A gentleman should never feel the least discomfort over asking for a non-alcoholic drink. And a gentleman should be just as pleased to serve a guest a non-alcoholic drink as one containing alcohol.

I'm very grateful you made this video. Alcohol consumption can so tiringly intrinsic to the gentlemanly image and those of us who would rather not consume do need more videos like this

@Gent.Z

2 ай бұрын

Thank you, I noticed there was this link and I'm glad to be a part of breaking the myth

@connyslayer4661

2 ай бұрын

Highly agreed. The thing is a gentleman regardless of whatever he is consuming or doing, he should do it with proper manners and class. If he chooses to drink alcohol, he should do it properly, moderate it or choose not to drink it. A gentleman has true control over himself as a true conqueror is someone who conquers himself.

Club soda and bitters. 👍 👍 👍 Thanks James.

@total.stranger

2 ай бұрын

Also, Rose's Lime Juice and soda, on the rocks, with a twist. You'll look like you're drinking something 'serious'.😄

@sammajor2075

2 ай бұрын

@@total.stranger Thank you 👍

@ginopagnani7286

2 ай бұрын

Soda and bitters sounds perfect !!!

Alcohol should be used to relax and socialise in a refined way ,never to get drunk

@connyslayer4661

2 ай бұрын

Absolutely correct! Alcohol should be used with proper manners and moderation. I drink Alcohol to relax when i am alone and socialize with respect when needed. I have never gotten drunk and never will be. A true Gentleman knows how to use things in moderation.

I have said before and I will say again: no one ever woke up in the morning and said, "Jesus Christ! I did *not* drink enough last night!"

I almost don't drink. If I go out to dinner with my wife, I love an Irish Red. Most other times it is just iced tea.

One of the most memorable James Bond lines when offered a cigarette was 'not today thanks ' - He was so in control and prioritized other things today - nice 👍🏻

@timbuktu8069

2 ай бұрын

Have you noticed he never says: "My name is Bon' Jhamesbon'.

@connyslayer4661

2 ай бұрын

Well said, he main thing about James Bond that i admire is that he consumes and experiences many things, but he knows how to moderate them very well. I smoke and drink sometimes, but I am always in control of myself and what i need to do.

Went to the Symphony this passed Saturday evening. At the bar before dinner I ordered water in a highball glass, over ice with 2 olives. Have done this for years and no one notices. In stead of a $12 dollar drink plus tip I drop $2 in the tip bucket and the bartender was my friend for the night. Been doing this for many years and even those who know my drinking habit compliment me on my "style".

Truthfully, the best way for a gentleman to hold his liquor is in his hand. I often will buy a drink, gesture with it, point with it, have a sip, then... forget about it. Lose it. Or if I have to, spill it with much hoopla and loudly ask for another., but if you are skilled, you can make a single drink last all night.

The non-alcoholic segment was great. Could easily be a video dedicated to that subject.

@HEXpertStaker

Ай бұрын

Agreed. I'm a salesperson so have to entertain frequently. However, I'm trying to greatly reduce the alcohol consumption to improve my health and be more aware of my diet. As I never want to discourage anyone else from having a drink, what are some other discrete non- alcoholic drinks could order from the bar? I don't like bitters.

*AWESOME! Thanks for covering this! We must all have power over the bottle and social expectations, never vice -versa.* An occasional drink, small amount, to relax after a busy season or to relax on a holiday or special meal ok, but in any and every circumstance we must have the power to choose to respectfully decline, even if we feel we should have it, or especially if we feel we need or want a drink. Never let it rule us. Men, have overriding power, politely. Save your brain and liver health. *Respect to you!!!*

I know you told me you were going to do this video but I didn't expect it to be so well done. I knew it would be about the aspects of drinking that take a toll on our health but I did not expect it would also include our psychology on the aesthetics of drinking. Thanks for being a gent in today's rather vulgar society. This was a very intelligent and balanced. Thanks again!

I drink alcohol about once every other day, usually a craft Stout with dinner, however, when I dont drink or dont feel like drinking with company, my favorite alternative to alcohol is tea. Personally, when I have guests over they're just as excited when I break out my Gong Fu tea set with a fine quality white tea (2022 Silver Needle for those interested), as when I break out a fine bottle of Porto or make cocktails. It also fulfils the social aspect that alcohol has when brewed Gong Fu, as the tea ceremony/brewing is by its nature a social event.

@OldcarsNmusic

2 ай бұрын

There's an excellent oatmeal stout in the Greater Dayton area, called Warped Wing 10 Ton, and I love it. It has so much body to it that I don't want to drink it too fast.

I personally barely drink at all (although there 2-3 drinks that I have a weakness for 😅) and this video is really informative on the topic of excesive drinking and how to enjoy going out for drinks while abstaining from consuming alchohol (for various reasons). Lots of people my age don't know how to drink in moderation and enjoy booze properly. Since you made in the past a video about books that young gentlemen should read, you should also make a video with movies that young men should watch, in a simmilar manner.

Excellent video. Personally, I have found that my nights of larger alcohol consumption is typically linked to wanting to keep the night going. The longer time you are out the more likely you are to drink more drinks. A great strategy to avoid this is to break up your alcoholic drinks with something like a club soda and bitters or just a sparkling water. It keeps a drink in your hand and doesn’t disrupt the mood.

@Gent.Z

2 ай бұрын

That's very true. And the irony is, the less we drink, the more energy we have to keep the night going, and be more fun

I came to idea of cocktails late. My prior experience with hard booze was SHOTS only. I had no idea I was allowed to SIP it, till a whisky bar in Louisville, KY opened my eyes. Now I can enjoy a high end whisky or a cocktail on a winter's evening in-front of a fire. A seltzer is always good in replacement for or in between drinks, still feels like you are getting a BITE of something.

Never a hard liquor fan but I do enjoy cocktails and wine from time to time. Cheers.

This is a much needed video. I can especially relate to the bit about drinking leading to us associating with undesirable people. I went to a bar the other night and met some people who invited me to a house party. It sounded fun, but when I got there everyone was smoking meth. I had a beer and then said i was tired and had to go home.

Bravo! I quit drinking alcohol several decades ago. Club soda and bitters, as well as club soda and lime are my drinks of choice.

When you go to Islay, don’t forget Bunnahabhain!

This is one of the most FANTASTIC and IMPORTANT videos ever to appear on KZread. Most of the relationship and societal ills are associated to alcohol. I've also seen quite a few instances wherein persons were fired after engaging in alcohol related bad behavior at company parties.. There is considerable peer and social pressure to drink during meetings and gatherings. This video provides an elegant way to avoid it. As well, engaging in artful conversation with others who are intoxicated is a very subtle way of gathering valuable intelligence information. Let us not forget the wisdom of the ancient Roman, Pliny the Elder, "in vino veritas" (In wine there is truth), i.e., people under the influence of alcohol feel more free to tell the truth. Information that your boss, or his or her companion may not normally disclose, or hint at, might sometimes be coaxed from them when they are intoxicated. Just be careful not to put yourself in a situation where unfounded accusations might be made against you later, as this also tends to occur. Has anyone ever seen James Bond drunk? I haven't. Perhaps Bond has made a prior arrangement with the bartender to provide him just water and bitters, shaken not stirred.

T Y Sir. Perfect alternatives. Salute.

Great video. As someone who is sober now I found this very relatable. Nothing better than an Arnold Palmer in the summer in the south and a Tonic with lime is great for looking like a cocktail while also being refreshing

I follow your rule. And for non alcoholic drink, just water. Simple.😊

I appreciate the balance you bring to your channel :)

My reason for staying sober is mainly out of feet of getting addicted and because of health, my career path is basically impossible if I where to get addicted to alcohol because as an arborist you will always need your full 100% of your brain capacity focused on the dangerous job at hand so if you even have a slight hangover that can already affect your concentration and as a pilot you might even be declared unfit to fly with an alcohol addiction. Furthermore there are no proven health benefits that are solely linked to drinking, you might argue about the dopamine it releases but then take a piece of candy or some other less dangerous unhealthy things. I do love alcohol free mojito 😅

I dont drink alcohol often. I drink milk. Soda. Lemonade. Water.

@HMuny55

2 ай бұрын

LOL

@glenpudney

2 ай бұрын

Yep, I drink - water. 😂😂

@herbtube7824

2 ай бұрын

who cares?

I’m a social drinker when it comes to cocktails. At home. The occasional wine or beer. I don’t drink to relax nor to get drunk. I enjoy the flavor of the drink. Not its effects. Always drink in moderation. Never to inebriation.

I don’t drink, never have, never will. I’ve found that even the people who are very uncomfortable with it or even offended tend to get over it pretty quick once conversation gets going. I get to drive home safely when ever I want, don’t risk my reputation, and I get a good nights sleep! That being said, I don’t judge others for choosing to drink. That wouldn’t be very gentlemanly;)

@chinngis83

2 ай бұрын

Drinking is about the most overrated crutch there is.

True gentleman right there. Thanks for wise words.

Great video- I’ve been avoiding drinks as part of a health journey. Followed your page after we shared the bar at the RL Grill where my business partner and I were catching up. Good content.

Perfect timing. I was just diagnosed with AFib, and directed to minimize drinking. Thank you.

Well done James for making this video. From a spiritual perspective alcohol, especially wine, had its purpose in the past. It was needed to bring human consciousness fully into the material plane by forgetting the spiritual connections and developing sciences of the material world. This was achieved roughly a century ago. Since then humanity is on an ascending curve. The new goal is to start remembering the spiritual connections again whilst having a scientifically inclined mind, to eventually be spiritual scientists. The spiritual life can be free of superstitions, it can become a path of scientific and artistic knowledge.

Great video! 🔥 Its true drinking is socially acceptable, even though it has no health benefits. I dont like the taste of alcohol and used to feel lame for not drinking it. But my social skills has always been more than enough to where it doesn’t matter if i drink or not

I've thought about that drink for a long time, I'll have to give it a shot. Bet a maraschino would go good with the orange twist.

Sir, you never disappoint in both content and the delivery of said content. The two drink rule is mine as well. I’ve had 3 become 6 and ruin the following day. never drink at home when alone so to better enjoy with others. Keep up the great work. Thank you!

@Gent.Z

2 ай бұрын

Thank you, sir!

@OldcarsNmusic

2 ай бұрын

When I get back on wheels again my new rule will be "2+1=done." Two ciders plus one double on the rocks of flavored whiskey, and it's home to the jalopies- um, I mean projects!- that I've been sore neglecting.

Sweet tea friend 😁👍

Thank you!! You have to be confident, if you decide not to drink alcohol. I personally have 3-4 drinks a year just at special occasions. Best regards Oni

Well done young Gent.

“No thanks” “I don’t drink” “I’m driving tonight” “ 7up - not shaken”

Thanks for doing this episode. I really think it will come in handy someday. I like the bitters in soda trick.

@Gent.Z

2 ай бұрын

It's a good one. Tastes great, too

Congratulations! You went straight to the point. I am a teetotaler for almost 25 years and guess what? The most important part of it was avoiding the wrong crowd. On the other hand, my social life is, for practical purposes, dead. Nobody meets to drink water or coffee, much less tea. But as I said, I have no regrets and this video of yours fills a very important gap.

Good stuff

I’ve found a middle ground option when I don’t want to drink much- Campari and soda. It’s alcoholic but no hard liquor, so I can have two and not really be effected at all, and it has that interesting look you spoke of. Bitters and soda is a great option too- in fact I’m drinking it right now. Another outstanding video, thank you.

I recently discovered bitters and I’m intrigued by the bitters and soda alternative. One of my favourite non-alcohol options is tonic water with a slice of lime (essentially a gin & tonic without the gin). Very refreshing.

Great video and drinks, I drink socially but still having alcohol free is nice like for driving

Great video. I enjoy drinking alcohol, nevertheless I like to have elegant options for those ocasions in which is better not to.

When I have a night out where I am not consuming alcohol, I order a Club Soda and Cranberry Juice (half and half) of each. Very delightful!

This is a great topic. I’m a sales guy, been alcohol free for over 3 years and it often comes up in conversation at dinners entertaining clients. The worst part is, once the topic comes up everyone feels the need to talk about how they rarely drink. Truthfully I don’t care how much or how little they drink and I don’t like that people feel the need to explain themselves because I don’t drink. The best servers are the ones who discreetly serve 0% beer or sofa and lime. I will be trying sofa and bitters, thanks for the idea!

Perfect my man

Tommy Shelby,deliberately,is never shown consuming food. He's never shown eating. He is always either drinking,smoking,or both.

@Gent.Z

2 ай бұрын

Very true. I think the closest we come to seeing him eat is when he simply looks at an English breakfast

@Alithia451

2 ай бұрын

@@Gent.Z which was applejuice. BTW, the Peaky Blinders whisky is shit, get a Bushmills Black Bush instead.

@Gent.Z

2 ай бұрын

@@Alithia451 big fan of Bushmills

@Alithia451

2 ай бұрын

@@Gent.Z I am a Redbreast and Spot guy, Bushmills only the Black Bush.

@jattytakeover7099

2 ай бұрын

He is also shown drinking water in s6 when he’s sober- everyone’s reaction makes it very difficult to stay on path- his decision to drink wine was a conscious one not due to peer pressure-> this should be a gentleman’s aim

I love a good bourbon (Blandtons) but I learned way too late in life that the less that I drink the more fun that I have for all the reasons mentioned in your video - great job.

This was a good video, infact it was perfect, alcohol is both good and bad. As you said a gentleman shold be able to speak and be witty without alcohol. I personally has been off alcohol since 2016. Since always have been loving a glass of beer, i now drink non alcoholic beer. Instead of a drink i usually take a clubsoda with a lemon or a glass of water with lemon. All my friends now of my non alcoholic habits so they offer me non alcoholic beer or sparkling water. I personally serve those who want it alcohol but i do not consume it myself. That tip about clubsoda and bitter is something i will test myself this summer.

I quit drinking 3 years ago now. I drink LOTs of club soda, tea, and coffee. I really love the idea of adding bitters. I'm going to try that right now.

i love this video

In England, soda water is free in most bars (most only seem to have it on tap). I often ask for a soda water with ice and slice, then offer to pay to give the barman the pleasure of saying ' No charge'. It's win/win ! Also a glass of bubbles in ice with a slice of lemon looks sophisticated to. So it's win/win/win ! Almost forgot - and you're staying alert too! so it's win/win/win/win! Certainly I've found barmen are always more cheerful giving you a free drink. (it pays to think of others:)

Cutting down on my alcohol intake significantly the last few months. Not completely cutting it out of my diet, I still enjoy 3-5 drinks scattered throughout the week, but still. It's allowed me to not rely on it too much.

Great video, James. This is the most relatable video I've come across in relation to my life. Many guys offer me cigarettes every day, but I simply say no without offering any further explanation. From now on, I'll follow your given instructions on how to politely decline without being rude.

@Gent.Z

2 ай бұрын

Thank you, I'm glad this one struck a chord with you

I don't drink alcohol period. Tea, Water, and Shakes. Soda - Sprite only.

Drinking exquisite Loose leaf Tea is a nice refined alternative. Switch to decaf and herbal at night though.

I can honestly say that some of the worst, most stupid things I have done in my life have started with a drink, followed by many others…

Club soda & bitters or lime might be a great idea!

I don’t like who I turn into when I am drunk you really do lose control over yourself. so from that point onwards I have never had anymore alcohol I never liked the taste anyway to be honest.i used to have a verbally abusive alcoholic neighbour so I have seen first hand how self destructive alcohol is he just couldn’t live without it from the time he woke up to the time he went to bed he would drink all day and all night. and he was so unpredictable it was horrible to be around and it really reflected his view of himself and his behaviour towards other people as well.even when sober I think he always had alcohol in his system he was just in varying states of being drunk… all of his behaviour was the total opposite of what we are being educated to do in this community. I am happy gentlemen like yourself and the other channels within this community exist it has really had an impact on myself. Keep it up sir.

Here in Canada '0' beer and alcohols available. As a female driver I welcome the non alcohol. I have drunk 'Tonic Water' with lemon and a little ice for years. Christmas Day is the only day I include vodka because I know I'll not be driving. Conversation is so much better without 'poison of your choice'. Thank you for these series.

@larryakre5942

Ай бұрын

Another Canadian here..my non alcoholic drink of choice is said same tonic water but with a tiny splash of lime juice with a thin slice of lime. Note to everyone - a martini glass makes every drink look sophisticated.

Had to stop drinking about a year ago for health reasons. I live in Asia, where nice hotels often serve "infused" water--lime, orange, cucumber, mint, apple, whatever. My go to now is San Pellegrino with lime or lemon. Add peeled cucumber, or a small slice of fresh jalapeno. I keep the glass in the freezer with clear ice. Don't miss the booze much.

@freddobbs2011

2 ай бұрын

For socializing, soda with a squeeze of lime looks like a G&T.

Best video

I often order a tonic water, people think it´s a gin tonic. When I am in the mood, I like having long drinks, but sometimes I´m not enjoying them and there´s not point on forcing drinking

You look great in that dark suit!

Club soda and bitters. Will try that. In the past, I've opted for club soda and cranberry juice with a slice of lime. Perhaps not as manly an option as yours. Cheers -s

The actors portraying people with heavy drinking habits look a lot healthier than real life alcoholics.

After getting the reputation of a rare or non-drinker, for a social setting out & about with friends, I'm usually the designated driver... and I'm fine with that. Just as important to me as being a gentleman is also being the friend you can count on to help.

You won't be had for driving under the influence.

Club soda and lime is my go to when I don't want to drink alcohol. Club soda and a single shot of gin, tequila or rum is my cocktail when I do want to imbibe.. I usually just nurse one, however, to stay sober. I ask for gin in a tall glass with ice or up without ice in a martini glass. I order my soda with rum or tequila in a rocks glass with ice. A wedge of lime livens up both drinks. I like to be specific about the glassware with the bartender as presentation is big part of the cocktail experience. Drinking alcohol with sugary mixers speeds the absorption of alcohol in the blood stream and quickens inebriation. It also promotes the storage of fat since ingesting sugar with alcohol blocks your liver from burning fat. No gentleman should have a gut from drinking too much, nor a DUI.

I drink non alcoholic spirits(Ghia, Seedlip, Tenneyson) with tonic water with a lemon or lime rind. I only drink alcohol on my days off from work and only in the evening. I rarely go out to drink and prefer to enjoy my whiskeys and gins at home with friends.

Alcohol is addictive. Eventually you will want more and more to get the same effect. I admire any man that avoids it. Men that don’t drink are intelligent and strong in their own right. I’m happy to see this video following your last one. Everything is a choice, pick wisely.

If you went on a business dinner or meeting after work and you say "no" the deal if off and you will become a persona non grata!

Yeah, as good as being sober is, sometimes the inhibition and anxiety killing effect of alcohol makes you much more social and indeed attractive than you are sober. Fortunately this effect usually happens for me at one to two drinks, so you don't need to ruin yourself to get it

This video came up for me after a night of uncontrolled drinking

@Gent.Z

2 ай бұрын

I suppose I did post it on a Sunday, haha

Shirley Temple is a brilliant mocktail for women

So it’s okay to still drink out of those fancy looking whiskey glass type cups? I don’t wanna drink but I love the aesthetic look of those glasses it’s so mature and sophisticated compared to just drinking out of a regular glass or plastic cup. I would literally have water or ice tea in it or maybe the bitters if I ever try them

I will try Club soda and Bitters.

There is always that guy who cannot conceive the idea that you are not drinking. He's not evil he just has a mental block. For him I just say "Doctors orders." Somehow that works.

When you have a decent moonshine enough you won't even need an alcohol at all!😊

Thank you Gent.Z. Having a chocolate Ensure right now

2:21 Never stopped Ric Flair baby! To be the man, you’ve got to beat the man! WOOOOO!! All kidding aside, I think indulging once in a while is okay, but always try to remain disciplined.

What necktie are you wearing?

I quit drinking when I arrived in law school. It was 5 years ago, I was 19.

I drink very little alcohol and have no spirits at home at all. I never drink at home without guests or alone. I do not need alcohol and always found it strange when men showed me their emotions and touched me when they were drunk. People who are aggressive or even violent after drinking alcohol are extremely unpleasant! I drink to enjoy myself and not because I have an addiction problem. Since I have to take medication regularly, I think carefully about when and how much I drink. I had a fellow student from the upper class who was a whiskey expert and always offered me very expensive types of whiskey. I also knew a rich champagne fan. However, even after drinking 20 bottles of champagne, I was never interested in this sparkling wine. It is a fact that some young men know whiskey very well and they are already real collectors. The main problem is, when people are forced by their job or their private life to drink alcohol regularly. Some men are weak and being not strong enough to ignore the pressure by such groups.

I get the cultural, enjoyment, and many of the social benefits, as well as positive health effects, by learning about and drinking tea.

What’s the ratio between Bitters and Soda?

I dont give a damn about what other think, I will drink when I want to, and decline when I want to.

Club soda tall. Lime wedge makes it look like an alcoholic drink. It’s important to bear in mind that some establishments put nonalcoholic beverages in completely different glasses… So sometimes I will bring the bartender in on the caper and make sure that she gives me my non-alcoholic drink in a regular glass… That way, I avoid the tedious questions what you’re not drinking tonight?

Not alcohol-free, but I have to be careful with it because I'm super lightweight; sometimes even a beer or two will get me drunk. I am above average with my faculties while drunk, but I still am wary of being drunk with people I don't know VERY well because I might say stupid things if I'm drunk. I'm a terminally online gamer so my sense of humor isn't everyone's cup of tea when I loosen up too much. While being a cheap date is great for my finances, I don't actually enjoy the feeling of being drunk either. It makes me sleepy.

I'm so glad you made this video because i) being drunk is certainly not gentlemanly and ii) alcohol is really damaging to the body (in any quantity) and being in good shape and healthy is essential if you want to make the most of your life. My personal solution is to drink just a sip or two and only on special occasions. That soda and bitters sounds like an interesting compromise though - will give it a try!

I agree with your points. I would add that alcohol a)is a depressant, reducing your drive to accomplish, b)causes sleep disturbances. Good presentation.

@herbtube7824

2 ай бұрын

that's nonsense.

Two drink rule is the way

I thank the person offering the drink and tell them I'm a diabetic. Works every time. In a bar I usually drink Club Soda.

Most, if not all bitters contain 35-40% alcohol. Granted, one can’t get intoxicated from 5-7 drops of it in a nonalcoholic base, please do understand, it still is alcohol (for ones who’ve had substance issues or don’t drink at all for medical reasons)

Call me weird, but a non-alcoholic drink that I enjoy is tomato juice, with a sprinkle of salt and pepper. Served cold, obviously.

I think this video would be better if it was actually stated how to avoid alcohol if you were offered during a social event. An interesting video nonetheless.