natural self

Nr. 12: don't have body odor or bad breath. Speak well and don't dress like a slob. Don't interrupt people. Kindergarten skills.

@jamessteele7102

5 жыл бұрын

Fly Swatter Good point about the bad breath. Some people have chronic bad breath that is not treatable with normal brushing, mouthwash, gum, etc. Their bad breath is caused by sulfur compounds they have no control over. They need to use a toothbrush or wash by Oxyfresh or Closys or Smartmouth, which break the sulfur bonds for about 6 hours. It will change their lives.

@Timrath

4 жыл бұрын

Never have I ever disliked someone for dressing badly. Have you?

I think it would be cool if you did a video on bowler hats. I personally find them quite cool but harder to pull off

I love the transitions, because both of you look like in a Sims simulator

Usually when I get a compliment, I am self-deprecating and say something to the effect of, "no, it's just that the zipper on these pants is old. My eyes are up here, by the way."

@gentlemansgazette

5 жыл бұрын

When you get a compliment it is not time to crack a joke. Just say thanks and smile, anything else is awkward.

Great video! Ask questions: like is the guy at 08:53 really wearing a left handed watch (crown) or is the photo flipped? And why does it look better flipped?

He loves that pocket square, and so do I. :D

Hey Raphael, I’m a young guy from Denmark, and I wanted to know where I could buy a dupioni silk suit like the grey one al Pacino wears in godfather part 2. I’ve looked many places for a tailor, but I don’t think we got that kind of quality over here. So where would be a good place to buy a suit like that?

That's a wonderful video Rafael, thank you

I love that jacket. And for $5 how can you go wrong!

I always get to start conversation first ,most of the times it becomes to be overwhelming...

When I saw the title I didn't think this would be very good, but I actually liked it! A lot of this is good advice for dates too. I think for a man on a date it's important to give the impression that you take care of your problems rather than being too out of control. I also like to ask people what is one of their favorite books, and why, or ask them about their favorite movies since movies have replaced books for a lot of people. You can find out a lot about someone's personality and character from the reasons why they like the things they do, and literature is good because there are likely to be specific reasons why you like what you do.

remember names and address people with their name!

I laughed my ass off when I saw that thumbnail

What do you think about beanies and other winter hats?

And, in a social setting, don't be the guy that always has something to sell. I avoid the pyramid schemes like the plague.

I RATHER BE FEARED

Hey love your vidios i have an idea. You review royaltys style forsample my contey denmsrk. Cheeres

Hey, Mr. Schneider. I love watching your videos and I love every tip you give, and I would like to ask, could you do a video on dressing well with medical eqipment on your body? I suffer from type one diabetes and because of this, I require an insulin pump that must be with me at all times (connected to me by tubing and a needle that's usually in my waist or stomach). There's a clip so I can put it on my waistband, but that ruins my silhouette and creates a visible bump under my coat whether it's on the inside or the outside of my trousers. I've tried wearing it on the inside of the waistband of my underwear but that's also awkward, and the weight of it creates a visible box shape when it's in my pocket. A video on this kind of thing for people who suffer from the same problem or also have similar issues/require special equipment that can mess with the look would be a dream come true!

@jevonsiler3538

5 жыл бұрын

Can you were it in a under the arm pistol holster

Personally I have trouble starting a conversation, once it's started I can carry it on decently but starting one is a pain. This usually leads to me not ever talking to people unless they talk to me.

Hello Raphael! I want to ask you a question : I'm currently in high school and want to be a neurosurgeon when i graduate. I think of buying a gold lapel pin with the esculap (the sign of doctors) but i'm afraid it might come out as too pretentious. What do you think? PS: Great video!

@AlessandroGenTLe

4 жыл бұрын

It is ok... After you'll be declared a doctor! Absolutely NOT before.

I have a question or if you can make a video on it. When it comes to luxury furniture what do you believe is best for a man. I have a pretty good income and I have some ideas of what I want. Chesterfield is more of my go too. But other than that could you do a video on what is your thoughts on designer luxury brands like Versace and Bentley furniture etc things that are more know for making luxury clothes or cars would you say their furniture would be a great option if you can afford it. Also chesterfields while being very nice in the summer is so hot that its very uncomfortable for my friends and often need to wipe it down.

Super hilfreich

This is the channel Frasier & Niles would watch

People who need to watch this ... and people who watch this constitutes completely disjoint sets

One trait that is likeable is competence. Only one field you shine in is enough. If you are simply an impostor people will recognize it in the long run. Your mother loves you no matter what, but if you want others to appreciate you be good at at least one thing. I don´t mean striving for an Ph.D. Simple things like grilling a steak to perfection or a rehearsed Imitation of your favourite movie scene can be enough. If you are really bad at something or not knowledgable in a field simply be honest. No one will like you less if you admit that you can´t read music or are not interested in e.g Soccer.

My office blokes like me cause I sneak in beer at lunch

@braydenkelly9166

5 жыл бұрын

Haha wow 😂